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June
Cover Stories
32 Texts From
an Ex
35 Your Sexiest
Summer
69 Sex You Crave!
78 Hot Guys +
Surfboards
90 This Cuddle
Position Seals
Inside Your Bond
4 way more 108 The Down-There
cosmo Ache You Should
6 editor’s letter Never Ignore
10 best month
ever
16 the quickie
18 cosmo guy
20 on my mind
23
35
53
too funny!
style
beauty
126
Kesha like you’ve
never seen her
69 love & sex
99 wellness
115 work + play
126 features
152 horoscopes
154 all about you
155 shopping info
156 cosmo quiz
Cover Info
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jacket. Joanna Laura Constantine
bracelet. Child of Wild ring (ring
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For decades, Cosmo
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to be fun and fearless.
But even we know that feeling fearless
24/7/365 is impossible. (I mean,
unless you were born without a
survival instinct!) Our real objective
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take a risk, we’ve packed this issue
with even more motivating content
than usual. You might start by
flipping to the back (page 156) and
taking our quiz “How Fearless Are
You?” Then share with me how you
plan to summon your fearless side
this summer. And remember: She
who dares, wins....
Michele Promaulayko
Editor-in-Chief / @MichProm
Write to me at [email protected].
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Loves burgers with bacon. I hate going to dinner with people
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Why Success Is
Not a Straight Line
By Tyra Banks
After years of being the It
At the start of my career, I the Out Girl. I went home

lived in a “two body” world.
One was full of beautiful white I wanted to keep modeling,
girls who would excitedly be like
“OMG, you are so skinny!” The
other was my beautiful African-
American community of friends to stop it. Soon we were sitting angels. It wasn’t long after that
and family, who were always try- in our favorite pizza place at our that I was asked to pose for
ing to fatten me up. So when I usual table in the corner, and Sports Illustrated’s Swimsuit
gained weight around the age of Mama took out a pen and paper issue, which was a huge deal for Tyra turned
22, after years of successful run- and handed it to me. me as well. All these years later, her setbacks
way modeling, I didn’t care. All “Now,” she said, “write down I am still doing what I love. into big
opportunities.
the black people clapped their every client in the industry that So straight up, this is what
hands, like my body was coming likes ass.” I learned: When a career
along nicely and I’d finally “Ass?” opportunity looks like it might
started listening to what they’d “Who likes that ass?!” she turn out to be a dead end,
been telling me since I was 12. demanded. don’t turn around and go home.
The modeling world, on By the time we’d finished Success is not a straight line; it
the other hand, felt differently. our pizza, I had a list of is a winding road. There are all
They weren’t happy. In fact, commercial clients who booked sorts of curves and roadblocks
they were pissed. the bold and bootyful. I sat and traffic jams. The important
I will never forget a certain back and looked at the list, thing is to keep going. Climb,
man from the industry and the now mottled with grease stains crawl, leapfrog, high-jump,
look on his face as I sat across and dots of tomato sauce, and pole-vault, catapult—do what-
from him at lunch. I thought he I slowly started to smile. My ever you gotta do to get and stay
was about to tell me I’d booked career didn’t have to be over. It where you need to be. And if you
a huge job, but he said, shaking just had to be different. get a few scrapes and bruises
his head, “You’ve had your I stopped focusing on along the way, cherish them.
moment. There are only about runway work and started to Those are your scars from the
two or three girls who can think of other places to model… journey and show how hard you
become icons every 10 years, yes, even catalogs. I ended up worked to get where you are.
and you couldn’t possibly do getting booked to do the Victo- Oh, and don’t forget to smize.
that. You can be a catalog girl ria’s Secret catalog, which was
now.” The words flew out of new at the time. That first shoot
his mouth so fast that I knew turned into a 10-year contract,
this was the speech he pulled and that catalog became a very
out of his files for just such an big deal. I became the first black
GET T Y IMAGES.
occasion. This was the “You is girl on the cover, which turned
over, bitch” lunch. into my being one of the original
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Celeb
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“One morning “My room-

after a night mate went
out, my best out drinking “I went to school
friend and I with her for musical
woke up in team. She theater, and I
our friend’s invited me had a professor
apartment. to join, but I who was a bit
She couldn’t find wasn’t in the uptight. We
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bered that the for a sec. My freeze so they
night before, we pants felt wet. I could light
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practice some my water bottle gestured to
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learned in pole- leotard. My
“My bestie and I pretended to be dance fitness
was pulling my
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British on vacay. We met new class since the
apartment had
the chair when I
smelled it. My
time looking my
professor in the
friends and kept the act going.… a pole installed. I roommate had eye after that!”
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we’d made up and even came up night, so she let
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MARKETING DIRECTOR,
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like really loud and ugly. Everyone saw, and I was so embarrassed.” —BLYTHE L., 26
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coworkers, so I changed into a really
short black dress. We were walking,
and I had my backpack on. A guy
started yelling at me and pointing. I
thought I’d dropped something, but
my backpack had lifted up my dress
and everyone could see my ass!”
—MICHELLE N., 29, CHEMIST, SAN FRANCISCO, CA
“I was on
a class trip
with my “My then-boy-
crush. When friend and I
we got to our were getting
destination, ready to go to
someone a family picnic.
got carsick We were feel-
and threw ing frisky, and
up on the I went down
street. When on him. When
we unloaded he finished—
the bus, bam—some
everyone got in my eye! I
was standing tried to redo my
around, makeup. We
and I noticed finally got to the
my crush picnic, where
kept looking everything was
over at me going smoothly
and pointing
until his mom
with his friend. I
put me on the
thought he
spot by asking
was checking
‘What happened
me out, and I
to your eye?’ I
grabbed my
said, ‘Oh, I poked
friend to let her
myself with my
know. She told
eyeliner pencil.’
me I was stand-
Meanwhile, my
ing in vomit,
BF was laughing
and that’s why
with his brother
he was pointing.
because he
We later ended
had told him
up dating, but
what happened.
he never let me
I couldn’t face
live it down.”
his brother for a
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“In high school,
there was a
guy in my
class who had
a pretty big
crush on me.
I agreed to
go out with
“I drove to him. When he
his place picked me up,
and parked he informed
behind his me that it
building. As I was one of his
was walking in, he parents’ birth-
called me to say I days, and
couldn’t park we were all
where I had. Then going out to
he came out and a restaurant
told me to parallel “I had just to celebrate.
park on the street. moved to Thinking
The curb was England and it was a joke,
sticking out and, went out I laughed. He was
somehow, with a cute not kidding. His
slashed my tire. British man. “I got a promotion, and “We met parents were
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apartment, and I pretty good. We
the guy I was seeing took a date to for me! I was so
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Then I invited
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his bed. Then his apologizing for believed in the
mom called to say
place. That was didn’t stop whining about the traffic, so I sanctity of saving
going well too…
she was on her until he asked how expensive it was! waited. He kept sex for marriage.
way home. He calling every OMG, it was bad.”
me to pee on Btw, I took him out once
told me to leave, him. Deal breaker few minutes to —JOSIE G., 21
so I had to wait right there.” when he got promoted say how angry he
outside alone in —GABBY G., 20 and I didn’t complain. He was that there
the cold for AAA. was no parking.
I spent $230 on a made me feel awful the Then he called
new tire! Ugh.” whole time. I cried and left.” and accused me
—BRITNI J., 20
—ASHLEY O., 27
of purposely pick-
ing a place that’s
busy. Then he
called again to say
that I’m a weirdo
and he’s leaving.
Woof!” —EMILY H., 32
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Yesterday, 12:13 P.M.
Hey
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from me again.
This isn’t happening.
Today 7:11 P.M.
I’m horny. Why?
Because, last time,

you ate pizza in the
middle of having
3 sex and then threw
up all over my
Can I borrow your clothes
dog for a date?
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never ask again!
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out there, but would you
I told this girl on want to have a 3-some
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dog, and now we’re If not i understand. We
supposed to be actually don’t swing, but
going on a hiking she wants to and I told
date with him. her about you.
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Hey, enough trash talk

about millennials being
the hookup generation.
Plenty of single women have Fisher, PhD. This can be a stealth “I just love
been seeing and having sex with strategy for eventually finding how I don’t
whomever they want, whenever your spouse (if you want one) have to ask
about your
they want, at least since Cosmo’s without missing out on potential mom.”
beloved late HBIC Helen Gurley candidates. “You’re also learn-
Brown wrote the book on it ing about yourself and putting
(Sex and the Single Girl, 1962). your life in order, so that if you do
Back then, it was controver- walk down that aisle, you know
sial for women to casually date what you’ve got, you want what
or have uncommitted sex. But you’ve got, and you can keep
today? It should be anything but. what you’ve got,” says Fisher.
Pop culture is full of women For those uninterested in
getting theirs with no strings a long-term love, playing the
attached. Issa Rae’s character proverbial field can just be pure
on Insecure juggles what she fun. “Hooking up can make
calls a hotation of men. And on you feel alive, happy, and satis-
The Bold Type, journalist Jane fied,” says Justin Garcia, PhD, The percentage of
Sloan expands her sexual expe- a sex researcher at the Kinsey people who say they
have no regrets
riences by periodically hooking Institute and scientific adviser having a friend
up with a sexy coworker. to Match. You’re still getting with benefits.
SOURCE: MATCH’S EIGHTH ANNUAL
Real women are also in on the romantic and sexual highs while SINGLES IN AMERICA SURVEY
action. Forty percent of singles giving a metaphorical middle

in the U.S. have dated more than finger to society’s traditional
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one person at a time, and 55 per- standards of what your love
cent have had a friends-with- life should look like. In these
benefits arrangement, according increasingly “you do you” times,
to Match’s eighth annual Singles that can feel amazing.
in America survey. All this said, keeping things
“These days, millennials are casual comes with parameters
extending periods of casual and and some must-follow safety and
precommitment dating in order etiquette rules. Heed this advice
to explore their options,” says to feel carefree and empowered
Match’s chief scientific adviser, if you’re going to manage mul-
biological anthropologist Helen tiple hotties this summer.
C O S M O P O L I TA N J U N E 2 0 1 8 By Julie Vadnal
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CASUAL
DATING
The Rules
You Must
Follow
On dating apps
and in person,
tell interested
parties that
PROS you’re not looking
for anything seri-
Dating without any long-term ous or that you’re
expectations allows you to ask dating casually.
someone to hang out last-minute (You can even
state this verba-
and eases the pressure to go on tim in your bio.)
full-fledged outings. And with no
consistent plans, you can focus If a date asks
you if you’re
on your career, friends, family,
seeing other
hobbies, and goals—aspects of life people, be
young women today are less likely honest and say
to drop for romance compared to yes. Otherwise,
you’re entering
previous generations, says Fisher. sketchy and
Commitment-free dating can hurtful territory.
also help you identify your romantic
Keep your
deal breakers without wasting time
hangs strictly
in a dead-end relationship. As Ann, one-on-one.
28, says, “Why not meet as many Inviting someone
people as possible? I’m seeing three to a party, group
dinner, or wed-
now, but I’m technically single.” ding is a firm
CONS no-go that can

