2019-20 Mid-Missouri Wedding Planner

Contents
THE PERFECT DAY: SHORT HAIRSTYLES THE DO IT YOURSELF

PLANNING CALENDAR Page 37 RECEPTION
Page 4 Page 71
THE GROOM'S
CREATING A CALENDAR OUTDOOR WEDDINGS
WEDDING TIMELINE Page 38 Page 72
Page 10
RENTING A TUXEDO WEDDING
INVITATION Page 39 TRANSPORTATION
WORKSHEET Page 74
Page 12 GROOMSMEN ATTIRE
Page 40 ORDERING ALCOHOL
HOW TO MAIL Page 76
THE INVITES THE GROOM'S RING
Page 42 THE SIGNATURE
Page 13
DRESS CODE COCKTAIL
ENGAGEMENT PARTIES Page 43
Page 77
Page 14
THE REHEARSAL DANCE WITH
ENGAGEMENT PARTY CONFIDENCE
GUEST LIST DINNER Page 79
Page 44
Page 15
REHEARSAL DINNER MUSIC MOMENTS
THE WEDDING Page 80
REGISTRY GUEST LIST
Page 45 WEDDING
Page 17
THE FINAL FLINGS CAKE TRENDS
WHAT'S A WEDDING Page 46 Page 82
PLANNER?
Page 18 FLORAL TRENDS WEDDING
Page 48 CAKE PLANS
STAFF DON'T STRESS THE
DRESS MODERN & RUSTIC
Page 83
PUBLISHER Page 20 BOUQUETS WEDDING DAY

Terri Leifeste Page 49 PACKING LIST
DRESS TRENDS AND Page 84
SALES SILHOUETTES FLORAL SAVINGS
Page 22 Page 50 TIPPING YOUR
James Bailey
Kathy Dugan
VENDORS
DON'T SACRIFICE WEDDING Page 85
Ellie Ferrell COMFORT PHOTOGRAPHY
Jill Gates Page 24 Page 52 TOASTS: DOS
Hailee Hansen AND DON'TS
Tara Oberlag BRIDAL PARTY ATTIRE WEDDING PARTY Page 86
Derek Teter Page 25 ROLES
Lisa Wells Page 54 CHOOSING THE
WEDDING COSTS RIGHT CATERER
Page 26 CHOOSING A VENUE
DESIGN & Page 87
PRODUCTION Page 56
PREPARATION CATERING TIPS
Erin Chambers BUDGET LIST PERSONALIZE YOUR Page 88
Paul Dziuba Page 27 CEREMONY
Nisan Harlow Page 58 THE RECEPTION MENU
Devan Kirkpatrick HOW TO BUILD Page 89
Jake Lichman A BUDGET UNITY CEREMONIES
Mackenzie Philippe Page 28 Page 59 HONEYMOON TIPS
Wanda Rholfing Page 90
WEDDING RELIGIOUS
Ryan Shiner HONEYMOON
TECHNOLOGY CEREMONIES
For more information or to Page 29 Page 60 PACKING LIST
Page 91
receive a copy of the 2019-20 PRESERVING ETHNIC WEDDINGS
Wedding Planner, contact YOUR DRESS Page 62 AFTER THE
Aaron Consalvi at aconsalvi@ Page 30 HONEYMOON
columbiatribune.com or CEREMONY NOTES Page 92
573.815.1903. CRAFTING WEDDING Page 63
KEEPSAKES WRITING
Page 31 THE SECOND THANK YOU NOTES
WEDDING Page 94
THE RIGHT DRESS Page 64
FOR MOM MAKING IT OFFICIAL
Page 32 PERSONALIZING Page 95
YOUR VOWS
BOONVILLE DAILY NEWS MAKEUP TRENDS Page 66 NOTES
Page 34 Page 96
WEDDING
HAIR TRENDS RECEPTION TIPS BUSINESS DIRECTORY
Page 36 Page 68 Page 98
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The Perfect Day
Finally! The moment you have dreamed of your entire
life: the man of your dreams has popped the question
and you said YES! Now you can begin planning the
wedding you’ve always wanted.
What better way to celebrate your love and commitment
to your partner than a beautiful wedding? Of course,
there is plenty of work that must go into planning a
wedding. But don’t fret! It’s your wedding, which means
you and your groom choose how large or small it is. Don’t
feel pressured to have a huge, over-the-top wedding if
it’s not in your budget, or if you just aren’t a fan of that.
Smaller, more intimate weddings can be just as lovely; it’s
all in the planning. First of all, take a moment to imagine
your wedding ceremony. Brainstorm about how you’d
like your reception to be. Think about the things you
want to include to make your big day truly special to
you and unique to your guests. Once you have mentally
envisioned an ideal wedding and reception, the next step
is to take action!
Here is a timeline checklist to help you take care of
business in the months, weeks and days leading up to
your big day.
9-12 M ONTH S
before the wedding
 SET THE DATE.  COMPOSE YOUR GUEST LIST.

If you plan to be married in a church, temple, Let out-of-town guests know your wedding is in
mosque or in a religious service at home, clear the the works so they can make travel plans.
day and time with your clergy.
 RESERVE YOUR RECEPTION SITE.
 ANNOUNCE YOUR ENGAGEMENT.
Place your engagement announcement in your local  CHOOSE YOUR ATTENDANTS.
newspaper.
 DECIDE ON ATTIRE.
 SET THE BUDGET AND STYLE. Select your gown, shoes and accessories, as well as
Consider your wedding, reception and parties. bridesmaids’ dresses, tuxes, flower girl dresses, etc.
Establish who pays for what.
 DETERMINE THEME/MOOD.
 ENLIST HELP. This is reflected in the food, table settings,
Consider hiring a bridal consultant. If your budget decorations, flowers and entertainment.
won’t stretch that far, ask relatives and close friends
to assist you in specific tasks — selecting a dress,  INTERVIEW VENDORS.
interviewing caterers, locating a reception site — Meet with vendors, such as caterers, musicians,
especially in areas where you feel you need support. florists, photographers, videographers and bakers.
Get cost estimates from each.
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S IX M ONTHS
before the wedding
 SELECT YOUR COLOR SCHEME.  SELECT A BAKER AND ORDER

THE WEDDING CAKE.
 SHOP FOR WEDDING RINGS.
 CHOOSE YOUR FLORIST.
 DECIDE ON YOUR HONEYMOON
DESTINATION.
 SELECT YOUR INVITATIONS.
Don’t forget to purchase personal stationery for
the thank you notes.
 CHOOSE YOUR CATERER.

Remember to get a written contract.
 CHOOSE YOUR MUSICIAN(S).

 BOOK YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER
AND/OR VIDEOGRAPHER.
“At Fairytale Events, we make your wedding dreams come true!”

111 West Promenade Street, Mexico, MO 65265 • [email protected]
(573) 721-9828 • Follow us on Facebook
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F O U R M ONTHS T H REE MO N T HS
before the wedding before the wedding
 REGISTER FOR GIFTS AT ONE OR C

AREFULLY PREPARE DIRECTIONS.
MORE BRIDAL REGISTRIES. Include maps, if necessary, to help guide guests to the
wedding reception and hotels. Consider assembling
 HELP BOTH MOTHERS an information package for guests traveling long
distances.
COORDINATE AND SHOP FOR
WEDDING DAY ATTIRE.  BEGIN ADDRESSING INVITATIONS
 SELECT MUSIC FOR YOUR AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.
Invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the
CEREMONY & RECEPTION. wedding day.
 CHOOSE AND RESERVE A  PROVIDE FOOD VENDORS AN

REHEARSAL DINNER LOCATION. ESTIMATED NUMBER OF GUESTS.
 ARRANGE ACCOMMODATIONS  ENSURE HONEYMOON TRAVEL
FOR OUT-OF-TOWN WEDDING RESERVATIONS ARE PLACED.
PARTY MEMBERS.
Reserve a block of rooms for other out-of-town  ENSURE BRIDESMAIDS HAVE
guests, and let them know the hotel information. ACQUIRED & TAILORED GOWNS.
 RESERVE WEDDING DAY  SHOP FOR BRIDESMAID GIFTS.
TRANSPORTATION AND ANY Offer to help your fiancé select gifts for his attendants.
OTHER RENTAL NEEDS.
 SELECT A "GOING AWAY" OUTFIT
 MAKE APPOINTMENTS FOR AND SPECIAL TROUSSEAU ITEMS.
GOWN FITTINGS.
 MAKE AN APPOINTMENT TO HAVE
 CHECK THE REQUIREMENTS FOR FORMAL PORTRAITS TAKEN.
A MARRIAGE LICENSE. Have your hair done just before your portrait session
and again on your wedding day. Consider including
 ENSURE CONTRACTS AND your bridesmaid in a "beauty day" before the wedding
ARRANGEMENTS ARE COMPLETE with manicures, hair styling, massages and makeup
sessions.
WITH ALL SERVICE PROVIDERS.
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O N E MO N T H
before the wedding
 OBTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE.

 HAVE A FINAL GOWN FITTING.
 CHECK THAT ALL ATTENDANTS
HAVE THEIR ATTIRE.
 ENSURE MENU SELECTIONS, PLANS
AND NUMBER OF GUESTS ARE
COMMUNICATED TO CATERERS.
T WO M ONTHS  KEEP TRACK OF WEDDING GIFTS
before the wedding AS THEY ARRIVE.
Purchase a book for this purpose, and write those
thank you notes on a daily basis!
 MAIL OUT WEDDING INVITES
AND ANNOUNCEMENTS.  DRAW UP A SEATING PLAN.
Create place cards in the event of a formal reception.
 HAVE BRIDAL PORTRAITS TAKEN.  CHECK WITH YOUR FLORIST TO
 SEND BRIDAL PORTRAIT AND CONFIRM DATES AND TIMES OF
WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT TO FLOWER DELIVERIES.
LOCAL NEWSPAPERS.  REVIEW YOUR WEDDING DAY
 MEET WITH MUSICIANS TO TRANSPORTATION PLAN.
Make sure drivers are clear about addresses, times and
FINALIZE CEREMONY MUSIC. the number of passengers.
Convey precisely what you want and when. Don't be
shy to voice your preferences from mood to volume;
point out songs you don't want played!  PREPARE FOR NAME AND/OR
ADDRESS CHANGES.
 PLAN REHEARSAL DINNER Including driver's license, social security forms and
financial accounts. Fill out change-of-address forms at
AND A BRUNCH FOR YOUR the Post Office.
OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS.
 PLAN A LUNCHEON FOR YOUR  ARRANGE GIFT DELIVERY.
Ask a friend or family member to coordinate wedding
BRIDESMAIDS. gift delivery to your home or another safe location
following the wedding reception.
 MAKE APPOINTMENTS WITH A
HAIRDRESSER, MAKEUP ARTIST  WRAP GIFTS FOR ATTENDANTS.
AND MANICURIST.
 PURCHASE TRAVELERS' CHECKS &
 FINALIZE HONEYMOON PLANS. CONFIRM HONEYMOON PLANS.
If you are traveling overseas, check again that your
passports are current and that you have acquired  CONFIRM THAT OUT-OF-TOWN
any necessary visas. GUESTS HAVE ACCOMMODATIONS,
TRANSPORTATION & DIRECTIONS.
 GATHER ANY BAPTISMAL OR
BIRTH CERTIFICATES NEEDED  MEET WITH PHOTOGRAPHER.
FOR YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE. Specify formal shots you want taken of bridal party as
well as candid shots to be taken during the reception.
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TH RE E W E E K S
before the wedding
 CONTINUE WRITING THANK YOU

NOTES FOR WEDDING GIFTS.
 PICK UP WEDDING RINGS.
 BEGIN PACKING FOR YOUR
HONEYMOON TRIP.
 TOUCH BASE WITH ALL YOUR
VENDORS AND PREPARE A
CHECK FOR EACH.
ONE DAY
before the wedding
ELAX!
R
Take time to enjoy a massage, manicure and
pedicure.
 ATTEND AND ENJOY THE

REHEARSAL CEREMONY AND
REHEARSAL DINNER.
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Creating a Wedding Timeline
Wedding timelines can be confusing when you’ve never created one — even if you’ve attended SAMPLE
a lot of weddings, you probably haven’t paid much attention to how long each individual aspect
lasted. The best way to keep your wedding day moving and on schedule is to work it out ahead TIMELINE
of time. Below is a worksheet you can use to estimate and schedule each event of your big day. MAKEUP & HAIR
9:30 a.m.
GETTING READY,
PHOTOS BEGIN
TIME EVENT 10:00 a.m.
SET UP STARTS,
VENDORS ARRIVE
10:00 a.m.
COUPLE'S PORTRAITS
10:30 a.m.
FAMILY PHOTOS
11:15 a.m.
GUESTS BEGIN
TO ARRIVE
11:30 a.m.
WEDDING START TIME

PER INVITATIONS
1:30 p.m.
CEREMONY BEGINS
2:00 p.m.
CEREMONY ENDS
2:30 p.m.
SOCIAL HOUR,
FAMILY PHOTOS
2:40 p.m.
LUNCH SERVICE
BEGINS
3:30 p.m.
TOASTS
4:00 p.m.
FIRST DANCE
4:30 p.m.
CUTTING THE CAKE

6:00 p.m.
COUPLE DEPARTS
7:15 p.m.
GUESTS DEPART
7:30 p.m.
BREAKDOWN BEGINS
7:30 p.m.
ALL VENDORS OUT

8:30 p.m.
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Photo courtesy of
Ana Marie 's Bridal
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Invitation Worksheet
INVITATION OPTION ONE
INVITATION SHOP:
CONTACT PERSON:
ADDRESS:
PHONE NUMBER:
ORDER DATE: ARRIVAL DATE:
STYLE:
PAPER COLOR: INK COLOR:
QUANTITY: PRICE:
INVITATION OPTION TWO

INVITATION SHOP:
CONTACT PERSON:
ADDRESS:
PHONE NUMBER:
STYLE:
QUANTITY: PRICE:
INVITATION OPTION THREE

INVITATION SHOP:
CONTACT PERSON:
ADDRESS:
PHONE NUMBER:
STYLE:
QUANTITY: PRICE:
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How to Mail the Invites
YES, IT'S MORE THAN JUST AN ENVELOPE AND A STAMP!
There’s a method to the madness in putting together your wedding invitation package. Here are some steps
that will make this task much more efficient — possibly even fun — and hopefully less time-consuming.
1. STAMP AND ADDRESS YOUR

RESPONSE CARDS & ENVELOPES.
You’re helping your guests to respond when you
allow them to easily reply by simply dropping
the stamped reply card in the mail. The benefit
to you and your wedding is that you get a much
more accurate head count for the reception. It is
perfectly acceptable for you to write these out or
use printed labels.
2. STUFF ENVELOPES WITH THE

WEDDING INVITE PACKAGE.
• Place your wedding invitation down with the
wording side up.
• Place your reception card, also wording side up,
on top of the invitation.
• Place your response card, wording side up,
under its envelope flap and place on top of the
reception card.
• If you have other items like directions,
accommodation details, any other enclosures,
repeat the process — like things go with like
things.
• Place your invitation package (all wording facing
up) inside the inner envelope — this envelope
holds the invitation package. Next, place the
inner envelope inside the outer envelope.
3. HAVE ONE INVITATION PACKAGE

WEIGHED AT THE POST OFFICE.
Better safe than sorry. Take the envelope in to the
post office and find out how much postage you
need on the envelope. Buy some pretty stamps
for your invitation.
4. STAMP & MAIL OUTER ENVELOPES.

• Place your stamps on the envelope and send
them out 8 weeks prior to the wedding — a few
weeks earlier for a destination wedding.
• Take your invites to the post office; they’re
ready to send out!
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Engagement Parties
Engagement parties are held two to four months after sitting down to a good meal. For a formal
the engagement. If your engagement is going to be a party at a country club or other upscale
short one, do not have an engagement party. Instead, location, match the invites to the food
let your friends know, send save-the-date cards for and make it grand with a cocktail hour,
the wedding, and plan for that wonderful day. musicians or a DJ, dancing and dinner.
If your engagement is long, you have an opportunity While some parties are theme-based,
to introduce your future in-laws, family members, one of the nicest and most meaningful
and friends — everyone gets to know each other. The moments in an engagement party is to
party can be backyard casual, a meal at a favorite or have a compilation of home movies, slides,
sentimental restaurant, or a more formal affair at or photos of the bride and groom from
the club. The good news is the choice is yours — no babyhood to adulthood.
worries about etiquette, invite the people you love
who love you right back. The party should reflect the Make sure that toasts to the couple are
style of the bride and groom. prepared. Start the toasts about two-
The hosts of
the party are
the bride’s
parents,
THE CHOICE IS YOURS. DON'T WORRY ABOUT ETIQUETTE;
the groom’s INVITE THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE WHO LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK.
parents, a
combination
of the two, a
family friend, or the bride and groom host and throw thirds of the way into the event. If friends
this soirée for themselves. Only invite people you are are the hosts, they make the first toast.
inviting to the wedding. If the parents are the hosts, the father of
the bride goes first, then the father of the
Your venue will set the tone for everything: groom goes next. After that, anyone can
invitations, food and décor. The number of guests toast and roast the happy couple. Make
will determine the expense. Decide who will attend sure you have champagne flutes and
(the number of people will help determine your plenty of bubbly for all the toasts to come.
party location) and then reserve a space that can
accommodate everyone. Make that reservation at At the end of the party, be sure to thank
least a month prior to the party, then decide on a the hosts and guests!
menu, drinks and timeframe.
If you’re having a backyard barbecue, everything
from the invitations to food and décor will be casual
and personal. You can play games, have music, dance,
talk, get to know each other. If you’re having a brunch,
think about having a golf time for the guys, and
perhaps a spa day for the women — just make sure
everyone gets a chance to mingle at breakfast. Maybe
you want a dessert party — everything you do sets the
tone and the theme. If you’re at a restaurant, order a
menu in advance that accommodates all tastes and
decide what wine pairs with these foods (beer and
soft drinks should also be available.) Doing this in
advance keeps your costs in line.
The invites can reflect the restaurant — perhaps
it’s where you met or a favorite spot you frequent,
perhaps it reflects your ethnicity — this sets the
tone for your invitations. Consider a cocktail hour
for restaurants so people have time to mingle before
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Engagement Party Guest List
1. 21.
2. 22.
3. 23.
4. 24.
5. 25.
6. 26.
7. 27.
8. 28.
9. 29.
10. 30.
11. 31.
12. 32.
13. 33.
14. 34.
15. 35.
16. 36.
17. 37.
18. 38.
19. 39.
20. 40.
41.
42.
43.
44.
45.
46.
47.
48.
49.
50.
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Photo courtesy of
Backroad Blossoms
Design & Crafts
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The Wedding Registry
The first thing to do when registering for your wedding gifts is to
take an inventory of both your homes to see what you need or want. F O R THE
If you're just starting out, the list below will suffice. If you have K I T C HE N
an established household, you may not need new china or a food
processor. If so, you may want to edit the suggested list below and
3 baking sheets
add some unique items.
1 air fryer
1 coffee maker
2 cutting boards
FOR T HE FOR THE 1 Dutch oven
1 pizza plate
B AT H R OOM B EDR O O M 1 crock pot
1 food processor
2 bathrobes 1 comforter/duvet cover 1 knife block
1 bath mat 1 duvet Knife set
1 bathroom rug 1 dust Ruffle 1 microwave
2 bath sheets 2 blankets (cotton or wool) 2 oven mitts
4-6 bath towels 1 mattress 2 round cake pans
4-6 hand towels 1 mattress pad 2 set pots and pans
4-6 washcloths 1 box spring 1 electric skillet
1 shower curtain 2 sets of sheets 1 pasta pot
1 shower liner 2-4 pillows 1 strainer
1 soap dish Shams 1 set measuring cups
1 toothbrush holder 1 pitcher
1 water glass 1 pizza cutter
1 lotion dispenser 1 standing mixer
1 soap dispenser FOR THE 1 set mixing bowls
1 laundry hamper DINING ROOM 1 toaster
2 waste baskets 1 toaster oven
1 hair dryer 1 ice cream maker
1 large salad bowl
1 whisk
1 set serving utensils
2 wooden spoons
8-12 cups and saucers
3 spatulas
T HE 8-12 drinking glasses
1 soup tureen
8-12 mugs
EXTRAS 8-12 wine glasses
1 picnic basket
1 insulated cooler
8-12 cloth napkins
1 broom & dustpan
Candlesticks & vases 8-12 napkin rings
Barware
Extension cords 8-12 china place settings
Tupperware, assorted sizes
Luggage 8-12 casual place settings
Stereo system 8-12 steak knives
Christmas ornaments 8-12 silver place settings
Holiday décor 8-12 everyday place settings
Fireplace tools 2-4 serving platters/trays
Vacuum cleaner 1 set salt & pepper shakers
Garden shovel & shears 1 set covered dishes
Weed eater & lawn mower Flatware
Toolbox & tools 1 teapot
Patio furniture & furnishings 2 tablecloths
Barbecue grill
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What's a Wedding Planner?
As the bride, you want to take special care
and linger over your hair and makeup on your TIPS FOR PICKING A WEDDING PLANNER
wedding day, but instead you are decorating the
reception hall dressed in sweats and a ponytail. Keep these things in mind when selecting your planner.
Not what you always pictured? What you need •T
here is no official qualification to become a planner.
is a wedding planner. Wedding planners are
experts in the details and schedules involved •R
eputation is key. Other than personal references,
in weddings. These coordinators can help plan planners can hold memberships in organizations
the vision from the beginning, get you started, that require a credible reputation to join, such as the
or take responsibility for a smooth event on the Better Business Bureau or Angie’s List.
big day. They have contacts with other service •E
xperience is the most valuable credential for an
providers, and they should be familiar with costs event planner.
and current trends. lanners must be extremely organized, coping with
•P
many stressful situations with a calm exterior.
•U
ltimately, it’s about rapport and trust. The most
WHEN TO HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER important question to answer is whether you can
work cohesively and intimately with this individual
TIME-WISE on one of the most memorable events of your life.
Optimally, a wedding planner should be the
first service to book when brides actively begin
planning a wedding, even if that is a year or WHAT TASKS A WEDDING PLANNER TACKLES
more in advance. However, planners can work
with short turnaround too. Some brides may Approaches and prices vary by wedding expert. Planners
want to do much of the legwork themselves and may charge a percentage of the total wedding budget,
only have the planner actively involved in the by the hour, or offer service packages. One of the most
last few weeks before the wedding. popular coordination packages is for the professional
to take charge the last four to eight weeks before the
MENTAL HEALTH-WISE wedding, allowing the bride to focus on pre-wedding
Planning a wedding is stressful and emotional, festivities. Here are the services most planners offer.
with dozens of decisions to make. Brides with
full-time careers may want to hire out some •P
rovide ongoing consultation for all things wedding.
of that stress. Also, indecisive brides who •D
evelop a customized budget plan.
aren’t sure how to bring their ideas to fruition •P
rovide a schedule and month-to-month planning
may want assistance. Wedding planners are checklist.
enthusiastic supporters, sympathetic listeners
and a neutral person when clashes of opinion •A
ssist with vendor selection, providing a list of
occur with relatives or bridal party members. suitable and reputable vendors as needed.
•A
ccompany bride to vendor meetings and review
contracts.
•C
oordinate all vendors in advance and on the day of
the wedding.
•A
ssist with selecting the design/style of the wedding
and/or reception.
•B
e a resource on wedding etiquette and traditions.
•D
irect attendants, rehearsals, processionals,
recessionals and receiving lines.
•C
oordinate wedding day decorating, vendor
deliveries and services, ceremony and reception.
•E
nsure all post-event tasks are taken care of after
the couple leaves — gifts secured, rentals returned,
gratuities paid, clean-up completed.
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Don't Stress the Dress
The wedding day is the time when all attention
is on the bride. She is the beautiful princess
marrying her knight in shining armor —
bejeweled and bedecked in a glorious gown.
You want to look your very best. How do you
achieve this? Add fitness training to your
wedding to-do list.
TRY ON GOWNS FOR MOTIVATION

