THEHABI

TSOFHI
GHLYEFFECTI
VECELLGROUPLEADERS

PARTTWO

I
ntr
oduct
ion

Manyl eaderssi ncerelywantt ogr owandmul t

iplythei rgroups,butt heyar enotsurehow.
Theywor konfindingbet teri ce-br eakersoraski ngbet terdiscussi onquest i
ons.Somet hink
thattheanswerl i
esi nhavi ngt her i
ghtper sonal i
tyorget tingt hegr oupt obemor ef un.
Whilethesei deasmaybehel pful,t herealkeyt ogr owi ngandmul ti
plyingacel lgroupl ies
i
nt hepr act
iceofei ghtper sonalgodl yhabits.Theseei ghtr egularpr acticesseem t omake
thediff
erencebet weenef fect i
venessandi nef f
ectiveness.Thegoalwoul dbet oadoptt hese
habits and bui l
dt hem i nt o ourweekl y schedul es.These habi ts ar e notbased on
personalit
y.Even exper iencei snotasi mpor tantascommi tmentt ot heeighthabi ts.
Leaderswhoper hapsdon’ thavet hegiftofteachi ngorwhohavehadnotbeenChr isti
ans
foralongt imebutwhof ollowt heei ghthabitscanbecomeef fective.Leader swhot endt o
bequi etorhadneverl edbef or
ebutwhopr act i
cet hehabi tscangr ow andmul ti
plythei r
group.Theei ghtgodl yhabi tsmaket hedif
ference.Theseei ghthabi tsar enot“ tr
icks”nor
meantt obemani pulativei nanyway.Theyar eChr ist-l
ikei nnat ureandar ethingst hat
manyofuswoul ddoi ntuitively.However ,i
nt oday’sbusywor l
dwhenwear eallpull
edi na
hundreddi ff
erentways,mostofusneedagui det ohel pussor toutt he“ Important”from
the“Ur gent
”,orevenf rom t he“ Fads” .Forthecel lgr oupl eader ,theseei ghthabi t
sdoj ust
that.

Thebestqual i
tyoft hesehabi
tsist
hattheyar edoable.Anyleadercanputt hem into
pract
ice,
ifheinvestst heti
me.Whencel
lgroupleader
shearthehabitsexpl
ained,t
heywi l
l
nod,sayi
ngt hi
ngslike, “
Thi
sisj
ustwhatIhavebeenlookingf
or.NowIhaveacl earcourse
tofol
low.Icandot his.”

The eighthabits ar e chall

engi ng and,dependi
ng on yourstati
on inli
fe,may seem
overwhelming,butr emember ,youdon’ thavetochangeallofthem inthesameweek! !
!
Godi sl ooki
ngf orpr ogress,notper fecti
on.Pl
easeopenyourhear taswel ookint he
scri
pturestostudyoutt heseei ghtgodlyhabit
stomakeourl eader
shipandgroupsmor e
eff
ecti
ve.Andt ruly,
toGODbet hegl ory!
!!
Habi
tNumberOne:Dr
eam
Thefir
sthabitoft hehighl
yeff
ecti
vecellgr
oupl eaderist
odr eam.Thoseofuswhohave
beenar oundforawhileknowhowf unandfulf
il
li
ngi ti
stobepar tofaheal
thy,
growingand
mult
iplyinggroup.Weneedt ogetourdreamsbackandbel i
evet hatal
lofourgroupscan
behealthy,gr
owingandmul ti
plyi
ngagai
n!

1.Havi
ngaDr
eam I
ncr
easesPot
ent
ial

Mostcel
lgr
oupsandcel
lgroupleader
saresleepi
nggiants.Sat
anwant
stokeepthem t
hat
way,soheconst
ant
lywhisper
sl i
estocellgroupleader
sandmember saboutwhatthey
can’
tdo.

Bel
ievet
hatGodcanuseyourcel
lgr
oupt
omakeadi
ff
erence.

2.Havi
ngaDr
eam Ai
dsAccompl
ishment

Iknowmanypeoplewhostar
tedgroupsbutneverhadadream forthatgr
oup.Theyst
art
ed
thei
rgr
oupbecausesomeoneaskedthem t
o,andtheyf
eltobl
igated.

Ontheotherhand,Ihavealsoseenpeopl
estar
tcellgr
oupswithadr eam –adream of
compl
eti
ngthei
r12then144and1728.Someti
mes,theonlydi
ff
erencebetweent
hegroups
whoweresuccessf
ulandtheoneswhoweren’
twashavingadream.

3.Havi
ngaDr
eam FocusesDi
rect
ionandChannel
sEner
gy

Hi
ghlyef
fecti
vecel
lgr oupleadershaveabi
gdr
eam br
okendowni
ntospeci
fi
c,si
mpl
e,
at
tai
nabl
e,andchal
lenginggoals.

4.Havi
ngaDr
eam Posi
ti
vel
yPr
edi
ctst
heFut
ure

“Cellgroupl eaderswhoknowt heirgoal–whenwi l

ltheycomplet
etheir12–consi st
entl
y
multi
plyt heirgroupsmoreoft
ent hanleader
swhodon’ tknow.I
nfact,
ifacellleaderf
ail
sto
setgoalst hatthecellmemberscancl ear
lyremember,hehasabouta50- 50chanceof
multi
plyinghi scell
.Buti
fthel
eaderset sgoals,
thechanceofmult
ipl
yingincreasestothr
ee
outoffour .
”

5.Havi
ngaDr
eam Mot
ivat
esLeader
stoKeepGoi
ng

LeadingaCel
lgrouphasi
tsshareofsetbacks.Peoplepromisetocomeandt hendonot
showup.Anupcomi ngpr
omisi
ngleaderistransf
erredtoanotherci
tybyhisempl oyera
fewweeksbefor
eheopenacellgroup,sett
ingbackt heplanofmulti
pli
cat
ion.Peopledon’t
alwaysgetal
ong–somewi l
levenleave.Dreamshel paleaderkeepgoinginspit
eoft he
obstacl
es.

