Written by Renee DeGroat

Published: August 3, 2021

Should Cancel Culture Be Canceled?

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Imagine this: You are talking with friends and family and during the conversation, you mention eating at
Chik-fil-A. Immediately, a couple of friends get visibly upset and start accusing you of being an awful
person for supporting such a business. They say they don’t want to talk about it and storm off.
Throughout the week, you try calling and texting them to hang out but they don’t answer your calls and
they give one-word text replies that state they’re busy and can’t hangout. Later, you find out from
another friend, that they are upset that you eat at Chik-fil-A because of their stance on the LGBTQ+
cause. They’ve assumed you support Chik-fil-A’s position on the matter and therefore, they don’t want
to be friends with you anymore; they’re “canceling” you. By the way, the whole time you just thought
you were eating good food.

So, What is Cancel Culture?

One way to describe cancel culture is taking away someone’s power and/or withdrawing support of
them due to their comments or behavior. Typically, their comment is seen as controversial, problematic,
and/or offensive and the other person does not agree. Not only do they choose not to support that
person anymore, but they also choose to call them out publicly, so others cancel them as well and
therefore, cut ties with that person. It started with TV networks and social media platforms canceling
contracts and speaking engagements with public figures as the networks’ values did not align with the
person’s statements and/or behavior. Just as people would boycott a business, they are now boycotting
a person. Lately, it has become even more personal since people are canceling friends and family
members by unfriending them on social media, not talking with them in person, and even not attending
holiday gatherings with them, all as a reaction to something they did or said that they didn’t agree with.
I have not experienced this myself, but I have seen this happen often, especially lately. I have a few
friends that had family members decline invitations to family Thanksgiving gatherings due to their
disagreement on politics.

Ways to Combat Cancel Culture

Discover the Motive
Is the hope that the person will become more empathetic towards those offended and come to a mutual
understanding? Are they supposed to educate themselves and apologize? Or is it driven by emotions
and supposed to hurt the person in return? Sandel (2009) discusses looking for and evaluating the
motive. What is the reason for what we do and say? By asking the why behind reactions you can reach
the motive, which can lead us to the heart of the issue, and in turn a better solution than cancel culture.
I can’t speak to every person’s motive for canceling someone they didn’t agree with, but I can say much
of what I’ve observed on social media seems to be people reacting out of their emotions. People express
in their post, feeling hurt, angry, sad, you name it because of the person’s comment and want nothing to
do with that person anymore. Have you ever said something out of frustration that you really didn’t
mean and regretted?

Role Model Emotional Intelligence

Being a leader in change against cancel culture can start with being a role model of emotional
intelligence. Johnson (2018, pp. 298-299) discusses emotional intelligence and says it “consists of
awareness and management of personal emotions and recognizing and exerting influence on the
emotions of others. Johnson suggests that emotionally intelligent people and groups are more effective
and productive as they have astounding self-evaluation skills and can recognize disruptive and unhealthy
behaviors and provide support as needed.

Using Supportive Communication

Johnson also compares defensive and supportive communication. If you feel threatened, it affects your
ability to trust the speaker and continue listening or at least listening accurately. When feeling this way,
some may think about winning and others about protecting themselves (Johnson, 2018, p. 296).
Supportive communication is when people take their time to understand the message and this will
promote a more positive emotional climate. As leaders, we can help role model healthy behavior and
responses. As Maxwell (2018, pp. 71-79) states, the true test of a great leader is the influence that we
have as a representative for positive change. We have to be willing to go through the process of leading
others involved in making the change as it won’t happen overnight. If you feel defensive, you can ask
yourself why you are feeling defensive, and what if those emotions are clouding your interpretation?
What if you’re misunderstanding the person’s message? Have you ever been misunderstood? Are we
giving people a chance to explain what they meant and share their perspectives if we don’t have an
open dialogue before canceling someone? Cancel culture eliminates discussion, restricting the
opportunity to learn from one another, hearing other’s perspectives, correcting a misunderstanding, and
allowing room for growth.

Listen & Seek Clarification

Misunderstandings are very common and happen to everyone every day whether it is noticed or not.
Even when speaking the same language, people have different perceptions of the same word. For
instance, the word friendly. It is commonly referred to as being nice and affable. However, it’s also used
to describe someone that is overly affectionate with a negative connotation. For this reason, we should
seek more clarification of the speaker’s meaning of the message that they are trying to convey. Too
often, we can assume what the other person means. The other day, I was talking with a few married
friends who expressed frustration with their spouses for arguments due to misunderstandings. Instead
of talking through it, they just got frustrated and walked away, ignoring the problem and moving on.
Many times, they see the same problem resurface. Have you had this happen to you? Listening and
seeking clarification is a skill to be practiced. Johnson discusses comprehensive listening as being
motivated by the need to understand and retain messages. We can’t assume, but instead try to
understand the message being communicated (Johnson, 2018, pp. 294-296).