Sometimes all it takes to get motivated to
start a fitness program is trying on a few
wedding dresses. Do you look a bit lumpy
under that tight-fitting bodice? Do you want
to go sleeveless but not until your arms are
toned up? Pick the dress you love and then
get to work!
STICK TO YOUR FITNESS PLAN

If sticking to a healthy diet and a fitness
program is hard for you, consider
getting in shape with a buddy or hire
a personal trainer. Sometimes being
accountable to another person helps.
Ditch the junk food in your fridge and
pantry and restock with healthful
foods and snacks. It’s harder to be
tempted by sugary and fatty foods
when they are not within easy reach.
Keep a cooler filled with healthy choices
in your car when you’re traveling to keep on
track with your nutrition goals.
BRIDAL TRAINING
Many personal trainers recommend starting
a fitness plan at least six months in advance
of the wedding date. If the bride has more
than 20 pounds to lose, budget more time.
Good, basic exercises include lunges,
squats and kettle-bell swings.
For the arms, try tricep kickbacks
where you lean over holding three-
pound to five-pound weights at the
chest and extend the arms back
toward the rear.
With the shoulders, keep the
weight light. Form, technique
and movements must be slow
and precise to avoid injury.
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For the midsection, reverse Sodas are off-limits, even
crunches work well. Lie diet sodas because of the
flat on the floor with your unhealthy ingredients and
palms facing down. Lift your bloating. Limit caffeine,
legs up in the air with knees a diuretic, to two cups of
bent until your butt comes coffee or tea a day. Also
off the floor. avoid processed foods, fast
foods and fried foods.
EAT FRESH ALL DAY
Forget three square meals REST AND RELAX!
a day, most trainers advise. In this state of increased
Eat five to six small meals a pressure, stress may build
day from the time you first and health could falter.
wake up and then every two According to a Cornell
Backroad Blossoms
to three hours. The meals University study, more than
should include lean proteins 70 percent of brides-to-be
such as turkey, chicken and have weight loss on the
fish. A little bit of lean beef brain, but shedding pounds
is acceptable too. shouldn't be the only factor FLORAL DESIGNS & CRAFTS
to consider.
Roughage is important so Event florist specializing in fresh flower weddings.
salads are a good choice. Those who go full-throttle Serving the central Missouri area.
Fresh fruits and vegetables may burn out. Stress can
can fill you up and satisfy a weaken the immune system
sweet tooth. And you still and make people vulnerable
need some carbohydrates, to illness. Schedule some
which are essential for time for date nights with
muscle recovery, according your fiancé, and don't
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Dress Trends & Silhouettes
Many brides-to-be visit bridal shops with specific
goals in mind regarding the style of their wedding
gowns. Some women come equipped with magazine
tear-outs or pull up ideas on their mobile phones.
Others may have an entire scrapbook filled with
various ideas they've been compiling for years.
Ultimately, you buy the dress you love – the dress that
makes you feel like a bride. In the process, you pore
over magazines and tear out photos of the gowns you
like. You search websites until you’re bleary-eyed. You
watch ‘Say YES to the DRESS’ and cheer when the
bride finds the YES DRESS. You want to say YES!
Along the way, you note the trends you like, the ones
you don’t, and those you find (surprisingly) that attract
you. On the following pages are some samples of style
trends for 2019.
PLUNGING V-NECK BALL GOWN

A V-neck empire dress is A ball gown is a
flattering for most women, but dress that most
specifically flatters a fuller figure. brides admire
The V-neck draws attention to and is ideal for
the neckline and the empire both slender
dress flows cleanly over the body. and pear-shaped
figures. A fitted
EMPIRE WAIST bodice and a full
An empire waist dress is a skirt can flatter
forgiving style and appeals to many body shapes
many brides. It is especially depending on the style
complimentary for a pear-shaped of the top of the dress.
figure and covers problem areas. A corset top flatters the
The silhouette also creates bustline, but can make a
balance by flowing over the body. large bust look too large
2019 Trend:
2019 Trend: Silhouette: SIMPLE
FLIRTY BACK E M P I R E WA I S T ELEGANCE
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if the V-neck is too deep. A
sweetheart neckline enhances
an hourglass figure. A dropped
waist ball gown flatters a small
waist. Beware the ball gown
Silhouette: because it can overwhelm a
small frame.
MERMAID
TRUMPET GOWN
The Trumpet gown is flattering
on a tall and slender figure. If
you are evenly proportioned,
it works well on your body
too. The neckline you choose
can determine the creation of
curves or the camouflage of
problem areas.
A-LINE DRESS
An A-Line dress is flattering
for most women, but is a good
choice for a larger body. The
2019 Trend: shape elongates the body
LACE BACK creating a slimming effect. For
a thin body, it creates an illusion
of curves if you add a belt.
SHEATH DRESS
The Sheath dress is a timeless
and elegant style. This style
suits a petite figure and small
framed women. The style
elongates the body. Because
the simple style flows neatly
over the body, problem areas
can be accentuated.
THE BOTTOM LINE

Know what to highlight and
what to cover up! No two
body types are the same, and
many women feel certain
parts of their bodies are their
best assets while they want to
downplay others. Try on gowns
that play up your best features.
If you have shapely legs,
consider a dramatic gown with
a slit to show them off. Certain
gowns can enhance the chest
or show off an hourglass shape.
Remember, many gowns can be
modified so that you feel secure
and confident. Sleeves can be
added or fabric placed to cover
up any perceived flaws.
Confidence and pride are vitally
important factors. Consider
your ‘go to’ dresses you reach
for time and time again. Why do
you love them, and how do they
2019 Trend: 2019 Trend: flatter you and my figure? What
BLUSH TONE O F F -T H E - S H O U L D E R S T R A P S were the style aspects that
drew you to them?
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Don't Sacrifice Comfort
Much consideration is given to wedding gowns. The cost and
silhouette of the dress may garner the bulk of that consideration,
but brides might want to spend more time considering comfort.
Depending on the time of day their weddings take place, brides
can spend 12 hours or more in their wedding gowns on their
wedding day. However, when shopping for their gowns, brides
may prioritize beauty over comfort, even though it's entirely
possible to find a gown that's both stunning and comfortable.
When staff and friends or family who have come along to offer
advice start to blush over wedding gowns, brides-to-be may feel
pressured to downplay any discomfort they feel.
To make sure brides look flawless and elegant but are still
comfortable in their wedding gowns, consider the following tips.
GET SIZED CORRECTLY

Bridal gown sizes do not coincide with street
sizes. Depending on the manufacturer, brides
may have to select gowns that are several sizes
larger than they would normally wear. This
should not be a cause for alarm. Brides should
go by their measurements. Attempting to
squeeze into a dress that is too small will only
lead to discomfort on the wedding day.
FIND THE RIGHT UNDERGARMENTS

Improperly fitting bras, shapewear and other
undergarments can lead to discomfort as well.
Some seamstresses can sew in supportive
cups to remove the need for separate bras.
Brides can explore various options to reduce
the visibility of certain undergarments.
Remember to bring along the exact shoes and
undergarments you will wear with your gown. DON'T GET DISCOURAGED
A change in shoes or bra/corset can result in Most sample sizes will not be the size
the alterations fitting poorly the next time. you wear every day, so expect them to be
Bring these along to all subsequent fittings. ill-fitting. Do not be discouraged. Once a
gown is chosen, the dress shop will take
MOVE AROUND IN THE GOWN your measurements and order the gown
Brides should not just stand in front of the according to the manufacturer's sizing
mirror and smile when trying on gowns. Put guide. Again, this can be shocking, since the
them through their paces. Try sitting, bending size will likely be larger than what you wear
and even a little dancing. Make sure the dress is in street clothes. Some shops will also order
comfortable to move around in. a little larger to allow for adequate tailoring.
TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS CHECK THE DETAILS

The gown brides have in mind may not be the The second fitting is designed to check that
one they ultimately go home with. Explore all issues from the first fitting have been
different styles and materials. Choose cooler, addressed, the gown is comfortable and
breezier fabrics and lightweight gowns, like you can move freely. At the last fitting, ask
crêpe, georgette or organza, for summer the maid of honor to come along so that
weddings. Heavier fabrics, such as brocade, she understands how to bustle or help you
may be more comfortable in the winter. handle complicated straps or closures.
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Bridal Party Attire
STORE NAME:
ADDRESS:
PHONE: CONSULTANT:
THE BRIDE
GOWN DESIGNER/MANUFACTURER: GOWN STYLE:
GOWN SIZE: FABRIC: COLOR:
DATE GOWN ORDERED: FITTING DATE: PICKUP DATE:
VEIL DESIGNER/MANUFACTURER: VEIL STYLE:
VEIL LENGTH: DATE VEIL ORDERED: PICKUP DATE:
MISCELLANEOUS ATTIRE:
 Shoes
 Necklace
 Earrings
 Slip
 Hosiery
 Bra/Bustier
 Garter
FLOWER GIRL MAID OF HONOR

NAME: STYLE: NAME: STYLE:
GOWN SIZE: SHOE SIZE: GOWN SIZE: SHOE SIZE:
WAIST: LENGTH: WAIST: LENGTH:
FITTING DATE: COST: FITTING DATE: COST:
BRIDESMAID 1 BRIDESMAID 2
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Wedding Costs
Newly engaged couples
may experience an array of
emotions when they sit down
to plan their weddings. Some
couples cannot wait to jump
into planning and want to
catalog every aspect of the
process, while others may
proceed with caution because
they don't know what to expect
- particularly in regard to cost.
Many couples find it difficult to
create their wedding budgets
because they have no previous
experience to draw on. The
wedding planning advisor
CostofWedding.com indicates
the average wedding cost in the
United States is $26,720, with
most people spending between
$20,000 and $34,000. Seventh
Heaven Event Catering
states that, in Canada, the
average wedding costs around
$30,000. Such costs can vary
greatly depending on couples'
preferences, including where
they hope to tie the knot.
By breaking down wedding
expenses, couples can get a WEDDING CAKE TRANSPORTATION
clearer picture of how much Wedding cakes tend to be multi- Limousines and other
they may need to pay for their tiered intricate designs, so they transportation prices vary
weddings and where they may will cost more than birthday cakes. depending on the vehicle(s)
need to cut costs. According to Statistics Brain, couples choose. The Knot
wedding dessert will come in notes that budgeting
RECEPTION SITE around $390. between $400 and $500 for
According to The Knot, a transportation might be wise.
premiere wedding planning MUSIC
resource, couples can expect The Knot says wedding bands cost WEDDING GOWN
their receptions to eat up the around $3,500, which is more than Brides-to-be should expect
largest chunk of their wedding twice as much as hiring a deejay their gowns to cost around
budgets. Wedding reception ($1,200). Soloists or ceremony $1,100 and the veil or
venues may cost between musicians may cost around $650. headpiece to be roughly $120,
$10,000 and $15,000. The according to the Association
average price for catering per WEDDING PLANNER of Bridal Consultants.
person is roughly $70. Bar Many couples employ wedding
service may be around $2,000 planners to make planning their PHOTOS & VIDEO
for a three- to four-hour party. weddings easier. Wedding planners Preserving wedding memories
Some reception sites combine cost an average of $1,300, says typically costs around $2,800
the room cost with the food Thumbtack, a company that for video and photography
and beverage costs, while matches professionals with people services, based on data from
others have à la carte fees. who require their services. Statistics Brain.
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Preparation Budget List
BRIDE: GROOM:
WEDDING DATE: LOCATION:
NO. OF GUESTS: NO. IN WEDDING PARTY:
ATTIRE STATIONERY
BUDGET ACTUAL BUDGET ACTUAL
GOWN & ALTERATION SAVE-THE-DATE CARDS
HEADPIECE & VEIL INVITATIONS
LINGERIE PROGRAMS
BRIDAL ACCESSORIES PLACE CARDS
HAIR & MAKEUP THANK YOU CARDS
GROOM'S TUXEDO POSTAGE
GROOM'S ACCESSORIES MISCELLANEOUS
MISCELLANEOUS
RECEPTION
CEREMONY BUDGET ACTUAL
BUDGET ACTUAL VENUE
VENUE FEE CATERING
OFFICIANT FEE BEVERAGES
MARRIAGE LICENSE CAKE
RENTALS/SERVICES
RINGS BUDGET ACTUAL

BUDGET ACTUAL
TRANSPORTATION
BRIDE'S RING
GROOM'S RING BRIDE AND GROOM
WEDDING PARTY
OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS
ENTERTAINMENT BUDGET ACTUAL
CEREMONY MUSIC
BUDGET ACTUAL
GIFTS/FAVORS
RECEPTION ENTERTAINMENT
EQUIPMENT RENTAL GUEST FAVORS
WEDDING PARTY GIFTS
MISCELLANEOUS GIFTS
FLOWERS/DECOR BUDGET ACTUAL
CEREMONY FLOWERS
BUDGET ACTUAL AFTER HOURS
RECEPTION DECORATIONS
LIGHTING WEDDING NIGHT
MISCELLANEOUS HONEYMOON
PHOTO/VIDEO BUDGET ACTUAL BUDGET ACTUAL

EXTRAS
PHOTOGRAPHY
VIDEOGRAPHY
GRAND TOTAL BUDGET: ACTUAL:
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How to Build a Budget
Once couples know what they can contribute,
they can then consult their parents to determine
if their mothers and fathers are intending to
contribute.
DEVELOP AN INITIAL GUEST LIST

A preliminary guest list can give couples an
idea of how large and expensive their weddings
will be. According to the Real Weddings Study,
the average cost per wedding guest in 2015
was $237. While that cost can vary greatly
depending on geography and other factors,
couples should keep that figure in mind when
drafting their guest lists. If need be, keep costs
down by trimming the guest list so it includes
only close family members and friends.
DON'T COUNT ON GIFTS

Many couples justify runaway wedding budgets
by telling themselves that they will ultimately get
Couples engaged to be married have a lot on their plates the money back via wedding gifts. While many
as they begin planning their weddings. Whereas tradition guests will give financial gifts, counting on such
once demanded parents of the bride pay for a couple's windfalls is a recipe for accruing debt. Do not
wedding, nowadays more and more engaged couples are build potential wedding gifts into your wedding
completely or partially financing their own nuptials. That budget. If you do so and your expectations fall
means prospective brides and grooms must develop short, you could be facing considerable debt
wedding budgets that won't ensure their first act as Mr. upon returning home from your honeymoon.
and Mrs. is paying down debt.
GATHER COST QUOTES
In its 2015 Real Weddings Study, online bridal resource Where couples get married will have a great
The Knot found that many couples still receive impact on how much money they will spend on
substantial financial support from their parents to pay their weddings. For example, the Real Weddings
for their weddings. The survey found that, on average, Study found that, in 2015, the average wedding
the bride's parent's contributed 44 percent of the overall in Manhattan cost couples slightly more than
wedding budget in 2015, while couples financed 43 $82,000, while the average Alaskan wedding
percent (the remaining 13 percent was financed by the cost just over $17,000. Venues within the same
groom's parents and additional sources). Couples who city can vary greatly with regard to pricing
hope to follow that formula or pay for their weddings on and offerings as well, so couples should give
their own can heed the following tips to build wedding themselves ample time to gather quotes and find
budgets that won't break the bank but will still ensure a an affordable venue they like.
day to remember forever.
BUILD IN SOME WIGGLE ROOM
EXAMINE YOUR JOINT FINANCES When determining a budget you can live with,
Few couples know the details of each other's finances remember to include a little extra for unforeseen
before getting engaged. While some may still hesitate to costs. Weddings are large undertakings, and it's
share their personal financial information upon getting reasonable to expect some unforeseen costs to
engaged, an open and honest discussion and examination arise. Building such costs into your initial budget
of each person's finances is the only way to develop a will make these unforeseen circumstances that
realistic wedding budget that both partners can live with. much easier to handle.
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Wedding Technology
Ensuring an event goes on with minimal hiccups takes patience and thorough
planning. This is especially true for weddings, when many elements must
merge for a memorable day. Today's couples have a bevy of resources at their
disposal to facilitate wedding planning.
The internet makes vetting vendors and reading reviews that much easier, but
wedding-related apps also can simplify wedding planning. The following are
some top picks as culled by Wedding Shoppe, Inc., The Knot and Lifehacker.
WEDD ING WEDDING