make lines blurry.
Mastering a rotation of dates takes
Space out the
work. “For some, the anxiety over- time between
shadows any reward they get out of dates with each
it,” says Zhana Vrangalova, PhD, an person—once
every two weeks
adjunct professor of psychology at is ideal to keep
New York University and founder things very chill.
of the Casual Sex Project. One
Maintain a solid
moment still haunts Laura, 33,
rotation of two
who was dating two guys at once or more romantic
and sent a suggestive text to the interests so you
wrong dude. “I tried to play it off, don’t become
fixated on one in
but he knew what was up!” particular.
And then, there’s the dilemma
known as the paradox of choice. Keep track of
the dates you’ve
As Kate, 32, explains, “Instead of
already made in
actually getting to know someone, your phone’s
it forces comparisons.” calendar app.
And don’t book
back-to-back
plans with
HUSH THE SHAMERS If friends or family are judging your liberal love life, different people
block their negativity by showing your excitement, says Karley Sciortino, on the same
author of Slutever. Rock a huge smile and say, “Can you believe it? I’m dating night—it’s rude!
multiple people. Yay, me!” Your positive vibes will be contagious.
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CASUAL “Thank
SEX
you for
granting me
carnal
visitation
rights.”
PROS
Consensual boning without
commitment—whether it’s
with a one-night stand, a
several-nights stand, or an
FWB setup—can transform
your sex life. “It’s an amazing
form of self-exploration,” says
Sciortino. In fact, a 2014 study
found that those who are cool
with agreed-upon no-strings
sex report lower stress and
greater overall well-being after
a hookup. Talk about benefits!
And getting it on sans long-
term ties can be a great way to
test the boundaries of your
sexuality and discover new
turn-ons, tricks, and ways to
orgasm. If both of you are into
trying out a sex toy or different
fantasies, great! If not, NBD...
it’s not like you need to be
compatible in the bedroom for
the long haul.
Your assertiveness between
the sheets will probably get a
boost too. “Casual sex helped
me become more confident,
more self-sufficient, and more
communicative,” says Grace,
31. “I now know that I
consistently want dudes to go
The Rules You Must Follow
down on me first before Make sure your hookup Use protection Let your partner
anything else. I’ve also learned motivation revolves around every single know you’re sleeping
your own pleasure…versus a time with every with other people,
that I’m not into dirty talk.” drive to make someone want single partner. and make sure to share
you more or because it seems Always. your latest STI results
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CONS
Having consensual
casual sex can take you
on an emotional roller
coaster—one you don’t have
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much control over. Biologically
speaking, genital stimulation
and orgasm cause a rise in
dopamine and oxytocin. These
percent of single people agree
that birth control or condoms
must be used in a noncommitted
hookup situation.
SOURCE: MATCH’S EIGHTH ANNUAL SINGLES IN AMERICA SURVEY
he Love
Story of
Alexander
Hamilton &
Elizabeth
Schuyler
neurotransmitters encourage
bonding and can create a warm, because any sexual behavior
romantic fondness for your puts you at risk,” says Garcia.
bedroom buddy. “If you really However, more partners do
don’t want to have any of these equal more exposure to
feelings, you might have to potential infections. You
question if casual sex is a can mitigate this by always
behavior you want to be being forthright about the
engaging in,” says Garcia. fact that you’re sleeping with
Of course, there are also other people. As Kathryn,
super-important safety 33, says, “I want to be
concerns. “I’m always cautious thoughtful toward the
about saying that you’re people I’m with. I’m up-front
putting yourself at a higher and honest, and I always
risk for STIs in a hookup, use protection.”
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If something shifts in your casual
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convo. Follow these scripts for when…
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can blossom from ready to get serious with now feels loaded, you’ve
casual sex. If you’re
both game, someone else or don’t just given yourself an
talk next steps want to continue. out…or the opportunity
together. W H AT T O S AY: “This for them to consider
was so fun, but I’m not in getting more serious.
a place where I want to
keep things going.”
W H Y I T W O R K S : You’re
They Want
offering up a positive but Something More
Quick, Easy, and Fun also being clear. If you’re Don’t ignore the signs,
Sex Moves cool with staying like when they make
friends, say so, but don’t references to future
promise anything you plans or ask you to meet
don’t really mean. their friends. Pipe up
and be honest that
You’re Catching you’re not on the same
page, says Sciortino.
Feelings W H AT T O S AY: “I
Bring it up when you’re enjoy hanging out with
not between the sheets, you, but I don’t want a
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doesn’t feel
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and neither of you entry allows for
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And as these pros “It’s my
and amateur bros prove, “Sex is all about adapting dream to get
surfers care about more and flowing through with a surfer
than their next shred. movements and being girl. They’re
We asked them what spontaneous at the same so mellow,
time. Riding a wave is a and I love
makes a dream date, sex the sand in
on the beach, and sandy lot like that. You have to
work with what the wave is my bed. ;)”
sheets so awesome.
doing to make it magical.” —JOEY SOBOLESKI, 19,
@JOEYSOBOLESKI
—ELISHAMA BECKFORD, 21,
@SHAMA_THE_SUPERMAN
C O S M O P O L I TA N J U N E 2 0 1 8 By Faye Brennan and Hannah Kaplan
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“I find women who surf sexy, and
they’re also inspiring to other women.
They are also in amazing shape.” “My GF is just
— GARREN PETER PRYCE (FAR LEFT), 23, @GARRENPRYCE95, WITH
ELISHAMA BECKFORD AND IVAH WILMONT, 21, @IVAH_THE_GREAT
the smiliest,
most support-
ive, funny,
always-there-
after-a-loss-
or-a-win
person. She’s
really good to
have by my
side out at
contests.”
—PRO SURFER
JORDY COLLINS, 19,
@JORDY_COLLINS
“I like a girl
who is really
social, has a
beautiful
personality,
and is a good
listener.”
—PRO SURFER
NOA MIZUNO, 20,
@NOAMIZUNO
“Sex on the
B E C K F O R D : C O R E Y H A M I LT O N . S I M O N : A A R O N J E S S E E .
beach is a must.
Two things
“When you surf, you that you
absolutely need
have a lot of stamina, are a lot of
blankets and a
flexibility, and strength— portable speaker
to maintain
all of which work well in the mood.”
—GULO SIMON, 25,
@GULO_SIMON
the bedroom.”
— JEFF OTSUKI, 25, @_JEFFOTSUKI
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Satisfy
Your
Sexual
Hunger
Make Sex
Sweeter, Not
Messier
Dedicate one top bedsheet
to food play, suggests
Megan Fleming, PhD. “Then
throw it straight in the laundry.”
This way, you won’t sleep on
sticky, stained linens
when you fall into a deep
food and postsex
slumber.
SEX
Sploshing: Sounds kinda gross, but it

can actually be really sexy. It’s the act of
Hell, No!
Grapefruit
playing with food to arouse your (and 4 FOODS The grapefruit BJ—immor-
your partner’s) carnal appetite. TO EAT talized by Tiffany Haddish’s
BEFORE SEX
But before you start hauling groceries character in Girls Trip—
into bed, know that only certain eats involves cutting a hole into
are pleasure inducing. Others are just the citrus fruit and then
sliding it, along with your
a straight-up mess…or even hazardous. mouth, up and down his
Then there’s the golden rule of frisky penis. The technique went
food play: Safe sustenance can go all over Honey viral online, but IRL it’s not
the body but almost never inside the contains boron, so hot. The juices can cause
vagina, where it could cause infection, a mineral that a painful burning sensa-
helps regulate
says New York ob-gyn Alyssa Dweck, MD, estrogen and
tion in a guy’s urethra. “Steer
clear,” warns Dr. Dweck.
coauthor of The Complete A to Z for testosterone
and may boost
Your V. Follow this guide to naughty nibbles. sexual arousal. Veggies
Although cucumbers and
carrots may seem like cheap
pleasure. Trail the cold pop sex-toy alternatives, never
Eff, Yes! along his penis before taking

him in your mouth. The quick
temperature shift can push Watermelon
is high in citrul-
rub them around or in
your vagina. There’s likely
bacteria on their surfaces
Chocolate Sauce his climax to new heights. line, an amino that can cause infection.
Just a drizzle makes naked acid that primes “There are enough amazing
skin taste sinful, and it Avocado your nether vibrators out there that you
regions for sex.
contains phenylethylamine, “It is full of vitamins E and B, shouldn’t need a vegetable,”
a compound linked to which can increase your adds Dr. Dweck.
dopamine, a chemical your energy later,” says sex and
brain releases when you’re relationship therapist Megan Cinnamon
in love. Have your partner Fleming, PhD. (Ideal for The spice is a desiccant,
spread some on your breasts round two!) Place a slice on which means it dries tissue
and lap it up, suggests sexolo- your lips, neck, collarbone, quickly. If it gets on your
gist Susan Block, PhD. breasts, and inner thighs, and Pomegranate vulva or in your V, it could
seeds can raise
ask your mate to eat up while the body’s level cause irritation or inflam-
Pineapple going down. of nitric oxide, mation. Keep it away from
Eating the tart tropical fruit helping with your guy’s urethra too. “Put-
engorgement
several hours before sex can Coconut Oil and girth.
ting cinnamon in any orifice
sweeten the taste of your (and The slippery stuff has a other than the mouth is not
bae’s) sexual fluids, says Block. consistency similar to vagi- advised,” says Dr. Dweck.
And sharing a piece during a nal fluid, so it can act as a
morning make-out can mask titillating natural lubricant. Hot Sauce
A N D I E L LO WAY/ T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.
any less arousing flavors. Slather some on his shaft and Be like Bey and keep some
stroke him with your hand in your bag—then make
Coffee
Ice Pops (penis colada, anyone?). If a will increase sure it stays there. Spicy
Oh look, your own melty little gets inside you, that’s dopamine chili sauces can burn your
phallus! Drive your guy crazy okay. Coconut oil may be the levels and help skin and cause extremely
stimulate
by teasing what’s to come. one food that doesn’t wreak unpleasant internal and
blood flow…
Suck on the icy stick, then vag havoc, says Dr. Dweck. everywhere. external irritations for both
rub the tip against your nip- (Just don’t use it with a latex of you. It’s an absolute
ples, stimulating your own condom, which could break.) no-no in the bedroom. Q
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SEX
The dirty talk

he’s whispering?
Yeah, the driver
can hear it too.
They Did
F R O M T O P : A M A N D A M A R S A L I S / T R U N K A R C H I V E; M A R I O S I E R R A / T R U N K A R C H I V E . T H E S E A R E P R O F E S S I O N A L M O D E L S .
What in Welcome Wagon
On one of my
first weekends
Third-Wheeling
More recently,
I drove two guys
This Guy’s driving, two

women started making out
in the back of my car. Next
and a girl who
had just come from a party.
The guys started telling me
Car?!
Harry Campbell, 31, drives for
thing I know, they both had
their tops off! I was trying
to keep my eyes on the road
instead of looking in the
rearview but kept glancing
about the threesome they’d
just had with a different
girl. Basically, one of the
guys met the girl, and they
started having sex in a bed-
two of the biggest ride-share back at them like, “Uh, room when his friend
services out there. Cosmo asked what’s going on?” Obvi- walked in. The girl asked if
ously, they liked each other, he wanted to join, so they
him to fess up about the over- but I think they thought it all ended up together. The
the-top and hilarious antics that was funny to make me ner- girl in the car kept apolo-
have gone down—maybe even vous and uncomfortable. gizing to me about the level
literally—in his backseat. They started cracking jokes of detail they were sharing,
and asking if I’d ever seen and the guys said, “Oh, he
two girls kiss before. That’s doesn’t care. I’m sure he
when I thought, Man, this hears it all the time!” And I
is going to be a crazy job. was like, “No…I don’t.”
C O S M O P O L I TA N J U N E 2 0 1 8 As told to Danielle Kam
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SEX
Your Rides, Rated

