THE BEAUTY OF

RECONCILIATION
BURRY THE HUTCHET

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BY KIPLANGAT BISMARK
 RECOCILIATION

(Bury the Hatchet)

THE BEAUTY

OF

RECONCILIATION

Chapter one

i). Definition of Reconciliation

ii). The process of Reconciliation

iii). Importance of reconciliation.

iv). Factors affecting Reconciliation

Chapter two

v). Biblical teaching on Reconciliation

vi). Summary Reconciliation

 CHAPTER ONE

1.0. DEFINITION.

RECOCILIATION: This is engendering a sense of understanding between two bodies

after a feud /misunderstanding (basing on my own view). The united nations for
international development progress define reconciliation as a back born to progress of
peace building in a given nation hence growth of a country and her neighbors.
Most researchers in psychology show that an institution which minds of developing in
all spheres must consider or should take first of all “RECONCILIATION’’ being
their first priority. I believe that human nature is based on faults more especially
unknown and those uncontrolled of which it ushers in fights between the human race.

These institutions may include; family, Schools/Colleges and Universities, Churches,

Army, among other institutions.

1.1. THE PROCES OF RECONCILIATION

For reconciliation to be achieved, the following steps should be closely considered;

(process of reconciliation):

On the onset, there are questions that ring in our minds like a bell of warning. i.e.,
what could be the cause of the problem/misunderstanding. A problem literary is
something or a situation that needs immediate solution.

In this process of reconciliation, there must be a mediator between the two bodies
having the grudge.

A mediator is one who bridges the gap between the two distinct parties or I could say a
mediator is a ladder of peace linking two conflicting bodies together.
The following questions could be asked by the mediator;

What is the problem?

What was the cause?

What have you done to solve the problem?

What do you think should be done to solve the problem?

Therefore, reconciliation is the application of logic, reasoning, judgement and

information analysis to the situation of uncertainty.

Reconciliation path (process of reconciliation) includes;

UNCERTAINTY/PROBLEM AT HAND UNDERSTANDING RESOLUTION

Uncertainty, is the problem at hand. without this reconciliation cannot emerge

anywhere in fact it doesn’t exist. So, for reconciliation to come in, there has to be the
uncertainty/problem at hand

Understanding, follows in the que after the uncertainty and here is where we see
mutual reasoning between the two conflicting bodies with the help of a mediator who
will then neutralize the exchange of information and make understanding flow from
one party to another which will lead us to the next step;

Resolution, being the coda of the process of reconciliation happen to come in after
mutual understanding has emerged and here is where we see agreements being made
between the conflicting bodies after a judgement has been made by the mediator that
will make them understand what they will be agreeing on to reach a resolution point.

The diagram bellow will further illustrate to us the process of reconciliation where we
will see question answer approach from both parties with the mediator helping in the
process which will furthermore show us the interaction mood
Diagram .1.0

Questions and answer process

Interaction mood
PARTY PARTY
MEDIATOR TWO
ONE

Question and answer process

After the result, is the resolution and mutual understanding which leads to reconciliation

In the diagram above, it shows us the interaction of three parties; party one, mediator,
and party two. the arrows tell us how the mediator is linking up the two parties together
to reach an agreement of resolution, mutual understanding that leads to reconciliation.

This is what is emphasized. Before reconciliation, the two bodies/parties must have
struggled to settle the conflict in vain. This will call for the help of a person called a
mediator who will bring the two parties to a mutual understanding by carrying out a
careful prejudgment. So, communication therefore is the administering of total justice in
a given society.

From the beginning of creation up to today, it shows that man is tempted to break a law
(covenant) and bring a misunderstanding which will need nothing but reconciliation.
Citing an example in an African tradition, initially in African tradition there are those to
do and those not to do which gives us an appeal to our senses that is to say do not do
this, do not do that. in an African setting, talking of laws, that is to say one was warned
during initiation not to intentionally watch or see their mothers bathing in the nearby
rivers since during the uncivilized days there were no necessities to foster bathing, so
this domestic activity was only done in the river banks. This was forbidden in the
traditional setting but still there is a saying that, “a mosquito has to enter the net’’
man can’t control the eye and the elders had to intervene by having the person who
broke the law or who committed such a crime be reconciled with the society by making
a sacrifice of which he/she was expected to bring perhaps a sheep or a goat which was
supposed to be sacrificed for such a calamity .