Thr
eeDr
eamsofaHi
ghl
yEf
fect
iveCel
lGr
oup
1.Gr
oupHeal
th

Ahighlyeffect
ivegr
oupisahealthygroup.Ther
earemanyelementsofgrouphealth.The
mostnot i
ceableist
hepresenceofGodofthei
rli
ves.Membersarewalki
ngbyfait
handar e
dependingonGod, t
aki
ngont heval
uesofHiswordseri
ousl
y.Theyli
vebyconvict
ion.

2.Gr
oupGr
owt
hinNumber
s

Thehi ghlyeffecti
vegroupgr owsinnumber s.Thelaw ofnat
ureisthatlivi
ng,heal t
hy
groupsgr ow.Gr owinggroupsseeatt
endancegr owasgroupmembersr emainfai
thfuland
thelostar ewonf orJesus.Ahighlyeffecti
vegroupisonewhereallt hemember sare
contr
ibutingtoitsgoalsandobject
ive,notjustthel
eader
.Highl
yef
fect
iveleaderdream of
completingtheir12,144and1728.

3.Gr
oupMul
ti
pli
cat
ion

Thehi ghlyeffect
ivegr oupl eaderwi l
ldevel
opnewl eader sandnewgr oups.Therear efew
feeli
ngsasvi ctoriousast heemot i
onthatcomesf r
om hel pingtorestorealostsoultoGod,
orf r
om helpingf ell
owChr isti
ansturnsomethingaroundi nthei
rlives.However,onet hi
ng
thatcomescl osei shelpingyourgr oupt ogivebir
tht oanew gr oup,knowingt hatyour
effect
ivenessi nhelpingot herswi l
lnowmul t
iplyt
or eacht hatmanymor epeople!I
tisvery
exciti
ng,andanat uralstepf ortheeff
ecti
vecellgr
oupl eader.
Habi
tNumberTwo:Pr
ay
Prayeri
sthemosti
mport
antacti
vit
yofthecellgr
oupleader
.Ifacel
lgr
oupleadercoul
ddo
anyonethingt
omakethegroupmor eef
fect
ive,t
hatonethi
ngwouldbetopray.

ReasonsEf
fect
iveGr
oupLeader
sPr
ayf
orThei
rMember
sDai
ly:

1.Pr
ayeri
stheMostI
mpor
tantTaskofaLeader

2.Pr
ayerSavesTi
me

3.Pr
ayeri
sOmni
presentandOmni
pot
ent

4.Pr
ayerMakesEver
ythi
ngBet
ter

5.Pr
ayerGi
vesNeededI
nsi
ght

6.Pr
ayeri
sourGr
eat
estSpi
ri
tualWeapon

Ti
psf
orHi
ghl
yEf
fect
ivePr
ayer

A.Haveasett
imeandamountoft
imef
orpr
ayer

B.Haveausualpl
acef
orpr
ayer

C.Haveapl
anf
orpr
ayer

D.Haveapl
acef
orr
ecor
dingr
equest
sandanswer
s

E.Seasonyouri
nter
cessi
onwi
tht
hanksgi
vingf
oreachmember

F.Mi
xfast
ingwi
thpr
ayerf
orgr
eat
eref
fect
iveness.
Habi
tNumberThr
ee:I
nvi
te
Hi
ghlyeff
ecti
vecellgr
oupleader
sbuildsever
aldi
scipli
nesint
othei
rschedule.Onethati
s
of
tenover
looked,
buthighl
yimportant
,ist
hathabi
tofinvi
ti
ngnewpeopletothegroup.

ReasonWhyI
nvi
ti
ngi
sEssent
ial

1.Peopl
eMustConnectWi
thYouBef
oreTheyCanConnectWi
thGod

Relat
ionshi
psarebr
idgest
o God.Peopl
egetconnect
ed wi
th God byf
ir
stmaki
ng a
connecti
onwit
hGod’
speopl
e.

2.I
fYourGr
oupHasNoGuest
s,I
tWi
llExper
ienceNoGr
owt
h

Yourgr oupcan’ tgrow unl

essyouhaveandkeepguest s.Thismayseem r idi
cul
ously
obvious,butitisoftenf
orgott
en.I
fnoonenewevervi si
tsyourgroup,yourgr
oupcannot
grow.Increasethenumberofguest sandyouwi
lli
ncr
easet heamountofgrowth.I
ncrease
therateofr et
entionandyouwi l
lincreaset
her
ateofgrowt h.I
ncr
easebothandyouwi l
l
multipl
ygrowthexponential
ly.

3.I
fYouI
nvi
tet
hem,
theywi
llcome

Typesofpeopl
etoi
nvi
te:

• Fami
ly

• Fr
iends

• Cowor
ker
sorf
ell
owst
udent
s

• Nei
ghbor
s

• Churchcontacts(
Thiswoul
dincl
udechurchmemberswhoar ecur
rent
ly
unconnect
edt oagroupandnewguestswhovisi
tyourSundayworshi
pser
vices.
)

• Fi
ndanavenuet
ogeti
ntot
hewor
ldoft
heunchur
chedandbui
ldsomeet
ernal
r
elat
ionships.

4.Numer
icalgr
owt
hbui
ldsexci
tementandmor
ale

Peoplerespondposi
ti
vel
ytopr
ogressandnegativel
ytothelackofi
t.Gr
oupsthat
cont
inuall
yaddnewpeoplehaveagreaterl
evelofexci
tementandahighermoral
e.