Fast and Furious We ranked readers’ weird
It’s really funny how many and wild ride-share moments
couples fight in my car. on a scale from 1 (tame) to
5 (scandalous!) stars.
Sometimes, they even ask
me to pick a side! A pretty common Sitting Next to TMI
argument goes like this: The girl “I’ve overheard so many ladies
says, “You embarrassed me in front dissect lame texts from guys
of my friends.” The guy, who is obvi- during pool rides. I wanted to
ously tanked, says, “What are you tell them that these men are
talking about? I’m fine. I can handle textbook losers. Girl, you can
my liquor.” Then she’ll say to me, definitely do better!”
“What do you think? Do you think —NICOLE, 25, PHILADELPHIA, PA
he’s drunk?” I try to stay out of it and

usually mumble something along the
lines of “Well, I’ve seen worse.” Pls Lose My Number
“After my ride, the driver
texted me an invite to his
Risky Business reggae concert, but I
People do stupid shit all straight-up ghosted him.”
—ALISE, 28, BERKELEY, CA
the time—sticking their
heads out the window and
opening doors while the car is mov-
ing. One time, a couple got in, and I The Hangover Drive-Thru
think they were playing some sort of “Ugh, one night, I vommed
dare game. When we stopped at a red while in my ride-share. I rolled
light, they stripped down to their down the window and threw
underwear and ran around the car to up as the car was moving.
switch seats. They got back in like
Luckily, it was raining so the
puke was washed away.”
nothing had happened. Their desti-
—JEN, 24, BOSTON, MA
nation was right down the road so I
didn’t say anything.
Big Little Lie
“This hot driver picked me
Therapy a-Go-Go up at my hookup’s place. We
Most passengers don’t started talking, and I didn’t
want to talk, but I’ve had want him to know I’d been
some pretty deep convos with another guy, so I lied. But
with ones who did—a lot talk about when the driver and I ended
their relationship troubles. Once, a up dating, I confessed.”
rider told me about how she and her —TAYLOR, 24, KANSAS CITY, MO
boyfriend had just broken up and

she was torn up over it. I gave her this
wisdom from my own experience: Fogging Up the Windows!
When you break up with someone, “Once, my guy and I got a little
it’s always painful initially because too comfy in the backseat. We
you’ve invested a lot of emotions into started making out furiously.
the relationship, but in time, you I was wearing a short skirt, and
heal. For a lot of passengers, I’m an well, you can imagine what
anonymous person they’re probably happened—and what the guy
in the front seat saw!”
never going to see again, so that’s
—LAUREN, 28, LONG ISLAND, NY
why some occasionally open up and
vent. After those types of talks, I feel
like I’ve actually helped them out.
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sex
Q+A
A_ Allow us to whip out some
textbook speak: An orgasm is
defined as involuntary muscle
contractions that cause a release
of sexual tension in and around
the genitals. In the lead-up to
one, you’ll typically notice your
heart beating faster and your
breathing getting heavier, and
Honest answers to your most private questions you might even feel your clito-
ris start to swell up. Relax and
go with the sensations. “It’s easy
I’ve masturbated a few to focus so much on orgasm-
ing that you psych yourself
times...but I’m not sure out of having one,” says Logan
Levkoff, PhD, a sex and relation-
if I’ve ever orgasmed. ship expert for Trojan Brand
Condoms. Enjoy the ride and a
How will I know? climax is more likely to arrive.
Oh, you’ll
feel totally
shook.
SEX
Is it gross to go down E-mail your

on my guy after he’s sex questions
to SexQandA
been inside me? @Cosmopolitan
A_ Depends on your definition .com.
of gross. Health-wise, getting compromise?

vaginal matter in your mouth, A
even if you have a yeast or bacte-
rial infection, doesn’t pose a risk, hormones (w
says ob-gyn Sherry Ross, MD,
author of She-Ology. But what’s
more important, if you have an
STI, such as chlamydia, gonor-
rhea, syphilis, or HPV, you can
transmit it to your own mouth
or throat by giving your guy a BJ
after P-in-V penetration. And if
you’re having anal sex, you abso-
lutely must wash him off before
switching to oral or vaginal sex.
Not only is getting fecal matter
in your mouth a hundred per-
cent nasty, but it can also make
you very, very sick. scan to shop
but it makes my leg squeeze your erect nipple
Ugh, I’m allergic to muscles burn. Help! tissue. That’s a good thing
everything. What’s my A_ Option A: Spin around into (promise!), because nip stim-
safest lube option? reverse-cowgirl with your feet ulation floods your body with
A_ Look for a tube that is on the bed beside your partner’s oxytocin, a neurotransmit-
labeled organic or unscented. legs. Then arch your back and ter that’s connected to sexual
In general, these will be bet- use your hands on either side of pleasure, orgasm, and bond-
ter for sensitive zones than his bod for support. “This way, ing, says Allison. And studies
other versions. For example, you’re not sitting on your bent show that boob play acti-
Good Clean Love Almost legs, which can cause cramping vates the same area of your
Naked Lubricant is organic, from lack of blood flow,” says brain as genital touching
fragrance-free, vegan, and also sexologist Sadie Allison, does. For your first time, try
free of petroleum, silicone, founder of TickleKitty.com. an adjustable pair (like Eve’s
parabens, and glycerin. It won’t Option B: Switch positions Naughty Nipple Clamps,
disrupt your down-there pH Good Clean Love every three minutes—cowgirl, $20, adameve.com) so you
or healthy-bacteria balance, so Almost Naked reverse-cowgirl, etc.—to give can test different pressures
Lubricant, $10,
you can glide worry-free. amazon.com your muscles enough rest. until it feels just right.
K E N N E T H W I L L A R D T/ T R U N K A R C H I V E . G E T T Y I M A G E S .
It’s an oddly scary-sounding name for a really NBD thing. Allorgasmia

WTF IS... happens when you’re having sex with your significant other but find yourself
fantasizing about someone else (ahhh, Ryan Gosling) in order to get off. This
Allorgasmia? doesn’t mean you like your mate any less, says sexologist Emily Morse, host of
the Sex With Emily podcast. “Think about it like this: You aren’t replacing your
physical connection with your partner. You’re enhancing it by tapping into
your fantasies.” If it’s not leading to obsession, anxiety, or reactions that could
hurt your relationship, says Morse, let your allorgasmia out to play.

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By Julie Vadnal C O S M O P O L I TA N J U N E 2 0 1 8
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all about
men “I’d be on a
plane with an
adult cheerlead-
ing team…and find
out one of them
wants to do me in
the bathroom.”
—ADAM H., 22
His Summer
Sex Wish
We asked these dudes how
they want to get it on in the heat.
Let their answers inspire you!
“Good sex
outside but in
complete privacy.
Maybe on a hill with
the sun shining
or in the woods
camping.”
—JOHN M., 21
Weird Things
Guys Wonder
About Women
They’re more clueless
than you think.…
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THE LOVE COACH
M AT T H E W H U S S E Y
“Sex in a
downpour.
What They Mean
Getting soaked
would be 1 2 3
better than
shower sex.” “I’m Not Sure “You Deserve “We’re Just
—JESSE M., 28 What I Want” Better” Very Different
Translation: “I’m Translation: “I’m People”
not ready for a real going to hurt you, Translation: “Things
relationship with and if I bail now, about you drive
you.” He sees I’ll feel less guilty me crazy.” He’s
himself as needing about it later.” saying he doesn’t
more time to He either feels like want to work
either live as a he’s taking on the problems.
“In Saint bachelor or get his advantage of you, He’s throwing
Tropez. Great career together. or he sees he isn’t in the towel,
convo, drinks, He can’t say for as emotionally and he’s probably
good music, certain if he really invested emotionally
and an amazing wants you. in it as you are. checked out.
vibe.”
—ARNIE S., 20
Want to know exactly what behaviors make him pull away in dating?
Download Matthew’s free guide at WhyHesGone.com.
The Bond- “He’ll

want to
Boosting protect me
fur-ever.”
N I N A D U N C A N / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.
Cuddle
FRENCH FRIES: SHUT TERSTOCK.
When he’s the big spoon, he

KIT TENS: GET T Y IMAGES.
“Having literally has your back by

sex while
skinny-dipping creating a wall of safety around
with a group—
except nobody you. The protective pose
knows but us.”
—FRANK C., 20
makes him feel closer to you.
And spooning is a precursor to
intercourse, which also boosts
your bond, says body-
language expert Patti Wood.
“Bath bombs. “It’s funny when girls “Why do you “I never understand “Why do women
They’re stretch in random wear choker why it takes so long to have hair-tie
soaking in places. You’ll be necklaces?” put on makeup in the collections
dirty, colored talking, and suddenly, —JACK K., 20 morning. What is all that slowly
water.” they’re bending like it’s that stuff anyway?” vanish?”
—PAT K., 24 a yoga class.” —ARNIE S., 20 —DENNIS L., 20 —JOSEPH Q., 25
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LOVE
Ask Him Anything

Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
Looks picture-
perfect.
Feels totally
awkward.
Do men like receiving

sexts at work, or is it a
I went out with this totally unsexy time?
A_ That’s like asking if a guy
guy, and he could would enjoy getting a box of
doughnuts at work. He doesn’t
not stop adjusting expect or need them, but hey,
if doughnuts happen to show
his junk! Is it really up on his desk, he’s gonna love
them. Just make sure it’s not
that hard not to going to pop up on his work
computer and embarrass him
touch yourself for in the middle of a PowerPoint
presentation. If you’re wor-
an hour? ried, test the waters with “Okay
if I send you something dirty
now?” If he says no, then resist
the urge. And if he says yesss,
then the anticipation will only
turn him on more.
I’ve known for a long

time I don’t want kids,
but my fiancé thinks it’s
just a phase. How do I
get through to him?
A_ This sort of big topic My husband is insecure
calls for scheduling a big about his body. What
conversation. If you’ve been can I do to show him I
dropping casual hints—like still find him super hot?
a quip in the middle of an A_ Flattery works, but most
R O B E R T W H I T M A N / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. G U Y: G E T T Y I M A G E S .
unrelated convo—he might men don’t like it when you go

“Yup. Still not be catching them or taking overboard with a compliment.
there.”
your stance all that seriously. Don’t tell him he’s so ripped, he
Instead, tell him, “Tonight, I makes Michael B. Jordan look
really want to stay in and have like Urkel. Instead, buy him a
a serious talk to make sure new shirt and say he looks sexy
A_ No, it’s not that hard. Sure, it can get a you know where I’m coming in it. Or when you’re lying in
little uncomfortable down there on occasion— from about this kids topic.” bed at night, you can rub his
particularly if you’ve just been a little overzeal- Don’t let him blow you off. In back and tell him that you love
ous with the body grooming and the pubes are order for something to truly his body, it turns you on, and
prickly. But every man on earth knows that sink in, sometimes men need sometimes, you even crave it.
when you’re on a date, adjusting yourself is a to hear it bluntly. As in, “This is Oh—and don’t forget to have
dick move. If you were really turned off by it, I important to me. I know how sex with him. Good sex is
wouldn’t blame you for losing his number. I feel, and that’s not changing.” undeniably great for the ego.
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Why do guys show up I was hooking up with a I went on a few dates
at a bar with their hottie, and I know he with one of the grooms-
whole crew? Don’t they felt my hair extensions. men in my friend’s
know it’s intimidating Do I need to explain why upcoming wedding, and
when we want to talk I wear them? then he ghosted me!
to one of them? A_ No. Guys may be dumb, How can I call him out
A_ Not to be rude, but we’re but we’re not stupid. Just as without causing a scene?
not only thinking of girls when we know that your fingernails A_ Uhhh…don’t approach him
we go out. We roll with our aren’t really glittery (or blue) at the wedding. Text or call him
boys because we want to have and you’re not really that tall now rather than risk getting
a good night with one another Logan Hill has without heels, we understand drunk at the reception and lay-
dated around,
and we don’t always expect to hooked up, grown
that women wear extensions ing into the dude. Start with:
pick up someone. However, you up, screwed up, and weaves. (We also know “Hey, I just wanted to clear the
and settled down,
can take control of the situa- so he knows what
about eyelash extensions and air before we see each other. I’m
tion by approaching the guy he’s talking Spanx too.) So relax. He was hurt that you ghosted me. Do
about. See more
you’re into and saying, “Hey, I’d of his insightful
already turned on, and he was you have anything to say?” Your
love to have a drink with you, answers to your probs too thrilled to be feeling other option: Let this one go,
love dilemmas at
but can we have it where it’s Cosmopolitan
all the natural parts of you to and focus on your friend who’s
quiet enough to talk?” .com. be bothered by anything else. walking down the aisle. Q
93
LOVE
Today’s
“manly”
man looks
a little
different.
Dating &
Mating With
Esther Perel
What Does
Masculinity
Mean Now?
Hint: not what it used to. As women You may be thinking, Wait, this is the time
continue to claim their fair share of for men to listen! Why should women have to
power (at work, at home, in relationships), help them? But I’d like you to see it another way.
male behavior—and what it means to “be a You’re not thinking about male behavior only
man”—needs to be rapidly rethought...by both to make the lives of men easier. You’re doing it to
genders. Because while it may sound controver- make your life easier. Men who are changing
sial, redefining masculinity shouldn’t rest solely to adapt to new societal norms are impacting
on the shoulders of men. When major cultural your relationships, health, and well-being too.
shifts happen for half of our society, they affect In the end, this is about all of us. Here are
the other half just as much. the three traits that everyone should encourage
For instance, now that women are becom- in men so that they can embrace a better, more
ing more empowered in the workplace, men flexible type of masculinity that fits our times.
might have to take on additional duties at home
or change the way they operate at work. This is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
M AT T C H A S E .
prompting the need for conversations about new Many boys have been taught, starting at around
roles for both parties and how gender expecta- age 3, to disconnect from their feelings in order
tions, in general, should evolve. to show that they are “strong” and not “sissies.”
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LOVE
LOVE QUIZ
Are you holding
your guy up to
outdated male
standards?
1
Do you assume he will be
the breadwinner in your
relationship, no matter
what the future holds?
YES NO
2 3
When he opens up to you
about his feelings, do
you tell him to toughen up
or ignore his concerns?
YES NO
Are you turned off when
he admits defeat or a
weakness in his personal
or professional life?
YES NO
If you answered mostly yes, you may If you answered mostly no, you are
have contradictory beliefs about the role being supportive as he explores his evolving
of men and how they should act. Update your masculinity. Try engaging him in talks
viewpoint by dismissing traditional gender about how your gender experiences differ.
ideas and acknowledging your guy’s emotions.
As we help women find their voices, we also need to

