Creating Safety Plan PDF
Creating Safety Plan PDF
Creating Safety Plan PDF
A SAFETY PLAN
Adapted by:
January 2015
acknowledgments
This booklet was adapted with permission from the Peel Committee Against Woman
Abuse in Ontario. BC Housing and the Ministry of Justice would like to thank the
Peel Committee Against Woman Abuse for their generosity in making this resource
available for use in British Columbia.
This booklet was put together by women who have survived abuse. They offer their
guidance to you through this resource.
Note: While this booklet was designed to address partner abuse, many of the included
suggestions can be used to address other forms of relationship violence (i.e., other forms
of family violence, caregiver violence, etc.).
Adapted from Creating a Safety Plan Peel Committee Against Woman Abuse.
Fifth edition: July 2010. www.pcawa.org
TABLE OF CONTENTS
I. INTRODUCTION 4
II. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF 5
III. AN EMERGENCY ESCAPE PLAN 8
IV. CREATING A SAFER ENVIRONMENT 12
A) AT HOME 12
B) IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD 17
C) AT WORK 18
V. DURING A VIOLENT INCIDENT 20
VI. A CHILDS SAFETY PLAN 22
VII. APPENDIX A - TRACKING WEBSITE ACTIVITY 24
VIII. RESOURCES FOR WOMEN IN CRISIS 26
PERSONAL NOTES 28
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I.
INTRODUCTION
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II.
TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
feeling blamed for the violence and/or your childrens exposure to it.
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Trying to survive in or escape a violent
relationship can be exhausting and emotionally
draining. There are a number of things
you can do to help you cope in difficult
times. These are just a few suggestions:
Always remember that safety your own as well as the safety of your
children is what matters the most.
If you have left the relationship, are feeling down and are
considering returning to a potentially violent situation, call a friend,
relative, counsellor, etc. for support or phone VictimLink BC at 1-800-
563-0808 to access 24/7 crisis counseling and referrals to other
services.
If you are able, take steps to improve your finances (e.g., consider a
part-time job or applying for social assistance, upgrade your skills,
etc.).
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Spend time with people who make you feel good and are supportive
If you are able, write or talk about your feelings, especially when you
are feeling low or vulnerable.
Remember that you are the most important person to take care of
right now.
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III.
AN EMERGENCY
ESCAPE PLAN
The Emergency Escape Plan focuses
on the things you can do in advance to
be better prepared in case you have to
leave a violent situation very quickly.
The majority of the following items are for those who are physically and
financially able. If you have a disability and need to leave your home,
you can call your local Transition House to discuss your health needs
and how the house can best accomodate your needs. This may include
making arrangements with other services such as the local hospital, clinic,
homecare services, and/or your physician.
The following is a list of items you should try to set aside and hide in a safe
place (e.g., at a friend or family members home, with your lawyer, or in a
safety deposit box):
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Lease/rental agreement, house deed, mortgage documents
Bank books
Address/telephone book
Picture of spouse/partner and any children
Health cards for yourself and family members
All cards you normally use, for example, credit cards, bank cards,
phone card, Social Insurance Number (SIN) card
B) Try to keep all the cards you normally use or copies of them in
your wallet:
Keys for your home, car, workplace, safety deposit box, etc.
Cheque book, bank books/statements
Drivers license, registration, insurance
Address/telephone book
Picture of spouse/partner and any children
Emergency money (in cash) hidden away
Cell phone
Extra medications and a list of medications and their dosages
A list of all your doctors, their contact information and their
purposes
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D) Keep the following items handy so you can grab them quickly:
E) Other Considerations:
Open a bank account in your own name and arrange that no bank
statements or other calls be made to you. Or, arrange that mail be
sent to a trusted friend or family member.
Save and set aside as much money as you can (e.g., a bit of change
out of grocery-money if/when possible). Locate your local food
bank so you can save money on groceries.
In a place you can get to quickly, set aside $20 to $30 for cab fare,
and quarters for a pay phone.
Hide extra clothing, keys, money, etc. at a friend/family members
house.
Plan your emergency exits, taking into consideration mobility
and accessibility concerns, as well as appropriate modes of
transportation and how to arrange it (e.g., taxi, bus, HandyDART,
family or friend, etc.).
Plan and rehearse the steps you will take if you have to leave
quickly, and learn them well.
Keep an emergency packed suitcase hidden or handy/ready to
pack quickly.
Consider getting a safety deposit box at a bank that your partner
does not go to.
G) Additional Notes:
When you leave your home, take the children if you can. If you try
to get them later, the police cannot help you remove them from
their other parent unless you have a valid court order.