S P OT LO O K B O O K
With Wedding Spot, This helpful app enables
couples can search for couples to browse
their ideal venue based through thousands of
on location, budget, dresses, accessories,
style and capacity. The jewelry, and much more.
site enables users to Wedding LookBook
plan an ideal wedding will help customers find
and get cost estimates products in their area.
based on guest list and
options. Users also can iW E D D I N G
access discounts and
exclusive deals. TH E K N O T' S D E LU X E
M A R K E TP LA CE In addition to managing
timelines, to-do lists
A P P Y COUPLE With the click of a
button, couples can
and vendors, this app
offers inspiration ideas
search for wedding for gowns, manages and
This app and website vendors in all different tracks gifts, and offers
helps couples manage categories, read first dance suggestions
their budgets, timelines, reviews, and directly from iTunes. However,
wedding parties, and connect with those it is only available to
seating charts, while businesses. iPhone users.
also allowing them to
share photos. There is
a free version and basic
packages that allow
access to more features.
A LLSE ATE D V I STA P R I NT
This tool can help These stationery
couples figure out specialists offer an
HIT CHSWITCH seating arrangements by
creating 3D floor plans
array of services, from
cards to invitations to
of the event, and couples personalized envelopes.
Brides or grooms who can pull contacts Once a design is chosen,
may be changing their from email and social Vistaprint will offer
names can do so in one networks to establish a add-on suggestions
convenient place. Three guest list. If floor plans for coordinating items,
different packages are unavailable in their helping to create a
cater to various name- database, they can be cohesive look for the
changing needs. drawn. festivities.
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Preserving Your Dress
When you bought your wedding dress, you made a
big investment in perhaps the most important dress OPTION TWO:
of your life. Now that the wedding is over (and you
looked amazing) what do you do with the dress? D O IT YO U R S E L F
Get the dress professionally cleaned. Get a
OPTION ONE: large museum-quality box (not a brown box
and not a plastic box, but a cedar chest can
HIRE A P R O FES S I O N A L work), tissue paper, and a cotton liner. Place
the tissue paper in the bodice and folds of
fabric, trying to avoid creasing or wrinkling the
Find a dry cleaner educated in wedding
gown. Place in the box, seal while letting air to
gown preservation or a wedding gown
freely enter the box, and store.
preservationist. You want the dry cleaner or
preservationist to clean the dress first, using
gentle solvents and chemicals that match the
materials and are safe to use (harsh chemicals OPTION THREE:
can ruin the fabric); any shoulder pads,
perspiration shields, or foam inserts must be R E S T YL E T H E D R E S S
removed (they can break-down with time and
ruin the dress). The gown is then stuffed with Reusing a wedding gown is a cost-effective
clean, acid-free tissue. Tissue is also placed and earth-friendly idea. Many women choose
between the folds of the dress (this prevents to restyle their dress and wear it more
permanent wrinkling of the dress). The gown frequently. Go to a tailor and have them look
is then wrapped and boxed (a museum-quality at the dress to see if hemming, restyling, or
archival box) for storage in your home. The box designing anew will work for you. Keep in
is not hermetically sealed because the gown mind, however, that once it’s altered, the dress
requires proper air circulation. can’t return to its original look.
Avoid placing the box in a hot attic or a cold
cellar. You’re allowed to open and check on
your dress periodically (use white gloves OPTION THREE:
to avoid oil marks). Repackage for proper
storage. Some dry cleaners will store your TRANSFORM THE DRESS
dress for years for a yearly fee.
One of the primary reasons to preserve
a wedding gown is to save the dress for a
daughter, granddaughter or another relative
to wear at her own wedding.
There are also a number of different occasions
when wearing white is acceptable. Religious
ceremonies such as baptisms and communions
qualify, and a wedding gown in the hands
of an experienced seamstress or tailor can
be transformed into a baby's Christening
ensemble or a beautiful dress for a youngster
about to receive First Holy Communion.
Some brides also choose to create a keepsake
from their gown. Cut a small piece of the fabric
and put it into a pendant or locket. A piece of
tulle or lace also can be placed inside a clear
Christmas ornament and hung on the tree for
years to come.
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Crafting Wedding Keepsakes
Couples' wedding days are momentous TRANSFORM A TEDDY BEAR
occasions, and couples want their memories Have tuxedo fabric or wedding gown material
of the day they tied the knot to endure long turned into a keepsake teddy bear. Bowman
after the final guest has departed. Bears produces such bears, which can be
passed down to future generations.
Weddings can be amazing, but they only last
a few hours. Memories can be forever if they FRAME THE INVITATION
are effectively documented. The following Display the wedding invitation in a beautiful
are some ways for couples to permanently frame with custom matting.
memorialize their wedding days.
MAKE AN INVITATION ORNAMENT
Cut the wedding invitation into strips and
DRY THE BOUQUET place it inside of a hollow glass ornament. Seal
Wedding bouquets can be freeze-dried and/ the top and hang with a ribbon.
or chemically preserved so that the colors,
textures and the volume of the blooms REVISIT THE SITE
can appear just as vibrant as they were on On their anniversaries, couples can visit their
couples' wedding days. After preservation, ceremony site or have brunch or dinner at the
the bouquet can be displayed in a vase or in venue where the reception took place. Take
a specially prepared shadow box with other an "after" picture to display with the "before"
mementos. shot from the wedding day.
CREATE BOUQUET JEWELRY DESIGN A CARD SCRAPBOOK
Encapsulate favorite wedding flowers into a Turn all of those special handwritten
resin pendant, bracelet or earrings. messages and well-wishes into a scrapbook so
that memories can be revisited time and again.
CREATE A CUSTOM LOCKET
Brides can wear a piece of their wedding The planning may take months and the
gown day after day with a custom necklace wedding mere hours, but well-documented
or locket. All they need to do is trim a small wedding day memories can last forever!
piece of the lace or other embellishment
from the gown and enclose it in the locket.
Jewelry designers also may be able to
convert a section of the gown pattern into
metal through a casting process.
HAVE GUESTS SIGN A LABEL

Purchase a special bottle of wine or
champagne and ask guests to sign the label
or the bottle itself. Store the bottle until
a special occasion, such as a memorable
anniversary, and then toast to a happy
marriage.
MAKE A CAKE REPLICA

Ask an artist to make a miniature replica of
the wedding cake out of pottery. Put the clay
cake out for display or ask for it to be made
small enough to serve as a Christmas tree
ornament.
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The Right Dress for Mom
Perhaps the second most important dress a
woman will wear (after her own wedding dress) GENERAL SHOPPING TIPS
is her mother-of-the-bride or -groom dress. The
selection process is fraught with pressure to • You’ll have a better selection at a specialty
look and feel pretty while also blending with the store, though do check out the department
bridesmaids and wedding colors. stores for ideas and options.
Follow the bride’s lead regarding style, color • Alterations are important.
and degree of formality. The days of blending • Proper undergarments are important.
in are gone. The mother-of-the-bride’s dress
• Order your dress (if it needs to be ordered) at
complements the wedding party’s colors.
least three to four months in advance.
It’s a good idea to look at styles early on
because you won’t be buying a dress until your • Allow time for those important alterations.
daughter chooses the bridesmaid dresses • Consider if you’ll need a wrap for the church
(complementing color, of course), but knowing a or because of weather.
style that works for you is half the battle. • Bring proper shoes when trying on dresses,
Once you’ve chosen your dress, you share your especially when at an alteration appointment.
dress color and style with the mother-of-the-
groom. She’ll coordinate a complementing color
and style. Remember — you’ll both be in the
photos, so why not look great?
MOTHER-OF-THE-BRIDE ETIQUETTE
• The mother-of-the-bride chooses a dress first.
•T he bride should provide a swatch of the
bridesmaids’ gown so the mother's dress
complements the color.
•T he bride's mother and groom's mother
should not wear the same color dress.
•N either mother should wear a dress the same
color as the bride’s dress — not even remotely
close!
•T he length of the pantsuit, dress or gown is a
personal choice.
•M ake sure the dress is church, venue, color
and age appropriate.
•B lack is appropriate for weddings as long as
the outfit doesn't signify mourning.
•O nce the bride’s mother has chosen her
dress, she should let the groom’s mom know
and show her the dress and/or color.
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Makeup Trends
On your wedding day, you’ll have will make suggestions for you and This is advantageous when hugging
more pictures taken than any other provide tips for long-lasting makeup and kissing on one's wedding day.
day in your life. Men have it easy, but with a flawless finish. Plus, some airbrush makeup can
women tend to pull out all the stops last up to 16 hours. Alcohol-based
when selecting makeup — often PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT options can be used to cover tattoos
hiring professional makeup artists It’s a great idea to schedule a trial or birthmarks. Touchups are minimal
to create a signature look. Hiring a makeup session about three months with airbrush makeup, and the
makeup artist ensures your photos in advance of your wedding — you formulations can be layered to cover
(and you) look like a million bucks. want no surprises on your wedding blemishes.
day! This is the time for the artist to
The first step is to find the right experiment with those makeup styles Airbrush makeup is compatible with
artist. Get recommendations from you’ve liked from the magazines. well-moisturized skin, but dry skin
friends whose style you like, whose Nix anything that isn’t comfortable may flake, crack and look flat. Brides
wedding photos you loved, then start and ask questions. If you like a look, shed tears of joy might find that
interviewing artists. Make sure your make sure your artist is taking notes, airbrush makeup will streak. Keep
vision is clearly communicated. choosing the right foundation, blush, in mind that because it requires
and an appropriate lip color be it a certain skillset and equipment,
PLAN AHEAD natural or bold, glossy or matte. airbrush makeup tends to be more
Summer brides may prefer up-dos to expensive than traditional makeup.
keep hair off of their necks and allow
for breezes to cool their bodies. Rely
on makeup primers and powdered
foundations so that makeup does YOU PORE OVER MAGAZINES AND SEE STYLES YOU
not melt in the heat. Above all, invest LOVE — BUT WILL THESE LOOKS WORK FOR YOU?
in waterproof cosmetics. Women in
the bridal party, including the bride,
can ask their makeup artists to use
durable, waterproof products. In Your makeup artist will know what THE FINISHING TOUCH
addition to ensuring perspiration makeup lasts from the walk down the Certainly a bride's makeup receives
won't cause makeup to run, this can aisle to the last dance of the evening. its fair share of attention. But another
help salvage beautifully composed part of the bride's ensemble will be
looks should some drops begin to fall.
AIRBRUSHING scrutinized — her hands. Guests will
A bride must also determine how Airbrush-applied makeup is an be anxious to see the wedding ring,
much time is needed for hair and option women may want to explore. and photos of the couple holding
makeup. Weddings with big bridal According to The Knot, airbrushing is hands are often included in the
parties will require more time than popular in movies, modeling and now wedding album. A bride's hands need
ceremonies with small parties. Brides among brides-to-be. When applied to look as polished as the rest of her
with big parties may need to book correctly by a professional, airbrush wedding day ensemble.
two or more hair and makeup artists makeup can have a number of perks.
so everyone can get done on time. Airbrush makeup is comprised of
Sessions can last several hours for a very thin liquid applied with the
large bridal parties, so brides should use of an air gun. This produces a
schedule their sessions early if their thin, even layer of foundation, often
wedding parties are big. creating a matte finish. Artists can
custom-blend shades to match
TRENDY STYLES customers' skin tones. And because
You pore over magazines and see the fine mist of airbrush makeup
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Hair Trends
As with fashion, hair trends change with the IG HAIR: This might be a
•B • HAIR BLING: Pins,
seasons. How your hair looks on your wedding regional (Southern) thing, but big barrettes, beads, pearls and
day is of primary importance. Is the wedding hair is back for weddings and it crystals are in. Wearing an
inside, outside, formal, casual? Is your vision to makes a bold statement. heirloom, flowers, a crown, a
be romantic, elegant, modern, vintage, boho, or headband — many brides are
carefree? One thing is definite — you want to look • SIDE STYLES: With or without a making a statement.
good both coming and going (front and back). part, many brides are going with
Your choice of style, what suits you, and what swept to the side styles held in • KNOTTED UPDO: Less
complements your bridal gown are very important. place with lovely pins, combs or traditional than a chignon,
After all, this is YOUR vision of your wedding day! barrettes. a top knot or a twist are
contemporary and stylish.
•R
OMANTIC BRAIDS: Feminine,
• THE PONYTAIL: As dresses stylish, up or down, braids come • SLEEK AND EDGY: Slicked
become more elaborate, you’ll find with a multitude of variations back, a sharp part, a side-
that hair is the exact opposite, and and work on all hair types. pony — these styles are
a sleek pony can be sophisticated perfect for the modern bride.
•F
LOWERS: Crowns, flowers
and beautifully simple. woven in your hair, an entirely • COLORFUL TRESSES:
• HALF & HALF: Air half up and Bohemian styling. Many brides are adopting
half down is always popular and dyed hair for a head-turning
•U
PDOS: If the dress is elaborate, look. If you plan to get your
attractive on many face shapes. a simple updo can complete
It can be simple or adorned with hair colored, professionals
the entire look. A bun, a twist, a recommend doing so about
pins and clips that add sparkle; it chignon — you cannot miss with
can be straight or curly. three weeks in advance of
this style. the big day so it looks natural
•L
OOSE: Perfectly undone is and any potential snafus can
totally in; can't go wrong with be remedied beforehand.
natural and effortless.
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Short Hairstyles
On a day when all eyes and cameras will be trained on
them, it's natural for brides and grooms tying the knot
to want to look their best. As a result, many couples
invest a portion of their budgets into spa and beauty
treatments, with many even hiring salon stylists to
ensure their wedding-day looks are flawless.
Women with short hair may lament that they do not
have many options when styling their hair for their
wedding days. Some may even consider growing out
their locks. However, plenty of creative styles exist
for ladies without long locks.
EXPERIMENT WITH COLOR

One way to "tress to impress" is to
experiment with some color. Well-placed
highlights, balayage treatments, ombre, or
peek-a-boo underlights can add an extra
spark to a bride's normal hairstyle. Speak
with a qualified stylist about what you plan
to achieve with a wedding-day look, so color
can be applied correctly.
RETRO GLAMOUR
Brides may want to harken back to an era
when glamour reigned supreme. Replicate
one of the short styles of the 1940s or
1950s, paying homage to Audrey Hepburn,
Marilyn Monroe, Lauren Bacall, or Judy
Garland.
BRAIDS AND PLAITS

Braids can add whimsy to shoulder-length or
shorter hair. In addition, braids can anchor
short locks when an up-do is desired. Braids
can be placed into the front or rear crown of
the head to look like a hair halo or crown.
USE EMBELLISHMENTS
If short hair cannot be gathered into a
braid or bun, you can opt for adorned pins,
barrettes or headbands to add a touch of
sparkle to the look. Ask a stylist to tease the
crown of your hair to achieve a little more
height and impact.
HALF-UP STYLE
Many women with short hair find that using
bobby pins to pin up select areas of their hair
can help achieve a partial up-do look without
the need for longer locks. Experienced
stylists will know how to manipulate hair
effectively to create this look. Small tendrils
of hair can be left free and curled for a less
structured, more natural effect.
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The Groom's Calendar
Though the groom's role is typically 6 MONTHS BEFORE 1 MONTH BEFORE
more relaxed than that of the bride, he's
got a lot on his plate as well! Here is a THE WEDDING THE WEDDING
timeline to help your groom take care of • Visit gift registry with fiancée. • Ensure all men have been
business in the months, weeks and days • Arrange for transportation for the measured for tuxedos.
leading up to your wedding. wedding party to ceremony and • Obtain your marriage license.
reception. •M ake appointments for
10-12 MONTHS BEFORE • Complete your honeymoon plans. personal grooming.
THE WEDDING • Pick your tuxedos and accessories.
• Pick out the engagement ring if you • Select your attendants including
2 WEEKS BEFORE
haven’t already done so. Best Man, Groomsmen, Junior THE WEDDING
•A nnounce your engagement. Groomsmen, Ring Bearer, Fathers, • Attend bachelor party.
Grandfathers, Ushers (one per 40 •A djust insurance policies,
•D iscuss wedding plans and budget guests), etc.
with fiancée and all parents. bank accounts, utilities, etc.
•S elect your best man, groomsmen,
ushers (one usher per 40 guests).
3 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEEK OF
THE WEDDING THE WEDDING
• Help plan the engagement party.
• Send size cards to any out-of-town • Pick up your tuxedo.
•D iscuss ceremony and reception members of the wedding party.
sites with your fiancée. Remember to try it on in the
• Complete the guest list. store to ensure a proper fit!
8-9 MONTHS BEFORE • Choose and order wedding rings. •P ack for the honeymoon.
THE WEDDING • Choose and order groomsmen gifts. •G et cash for gratuities and
officiant’s fee.
• Meet with officiant (minister, • Plan rehearsal dinner with parents.
priest, rabbi, etc.) to discuss the •E njoy your rehearsal and
• Choose gifts for your bride and
ceremony. dinner.
wedding party.
•S tart compiling your guest list. • Update passports for yourself
•B egin making your honeymoon and your bride in the event of a
WEDDING DAY
travel plans. honeymoon abroad. • Double-check all details:
wedding rings, transportation,
marriage license.
•G et to the ceremony on time.
•R elax and enjoy your big day!
THE DAY AFTER

THE WEDDING
• Return the tuxedos.
•D rop off the bride’s gown to
be cleaned and preserved.
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Renting a Tuxedo
Brides-to-be may invest thousands of dollars into Once bridesmaid dresses have PICK A CLASSIC STYLE
their wedding day ensembles. According to The been selected, the groomsmen No one wants to look
Knot, that the average wedding dress costs $1,469. can begin to shop around for outdated in their wedding
Grooms generally have a much easier and less tuxedos. This way ties and pictures! By choosing a classic
expensive experience with their wedding day attire. In vests will coordinate. Initial cut and color in a suit or
fact, grooms often rent their tuxedos for minimal cost. tux selection should begin tuxedo, guys will look stylish
between four and six months no matter the year. Fun can
Renting a wedding tuxedo has its advantages, namely before the wedding be had with vest colors or
in the cost savings. However, it's easy for a guy to bow ties.
fall into the trap of renting something that will not GET A PROPER FITTING
help him look his best if he isn't educated about It is vital to be fitted for a tux CONFIRM YOUR
the process. Looking sharp involves more than just or suit properly. Professionals ORDER IN ADVANCE
showing up to the shop and picking a tux off the rack. can handle the measurements, The entire wedding party
or men shopping elsewhere can visit the tuxedo shop for
can use a tailor of their selections and fittings. The
PICK A RETAILER WISELY choosing. Shoulders should be groom should call the store
Many stores sell or rent suits and close to the body in the jacket at least a month prior to
tuxedos. As is the case with many but not restrictive. Sleeves the wedding to ensure that
aspects of wedding planning, should fall so that they show everyone has been fitted.
getting a recommendation from a quarter- to a half-inch of Tuxes should be picked up
friends or family members can help shirt sleeves when arms are at a few days in advance of
grooms identify the shops that offer the sides. An ill-fitting suit or the wedding and tried on
exemplary service. When attending tuxedo can make a groom look to ensure that everything
others' weddings or special events, sloppy on his wedding day. It is fits and all accessories are
pay attention to the look of the groom key to pay attention to sizing included. This way last-minute
and his groomsmen. Find out where and use a shop that has a alterations or substitutions
they got their tuxes. Price alone variety of styles that fit various can be made.
should not dictate where to shop. body types.
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The Groom's Ring
Wedding bands shouldn’t be an afterthought. They are a sign of your partner’s promise
you will wear every day. Think of your groom’s lifestyle and interests when choosing his
ring. Whether you choose a traditional ring or edgy look, thinking about your groom’s
interest and lifestyle will help you choose a ring that’s both personal and perfect for him.
LET HIS STYLE DICTATE THE METAL

Different types of metals offer varying weight,
comfort, durability and personalization options.
• PLATINUM: This is one of the earth’s rarest
elements (30 times more rare than gold to be
exact). With its soft white hue, not only is it
extremely durable, it’s also hypoallergenic. Platinum
is scratch-resistant and never tarnishes.
• GOLD: Both classic and traditional, gold is often
the most popular choice for wedding bands.
Customizations are possible with karat type, weight
of the ring, and types of finishes. From rose to
yellow to white gold, a timeless look is guaranteed.
• ALTERNATIVE METALS: Because of their sleek
look and variety, alternative metals are quickly
becoming go-to metals for men’s wedding bands.
Titanium, the hardest natural metal in the world,
is both hypoallergenic and lightweight. It is also
available in various colors and finishes, allowing
for personalization. Tungsten is a new technology
metal. Incredibly popular, tungsten has a heavy feel;
however, it is important to remember that these
rings are not able to be resized and are difficult to
cut off the finger in emergency situations. Other
options include cobalt, stainless steel, ceramic,
wood, and even meteorite (yes, it is what you’re
thinking — a ring made from space rock!)
LET HIS HOBBIES DICTATE THE STYLING

What are your groom's interests and normal style
choices? Would he appreciate a classic look or some
fun personalization?
• Does he like to hunt or fish? How about a tungsten
camouflage ring or engraved antler ears?
• Does he enjoy dressing up? If he already sports
diamonds or gemstones in his watch or cuff links,
he could definitely pull off this polished look with
gemstones in his new band.
• Does he normally go for a more casual look? Try a
high polished titanium band with a genuine wood
inlay. Is he a mechanic? A zirconium band with a tire
tread imprint will make the ring personal. Tungsten
rings conduct heat and electricity, making them a
possible safety risk depending on his occupation.
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Dress Code
Wedding invitations do more than merely
announce that a celebration is on the horizon.
Invitations provide key information about the
ceremony and festivities to follow. Details
including the location, time and date of the
wedding are spelled out — however, invitations
can sometimes leave guests confused about the
appropriate style of attire for the occasion.
All eyes are on the bride and groom on their
wedding day, but your guests want to look their
best too. Here’s a list of options to help you
determine the dress code for your special day.
CASUAL ATTIRE
Everyday casual is different from
wedding casual. Jeans, shorts and tank
tops are unacceptable unless otherwise
noted. Guests should err on the side
of caution and go with business casual,
which includes chinos, slacks, a polo shirt
or button-down shirt for men. Women
can wear a sundress or slacks or a skirt
and an attractive blouse.
BEACH WEDDING it is safe to assume formal attire is attention to detail are key. Some
If the bride and groom are on the expected. Men can choose among invitations may reference "Black
beach saying their vows, both men and a dark suit and tie or a tuxedo. Tie Preferred" and, in this case,
women can go casual. Linen is a good; a Women can opt for a cocktail-length a black suit also can be worn.
sundress/maxi dress and sandals for her dress (knee or ¾) or a floor length
and linen or cotton pants and a dress frock, a classic suit or a long dress. WHITE TIE
shirt for him. If the invitation mentions Stick with tones that are gray, black The most formal of occasions
beach casual, shorts and even sandals or brown. You’re going for the total will request white tie attire. Ball
are likely acceptable. If it’s a resort look here, with an evening bag and gowns and tuxedos with tails
beach, step it up a few notches — think jewelry to complete the ensemble. are the norm, as are dramatic
casual cocktail hour. jewelry and hairstyles. White tie
BLACK TIE attire is akin to what celebrities
COCKTAIL/SEMI-FORMAL Black tie typically goes hand-in-hand wear to award shows. Think
Think party style, chic and fabulous, with an evening wedding. Black tie glamorous as it gets — rent or
a little black dress, a flirty frock at an is more rigid for male guests, who buy a fabulous gown, gloves and
appropriate length, and great shoes should wear a tuxedo, black bow tie, jewels.
or sandals with a heel. Don’t forget an cummerbund, and patent leather
evening bag, a fresh face, and jewelry; shoes. Women have a more leeway THE BOTTOM LINE
your guy should wear a suit and tie. with their attire at such gatherings. When attending a wedding, it is
A long evening gown might be always better to be overdressed
BLACK TIE OPTIONAL/FORMAL preferable. However, a chic cocktail than underdressed. Guests can
Formal attire is the default dress code dress also can be acceptable, and consult with fellow guests or
for the majority of weddings. When the darker, neutral colors are most the bride and groom if they are
invitation does not specify a dress code, appropriate. Heels, updos and unsure of the dress code.
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The Rehearsal Dinner
Rehearsal dinners are customarily held after couples and
their bridal parties walk through the wedding ceremony.
They tend to be less formal than wedding receptions, but
couples should still prioritize planning to ensure their
dinner goes off without a hitch.
REHEARSAL DINNER FAQ

