Becoming Your

Ideal Self

6-STEP PROCESS TO BECOME

THE HIGHEST VERSION OF YOURSELF

Dimple Verma
 Becoming Your
Ideal Self
You cannot have what you want in life without first
becoming the kind of person that deserves it.
It’s as simple as that.
If you think that things will come to you by thinking
about them, or applying certain tactics, you’re under
a false impression.
To receive anything in life, we first need to become
worthy of it.
Because the thing is, if you were capable & worthy of
achieving what you want, you would have already
achieved it.
You want to become so worthy of whatever you want
in life that the Universe simply can’t deny you that
thing.
And that is the key to success/fulfillment/happiness.
 Becoming Your
Ideal Self
If you have a goal that you really want to achieve, this
worksheet is going to be immensely helpful for you to
reach that goal & have that life.
If you do not have a goal, this worksheet will help you
in setting a worthy goal & achieving it.
So whether you want to just be just be happy and
more fulfilled or become a world-class
writer/scientist/doctor/athlete/actor/philanthropist/
CEO/educator/artist/manager/speaker or anything in
the world, this is what will take you there.
I urge you to become incessantly obsessed with this
worksheet & this process and there’s no stopping you
in life.
Your Ideal Self will bring you everything you want in
life.
So think deeply about what exactly do you want?
What the kind of life do you want?
And what kind of person will have that kind of life?
 How To Use This Workbook
This is a very intense & time & thought intensive
workbook, and not to forget, life-changing.
And so I'd like you to start it with the mindset that
doing this workbook is a priority.
I'd also recommend that you do this workbook in
writing - either physically in a notebook or by typing
in Google Docs/ MS Word.
To do it in writing, it's better that you buy a
journal/notebook just for this workbook as it'll help
you in coming back to your answers again easily when
you need to revisit them.
To do it on your Laptop, make a separate folder & in it
keep this workbook & your Word/Google Docs file.
Simply put the Date & Time of when you started
doing the workbook at the top of the page.
Then put the name of the worksheet that you're
currently doing & start writing/typing the answers to
the numbered questions.
If you can't do the entire workbook in 1 sitting, then
allot dedicated timings on the days when you'll do the
worksheets.
 Terminology
Certain terms that are used heavily throughout
this worksheet.
It's useful to go through them and what they mean
for a better understanding of what information is
required in the worksheet.

Values: Values are the motive behind purposeful action; things

that you believe are important in the way you live and operate.
Example - Freedom, Security, Loyalty, Humanity

Principles: The fundamental truths that serve as the

foundations for behavior that gets you what you want out of life.
A moral rule or belief that helps you know what is right and
wrong and that influences your actions.
Example - Live in the moment or Nurture family and friends

Mindset: A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notions

held by a person. A mental inclination or disposition, or a frame
of mind.

Characteristics: A feature or quality belonging typically to a

person, place, or thing and serving to identify them. Certain
defining features.
 Discover Your Core
Discovering your “core” means becoming aware about
what you are currently and what you could ultimately
become.
It’s about finally becoming conscious about the entirety
of yourself.
Until you get into the depths of your soul, you’ll keep
sticking to the temporary things in life - temporary
happiness, temporary self love, temporary success,
temporary will to make something of your life,
temporary relationships, temporary fulfilments.
Our task is to get rid of this ‘temporariness’ of the good
things in life and to really create a life that we’re in love
with.
That’s why it’s essential to know your core. Otherwise
you’re just roaming in the desert with no compass &
moving in circles without reaching anywhere.
So first, we’ll get to know you - the you that you
currently are.
Next, we’ll get to know the you that you ultimately
dream & aspire or need to become - the Ideal you. The
one that’s capable of achieving everything you want to
achieve.
 Discover Your Core
It’s an amazing process. You’re in for a ride & you’re
going to love it!
Just one thing though - Don’t discard something
without fully experiencing it. You might miss the boat
in trying to access from the shore whether it’ll take you
to your destination or not. Instead, get onboard & find
out for yourself! Have faith that the worst that could
happen is you could learn something new - and learning
is never useless.
 Current Self Worksheet
1. How would you describe yourself right now in three sentences
or less?

2. How do you currently present yourself? Describe your

appearance. What do you look like?

3. What are your strengths? List 5 of them.

4. What are your weaknesses? List 5 of them.

5. What negative thoughts/emotions pop into your mind on a

daily basis? List all of them.