5.I
nvi
ti
ngbui
ldsspi
ri
tualowner
shi
poft
hegr
oup

I
nvi
ti
nghelpspeopl
etakeownershi
p.Theymakethechangef
rom speakingof“thegr
oup,
”
“
yourgroup,
”or“
thei
rgroup”t
o“mygr oup”oncet
heyt
akethest
epofi nvit
ingsomeoneto
t
hei
rgroup.
Mi
stakest
oAvoi
dinI
nvi
ti
ng

A.Fai
li
ngt
okeept
hem sayi
ng“
Yes.
”

Apr ogr essionof“Yeses”mayl ookli

ket hi
s:“Yes”todi nneratyourhouse;“ Yes”tolett
ing
youpi ckupherki dstoattendaf unctionatyourchur ch;“Yes”toapar t
yforthefamilyat
thechur chgrounds;“Yes”t oaspeci alSundaychurchser vi
celi
keaFr i
endDayorEast er
Sunday, orChrist
masEve.Fi nall
y,t
heyar ereadytosay“ Yes”t
oyourgr oup.Obviousl
y,
dif
ferentpeopl ehavedifferentprogressionsof“Yes.”Pr ayaboutfi
ndi ngthethingsomeone
wil
lsay“ Yes”t
o,andstartfrom thatpoint.Sometimeswhenwet hrowani nvi
tati
onand
whent heyr ej
ectit,
westopgi vi
ngotheropt i
onsthatt heymaysay“ yes”to.Thinkabout
whatt heywi l
lsay“yes”toandgof orit.

B.Gi
vingupt
oosoon

Tooof ten,weinvitesomeoneonce, andhesays“ No.”Sowedonoti nvi

tehim again.Too
frequent ly,
wei nvi
tehimt ocome, andhesays“ Yes,”butdoesn’tshow.Sowedon’ tinvit
e
him agai n.Andsomet i
mes, weinvitehimt ocome, andhecomesbutdoesn’ tcomeback.
Sowedon’ tinvit
ehim again.Tooof ten,wearegui l
tyofgivi
nguponaper sont ooeasily.
Per sistencemakesadi f
ference.Ifi
ndt hatmanypeopl ewhodon’ tcomeatt hef i
rst
i
nvi tati
onof tencomeaf terthethir
dorf ourt
h,ifIhavecont i
nuedtobuildacaring
relationship.

C.Fai
li
ngt
ounder
standt
hepr
inci
pleof“
Sixt
oSt
ick.
”

Realt
orstel
lusthati
ttakesaboutsixsol
idcont
actstofi
xthei
rnameinthemindsof
prospect
ivecl
ient
s.Ihavefounditalsot
akesaboutsi
xcontact
sbyagroupleadert
ofixhi
s
groupinthemindofapot ent
ialmember.Youwanttohelppeopl
ethi
nk,
“ I
forwhenIever
gotoagr oup,
Iwanttogot othatgroup.
”

Somepeoplemakeoneat t
emptatget
ti
ngpeopl
eint
otheirgr
oupandthinkthei
ref
for
twas
afai
lur
ewhent hosei
nvi
teddon’
tcome.Maybei
twasn’tafai
lur
e;maybeitwasastepin
ther
ightdi
rect
ion.

D.Fai
lur
etopr
ayf
orandcapi
tal
izeonoppor
tuni
ti
es

E.Tr
yingt
obeasol
oinvi
ter

Iti
sespecial
lypower
fulwhenaper
sonal
readyknowsandl
ikessomeoneel
sei
nyour
churchorcel
lgroup.

F.Usi
ngi
nappr
opr
iat
elevel
sofpr
essur
e

Thebett
ert
hecar,t
helesspressur
efrom sal
espeople.Theydon’tattackyouwhenyou
dri
veontot
helot
.Theygiveyoutimetoinspectthecarforyour
self.Theygiveyout
imeto
thi
nkthi
ngsover
.Whensalespeopleareconfi
dentthatthecari
sgood, wort
hthepr
ice,
and
saleabl
e,t
heydon’
ttwi
styourar
mtomakeadeal
;theyj
ustconf
ident
lydescr
ibet
hei
r
product
.

Thewi segroupleaderal
sohasconf i
dencei nhisgroup.Heknowsitwi
llbeawonderful
blessi
ngtoanyonewhogi vesitatr
y.Hedoesn’ tt
wistarms;hej
ustconfi
dent
lydescr
ibes
thegroup.Hespeaksofanswer edpr
ayers,changedlives,
andwarmfri
endshi
ps.He
doesn’tuseinappropr
iat
el evel
sofpressur
e.
Habi
tNumberFour
:Cont
act
Reasonsf
orCont
act
ingGr
oupMember
sRegul
arl
y:

1.Fr
iendsWantt
oCont
actEachOt
her
!

Whenwel oveeachot herasfri

ends,wewill(
oratleastweshoul d)natural
lywanttospend
ti
mewi t
heachot herandspeakt oeachother.Themor econtactwehave, thebet
terwewill
gettoknoweachot her,i
nkeepingwitht
heoneanot herver
sesseenl ateri
nthesecti
onon
thehabitoffel
lowship.Jesuscall
edhisapostles“FRIENDS”(seeJohn15)andwear e
i
mi t
ati
nghi m whenwear etr
uefri
endswiththepeopl einourgroup.

2.Cont
act
ingcommuni
cat
escar
e

Contactingsaysthatyoucare.I
tsayst
hatyoucareenoughtotaket
hetimetogeti
ntouch.
I
tsayst hatyoucareenought ofi
ndoutwhytheywereabsentorwhatt
heythi
nkofthe
group.Itsaysthatyoucareenoughtocheckonthei
rprayerr
equest
sandtogettoknow
them better
.