support men who open their hearts.
Because of this, generations of men have been to get guys talking. When you are on a date and
denied permission to experience a whole range want to know more about how a man relates to
of feelings, including tenderness and intimacy. people, ask questions like “Do you cook for your-
Or they can access these forbidden emotions self?” or “How do you relax?” These are gender-
only after proving themselves in bed, when their neutral conversation starters that reveal how he
masculinity isn’t in question. This is why many cares for himself and connects with others.
women tell me, “The only time my guy becomes
really emotionally available—and I see a whole VULNERABILITY
other side to him—is when we have sex.” Just as societal expectations have been placed on
A truly modern male will be able to tap into women to be submissive and pleasing, the domi-
his emotions outside the bedroom. He’ll know nant male model we have held for centuries is
that allowing himself strong feelings (like when that men must be competent and tough, provide
he’s cuddling with you or discussing his fears) and protect. They need to be self-sufficient and
doesn’t make him seem juvenile or weak. fearless, not mama’s boys or financial failures.
To reinforce this new thinking, reaffirm to Many women have been unaware of how heavy
Esther Perel is a sex
the men in your life that all types of emotions and relationship that burden has been, partly because, as I explain
are normal and that, when they do show their therapist, New York above, men haven’t talked about it at all. (There is
Times best-selling
feelings, you’re right there with them. You might author, popular no equivalent to being emasculated for women.)
say, “I want you to know that the fact that you’re TED speaker, and And so, as we help women find their voices,
the host of the
scared right now doesn’t make you a wimp. That podcast Where we also need to support men who open their
is a normal feeling to have.” Should We Begin? hearts and reveal their vulnerabilities. We need
Her next project,
an e-course for to talk about the different kinds of shame that
STRONG COMMUNICATION SKILLS couples looking men live with, their fear of humiliation, and
to keep their spark
We talk about the patriarchy (a society ruled alive, launches their pervasive fear of rejection. These things
by men) and how it’s hurt women because it’s later in 2018. are hard to discuss because, sometimes, women
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given men superb power. But the truth is that EstherPerel.com feel uneasy when they are faced with male
a patriarchy hurts everyone. In not necessarily or by following vulnerability and insecurity. You may say that
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having to collaborate with others to succeed— PerelOfficial you want your male partner to be soft, sensitive,
and instead relying on physical strength and on Instagram. and tender, but if he reveals too much or cries
one-upmanship—men have isolated themselves. in front of you, do you get angry or scared? If
Today, it’s become clear that men must be so, it is because society has repeatedly shown us
much more communicative to succeed in all areas that these qualities mean a man is fragile—too
of life. They need to open up and breed trust— much so to take care of you. But, in reality, they
things women have always done. So my advice is only mean that he is human. Q
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Cures:
Cannabis
The Truth
About CBD
WELLNESS
If the word cannabis still brings to

mind blunts and laced brownies…girl,
catch up! In 2018, there’s way more to
weed than getting glued to your couch
with the munchies. In fact, today’s
hottest pot products don’t even get
you high. But they do claim to slay
stress and anxiety, relieve headaches,
ease period cramps, soothe skin,
improve sleep, and turbocharge your
orgasms. And all with no smoke
involved. Instead, you can simply rub
on a body oil or moisturizer, snack on a
chocolate bar, or sip a spiked coffee.
The products’ secret ingredi- Maybe that’s why more

ent? Cannabidiol, or CBD, and more people are “using.”
the second most abundant In March, Google shopping
chemical found in marijuana searches for CBD oil reached
plants. Since it lacks the an all-time high, and experts
psychoactive properties of estimate that the fledgling
tetrahydrocannabinol (aka CBD industry could be worth a
THC), CBD isn’t intoxicating. whopping $2.1 billion by 2020.
Research shows that it might,
Legally
however, boost your mental
and physical well-being,
says cannabinoid researcher
Legit?
Marcel Bonn-Miller, PhD, an
adjunct assistant professor of
psychology at the University
of Pennsylvania’s Perelman But before you start slathering
School of Medicine. While yourself with CBD-infused
THC activates cannabinoid balms and topping your greens
receptors that alter the release with CBD dressing, know
of certain neurotransmit- that this seemingly magical on a federal level, all types of
ters in the brain, CBD seems stuff occupies a legal gray marijuana are illegal. (For
to increase levels of your area. If you live in a place this reason, national retailers
Hemp vs.
body’s natural cannabinoid- where recreational marijuana Weed like Target, Whole Foods, and
like compounds, which may is allowed (Alaska, Califor- Hemp is a Amazon have stopped selling
help relieve anxiety, regu- nia, Colorado, Maine, Mas- cannabis plant CBD products.) “Technically,
with no more
late chronic pain, and reduce sachusetts, Nevada, Oregon, than 0.3 percent buying a CBD cream is a fed-
inflammation. As such, CBD is Vermont, Washington, and THC that still eral misdemeanor—but nobody
now being touted as a potential Washington, D.C.), you can contains CBD. cares,” says Mark Kleiman,
P L A N T: C A M E R O N Z E G E R / S T O C K S Y.
While illegal per

treatment for everything from buy CBD goods from online the DEA, hemp- PhD, professor of public policy
puffy skin to epilepsy. stores and brick-and-mortar derived CBD at New York University’s Mar-
retailers. In certain states, products may be ron Institute of Urban Man-
easier to
CBD may be kosher even if purchase. agement. In other words, the
weed is banned. Otherwise, the likelihood of the law coming
internet can still deliver them after you for that CBD lip balm
to your door, even though, is practically zilch, he says.
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Reefer Madness
CBD-infused product
offerings are growing like,
uh, weed. A sampling:
This isn’t your
grandma’s ganja.
Velvet
Swing
This lube—which
also contains
THC—promises to
This spray freshens

your mouth and may
relax you.
$25 for 1.3 oz., honesthemp
.com
Verte Essentials
Ascent Ampoules
scary, but Bonn-Miller says high
levels aren’t known to be dan-
gerous. Too-low levels can make
a product ineffective though.
(Oh, and 21 percent of the CBD
products also contained THC,
which can make you high and
show up on drug tests.)
Buyer To avoid fraud, buy from

a company in a state like
Colorado that requires pot
Beware
The bigger prob is that reefer
products be tested for potency
and purity, says Sam Kamin,
PhD, a professor of marijuana
law and policy at the Univer-
retail has no regulator to sity of Denver. Also, “you can
monitor what goes into CBD ask companies for their testing Maya Rub
products. “It’s the Wild West out reports,” adds Bonn-Miller. He Yes, as in Goldberg. Her
pot balm, made with a
there,” says Bonn-Miller, who says that stuff like vaginal sup- blend of oils, may
in 2017 tested 84 CBD prod- positories and bath bombs have lessen period cramps
ucts and found that 26 percent not really been studied: “Until and muscle aches.
contained less CBD than they there is hard evidence to show From $25 for 2 oz., whoopiand
maya.com for retailers
claimed to while 42 percent had that those work, I’d stick to
more. The latter might sound ingestible and topical products.”
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Smart WELLNESS
Phone, 80 times a day, per one survey (if you

think this sounds low, same). And
chances are, you don’t love it. More
than half of people between ages 18
Dumber
and 24 are seeking relief from social
media, according to a recent report.
Getting some distance is essential
because new research suggests that
small-screen obsessions are a major
You?
A smartphone is basically a mini brain drain. Being attached to your
dopamine factory, doling out hits phone (even if you’re not looking at it)
of the feel-good brain chemical as a can impair mental functions, sapping
reward when you get Likes on social your working memory and your ability
media or relieve boredom by scroll- to perform tasks, according to a 2017
It’s the first thing you ing Twitter. Unfortunately, “the dopa- study. “Resisting your phone’s pull
grab when you wake up mine system is not satiable, so you takes up cognitive resources,” explains
continue to crave more and more,” study coauthor Adrian Ward, PhD,
and the last thing you says clinical psychologist Elyssa an assistant professor of marketing
touch at night (even after Barbash, PhD, of DoctorElyssa.com. at the University of Texas at Austin’s
bae). You reach for it That’s why the average American McCombs School of Business. Instead
countless times in ends up reaching for their phone of focusing, “we’re constantly in this
between and panic if
you leave it at home.
“You can become psy-
chologically addicted to
almost anything—includ-
ing, and maybe even
especially, your phone,”
says Earl Miller, PhD, a
professor of neuro-
science at the Picower
Institute for Learning
and Memory at MIT.
G I O R G I O F O C H E S AT O/ S T O C K S Y.
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you’re stuck in by reducing the num- Remove the temptation by stashing out to eat with your
ber of triggers at your fingertips. The yours in your bag while at work or crew, ask everyone
goal: Make your phone so boring that in a drawer when you want to have a
to pile up their mobiles in
the middle of the table.
you resort to thinking deep thoughts real conversation at home and turn- This phone stack prevents
in the pharmacy line instead of post- ing on Apple’s Do Not Disturb While constant text checking
ing about your mascara purchase. Driving feature, which sends cus- and allows for actual
tomizable automatic replies to texts uninterrupted
(“Taking a tech break!”). If you’re
conversation.
2 worried about missing something
important, set up your phone to
Set Up a Roadblock allow calls only from your faves. Q
To stop reaching for your phone the
second Hulu cuts to commercial,
“put a hair tie around it,” suggests
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Catherine Price, author of How to
Break Up With Your Phone. “It will act
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brain out of autopilot.” When you see help halt the endless scrolling.
the hair tie, ask yourself whether or
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not you actually need to open any apps
A quiz first diagnoses Enter the amount of You can set it up to
right then. If the answer is no, put your how you use your time you want to block apps, websites,
phone back in your pocket (or, better phone (how often you spend on your phone or the entire internet
yet, in another room). are lured in and for each day and Moment for set periods of
what purpose). You will notify you when time. Override it
then set better goals, you have hit your if you must—unless
3 and Space tracks how limit. It will also log you use the “locked
closely you stick to your use by apps, to mode,” which keeps
them. Free on iOS help you ID your you offline no matter
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WELLNESS
One-Move Workout
Glute Bridges
Get ready to light your peach on Lie on the Pause for That’s one
fire. This move from Instagram ground with two to three rep. Do three
fitness star and certified trainer your feet hip- seconds while or four sets of
BRITTANY DAWN (@Brittany_ width apart squeezing 15 to 20 reps,
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your booty into a B-O-O-T-Y. ing on a bench then release times a week. SNAP NOW,
in front of you. to starting SWEAT
position. LATER!
Push through Take a pic
your heels, of this move
to bring to
and lift your
the gym.
hips as high as
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up a notch? Cross one
leg over the other
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up and down. Then
switch sides.
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YOGA
Gyno Report “When you engage the muscles
around your pelvic floor, you’re less
likely to overtax it,” says pelvic-floor
The Surprising therapist Jill Hoefs, founder of Body
Align Physical Therapy in New York
Thing Hurting City. So focus on building up your