6. List your current 5 good and 5 bad habits? What are the things
you do repeatedly?

7. What was your childhood like? Describe 5 events that have

had the most impact on you.

8. Mention the past events that you worry about or replay in your
mind all the time?

9. List the things that you worry about in the future?

10. Mention the things that block you from doing what you want
to do each day and working towards your dreams and goals?
(Example - procrastination, self-doubt, unsupportive
family/spouse)

11. Who are you currently angry at? What people/ things/
circumstances do you blame?

12. What are the things/habits/behaviors that you judge people

for?
 Current Self Worksheet
13. What are the things that you enjoy doing & would happily do
everyday?

14. What does the average day look like for you? Describe it
from when you first wake up till the moment you go to bed.
Describe all the negative/positive patterns that you currently
repeat everyday. (For example: repeatedly snoozing the alarm)

15. What kind of a person are you in your relationships? What

type of a friend are you? What kind of a partner are you? What
kind of a son/ daughter/ sibling/ uncle/ aunt/ colleague/
boss/ employee are you? Exactly define how you currently
behave & conduct yourself in each of your relationships.

16. What are your self traits? (Example: Driven, powerful, smart,
classy or procrastinate, lazy, scrappy, shy).

17. How do you imagine others gossiping and talking about you
in a café?

After you have written the answers for every question in detail,
it’s time to move forward.
 Your Ideal Self

Now it’s time to have some fun!

In this part, we get to design ourselves. We get to
sculpt this person who’s you to your liking, just the
way you want.
You can make this self whatever you want them to be.
For this exercise, I want you to think back to any role
models or characters you’ve been inspired by. This
could be anyone - alive, dead, public figure, deity,
fictional, etc.
Anyone who you’re inspired by, whose qualities and
characteristics you admire and aspire to have.
Now, take time to answer the questions given below
to get clarity about what exactly we’re aiming for.
 Ideal Self Worksheet
1. How would you describe the new version of you necessary to
effortlessly achieve all of your dreams and goals? Try to
describe this self in three sentences or less.

2. What skills does this new self need to have in order to

effortlessly execute on your dream and achieve it with ease. List
them all.

3. What are the strengths this new self has that your current one
does not?

4. What weaknesses is this new self free of that your current

one possesses?

5. What good habits does this new self have that your current
one does not?

6. What bad habits is this new self free of that your current one
possesses?

7. What fears is this new self free of that your current one
possesses?

8. How does this new self present him/herself? What does

he/she look like?

9. What judgements is this new self free of that the current one
possesses?

10. What stories about the past is this new self free of that the
current one possesses?
 Ideal Self Worksheet
11. What traits does this new self have? (Example: Driven,
powerful, smart, classy or procrastinate, lazy, scrappy, shy).

12. Describe what the average day looks like for this new self
when he/she is executing and taking massive action to achieve
his/her goals?

13. Describe the constructive things this new self loves doing
and has an appetite for that the current self hates and avoids
at all costs?

14. How would other people gossip and talk about this new you
in a café?
 Your Core Values &
Principles
Here’s the thing, you are not your ideal self without
having some core values and principles that you
operate on.
Your character has no backbone without the core
principles & core values that you rely on.
Your principles & values dictate what kind of life you
live, how you appear to the world, how much you
achieve, the quality of your life, the relationships you
have and everything else.
Hence, it's crucial to focus on what core values &
principles you hold close & whether they're sufficient
to get you the life you want.
If someone's Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Mahatma
Gandhi, Michael Jordan; chances are that they have
completely different core values & principles than you
& I.
And these values & principles are what's allowing
them to make an impact on the world.
Complete the following worksheets to become aware
about your current values & principles and then
modify them to what will serve you.
 Core Principles
Your principles are fundamental truths or propositions that serve
as the foundation for you, your belief system, behavior and
chain of reasoning.

Example - Harvey Specter from the TV series 'Suits' has a

principle that he lives by: “Win a no-win situation by rewriting
the rules.”

State the core principles of your ideal self will operate on.

Write at least 2 principles for each area of your life:

1.
2.
3.
4.
5.

Example - One of my core principles is: I always do the right

thing.
 Core Values

What values do you find sacred?

What values do you believe that a person must operate on to be

an amazing human being?