3.Cont
act
inghel
psashepher
dknowt
hest
ateofhi
sorherf
lock

Knowl edgeisessenti
alf
oreffect
ivel
eadership.Thebet
teryouknowyourpeople,t
hebett
er
youcanl eadthem.Youcan’ t“gr
ow”them ifyoudon’t“
know”t hem.Ifpeopl
etr
ustt
hatyou
lovethem si
ncerely,
andwantt hebestforthem, t
heywil
lgraduall
yopenupandyoucan
helpthem out,evenoverthephone.Ali
ttl
edet ai
landadvicetothem canmakeahuge
diff
erencetotheirweek.

4.Cont
act
ingHel
psYourGr
oupGr
ow

Oncesomeonevi si
tsthegroup,t
hehighl
yef f
ect
ivel
eaderwil
lcontactt
hatperson,
aswell
ast heregularmembers.Thisusual
lyi
nvolvesashortphonecal
lortextmessages
thankingthevisi
torf
orcomi ng,
aski
nghim howhel i
kedthegroup,andinvi
ti
nghimt o
return.Asthesenewonescomebackandgetconnect edtothegroup,t
hegroupgrows.

Suggest
ionsf
orWhatt
oTal
kAboutasPar
tofaRegul
arCont
act

Theyshoul
dfeell
ikeyouaregenui
nelyhopingt
oknowt hem bet
ter
.Theyshoul
dn’
tfeell
ike
theyar
ebeingi
nterr
ogated.Uset
hefoll
owingsuggest
ionsoneortwoatatimetogetthem
toopenupandsharewithyou.

Overaper
iodoft
ime,youwil
lcomeupwi
thquest
ionsofyourown.Unt
ilt
hen,
her
ear
e
somequesti
onsyoucanuse:

• Whatar
eyouupt
othi
sweek?

• Howar
eyourki
dsdoi
ng?
• Doyoul
ikeyourj
ob?

• Onascal
eofonet
oten,
howst
ressf
ulwasyourweek?

• Let
’st
alkaboutt
henei
ghbor
hoodwher
eyougr
ewup?

• Whatdoyoul
ikemostaboutt
hel
astchur
chser
vice?

• Whatdoyoul
ikebestaboutourcel
lgr
oup?

• Whati
nyourl
if
ewoul
dyoul
iket
obedi
ff
erentf
ivet
otenyear
sfr
om now?

• Whatar
eadoyout
hinkGodwant
syout
ogr
owi
nthi
smont
h/year
?

• Whatar
ethet
hingsever
yonesaysyouar
ereal
lygoodat
?

TheTi
psUsedbyHi
ghl
yEf
fect
iveCont
act
ors

• Vi
ewt
het
imeyouspendcont
act
ingaspr
imemi
nist
ryt
ime

• Pr
ayf
ort
heSpi
ri
t-l
eddi
rect
ionast
owhatt
osay

• Beposi
ti
veaboutGod,
yourchur
ch,
andyourgr
oup

• Beconsi
der
ateoft
hei
rti
meandschedul
e.I
ftheyar
ebusy,
bebr
ief
.

• Besensi
ti
vetothei
rmood.I
ftheyar
ewi
ll
ingt
otal
k,t
aket
het
imet
oli
sten.I
fnot
,
don’
tpushthem.

• Haveapl
acet
orecor
dthecont
act
sofyourmember
swher
etheycanber
etr
ieved
easi
ly.

• Keept
hingst
hatar
eshar
edi
nconf
idence,
conf
ident
ial

• Beconsi
stent
.Tr
ytoseet
hatever
yonei
scont
act
edr
egul
arl
y

• I
ftheyhaveshar
edaneedwi
thyou,
closet
hecont
actbypr
ayi
ngf
ort
hem

• Encour
ageanduseot
hermember
stoshar
ethecont
act
ingl
oad.

• Havearegulart
imescheduledeachweektodoyourcontacti
ng.Bui
ldanhouror
t
woofcont
act
ingintoyourweekl
yscheduleandseewhatadif
ferenceitmakes.
Habi
tNumberFi
ve:Fel
lowshi
p
Hi
ghl
yef
fect
ivecel
lgr
oupl
eader
stakef
ulladvant
ageoft
hepowerofsoci
algat
her
ings.

ThePowerofSoci
alandFunGat
her
ingsf
orFel
lowshi
p

1.Soci
alGat
her
ingsI
ncr
easeExci
tement
,Int
erest
,andI
nvol
vement
.

Itisamazinghowmanyt i
mesvi si
tor
sandmember shavet ur
nedthei
ratt
it
udearound
whent heyenjoyfun,
wellplannedfel
lowshi
pgat
herings.Therehavebeencountl
ess
visit
orsthatsetupst
udi
esaf tersuchawesomeevents,andbecomestrongdisci
ples
themselvesattheendoftheday.

2.Soci
algat
her
ingsat
tractnewpeopl
e

Letthem seethel
oveandclosenessthatthosei
nthegr ouphavef
ound.Oncetheskept
ical
famil
ymemberorf ri
endgetstoknowaf ewChr i
sti
ans,i
tismucheasierf
orthem t
otake
thenextstepofat
tendi
ngthegroup,sett
ingupast udyoratt
endachurchservi
ce.

3.Soci
algat
her
ingsal
lowmor
eoppor
tuni
ti
est
opr
act
icer
ealf
ell
owshi
p

TheNewTestamentconceptoff
ell
owshi
pcomesf
rom t
heGreekwordkoinoni
a.I
tmeans
shar
ingt
oget
her.Theearl
ydaysofthi
schur
chwer
ebuil
tonsuchevents.