WHO’S INVITED TO THE DINNER?
Four weeks before the wedding, send out the Photos courtesy of F A I R Y T A L E E V E N T S
rehearsal dinner invitations. The following
people are typically invited to the rehearsal
dinner: every member of the wedding party
(bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers and their
spouses or dates); flower girls and ring bearers TIPS AND TRICKS
(and their parents); the parents of the bride
and groom; grandparents, siblings and their DON’T FORGE THE TOASTS
spouses or dates; close family friends; the The groom’s father goes first (if he’s the
officiant, pastor, or special clergy; and out-of- host). He welcomes the guests. Next is the
town guests and relatives. best man. Then the floor is open to any who
WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER GUESTS? wish to toast the couple. Rehearsal dinners
Have those who are not invited to the also afford couples the chance to thank their
rehearsal dinner meet up with the group after closest friends and family for their love and
the dinner at the restaurant’s bar for a drink support. Plan to give a brief toast to loved ones
and some toasts to the couple. This is a nice at the dinner. Grooms may also want to use
way to include more people — they won’t even this opportunity to toast their brides, thanking
know the dinner occurred. Another idea is to them for all their efforts planning the wedding.
send an e-vite to everyone saying the bride GIVE OUT YOUR GIFTS
and groom will be at a certain bar, restaurant, The rehearsal dinner is the perfect time to
hotel, or house from 8 to 10. give presents to bridesmaids and groomsmen.
WHERE IS THE DINNER HELD? As you distribute them, make note of a
Make it personal, perhaps a favorite restaurant special moment the person has brought to
(with a private room for your party) or maybe your life. Thank/gift any other special people
something casual like a brewery with a have a (grandparents, etc.) and let them know how
beer tasting. The dinner could be catered and much their support has meant to you both.
held under a large tent in a nice backyard – a PERSONALIZE THE EVENT
family friend’s, or at the family home. Rehearsal dinners are the perfect time for
WHO FOOTS THE BILL? heartfelt entertainment. Tech-savvy parents
Tradition once suggested that the groom's or wedding party members may put together a
parents pay for the rehearsal dinner while the presentation with videos or photos chronicling
bride's parents foot the bill for the wedding. the couple's lives separately and together.
If couples are financing their own weddings, THINK AHEAD!
parents of both the bride and groom may If you are hosting the dinner at a restaurant,
want to pay for the rehearsal dinner. If parents booking a reservation should be near the
are splitting the cost of the wedding, then top of your priority list. It's not easy to find
couples themselves may want to pay for the restaurants that can accommodate large
rehearsal dinner. Confirm who is paying and if parties or cater to the unique diets of your
there is a budget to work with before booking guests. Reserve your spot 3-6 months in
a restaurant. This way there is no confusion advance. If you are getting married during a
once the bill is brought to the table. popular month to tie the knot, such as June or
October, try to make the reservation earlier.
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Rehearsal Dinner Guest List
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4. 24.
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6. 26.
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10. 30.
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The Final Flings
When planning a bachelor or bachelorette party,
there is only one thing on the agenda: lots of fun!
From a night on the town to a weekend getaway,
bachelor and bachelorette parties have long been
a traditional component of wedding festivities.
Meant to serve as a last good-bye to single life,
the bachelor and bachelorette parties should be
tailored to the tastes of the honoree. No longer just
a night of heavy drinking and wild strip clubs (unless
that’s your thing), bachelor and bachelorette parties
can be anything you want them to be.
BETTER TOGETHER?
Couples are increasingly bucking long-established
trends to make weddings uniquely their own.
One of today's
more popular
tradition-
busting trends
is couples
choosing to
forego separate
bachelor and
bachelorette parties
in favor of a joint bash.
Couples will celebrate with each other and all of
game night where the boys gather around the
their wedding party and friends. This could be a
poker table to test their skills card games. With
laid-back barbecue, an overnight stay at a nearby
some free-flowing beverages and snacks galore,
destination, or even a cruise or vacation. Couples
games can get pretty animated.
who choose a combined bachelor and bachelorette
party may have a lot of shared friends, or just prefer
spending the time together rather than on separate AFFORDABILITY
experiences. Taking into account gifts, wardrobes, makeup,
bridal showers, and travel, including getting
SUNSHINE AND RELAXATION to and from the bachelor/bachelorette party,
Not everyone is a night owl, and some future brides bridal party members are on the hook for a lot
and grooms opt for bachelor and bachelorette of money when their friends or family members
parties that take place during the sunlight hours. tie the knot. Many men and women like to travel
Daytime bachelor and bachelorette parties offer for their bachelor/bachelorette parties, and
lots of time for the bride and groom to enjoy cost-conscious bridal party members may be
experiences with their wedding party or friends. concerned about how expensive such parties
can be. Pulling out all the stops can be exciting,
Spa days are a very popular choice for many but there's no guarantee these types of parties
brides, and offer the chance to take a break from will be more enjoyable than simpler soirées.
the hectic wedding planning and spend downtime
with friends. Some may prefer to get in touch with Taking steps to control costs can help cost-
nature by enjoying a camping trip, complete with conscious couples and their friends. The
a campfire and a few brews. Spending time in the following are some affordable ideas that can be
wilderness can restore focus and let stress melt fun for all involved.
away.
•B
AR OR WINERY CRAWL: Partygoers
Grooms might choose a day of golf, beer-tasting, typically want to enjoy a night out on the
or bike touring. They could also opt for a poker or town, and traveling from one establishment
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to another can be a fun way to do •D
INNER PARTY: Hire a
just that. Everyone invited can set professional chef to visit
themselves apart with a signature your house and prepare
item (hat, T-shirt, or colored a meal for guests. Serve a
clothing), and make the rounds. signature cocktail and let the
conversation flow.
• BELT OUT THE TUNES: Open
mic nights at restaurants, bars •A
TTEND A GROUP EVENT:
and other establishments around Group events include
town may make for a fun way sporting events, concerts,
for friends to share a few laughs theater shows, or a night at a
together. Participants need not comedy club. For the extra-
be professional singers to join in frugal, investigate discounted
on the festivities. tickets for large groups.
Floral Trends
One of the most important components of a wedding is the valley was the flower chosen from Pinterest. This can be
flower arrangements. Bouquets, centerpieces, nosegays, by Duchess of Cambridge costly — but it can be done.
arches and other styled floral décor help to pull the wedding Kate Middleton for her 2011 Be prepared to pay for the
theme together. To help bring your vision to life, consider the wedding to Prince William. magnificent creations you
following floral trends when meeting with your florist. find on Pinterest, and don't
WEARABLE FLORAL be afraid to ask your florist
FLOWER-HEAVY BLUSH & BERRY ACCESSORIES for similar options that don’t
KING’S TABLE TONES Many modern brides opt for break the bank!
Multiple floral designs Rather than a simple pastel delicate floral headpieces
per table are in—way pink palette, modern florals and subtle vines woven into LOOSE FLOWERS
in, especially given the often incorporate soft peachy wedding day hair styles. Loose flowers in a vase are
increased popularity of pink hues paired with soft Ask your florist to weave easier to sort and transport
extra-long King’s tables. sunset orange, coral, warm small flower buds, berries home for guests who
The trend away from round sherbet hues and even rust and vines to a headband, want a memento. Make
tables means re-configuring colors. Blush tones can be wreath or piece of twine so precut butcher's paper or
not only the shape of the paired with deeper, moodier you can wear these flowers cellophane available to make
centerpieces, but also the colors like berry-toned the way they were worn by bouquets.
spacing and quantity on blooms, darker foliage and ancient Greeks and Romans.
these long tables. To provide earthy merlot-browns. Flower wearables definitely ELEVATED BOUQUETS
visual interest, larger, longer turn heads and are also Almost every bouquet is
centerpieces — typically RIBBON ACCENTS incorporated into jewelry hand-tied — flowers are
elegant, slightly raised We’ll continue to find lots such as necklaces, rings and gathered together and the
compotes interspersed of long, fluttery ribbons floral bangle bracelets in lieu stems are wrapped in a
with short vases with a few flowing from bridal bouquets, of traditional wrist corsages. wide satin ribbon. Consider
flowers or even single stems. especially multiple layers in incorporating something to
complementary colors. Look EDIBLE FLOWERS elevate your bouquet like
WATERCOLOR THEME for ultra-luxurious natural Some brides choose to a family brooch, jeweled
Soft lines and blending define plant-dyed silks alongside extend their floral theme into pins, pearls, rhinestones or
this theme. You'll find brides other subtle finishing touches mealtime. Ask the caterer to natural elements such as
using hand-painted votive on hand-held bouquets. make meals flower-friendly shells and starfish. According
holders. This whole theme is by including some edible to superstition, bells chime
based around a handcrafted SYMBOLIC FLOWERS blooms in the salad or as a at Irish weddings to keep
look. DIY brides aren't going According to TheKnot.com, garnish on meals. evil spirits away and ensure
away and this is a favorite for a multiplatform resource a harmonious family life;
their weddings. The primary for all things nuptial, roses PINTEREST thus some brides also will
colors of choice in this theme have long been considered Many florists welcome tuck small bells into their
are blues, purples, and pinks, a symbol of beauty and love. brides who bring in ideas bouquets.
but couples can experiment Writers and poets alike
with any color combo. have long relied on roses
as metaphors for emotion,
VINTAGE VIBE beauty and true love. Lily of
Brides seeking an elevated the valley is another popular
rustic look for their florals flower that's more than just
are able to achieve it with a natural beauty. Though
eye-catching vases, including lily of the valley is one of
mercury glass and antique the more expensive flowers
mismatched vessels, paired couples can choose for their
with rich textiles. Old- weddings, some legends
fashioned flowers such as link the flower to happiness,
carnations, mums, zinnias while followers of England's
and chrysanthemums are royal family no doubt
also back in style. remember that lily of the
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Modern & Rustic Bouquets
Looking for some inspiration? Terrified of
being a bland bride? Incorporate one of
these two twists on the traditional bouquet
MODERN BOUQUETS
and you'll be sure to turn heads.
The bouquet toss is a wedding tradition that
may benefit from a little personalization. In a
2015 Jezebel poll of about 4,500 readers, 19
RUSTIC BOUQUETS percent supported having a bouquet toss, but
81 percent were against it, suggesting that
this tradition is ready for some updating.
Coordinating a rustic wedding means
letting go of how everything from food to The bouquet toss traces its origins to Olde
favors to flowers "should be." In fact, one English times. In those days, women used
way to describe rustic weddings, and the to try to rip pieces of the bride's dress and
floral arrangements that adorn them, is flowers in order to obtain some of her good
"purposely imperfect." luck. To escape from the crowd, the bride
would toss her bouquet and run away. The
Today’s brides want bouquets with bulk.
bouquet is tossed to single women with
But rather than tightly bunched balls,
the idea that whoever catches it will be the
today's bouquets take a freshly gathered
next to marry. Today, however, some single
from the garden look, offering visually
women are no longer interested in finding
interesting lines defined by arching
matches at a wedding and view the bouquet
branches, and unusual vines and foliage
toss as an archaic tradition. Others dislike
that cascade down the side.
the expectation that they stand on the dance
Rustic wedding bouquets may seem like floor with the hopes of finding a spouse.
they were plucked right out of the garden
For couples who want to embrace the
or grabbed during a stroll in a meadow.
traditional bouquet toss while giving it a
Rarely are they symmetrical or comprised more modern twist, consider the following
of customary formal flowers. When crafting suggestions.
rustic bouquets, florists keep the stems of
wildflowers untethered for a relaxed feel. •G
IRLS-ONLY DANCE: Invite all the women
Long stemmed arrangements are quite out on the floor — not just the single ones
popular, and trends point toward bouquets — and play a female-centric empowerment
loosely tied with raffia, twine, vines and song or one that mentions ladies having
other natural materials rather than ribbon. a good time. This puts the emphasis on
having fun rather than finding a spouse.
Another way rustic bouquets set
themselves apart is with the introduction •G
IVE A PRIZE FOR THE CATCHER: To
of other elements. The rose continues to encourage people to participate, explain
be the most popular flower — but add lilies, that the bouquet- and garter-toss winners
peonies, hydrangeas, tulips, and orchids get prizes - and that the prize has nothing
and your bouquet becomes a trendy, loose, to with finding a partner. Keep the bouquet
casual bouquet. Not merely blooms and for yourself and reward the catcher with a
greenery, rustic pieces may feature twigs, gift card or other fun prize.
vines, berries, scabiosa pods, ivy and ferns.
The heights of elements in the bouquet are •A
NNIVERSARY COUNTDOWN: Invite all
also varied to create an asymmetrical look. of the married couples to the dance floor.
The DJ or band can play a beautiful love
A woodland wedding might also feature song and count up the years as the song
ferns, vines, moss and other unexpected plays. As each year is mentioned, couples
flora and fauna. Couples who are attracted leave the dance floor after their most
to rustic weddings should consider using recent anniversary has passed. The last
these touches throughout their wedding – couple on the dance floor marks the couple
think floral crowns, ferns and other earthy who has been married the longest. That
touches. couple gets to take home the bouquet.
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Floral Savings
One of the hurdles couples face when planning their big day Potted plants can serve as feathers, wheatgrass,
is ordering floral arrangements. The right floral arrangements both favors and reception herbs, succulents, vines,
won't break the bank but will add substantial aesthetic appeal centerpieces. Live plants branches and leaves in lieu
to ceremonies and receptions. It can be difficult for couples also can be an eco-conscious of traditional florals.
to achieve that balance of cost and look on their own, so the decision for couples who are
following are a few helpful hints for couples when choosing interested in incorporating
their wedding day floral arrangements. "green" elements into their
REPURPOSE
weddings. ARRANGEMENTS
Another way to save on
PICK THE RIGHT FLORIST Couples tying the knot floral arrangements is
Work with a florist you trust and like. All florists in the autumn can place to repurpose flowers
are not the same, so finding one you can trust mums inside of a hollowed throughout the day. Once
and will enjoy working with can make all the pumpkin or gourd. Spring bridesmaids no longer
difference. Florists with significant wedding and summer weddings need their bouquets, use
experience will no doubt make a host of can be enhanced by them to decorate gift tables
recommendations based on couples' budgets and miniature rose bushes. or cocktail areas. Floral
preferences. Ask relatives, friends or coworkers if Winter weddings may arrangements on display
they can recommend any florists whose wedding be dressed up with small during the ceremony can
work they are familiar with. evergreen trees or potted be removed once you have
holly. Cost-conscious both said "I do" and moved
KEEP FLOWERS FRESH brides can also incorporate into the reception area
Although advice varies on how to keep cut
flowers fresh the longest, veteran florists suggest
keeping vase water clean. ProFlowers advises
keeping cut blooms in a cool room away from
direct sunlight and heat.
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NATIVE FLOWERS
Couples working with tight budgets may want to RENTAL ITEMS AVAILABLE
choose in-season flowers or those native to the
area where they will be tying the knot. In-season Glassware • Candleabras
and native flowers won't need to be ordered
or shipped in from afar, which can be costly. Votives • Mercury Glass
In-season and native flowers tend to be more
abundant — and the greater their availability the
less couples are likely to pay for them.
USE POTTED PLANTS

Wedding planners know that flowers cost a great
deal of money, especially flowers that are not
native to the region where couples are getting Schedule a
married. The process of making arrangements consultation
can be time-consuming. Also, many flowers no
longer produce strong scents because they're to plan your
bred for longer stems and a lengthy vase life. perfect day
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where they can be enjoyed through can help couples enjoy their flower •C
HRYSANTHEMUMS: Referred to
the night. Go over any repurposing arrangements and bouquets longer. as "mums," these midsummer to late-
you plan to do with your reception hall fall flowers can last between three
manager prior to your wedding day so • PEONIES: Peonies can last for about and four weeks after being cut. Mums
he knows where and when to move the a week or two when brought indoors. can be used to fill out floral displays
arrangements. HGTV says to snip the stems when because they tend to be inexpensive
the buds are tight, wrap them in but durable flowers.
newspaper and store them in the
BIG BLOOMERS refrigerator until you're ready to •R
ANUNCULUS: Ranunculus mimic
Some flowers simply bloom larger than arrange. the look of roses and display layer
others, and choosing such flowers may after layer of silky, crepe-like petals.
help you save money since you won't • ZINNIAS: These bright blooms can These blooms can last a week or more
need to buy as many flowers as you last for three to four weeks and are in vases if they're put in water right
would if you were to go with smaller best harvested in summer. Related to after being cut.
blooms. Once you find a florist to work the sunflower, zinnias are available in
with, discuss your options with regard a wide range of colors. •C
ARNATIONS: Another budget-
to doing more with less. Many florists friendly flower, carnations are
embrace the challenge to be creative • LILIES: Lilies are traditional flowers popular from early spring until late
within a budget, so you might just be that are beautiful to behold. Lilies are summer. Available in many hues, they
surprised and impressed by what they available in various sizes and colors can be used in conjunction with other
come up with. and can be bought fresh year-round. blooms to create well-rounded floral
Lilies often last longer than a week displays that may last between two
after being cut. Look for lilies with and three weeks.
LONG-LASTING BLOOMS tight buds, as such flowers tend to last
Flowers may look beautiful in gardens the longest. •G
LADIOLI: The lovely flowers of the
and even when snipped and brought vertical-growing gladiolus, which is
inside to brighten up a mantel or dining • CONEFLOWER: The purple sometimes referred to as the "sword
table. Unfortunately, cut flowers have a coneflower variety is popular, but lily," are available in yellow, peach,
finite shelf life. While cut blooms can't coneflowers are available in many pink, white, and other hues. These
live forever, certain varieties will outlast colors aside from purple. Coneflowers bulb-based plants can last up to two
others. Choosing flowers wisely for attract butterflies and are beautiful in weeks after being cut and add variety
wedding centerpieces or keepsakes cut displays. and texture to floral displays.
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Wedding Photography
Photography is a great way for couples to capture all the special
moments that occur on their wedding days. Long after the final
piece of wedding cake has been consumed, wedding albums
remain to remind couples of all those moments that made their
big day so special. Follow these photography tips and tricks to
make your wedding day photos a success.
CHOOSE A RELIABLE
PHOTOGRAPHER
• Book a professional photographer early.
• Check references, portfolios and prices.
• Expect to spend 10-15 percent of your total
wedding budget on photography.
• Find a photographer who meshes best with
your personalities and vision for the wedding.
• Discuss your photography goals, whether you
want a record of the day, traditional poses or
artistic concepts.
CRAFT A PHOTO SCHEDULE