Example - Honesty, Loyalty, Creativity

State the core values of your ideal self:

1.
2.
3.
4.
5.

Example - Some of my core values are: Loyalty, Self-reliance,

Discipline
 Discover Characteristics
& Uniqueness
What differentiates us from each other are certain
characteristic traits & unique combinations that are
part of our personalities.
It’s the way we are, our certain qualities or the
combination of qualities that are not present in any
other person.
Any accomplished & successful person you look at,
you’ll instantly know that they have certain
characteristic features & qualities or unique pairings of
these qualities that make them stand out.
Now your Ideal Self is going to have certain defining
qualities & combinations, too. That’s what makes them
capable of getting the life of their dreams.
Complete the upcoming worksheets to design the
characteristics & unique combinations of your Ideal
Self.
 Characteristic Traits
A big part of becoming your Ideal Self is knowing how
to represent the intellectual values and principles you
believe in into their physical forms.
Your characteristic traits have to be aligned with your
core principles & values.
This is the way you conduct yourself.
Example - If one of your core values is being Strong,
then think of how it translates into your conduct.
So you want to think of what strong means to you?
Is it physically strong? - In that case practice getting
stronger by going to the gym or learning a form of
martial arts daily.
Mentally tough? - In that case, think of how you can
challenge yourself and put yourself through those
challenges regularly.
Resilient? - Practice recovering quickly from the
challenges/setbacks you face, no matter how trivial.
 Characteristic Traits
Worksheet
Write down 5 dominant characteristic traits that your Ideal

Self has, define accurately what it means to them & how it’s

translated into their conduct.

Characteristic Manifest Into Actions

Traits
 Unique Pairings
Unique pairings are unique combinations of
characteristic traits that make you stand out.
Any influential person that you’ve seen, has these
unique pairings.
If you have 2 or more qualities in you that you don't
normally find in the same person – that's a unique
pairing.
It's the combination of qualities that makes us really
attractive. Not just being dominant in one area.
A handsome guy or a beautiful girl - replaceable
Good sense of humor - replaceable
Smart - replaceable
But when you combine 2 or more opposite qualities,
shit gets real!
Example - Handsome/Beautiful + Kind + Adventurous
Intellectual + Fun + Deep Thinker
Self Assured + Caring + Amazing Chef
Handsome/Beautiful + Creative
Intellectual + Great Sense Of Humor + Good looking
It increases your value exponentially. And everyone
likes & enjoy a colorful personality.
 Unique Pairings
Think of what unique pairings you have or want your Ideal Self

to have and then work on developing them.

List them below.

 Superpowers
Name 2 of your strongest superpowers that you’ll use to help

people around you and make the world a better place.

This is your gift to other people and the world.

Example - Selflessness, Education, Creativity, Love,

Compassion, Joy

So what’s your superpower?

 Set A Clear Life Vision
Your ideal self won’t exist without a life vision.
Most people never take the time to actually think
about the kind of life they want to live.
And it’s absolutely crazy to me because you only get
to live once!
I believe in the fact that you’re the creator of your
reality.
Your life is your own doing.
I know enough stories of all kinds of success to
believe that a person is 1000% responsible and able to
create a life that he wants to live.
Not only is it important to get clear on what kind of a
life you want to live, it’s also essential to know how to
create that life for yourself.
Don’t live unconsciously. Design and then create the
life that you want to live because why the hell not?
 Dream Life Worksheet
Look 2 years ahead and envision and design your
desired future.

1. What does your ultimate dream life look like? Make this as
detailed and colorful as possible and keep coming back to this
each day to build on it.

2. Where do you want to live? Which country, which city? In what

kind of house? How many bedrooms? What do the interiors look
like? Get as clear and detailed as possible.

3. Who do you live with? Do you live alone? Or do you live with your
spouse, your parents and siblings? Do you have a big/small family?
How many people? Are there children? How many kids? How many
pets? Search within for the answers.

4. Decide what are you going to do? Are you running a business?
What business is that? Or are you working your dream job? Or are
you pursuing your passion? Where do you work? What place and
with who? What’s your workstation look like? Picture everything in
detail.

5. What does your health look like? What do you look like? How
much do you weigh? What do you eat on a day to day basis? How
do you keep yourself fit? Do you go to the gym? Are you pursuing
Jiu Jitzu? What does your skin and hair look like?