4.Soci
algat
her
ingscancr
eat
eoppor
tuni
ti
est
oobeyt
he‘
oneanot
her
’commandsoft
he
NewTestament

TheNewTest
amentr
ecor
ds21“
oneanot
her
”commands.

Theumbr el
lacommandofthe“ oneanother”commandsi stoloveoneanother( John
13:34¬35;Romans13:8;1Peter1:22;1John3: 11;3:23;4:
7;4:11-12;2John1: 5).The
expressionofsuchl
oveisembodi edinthe20ot her“oneanother”commands.Whi lemany
ofthesecomment scanbeful
fil
ledi nagroupmeet ing,t
heycanal sobefulf
il
ledindiff
erent
anddeeperwaysi nsoci
alset
tings.Lookatt hi
slistandthinkhowt hesecouldbepr act
iced
i
nset ti
ngsoutsidet
hegroupmeet ing.

• Honoroneanot
her
.(Romans12:
16)

• Speakt
ooneanot
herwi
thPsal
ms.(
Ephesi
ans5:
19)

• Li
vei
nhar
monywi
thoneanot
her
.(Romans12:
16)

• Submi
ttooneanot
her
.(Ephesi
ans5:
21)

• St
opj
udgi
ngoneanot
her
.(Romans14:
13)

• Bearwi
thandf
orgi
veoneanot
her
.(Col
ossi
ans3:
13)
• Acceptoneanot
her
.(Romans15:
7)

• Teachandadmoni
shoneanot
her
.(Col
ossi
ans3:
16)

• I
nst
ructoneanot
her
.(Romans15:
14)

• Encour
ageoneanot
her
.(1Thessal
oni
ans5:
11,
Hebr
ews3:
13;10:
25)

• Gr
eetoneanot
her
.(Romans16:
16;1Cor
int
hians16:
20;2Cor
int
hians13:
12;1Pet
er
5:
14)

• Spuroneanot
heront
oloveandgoodwor
ks.(
Hebr
ews10:
24)

• Agr
eewi
thoneanot
her
.(1Cor
int
hians1:
10)

• Donotsl
anderoneanot
her
.(James4:
11)

• Ser
veoneanot
her
.(Gal
ati
ans5:
13)

• Of
ferhospi
tal
it
ytooneanot
her
.(1Pet
er4:
9)

• Bearwi
thoneanot
her
.(Ephesi
ans4:
32)

• Cl
othesel
vesi
nhumi
li
tyt
owar
doneanot
her
.(1Pet
er5:
5)

• Beki
nd,
compassi
onat
e,andf
orgi
vingt
ooneanot
her
.(Ephesi
ans4:
32)

• Wal
kint
hel
ightandf
ell
owshi
pwi
thoneanot
her
.(1John1:
7)

5.Soci
algat
her
ingscr
eat
eoppor
tuni
ti
esf
orf
urt
herdi
sci
pleshi
p

Consi
dersomeoft
heseexampl
est
akenf
rom Jesus’i
nter
act
ionwi
tht
heapost
les:

• Ataweddi
ng.(
John2:
1-10)

• Atadi
nnerpar
ty.(
Luke5:
29-
32;7:
36-
48)

• Onaboatr
ide.(
Luke8:
22-
25)

• Ataf
uner
al.(
John11:
17-
44)

• Pi
cki
nggr
ain.(
Mat
thew12:
17-
28)

• Atahol
idaymeal
.(Mat
thew26:
17-
28)

• Onawal
k.(
Luke24:
13-
27)

6.Soci
algat
her
ingshel
pkni
tnewpeopl
etot
hegr
oupandt
hechur
ch
Researchshowsthati
fnewpeopl eatachur
chorgroupdonotmakesevenf
ri
endswi
thi
n
thefi
rstsevenweeksofat
tendance,t
heywil
lnotst
ay.
Habi
tNumberSi
x:Pr
epar
e
Whypr
epar
e?

1.Pr
epar
ati
onGi
vesGodRoom t
oWor
k

Manyleadersdonottaketheti
met opreparethebibl
edi scussi
ont opi
ctheyareleading.
Theywi ngit
.Ot
hermember scantel
lhowi mpor t
antt
hegr oupi
st otheleaderbyhow
muchhehaspr epar
edf ori
t.Whentheyfinditconvi
cti
ngt heywilll
ookforwardtofuture
gather
ings.Whenaleaderiswel
lprepared,Godhasgr eateropportuni
tytoworkinthe
group.

2.Pr
epar
ati
onI
ncr
easesConf
idenceandFai
th

Hi
ghl
yeff
ect
ivel
eadershavel
ear
nedt
hatpr
epar
ati
oni
sthekeyt
oappr
oachi
ngt
hegr
oup
meet
ingwi
thconf
idence.

3.Pr
epar
ati
onBui
ldsCr
edi
bil
it
y

Whenal
eaderispr
epar
edthememberswil
lbemoreli
kel
ytof
oll
owhislead.Theyar
eal
so
morewi
ll
ingt
oinvi
teot
herguest
s.Theywi
llal
sor
espectt
hel
eaderevenmor e.

4.Pr
epar
ati
onI
ncr
easesQual
it
y

Ninet
y-ni
neper
centoft
het
ime,
thepr
epar
edl
eaderwi
lll
eadbet
tert
hant
heunpr
epar
ed
one.

5.Pr
epar
ati
onRei
nfor
cest
heVal
ueoft
heGr
oupLi
fe

Ifaleaderdoesnotmakeitapri
ori
tyt
oprepare,t
hememberswi
llnotmakei
tapr
ior
it
yto
att
end.Pr epar
ingtodayi
sthesecr
etofsuccesstomor
row

Whatt
oPr
epar
e

A.Pr
epar
eYour
sel
f

Themostimpor
tantel
ementofprepar
ati
oni spersonalpr
epar
ati
on.Necessar
yar
easof
per
sonalpr
epar
ati
onrevol
vearoundseveralquesti
ons:

• DoIhaveanysi
nIneedt
oconf
ess?