core, hips, and butt before jumping
Your Sex Life into tough poses. Try alternating

lunges for two minutes before class.
CYCLING
If your inner thighs are feelin’ it on
Great: Exercise steers blood to your the bike, they may call for backup
pleasure zones, paving the way for from your pelvic floor, says Lo. Show
wowza sex. Not so great: Nearly it some love post-sweat with but-
1 in 3 women reports pain during terfly stretches (sit with your feet
nookie—and docs suspect the rise together and lean forward) and piri-
of fitness culture may be partly to formis stretches. (Lie on your back,
blame. “In the past few years, more place your ankle over your thigh, and
women are complaining about pain- pull that thigh toward your chest.)
ful intercourse,” confirms Tami BARRE
Rowen, MD, a professor of obstetrics
and gynecology at the University of Torturous repetitions of tiny move-
California at San Francisco. Some of ments can tire your lower-body mus-
these aches occur in the pelvic floor, cles, cueing your pelvic floor to take
a hammock of muscles, nerves, and over. To avoid letting it do all the
tissue that may be feeling a harsh work, rest when you feel your form
burn from your gym routine. starting to suffer, says Lo.
“As workouts have become more
intense, pelvic-floor dysfunction Should
has increased,” explains Lesli Lo,
a pelvic-floor physical therapist at You
Northwestern Medical Group in Chi- Quit
cago. Classes like yoga, cycling, and Kegels?
barre can cause the area (which gets
recruited during all types of exer- The down-there
cise) to become too taut, especially squeezes can
tighten you
when you overdo it or don’t focus on up, making sex
good form. This tightness then pre- hotter. But they
vents a penis from gliding easily into may be extra if
the vagina. In fact, you may not even you also work out.
“Most women in
know about the prob until you’re get- their 20s don’t
ting busy. “Many women I see have need Kegels
stopped having sex because of this,” unless they have
says Dr. Rowen. A stiff pelvic floor symptoms of a
weak pelvic floor
can also cause pain while peeing. [e.g., leaking,
Already feeling the hurt? Multiple usually related to
TOM SCHIERLITZ/TRUNK ARCHIVE.
sessions with a pelvic-floor therapist pregnancy or

childbirth],” says
may loosen you up. And if you want
Dr. Rowen. Doing
to prevent carnal agony and still go them just for
Bike seats with an
HAM with HIIT, listen to your bod opening can help take the hell of
and take breaks if your other mus- the pressure off your it could actually
pelvic floor. overtax your
cles start to give out. You can also pelvic floor.
make these adjustments.
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Stashing cash
will keep you afloat
emotionally too.
Why You
Need
an F-You
Fund
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WORK
Open the Account

One of the top stress sources Visit your bank, and start a new savings
for women: money, per the account, separate from your checking or any
American Psychological Asso- Get yo’self a
other existing ones. Even if you have a joint
ciation—more specifically, the account with your boo, make this one private
safety net for
so that only you have access. (You can even
lack thereof. Sixty-seven per- when things
go heels-up. ask the bank to rename it. Lila’s F-You Fund
cent of millennials have less
than $1,000 in savings, and
46 percent of those have $0! “SHOULD
I KEEP MY
Worrying about this sitch is warranted, FUND A SECRET?”
says Sallie Krawcheck, CEO and founder Nope. Telling people about
of Ellevest, a digital investment platform for your pot could make it grow.
women. Having no cash cache doesn’t just Speaking about money normalizes it,
threaten your retirement, it can put your and the more comfy you are with the
well-being at risk right now. topic, the more you’ll be encouraged
Let’s say, for example, that your boss is a to save. “We’re taught it’s tacky and
monster and work has become unbearable, unattractive to talk about
affecting your mental health and relationships,
finances,” says Sallie Krawcheck,
“but having your own back
or that your mate is borderline emotionally
is empowering.”
abusive and you’re desperate to move out and
get your own place. Without a financial cush-
ion, you may feel stuck in these scenarios. That’s
why you need an f-you fund, says Krawcheck.
You know: the smart woman’s fallback stash (a
twist on the term popularized on Paulette Per-
hach’s site FuckOffFund.com).
“Think of it as your ‘Take this job and shove
it!’ fund, your ‘I’m in a relationship I don’t
wanna be in’ fund, or your ‘My roommate is
scary awful!’ fund,” Krawcheck explains.
Saving money every month may seem like
a stretch—especially if you’re living paycheck
to paycheck, buried under piles of debt, or sup-
porting others—but it’s better to start small
now, even $5 per paycheck, than never to start.
Eventually, your f-you fund should equal
three to six months of your take-home pay (e.g.,
$10,000 to $20,000 if you bank $40K a year).
That’s enough to float you while you look for a
new job or living situation. And psychologically
speaking, it can be worth much more. It
gives you the ability—and the confidence—to
take risks, weather life’s “oh shit!” moments,
and exercise self-care when you need it most.
Sometimes, says Krawcheck, just knowing
an f-you fund is there is as satisfying as actu-
ally using it: “It allows you to think, I have a
way out. I don’t have to put up with this.” Here’s
how to build your own escape hatch—even if
you’re starting at zero.
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Go ahead. Sound
the alarm. You can
totally recover.
is way more appealing than account number “But

34572910.) Be sure to have the bank hide your what if
new fund from view when you log on to your I have
main accounts page. If you’re not staring at it
when you look at your balances, you’ll be less
credit-
likely to dip into it for those cute new sunnies
card
or spontaneous fancy meals. debt?”
Don’t freak.
Fill ’Er Up More than 43
Now take a look at percent of U.S.
your income. If you households
typically get paid have outstand-
every two weeks, ing charges on
multiply the amount
their plastic. away 1 percent of your paycheck,” says Kraw-
That doesn’t
on your check by six. check. “Start there. A few weeks or months
mean they
That’s about three can’t also start later, try to up it to 2 percent, then 3 percent.”
months’ of your saving. The Make it your goal to get to 20 percent within
salary, the minimum caveat: If you a year. This will likely mean cutting back in
you should have in have more other areas, like entertainment, shopping,
an f-you fund. If credit-card or subscription services.
you’re starting from debt than you It may be frustrating at first, but make
scratch, try to build could possibly ruthless rules for yourself and stick to them:
up to that amount in pay off in a year, No new shoes until I save $5,000 or Bring
one year’s time. chip away at lunch to work every day until I save $1,000.
Ideally, 50 percent
that before And try to curb random acts of generosity.
funneling cash
of your paycheck “It’s like, did I really need to buy everyone a
into an f-you
should go to fund. “Interest round of tequila shots at the bar last night?”
basic needs (rent, rates are so says Krawcheck. Didn’t think so.
utilities, groceries), high that you
30 percent to fun lose money by Resist the Urge
activities (Beyoncé not paying off You may feel tempted to access this bad boy
tickets, dates, trips credit cards as for things like gym memberships or luxe new
to the beach), and 20 soon as you headphones—and every once in a while, you
percent to savings, can,” says Sallie can but only after you have cleared (and can
says Krawcheck. So Krawcheck. maintain) that three months’ salary thresh-
if you make $1,500
Once you begin old. In general, you should whip out your
to clear your
every two weeks, aim f-you fund only for pressing circumstances,
balances,
to save around $300 you’re ready such as the day you finally rage-quit or the
each time. Set up an to invest in an mental-health vacation you desperately need.
auto transfer with f-you account. Separating it from your other money will
your bank so the (Don’t worry help you fuggedaboutit, but if you’re ever on
moolah moves from about waiting the verge of wavering, remind yourself of
your checking to sav- to pay off this: Money may stress out people, but having
ings accounts as soon student loans; legit savings is a major source of confidence
as you get paid. That those interest for young women, according to a recent Elle-
way, you won’t even rates are vest survey. So when you are thinking about
miss that money.
typically much making a nonessential withdrawal, try to
lower.)
Twenty percent summon that self-assurance and ask your-
just too steep for you self, Is this just-because purchase really
right now? That’s worth my potentially feeling totally hopeless
okay. “Try putting if something goes wrong later? Q
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Timid-Speak
Got a question for your boss? Just
clearly state what you need. “If
you’re not direct, you likely won’t
get what you want,” says Klaus.
Women sometimes hedge
Here’s a memo you need requests because they’ve been
to get: A few seemingly conditioned to be accommodat-
innocuous and totally common ing to others. But being too def-
erential can come across as meek
workplace behaviors (e.g., being and communication coach or like ass-kissing, causing your
indirect, hitting the ! key one Peggy Klaus, author of Brag! coworkers to doubt your confi-
too many times) can straight-up The Art of Tooting Your Own dence or qualifications. They’ll
sabotage your stellar employee Horn Without Blowing It. wonder if you believe in yourself
I L LU S T R AT I O N S : L AU R A B R E I L I N G .
and, in turn, if they should trust

status and your potential to Sadly, having a less assertive you with big projects.
get ahead. “Women often act or too enthusiastic MO can Keep your asks simple and
a certain way because they cause colleagues to view you as straightforward: “Can you meet
this afternoon? We need to
don’t want to be called aggres- unreliable or unprofessional.
discuss XYZ.” (While you’re at it:
sive or a bitch,” says leadership Breaking these three small Remove I’m sorry from your
habits can help put you on vocab unless you really mean it.)
track for long-term success.
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“Hey!!
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Let me know Enthusiastic
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bosses were reading
When you’re sending every note you send,”
your besties last night’s she says. Would he or she
recap, add as many excla- be down with a zillion !’s?
mation points as you Probably not, because
want (“I’m sooo hung- too many can come off as
over!!!”). But on work juvenile and might keep
messages? You need to the receiver from taking
show some restraint. you seriously. To be safe
“So many people treat (and profesh), stick with
e-mail like a casual text,” periods. The exception?
says business-etiquette When you’re sending a
expert Jacqueline Whit- peer props (“Congrats on
more, author of Poised that major sale!”).
Saying “Yes!”
to Everything
If you consistently find
yourself cleaning up cof-
fee cups or planning staff
b-day toasts, you may be
starring in the thankless
role of “office angel.”
Often, women will vol-
unteer for this kind of
stuff to be helpful, but
doing so can backfire,
says Kim Scott, author
of Radical Candor: Be a
Kickass Boss Without
Losing Your Humanity.
If you always do these
tasks and they’re not part
“Sure, I can bake of your job description,
people may assume they
cupcakes for can walk all over you.
And they take you away
Kat’s birthday. Need from your actual duties,
says Scott. Next time
me to come early someone tries to push
office housework on you,
and decorate too?” try this: “Unfortunately,
I can’t do that right now.
I’ve got to finish [insert
real work assignment].”
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The chart-topping singer
who soared to stardom with
a gives-zero-fucks attitude is
back. And this time, she
does care…about a lot of
things. Get to know the new,
appealingly vulnerable,
“sometimes” confident, still
incredibly talented artist.
By Jessica Herndon Photographed by Jason Kim