Allow time for your photographer to capture magic •P rioritize what is most important to you
moments forever. Allot plenty of time to take your on your wedding day shot list.
photographs; below is a sample timeline. • Keep a clean space in the get-ready areas
• 5 minutes: Getting ready, detail photos for photography.
• 30 minutes: Bride and groom getting dressed, •H ave all the wedding details assembled
final touches and ready for photography: shoes, the
• 1 hour: First look, bride and groom portraits dress, special jewelry, garter, gifts to your
wedding party, mementos, the invitation.
• 30 minutes: Wedding Party photos
•B uild as much as two hours of time into
• 30 minutes: Family portraits
the wedding schedule for portraits and
group shots. If doing photography before
IMPROVE THE ODDS OF the ceremony, brides will need to be on-
GETTING GOOD PHOTOGRAPHS site or ready approximately three hours
before the ceremony.
• Provide the photographer with a wedding
schedule and shot list. •B ring along some powder or makeup to
touch up between photos. A light dusting
• Designate an outgoing photography helper. of powder can tame shine, while any
Enlist a boisterous friend or family member remaining moisture can be blotted away
to wrangle guests for photo opportunities. He with a towel.
or she can be the photographer's helper and
give the happy couple one less thing to do.
• Couples using professional photographers LIGHTING AND LOCATION
should share their image preferences with • Lighting is crucial for great photography.
their photographers, especially if outdoor Most photographers prefer natural
photography is desired. Photographers may light when at all possible. When booking
have to do a little more work to achieve great venues, consider the natural light
outdoor photographs, even visiting a site in available for the ceremony and rooms
advance of the big day to scout backdrops. designated for getting ready.
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PHOTO CHECKLIST
BRIDE
B ride close-up & full-length
B ride with groom
B ride with mother
B ride with father
B ride with parents
B ride with brothers/sisters
B ride with groom’s parents
B ride with grandparents
and other relatives
B ride and groom hands
GROOM
G room close-up & full-length
G room with mother
 Groom with father
G room with parents
G room with brothers/sisters
 Groom with bride’s parents
G room with grandparents
and other relatives
PRE-CEREMONY
B ride arriving at church
B ride getting ready
M other assisting bride
B ride and attendants
B ride and father
G room getting ready
G room with best man
WEDDING PARTY
• Time of day matters for the best • The bride will look her best ride with bridesmaids
B
natural light, a consideration when she is fresh and hair and ride with maid of honor
B
for working photography into makeup are also fresh. room with groomsmen
G
the wedding schedule. Noon room with best man
G
day brightness can cause harsh
•T he relatives and bridal party ntire wedding party
E
shadows, so a shaded area is best.
will be contained and easily lower girl and ring bearer
F
The ideal hour for photography is
rounded up for the photos. ride and groom with
B
•E veryone will be free to go flower girl and ring bearer
the hour or so before sunset.
directly to the reception and CANDIDS
• Not every family member will be
able to join the happy couple for
begin celebrating. F ront of church
standing photos. Elderly relatives G uests arriving
FIRST LOOK SESSION A ttendants walking aisle
or those who have mobility issues B ride’s mom walking aisle
may find it difficult to or make their A “first look” session is when the bride G room’s mom walking aisle
way around. Arrange for indoor and groom meet for a few minutes F ather giving away the bride
seated photos with elderly guests. before the ceremony for some W edding party at the altar
• When weather permits, many alone time (with the photographer.) E xchange of vows
brides and grooms prefer to take Photographers love this opportunity T he kiss
photos outdoors. Mother Nature for candid, emotional moments. For
L ighting the unity candle
B ride & groom recessing
can provide some awe-inspiring
backdrops, and such beauty comes
the couple, it provides a measure of B ride & groom leaving church
privacy to share this special occasion
at no extra cost. The most stunning and connect before the ceremony. RECEPTION
wedding pictures often have B ride and groom arriving at the
gorgeous natural backdrops. First look can be a short session, but wedding reception
if the schedule allows, this is also W edding cake and buffet tables
a window for getting the wedding B ride and groom’s first dance
PRE-CEREMONY PHOTOS portraits posed and directed by the B ride dancing with father
Another way to improve your prospects photographer. Allow up to an hour. G room dancing with mother
of great wedding photos is to take Alternatively, wedding portraits of B oth sets of parents dancing
the couple can be taken after the
C utting the cake
the majority of the photos before the B ride and groom’s toast
ceremony. Though some brides want ceremony when the pressure is B est man’s toast
to save the “wow” moment for the off, but the session will need to be T ossing the garter
aisle, there are numerous reasons pre- abbreviated if guests are waiting at T ossing the bouquet
ceremony pictures work best. the reception. Allow 20-30 minutes. C ouple exiting reception
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Wedding Party Roles
Roles can vary, but most couples want their BEST MAN sister or a niece or nephew. The
bridesmaids and groomsmen to perform The best man is the maid of honor's responsibilities of the flower girl
traditional tasks associated with their counterpart, helping to plan the and ring bearer are typically limited
roles. The following are some of the tasks bachelor party and toasting the groom to the ceremony, during which they
bridesmaids and groomsmen can expect at the reception. The best man also will walk down the aisle, either
to perform in the months leading up to the tends to hold the rings during the together or individually, before
wedding and during the ceremony itself. wedding ceremony, and during the day the father of the bride escorts his
of the wedding, he will coordinate the daughter to the altar or stage.
MAID OF HONOR groomsmen to make sure everyone
The maid of honor serves as the is ready to go on time. The best man FATHER OF THE BRIDE
bride-to-be's right-hand. Maids of may arrange transportation for the The father of the bride walks his
honor typically go gown shopping groom and groomsmen on the day of daughter down the aisle during the
with the bride and may offer the wedding and may also return the ceremony, and, along with his wife,
suggestions about the color and style groom and groomsmen's attire the may pay for the wedding, though
of the bridesmaids' dresses. The following day if the newlyweds are many couples now finance their
maid of honor will then make sure departing on their honeymoons. own nuptials. The father of the
everyone is fitted on time. bride will dance with his daughter
A maid of honor will also plan the
BRIDESMAIDS/GROOMSMEN during the reception, and some
Members of the brides wedding fathers may even share a special
bridal shower, sending invitations toast for the newlyweds during the
party. Usually close friends or family
and arranging for lodging for out- reception, though such a toast is
members. The bridesmaids and
of-town guests. Many brides want not traditionally required.
groomsmen serve similar functions,
the details of their showers to be a
acting as sources of support as couples
surprise, and maids of honor should OFFICIANT
plan their weddings. Bridesmaids
honor that when possible. A maid of A marriage officiant is a civil officer
and groomsmen help to plan the
honor also plans the bachelorette who performs acts of marriage
bachelorette and bachelor parties
party, though many brides do not by witnessing the consent of the
and may also be asked their opinions
mind being involved in the planning intended spouses and to ensure
as couples make decisions regarding
of such parties. The maid of honor the legal validity of the marriage.
their weddings. Bridesmaids and
may be asked to help address save-
groomsmen must be prepared to take
the-date cards and envelopes as well.
pictures once couples have officially USHERS
On the wedding day, the maid of tied the knot. They also must help Ushers seat guests, distribute
honor will ensure the bride is as the brides and grooms with issues programs at the ceremony, and
stress-free as possible, helping to that arise in the hours before couples escort the groom’s parents and
address any last-minute issues. become husband and wife. bride’s mother to the front row.
Maids of honor may be asked to
serve as the legal witness to the FLOWER GIRL & RING BEARER GUESTBOOK ATTENDANT
wedding and sign the license before Flower girls and ring bearers are The guest book attendant looks
the reception. At the reception, the often young relatives of the couple, after the guest book and accepts
maid of honor will toast the bride. whether they are a young brother or gifts on behalf of the couple.
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Choosing a Venue
One of the first decisions a newly some wiggle room if the guest list grows beaches, forests – anything is fair
engaged couple needs to make is or dwindles during the planning process. game. Before you make the decision
deciding where to hold the ceremony. Guest comfort can be compromised to marry in a church or outside of one,
No longer exclusive to houses of if everyone is packed into a reception consider your own beliefs, as well
worship and courtrooms, modern room that is much too small. Everyone as the ideals and traditions of your
weddings happen in many different should be able to sit and move around families. A church has the benefit
places in many different ways. freely. This notion also applies to the of being set up for weddings, with
dance floor. Be certain guests can dance seating provided, officiant at the ready,
The Real Weddings Study found that comfortably and have a good time. and appropriate facilities for guests.
couples spent an average of $16,107 However, the music and rituals of the
on their wedding venues in 2016. That VENUE AVAILABILITY ceremony may be restricted based on
figure easily dwarfs the next biggest Some couples might have an ideal time the church’s guidelines. Alternatively,
expense ($6,163 for the engagement of year they hope to get married - some a non-religious venue will be more
ring) for couples tying the knot. Because even know the exact date. While that flexible and allow you to have any
the wedding venue comes with such a can help with the planning, it can also kind of wedding you choose, but may
potentially high sticker price, couples limit couples with regard to their venue require more work to make it guest-
should give ample consideration to a options. Some venues may be booked friendly, and you will have to obtain an
host of factors before choosing where for as much as a year or more in advance officiant to perform the ceremony.
to get married. during peak wedding season. The Real
Weddings Study found that the most VENUE CONSIDERATIONS
SIZE MATTERS popular months to get married in 2016 • How many people can be
Until they can agree on a guest list, were October and September. Those accommodated?
couples might want to delay even who can be more flexible regarding their • I s there nearby parking or will a
looking for venues. However, some wedding dates may find it easier to book shuttle be required?
couples might want to first look at their dream venues. • I s the officiant a separate fee?
some venues so they can determine •C an I have any music/readings/
just how many guests they can afford RELIGIOUS OR SECULAR? rituals I want?
to invite. Whether they're hosting small Many couples still opt to get married •A re paths easily accessible for
affairs or large parties, couples should in the traditional setting of a church those with mobility issues?
choose venues that can comfortably or other religious house. However, •A re restrooms located close
accommodate all of their guests. If more and more, brides and grooms enough to seating areas so elderly
possible, look for venues with multiple are choosing non-traditional locations. guests won't have to walk far to
reception areas, which might allow for Wineries, restaurants, warehouses, use the bathroom?
•A m I required to use a designated
florist and other vendors?
A WEDDING IN PARADISE
Does the idea of getting married on
vacation appeal to you? You aren’t
alone. Destination weddings are more
popular than ever. Whether a tropical
beach or lush winery is your idea of
romance, most resorts and venues
offer wedding services at a set price. In
the case of a remote locale, a wedding
planner on-site is an absolute must,
as you will need someone familiar
with the venue and businesses who
contract with it. Make a plan to visit
your wedding location at least once in
advance of the wedding to make plans
and troubleshoot problems before the
big day.
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Personalize Your Ceremony
The wedding ceremony is the
culmination of all your planning, and
the reason for the party afterwards.
It’s the focal point of the event
and the beginning of your new life
as a married couple. Because the
ceremony is so important, it makes
sense to put some thought into how
to make it as meaningful and unique
as possible.
Steeped in tradition, weddings
have featured many of the same
components for centuries. In the
past, most couples have followed
the traditional route and chosen
music and scripture readings that
were suggested by their officiants.
Today, brides and grooms are more
passionate about tailoring each Couples who wish to honor their PRINTED MATERIALS
aspect of the wedding to their parents, grandparents and other A wedding is the culmination of a love
personal taste. Those about to tie the family members can do so using story, so don’t be shy about telling
knot may feel limited in their ability keepsakes. Including lace from your yours. Use your program to add a
to shape their weddings into unique mother’s dress in your bouquet personal note or tell a story. Even
celebrations of their relationships or have your groom wear your the décor and flowers can contain
and love for one another. Though it grandfather’s cufflinks. You can also elements of design that make the
may not seem like there are many make your family’s presence known wedding more personal. For instance,
opportunities to put your own stamp by displaying photos of previous wine connoisseurs might incorporate
on the wedding, there are plenty of weddings as part of your décor. corks or empty bottles in their décor;
ways to do just that. travel-lovers might include the names
MUSICAL INTERLUDES of past destinations or even airplane
WEDDING VOWS Choose music that connects with ticket stubs.
Vows are one of the easiest ways your personalities as a couple rather
to put a personal touch on your than selecting standard songs SOMETHING OLD, NEW,
wedding. You can select the words merely because they are the easier BORROWED AND BLUE
you want to exchange during the route. Work with the organist or This good luck saying dates back
ceremony as well as any readings other musicians and request that to Victorian times. Something old
during the service. Work with your they perform or play musical pieces represents the bride’s link with
officiant to narrow down particular that you enjoy. Walk down the aisle her family and past and is often
phrasing or sentiments that fit with to the first song you danced to, or expressed with the wearing of an
your vision of the wedding and have a friend sing the piece that heirloom. Something new could be
relationship. was performed at your parents’ anything representing the hope for
wedding. Hire live musicians or feel success in her future. Something
PARTICIPANTS free to play recorded popular music. borrowed reminds the bride to rely
Wedding party members fulfill Anything that is meaningful to you on others, her family and friends
certain roles during the ceremony, will be the perfect choice. that surround her. The borrowed
but they are not limited to those tasks object could be a handkerchief or
alone. Consider asking wedding party READINGS her grandmother’s rosary to put
members or other friends or family Similarly, don’t feel constrained by around the bouquet. Something blue
members to take on specialized roles the traditional scripture readings. represents faithfulness and loyalty.
in the wedding. They may be able to If there is a poem, quote or passage The bride could wear a blue garter,
do certain readings, escort guests to from a book that speaks to you, paint her nails blue, wear blue heels
their seats, light candles, or sing and opt to have that read during a key to walk down the aisle or incorporate
participate in other ways. moment in the ceremony. blue jewelry into her wedding look.
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Unity Ceremonies
At their core, weddings celebrate the joining • TREE PLANTING: Planting a
together of two hearts, families and homes. tree or shrub that can grow with
Likewise, unity ceremonies represent the the marriage is a green idea and
magic of two individuals coming together as one that takes unity rituals to a
one. Unity rituals may be built into traditional, different level. Couples can place
non-traditional, religious and secular wedding the sapling in a decorative pot
ceremonies as a normal part of the couple's and then take turns watering it.
traditions and festivities. Later the tree can be planted
outside the couple's first home.
Couples seeking creative options for unity
rituals to incorporate in their wedding can YING THE KNOT: The phrase
•T
explore the following unity ceremony trends. "tying the knot" is synonymous
with getting married. In some
cultures, getting married actually
• CANDLE LIGHTING: The requires tying a knot. The custom
lighting of a unity candle is one is an ancient Babylonian tradition
of the more recognizable and in which threads from the clothes
traditional unity rituals. During of the bride and groom were
this ritual, the bride and the tied together to represent the
groom each light an individual couple's union. Other cultures
candle and then together light a have embraced this tradition, and
larger candle, which celebrates couples tie ceremonial knots on
them coming together as one. their wedding day.
• SAND POURING: The pouring •L
ASSO CEREMONY: This ritual
of sand into a vessel also is a is traditional in many Spanish-
popular unity ritual. In this ritual, and Filipino-speaking countries.
couples choose two sands of After vows are exchanged, the
different colors and then pour officiant wraps a floral garland or
their respective colors into a rosary around the couple. At the
vessel, allowing the different end of the wedding ceremony,
hues to mix together. This ritual the garland is saved as a symbol
can be expanded to include other of unity and love.
family members, with a rainbow
of colors for the joining multiple •H
ANDFASTING: This ritual
individuals; sand pouring lends comes from an ancient Celtic
itself particularly well to blended tradition that bounds the bride
families. and groom's right hands together
during the wedding ceremony.
•U
NITY CROSS: Christians Handfasting symbolizes couples'
may enjoy a unity cross ritual at commitments to one another.
their ceremony. A unity cross
is a decorative cross with a •F
LOWER CEREMONY: In
holder, and the cross is held this ritual, couples exchange a
in place by three pins, flower then place them in a vase
which symbolize the or basket. Family members are
Father, Son and invited to place a single flower
the Holy Spirit. into the vessel, which ultimately
During this ritual, results in a beautiful display.
the bride, groom
and their pastor or •M
AKE YOUR OWN: Feel free
priest will each set a to create your own unique unity
pin in place. ceremony. The blending of any
two materials, such as wine, glass
beads or paint will convey the
symbolism of joining as one.
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Religious Ceremonies
Weddings can be as unique and varied HINDU WEDDING JEWISH WEDDING

as the couples tying the knot. Quite
often couples like to include certain CELEBRATIONS CELEBRATIONS
twists on the ceremony and celebration A Hindu wedding celebration The world's Jewish population is
to personalize their big days. But just as is an elaborate affair that divided among distinct denominations
there are surprises at weddings, there includes extended family and and classifications. Although there
also are many traditions that will be community members. The may be subtle differences in wedding
adhered to during ceremonies. wedding ceremony is called ceremonies between the sects,
vivaah sanskar and can be a very Jewish wedding traditions tend to
colorful celebration that lasts be consistent across the groups.
CHRISTIAN WEDDING for days. The couple and guests Conservative and Orthodox Jews may
CELEBRATIONS will be wearing traditional dress. not hold weddings on the Sabbath or
Christian celebrations are similar The bride usually wears body other holidays. Couples will sign the
among the various denominations. art produced with a mixture of Ketuba, which is a marriage document
Such ceremonies typically involve a henna and turmeric. affirming their connection to each
processional, though the groom is other and to God.
typically not included, instead standing Hindu rituals may vary widely,
at the altar. Christians typically hear but some key things are shared. The wedding ceremony starts with
various scripture readings, and the According to the "Encyclopedia grandparents seated first, followed
officiant will explain the significance of of Hinduism," many will include by a procession of the rabbi, cantor
marriage in this faith. Many Catholic the Kanyadaan, or giving away and groomsmen. The groom and bride
weddings feature a full Mass during of the daughter by her father; will be escorted by their parents.
wedding ceremonies, and this Mass Panigrahana, or holding one's The wedding party gathers beneath
includes the transubstantiation of the hands by a fire to signify the the chuppah, a canopy that signifies
Holy Eucharist. union; and Saptapadi, which is a house and represents the couple's
taking seven steps and making future together. A solid gold ring is
After vows and rings are exchanged, seven promises to each other given only to the bride according to
the couple kisses and is pronounced before the fire. The couple may Jewish law, though liberal rabbis may
husband and wife in the eyes of God. have their clothing tied together allow a ring for the groom as a gift.
The bride and groom sign the marriage during the seven promises ritual The groom smashes a wineglass with
document with two witnesses on hand. to represent their lifelong bond. his foot after vows are exchanged.
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INTERFAITH WEDDING
CELEBRATIONS
Cross-cultural marriages are on the
rise. If the bride and groom come
from different faith traditions, it
is important to sit down early and
talk candidly about the role religion
will play in the wedding ceremony.
If you decide you would like to
incorporate both faiths, there are
several considerations for planning
a ceremony.
• CEREMONY LOCATION: Some
faiths or officiants may have rules
about whether a mixed-religion
marriage will be sanctioned, and
whether involving elements of a
different religion in the ceremony
will be allowed. Some religions
may require premarital counseling
or classes. If you are considering
a religious house of worship for
the ceremony, plan a meeting with
the officiant to see whether it is
a good fit. Alternatively, choose a
neutral site for the ceremony, such
as a hotel ballroom, country club,
park or other venue.
• TWO SEPARATE CEREMONIES:

If the couple or their families want
to fully embrace each religious
tradition, two ceremonies can be
an option. The ceremonies can be
held on different days or the same
day. One may be short and sweet,
and one can have all the trimmings
— or go all out for both. Obviously,
two ceremonies will mean double
the planning and a bigger budget,
but may be the best solution for
couples and families who feel
deeply about the ceremony rites
of their separate religions.
• ONE BLENDED CEREMONY:

Wedding ceremonies in most faith
traditions have unique elements • HONOR BOTH CULTURES AT • ACCEPT SOME DISAPPROVAL:
that make them special, from what THE RECEPTION: If a couple Even if parents are prepared to go
the bride and groom wear to how determines that the important along with your interfaith ceremony
the families are included. Working aspects of their separate wedding plans, chances are someone in your
with your officiant, create a traditions are cultural rather than extended family and friends may
wedding program that includes religious, a neutral ceremony harbor some negativity about mixing
explanations of the specific can be followed by a reception beliefs and rituals. Couples should be
religious customs performed and a that honors both family histories. respectful of others, but keep a united
translation if a foreign language is Culture can be represented in front against disapproval. A blended
used. This way, family and friends attire, food, décor, favors, music ceremony that honors both faiths can
can understand, appreciate and and dance. The bride may wear a show that love and respect for family
participate in unfamiliar traditions. sari while dancing the hora, or a lie at the core of almost all wedding
Be sure to offer to include both mariachi band may play while the rituals — no matter how unfamiliar
sides of the family in rituals. couple jumps the broom. they may appear on the surface.
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Ethnic Weddings
Couples are more culturally diverse or DJ to play the music that to cuisine they enjoy the
than ever before. Engaged couples inspires the tarantella, salsa or most. The New York Times
are embracing that diversity by Bollywood moves and learn as predicted that food inspired
incorporating elements of their you go. by Africa and the Philippines
heritage into their ceremonies. is hot for 2017, so couples
Global-infused details are a growing ETHNIC CUISINE may want to opt for flavors
trend in ceremonies and receptions. According to New Jersey Bride from these areas of the world.
Multicultural touches can help make magazine, millennials have long
weddings unique. When exotic offerings are
been exposed to multicultural presented, it's a good idea to
cuisine and have exotic palates. also have some traditional
TRADITIONAL DRESS Food can reflect the couple's wedding food to satisfy less
With many countries embracing the culture or simply harken adventurous guests.
tradition of wearing "wedding white,"
couples are once again tapping into
ethnic dress to add that wow factor
to their weddings. Fashion can impart
elements that borrow from ancestral
homelands and tried-and-true
wedding tradition. Distinct attire, such
as henna designs, sarees, kimonos,
khmers, and kilts, may be center stage
at ceremonies and receptions. Some
couples opt to have a change of clothes
so they can wear traditional dress for
the ceremony and wedding gowns and
tuxedos for the reception.
ETHNIC
ENTERTAINMENT
In addition to a band or DJ, couples
may want to incorporate some sort
of ethnic entertainment into the
festivities. Caribbean couples may want
a steel drum band. Japanese weddings
may be enhanced with the addition
of a Taiko group that showcases the
art of ensemble drumming. Although
bagpipes are often associated with
Irish or Scottish heritage, they're
included in folk music from different
regions of Europe, Africa and the
Persian Gulf as well.
MULTICULTURAL DANCE
Some of the most entertaining parts
of a wedding involve dancing. With the
right music and a few cocktails, guests'
inhibitions may relax. Couples can even
increase the fun factor by incorporating
ethnic dance customs and music into
their playlists. If budget allows, hire a
dance troupe to guide guests with the
proper steps. Otherwise, ask the band
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Ceremony Notes
C EREMO NY VENUE
SITE: PHONE:
ADDRESS:
DEPOSIT: DUE:
TOTAL COST: DUE:
CANCELLATION TERMS: MAX CAPACITY:
NOTES:
ORDER OF EVENTS SA MP L E
SCH E D U L E
1.
1. Seating of family
2. 2. Groom in place
3. 3. Groomsmen & bridal
party procession
4. 4. Bridal procession
5. Opening prayer
5. 6. Officiant's opening
remarks
6. 7. First reading
8. First unity ceremony
7.
9. Second reading
8. 10. Second unity
ceremony
9. 11. Third reading
12. Officiant's charge
10. to couple
13. Exchange of vows
11. 14. Exchange of rings
12. 15. Officiant's closing
remarks
13. 16. Kiss
17. Presentation of
14. the couple
18. Recessional
15.
16.
17.
18.
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The Second Wedding
Taking a chance on love and marriage for the second (or third)
time is certainly worthy of celebration. The Pew Research
Center reports that at least four in 10 new marriages include
at least one partner who has been married before, a trend
that is on the rise. Roughly 42 million American adults have
gotten married a second time — up from 22 million in 1980.
Planning a second wedding can be challenging, as individuals
may be worried about proper etiquette, superstitions or
meeting the expectations of others. But there are no hard
rules governing second weddings. Now that couples are
older and a bit more experienced, wedding planning may be
met with greater enthusiasm and patience. These tips can
help the process along.
FIRST THINGS FIRST