The Effects of Cancel Culture

What are the effects of cancel culture? Is this helping society? Cancel culture seems to fit the theory of
ethnocentrism which refers to the thinking that one’s group is superior to others (Johnson 45-46). This
leads to unhealthy responses such as engaging only with people that are similar to us. Cancel culture
also lacks moral imagination (Johnson, 2018 p. 47) which facilitates ethical reasoning by opening one’s
perception. To counter this, we can practice sensitivity to the different levels and magnitude of a
situation, listening to different perspectives and new ideas that can lead to more cohesive solutions.

Fear of Sharing Differing Opinions

A few problems that cancel culture lead to include isolation, intimidation, and fear. Johnson says that
few challenge ideas because of being “publicly shamed, demoted or dismissed” (Johnson, 2018, p. 332).
Knowing that you could be canceled for sharing your opinion can deter you from speaking up and
retreating into silence. Speaking for myself, I have been in situations where I didn’t speak my opinion
out of fear that the other person will disagree and then “cancel” me. However, when evaluating the
conversations that I appreciate and grow from, it is not just the conversations where everyone agrees.
It’s the stimulating conversations where people have introduced me to different perspectives, new
ideas, and interesting thoughts that encouraged me to reconsider my position. It is not about getting the
other person to agree with me but challenging one another to consider different perspectives. This leads
me to a question: are we okay with agreeing to disagree? If someone believes in and supports
something that we don’t, can we still be respectful of one another? It doesn’t appear to me that cancel
culture encourages respect for different opinions.

Disrespect for Altering Perspectives

As Johnson (2018) states, to succeed in a group, members need to cooperate, engage in higher-level
reasoning, and more critical thinking (p. 292). This is the same for society. What happens if we don’t
challenge one another to think critically; think outside our comfort zone and gain new perspectives.
Again, this does not mean that we need to agree on everything. We should be able to respect one
another enough to have an open dialogue about each of our experiences that have shaped our beliefs
and values which, in turn, led us to our conclusion regarding the situation at hand.

A Limit on Freedom of Speech

Another problem this brings up is the violation of freedom of speech. We live in a society that promotes
the opportunity to live as you choose and speak about your beliefs, values, thoughts, and ideas freely.
Cancel culture opposes freedom of speech as it mutes people’s perspectives and thoughts. I am not in
any way condoning people that are hateful, racist, threatening, etc., but there should be steps taken
before canceling them.

What Can We Do?

Practice and model emotional intelligence. One thing we can do is take a step back and evaluate how we
are feeling and why we are feeling a certain way to better understand the underlying problem. We can
also be sensitive to others’ emotions and provide support.

Expose ourselves to alternative viewpoints. We can learn from one another. We don’t know everything
and we don’t have all the answers. We should be open to looking through a different lens which can
help develop empathy and create a better understanding of others.

Stay curious and have an open dialogue. How can we grow if we only surround ourselves with people
that think and act just as we do? There needs to be a safe space to freely talk about sensitive topics to
educate one another and open ourselves to new ideas.

Respect one another and differing opinions. Do to others what you would have them do to you
(Matthew 7:12, New International Version). It’s okay to agree to disagree. We don’t always have to be
right and convince others to have the same opinions and beliefs.

Avoid assumptions. Statements can easily be taken out of context and the person’s intended message
can easily be misunderstood.

Ask questions and seek clarification. Don’t assume and get distracted by different terms or specific
words used. Instead, ask questions for clarification of the speaker’s meaning.
In conclusion, I think cancel culture should be canceled. It is admirable to advocate for yourself and
others. But at what cost? Do you cut people out of your life for not believing or valuing the same things?
If someone is spewing hateful words, how is that person supposed to open their mind to a different
perspective if they are canceled? I think it is much more valuable to listen and educate one another by
sharing experiences. Let’s be more open to agreeing to disagree; aiming for understanding and even
considering the option of changing our views on situations. I encourage all of us to stay curious and open
ourselves up to alternative viewpoints; having an open dialogue about situations and asking questions to
seek a better understanding of one another all while respecting each other’s freedom to live as we
choose.

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