Stylist: Kristen Saladino
It’s dusk in Los Angeles,
and Kesha is swinging
her long, layered
TH I N G I N M Y BAG
R I G HT N OW:
hair back and forth

to the beat of Joy Division’s “Love
Will Tear Us Apart.” “Yesss!” calls
out Cosmo’s on-set photographer
Jason Kim, as Kesha pauses to stare “It was scary, but I finally put
directly into his camera, doing her my foot down and chose life. That
TH E L A ST P H OTO I TO O K O N
best to hold a sexy pout without was a huge turning point,” she says. M Y PH O N E WA S O F:
blinking. The 31-year-old musical “I’m not a size. I’m not a number. I
phenom lasts about 10 seconds, then am a strong, badass motherfucking
bursts out laughing. woman, and quite frankly, I like my
In the moment, relaxed and smil- junk. Ten years ago, I never thought
ing, she oozes realness—and a vul- I’d be able to say that.”
nerability that feels at odds with the Also reinvented: her sound.
Kesha who rocketed to fame in 2009 Rainbow is Kesha’s first album since PE O PLE WO U LD B E
with a DGAF ’tude and even more 2012—and the first she’s released S U R PR I S E D TH AT I ’ M
DGAF lyrics (see “Brush my teeth since the start of her multiyear legal F R I E N D LY W IT H :
with a bottle of Jack” and “Ain’t got battle with her former producer
a care in the world, but got plenty of Lukasz “Dr. Luke” Gottwald, in
beer” from her hit single “Tik Tok”). which she has accused him of emo-
“I thought I had to be very tough and tional and sexual abuse. (Dr. Luke A N U P -A N D - CO M I N G
really strong and portray that I didn’t denies the claims and has sued Kesha
give a fuck, and that just was not the for defamation; Kesha is currently
case,” she says now. “I was pretending appealing the dismissal of her abuse
like everything was great all the time.” claims in New York.) Absent from her
The truth is that acting like the new music is the familiar Auto-Tune,
bold party girl from her songs took replaced by a blend of rock and roll,
a toll—especially since, in private, country, and pop. Lyrically, she covers MERMAID: EVERET T COLLECTION. ALL OTHER QUIZ PHOTOS: GET T Y IMAGES.
she was often racked with insecu- everything from exorcising emotional
rities. After nearly five years and demons (“Don’t let the assholes wear
two successful albums, “I was ner- you out. Don’t let the mean girls take
vous about everything, and it was so the crown”) to expressing deep love (“I
exhausting,” she remembers. “The know forever don’t exist. But after this
final straw was when I was with my life, I’ll find you in the next”). I F I WA S N ’ T A M U S I C I A N ,
mom at a family dinner party and I This time around, recording was TH I S I S A J O B I M I G HT TRY:
was so anxious. Driving home, I had cathartic, if very hard. She often
to pull over, and I was like, I can’t needed encouragement
keep this secret anymore.” That secret to “get through the days I
included a serious eating disorder, for wouldn’t feel very strong,”
B E C AU S E :
which Kesha checked herself into a she says. Her boyfriend,
treatment facility in 2014. artist Brad Ashenfelter,
and her assistant “would
put my ass in the car and
drive me to the studio and
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top. Joanna
Laura
Constantine
bracelet (left
arm). Vanessa
Mooney
bracelets (right
arm) and
necklace.
Eriness ring
(left). Child of
Wild ring (right)
Norma Kamali
jacket. Kesha’s
own top.
Topshop skirt.
Golden Goose
Deluxe Brand
boots. Pascale
Monvoisin
earring (left).
Lana Jewelry
earring (right)
S O M E TH I N G PE O PLE G E T TH E M O M E NT I N O N E TH I N G I WA NT
WRONG ABOUT ME: M Y LI F E I ’ M TO S E E H A P PE N FO R
P RO U D E ST O F: WO M E N I N M Y LI F E TI M E :
M Y M O ST OV E RU S E D
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be like ‘Bye!’ Then I would write, and tour, the singer will be packing her
pain would turn into art, and the art new perspective. “I’ve taken owner-
would turn into healing, and the heal- She hopes that speaking openly ship of myself,” she says. “I’m taking
ing turned into a record. And then I about her challenges and progress control of my life and my name and
was nominated for a Grammy! Life is will be a positive force for others. the music it’s attached to.”
fucking crazy.” “I definitely feel like I can connect Her fans will probably notice
At those Grammys in January, with my fans over feeling bullied or the difference, she notes, but they
Kesha’s intense performance—along- lonely or imperfect,” she says. “It just shouldn’t worry. The $ as the S in her
side Cyndi Lauper, Julia Michaels, boils down to being a human being.” name may be gone, but “I’m not, like, a
Andra Day, Camila Cabello, and Bebe For her part, Kesha is backed up by sad sap now. There are a couple of bal-
Rexha—of her single “Praying” went a solid support system—including lads, but my show is still extremely fun.
viral, slaying any doubts about her Brad and her three “cat children”— I’m not going to be less crazy. There’s
comeback. The moment, thought by daily meditation, yoga, and down- an awesome band, and there’s danc-
many to be the best of the night, was time both by herself and with friends. ing and glitter. That’s a promise I will
touted as a fierce symbol of female “We go hiking during the day and go keep—there will always be glitter.” Q
empowerment. Backstage, Kesha to dive bars at night,” she says.
knew there was a lot on the line. “I As she sets off on her 30-city
was the most nervous I’ve ever been,” Adventures of Kesha and Macklemore
she says. But then she and the other
women gathered into a huddle and
put their hands in the middle. “They
were like, ‘[Let’s say] Kesha on three.’
I was like, ‘No, no, no. Praying, all of Jeremy Scott
jacket. Kesha’s
us, on three.’ But instead, they said my own top.
name, and I burst into tears. Those Topshop skirt.
Child of Wild
women didn’t owe me anything. It ring (ring finger).
just took my breath away—that feel- Pascale
Monvoisin ring
ing of having people be there for you.” (middle finger)
Since then, Kesha has been able to and necklace
(middle). Arme
savor her success while still acknowl- De L’Amour
edging the dark times in her past. necklace (left).
Vanessa Mooney
“I’ve found that some of my strong- necklace (right)
est moments have been when I’ve
allowed myself to feel the sadder
emotions,” she says. “I’m happy to be
sometimes comfortable and some-
times confident. I don’t know that I’ll
ever be at peace with everything. I’m
still growing and changing and learn-
ing and fucking up.”
. . . B E C AU S E :
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Artists. Makeup: Vittorio Masecchia at Opus
Beauty using Pacifica Beauty. Manicure: Miho Okawara.
See page 155 for shopping information.
These simple beauty
hacks will have
Slay
you looking hot and
feeling fearless.
All
Day
BY Kate Foster
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Pop
(and
Protect)
Your
Pout
Who can be both-
ered with a full
beat on beach day?
All you need to make
a statement is a
bold lip. Just make
sure your tube has
SPF. Skin cancers
on the lips can be
especially danger-
ous, says dermatolo-
gist Kenneth Mark,
MD, because they’re
more likely to spread.
Missha M Matt Lip
Rouge SPF 17
($15) comes in four
bright, UV ray–
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Beach Cult swimsuit.
H&M kaftan (worn
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earrings
Opposite page:
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bralette and bangles.
Colette by Colette
Hayman earrings.
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Babette earrings
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Avoid “Beach Face”

As much as you think
a pool or ocean day
gives you a glow,
it can actually steal
yours. “When you
sweat, your skin is
losing water,” says
Dr. Mark. And chlo-
rine and saltwater
both dehydrate your
skin. Maintain max
moisturization with
a three-step plan.
1
Pat on a hyaluronic-
acid serum in
the a.m. (like Peter
Thomas Roth
Water Drench
Hyaluronic Cloud
Serum, $65).
2
Throughout the
day, spritz on a
facial mist with
Rock aWrap
moisturizing glyc-
erin (try Clinique
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Face Spray Thirsty
UV rays don’t eff with just your skin. “They can damage your hair’s Skin Relief, $25.50).
cuticle too, leading to dryness, breakage, frizz, and discoloration,”
3
says New York City hairstylist Stephen Thevenot. Protect yourself
Pop on an aloe-
with a luxe-looking head scarf. Even better? Apply a conditioning infused sheet mask
oil (like Maui Moisture Heal & Hydrate + Shea Butter Raw Oil, when you get
home (like Simple
$9) before you tie it on—the sun’s warmth will help the nourishing Skincare De-Stress
ingredients penetrate deeper into the hair shaft. Sheet Mask, $2.50).
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WE’RE AS SMITTEN WITH MEGHAN AND HARRY AS THE REST
OF THE WORLD IS, AND THEIR STORY MADE US MUSE ON A FLIPPED-SCRIPT
FABLE. WE BEGIN WITH PRINCESS HARRIE, DRESSED IN HER
SUMMER BEST, WHO MEETS AN EVERYGUY NAMED MARK.
BY JA S M I N E G U I LLO RY PH OTO G R A PH E D BY C H R I S C R AY M E R LE T TE R I N G BY M A R TI N A FLO R

