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    1. Attraction between people can be based on physical attractiveness, attitude similarity, proximity, and reciprocity of feelings. Physical attractiveness and attitude similarity are key factors for initial attraction. 2. There are different types of love according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love: liking (intimacy only), infatuation (passion only), empty love (commitment only), and consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment). 3. Maintaining a lasting love relationship requires qualities like self-acceptance, appreciation of each other, commitment, good communication, realistic expectations, shared interests, and the ability to face and deal with conflicts.

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    1. Attraction between people can be based on physical attractiveness, attitude similarity, proximity, and reciprocity of feelings. Physical attractiveness and attitude similarity are key factors for initial attraction. 2. There are different types of love according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love: liking (intimacy only), infatuation (passion only), empty love (commitment only), and consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment). 3. Maintaining a lasting love relationship requires qualities like self-acceptance, appreciation of each other, commitment, good communication, realistic expectations, shared interests, and the ability to face and deal with conflicts.

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    1. Attraction between people can be based on physical attractiveness, attitude similarity, proximity, and reciprocity of feelings. Physical attractiveness and attitude similarity are key factors for initial attraction. 2. There are different types of love according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love: liking (intimacy only), infatuation (passion only), empty love (commitment only), and consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment). 3. Maintaining a lasting love relationship requires qualities like self-acceptance, appreciation of each other, commitment, good communication, realistic expectations, shared interests, and the ability to face and deal with conflicts.

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    1. Attraction between people can be based on physical attractiveness, attitude similarity, proximity, and reciprocity of feelings. Physical attractiveness and attitude similarity are key factors for initial attraction. 2. There are different types of love according to Sternberg's triangular theory of love: liking (intimacy only), infatuation (passion only), empty love (commitment only), and consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment). 3. Maintaining a lasting love relationship requires qualities like self-acceptance, appreciation of each other, commitment, good communication, realistic expectations, shared interests, and the ability to face and deal with conflicts.

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    HUBUNGAN INTERPERSONAL

    Pemahaman Diri

    ATTRACTION
    A force that draws people together Types:
    Friendship love

    Involves:
    Feelings Positive thoughts toward others Inclination to act in positive ways toward them

    Factor contribute to feelings of attraction


    Physical attractiveness Attitude similarity Proximity Reciprocity

    Physical Attractiveness
    Key factor determining romantic attraction Women preferences on men Men preferences on women Some aspect of beauty appear to be crosscultural. Example?

    Attitude Similarity
    A key to contributor to initial attraction Women place greater emphasis Way to cope with dissimilarity
    Try to convince others to change their attitudes Reevaluate our attitudes, explore the possibility of changing them End the relationship

    Proximity
    Determines whom we are likely to come into contact so that attraction can develop Increases the chance of interacting with others Does not always spill over into positive attraction

    Reciprocity
    Powerful determinant of attraction Tendency to return feelings and attitudes that are expressed about us. Positive reactions to flattery, compliments, attention.

    FRIENDSHIP
    A relationship between people characterized by intimacy but not by passion and commitment.(Philip Zimbardo)

    Factors
    The tendency to desire what is best for the other Sympathy and empathy Honesty Mutual understanding and compassion Trust Positive reciprocity

    Girls typically form closer friendship than boys Clique a small group of close friends who share confidences Crowd a large number of loosely knit friends who share activities

    Tugas Kelas
    Apa saja kriteria teman yang baik menurut anda, tuliskan sebanyak-banyaknya. Dari kriteria2 tersebut, buatlah peringkat kriteria yang paling penting (1-3) dan yang paling kurang penting (1-3)

    Qualities that define a good friend (Psychology Today magazine)


    Ability to keep confidences (89%) Loyalty (88%) Warmth and affection (82%) Supportiveness (75%) Honesty and frankness (73%) Humor (72%) Willingness to set aside time for me (62%) Independence (61%)

    LOVE
    Complex concept, involving many areas of experience emotional, cognitive, and motivational (Sternberg, 1988) The word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle aged, and the mutual dependence of the old (John Ciardi) An attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual (Octavio Paz)

    Styles of Love
    Eros romantic love
    Begins with powerful pshysical attraction or feelings of passion

    Ludus game-playing love Storge friendship love


    the best love grows out of enduring friendship

    Pragma logical love


    I consider whether my partner will be a good parent

    Mania possessive, excited love


    When my lover ignores me I get sick all over

    Agape selfless love


    I would do anything I can to help my lover

    Triangular Model of Love (Sternberg)


    Intimacy

    Passion

    Commitment

    Types of Love (based on Triangular of love)


    Non Love
    no Intimacy, passion, commitment
    Romantic Love
    intimacy + Passion

    Companionate
    Intimacy + Commitment

    Liking
    Intimacy alone

    Fatuous
    Passion + Commitment

    Infatuation
    Passion alone

    Consumate
    Intimacy + Passion + Commitment

    Empty Love
    Commitment alone

    Types of Love; Non-love


    None of the component existed Most of our personal relationships are of this type Casual interaction and acquaintance

    Types of Love; Liking


    Intimacy alone True friendship without passion or long-term commitment

    Types of Love; Infatuation


    Passion alone Love at first sight Passionate desires for another person, no intimacy & commitment

    Types of Love; Empty Love


    Commitment alone Commitment to maintain the relationship in the absence of either passion or intimacy

    Types of Love; Romantic Love


    Intimacy & Passion Lovers physically and emotionally attracted to each other but without commitment.

    Types of Love; Companionate Love


    Intimacy & Commitment Derives from combination of intimacy and commitment Example: Marriage where the passionate attraction has died down and has been replace by a kind of committed friendship

    Types of Love; Fatuous Love


    Passion + commitment Shallow relationship, Foolish Love Commitment based on passion but without time for intimacy to develop

    Types of Love; Consummate Love


    Complete love consisting of all three components Ideal but difficult to attain

    Having a lasting love relationship


    Self-acceptance Appreciation of each others qualities Commitment Good communication Realistic expectation Shared interest Ability to face & deal with conflict

    Refleksi (Log book)


    Apakah anda pernah jatuh cinta? Bagaimana anda menyadari bahwa anda jatuh cinta? Perasaan apakah yang membedakan antara jatuh cinta dengan sekedar rasa suka? Dari ke-8 tipe relationship berdasarkan Sternberg, mana saja yang pernah anda alami? Manakah dari tipe hubungan tersebut yang paling berarti bagi anda anda mengapa?

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