6. How do you present yourself? How do you dress? What’s your

signature style? How do you style your hair? What length is your
hair? Do you wear any accessories? Write it in as much detail as
possible.
 Dream Life Worksheet
7. What is your net worth? How many and what streams of income
do you have? How much money do you have in the bank? What
does your investment portfolio look like? How many properties do
you own? What kind of money can you give away and not care
about?

8. Are you spiritual or religious? Do you pray daily? What are your
beliefs about god/higher power? What beliefs do you follow? How
do you connect to that higher power?

9. Do you have an amazing social circle? Who do you hang out

with? Who are your closest friends? What kind of parties/dinners
do you attend? What’s the networth of your network? What kind of
relationships do you have with your friends? Can you count on
these people?

10. What kind of person do you want to be in your relationships?

What type of friend are you? What kind of a partner are you? What
kind of a son/ daughter/ sibling/ uncle/ aunt/ colleague/ boss/
employee are you? Exactly define how you behave & conduct
yourself in each of your relationships.

11. How do you measure your growth as a person? What are your
metrics for growth and expansion as an individual? What do you
believe is the highest level for you?

12. What’s the skill/skills that you’re in the top 1% of the world in?
What can you do better than anyone else in the world? What’s the
combination of skills that you’re the best at in the world?
 Goals For Every Area Of Life
To fully embody your Ideal Self, you need to cultivate a
strong, powerful vision for your ENTIRE LIFE.
Now some people think of goals only in terms of their
career while simultaneously ignoring all the other areas
of their lives. People believe that the other areas of life do
not deserve the same type of conscious thought.
And that’s why most of the people who have great jobs
and are on the best career trajectory are still unhappy
and suffering.
Instead, we need to set clear goals for every area of life
that leads to the attainment of your life’s vision.
You need to have worthy goals for the following areas of
your life:
Health
Wealth
Relationships
Community
Spirituality
Personal Growth
Skills
 Goals For Every Area Of Life
Complete the worksheet given below to get clear on what goals
you want to set and achieve in every area of your life.

Life Areas 2 Year Goal

Health

Wealth

Relationships

Spirituality

Personal Growth

Skills
 Deadlines & Plans Of
Achievement For The Goals
Now - A Strategy for the achievement of those goals.
Daily actions.
Pick 1 or 2 goals.
Now take the big picture then break it down into:
2 year milestone
1 year milestone
6 months milestone
1 month milestone
Then think about exactly what you’ll need to do DAILY in
order to reach these set milestones on time!
Set daily targets that you will need to achieve to reach
that goal.
Use the table given below to plan your goals & their
different milestones.
Remember to be specific.
 Deadlines & Plans Of
Achievement For The Goals

2 Year 1 Year 6 Month 1 Month

Goals
Milestone Milestone Milestone Milestone
 Find Worthy Mentors
The easiest way to achieve your goals is not by asking
‘how’ but by asking ‘who’.
Look for the people who have already achieved what you
want to achieve. They’ve already done the heavy lifting
and overcoming the obstacles part.
Now you just have to find out who they are and how they
were able to achieve those goals.
Pick 1 goal and 1 person who has achieved that goal.
Closely research them and find out EXACTLY what they
did, how much and when, to achieve that goal. Study
them, model them and replicate the entire process for
yourself.
This will work in any area of life. From health to
spirituality, the rules remain the same. Study the best
and model them.
When you reach a goal, pick another one and repeat the
process. You can also couple goals from two different
areas together but I won’t recommend trying to achieve
more than 3 goals at the same time.
 The Theme
Write the ‘theme’ that you will need to set for your current life that
will enable you to hit your daily targets and keep your eyes on the
prize.

This is a keyword that you’ll use to remind yourself of when you

start to slip away.

Example - Sacrifice (I currently sacrifice anything that doesn’t lead

me to my goals)
Focus
Discipline
Compassion
Self Confidence
Enjoyment

Theme can change every month, quarter, year.