If you have left your home, the police can escort you back to
the home later to remove additional personal belongings, if it is
arranged through the local police department. At this time, you
can take the items listed above as well as anything else that is
important to you or your children.
Police involvement will usually result in the involvement of Child
Protection Services if children reside with you. The goal of this
involvement is to reduce the risk to a child, not to remove the child
from the care of the non-offending parent/caregiver. Child welfare
workers can provide support to you and advocate for you when
you attempt to access financial, residential, and other practical
services.
It can be very useful to have a trustworthy friend, family member
or other advocate with you when meeting with police, lawyers,
etc. These are stressful times and you might forget to tell them
something or forget something they tell you.
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IV.
CREATING A
SAFER ENVIRONMENT
A) AT HOME
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Check your vehicle for a Global Positioning System (GPS)
which your abuser may have installed in or under your car to
track your movements. Look for anything that appears out
of the ordinary and like it has been added on to the car.
Teach your children to use the telephone (and cell phone, if you have
one) to contact the police, ambulance, or the fire department.
Teach your children how to make a collect call to you and
to a trusted friend if your partner takes the children.
Create a code word with your children and/or family/
friends so they know when to call for help.
Plan your emergency exits and teach them to your children.
Teach your children their own Safety Plan (See page 22).
Consider a plan for the safety and wellbeing of your pet(s) such
as making arrangements with friends or family to care for them if
need be. Note that some transition houses accept pets or can make
arrangements for pets and some local SPCAs will take pets temporarily.
Be aware of any weapons in the home or your partners access to
weapons.
When using the computer, be aware that your abuser
may track the websites you have visited. For information
on hiding your tracks, see Appendix A (page 24).
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Keep doors and windows locked at all times.
Have a pre-recorded anonymous message on your
telephone answering service rather than your own
voice and do not identify yourself by name.
If possible, trade in your car for a different make and model.
Check your car for a Global Positioning System (GPS) which your abuser
may have installed in or under your car to track your movements.
Instruct your children to tell you if someone is at the
door and to not answer the door themselves.
Carry a cell phone and a personal alarm. Consider
getting a medical alert bracelet, necklace or card
that you can keep in your wallet or purse.
If the police arrest the abuser, find out if he/she will be held in custody
or released. You can provide input into release conditions to the
investigating officer. Ask for a copy of the conditions of his/her release.
Keep a copy of your protection order near you at all times. Inform your
friends, colleagues, family that you have a protection order in place.
If your protection order is destroyed or lost, you can obtain
another copy from the Victim Safety Unit (1-877-315-8822), who
can also provide you with ongoing notifications regarding an
accused/offender who is being supervised by BC Corrections
either in custody (jail) or the community (e.g., bail, probation).
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Request the police to put a caution code on your abusive partners
file in PRIME (police records management system). This will provide
additional information and security for officers responding and alert
them of a potentially dangerous history of relationship violence.
Notice what triggers your partners violence and
abuse. This may help you predict the next likely violent
incident and give you a chance to prepare.
If you have call display on your phone, be careful about who can
get access to the stored numbers (e.g., last number dialed).
Have your telephone number unpublished (there may be a
monthly fee), as it is harder to track than when it is unlisted.
You can block your number when calling out by dialing *67
before the number you are calling. Dialing *69 will trace the last
call you received, although this service may include a cost.
Consider getting a cell phone and preprogram
numbers of people to call.
Contact your local victim service program to inquire about
the availability and your eligibility for an emergency
response system/home alarm program. Victim services can
also assist you with emotional support, safety planning,
accompaniment to criminal court and information about
the criminal justice system and the court process.
Consider rearranging your furniture as this is something
your partner may not anticipate, and it may cause them
to bump into it and give you some warning. If you have
serious vision loss consider taking out all the light bulbs.
Put your kitchen utensils and knife block in the
cupboards so they are not as easily accessible.
If you live in an apartment, check the floor carefully when getting
off the elevator. Look in mirrors when turning corners in hallways
and be aware of doorways in hallways. Speak to your building
manager to request increased safety measures in your building.
Replace wooden doors with steel/metal doors if possible.
Install smoke detectors and fire extinguishers for each floor.
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Consider the advantages of getting a dog that barks when
someone approaches your house or get a Beware of Dog sign.
Install a motion detection lighting system outside your home
that lights up when a person is coming close to your house.
Do whatever you can to increase security, including additional locks,
window bars, poles to wedge against doors/windows, an electronic
system, etc., and keep trees and bushes trimmed anything to provide
added security.