• Thr
oughmyDevot
ioni
stheHol
ySpi
ri
tbei
ngal
lowedt
obet
hedomi
nantper
sonal
it
y
i
nmyl i
fe?

• DoIhaveagr
atef
ulhear
tfort
heoppor
tuni
tyt
oleadagr
oupandal
lthepeopl
einmy
gr
oup?

• Am Iwi
ll
ingt
oli
vet
heWor
dinmydai
lyl
if
e?
• Ar
ether
eanyr
elat
ionshi
psIneedt
omaker
ight
?

Oneoft
hegr
eat
estasset
sinper
sonalpr
epar
ati
oni
sfast
ing.

B.Pr
epar
etheat
mospher
e

Theatmospherecanmakeorbr eakt
hemeeti
ng.I
thel
pswhenthegroupl
eaderi
snotal
so
thehost
,gi
vingtheresponsi
bil
it
ytoot
hermemberst
oalsopr
eparet
heatmosphere.

• Theplace-
themeet
ingpl
aceneedstobecl
ean,comfor
tabl
e,wel
lli
tandspaci
ous.
Ali
tt
lebackgr
oundmusi
cand/orni
ceroom spr
aydoesn’
thurt
!!

• Therefr
eshment
s–snacksanddr
inksshoul
dbeappeal
ing,
hygi
eni
candat
tr
act
ive,
butt
heydon’thavet
obeexpensi
ve.

C.Pr
epar
etheAgendaf
ort
heMeet
ing–4W’
s(Wel
come,
Wor
shi
p,Wor
dandWor
ks)
Habi
tNumberSeven:Gr
ow
I
nsi
ght
sint
oPer
sonalGr
owt
h

1.Per
sonalgr
owt
hisexpect
edofusbyGod

Godexpect
sust ogrow.Heexpect
sustobeconst
ant
lydevel
opi
ngourchar
act
erandour
ski
ll
stomini
steref
fect
ivel
yforChr
ist
.

2.Per
sonalgr
owt
hist
hef
ount
ainheadofgr
oupchangeandgr
owt
h

Whenyoui mproveyourselft
hesituati
onwilli
mprove.Whenyougrowasaleader,you
all
owGodt ogrowyourgr oupandyourpeopl ethr
oughyou.Youcouldsayt
hatthekeyto
changingt
hegr oupischangingtheleader
.Growt hegr
oupbygrowingthel
eader.Impr
ove
thegroupbyimpr ovi
ngtheleader.

3.Per
sonalgr
owt
hpr
event
sdecl
ine

Nothinginouruniverse,exceptGod,st
aysthesame.Everyt
hingi
sei
therdevel
opi
ngor
decl
ining.Ourpersonal,spi
rit
uall
ivesaregr
owingordying.I
fwedon’
taggressi
vel
ypr
ess
on,wewi llsoonbeslidi
ngback.

Ithasbeenobser
vedthat,“
Mostofusmustl
ear
nagr
eatdealever
ydayi
nor
dert
okeep
aheadofwhatwef or
get.
”

4.Per
sonalgr
owt
hissomet
hingyoumustdoyour
sel
f

1 Per
sonalgr
owt
hist
hekeyt
ost
ayi
ngshar
pandef
fect
ive

2 Per
sonalgr
owt
hisal
if
e-l
ongpr
ocess,
notashor
t-t
erm commi
tment

3 Per
sonalgr
owt
hshoul
dbeoccur
ri
ngi
nfourkeyar
easofl
if
e:

AndJesusgr
ewi
nwi
sdom andst
atur
e,andi
nfavorwi
thGodandmen.(
Luke2:
52)

Not
ethatJesusgr
ewi
nfourkeyar
eas:

1.Wisdom:Whenwast
hel astti
meyoudel
iber
atel
yfedyourmi
nd?Whenseat
ed,
reada
book;whenmovi
ng,
li
stent oatape.

2.St
atur
e:Physi
calheal
thi
sther
esul
tofpr
operdi
et,
rest
,andexer
cise.

3.Favorwit
hGod:Spir
it
ualgrowt
hi ncr
easest
hroughsuchimport
antspi
ri
tualdi
sci
pli
nes
aspersonalBi
bler
eadingandstudy,pr
ayer
,fast
ing,
conf
essi
onofsinandrepent
ance.

4.Favorwi
thman:Wemustcont
inual
lyi
nvesti
nthekeyr
elat
ionshi
psofourl
ivest
ogr
ow
soci
all
y.
4 Per
sonalgr
owt
hist
hepr
oductofdai
lyhabi
ts

Thesecrett
oeffecti
venessi
sfoundinourdail
yhabi
ts.Ef
fecti
vepeopl
eandl
eader
sbui
ld
necessar
ydisci
plinesi
ntoourl
ivesandli
vethosedi
scipl
inesdai
ly.

5 Yourper
sonalgr
owt
henabl
esyout
ohel
pyourgr
oupmember
sachi
evet
hei
rown
per
sonalgr
owth.

TheTenCommandment
sofPer
sonalGr
owt
h

1.Maket
hechoi
cet
obeanever
-gr
owi
ngper
son

Whoyouar etodayi
stheresul
tofthechoi
cesyouhavemadeinthepast.Whoyouwi l
lbe
tomorrowwil
lbetheresul
toft
hechoicesyoumaketoday.Youwil
lnotsigni
fi
cant
lygr
ow
unti
lyouchoosetodowhatittakest
ogrow.