What’s the theme you need to set this month/quarter/year to

reach your goals?
 Create Your Personality -
Internal
This is where we construct your self image to align with
the Ideal Self that you have created.
Your outer environment is just a reflection of your inner
environment.
Just like your external personality is a reflection of the
self image that you carry of yourself within.
But the beauty of your mind is that it's capable to
changing & creating anything in the world.
That includes changing & creating yourself. You can flip
what you do not like or want about yourself & it will
happen.
Construct a self image of yourself that aligns with your
Ideal Self.
To do that, we must flip all the negatives that you think
you currently possess or that you’ve experienced in the
past and write their exact opposites for yourself.
 Create Your Personality -
Internal
Write down 5 negative things you believe about yourself and
convert them into their exact opposites or into something positive.

Example - In my childhood I got told that I am average and won’t

achieve much in life BUT I’m thankful for that because it made me
hungry and passionate to prove myself.

Or

I am told that I’m not creative enough to pursue my passion BUT I’m
grateful to all those who didn’t believe in me because it’ll lead me
to become one of the bests in my field of choice.

Flip all the negatives into positives.

Make the unconscious conscious.

 Your Belief System
Our beliefs dictate our actions.
Our actions dictate our results.
Our results dictate our reality.
The belief system you inherited from the people around
you during your childhood may not be ideal to get you
the life that you want.
It’s their beliefs about themselves, about yourself, about
people, about how things work and about how life is,
that you’re carrying with you.
That’s why it’s crucial to check and rewrite those beliefs
carefully.
You want to believe what will help you achieve your
dream life, not what will not help you.
Write 5 beliefs that will inspire actions in you toward the
results you want to see in yourself & your life.
Based on the negatives you turned into positives, write 5
affirmations about yourself that you’ll use to consolidate
your changed self image.
Example - I am a passionate person who won’t stop until
he/she achieves his/her goals.
I believe that my actions are always rewarded.
 Your Belief System
Write 5 beliefs that will inspire actions in you toward the results you
want to see in yourself & your life.

Based on the negatives you turned into positives, write 5

affirmations about yourself that you’ll use to consolidate your
changed self image.

Example - I am a passionate person who won’t stop until he/she

achieves his/her goals.
I believe that my actions are always rewarded.
 Your Belief System
Current Beliefs Beliefs I Would Like To
About Myself Adopt About Myself

Current Beliefs Beliefs I Would Like To

About People/Life Adopt About
People/Life
 Your Life Long Habits
The habits you cultivate can build or destroy you.
We become what we do repeatedly.
If you’re anywhere between 15-22 years of age, your
entire focus should be on building constructive habits
that will set you up for a successful life.
If you’re between 23-35 years of age, you should already
have those habits consolidated.
No matter the age, one should always be cultivating new
positive habits in every area of their lives.
Now, what we want to focus on is what I call the
‘Lifelong Habits’.
Habits that become a way of life for you simply because
they enrich your life so much, they contribute to your
growth, no matter the goal.
So think of what habits will allow you to embody your
Ideal Self to fullest.
Example - Waking up early
Doing 4 hours of hyper focused work everyday
Meditating for an hour every day
 Your Life Long Habits
Write down 3 positive lifelong habits that you want to cultivate in
your life and the steps you’ll take to ensure that you succeed at
them.

1.
2.
3.

Now write down what you'll to do be consistent at these habits.

What are the things you'll need to sacrifice to form these habits?

What benefits will these habits bring in your life?

Why do you want to cultivate these habits?

IHow are you going to keep yourself accountable to be consistent

at these habits?

What will be the cost you'll have to pay if you do not cultivate
these habits at this point in your life?
 Create Your Personality -
External
Now it’s time to translate your internal personality into
an external one.
What you’re on the inside should reflect on the outside.
The kind of person that you are or want to be, should
reflect in your external personality.
From the way you present yourself to the way you
conduct & hold yourself, everything speaks for you.
Now you do not need to be extravagant & spend
thousands on material stuff to portray your true Ideal
Self externally.
Instead, we want to pay attention to the little things that
get noticed subconsciously & remain people's memories
longer.
No one will really remember what you were wearing the
day you met them, but they'll remember the confidence
or the positive vibe you displayed.
That's why, you need to shift your focus on the things
that matter.
 How You Look & Dress
Take time to reflect on the questions below and design
how you’d like your Ideal Self to look like.
Let your imagination run wild.
Express yourself fully in your style.
Remember, life’s too short to not follow your own
personal style. Think of how you dress - not just outside
but inside your home, too.
You’re always expressing yourself, no matter where you
are.
Again, this doesn't mean wearing the most expensive
clothes, rather having a style & charisma that's unique to
you.
It's as easy to make a statement with a simple black T-
shirt & grey jeans as it is to make with a Gucci jacket
because it's all about the person wearing the clothes &
not the clothes itself.
Complete the following worksheets to design a
personality that matches your Ideal Self.
Personality Design Worksheet
1. What do you look like?

