Tuesday Meme

 Joining in on the Tuesday Meme.

This week let's talk about engagements and marriage. 

1. If you are married would you share how your husband proposed to you?

I knew it was coming as we had discussed it --we had been living together beforehand. He went to my dad and my dad said No as we already were living in sin. Then my husband turned around and walked outside and told me what my dad had said and said it was up to me, not him. Which, asking my my dad was honorable, but it really was my decision.

 How long were you engaged before you got married?

Over a year-maybe two. We had originally planned a huge spring wedding of 300+ guests but that was cancelled at the last minute as the military wouldn't allow him to come home due to circumstances that the gvt. was facing at the time. Then we got married on Dec. 31, 1988. I was 21 and he was 22.

If you aren't married, what would be ideal for you?

    Honestly...I am just going to say it... I am not an easy person to live with and that was told to my husband several times. I prob. shouldn't be married, I have a bad stubborn streak that was tried to be beaten out of me when I was little by my parents, it only made it worse. Then again, my husband has always said he never married a weak woman and if he wanted a weak woman he would of found someone like his mother. Ouch.

2. Did you receive an engagement ring? Would you show us or describe it for us?

It would be the 2 rings first, then the 15 yr anniversary ring, then he later bought a huge Aquamarine and then a heart shaped ruby. I do take off my engagement ring and wedding band and anniversary band at night. I don't normally wear the other 2 due to the fear of loosing them. I have since lost weight and also fear of loosing the wedding/engagement ones too.

for the record, he did take me to Gordon's (which was on the corner of Main in Ocala). I did pick out the engagement ring and wedding band. I remember it cost $1,600 and his dad helped pay for it. Yep. His dad was a special man and I sure miss him...his death hit me hard. We had been married for 2 years when his dad died.

3. What kind of wedding did you have? Was it big or small, formal, informal, religious or justice of the peace. Inquiring minds want to know!

It was originally planned at Blessed Trinity in Ocala, FL. We both went thru the Pre Canna classes etc. Him in California and me in Fl. Anyways, between the unforeseen circumstances of not coming home and my attitude towards the Catholic church (they wanted us to sign a piece of paper stating we would raise children in the Catholic church)-it was cancelled. We were married at my parents house in front of the fire place by the Justice of the Peace. It was a small intimate affair with a backyard picnic. Again, the living in sin and the issues of not raising our son in the Catholic church thing; my parents to this day won't let me forgot it. Of course, there is more to the story but that is the gist of it.

4.Was there a honeymoon? Where did you go, how long did you stay? 

No. I moved back to California. Like I said, we were already living in sin, so there was no need to have a honeymoon. Never had one.

for the kind comments on yesterdays post. It's that stubbornness that keeps me going back to the j-o-b. I was in no mood to deal with joking around etc. yesterday evening-the boss man is back too. So, I just stayed out of his way until he left at 5:30-6. Loaded water for 2 hrs. just so I didn't have to speak to him, oh I am sure he could of "found me" -which he did but he didn't say much of anything. Just (he) said, "I blame you." Ok, whatever was my reply. grin---I knew he was joking...I am just too tired. I also know his assistant left him a note in regards to my schedule. So that comment was probably in regards to that.