Electronic security measures when using the computer may
also be helpful including changing your passwords, creating
new email addresses for yourself and your children, blocking
unwanted emails and/or senders, etc. For more information
about staying safe when using the internet, see Appendix A.
If you agree to see your partner, meet in a public place
and limit your isolation. Make sure someone knows
where you are and when to expect you to return.
If your abusive partner has legal access to your children, talk to a
lawyer about getting supervised access or having access denied.
If your abuser has visitations with your children, arrange
for transportation for your children so that you do not
have to have contact with the abusive partner.
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B) IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD
Tell your neighbours that you would like them to call the police if they
hear a fight or screaming in your home.
Tell people who take care of your children, including schools and
daycares, which people have permission to pick up your children.
Tell the school, daycare, babysitter, and people who have permission
to pick up your children that your (ex) partner is not permitted to do
so and ask that they not give your contact information to anyone.
Tell people in your neighbourhood that your partner no longer lives
with you and that they should call the police if your ex-partner is seen
near your home. You may wish to give them a photo and description
of your ex-partners car.
Ask your neighbours to look after your children in an emergency.
Hide clothing and your Emergency Escape Plan items at a neighbours
or friends house.
Use different grocery stores and shopping malls and shop at hours
that are different from when you were living with your abusive
partner.
Use a different bank or branch and take care of your banking at hours
different from those you used with your abusive partner, or take care
of your banking online or by telephone.
If possible, change your doctor, dentist and other professional services
that you would normally use.
Do not put your name in your apartment building directory or
mailbox.
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C) AT WORK
Each woman must decide for herself if and/or when she will tell others
that her partner is abusive and that she may be at risk. Friends, family and
co-workers may be able to help protect you. However, each woman should
consider carefully which people to ask for help. If you are comfortable, you
may choose to do any or all of the following:
Show a picture of your (ex) partner and provide a description of their
car to colleagues, neighbours, and building security personnel to
make them aware and alert to your safety needs.
Tell your boss, the security supervisor, and other key people or friends
at work about your situation, and ask that they refrain from giving
anyone personal information about you.
Ask to have your calls screened at work or use voicemail to screen your
calls. Document any unwanted calls from your abuser.
Discuss the possibility of having your employer call the police if you
are in danger from your (ex) partner.
Block unwanted emails or send them to a folder where you do not
have to read them.
If possible, ask for a transfer to a different position or location.
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When arriving at or leaving work:
Let someone know when youll be home and when to expect you
to arrive at work, and that you will call them when you have safely
arrived.
Carry your keys in your hands.
Get a remote or keyless-entry car door opener.
Walk with someone to your car.
Scan the parking lot.
Walk around your car, look under the hood to check if anything has
been tampered with and check your brakes. Keep your car seats
forward so you can easily look into your car from the outside. When
parking, reverse the car into the parking spot or driveway so it is
possible to make a quick exit if necessary.
If your partner is following you, drive to a place where there are
people to support you, e.g., police station.
If problems occur while you are driving, use your cell phone (with a
hands-free device), honk your horn continuously, and drive directly to
a well-lit, open, populated place or directly to a police station.
If you have underground parking, consider parking somewhere else as
underground parking lots can be dark and secluded.
Keep a sign in your car saying call police.
If you are walking, take a route that is populated and well-lit.
Change the patterns of when you arrive and leave work and the routes
you take.
If you see your partner on the street, try to get to a public place such
as a store or call attention to yourself and request help if you feel in
danger.
If you use public transit, sit close to the front near the driver and have
someone you know meet you at the bus stop to walk home with you.
Once you have arrived home/at work, call a friend or relative to let
them know you have arrived safety.
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V.
DURING A
VIOLENT INCIDENT
ake as much noise as possible (set off the fire alarm, yell FIRE,
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break things, turn up the stereo or TV) so that neighbours may call
the police for you.
If you are being physically assaulted, curl into a ball to protect your
head and face. Be aware that scarves or anything else worn around
your neck may be used by the abusive partner to hurt you.
Use your code word with your children so they can call for help.
Use your judgment and intuition. If the situation is very serious, you
may decide to placate or agree with the abuser to protect yourself
until you are out of danger.
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uring or after an assault, call the police at 911 if you can. Tell them
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you have been assaulted and that it is an emergency. Leave the
phone off the hook after your call.
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VI.
A CHILDS
SAFETY PLAN
This plan was developed to help mothers teach
their children some basic safety planning.
It is based on the belief that the most important thing that children can
do for their mothers and their families is to get away from the area of
violence. Although children often try to stop the violence by distracting
the abuser or directly interfering in the violent incident, it is important to
tell children that the best and most important thing for them to do is to
keep themselves safe.