2. How do people define you? Are you cute? Sexy? Smart?

Dandy? Elegant?

3. Define your style in 3 words. Do you dress smart? Iconic?

Sophisticated? Choose how you want to define your style.

4. What kind of dresses do you wear that represent the style you’ve
just defined for yourself? What are the top 20 items of your
wardrobe? What kind of fabric do you prefer most? What are your
top 5 favorite colors to wear?

5. How do you dress outside? How do you dress casually? How do

you dress at the parties? How do you dress at home?

6. Where do you buy your clothes from? Where do you

predominantly shop? What are your favorite brands? Who’s your
fashion/style inspiration?

7. What’s your hair and hairstyle like? How long? How short? Do you
color your hair? Do you experiment a lot? Define what looks best
on you.

8.What kind of accessories do you wear? Are you into watches and
rings? Do you have fancy bracelets? Or do you like to keep it
simple?
 Your Signature
Style/Appearance
Name 1-3 items that define your personal signature style.

It can be specific glasses, a ring, a bracelet, or certain kinds of

shoes.

Example - Turtlenecks and sports shoes

Grey t-shirt and black jeans
 Your Conduct
One of the best ways to bring instant change in yourself
is through acting, behaving and conducting yourself the
way your Ideal Self would.
This involves essentially your verbal and non-verbal
communications.
Think deeply and answer the following questions about
the conduct of your Ideal Self.
Complete the 'Your Conduct Worksheet' to define the
way your Ideal Self would conduct himself/herself.
 Your Conduct Worksheet
1. What is the primary language that you communicate in? Are you
fluent in it? Is your vocabulary strong? Define your diction.

2. What does your voice sound like? Do you have a high pitch
strong voice or do you have a low pitch soft voice? What’s the
tempo of your voice when you speak? Is your voice soothing or
inspiring? What does your laughter sound like?

3. What does you non-verbal communication look like? Are you

graceful? Do you take up space? What kind of gestures do you
use? Write in detail.

4. What’s your body language like? What’s your posture like? How
do you walk? How do you sit? How do you stand? Do you present a
powerful frame with your body language?

5. What kind of energy do you have throughout the day? Are you
always highly energetic? Or do you maintain a calm state
throughout the day?

6. What kind of internal state do you have on a day to day basis?

What kind of mood are you in throughout the day?

7. How are you at the parties/get-togethers? Are you the quiet

one in the corner, only being involved with a few close friends? Are
you the life of the party? What do you talk about with people at
the parties? What kind of discussions do you initiate? Are you able
to talk to people about anything and everything? What kind of a
listener are you?

8. How do you describe yourself when someone asks you “What do

you do?”? What do you tell people about your passions and
hobbies? How do you talk to people about your preferred way of
entertainment? What do you tell people when they ask you “What
kind of books/music/movies/TV series do you indulge in?”?
 Execute Everyday
All the planning, research and knowledge in the world
goes to the dogs if it's not executed.
Moreover, if it's not executed every single day.
If you treat this process as something you do on a
Sunday afternoon & forget about about it for the rest of
the week, it's not going to yield you anything. Rather,
you wasted your Sunday afternoon doing something
that you do not plan to follow through.
You were better off getting groceries & doing the
laundry instead!
You get my point, right?
Nothing positive will bring permanent change in your
life is not executed & repeated daily.
Now you'll find very powerful strategies that will help
you operate as your Ideal Self every single day because
that's our Ultimate Goal.
 Becoming Congruent With
The Ideal Self
You need to use powerful tools to become congruent
with the Ideal Self you've just designed.
I recommend these 3 tools - Affirmations, Journaling
and Visualization.
You'll use these tools every day without fail to make your
Ideal Self & dream life a reality for yourself.
This will entirely change your mind & how you look at
things.
These 3 tools help us make use of our powerful brain &
make things easier for us.
This will also help us in changing the default thoughts &
thought patterns that you currently have & replace them
with what thought patterns we would instead like to
cultivate.
 Becoming Congruent With
The Ideal Self
Affirmations
Help you establish the beliefs into your Subconscious mind. Every
morning after waking up, pick out one affirmation from the list
you've previously written & write it down 10 times on a piece of
paper. Without fail, every single day.