2.Focusyouract
ivi
ti
esandsetsomegoal
s

SMARTgoal
sar
e

• Si
mple.Agoodsi
mplegoalist
or eadyourbi
ble15minut
es,ort
wochapter
s,aday.
Twochapt
ersadaywil
lgetyouthroughtheBi
bletwi
ceever
ythreeyear
s.

• Measurabl
e.Ameasur
abl
egoalisti
edtoti
me(15mi nut
esaday)orto
accompli
shment(
achapt
eraday).I
tissomet
hingyoucaneasi
lyt
ellwhet
herornot
youhit
.

• Attai
nable.Youmayhaveasi mple,measur
ablegoalt
hatdoesyounogood
becauseitistoof arbeyondyourr
each.I
fyouhaveneverexer
cisedinyourli
fe,
start
ingatanhouradaywoul dnotbeattai
nabl
e.Butstar
ti
ngwithtem minutesa
daywoul dber easonable.

• Rel
evant
.

• Toget
her–easi
erwi
thaf
ri
end.

1. Gat
heranyneededt
ool
s

2. Devel
opapl
ant
hatf
it
syou

Thosewhoar eeff
ect
iveinpersonalgr
owthdonotadoptot
herpeopl
es’pl
ans.They
prayer
ful
lydevel
opplansthatfi
tthem.Then,
theyadj
ustt
hei
rplanswit
hnewgoal sand
di
scipl
ineseachmonth.

5.Schedul
etheneededt
ime
Youmightf
indthatyouneedtogetupearl
ier
.Oryoumaydiscovert
hati
nordert
ohavethe
ti
metogrow,youwillhavel
it
tl
eornoti
met owatchTV.Mostofushave,
andwaste,
allt
he
ti
meweneedt oli
veoutagoodgrowthplan.

“
Ifanyonewillspendonehouradayont
hesamepr
ojectt
hatper
sonwi
llbeanexper
ton
t
hatsubject
.”

1. Sowbef
oreyouhopet
oreap

2. Makeyour
sel
faccount
abl
e

Usethepowerofaccountabil
it
ytoyouradvant
agebymakingyour
selfaccountableforyour
per
sonalgrowthplan.AskyourG12leadert
oholdyouaccount
abl
eforyoupr ogress.Keep
achartofyourpr
ogress.

8.Shar
ewhatyoul
ear
nwi
thot
her
s

Youwi l
lonl
yrememberaboutf
iveper
centofwhatyouhearorr ead.Butifyousharewhat
youheardorreadwit
hsomeoneelse,
youwi l
lrememberamuchhi gherpercent
age.Takea
minuteeachdaytopassonwhatGodisteachingyou.Tel
lyourspouse.Teachyourkids.
Shareitwit
hyourgr
oup.

9.Associ
atewi
thgr
owi
ngpeopl
e

I
nPr ov27:17,i
tsays“Asi
ronsharpensi
ron,
soonemanshar pensanot
her.”Growi
ng
peopleassoci
atewit
hgrowingpeopl
e.Theystayshar
p,bybei
nginthepresenceofshar
p
people.

10.Putwhatyoul
ear
nint
opr
act
ice

Thegoalofper
sonalgrowt
hisnottof
illyourheadwit
hinf
ormat
ionbutt
ochangeyourl
if
e.
Tryt
oputeveryt
hingyouarel
earni
ngintopracti
ce.Tr
yit
.Li
veit
.Doit
.

WhenIr eadabook, Il
iketosummar i
zeeachchapterint
otwosentences,
onesent enceto
rememberandonet odo.Thisway, Itakeitint
omylif
elongaf
terthebookisfi
nished.
Again,allofthestepsregardingpersonalgrowthappl
ytoever
yoneinyourgroup, si
ncewe
areallsupposedt obegr owinginthelikenessofGodunti
lwedie.Ahighl
yeff
ectivecell
l
eaderwi llhelpt
hemember sofhisgr oupgrowaswel l
.
Habi
tNumberEi
ght
:Ment
or
2Timothy2:2“Andt
hethi
ngsyouhavehear
dmesayi nthepresenceofmanywi
tnesses
ent
rusttor
eli
ablemenwhowil
lalsobequal
if
iedt
oteachothers.
”

Whenwet al
kaboutmentor
ingordi
sci
pli
nginthi
scontext
,wemeancooper
ati
ngwi
thGod
i
ntrai
ningupadisci
plet
obecomeahighlyef
fect
ivecel
lgroupl
eader

Thi
smaysoundover-whel
ming,butr
aisi
ngupspiri
tualr
eproducer
sist
hehear
tofGod.
Mentor
ingordi
sci
pli
ngsomeonetobeaf ut
urecel
lgroupleaderi
s:

1.Fol
lowi
ngt
heexampl
esofJesusandPaul

Astudyofthegospel
sreveal
sthatment
ori
ngwasJesus’
met
hod,
nott
oment
iont
hef
indi
ngs
ofourworki
nggroups.

2.Agr
eatwayt
oloveot
her
s

Ment
ori
ngi
nit
spur
estsensei
sempower
ingot
her
stosucceed.

3.Themeansofmul
ti
plyi
ngyour
sel
f

Howmanyti
meshavewewishedwecoul
dbeattwopl
acesatoneti
me?Ment
ori
ngi
sthe
onl
ywayabusyper
soncanmini
steri
nmoret
hanonepl
aceatati
me.

4.Thewayoneor
dinar
yper
soncanr
eacht
housands

5.Thehear
tofdi
sci
plemaki
ng

6.Awayt
omai
ntai
ngodl
yaccount
abi
li
ty

Mentori
ngwor kswhent hereisaccountabi
li
tybetweenthementorandthepersonhei s
mentori
ngordi sci
pli
ng.Thisaccountabil
it
yextendsfr
om theexpect
ati
onsoflear
ningto
l
eadingagroupt opersonaldevoti
onsanddeal i
ngwi t
hbli
ndspots.Mentor
ingcreatesa
nat
uralaccountabil
it
yrelat
ionshi
p.