Children who experience or are exposed to violence can be profoundly
affected. It is very traumatic for them to be faced with violence directed
at them or at someone they love. Personal safety and safety planning
are extremely important and necessary for children whose families are
experiencing violence. Children should learn ways to protect themselves.
There are several ways to help you develop a safety plan with your
children:
Have your child pick a safe room/place in the house, preferably
with a lock on the door and a phone. If possible, also identify a safe
place outside of the home where the child can go. The first step
of any plan is for the children to get out of the room where the
violence is occurring.
Stress the importance of being safe, and that it is not the childs
responsibility to make sure that his/her mother is safe.
Create a code word to use with your children so that they know
when to run to safety and to call for help.
Teach your children how to call for help. It is important that
children know they should not use a phone that is in view of the
abuser. This puts them at risk. Talk to your children about using a
neighbours phone or a pay phone if they are unable to use a phone
at home. Remember that there is no cost when dialing 911 from a
pay phone or cell phone.
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If you have a cell phone, teach your children how to use it.
Teach them how to contact the police by dialing 911.
Ensure that the children know their full name and address.
Rehearse what your child/children will say when they call for help.
For example:
Dial 911.
An operator will answer and say: Police, Fire, Ambulance.
Your child should say: Police.
Then your child should say:
My name is .
I need help. Send the police.
Someone is hurting my mom.
The address here is .
The phone number here is .
It is important for children to leave the phone off the hook after they
are done talking. The police may call the number back if they hang
up, which could create a dangerous situation for yourself and your
children.
Pick a safe place to meet your children, out of the home, so you can
easily find each other after the situation is safe.
Teach your children the safest route for them to take to the planned
place of safety.
Practice and role-play this safety-plan with your children including
what to do and where to go if something violent happens.
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VII.
APPENDIX A
TRACKING WEBSITE ACTIVITY
There are steps you can take to make it more difficult for someone to
track your activities, however, your abuser may still find ways of tracking
your activities on your home computer that are difficult to prevent. If your
abuser knows a lot about computers, it might be better for you to use a
computer outside the home - at a library, school, internet caf, at work or
at a friends house.
There are a few easy ways for someone to find out what websites
you have visited. Computers have what is called a cache file. The
cache (pronounced cash) automatically saves web pages and
graphics. Anyone who looks at the cache file on your computer can
see what information you have viewed recently on the internet.
Also, most web browsers (the software on your computer that lets
you search the internet and display internet pages like Internet
Explorer and Mozilla Firefox) keep a list of the most recent web sites
and links that you have visited in a history file. You can look at your
own history by clicking on the history button on your toolbar (the
bar at the top of your screen).
While it is possible to clear the cache and history files so that your
computer doesnt keep a list of the sites you have visited, YOU
SHOULD BE VERY CAUTIOUS ABOUT DOING THIS. If your abusive
partner is comfortable with computers and sees that you have
cleared all the cache and history files on your computer (including
the sites the abuser has visited), this could make them suspicious
or angry. If that is a possibility, it would be better for you to use a
computer that they cannot access - for example, at a library, school,
internet caf, a friends house, or at work.
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If you do decide to clear your browser history, instructions can be
found at www.domesticviolencebc.ca. Scroll to the bottom of the
screen and click on the Use This Site Safely link.
Your abuser may have ways of tracking your activities on your home
computer that are difficult to prevent.
If you are concerned about the safety of using your home computer,
if possible, use a computer at a public library, a school, an internet
caf, or at the home of a trusted friend.
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VIII.
RESOURCES FOR WOMEN IN CRISIS IN
BRITISH COLUMBIA
EMERGENCY (POLICE, FIRE, AMBULANCE) 911
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VICTIM NOTIFICATION PROGRAM
The Victim Safety Unit (VSU) provides ongoing notifications regarding
an accused/offender who is being supervised by BC Corrections either in
custody (jail) or community (e.g., bail, probation). For more information on
this program, please call 1-877-315-8822 (toll-free) or visit www.pssg.gov.
bc.ca/victimservices/victim-safety/.
LEGAL SERVICES
For information on legal services, including criteria and eligibility for legal
aid, contact the Legal Services Society by visiting www.lss.bc.ca or calling
1-866-577-2525 (toll-free).
HEALTH SERVICES
HeathLinkBC is a provincial resource for health information and advice. Call
811 if you would like to speak with a nurse or pharmacist any time of day
or night, every day of the year. You can also visit www.healthlinkbc.ca for
more information.
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