Journaling
Journaling helps you get clarity about your goals & dream life.
Every day for 15 minutes, write about your goal - what it'll feel like,
all the things you'll need to do to achieve it, what your
accomplishments are going to be; devour yourself into your dream
life by journaling about it.

Visualization
This is the most powerful tool. Every day after you wake up & every
night before going to bed, close your eyes for 10 minutes and
visualize your goals for this year. Then, visualize the tasks you’ll
need to get there & doing them successfully. Then visualize
operating as your Ideal Self in different situations. Get involved in
the reality that you want to experience through visualizing it in
great detail.
 Writing Your Reality
Now take a few minutes to visualize and write a detailed script
about what your ideal day in life would look like. How you’re
conducting yourself and how you’re operating throughout the day.

Imagine your perfect day, as your Ideal Self. Go as deep as

possible on this.

Prompts: What time do you wake up?

What do you do after waking up?
What kind of coffee/tea/breakfast do you have?
What time do you start working? What do you work on?
Who do you work with? What position are you at?
What do you eat?
What are your routines?
What are you currently pursuing?
How do you relax in your free time?
Where do you party? What kind of restaurants do you go to?
What do you do in your free time?
Who do you spend your time with?
Do you spend time with your family?
What do you do to bond with your people?
What’s your routine at home like?

Brainstorm all that you’d be doing as your Ideal Self and write it
down from the moment you wake up in the morning to the moment
you go to bed at night.

Write down your ‘perfect day’ that will make you love your life. It’s
not just enough to know it intellectually, you must make it visceral
by writing about it in excruciating details.
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
Now you’re going to work on embodying the Ideal Self
as much as possible to become more congruent with it.
For this, you need a system or a process that you can
follow throughout the day.
To accomplish the embodiment of your Ideal Self in the
present, you’ll need to turn to Theatre-acting.
Acting is the easiest tool to trick your brain. You have to
get into the mind of an actor.
We think that acting is all about lying but the truth is
that good acting is all about honesty. If you can fake true
honesty in your acting, you’ll be able to convince anyone
of the thing you’re doing or the person you’re being.
Here’s a quote that’s going to be immensely helpful in
this process:
“Acting is behaving truthfully under imaginary circumstances.”

Keep this quote in mind when you’re embodying your

ideal self.
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
Now why theatre acting?
Because you’ll be performing in front of a live audience
at all times.
Theatre acting requires total involvement of heart, mind
and spirit. Otherwise your audience will be able to see
through it.
And that’s why, when you’re embodying your ideal self,
you have to get into the mind of a great theatre actor.
You must be totally involved with your heart, mind and
spirit into this act of being your Ideal Self.
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
Truthfully, this activity alone makes the process of becoming your
Ideal Self so fun to indulge in.

Imagine being able to play and become the most amazing

character you’ve ever seen!

So before you go to sleep each night, close your eyes and visualize
in detail, how you’re going to conduct yourself the next day.

Prompts: How are you going to wake up? At what time?

Will you hit snooze?
How are you going to sweep off the sheets?
Which leg hit the floor first?
How do you feel after you get out of bed?
What do you do next?
How do you brush your teeth?
Do you make coffee/tea for yourself?
Where do you have your morning coffee/tea?
Do you read while you sip? How much time do you spend on this?
What do you do next? Do you workout? What kind of workout?
What do you listen to while working out?
Which playlist/audiobook? How many minutes do you workout?

You get the picture...the key is to go into obsessive details.

That’s how you’ll be able to make it visceral. That’s how you’ll be

able to make your “acting” as your Ideal Self automatic and
hardwired into your subconscious.
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
After you’ve visualized this in detail, go to sleep. Do not do
anything else after this visualization practice otherwise your mind
will become distracted. You can’t afford that.

Next morning, do exactly as you’ve visualized the previous night.

Don’t make one move differently.

After you’ve done the routine that you’d visualized the night
before, we’re going to repeat the process for the day that’s ahead
of us.

The tools we’ll use here are visualization and affirmations.

Every morning before you head out/start work, take a few minutes
to visualize your entire day and how you’ll operate.