While basking in the glow of your happy future,
there are a few things you need to do quickly. The
very first thing you do is tell the children. The next
thing you do is tell your ex-spouse – in person,
by phone, in a letter, etc. Even if exes will not be
included, make sure they know about the nuptials
in advance of others. It's common courtesy, and it
can help head off feelings of ill-will. DO IT YOUR WAY
The details should be relatively easy. You
have done this before and while you may
BE PATIENT WITH LOVED ONES have been planning with a mom or sister or
You’ll get a lot of innocent-sounding comments mother-in-law looking over your shoulder,
from friends and family. Forgive them as they this time it’s just about you and your groom.
mean no harm. Things like: So soon? Can you You can have a formal wedding, you can get
wear white? Is your ex okay with this? Getting married at the court house, you can throw a
a pre-nup? I thought you said you’d never get big party, you can get married at your home,
married! You get the general idea. Your friends you can get married on the beach, you can
and family love you. Don’t let their insensitivity have a wedding in a barn, you set the tone as
rain on your wedding parade. a couple. The rules for second weddings are
that almost anything goes! The beauty is that
couples marrying for the second time know
KEEP IT SMALL — OR GO BIG! what they want. Couples can use experience
Don't feel beholden to tradition. Second to draft vows that have personal meaning to
weddings tend to be more intimate, as guest their unique situations and make the wedding
lists tend to be smaller and couples tying the ceremony even more special.
knot again may prefer less hustle and bustle. But
couples should not avoid inviting people simply
because second weddings are typically small GET DOLLED UP
affairs. Invite as many friends and family as you Brides need not eschew white if they prefer
want and as your budget allows. Some couples to wear it for their second weddings. White,
who are taking another crack at marriage are cream, ivory, or other shades are perfectly
tying the knot with renewed vigor and with acceptable. Also, brides can make their gowns
weddings that may rival some first-timers'. Lavish as lavish or as simplistic as they desire. The
second weddings were once uncommon, but that length and style of the dress should reflect the
trend is shifting. formality and scope of the event. You can also
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wear a colorful gown, a cocktail dress fun or entertaining gifts that speak tradition is to light a family candle
or a snappy suit. In fact, this can be a to couples' interests such as home as part of the ceremony. However
time to let loose and select something theater systems, fancy cookware, you choose to do so, involve and
festive or even funky. This also may athletic equipment, or even funds for encourage children to participate in
provide a great opportunity to choose honeymoon travel. You can certainly the planning of the wedding.
clothing styles from different cultures register for gifts, but if your friends
or ties into one's heritage. were at the first wedding they are
not obligated to buy a present. Most
BE PREPARED
Grooms may opt for something more couples on their second marriage do The marriage application process
casual than a tuxedo or coordinate not receive gifts. Still, some folks are is similar the second time around,
with their brides-to-be so they are used to gift-giving, so register for some but additional documents, such as a
on the same creative page. Colored fun things that you like as a couple, or divorce decree or death certificate,
tuxedos and vintage suits are ask your friends to donate to a charity. may be necessary. These legal
acceptable, even though such attire documents also will be needed for
might have raised a few eyebrows the men and women who intend to
first time around. INVOLVE THE CHILDREN change their last names after getting
Involve the children. Couples who have married. If you wish to be married
children can make them a special part in a church, you should check to see
MAKE IT UNIQUE
Couples who have been
married before may want to
set this new occasion apart DON'T FEEL BEHOLDEN TO TRADITION. COUPLES TYING
from their previous weddings.
Experts suggest discussing THE KNOT AGAIN MAY PREFER LESS HUSTLE AND BUSTLE.
previous celebrations and
what can be done differently
this time around. Couples
can use this opportunity to get to of their second wedding celebrations. what steps must be taken so you
know each other more intimately by Kids can play any role in the ceremony, can be married in the particular
personalizing their festivities. depending on their age. If the second faith. You might consider speaking
marriage comes after an amicable to an attorney about a prenuptial
divorce, couples can invite their former agreement if you have a lot of money,
SET UP A REGISTRY spouses to provide support to their have property you wish to keep in
Established couples may have the children so they can feel comfortable the family, or want to protect your
household basics already in place, thus in the wedding. A common second children’s future. It’s also a good idea
showers are not normally thrown for wedding trend is to have step-parents to consider premarital counseling to
a second marriage. But many couples say vows to their step-children about make sure you’re on the same page
still create registries; these can include being a family. Another oft-included and that your expectations are similar.
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Personalizing Your Vows
Couples who choose to write
their own wedding vows
recognize how special such
personal gestures are. Writing
one's own vows can impart a
personalized and special touch
to the ceremony. But as anyone
who has stared down a blank
piece of paper or blinking cursor
can attest, a case of writer's
block may encourage couples to
abandon the idea of writing their
own vows.
Writing vows can be nerve-
wracking. Many couples are
unaccustomed to speaking in
front of crowds, and then there
is the challenge of turning life-
altering feelings into language
that will appeal to the masses.
But couples struggling with
their vows need not throw in the
vow-writing towel. With some
practice and guidance, anyone
can write cherished vows that BE TRADITIONAL Otherwise, you might be writing
will be remembered for all of the Take traditional vows and tweak about your unending love, and he
right reasons for years to come. them to make them your own. This or she may be promising to keep
works especially well for those who updated on favorite sports teams
SKIP THE SCHTICK have trouble getting started or are or television programs. You want
Jokes may pop up in speeches unsure of which format to follow. the tone and style of the vows to
throughout the evening, but Incorporate key words, such as be cohesive.
wedding vows can be your "partners," "love," "friends," "joy,"
chance to truly speak from the and "forever." DIG DEEPER
heart. Humor may come across Look into the future and project
as insincerity. Rather, list the ASK THE OFFICIANT how you hope your life to be in
words that describe your feelings Depending on the type of 10 or 20 years. Explain all of the
for your future spouse, and build ceremony, the officiant may have reasons you want to be together
on that. final say over what can or cannot for the duration.
be included in your vows. Religious
TELL A STORY ceremonies, for example, may be READ AND RE-READ
If you need inspiration, look to limited to certain scripture readings Read over your work aloud and
a moment in your relationship and traditional vows. Before you make sure the language is clear and
when you really knew this was devote any time to writing vows, there are no glaring errors. It may
the person with whom you ensure that it's alright to include take a few versions to get the final
wanted to share your life. Relay them. Otherwise, save personalized version right where you want it.
the story, but keep it brief. Try sentiments for a special toast at the
to be as specific as possible, and wedding reception. GET A SECOND OPINION
recognize that it's acceptable Ask someone you trust to listen to
to be playful with your words. MATCH YOUR PARTNER the vows and offer feedback. This
When it's really coming from the If you and your spouse will not be needs to be a person who will be
heart and not the head, you'll writing the vows together, agree on honest and not just tell you what
know it. a format that you both will follow. you want to hear.
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Wedding Reception Tips
When it comes to planning your wedding 9. If the venue is outdoors, is there a deposits, so be sure you know the
reception, the sky is the limit. From small and backup if the weather goes south? commitment before signings.
homespun to large and lavish, your reception Rain can be a spoiler, but so can
is the ultimate expression of you and your heat and insects; so consider the 17. Give your guests a warm
groom as a couple. With careful planning time of day and season. welcome. Show your most
and an eye for detail, you can plan a party honored guests just how much
that will delight your guests and ensure fond 10. W
hat services and equipment do they mean to you by writing a
memories for a lifetime. you need from the venue? If you brief, personal note welcoming
want to have a live band, they will them to your reception. Place the
need a stage and sufficient power note on top of their place setting
1. Consider selecting your reception for audio equipment. at the table and they will instantly
venue before setting the date for feel at home.
the wedding in order to be flexible 11. W
hen you’ve narrowed your
in securing the desired location. selections, don’t hesitate to ask 18. Consider providing a photo
lots of questions. For example, booth at your reception. Include
2. Book early. Do your research and will there be more than one silly props and costumes. If you
site visits early in the wedding wedding in the venue on your upgrade to a video booth, guests
planning process, so that you can day? Are there any décor, can record personal messages for
make a timely decision. Depending construction or landscape yourself and your groom.
on the venue, some may be taking changes anticipated before
reservations a year or more in your date? When can you get in 19. Don’t just rely on your wedding
advance. to decorate — and is that time photographer — provide some
included in the price or extra? disposable cameras for the
3. Guest list size can determine guests to snap photos! Set up a
location options, so have your 12. C
reate a checklist of all your designated location to drop the
headcount ready before shopping questions, and make sure they’ve cameras off so you can develop
for a venue.
been answered satisfactorily the film at a later date.
4. Be flexible about the reception before signing the contract.
20. Love donuts? Cupcakes?
date. This will open up many more
13. R
ead the contract! Be sure Chocolate chip cookies? There’s
options; try to avoid June and
you are aware of all fees. no reason that you have to stick
September as they are some of the
Most locations have deposit to the traditional wedding cake.
most popular wedding months.
requirements. Many have Alternative dessert tables are
5. Visit venues. Stay within your additional charges for extra all the rage as couples seek
budget, and never book a venue tables, linens, dance floor, AV to make their reception more
without touring it first! equipment and tents. personalized to their own
tastebuds.
6. Settle on a style or vibe before 14. D
oes the venue have food and
shopping around for venues. beverage minimums or service 21. Modernize your guest book.
Are you going casual or formal? fees for staffing and cleanup? Choose something for guests
Indoors or outdoors? Rustic, urban These extra fees can bust a to sign that has staying power,
or elegant? budget, so it’s important to know like an art print, stuffed animal
what you will need and what it or serving plate that can be
7. Do your out-of-town guests a will cost at the end of the day. displayed and enjoyed for years
favor and book a reception venue to come.
close to your ceremony space if at 15. W
hat are the restrictions? Each
all possible. venue will have its own rules 22. Hire a food truck. Food trucks
about noise, décor, parking, are a fun, trendy way to inject
8. Many venues require you to use in- alcohol, security and much more. flavor into your reception at a
house caterers and other vendors. Ask directly what restrictions relatively lower cost than hiring a
Ask yourself, do you want an exist. traditional caterer and waiters.
all-inclusive venue? If you opt for
more flexibility, are you prepared 16. N
ote the venue’s cancellation 23. Play games. Encourage guests
to take on additional coordination policy before you sign. Many to mingle by creating games for
responsibilities? businesses have nonrefundable them to play during cocktail hour.
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You might have a scavenger hunt list to cool off guests on a summer day, 30. Make an entrance. Think of a fun way
asking guests to find someone who or matchboxes to light sparklers to join the reception when the DJ
fits a particular description, or give for the bride and groom’s exit. or band announces you for the first
guests a puzzle piece and encourage time as husband and wife, such as a
them to find the fellow guest who 27. You’ve gone to great lengths to theme song or choreographed dance
has its mate. make sure that every detail of the routine with your wedding party.
reception is perfect, so don’t forget
24. Remember the kids. If you expect the facilities. Set out a basket of 31. Book some memorable musicians.
to have kids at your reception, perfume, lotion, breath mints, and Even if you opt for a DJ for most
it’s a thoughtful and smart idea to other niceties for guests to help of the reception, nothing makes an
organize some entertainment for themselves to when they take a impact like live musicians. Consider
them. Coloring books, crayons, break from the dance floor. hiring a jazz trio or single guitar
candy and special child-friendly player to serenade guests during
menu items are good ideas to keep 28. After a long night of dancing, cocktail hour.
your youngest guests happy and your guests will be famished as
occupied. the party comes to a close. Serve 32. If there’s a lull on the dance floor,
a delicious midnight snack, such break the ice and boogie. When your
25. Craft a designer drink. Choose a as milk and cookies, for them to guests see how much fun you are
cocktail that you and your fiance munch on as they prepare to see having on the dance floor, it won’t be
enjoy, give it a special name, and you off. long before they join you to get the
serve it as a signature drink during party started.
cocktail hour. 29. Have a hashtag. Post visible
signs in various gathering areas 33. Leave in style. Make a splash on your
26. Consider giving guests favors that highlighting your wedding hashtag dash to the getaway car as guests
will come in handy during your so that you can enjoy all the posts shower you in confetti, blow bubbles,
event, like flip-flops to replace high your guests make on social media release butterflies, wave sparklers,
heels when the dancing starts, fans in the days to come. blow horns or ring bells.
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The Do It Yourself Reception
As the cost of the average wedding continues to rise, it's understandable that couples ready to tie the knot
may be seeking any and all ways to save money. While some aspects of the wedding day are better left to the
professionals, others are prime for a little do-it-yourself cost cutting. A DIY wedding reception is within your
reach. You’ve found the perfect place for your reception — a great space just waiting for your creative touch.
KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GETTING INTO

First things first – be willing to take on this job,
make plans ahead of the wedding to make sure
everyone helping you is on the same page and
agrees to carry out your vision. Have friends
willing to do the work that you can’t on your
reception day. These are special take-charge
friends or family who are invested in helping you
have a wonderful reception; they may have to
ruffle a few feathers on your behalf!
DESIGNATE A SETUP LEADER

Find dependable friends who are willing to help
set up the space and decorate. You’ll need a take-
charge, detail oriented leader you trust, who
will see the project through from start to finish.
Have a plan, a check-list, a look (include photos
if you want the room to look a certain way) and
a realistic timeline in which to accomplish the
setup. Make sure the setup leader has the names
of everyone you are doing business with; have
him or her handle payments if you haven’t done
so in advance.
DESIGN YOUR OWN CENTERPIECES

While floral bouquets and boutonniéres are
probably best left to professional florists,
couples may want to try making their own
reception table centerpieces. Such centerpieces
can be simple displays of fresh flowers in vases
or more intricate designs. Test out any ideas
prior to the reception. Remember to keep
arrangement height in mind. You do not want to
obscure the view of seated guests!
MAKE YOUR OWN WEDDING FAVORS