This brings to our mind that for reconciliation to take place, there has to be a sacrifice
made and this is acceptance of fault by both sides having the misunderstanding
therefore sacrifice is vital in the process of reconciliation just as we will see much in the
biblical view on reconciliation.

1.3 IMPORTANCE OF RECONCILIATION

Reconciliation matters because the outcome of not reconciling can be astronomic. So, to
minimize the huge consequences of conflicts and misunderstandings, we have to bring
in reconciliation as a neutralizer.

Without reconciliation, the best one can hope for is the kind of armed standoff that we
have seen in recent years. So, reconciliation, controls the urge of armed standoff that
can cause a bloodshed and the loss of lives which is very important for humanity.

Reconciliation is a factor sustaining human life that is to say economically, socially,

physically, psychologically and many more. For example, trade and commerce
improves the economic wellbeing of a nation and the people at large.
The incident that happened in 2019 between Uganda and Rwanda can be used for
further explanation. Despite the fact that the two countries are neighbors, they faced a
misunderstanding calling it incident if murder because it involved losing lives. This was
caused by Uganda accusing Rwandan military of violation of territory. Rwanda started
blocking Ugandan cargo trucks from entering at Katuna, the busiest crossing on the two
nations’ border. Authorities in Kigali also started stopping the countries nationals from
travelling to Uganda. Trade and commerce were stagnant of which trade and commerce
earns the majority of the natives living in these two countries a living. Not until the two
governments under president Yoweri Kaguta Museveni of Uganda and president Robert
Mugabe of Rwanda sat down and reconciled by agreeing on terms and conditions, trade
and commerce between the two governments would be at sorry state due to stagnation.
Hence reconciliation being so important.

Development as another product of reconciliation comes in with a lot of pure life

examples that will help us get to know the importance of reconciliation. Looking at
Sudan as a state, it’s one of the richest economic country which has all the potential to
develop and thrive faster. There have been misunderstandings between South Sudan
and the North Sudan since July 2011, where one of the states (Northern Sudan) made a
break away and formed their own government. So, the division in the nation of Sudan
has made them lag behind as far us development is concern. But if they can agree and
work together as one, the nation of Sudan in a short period will be a very developed
country. Therefore, at this point, reconciliation tends to stabilize nature and cause the
process of development as a whole.

Also looking at Uganda majorly between tribes, more especially in the eastern part, the
land clash between the Sebei and the Bagisu which caused death claiming a lot of lives
during the process making a destabilization between the two tribes bordering each other
from the east not until the government had to intervene and reconciled the two. Now
there is stability peace and unity among the two eastern tribes which has made many
sabiny people live in the bagisu land and the vice versa. This has led to continuous
development in the two regions hence reconciliation is a peace holder and a
development causer.
Not late in November 2012, a second-year male student in the faculty of Arts at
Makerere university by the name of Emmanuel Kagyina, jumped to his death from the
5th floor of the girl’s hall of residence.

Emmanuel Kagyina left a note behind to his father. This was discovered after he
plunged to his horrific end. The note he left behind explains that he committed suicide
due to family hiccups.

This is the toughest and hardest decision one can make but it happened. Read the note
in part.

“Dad, it’s true that I wronged you in some aspects but it’s also true that me and you did
not share our relationship to the required standards,” he said in the not.

“To Uncle Pat, you have tried to shape us as you can but the problem is that you were
strict and harsh. This is a ‘DOT COM ERA!!!’’