7.Sayi
ng,
“No”t
otheur
genti
nor
dert
osay,
“Yes”t
othepot
ent
ialoft
hei
mpor
tant

Eff
ecti
vecel
lgr
oupleader
smakethechoi
cet
omakement
ori
ngapr
ior
it
yeveni
nthemi
dst
ofever
ythi
ngel
setheyaredoi
ng.

8.Themostl
ast
ingpar
tofcel
lgr
oupl
eader
shi
p

SevenSt
epsf
orRai
singUpMul
ti
plyi
ngLeader
sandRepr
oduci
ngRepr
oducer
s

1.Demonst
rat
eWhatYouHopet
oRepr
oduce

Theper
sonwhor
aisesuphi
ghl
yef
fect
ivecel
lgr
oupl
eader
swhowi
lll
ivet
heei
ghthabi
tsi
s
t
hel
eaderwhol
ivest
heei
ghthabi
tshi
msel
f.

2.Seeever
ymemberasal
eader

Thepot ent
ialtoleadagrowing,
successf
ul,bi
blet
alkgr
oupdoesnotresi
dewit
hgi
ft
ed,
the
educated,orthosewithvibr
antper
sonali
ti
es.Theanswer,
rat
her
,ishardwor
kand
teachableheart.

3.DeepenYourRel
ati
onshi
pwi
thyourPot
ent
ialLeader
s

AuthorBi
llHullst
ated,
“Ifyouarenotwil
li
ngtogettr
ulyclosetoafewpeopl
eforChr
ist
thenyouwillnothavetheful
limpactt
hatisvi
talf
ordisci
pleshi
p.”

Twooft
hebestwayst
odeepenr
elat
ionshi
ps:

• Praytogether
.Not
hingkni
tspeopl
ecl
osert
oget
hert
hanqual
it
yti
mespentar
ound
thethroneofGod.

• Playtogether.Capit
alizeonever
yopport
uni
tytospendti
met ogetherout
sideofcel
l
groupmi nist
rysetti
ngs.Therearemanythi
ngsyoucandotoget her.Gooutanddo
them!Itcouldbeshar ingmealstoget
her
,vi
sit
ingi
neachother’
shomes, attendi
ng
aneventt ogether,
orexercisi
ngtoget
her
.Whatyoudoisnotimpor t
antaslongas
youaredoi ngittogether.

• Bebestfri
endswitheachother
,notaboss/subordi
nat
est
ruct
ure.Agood
rel
ati
onshi
pwi l
lbuil
dtrust
,andtr
usti
nturnwillopent
hedoorf
oryoutohavean
i
mpact .

4.Descr
ibet
heVi
sion

Gett
oget
heranddescri
bethevisi
on.Peopl
ewi
llnotl
aydownt
hei
rli
vesf
orapr
ogr
am,
but
t
heywil
llaydownt
heirli
vesforavisi
on.

Someel
ement
soft
hevi
siont
oshar
e:

• Thevi
sionoft
hehel
pingt
hel
ostt
obesaved

• Thevi
sionoft
hechur
chasGodi
ntendedi
ttobe

• Thevi
sionoft
hemember
soft
hegr
oupmat
uri
ngi
nChr
ist

• Thevi
sionofmul
ti
plyi
ngl
eader
sandgr
oups

• Thevi
sionoft
hepot
ent
ialt
omakeadi
ff
erence

5.Descr
ibet
heCommi
tmentt
obeMade(
Countt
heCost
)
• Expl
aint
hei
rcommi
tmentt
ounder
got
hepr
ocessofPEPSOL

• Theircommi t
mentt oment orothers.PaultoldTimothyt
ocommi thimselftot
rai
n
fai
thfulmenwhowoul dtrai
nother s(2Timot hy2:2)
.Bui
ldintheexpect
ationof
reproducingr
epr oducersfrom theverybegi nni
ng.Helpthem becommittedto
ment ori
ngmultipli
ers.Praywi t
ht hem abouthavingavisiont
oonedayt raina
l
eaderevenbef oretheybecomeal eaderthemselves.

6.Devel
opThem

Thisiswherewehaveof t
endroppedtheballinthepast.Wemustneveraskpeopl etodo
somethingthattheyarenottr
ainedtodo.Somanygr eatcel
lgroupleader
sinourchurch
havebecomedi scouragedbecausetheywer enotwalkedwithenought ogi
vethem
vict
ori
es.Thought her
eistrut
htotheideaof“ t
hrowingthem i
nt hedeepend”,i
tcanbe
takentoofar!Wemustsucceedi ngivi
ngaf ewswi mminglessonsifwearetrul
ygoingto
teachourprotégéshowt oswim andnotdrown!

Therear
efourdiscer
nablestepsi
nthet
rai
ningpr
ocessofdevel
opi
ngleaders.Thesear
e
vi
sibl
eintheminist
ryofJesusandthet
welveandint
heministr
yofBarnabasandPaul.

• Modelit
.Havethem wat
chasyoudomini
str
y,justasJesusdidwit
hHisdisci
ples
(
Matthew9:2-
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fect
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• Mot
ivat
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.Lear
nwhatmot
ivat
est
heper
sonyouar
etr
aini
ng.

• Mul
ti
plyi
t.

7.Depl
oyt
hem

Yougett
oseesomeoneyouhavel
edandt
rai
nedl
eadi
ngandt
rai
ningot
her
s.Thi
sisa
sour
ceofimmensej
oy.