Design favors that work with the theme of your
wedding and make them yourself. These can be
candles, fruit preserves, soaps, baked goods or
anything else that appeals to you. The cost of
making them in bulk will turn out to be less than
purchasing manufactured items. Plus, guests get
to take home something handcrafted by you.
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Outdoor Weddings
Weather is perhaps the biggest factor couples
must consider when planning an outdoor wedding.
Outdoor weddings are best held during those
seasons when the threat of precipitation is
insignificant and temperatures are mild, but it's still
necessary to have a backup plan just in case Mother
Nature does not want to cooperate.
EXTREME HEAT
Have solutions for sun and heat. Couples don't
want their wedding guests or bridal party members
passing out due to heat exhaustion. Make sure to
offer shade if the ceremony or reception is outside.
Stock the area with cold bottles of water or a
chilled lemonade stand. Have fans and umbrellas
available just in case guests need a way to protect
themselves
from the sun.
In fact, you
may consider THE BOTTOM LINE: GUESTS CAN SENSE NEGATIVE
investing in
golf umbrellas,
ENERGY, AND COUPLES SHOULD SET THE TONE.
which tend to STICK THROUGH IT DESPITE A LITTLE ADVERSITY.
be larger than
the average
umbrella,
and keep them stationed in decorated stands to and windy, cut your losses and move your
ease transitions between wedding sites and keep wedding celebration indoors.
everyone as shaded as possible. If need be, bring in • KNOW VENDOR RAIN POLICIES.
a portable generator to keep the reception room Some live musicians will not play in damp
cooled by fans. weather. Florists may need to make
accommodations for arrangements blowing
STRONG WIND in the wind. Couples need to understand
Coastal outdoor weddings present beautiful what they're responsible for and what
backdrops for weddings. But being near the shore may be covered if a weather event occurs.
may mean accepting windy conditions. Tie down Wedding insurance may help cover the
tents and use weights to keep wedding programs or costs of nonrefundable cancellations.
other papers from catching a current. In notoriously
windy climates, bride and her wedding party should • RISE ABOVE THE RAIN. It is okay to get
opt for free-flowing tresses so they needn't worry upset if the weather turns for the worse.
about intricate updos coming undone. But don't dwell on it. While a couple
probably won't wish for rain, there are
RAINY SKIES some benefits to overcast skies, say the
Brides and grooms fear the prospects of rainy wedding professionals at Brides magazine.
wedding days. How couples handle potential Flowers are less likely to wilt in rainy
precipitation can affect how happy the festivities conditions. Plus, overcast conditions can
will weather the storm. actually contribute to better photos. A
healthy blanket of cloud cover can produce
• HAVE A RAIN GAME PLAN. Have a rainy day richer colors and pleasing shadows, making
game plan. Rain affects outdoor weddings more the photos of your big day even more
than any other type of ceremony or reception. If appealing. The bottom line is, guests will
the goal is to exchange vows outdoors, work with sense negative energy. Stick through it
the venue to make this possible with a tent or despite a little adversity; this is a good
gazebo. However, if the weather is especially foul lesson for the marriage as well!
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PITCH A TENT — any obstruction that could impede Do the legwork, ask the questions,
Whether you’re having a small wedding an installation. Most people want then select the tent that’s right for
in the backyard or a formal affair at a structures that are quick, safe, and easy your needs. In addition to the added
fabulous location, tenting and canopies to install. It is wise and often necessary space and convenience tents offer,
provide a great way to create an event to make an appointment with a tent tents can bring an air of romance,
space while enjoying the beauty of rental company in advance of the and the grace of a bygone era to your
the outdoors. Tents are available in a big day. The professional will inspect wedding celebration.
variety of sizes and styles – many that the location for ground stability, will
can weather any season. Some more assess underground hazards (sprinkler And then there are those extras:
elaborate models come equipped with systems, wells, septic systems); this heating, cooling, lighting, special
peaks, walls and windows! ensures the safety of both your effect lighting, misting, floor covering,
guests and your structure. There are stages, columns, arches, latticework
It is important to measure the space for installation fees no matter where you – make sure you are crystal clear with
the tent, provide photos of the space place the tent, and trickier locations your tent provider so you have no
including trees, the ground, overhangs typically cost more. surprises on your big day!
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Wedding Transportation
Get me to the church on time! A simple line from a wedding song — but if you’re not at your navigating the area much
wedding venue and your guests aren’t either, the wedding cannot happen! According to The easier for your out-of-
Knot Real Weddings Study 2016, roughly half of all engaged couples will hire a transportation town guests. It’s a lot safer
service such as a limousine or party bus for their weddings. Hiring transportation for the bride too should there be any
and groom, the wedding party and the wedding guests can make your wedding day run both on celebrating with alcohol.
time and smoothly. Here are some important tips to help you get to the altar on time.
If you order shuttle services
DETERMINE Expect to pay from the time person, and one bill. To make for your guests, start your
of the first pickup to the sure you are choosing the shuttle service early as many
YOUR NEEDS guests like to arrive early.
Before a transportation end of your reception. Most right company, visit the office
companies require you to and talk with them. You Designate a person (a friend
plan can be made, couples
book a minimum number want to ensure you have an or relative) to be the shuttle
must first map out their
of hours and pay for the amazing day that goes exactly coordinator – this is who
needs. Determine what
transportation you can wait time in between — ask how you have envisioned. the chauffeur(s) should take
afford. Will you need a limo, about the minimum time orders from. Make sure the
a town car or a shuttle for requirements, ask if there READ THE RULES company knows who this
your guests? Will there be a are any mileage charges, or Read your contract. All limo person is so there are no
lot of out-of-towners? Will any additional fees you may companies have rules – mistakes. If multiple parties
the bridal party need a limo? have to pay. Receive formal different rules. Make sure are telling the chauffeur or
What about the groomsmen? estimates from several you know what those rules driver what to do and where
Will you need separate companies before making are in advance so you know to go, chaos ensues.
transportation for leaving the your final decision, and speak what to expect. Questions
church and traveling to the to companies about matching like how much will they CONTACT YOUR
reception venue. offers. Don’t forget to ask if charge for fuel or mileage? CHAUFFER
the gratuity is included, as What will they charge you Most companies will give
BOOK IN ADVANCE many companies will add a if a glass is broken or 1 you the name and number of
Crack open a calendar. April, 20% fee to your bill for the of your guests damages your chauffeur in advance.
May and June are demanding chauffeur — if it’s not added something? Do they allow Call them, introduce yourself,
and busy times – weddings, to the bill, generally a 15% tip you to decorate the limo or and make sure they are up
proms and graduations occur is standard. shuttlebus? What is allowed to date and understand all of
during these months. Book and what is not allowed? your needs and expectations.
your transportation at least PLAN YOUR TRIP When are monies due? Is Communicate the timeline
6 months in advance – this When planning your shuttle there a deposit? Reading you have created for your
secures your reservation or limousine routes, allow the fine print will save you a special day. One week prior
and since it’s not ‘last minute’ for a cushion of 20 to 30 hassle later if something does to the wedding, contact the
your price will be better. minutes. Unexpected delays go wrong. company to double-check
often occur. Be cautious that all details are in order.
ESTABLISH A BUDGET and take a test drive of your SHUTTLE SERVICES
Find an option that won't route. If you are ordering a Investing in the guest PHOTO OPPS
bust your budget. When shuttle, be aware that many experience means couples Have your photographer ride
choosing transportation buses may drive slower than are seeking ways to provide along with you in the limo.
for your guests, do not feel your own car. Allow several comfort and convenience Both pre- and post-ceremony
pressured to book lavish minutes for loading and for their guests and wedding shots are becoming the new
buses. So long as buses are unloading guests. party members. Rather standard.
safe and on time, guests than asking guests to get
won't mind if they ride in a WORK WITH ONE themselves to and fro, SPECIAL REQUESTS
school bus or a fancy bus COMPANY couples may employ buses Be specific when placing your
worthy of a touring rock Find a company that can or shuttles stocked with reservation. Special requests
band. If you are concerned service all of your needs. amenities to transport a like the type of champagne
about the appearance of a Whether you need multiple greater number of people. you like, your music needs,
bus, ask if you can decorate limos or limos and shuttles, it A shuttle to the rehearsal availability of auxiliary
the bus before the wedding makes sense to do business dinner, the wedding venue, cords, dress code for your
to make it more inviting. with one company, one and the reception can make chauffeur — these items are
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often easily accommodated. even decorate their shuttle something more trendy, such carriage. Carriages can
You can usually request your buses to make them more as limos built upon sports typically fit between two
favorite songs to be played appealing to your guests. cars. SUV-based limos are and six passengers. Others
or a DVD with a slide show Want that extra touch? Ask still popular, with Hummers, go eco-friendly, choosing
during your trip. Chilled about ‘red carpet’ celebrity Escalades and Navigators to depart on horseback or
refreshments and other treatment packages. offering the wow factor. even pedaling a bicycle. Such
items like a box of chocolates options are eco-friendly and,
or strawberries are often For that A-list look right out in the case of bicycles, may
A STYLISH GETAWAY of a classic movie, stepping
available. Ask your company End your ceremony with an be free. Pedicabs or bicycle-
to add these requests to your out of a vintage vehicle drawn buggies are also an
amazing final experience. creates red-carpet moments.
contract. Go out in style. Your exit alternative.
Dream cars for this type
transportation is an excellent of glamorous arrival and According to The Knot says,
DIRECTIONS way to put a beautiful cap on departure include Rolls couples spend around 6.5
Decorations can play a key your beautiful day. Your exit Royce, Bentley, Aston Martin months researching their
role in making every last from the church should be an and others. Many private wedding day transportation
detail tie together. Ask your unforgettable moment. Be companies rent classic options and will make their
company about decorations. creative and work with your vehicles. Couples also may decision and reservation
Some companies have transportation company to contract with those who five months before their
policies against decorating make your departure unique. attend classic car shows. wedding. The more exotic the
and some companies will go transportation option, the
all the way and accommodate To set their weddings apart, Some brides opt to take earlier couples should make
your desires. Ask in advance couples are trending away a page out of a favorite their decisions to ensure they
so you are not disappointed from traditional stretch fairy tale and leave their can book their first choice.
later. Some companies will limousines and renting weddings in a horse-drawn
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Ordering Alcohol
When planning your wedding reception, one
of the trickiest things you’ll have to calculate
is how much alcohol to buy. Of course, the BEER
number of guests, how your family and friends A case consists of 24 cans or bottles, 12 oz each.
tend to drink, the day of the week, the time A half keg consists of 15 gallons (160 servings of 12 oz each) of beer.
of day — these factors must be taken in to
account so you can order the proper amount of WINE AND CHAMPAGNE servings per bottle
wine, beer, and spirits while staying on budget. BOTTLE OUNCES 4 OZ GLASS 5 OZ GLASS 6 OZ GLASS
375ml 12.7 12.7 2.5 2
The rule of thumb for a party or reception is 750ml 25.4 25.4 5 4
that most people will have 3 glasses of wine 1.0L 33.8 33.8 6 5
or champagne and 2 to 3 cocktails or beer per 1.5L 50.7 50.7 10 8
person. Now, take these numbers and factor in 3.0L 101.4 101.4 20 17
the environment of your wedding — is there an 5.0L 169.0 169.0 33 28
open bar? Is there a cash bar? Are you serving
only wine and beer? Is the occasion formal or SPIRITS AND CORDIALS servings per bottle
casual? The choice is yours. Do you want to BOTTLE OUNCES 1 OZ POUR 1.5 OZ POUR
have a special cocktail for each person and 375ml 12.7 12 8
then serve just wine and beer? Is the wedding 750ml 25.4 25 16
a formal affair that requires an open bar? See 1.0L 33.8 33 22
the handy chart at right for serving portions as 1.5L 59.2 59 39
you navigate the ordering process.
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The Signature Cocktail
The ceremony is over. People your concoctions as a great serving. In addition, they can
have headed to the reception stress reliever for you, your suggest drinks that appeal
venue. How can you welcome groom and your friends. to a wide variety of people,
your guests in a most personal Make your selection(s) and namely your wedding
way? Try a signature cocktail stick with it! This is a fun guests.
created by the two of you. part of personalizing your
Can’t decide on just one wedding. Consider making a Is there a local winery,
special cocktail, create two — non-alcoholic version of your brewery or distillery in your
one for her and one for him! drink for those who are non- area? Consider contacting
drinkers or designated drivers. someone at one of these
Signature wedding drinks can locations and creating
be served during the cocktail Can’t decide on your cocktails? a hyper-local signature
hour or throughout the Meet with a mixologist and let drink or cocktail.
entire reception. They can be a professional guide you and
wine- or champagne-based, suggest options that reflect Don’t forget to come
or alcohol, mixers and trendy the theme or ‘feel’ of your up with a clever name
flavors. wedding. for your cocktails. This
personalizes your drink. Use
Start with a recipe search A mixologist will incorporate your sense of humor and your
and make the drinks at home your menu and help to pair creativity to come up with a
first. Consider having friends wines, champagnes and name that fits you and your
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Dance With Confidence
During a wedding reception, most of the dance” song is selected, but the more memorable. Traditionally, the first
focus is on the first dance of the evening music will influence the dance style. dance was performed to a slow waltz,
when the newlyweds take to the dance Remember your first dance song but now the first dance is not governed
floor for the first time after tying the will forever be linked to your life as by any rules. In fact, some couples
knot. Not only does the first dance give a couple. Pick something meaningful enlist the help of choreographers
the couple an opportunity to shine on and representative of you as a couple, to ensure an epic opening dance
the dance floor, but it also can help set preferably with a steady beat. Read number. Social media is full of videos
the tone for the reception to follow. over the lyrics to make sure it's an of innovative couples performing
appropriate wedding song. spot-on dance routines from classic
Here are some pointers to keep in mind, dance movies like "Dirty Dancing" or
whether you are looking for dance
routine to go viral on YouTube or you PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT beautifully choreographed dances to
Tame those nerves. Practicing is a way popular first dance songs such as "At
simply don’t want to look like a fool with Last" or "Can't Help Falling in Love."
to feel more confident in your steps, and
two left feet.
that will help keep nerves at bay. Make
time to dance together leading up to KEEP IT SIMPLE
START EARLY the wedding. Dancing, like marriage, is If dancing is not your strong suit, select
Most studios recommend beginning a team effort. Many couples experience an easy, romantic song that allows
dance practice three to six months a bit of stage fright. Just keep in mind you to simply sway back and forth and
before the wedding, depending on that these friends and family are at the move around minimally. Choose an
whether you hope to master a classic wedding to support you and not judge uncomplicated routine. Dancing takes
box step or a choreographed routine. your dance moves. practice, but with practice even the
Starting sooner allows for less stress self-professed "worst dancer" can cut
and more time to get comfortable with
new skills, so that you feel relaxed when GET CREATIVE an impressive rug.
If dancing is your strong suit, push
dancing rather than counting steps.
boundaries or get creative with your
first dance. This
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP can make the
If you desire something more intricate wedding
for the first dance and you have the even
budget to pay for some dance lessons,
go for it. An instructor can take you
through dance basics or help you
choreograph a more polished piece.
Depending on what the goals are,
most couples can learn respectable
skills within three to five lessons. If
one partner is reluctant, remember
that all eyes will be watching and
that most songs last three to
four minutes. Plus, it will
all be captured on video
forever! A good dance
instructor will listen to
your “first dance” vision
and go through options to
achieve it.
SONG SELECTION
Learning steps and
practicing can begin
before a final “first
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Music Moments
Your wedding day is filled with music — music that sets the
tone, tugs on the heartstrings, conjures memories, defines
relationships, and sends you on your way. This list of musical
moments will help you to decide on what to play and when.
The following is a list of the moments you’ll need to select
music throughout your wedding day.
THE GETTING READY PLAYLIST

Have romantic, upbeat tunes as you get
ready for your wedding.
THE PRE-CEREMONY TUNES

This is the music played as guests arrive.
THE PRE-PROCESSIONAL
This is the music played right before the
wedding party enters.
THE PROCESSIONAL
This is the music played as the wedding
party heads down the aisle.
THE BRIDE'S ENTRANCE

The bride walks down the aisle.
THE CEREMONY
Any music you use during the ceremony.
THE RECESSIONAL
This is the joyous music played as you
head up the aisle (after the ceremony).
THE CHAMPAGNE HOUR "Thinking Out Loud," Etta James' "At

This is the music played after the Last," John Legend's "All of Me," and Elvis
ceremony as guests arrive at the Presley's "Can't Help Falling in Love"
reception location. filled out the remaining top five spots on
Spotify's list.
THE RECEPTION
This is the music played as the guests THE FATHER-DAUGHTER DANCE
head in to the reception. Music typically This is your dance with your Dad — heart-
starts when the bride and groom and tugging, emotional music that expresses
their wedding parties enter the reception. your relationship with your Father.
THE FIRST DANCE THE MOTHER-SON DANCE

A first dance song at the wedding This is the groom and his Mom — heart-
reception often sets the tone for the tugging emotional, music that expresses his
upcoming festivities and can exemplify relationship with his Mom.
just how newlyweds feel about each
other. According to a Spotify survey, the THE LAST DANCE
most popular wedding song for 2018 This is the music that sends you and your
was "Perfect" by Ed Sheeran. Sheeran's guests off into the night.
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Wedding Cake Trends
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The cake is an essential part of your wedding. Cakes product is visible. Each layer • WOODLAND CAKE: A
tend to be multi-tiered intricate designs and must features delicious fillings and perfect cake for a more
both taste amazing and look flawless. Wedding decorations like fresh blooms, casual wedding, this style
cakes are usually priced by the slice, and prices can gum paste-molded flowers, incorporates nature,
range anywhere from $1.50 per slice and upward. edible pearls and gems and camouflage and country living
Couples can budget around $300 to $500 for fresh berries. These simplified in its decoration.
moderately priced wedding cakes for parties with desserts showcase texture and
150 to 200 people. With so much at stake and too filling. Just because they are • OMBRE CAKES: Though
many options to count, here are some trendy cake short on exterior buttercream white is the preferred color
ideas to personalize the centerpiece of your big day. doesn't mean they fall flat on of wedding cakes, couples
flavor or visual appeal. may opt for hues that evoke
the color schemes of their
• TALL CAKES: Impressive to look • WHITE ON WHITE CAKES: weddings. These cakes come
at, these multi-tiered creations Traditional white cake with in all colors and are light at the
are all about the wow factor. matching white decorations top and increase in intensity
and embellishments like all the way to the bottom.
• UNIQUE FLAVORED CAKES:
ruffles, flowers, petals, and
Vanilla? Yawn. Modern brides are • NO CAKE: When it comes
pearls.
opting for carrot, citrus, cinnamon time for dessert, some
and other outside the box flavors. • PAINTED CAKES: One-of- couples opt to avoid or
a-kind pieces of artwork, downplay wedding cakes in
• TOPSY-TURVY CAKES: These
these dramatic cakes feature favor of something simpler.
gravity-defying desserts are fun,
hand-painted scenes, Tiffany A milk and cookie bar, donut
creative and visually interesting.
designs, Impressionist holes, soft pretzel stations,
• CASCADING FLOWERS: This paintings and more. pie pops, or dessert shot jars
popular decorative style employs push creativity and sweetness
• LACE CAKES: A trend to new levels. Do-it-yourself
a waterfall effect, with delicate
recently popularized by Kate dessert stations, such as
fondant rosettes cascading down
Middleton, today's brides have s'more-making and ice cream
and around the cake.
taken this trend to another sundae stations can also be
• NAKED CAKES: An exposed level by paring pastel bases big crowd pleasers.
dessert in which the baked with lace overlays.
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Wedding Day Packing List
F O R T H E GR OOM
PERSONAL TECHNOLOGY PRIOR TO CEREMONY,
ravel bag with toiletries
T ell phone and charger
C DISTRIBUTE OR DELIVER
 Watch, cufflinks and/or tie bar ersonal camera, charger and
P THE FOLLOWING:
 Sunglasses glasses, contacts memory cards edding party gifts, parent gifts,
W

 Copy of wedding vows, if
 Personal devices needed before or
thank you cards
writing your own after the wedding (ex: razor)
 Wedding programs (give to venue
 Gift or card for bride SB or sync cables for devices
U
coordinator or wedding planner)
 Wedding band(s)
edding favors
W
P rescription medication, if any DOCUMENTS & MISC ther personal items; accessories for
O
T ote/suitcase if departing ash, checkbook and/or credit cards
C ceremony and reception
immediately for honeymoon (expect the unexpected!) opies of readings for the ceremony
C
 arriage license
M irections to the reception
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ATTIRE  nvelopes with tips for vendors
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re-wedding clothes
P  river’s license and/or passport
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 Tuxedo or suit  irline flight tickets, if leaving soon
A
 nderwear
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 hite T-Shirt
W igital or printed copies of itineraries,
D
 atching socks and shoes
M confirmation codes, reservations
 ie and handkerchief
T (hotels, limos, bookings, etc.)
 uspenders or belt
S ar keys, if needed
C
F O R T H E B R I DE
ATTIRE TECHNOLOGY PERSONAL
re-wedding clothes, such as a
P ell phone and charger
C osmetics, perfume and toiletries
C
jogging suit or simple dress ongs or music (for ceremony, or to
S ewelry and accessories
J
Robe keep you relaxed) and headphones unglasses, glasses, contacts
S
 edding dress, veil and headpiece
W
 A planner/friend to take candid omething old, new, borrowed
S
 hoes, hosiery and undergarments
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 ridal slippers or flats
B and keep track of time
 Copy of wedding vows, if writing
 andbag or clutch
H your own
 loves, if wearing
G DOCUMENTS ift or card for groom
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 eepsake garter, toss garter,
K arriage license
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handkerchief nvelopes with tips for vendors
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engagement ring
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opies of vendor and bridal party
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 Copies of guest list, meal choices, itineraries, confirmation codes,
and seating diagram reservations (hotels, limos,
opies of photography shot list
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Tipping Your Vendors
Though you may think you’ve accounted for every wedding
expense, there is one fee that might escape you — the
tip. Tipping vendors (from photographers and florists to
caterers and DJs) is expected, and it serves as a thank you
for a job well done. But how much do you tip these folks?
Below are suggested tip amounts for wedding vendors to
help navigate whom to tip, how much to tip, and when to
offer your token of gratitude.
THE CATERER
If your contract doesn’t include a gratuity,
you should tip 15 to 20 percent of the
total bill. Another way to tip is offering
$50 to $100 for each chef and $20 to $50
per server.
THE WEDDING PLANNER

Wedding planners won’t expect a tip, so
this is optional based on service. If you
were given a huge discount or the planner
went far above and beyond her contracted
services, offering a tip of 10 to 20 percent
is a nice way of saying “thank you” for the
efforts.
THE PHOTOGRAPHER
AND VIDEOGRAPHER
You’re not required to tip them if they own
the studio. If they don’t, then giving them
an extra $50 to $200 is a nice gesture. If
there are two or three photographers,
giving a $50 to $100 tip to each person
(who doesn’t own the business) is optional.
THE CEREMONY AND THE HAIR/MAKEUP ARTISTS

RECEPTION STAFF A 15 to 20 percent tip is expected, just
It’s not mandatory to tip the ceremony like it would be for any other regular
staff, reception staff and delivery staff, but salon visit, but it isn’t required.
if you’d like to, then you can offer them
$20-$50 each. THE BAND OR DJ
Offering a 10 to 15 percent tip is a nice
THE OFFICIANT gesture to your band or DJ, especially
Often officiants won’t accept tips, but a if they have to carry a lot of heavy
$100 donation to their church is a great equipment from one location to the
way to thank them. If the officiant is non- next. For musicians, a $25 to $50 tip
denominational, consider giving them a per band member is appropriate.
$100 tip, especially if they aren’t charging
for your service. THE FLORIST
The florist doesn’t expect a tip.
THE TRANSPORTATION However, if they do an outstanding
A 15 percent tip is optional if it isn’t job, you can consider offering a 10-15
included in the contract. percent tip once services are rendered.
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Toasts: Dos and Don'ts
Wedding toasts and speeches tell a love story, with a dash of humor and sentimentality, all in DO make copies of your
under five minutes. It’s the moment to reflect on the wedding couple, their journey to this day notes or put them on your
and the future that awaits. The bride and groom may designate a special friend or relative for this phone so you won’t forget
honor, or it may be part of the best man’s or maid of honor’s roles. Parents of the couple and the them at home.
bride and groom themselves may also want to contribute a few words. Whoever is speaking, it is
an important role that will have the full attention of the guests. DON’T embarrass anyone.
People will be expecting
some funny stories about
DO keep it short. This is a DO offer a nugget of wisdom DO practice your speech.
the wedding couple, but
toast, not a monologue. Be or advice, leading to well- Write down your remarks
don’t let any secrets out
brief so that the audience wishes for their future. or make a bullet-list on a
or humiliate either person
doesn't lose interest. Set a notecard.
DON’T procrastinate. This with a bawdy story! When in
five-minute limit.
is no time to wing it! Start DO test your toast in front doubt, leave it out.
DO introduce yourself to the a month or so in advance of your spouse, friends or
DO make sure everyone
crowd, state your role in the to assemble your thoughts co-workers — any willing
can hear and that any audio
wedding and/or relationship about special memories, audience you can find. Record
equipment is working.
to the couple. qualities you love about the your practice and review
bride and groom individually for improvements. Are you DON'T stare down at your
DON’T make inappropriate and as a couple. You may shuffling your feet, staring notes. Make eye contact and
comments. A fun joke can want to ask others to down or talking too quietly? engage with the crowd.
lighten up any crowd, but contribute memories or Time your practice to make
remember someone’s sure you are keeping it short DO be who you are. You
anecdotes to incorporate.
grandmother is probably and sweet. were asked to speak for a
attending. Choose your jokes DO thank the couple and reason. Don’t try to force
with care. acknowledge the families DON’T drink too much before a style that isn’t natural
and others who planned and your speech! You may say to who you are, whether
DO hook people in with an something regrettable.
participated in the wedding. that is a comedy routine
appropriate joke or anecdote.
or a deeply serious
DO your introspection.
DO wrap it up. Conclude the
homework.
toast by tying the story back
to the introduction and make
Consider short SAMPLE TOAST OPENER:
poems, quotes
sure to include the audience. I met Jake in our first year at MU. I quickly
or song lyrics to
This will help you get the realized that Jake is a great guy. He's the
include. If more
biggest laughs and applause. type of person who will offer to meet you
than one person
DON’T be too verbose. is speaking, at your dorm room at 2 a.m. with pizza and
While personal anecdotes compare beer to get you through a study session.
that shed humorous light on notes to avoid Too bad he has a horrible sense of direction
your relationship are great duplicating each and often shows up at the wrong door!
additions to wedding toasts, other.
avoid going into too much
detail when telling such DON’T make it about you.
stories. Focus instead on This toast is about the
the parts of the stories that person you are honoring.
illustrate your feelings and Therefore, do not put any
generate a few laughs. self-congratulatory messages
in the toast. Make it all about
DO share some sweet or the person, maybe even
humorous memories of the begin the toast with that
bridal couple. person's name.
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Choosing the Right Caterer
Weddings are memorable for a host Working with local vendors will trends thanks to a mobile caterer’s
of reasons. While couples remember also often translate into receiving incredible capacity and versatility.
their weddings because they mark the more personalized service and
day they officially tied the knot, guests attention than mass retailers or Great food is the foundation for
may remember weddings for other merchants can provide. every successful event and with
reasons, including the food served at the right mobile caterer and
consult, you can design a custom
the reception. CONSIDER MOBILE wedding menu with delicious
CATERING cuisine perfectly suited to the
CHOOSE THE RIGHT With a mobile kitchen, your budget, style and guests on your
CATERING SERVICE caterer travels to your event special day. From formal dining to
Catering a wedding is often the largest location and serves from the casual snacking, a caterer with a
cost you’ll incur when planning your venue kitchen. Mobile on-site traveling state-of-the-art kitchen
wedding. The good news is there’s catering has become one of can fulfill whatever dream you’ve
a caterer out there for almost any the hottest and most popular envisioned for your wedding day.
budget. It is important to decide on
your budget and stay within those
confines. It is also important to know
what you want. It is very important to
be ready to compromise.
When choosing your caterer (and you’ll
do this fairly early in your wedding
planning), get recommendations and
referrals from friends and family who
have had experience with the food of a
particular chef or service. In addition,
look into their reputation; read online
reviews and get a feel of how they
work and how their customers feel
about them. Narrow down your list and
then meet with the top contenders to
determine if they’re a good fit both,
financially and aesthetically.
KEEP IT LOCAL
Local vendors are often a go-to choice
when couples are planning their
wedding ceremonies and receptions.
As the "shop local" movement grows
in popularity, weddings present a
prime opportunity to embrace this
movement.
Proximity is a plus, as local caterers
can meet with brides and grooms
more readily throughout the planning
process, offering tastings and making
things less stressful on the happy
couple. This also makes it easier to
drop off deposits and attend wedding
planning meetings.
Catering Tips
Some venues are known for their stunning
landscapes, while others build their reputations
on unique interiors that provide unforgettable
ambiance. But regardless of where weddings
take place, guests are liable to discuss the food
served at the reception.
Guests might rave about the flank steak or
complain that the fish was too flaky, but couples
who choose wedding reception menus wisely
can go a long way toward ensuring there are
more compliments than complaints when the
dinner bell rings.
DON’T BREAK THE BANK