This will also require going obsessively deep into the details.

Think in depth.

Prompts: How do you leave the house?

Are you on time, early or late?
Which vehicle do you use to reach your workplace?
Do you greet and have a conversation with the people you meet in
between?
Or do you read a book or listen to an audiobook/ playlist/
podcast?
When do you reach your workplace?
How do you greet everyone there?
What’s the first thing you do when you reach your desk?
Do you arrange your desk?
What’s the first thing you choose to work and focus on?
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
Are you effective at work? Do you do your best work?
How does the rest of the day go?
What do you order for lunch? Is it healthy and organic?
Do you cut back on coffee?
Do you help other colleagues and clients?

Describe your ideal workday fully and in detail.

Prompts: Then you’re heading back/wrapping up your workday.

You come home and you’re onto your evening routine.
What do you do after you come back home?
Do you go for a workout? What kind of workout?
Is it cardio or do you go for a run?
Do you take your dog for a walk?
Do you cook your dinner? What do you cook?
How do you relax? Do you call your family/partner?
Do you go for a sauna?
Do you watch Netflix?
When do you take your dinner?
What do you do next?
Do you work on a passion project?
Do you practice a hobby or a skill?
When do you go to sleep?
Do you journal before you go to bed?
Do you plan your next day before you sleep?

Again, imagine and visualize your entire day in as much detail as

possible. Spend time feeling empowered and excited by this
visualization practice. Do this for 30-40 minutes.
 From Waking Up
To Going To Bed
Then open your eyes and get on with your day. Remember to
follow every single action like you’ve visualized, this is important to
establish congruence.

This is something that you’ll do every single day before you start
your day to make yourself more prepared to operate with purpose.

By now you must have realized that you can employ the power of
Visualization in anything that you do or want to do effectively.
 In Conflicts &
Uncomfortable Situations
Whenever you find yourself where you have to struggle to do things
as your Ideal Self, just take a few minutes to visualize yourself as
the Ideal Self.

Sit in silence and try to obtain the will power from your Ideal Self
to move forward with the purpose.

Remember that your Ideal Self already possesses all the focus, will
power and strength you need, you just have to get in touch with it
through the power of your mind.
If you find yourself not behaving or conducting yourself as your
Ideal Self, sit down in silence with a journal and write down the
exact situation or day when you could not operate as your Ideal
Self, where you made mistakes and what were you feeling during
those moments. After you’ve written it in your journal, read the
description of your ideal self that you’ve previously written in ‘your
conduct worksheet’.
Now write a few key points that you will keep in mind next time if
you start slipping.

As a person that’s on their journey to become their Ideal Self, you

should always be on the lookout for any new challenges that you
can take head on and overcome because that’ll allow you
exponential growth in the shortest amount of time.

You want to challenge yourself by putting yourself in situations that

require you to get out of your comfort zone. Nothing too crazy, just
embrace the situations in your day to day life that you find
intimidating and imagine how your Ideal Self will approach them.
Then approach them boldly.

The more you do this, the more you become congruent with your
Ideal Self.
 What You Do If You
Fail/Course Correct
At any point in your journey, if you fail or if you go off
track, there’s always a way to make a comeback. Do not
lose hope or give up, because your Ideal Self won’t.
Remember - It’s always better to not lose the
momentum.
If you find yourself slipping away even for a few hours,
pull yourself together and direct your energies toward
saving yourself from failure.
But if it ever happens that you go off track for a few days
or a couple weeks, it’s easy to reset your compass.
Just take out a couple hours to go through and read
again the worksheets number - , where you’ve written
everything about your Ideal Self.
Because the thing is...we human beings, we forget!
 What You Do If You
Fail/Course Correct
We forget anything that we do not see, smell, hear,
taste, touch, read, pay attention to regularly.
So our success lies in our habit of repetition.
The more we repeat something, the better we become at
it.
Read, study, investigate, test your Ideal Self and you’ll be
able to get it into your subconscious.
When it gets into your subconscious, you’ll be able to
translate it into actions and eventually your reality.
 You're All Set!
If you managed to finish this entire worksheet,
congratulations!
You're well on your way to create a life & 'you' of your
dreams.
I hope the vision of the life that you want inspires &
excites you endlessly & that this book was helpful in
marching toward it in someway.
If you'd like to connect with me to share your
experience about this book or to offer any
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