ONCE U PON A TIME , there
was a princess named Her
Royal Highness Harriet
Victoria Louise Alexandria.
(Don’t worry, you can
just call her Harrie.) She
and her family ruled a
small kingdom in Europe,
but she was living in the
U.S., working toward a
PhD in early childhood
development.
One fateful day, Harrie
went to see a new garden
being planted at an inner-
city elementary school.
She took pictures with the
kids, and they brought
her around to meet the
volunteers. Everyone was
lovely—until they came
upon a super-hot (but super-
frosty) man in work boots
and jeans. He was Mark, a
landscaper helping out at
his former school. Harrie
went to shake his hand, but
he just nodded. He didn’t LUCKY STRIPE
On Mark: Gap shirt.
even put down the planters Levi’s jeans and belt.
he was holding. Whatever, The Frye Company
boots. On Harrie: Lela
fine-but-grumpy dude, she Rose dress. Kate Spade
thought. Not thinking about New York earrings.
Hunter boots
your pecs...at all!
Mark was flummoxed
that anyone would turn
up to a dirty work site in a
I
dress…no matter how well
it skimmed her curves.
He had taken the day off
But Harrie wasn’t a photo-op-only princess. She
in order to help out, not soon pulled on gloves and planted her (royal) ass off,
to pose for an Instagram starting with her favorite: peonies. When she threw
moment with a princess. dirt on the landscaper by mistake, she quickly
Still, there was no denying apologized. Despite himself, Mark was charmed. He
that she was gorgeous. sent her peonies the next day—with his number.
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II
Peonies! Like the very ones she’d been planting. Harrie was
delighted by Mark’s bouquet (and his decidedly un-grumpy
note). How soon could she text him? And were emoji part of
palace protocol? Screw protocol, she decided. He was cute, and
she hadn’t been on a date in ages. Moments after she messaged
her thank-you, he asked if he could take her out. “Could it be
on the DL?” she responded. Two days later, they were sipping
champagne and enjoying brunch in Mark’s own garden.
140
Beauty Tip
Dreaming of curls
this perf? Aussie
Miracle Curls Crème
Pudding, $5, creates
soft, shiny spirals
III
you’ll fall madly in
love with.
From then on, they were inseparable—but in secret.
(Dealing with the press was beyond annoying.) Keeping
it under wraps was kind of hot, so Mark didn’t mind—
until the night of the garden gala. He wanted to feel like
a prince by her side, but he was more like a random plus-
one. After watching admirers swarm Harrie while he
was summarily ignored, he was like, “I’m outta here.”
FLIRT Y
FROCKS
Left, on Mark: Reiss
shirt. Saturdays NYC
pants. The Kooples
shoes. Michael Kors
watch. On Harrie:
Temperley London
dress and belt. Frances
Valentine heels. Lele
Sadoughi earrings.
Swarovski bracelet and
ring. Right, on Mark:
Dsquared2 tuxedo shirt
and suit. J.Crew bow
tie. Boss socks. Kenneth
Cole shoes. On Harrie:
Pinko dress. Judith
Leiber Couture clutch.
Alexandre Birman
heels. Swarovski ring.
Ben-Amun by Isaac
Manevitz bracelet and
earrings
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IV
But he couldn’t stay away. He had totally fallen for her. When paparazzi
caught Harrie crying the next day, Mark dropped everything, picked
up a bunch of “I’m an idiot” peonies, and ran to her place to try to make
things right. “Flowers aren’t enough this time,” she said. “I know. I love
you. Let me show you how much,” Mark pleaded. And, oh, did he ever.
SWEET
AND SULTRY
Left, on Harrie:
Marissa Webb dress.
Bychari necklace.
Kate Spade New York
earrings. Alexandre
Birman heels. Edie
Parker clutch. On
Mark: Michael Kors
shirt and pants.
Kenneth Cole belt.
Ralph Lauren shoes.
Right, on Harrie: Josie
Natori romper. Olivia
von Halle kimono.
Kate Spade New York
earrings. On Mark:
Sleepy Jones shirt
and pants. Tacori ring
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V
And so it was that they soon went public, via a
carefully executed press plan. His world still exploded,
but the moments they spent in private were pure bliss.
Which is why, after plotting an elaborate proposal,
Mark ended up popping the Q in bed one lazy morning
instead. She said yes, then jumped on him.
Beauty Tip
VI A cheeky match
made in heaven:
your skin and a glow-
enhancing blush like
Charlotte Tilbury
Pretty Youth Glow
The morning of the Filter, $40.
big day, Harrie woke
with a smile that
never left her face—
not during the
procession to the
church, not while
walking down the
aisle (with a bouquet
of peonies, obvi), not
while dancing with
her new husband.
And she was definitely
still smiling when
they finally snuck
off to bed.
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ST YLISHLY
EVER AFTER
Left, on Harrie: Rivini
by Rita Vinieris
dress. Tia Mazza veil.
Ben-Amun by Isaac
Manevitz bracelet and
earrings. Rene Caovilla
heels. On Mark: J.Crew
jacket and pants. Polo
Ralph Lauren shirt.
Ralph Lauren bow tie.
Del Toro shoes. Right,
on Harrie: Self Portrait
top and shorts. Juicy
Couture sunglasses.
Kate Spade New
York earrings. Tacori
ring. Nannacay tote.
Charlotte Olympia
heels. On Mark: Reiss
shirt. Dsquared2
pants. Ray-Ban sun-
glasses. The Frye
Company sandals
Stylist: Kristen
Saladino. Hair: Sascha
Breuer using Wellaflex
at Starworks Artists.
Makeup: Kristin Hilton
at The Wall Group
using ZIIP Beauty.
Manicure: Jacqueline
Yekikan at Opus
Beauty using Chanel
Le Vernis. Models:
VII
Blaine/Wilhelmina,
Rhett Wellington/
Wilhelmina. See page
155 for shopping
information.
Mark asked Harrie if he could

plan the honeymoon as a
surprise. (Okay, so her team did
help a little.) He told her to bring
her bikini but leave the tiara at
home. When a friend’s jet ferried
them to a private island, she
knew this was just the beginning
of her new happily-ever-after.
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“HOW DO YOU
GO ON?”
Teacher Melissa Falkowski
M I C H E L L E B R UZ Z E S E .
hid 19 students in a storage closet

during the February 14 school
shooting at Marjory
Stoneman Douglas High School.
146
More than 100,000
Americans are shot each year.
Roughly one-third die. The
survivors, along with bystanders and
loved ones of the dead, can
experience anguish that is
debilitating and long-lasting.
As the national debate around firearms
rages on, , , and ,
a nonprofit newsroom covering gun
violence, joined together to investigate
wounds we can’t see:
the psychological trauma
that takes hold in
the aftermath.
B y ELIZABETH VAN BROCKLIN
WHEN
a bullet tears a jagged path through a body,
it may end one life…and dramatically alter
others: the friend who was standing right
there, the neighbor who called for help, the
girlfriend who rushed to the scene. Along
with those who survive physical injuries,
these are the living victims of gun violence
in America, an epidemic that kills 35,000 Melissa
each year and cripples countless more, both
Falkowski
physically and mentally.
35, Parkland,
This growing group includes survivors of Florida
mass tragedies, like the one in Parkland, Flor-
ida, as well as anonymous victims of random 3
shootings and domestic violence. Because MONTHS
while public massacres grab headlines (and AGO…
indeed, more than 187,000 kids have expe-
rienced a school shooting since 1999), it’s the
incidents we never hear about that dispro-
A rampaging GUNMAN
portionately affect women. Nearly 1 million
women alive today have been shot at by an
ATTACKED her SCHOOL
intimate partner, according to one study.
Together, these victims represent a little WHEN THE FIRE ALARM I couldn’t be alone or not doing
acknowledged or studied diaspora of trauma. WENT OFF, I was with my something, so I threw myself
“An event like this shatters your belief that fourth-period newspaper class. into media interviews. I felt
you’re safe in the world,” says Gerard Law- I told them, “Let’s go.” But in like it was my responsibility to
son, PhD, a licensed counselor and professor the hallway, a security person keep people talking about what
at Virginia Tech, who helped coordinate the sent us back into the class- happened. I had planned to go
counseling response to that school’s 2007 room—she said it was a code to six funerals, but I ended up
shooting. red. The kids gathered in a cor- going to only three because I
Survivors can suffer nightmares, flash- ner, like they’d been taught. I just couldn’t handle it. At one,
backs, and sleeplessness. For some, this moved them into a storage for a student I’d taught last year,
morphs into post-traumatic stress disorder closet when I saw on my phone her dad stood up and addressed
(PTSD), a condition that can linger for years, that shots had been fired. the shooter. He said, “You piece
even decades. Up to 30 percent of people in Twenty of us stood shoulder of shit. You killed my daughter.”
Atlanta’s most violent neighborhoods, for to shoulder in that closet for Some of the teachers are
example, have lived with symptoms of PTSD an hour and a half. Some stu- extremely traumatized. One, a
(the same rate as Vietnam veterans). And a dents were like “Ms. Falkowski, friend of mine, hasn’t been able
pilot study found that black women in one is this real?” Others were cry- to come back to her classroom
underprivileged Chicago neighborhood also ing. They were on their phones, yet. I’m trying to help, but
have high levels of PTSD, since many had checking social media, texting my husband has told me that
experienced gun or domestic violence. other students. At one point, my I have to stop trying to solve
F R O M L E F T: M I C H E L L E B R UZ Z E S E; A LY S S A S C H U K A R .
While treatment does exist (see “Paths to mom called, and I could barely everyone’s problems.
Healing,” page 151), it’s often not available in talk to her. I didn’t want to I worry that once things
the communities that need it most. Mean- completely fall to pieces. I had slow down, I’ll break down in
while, the guns keep firing, and the media to stay calm for the kids. moments of quiet. I’ve already
plays new horrors on a loop, causing some It wasn’t until I got home been through phases where I
survivors to relive their pain again and again. later that I heard the number: was numb and in shock, then
To map the invisible scars that remain 17. I cried on my front porch, totally upset and crying, then
after a trigger is pulled, we asked four and that night I slept less than angry. There are so many emo-
victims of recent and long-ago gun incidents two hours—I couldn’t quiet my tions. You don’t know which
to describe the moment their life changed— mind. For a few days, I walked one you’re going to get at any
and their ongoing quest to heal. around numb, not eating much. given time.
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2
YEARS
AGO…
How to
Her FIANCÉ WAS
happened. She said, “You
went haywire. You flipped Lend
that lady’s desk over.” I had to
MURDERED on the street apologize. That’s not me.
I couldn’t go back to our
Support
SURVIVORS
by a LONE SHOOTER condo, so my mom moved our
stuff into storage. I know it
ON WHAT
ACTUALLY
WORKS
sounds weird, but I kept some 1.
I CALLED HIM MY GENTLE “Who’s dead?” She responded: of his T-shirts and socks in a Be Present
GIANT. Jonathan looked “Jonathan. They killed him.” Ziploc bag to preserve his scent. Offer to hang
intimidating, but he was super I said, this can’t be true. I Our 5-year-old daughter out or grab
sweet. He was a basketball checked Facebook, and the still looks at pictures of him coffee. Studies
suggest that
player who took his college first thing that popped up was on her iPad almost every day. I social connec-
team to the NCAA tourna- a video of him lying on the hear her talking to him in her tions may
ment before going pro in Can- ground. We’ve heard so many sleep. I’m really trying to figure trigger hor-
ada. He eventually wanted to stories that I don’t know what out how to deal with this in a mones that can
make it to the NBA. to believe, but it seems he was positive way, because I know relieve trau-
matic stress.
We both grew up in violent targeted. He was with friends, she’s watching me.
parts of Chicago, but we really going to work out with his old Now, my anger has 2.
felt like we beat it. We had high school coach, and he was decreased, but I’m still sad all Keep It
moved to the suburbs and were the only one who was shot. the time. Sometimes, I’ll go Practical
planning our wedding. At first, I was so angry. We into this dark space for days, Instead of send-
ing flowers
On the day it happened, I went to speak with a woman and I won’t talk to anybody, or stuffed
was at work when I started about the funeral, and she said, won’t answer the phone. A animals—which
getting texts from his mother. “Give it some time. You’ll find year after his death, I started can just pile
I called her, and she was hys- love again.” My mind blacked working on a book about up—text
terical. I remember her saying, out. Next thing I knew, I my experience. It helps soothe when you’re at
the grocery
“He’s dead, he’s dead.” I asked, was asking my mom what my mind. store and ask if
they’re hungry,
or offer a ride
Bre’Anna to therapy.
Jones
3.
27, Chicago, Ditch the
Illinois
Platitudes
Advice like
“everything
happens for a
reason” can
seem dismis-
sive of survi-
vors’ pain.
If they want to
talk about it,
listen patiently.
If they don’t,
chat about
everyday things
(your new man,
celeb gossip)
to remind them
they’re more
than a shooting
victim.
FROM THE MOMENT WE which he’d done before—so I
7 STARTED DATING in high school, raised my hand in defense. I
YEARS he was jealous—he’d wait for don’t remember anything after
AGO… me between classes, accuse me that. My oldest daughter, who
of looking at other guys. But in was 11 at the time, told me I
She was my eyes, it was love, him want- was holding our 1-year-old
ing to be with me all the time. when he shot me just beside my
SHOT in He threatened to kill me
several times during our rela-
eye. The bullet ended up lodged
in my neck. My daughter
THE HEAD tionship, but the first time
he physically pulled out a gun,
called the police, and my
ex-husband is now serving 50
by HER we were in our 20s and living

together. He put it in my mouth,
years without parole.
For a few years, I was so
to my head, to my throat. I depressed that I left the house
HUSBAND never thought he would actually only for doctor’s appoint-
pull the trigger. ments—I needed 16 surgeries,
The night of the shooting, he including 1 to get a prosthetic
Star was pissed that I was studying eye. The bullet was lodged near
for a nursing exam instead of a main artery, so the doctors
Myles
paying attention to him. I felt didn’t want to remove it. For
36,
Richmond, like he was about to hit me— years, I could hear a click every
Virginia time I swallowed. Eventually,
it worked its way out near my
tonsil, and I had it pulled out in
the ER. I kept it as part of my
closure. But I still have bullet
fragments stuck in my face.
I started counseling, and
little by little, I began going
out. I always hid behind sun-
glasses because I didn’t like
the feeling of people looking
at my face, which was crooked
and covered with scars. They
couldn’t tell from looking at me
that I’m a good person or what
I’ve gone through.
My depression has improved
a lot since then. I wear tinted
eyeglasses now instead of
sunglasses, but I still have
rough moments and often feel
frustrated by invisible com-
plications—I struggle with
multitasking and short-term
memory loss. Sometimes when
I talk, my words get twisted.
F R O M L E F T: S U S A N A R A A B ; A N G I E S M I T H .
About two years ago, I