Be honest about your budget. Ask for
the caterers’ opinion of your wedding
reception vision. According to The Knot,
couples can expect their receptions to
eat up the largest chunk of their wedding
budgets. The average price for catering
per person is roughly $70. Bar service
may be around $2,000 for a three- to
four-hour party.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
Don't zero in on specialties. According to
The Knot’s 2017 Real Weddings Study
of nearly 13,000 brides and grooms, the
average wedding hosted 136 guests.
While couples might be tempted by Common foods that cause the FAMILY STYLE DINING
specialty dishes when choosing their majority of allergic reactions are Some weddings are now
wedding menus, those who are hosting peanuts, soy, sesame, and shellfish. served "family style" where
dozens if not hundreds should keep Allergies to wheat, milk and eggs guests can share from larger
things simple. are also common in children. While passed plates. This serves to
such foods can still be served at connect everyone at the table
SERVE A FAVORITE FOOD wedding receptions, make sure to and encourages conversation,
While specialty entrées might not also include foods that are unlikely helping to establish a warm
be a great choice, especially at large to trigger allergic reactions. The atmosphere.
receptions where lots of mouths must more versatile the menu, the more
be fed, a couple who has a favorite food capable an establishment is likely THE LAST BITE
that's symbolic of their relationship to be with regard to meeting the The last bite guests will take
should not hesitate to offer it during dietary needs of your guests. is dessert, so couples who
the cocktail hour. For example, a couple want their guests to go home
who met in Thailand may want to offer a DON’T FORGET BRUNCH raving about the food should
favorite Thai dish. Recognizing that daytime offer something special after
weddings can be much less the entrées have been taken
OFFER A WIDE VARIETY expensive than evening affairs, away. Some may not indulge
Receptions tend to be large, and within couples may want to have brunch- so, if the dessert is especially
your party you may have guests who themed weddings, featuring unique, offer something more
are vegetarian or on gluten-free diets or omelets, pancakes, French toast, traditional alongside it for
those who need to avoid certain foods. and other tasty breakfast foods. hesitant guests.
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The Reception Menu
Traditionally, one of the BITE-SIZE BURSTS cakes in favor of something popcorn snack station, or a
more memorable aspects Tapas and a movement toward simpler. A cookie-and- ramen noodle bar.
of wedding receptions is small bites has started to take milk bar, donut holes, soft
the food. Whether it was hold at wedding receptions. pretzel stations, pie pops, FOOD TRUCKS/CARTS
fun, tasty or something Such a choice allows guests or dessert shot jars push Outdoor weddings can be
entirely new for guests, to try many different flavors creativity and sweetness to enhanced with the addition
food tends to leave a without filling up too quickly. new levels. Do-it-yourself of trendy food trucks. These
lasting impression. The From sliders to mini grilled dessert stations, such as restaurants on wheels can
experts at Boho Weddings cheese to soup shots to s'more-making and ice inject burgers, sandwiches,
say that, more than bite-sized pizzas, many of cream sundae stations, also international delights, crêpes,
ever before, couples are these small bites feature can be big hits. noodles, and so many more
seeking menu ideas that flavors borrowed from flavors into a wedding.
reflect their personalities familiar comfort foods — just COMFORT STATIONS
as a couple as they seek to presented on a mini scale. Couples who love comfort FANCY FINGER FOOD
make a statement at their food can put it on display Couples can give guests a lavish
events. Celebrating with CHILDHOOD FAVES with a crostini station, a lunch with olive oil and vinegar
delicious, unique foods When it comes time for mashed potato or macaroni tasting, whiskey bars, French
can make receptions that dessert, some couples opt to & cheese bar, a chicken and hors d'oeuvres, beef sliders,
much more amazing. avoid or downplay wedding waffles station, a gourmet lobster tails or risotto stations.
CATERING AND MENU WORKSHEET

CATERER NAME:
ADDRESS:
PHONE: CONSULTANT:
CANCELLATION POLICY:
DEPOSIT: DUE DATE:
TOTAL COST: DUE DATE:
TYPE OF RECEPTION: ormal Table Service
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B ors d'oeuvres
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NUMBER OF GUESTS: COST PER GUEST:

MENU CHOICES:
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SERVING EQUIPMENT PROVIDED:

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SET UP TIME: DEPARTURE TIME:
TOTAL HRS SERVICE: OVERTIME TERMS:
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Honeymoon Tips
The 2017 Real Weddings Study 10. Consider your return day. 25. Bring batteries and chargers for
found that the average engagement Returning a day or two before you your phones, laptops and cameras.
length in 2017 was 14 months, and have to go back to work will allow
many couples are no doubt ready for you to be fresh at home and at the 26. Bring converters (electricity) for
a getaway after spending more than a office. those countries with different
year planning their weddings. Adhere electricity.
to the following tips and tricks to help 11. Consider trip insurance just in case
there are weather woes, delays, 27. Bring an umbrella.
your first trip together as newlyweds
be a vacation to remember. flight cancellations, etc. 28. Layer clothing, bring a wrap or
12. Plan what outfits you’ll need based hoodie just in case.
1. Start planning early. on activities and location. Consider 29. Take lots of photos. Make sure you
the following: swimsuits, skis, get photos of the two of you. Bring
2. Make sure you know what you formal dress, hiking boots, wraps, a selfie stick.
both want in a honeymoon. Rest coats, sundresses, shorts, jeans,
and relaxation? Adventure? All sneakers, coat and tie. 30. Buy souvenirs that mean
inclusive? Out of the USA? Europe? something to both of you: a
A road trip? The islands? Exotic? 13. Make lists of clothing that can layer, painting, ceramics, mementos that
A cruise? Make sure you consider mix and match. will forever remind you of your
what you both like to do and agree 14. Make lists of toiletries for both wonderful honeymoon.
on both the location and activities of you as well as additional items 31. Always use the safe in your hotel
you’ll both enjoy. appropriate for your destination. room.
3. Set a budget. Stay within that 15. Brides who want to get a few extra 32. Be on time to the airport. Be
budget. Around 1.4 million couples days out of a wedding hairstyle earlier than that. It’s good to have
in the United States depart for should pack a hair refreshing spray an early flight so you can have a
honeymoons around the world to tame static. Dry shampoos also Plan B if Plan A goes off schedule.
each year, spending an average of allow for a little refreshing of hair
$4,466 on the trip. between daytime adventures and 33. No trip is without a few hiccups.
evening dinner. Manage your expectations.
4. Know how many days you have for Recover from a disappointment
both travel and honeymoon. 16. Get a waist or neck wallet for easily. It’s these things that shape
valuables or cross-body shoulder how you deal with problems.
5. When planning their honeymoons, bag (to discourage theft).
couples can take steps to save 34. Sunscreen is a must whether
money. Consider delaying your trip 17. Have a tote for daytrips and extra you're traveling to the beaches of
until a few months. This can help items you’ll want to carry home. a tropical island or the slopes of
you get back on your financial feet a ski resort. Sunscreen will help
and enjoy a dream getaway. 18. Pack in advance.
prevent damaging and painful
6. Once you decide on a location, do 19. Arrange for pet care in advance. sunburns that can adversely affect
your research. Get air prices, hotel a trip.
20. Have someone retrieve your
options at various price points, mail and check on your house or 35. Check and re-check your packing
rental car costs, food estimates, apartment. list.
and incidentals.
21. Book a dinner or two in advance for 36. Pack a light fragrance. Heavy
7. Set an itinerary keep it interesting, less stress. perfumes have no business on
but also loose enough to allow for breezy honeymoon escapes. Find
some sleep and relaxation. 22. Book a tour or two in advance if a light, flowery scent or something
appropriate. tied to nature like citrus.
8. Consult a professional travel agent
or travel planner. 23. Make sure you have a medical kit 37. Pack a travel brow kit. Keep brows
for every possible mishap: allergies, tamed and looking great with mini-
9. Consider your departure day. Do irregularity, cuts or bruises, bug tweezers, brow filler and gel.
you really want a morning flight bites, headaches.
the day after your wedding? 48. Relax. Enjoy. Be safe and have fun!
24. Don’t forget to bring along any
medicines you may take daily.
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Honeymoon Packing List
Though not nearly as pressure-filled
as wedding planning, honeymoons do
require some planning to ensure a fun and
memorable trip. In a Bridal Guide survey,
wedding couples indicated they were most
likely to worry about wardrobe, swimsuits,
sunglasses, sunscreen, and luggage when
getting ready to depart.
Save yourself a last-minute scramble by

preparing ahead of time with this helpful
honeymoon packing list.
 assport and/or picture ID

P
 ravel documents
T
 irline tickets
A
 otel confirmation
H
 ash (even if you’re visiting an
C
all-inclusive resort!)
 rinted directions (just in case!)
P
 ne or two major credit cards
O
 raveler's checks
T
 amera and accessories
C  xtra eyeglasses or contacts
E  omfort products
C
and case
 amera charger
C  unscreen
S
 oiletries
T
spirin
 xtra camera batteries
E  A
 ace wash
F
unburn soothing cream
 xtra memory card
E  S
 air products
H
otion-sickness medication
 hone and charger
P  M
 akeup remover wipes
M
I nsect repellent
 lectrical converter (if traveling
E 
internationally)  air refreshing spray
H
 old-up travel bag
F
 olid-colored pants, shorts and
S  ry shampoo
D
 eck pillow for air travel
N
skirts  lotting papers
B
 mbrella or rain poncho
U
 ariety of tops and layers
V  ravel brow kit
T
 ork-out clothing (if you plan on
W
 hawl (some landmarks restrict
S  oothbrush
T visiting the resort’s fitness center)
access to women who aren’t
“modestly” covered)  oothpaste
T  ipper-top bags of various sizes
Z
 t least one dressier option
A  azors
R (great for storing wet swimsuits
or for protecting and sorting
 t least two swimsuits
A  having cream
S different items)
 andals if visiting the beach
S  otion
L  ross-body bag or neck wallet to
C
 edication(s) in original
M  ontact lens solution
C deter theft
container(s)  eminine hygiene products
F  ushioned insoles
C
 otton swabs
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After the Honeymoon
Couples who plan their own weddings might enjoy a  PICK UP LEFTOVER CAKE.
satisfactory exhale once the knot has been tied and the If you were unable to do so before leaving
last rug has been cut. Once guests head home and couples on your honeymoon, return to your
depart for their honeymoons, much of the work is done. But wedding reception venue to pick up any
there are some lingering tasks for couples once they return leftover cake. Many venues will store
from their first trip together as husband and wife. leftover wedding cakes in their freezers for
a reasonable amount of time until couples
return from their honeymoons, but make
 REVIEW YOUR PHOTOS. it a point to pick up your cake as soon as
Review photo proofs and any wedding videos. possible. It's customary to eat leftover cake,
Choose photos for your wedding album and order if you have any, on your first anniversary.
prints for yourself, family and friends.
 RETURN ANY RENTED OR
 SEND YOUR WEDDING BORROWED ITEMS.
ANNOUNCEMENT TO YOUR
LOCAL NEWSPAPER.  REVIEW YOUR VENDORS.
Many vendors now rely on Internet
 WRITE THANK YOU NOTES. reviews from past customers to help grow
Hand-write each note, personalizing it by their businesses, and it's a nice gesture for
mentioning the gift and how you will use it. Thank couples to offer their reviews once they
you notes should be sent within a month of the have returned from their honeymoons.
wedding. Such notes should be sent to all guests Chances are you relied on such reviews
who attended your wedding as well as those who when choosing vendors for your wedding,
could not attend but still gave gifts. Mail them all so return the favor by writing reviews and
at the same time so guests do not feel slighted if helping future couples find reliable vendors
their note arrives weeks after another's. who can help make their weddings special.
 PAY ANY OUTSTANDING  CHANGE YOUR NAME.

If the bride and/or groom have chosen to
WEDDING INVOICES. change their name, make sure to update the
following official documents and accounts.
 CLEAN/PRESERVE YOUR GOWN.
Take your gown to a professional cleaner to have • Automobile registration
it dry-cleaned and preserved. This should be done • Bank accounts
as soon as possible. The earlier you do this, the • Credit cards
easier it is to remove any stains that might have • Doctor and dental records
developed during your wedding. • Driver’s license
• 401(k)/retirement plans
 RETURN ANY REPEAT GIFTS.
Newly married couples often receive repeat gifts • Health, dental, life & auto insurance
or gifts they never put on their registries that they • IRS documents
simply have no use for. Return such gifts as soon • Investment accounts
as possible so your home is not overwhelmed with • Legal contracts
clutter. Upon returning gifts, you also can do a • Memberships
little shopping, as you will have money to spend.
• Mortgages
In addition, many stores give newly married
couples discounts on registry items that went • Passport
unpurchased, and the day you return gifts is a • Property titles or leases
great opportunity to cash in on such discounts. • Social Security card
• U.S. Postal Service
 DEPOSIT WEDDING-GIFT • Utility bills
CHECKS, BONDS, STOCK • Voter’s registration
CERTIFICATES, ETC. • Wills
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Writing Thank You Notes
So many friends and family members have • I f the gift was a registered item such as
showered you with gifts for your wedding. plates or glasses, tell them that your set
Now it’s time to write a proper thank you — to is now complete and you look forward
SO MANY friends and family! to having them over when they are in
town, or for the holidays, any upcoming
While your guests have a full year to send occasion you’ll be sharing with them.
a wedding present — you have essentially
only two weeks from the time you received • I f the gift was not on your wedding
a shower gift and three months for gifts registry, mention the gift and just how
received on or right after your wedding. Time you’ll use it.
is of the essence. The following are some tips
for making the thank you note process as
painless as possible.
• Order your thank you notes early. Buy
something nice, on fine stationery, such
as a monogrammed note card featuring
your new name. Try to be as consistent
as possible so each gift-giver receives
a similar card. Be sure to order a large
quantity depending on how many people
attended the wedding.
• Ask and ye shall receive. Friends with a
flair for organization can be in charge
of keeping a running list of gifts given
at various parties and special events so
thank you notes can be sent in a timely
manner.
• Set up an area in your house that allows
you to sit down comfortably and get the
job done, be it a desk or a tabletop. Make
sure your space allows you to do the
work, think the thoughts and put pen to
paper in a meaningful way.
• Have plenty of stamps — love stamps
with hearts or something fitting your
wedding theme to add flair to the
envelope.
• You’ll never get all your notes written in • Thank them for attending your
one sitting, so designate 30 minutes to an wedding and express how much it
hour each evening to get those thank you meant to you for them to come and
notes done. celebrate your special day.
• Make your note personal. Be specific •S
ign both of your names as the gifts
about the gift; tell them how you’ll use it were for both of you.
and why it means so much to you.
• I f you can get your spouse to help with
• If the gift was monetary, tell the gift-giver the thank you notes, definitely do so.
what you and your husband/wife are Share the work and the expressions of
saving for. love toward friends and family.
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Making it Official
While laws may vary from state to state, getting a
marriage license generally involves filling out the
application and paying a fee at the county clerk's
office. In Missouri, a marriage license is issued by the
Recorder of Deeds in each Missouri County. This
license is only valid in Missouri. You do not have to be
a resident of Missouri to apply for a marriage license.
NOTE: A license is not the same thing as a marriage
certificate! The certificate typically becomes available
after the ceremony has taken place and the witnesses
and officiant have signed off on the proceedings.
MARRIAGE LICENSE
REQUIREMENTS
• Both applicants must appear in
person before the recorder of deeds
or a deputy recorder and present
valid identification such as a driver's
license, passport or birth certificate,
along with a Social Security card, to
apply for a marriage license.
• Applicants for a marriage license
must be 18 years old.
• Applicants who are younger than 18
must have consent from a custodial
parent or guardian.
• Applicants who are younger than 15
must obtain a circuit court order.
• Applicants cannot be already married.
• Applicants may not be related by
blood – through and including first
cousins.
• Couples can pick up the license or
have it mailed to them. There may be
a waiting period between submitting
the application and the license being
issued. The license must be picked up
prior to the marriage ceremony.
• The officiant performing the marriage
ceremony must have the license prior
to performing the ceremony.
• The officiant/person performing the
marriage ceremony will return the
license to the issuing Recorder of
Deeds within 15 days of performing
the marriage.
• If a marriage does not occur, the
license will be void 30 days after date
of issue.
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THE PERFECT DAY: SHORT HAIRSTYLES THE DO IT YOURSELF

PUBLISHER Page 20 BOUQUETS WEDDING DAY

Melody’s Quality Jewelry, located in downtown Mexico, Missouri, specializes

 SET THE DATE.  COMPOSE YOUR GUEST LIST.

 SELECT YOUR COLOR SCHEME.  SELECT A BAKER AND ORDER

 CHOOSE YOUR CATERER.

 CHOOSE YOUR MUSICIAN(S).

“At Fairytale Events, we make your wedding dreams come true!”

 REGISTER FOR GIFTS AT ONE OR C

 CHOOSE AND RESERVE A  PROVIDE FOOD VENDORS AN

 OBTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE.

 CONTINUE WRITING THANK YOU

 ATTEND AND ENJOY THE

WEDDING START TIME

CUTTING THE CAKE

ALL VENDORS OUT

INVITATION OPTION TWO

INVITATION OPTION THREE

1. STAMP AND ADDRESS YOUR

2. STUFF ENVELOPES WITH THE

3. HAVE ONE INVITATION PACKAGE

4. STAMP & MAIL OUTER ENVELOPES.

TRY ON GOWNS FOR MOTIVATION

STICK TO YOUR FITNESS PLAN

A perfect dress for your perfect day

PLUNGING V-NECK BALL GOWN

THE BOTTOM LINE

GET SIZED CORRECTLY

FIND THE RIGHT UNDERGARMENTS

TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS CHECK THE DETAILS

FLOWER GIRL MAID OF HONOR

WEDDING DATE: LOCATION:

NO. OF GUESTS: NO. IN WEDDING PARTY:

RINGS BUDGET ACTUAL

PHOTO/VIDEO BUDGET ACTUAL BUDGET ACTUAL

GRAND TOTAL BUDGET: ACTUAL:

DEVELOP AN INITIAL GUEST LIST

DON'T COUNT ON GIFTS

WEDD ING WEDDING

HAVE GUESTS SIGN A LABEL

MAKE A CAKE REPLICA

feeling your most beautiful.

Pricing on Location: We’ll Travel to You!

Trial Appointment at Salon:

BEAUTIFULLY EVER AFTER1614 North Morley, Moberly, MO • 660.263.7920 • [email protected] • www.imsalonandspa.com

ook your expert makeup service today.

Let Merle Norman

BEAUTIFULLY EVER AFTER

Book your expert makeup service today. @MerleNorman

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EXPERIMENT WITH COLOR

BRAIDS AND PLAITS

THE DAY AFTER

THE BRIDE'S FATHER THE GROOM'S FATHER

THE BEST MAN GROOMSMAN 1

LET HIS STYLE DICTATE THE METAL

LET HIS HOBBIES DICTATE THE STYLING

REHEARSAL DINNER FAQ

CHOOSE IN-SEASON AND Floral Gallery

 SELECT YOUR COLOR SCHEME.  SELECT A BAKER AND ORDER

 REGISTER FOR GIFTS AT ONE OR C

 CHOOSE AND RESERVE A  PROVIDE FOOD VENDORS AN

 CONTINUE WRITING THANK YOU

 ATTEND AND ENJOY THE

1. STAMP AND ADDRESS YOUR

2. STUFF ENVELOPES WITH THE

3. HAVE ONE INVITATION PACKAGE

4. STAMP & MAIL OUTER ENVELOPES.

• TWO SEPARATE CEREMONIES:

• ONE BLENDED CEREMONY:

irline flight tickets, if you’re

DIETARY OPTIONS COVERED: egetarian

 assport and/or picture ID

 PAY ANY OUTSTANDING  CHANGE YOUR NAME.