When investigations were made clearly it showed that there was a misunderstanding
between the parents and the deceased. Most cases happen of late due to family related
issues, misunderstandings over tuition, upkeep rent, students misusing their tuition fee
and leads to such a hazard that claim lives. This serves to tell all parents that if there are
some differences between them and their children, there has to be a mutual talk with
their own children and reconcile amicably to avoid death threats. Reconciliation is one
big factor that controls death threats and sustain life in humans.

Also looking at the Kenya’s political wrangle 2007-2008 after the Kenyan polls,
wrangles emerged from ballots to bullets. Where the clash between the opposition and
the ruling government claimed thousands of lives of people and cause a great disaster.

This was only ceased by reconciliation of the two distinct parties which was done head
to head opponents of the government Mr. Mwai Kibaki the former president of Kenya
and the former prime minister Mr. Raila Odinga by the former UN secretary Coffi
Annan. Therefore, reconciliation is a very important factor which should not be ignored
by any institution but use it as a shield for development of the institutions.
it is an appeal to the human race to take reconciliation as a positive factor that has to
manifest in their lives successfully to create peace and harmony between them who are
of one race.

CHAPTER TWO

2.0 BIBILICAL TEACHING ON RECONCILIATION

On the biblical view, God himself acknowledges that reconciliation is important. After
the fall of man in the garden of Eden, he reconciled man back to Himself but He gave
him some conditions (laws) which were to be kept and followed by Adam and Eve and
the generation to come after them (Gen 3:13ff/,).

Also looking at the story of Jacob and Esau, (Gen 27:1ff) Jacob stole Esau blessings as
the first son without his knowledge and that made Esau hate his young brother Jacob
because of the blessings with which his father had blessed him, and Esau said to
himself, “the days for mourning my father are approaching; then I will kill my brother
Jacob. Esau comforted himself by saying he will kill Jacob. So, Rebekah calls out her
young son Jacob and tells him ‘’obey my voice and flee to Laban my brother in Haran
and stay with him for a while until your brothers fury turns away,’’ (Gen 41:1ff).

It had been twenty years since Jacob deceived his father and received the blessings
Isaac had intended to give Esau. It took him twenty years to come back home. And
now, as he is about to come back to the land of his fathers, Jacob is fearful of what the
brother might have in package for him. Esau has had twenty years to let bitterness and
hatred grow in his heart, this is initially what is in Jacob’s mind and he sends
messengers ahead ton gain information about Esau (Gen 32:7-9). But when Esau meets
his brother Jacob on the way, it was a surprise that what Jacob was thinking the brother
would do to him was the opposite in that, Esau runs to his brother, embraces him, kisses
him and weeps with joy (Gen 33:4). Rather than letting bitterness and hatred consume
him, Esau had to forgive his brother rather than a bloody conflict, so the meeting of
Jacob and Esau became the story of reconciliation
This biblical perspective on reconciliation, points to us the challenges families had even
up to today. Such issues in family’s groom hatred that can cause death as we saw Esau
vowing to kill the brother Jacob but if it was not for Esau’s humility, he would have
resorted to revenging for the loss of his blessings to his young brother Jacob. So, this
calls for humility amongst family members to consider forgiveness rather than
vengeance to bring in reconciliation that can promote peace happiness amongst
families.

This sounds easy but you could be wondering, why relationships have to be so
complicated? Why do good friends from no where have hatred towards each other? And
probably why do family members become so fragile and may not speak to each other
for years. simple; its because we are sinners who are, by nature, enemies of God and of
each other. However, the Gospel is the message of reconciliation which simply means
“the bringing together of divided parties “; Jesus brings God and man together.

In Christ, God was reconciling the world to himself without counting their trespasses
against Him, and entrusting us with the message of reconciliation. (2corinthians 5:19)

Still in the old testament, God used his prophets and priests to reconcile back His
children (people). After the children of Israel build an idol of a cow during their journey
to the promised land. This happened when Moses had gone to Mt. Sinai to talk with
God.