started volunteering as a peer
mentor to other victims of gun
violence. Now, I’m an advocate
for victims of domestic violence
and sexual assault. I find it
therapeutic to connect people to
resources I wasn’t aware existed
during my situation.
12
YEARS
AGO…
At a nightclub, she
WAS HIT by
a RICOCHETING
BULLET
I NEVER SAW THE GUNMAN Nurjahan
or heard shots fired. One min- Boulden
ute, I was laughing with my 33, Rancho
cousin on the rooftop of the club; Cucamonga,
California
the next, I felt a vibration in my
leg and fell to the ground.
The man standing next to
me was shot three times. I was
lying on my side on the ground,
looking at him. He bled out
before paramedics arrived. In
that moment, I accepted
that I was going to die. And I
did, a little.
I lived in that night constantly
for seven years. I would be in
the shower or the car, and in my
head, it’d be me on the floor, the this is just constant? It felt like Today I share my experi-
man dying next to me. Any loud the country didn’t care, that it ence publicly and on YouTube
noise or argument would just was chaos. to let other survivors know
flip a switch and send me into a I went to see a therapist, that they’re not alone. After
complete panic. I felt like there who told me I needed to tell my the Vegas shooting, I started a
was something wrong with me story out loud to heal. I’d never Facebook group for survivors.
because I couldn’t just get over it. really talked about it, even with But it’s still hard for me when
Every new shooting felt like my husband, who I met a year someone says, “You were meant
it validated my fears. After the after the shooting. I told him to live.” If I was meant to live,
Sandy Hook school shooting in everything, shaking and cry- then what was I meant to do?
2012, I became really depressed. ing the whole time. I felt like I Am I doing it right now? Am I
How can you move on when released something. doing it fast enough?
Paths to Healing
THESE IMMERSIVE TREATMENTS MAY HELP ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN AFFECTED BY GUN VIOLENCE.
Cognitive Process- Prolonged drive to the place where Eye Movement think this alters how the
ing Therapy (CPT) Exposure (PE) it happened. PE has Desensitization brain processes
A form of talk therapy Patients gradually con- been shown to signifi- and Reprocessing memories and lessens
that helps reframe neg- front their fears until cantly help up to (EMDR) their emotional
ative thoughts related they feel less scary. For 80 percent of patients Patients recall an vividness. Visit
to a traumatic event example, they might suffering from chronic event while tracking a EMDRIA.Site-YM.com
(e.g., “I can’t trust any- talk through a traumatic PTSD. Search for a therapist’s finger for more information.
one”). Find a counselor incident with a thera- trained therapist at movements with their
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By Aurora Tower | @AuroraAstro
GEMINI05.22–06.20
This summer will be epic…as long as

you get real about your finances by the 5th.
The New Moon on the 13th will have you
feeling Gemini AF, and that means an
itch to roam! Make travel plans that involve
reconnecting with old buds. Someone
swoonworthy will vibe you hard when flirty
Venus opposes Mars on the 21st.
I L LU S T R AT I O N : C I A R A P H E L A N . H A L E , L A M A R : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
YOUR YEAR: What’s the rush? Your mind is
lightning fast, but now’s the time
for slow, strategic thinking—especially on
the job. Expect a hot romance in July
and a big break in November.
GEMINI GAL
Lucy Hale
06.14.89
CANCER LEO VIRGO LIBRA
0 6 . 2 1 – 0 7. 2 2 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2 08 . 23– 09. 2 2 09. 23–10. 2 2
Put aside the erotic novel Your aura is magnetic! Lovers You’re about to strike gold, Bust out the bucket list. It’s
because your IRL romance is and friends will flock to you girl. All that werking and a great time for travel, so go
about to be intense. You’ve this month. Venus, the planet grinding will bring huge explore someplace you’ve
pined long enough, so make of love, makes its once-a- opportunities around the never been. You’ll be feeling
a move! You’ll be a real sweet year visit to your sign on the New Moon on the 13th. Weigh celebratory after big work
talker when verbal Mercury 13th, so between then and your options to make sure you news around the 5th. Your
moves into your sign on the July 9th, your sex life will be pick the biggest payoff. Then best asset will be supportive
12th. And putting yourself turbocharged! Get a new keep the buzz going with a buds. You have a lot of good
out there will stack the cards freakum dress on the 21st. girls’ trip (and hella rosé). On stuff to sort through, so
in your favor for a super-sexy You’ll find that fluttery feeling the 27th, wherever you are, a host an adorably cheesy
27th. CANCER GUY: Whoa! He’s with someone special. LEO sexy someone awaits.…VIRGO gratitude dinner on the 23rd.
spelling everything out this GUY: He’s a man about town. GUY: Your boy is hitting major LIBRA GUY: He needs a change
month, and that includes how If you’re getting left on the milestones but won’t toot his of scenery, stat. Why not go
he feels about Y-O-U. couch, it’s time for a chat. own horn. Bring the applause! along for the ride?
SCORPIO SAGITTARIUS CAPRICORN AQUARIUS

10.23–11.21 11.22–12.21 1 2 . 2 2 – 0 1 .1 9 0 1 . 2 0 – 0 2 .1 8
Things are coming into focus. You have spring fever, and After a bumpy phase, you’re Your instinct is right on, so
Kick off your month of clarity everyone is going to be there so ready for summer. The 5th trust your gut! The New Moon
with whatever escape comes for it. Let a month of flirty fun brings closure to a stressor, on the 13th falls in your zone
your way, because you’ll want begin! One suitor will shine which means you can enjoy all of true love and fun, making
a fresh perspective for the during the New Moon on the that fun in the sun and plenty it the perfect time to bust a
second half of the month. 13th. Get on the same page of sexxx. Once the Sun moves move on a boo if you’ve got
On the 21st, big news will before getting…you know. into your zone of partnerships that tingly feeling. After Mars
enlighten you. If personal After the 26th, when Mars on the 21st, you won’t be alone goes retrograde on the 26th,
stuff is in flux, sort things goes retrograde, you might for long…and you’re especially you’ll be ready to go after
out when assertive Mars rethink things, so don’t lock magnetic during the Full something new career-wise
goes retrograde on the 26th. yourself in. SAGITTARIUS GUY: Moon on the 27th. CAPRICORN too. AQUARIUS GUY: Let love
SCORPIO GUY: There’s a good He’s the newly crowned king GUY: Despite some hot ‘n’ cold rule. He’s all mushy-gushy
chance he will need some of canoodling. Prepare for action at month’s start, he’ll right now, so reciprocate
alone time, but he will be back. some serious courtship. be all yours come July. those feels.
GEMINI GUY
PISCES ARIES TAURUS Kendrick Lamar
0 2 .1 9 – 0 3 . 2 0 0 3 . 2 1 – 0 4 .1 9 04.20–05.21 06.17.87
Hello, hotness monster! This Talk about a full plate....You’re Brace yourself for ch-ch- Your man is in
month will be electric. Don’t balancing a ton, but don’t changes. If you stumble motion. He loves
shy away from sparks— let that cause you to make across a sweetie, go slow being busy, espe-
especially on the 5th. All ill-informed snap decisions because he may not be what cially when you are
that lovin’ will leave you on the 5th. The Sun moves he seems. When your ruler,
bursting with confidence and into your domestic zone on Venus, moves into your by his side. Hop on.
creativity. When you hit a job the 21st, so if you’ve been domestic zone on the 13th, You won’t want to
snag on the 21st, problem- thinking about moving, do it! spruce things up and throw a miss the places you
solve rather than play the Once your ruler, Mars, goes party chez you. A pretty nest go together.
blame game to keep things retrograde on the 26th, sit will help you weather a work
moving in the right direction. back and think about your whirlwind around the 27th.
PISCES GUY: You’ve unlocked #Goals. ARIES GUY: He is TAURUS GUY: He’s open but
his heart. Cue the rom-com swamped and really needs easily spooked. Choose your
summer love montage. your wisdom to guide him RN. adventures wisely.
ALL ABOUT YOU
Read Your Lips

The shape of your print says more than you might think. We had certified lipsologist
(yeah, that’s a thing) Anna Snodgrass decipher what each one means.
Triangle Diamond
If your print has three distinct If there’s a point at the top,
points (they can be rounded), bottom, and sides of your
chances are, you like pucker, your sparkly personality
to help others succeed attracts people. It’s likely you
and are good at helping friends roll with a big crew and
shine—just like a great tend to be besties with every-
teacher or coach. one. Giving back is a priority.
Rectangle/Square Oval/Round
If your mark is boxy, If there are no corners on your
your BFFs might look to you mouth’s mark, you are probably
to solve their problems… the diplomat of your squad and
and for good reason. try to understand other points
You’re a down-to-earth and of view. You care about
practical person. things running smoothly and like
to encourage others.
M A R L E Y K AT E / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
Wavy
If your top and bottom lips
look wavy, you are
most likely creative and like to Put on your favorite shade of
think outside the box.
lipstick, and lay a smooch right
In all relationships,
it’s important for you to find here to decode your own kiss.
people who “get” you.
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COSMO QUIZ
How
Fearless
THE BREAKDOWN
M O S T LY A’ S
Blindly Bold
Whoa, Nelly! You
go from daring to
Are
inappropriate in
a nanosecond. Take
a step back from
the edge to evalu-
ate how your
You?
decisions will
affect others and
yourself—both
physically and emo-
tionally. Bravery
doesn’t always have
to come at high risk.
M O S T LY B ’ S
Brave Within
Bounds
1. Your BFF’s You have cojones
but never take it
beach party is too far. Your care-
days away, and A Grab the mike, ful consideration
your new hair- freestyle a speech, and keeps you from
cut is meh as dance-grind the father crossing the line.
of the bride. You’ve Most of the time,
hell. You: got this. that’s just right,
A Bolt to a differ- but getting a bit
B Call an emer-
ent hairstylist and go uncomfortable
platinum. 3. In an eleva- gency meeting of the
other maids and dole
now and then can
B Decide to get tor with your out jobs like a boss.
lead to something
company’s CEO, awesome.
banged…first at the
C Say “Sounds like
salon, then maybe IRL? you spend the a best-man problem” M O S T LY C ’ S
ascent:
C Pull out your cute
sun hat and make do.
as you head to the
kids’ table to help
Frozen
A Presenting your
pitch for a great new make balloon animals. With Fear
Girl, you have to
2. You spot a product: caffeinated live a little outside
dime pumping condoms. Boom! 5. You get rag- your comfort zone.
iron across the B Nervously making headaches No need to go full
gym. What’s ing small talk but fin- and read that Daenerys, but part
ishing strong with a acupuncture of being a grown-
your move? solid handshake. up is taking a few
A Claim to be a pro
might help. You: calculated chances
C Staring at an so that life doesn’t
masseuse and offer a A Get yourself to
e-mail so you can fly always pass you
post-gym rubdown. a practitioner stat,
under the radar.
M A C A L L B . P O L AY/C O U R T E S Y H B O.
needle-up, and vlog by. Shake off that

B Ask if he’ll spot apprehension (a
the entire treatment.
you on a heavy weight
set and wait for a
4. You’re on B Try it with baby
turn-up anthem
green light to flirt. bridesmaid duty steps: How ’bout just
might help), get
support from your
and the maid of my earlobes to start? tribe, and give
C It’s no time to
manhunt when you’ve honor disap- C Think, hell no. yourself permis-
got both sweat stains pears before the Humans aren’t meant sion to go for it.
and visible panty lines. toasts. You: to be pincushions.
By Helen Zook
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