God sent Moses back from the mountain to go and talk to the children of Israel about
what they had done which triggered God’s anger on the Israelites to the extent of God
destroying them all but Moses became a mediator between the children of Israel and
pleaded on their behalf. Through sacrifice, the Israelites where then considered the
children of God (Exodus 19:1-25, 20:1-26)

Also, King David after he committed adultery with Uriah’s wife Bathsheba. There was
reconciliation after the disappointing act done by King David. This was done when
prophet Nathan had approached King David and told him a story saying;
“There were two men, one was rich and the other was poor. The rich man had a
large flock of sheep while the poor man had only one sheep. The rich man
borrowed the one lamb and slaughtered it to his visitors and never paid back.
Then Nathan asked King David a question, “what should be done to such a man?’’
David quickly replied saying; “If such a man is living in this country, he should be
put to death.”

Then prophet Nathan told him, “You are the one.” king David fell down on his knees
and repented before the Lord and God heard his plea and forgave (2Samuel 11:1-27,
12:15ff)

Still in the new testament, God acknowledged reconciliation. After the fall of man,
sacrifices of animals was not enough to mash the sins of man.

God decided and gave to the world His only begotten son who came and died for the
sins of man in order to reconcile man to Himself. And whoever accepts Jesus as sent
from God is reconciled to him s his own image. As we see in the book of (John 3:16)
that God loved the world that He had to offer his only son Jesus to die for the man’s sin
and He said whosoever believes in him shall have everlasting life.

This pulls us to what matters in reconciliation is love for togetherness which cause the
rise of sacrifice for that which matters. Reconciliation process is painful because the
amount of sacrifice to be made is enormous. Only God knows the pain of reconciliation
because He went through the painful of surrendering His only son as a sacrifice to mash
away the sins of men. But for God to show his love for his creation that bears his
likeness, as we see how God had hidden his face from men so that he could not hear
them. (Isaiah 59:2) says: “But your iniquities have made a separation between you and
your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.” But
for his love for us humans, ne had to not consider our sins and so he had to forgive us.
Do you know what it means by some one not wanting to see you around, not talking of
having a word with you. It needs so much sacrifice and love for someone to drop that
feeling and forgive and that’s what God exactly did for us, dropped what we had done
for him that he hid his face from us, sacrificed his only son and forgave us.
Sometimes you have a conflict with someone who has been attached to you for a very
long time that can make you pat ways and you don’t feel like seeing or talking to that
same person.

A personal live example; One day I had a serious misunderstanding with my best friend
who was not just a friend to me but a brother for that matter. We grew up together since
childhood prayed together fellowshipped together, we did ministry together and we
could merely speak to each other just because of the misunderstanding we had were my
friend said I was talking ill about him and it was a serious encounter because this is the
person we have lived together in the same room and always had fun to the extent of
people calling us twins. We could together move everywhere and so the incidence
happened and we could not talk to one another, when I cooked, he could not eat and that
took us for about a month and in that same raw, there was no communication at all.
That gave me a pinch because I was not settled in my mind and heart until I tried
engaging him in a conversation but things could not work out for the two of us so I
decided and called a brother who lived near us at campus and we had a mutual chart and
because of the love I had for him I actually accepted and we talked about things and
later settled.

That made me realize that reconciliation is vital in a relationship and for the love of God
to be manifested in us, and to show that we are born of God, we have to exercise
forgiveness that will cause us to let go our past differences and embrace reconciliation.
Reconciliation involves a change in the relationship between God and man or man and
man. It assumes there has been a breakdown in the relationship, but now there has been
a change from a state of enmity and fragmentation to one of harmony and fellowship. In
(Romans 5:6-10), Paul says that before reconciliation, we were powerless, ungodly,
sinners, and enemies; we were under God’s wrath. because of change or reconciliation,
we became new creatures. And since we are a new creation of god through his ideal of
reconciling us back to himself, we ought to do his will and that will bring forth love to
its manifestation just as God did for us and I sometimes wonder, what a love!!! From
God to us that we are called his children (1John 3:1)
Reconciliation has to do with the relationship between God and man or man and man.
God reconciles the world to himself (2 Corinthians 5:18). Reconciliation is the
objective work of God through Christ (5:19). But also, a subjective relationship: be
reconciled to God (2 Corinthians 5:20). Thus, it’s through Christ at the cross who has
made reconciliation possible, for God made him sin for us (2 Corinthians 5:21)

Reconciliation is also justification where we see that God has reconciled the world to
Himself, not counting man’s sins against Him. It is related to justification in Romans
chapter 5. We have been justified through faith (verse 1) by his blood (verse 9).

See also (Colossians 3:13) which says; bear with each other and forgive one another if
any of you has grievance against someone, forgive as the Lord forgave you.

And most importantly, when we see the book of (Romans 5:10), which says; For if,
while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of His son,
how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life (Jesus
Christ).

The lamb that was slain for us the human race was a perfect sacrifice from God to
demonstrate His unending and unconditional love for us and made us access his
presence through him (Christ our Lord) who is the way truth and the life. In other
words, God came down to man in form of Jesus to redeem man to their rightful place
basing on the holy trinity which clearly tells us that God is three in one where we have,
God the father, God the son, and God the holy spirit. So, reconciliation is so important
in our lives and we need it every moment in our life time so us to keep the peace and
love of the highest God of all creatures to abide in us.

Jesus the son of God is the mediator between man and God. He said “I am the way the
truth and the life, no one goes to the father except through me’’ (Jesus). The only
condition God gave man concerning the reconciliation process is to believe in His son
and have everlasting life and that was a radical repair that came in to the human race as
the children of god through Christ’s death on the cross at Calvary.
It was God’s willingness to count our trespasses against Christ, rather than against us.
The recipients of God’s grace become his messengers of “reconciliation”. So, the death
of Jesus on the cross at Calvary is very significant to our living now and after. So, if
anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold the new has
come” (2corinthisns 5:17).

And the one seated on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new.” Then he said,
“wright this down, for these words are faithful and true.” (Revelations 21:5).

When reconciliation takes place, people are expected to forget of the pasts, old deeds
and embrace new things as God expects of us who have known that they have been
reconciled back to God through Jesus’s death and to those who acknowledge him as
Lord and savior. The power of that raised Christ from the dead, raises his followers to
new life where old thinking, old behavior, old opinions, old personality traits, and
attitudes have passed away, meaning they are dead.

As new creations, men and women are called to communicate the message of
reconciliation, How?
In the same way God communicated his work of reconciliation to us, in the radical
repair of relationships by showing love to offensive people.

People sin against each other and a conflict is born. Pride, falls assumptions, anger, and
bitterness can result from the behavior and attitude of others. Reconciliation, indeed
becomes a tricky business when man thinks and believes he has been sinned against,
and yet the other seems unaware of his or her fault. That looks like a simple
misunderstanding and the best way is to overlook the sin perhaps. The scripture in
(Proverbs 19:11) says; “the discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory
is to overlook an offence”.
Also look in the scripture (1 peter 4:8), the word also states that, men are to “love each
other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins”. All this only works in men
through God who cause man to realize the bitterness of their actions through emotions
and the need for reconciliation after the conflict otherwise, there would be no need for
reconciliation in the world if there were no conflicts.
The sacrifice of Christ and his blood that was shade on the cross means a lot to we the
human race as far us reconciliation with the father is concerned. The blood of Christ
gives us a home, his blood becomes the flag and color under which we stand (canopy),
and the most amazing thing about the blood of Christ is that it takes those who were
once strangers and makes them family, as the Bible says; “we are no longer strangers
and aliens, but citizens with the saints and of the household of God”. (Ephesians 2:19)

If we belong to the household of God, that means we are his sons and daughters so we
ought to do things like him. Under reconciliation, love overlaps the mystery of hate,
misunderstandings, conflicts and many more that disconnects the people of the same
race. One truth that I have not learnt is that, sinning against your fellow brother or
having faults, misunderstanding is just like going against God because we are all
created by God in his own image and all of us are one with Christ so when you are
against your neighbor, you are against God. So, if we belong to God, we ought to love
like God loves us. For the scriptures say. God is love (1Joh 4:7-21)

The whole message of reconciliation is centered around the love of God and the death
of Christ. Paul reminds us that “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we
were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). This brings peace from God,
access to God through Christ, rejoicing in the hope of the glory of God, making us
rejoice in suffering, and having the love of God poured out in our hearts through the
Holy spirit (Romans 5:1-5). We rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through
whom we have now received reconciliation (Romans 5:11).

This message of reconciliation or salvation that has come through Christ has been
passed on to us. “God gave us the ministry of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:18); “He
has committed to us the message of reconciliation” (verse. 19). The ultimate aim is that
we are not only justified, but that we might become the righteousness of God (verse.
21)
2.1 SUMMARY ON RECONCILIATION.

To make summary view on reconciliation, reconciliation is a fundamental course and a

great instrument that brings peace unity and above all builds love and togetherness in
the human race.

As we see God bringing man closer to Him after man had fallen short of his glory but
through a beautiful exchange that God did so as to justify man and make him his
righteousness, he brought in a sacrifice of His only son Jesus Christ the lamb that was
slain for us and in his fount, we were redeemed to a new creation.

Reconciliation needs sacrifice of the pain that one has caused an individual and total
forgetting of the past that could have brought in a misunderstanding that ushers in
another important trend to reconciliation and that is forgiveness.

When you are reconciling, total forgiveness is a master pies to a great relationship that
had been broken. One has to forget about the incident and move on to create a calm and
conducive environment for a brother or sister in the same raw. As the scriptures tell us
that; “if a brother or sister wrongs you, forgive them seven times seventy-seven”.
Also, as Jesus told God to forgive the soldiers who were mocking Him and making a
bargain of his cloth. Jesus said; “father forgive them for they do not know what they
are doing”.

We also get to understand in this same book that what is fundamental in a good
relationship with others is, having great love for others as God demonstrated His own
love to us all and said love your neighbor the way you love yourself, love also those
who are your enemies. Love is the greatest law God gave us as the scriptures say,
(1John 4:7ff) were it talks about God is love and so beloved we should love one
another for love comes from God. who ever loves is a born of God and whoever does
not love is not a born of God. So as children of God who are to proclaim the message of
reconciliation, we should covey love as a trait at all times of our life as God is to all the
human race and bare in mind that its by love that we were brought near to God through
the blood of His son Jesus, (Ephesians 2:12-13: remember that you were at that time
separated from Christ, alienated from the common wealth of Israel and strangers to the
covenant of promise, having no hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ
Jesus, you who once were far, have been brought near by the blood of Christ the lamb
that was slain.

And so, nations should adopt the key fundamental facts to build a good relationship
within the nation itself and other nations at large regardless of the religion be it a
Muslim nation, Christian all we need is peace and unity to sustain a conducive
environment for our inhabitants and this can only be brought in through love for
togetherness and when there are misunderstandings, forgiveness should reign amidst.
Therefore, a united nation that live peacefully will cause God to bless a nation for love
is above all and covers a multitude of sin.

Sometimes acceptance and acknowledgement of a fault or accepting the pass of

reconciliation is key in that when there is an agreement between the two parties for need
of reconciliation then it builds the relationship

Still if only one party has acknowledged the need for reconciliation, then the other party
is forced by the conscience to adapt to the fact that the other has minimized the incident
and that there is need to follow the trend just as God acknowledged to reconcile man to
Himself regardless of what man did. Just because of the love that the father (God) keeps
showing man even when man has not realized that he needs God in his life. So,
acceptance and acknowledgement are fundamental for reconciliation to take its course
and bring forth unity and peace amongst parties “God to man and man to man”.

When we look at nations that had feuds and are now at peace for example Uganda and
Rwanda during last years raw, it has been through reconciliation that brought in mutual
understanding between the two. Understanding is a factor that made it for them.

Understanding is so important in that without understanding reconciliation cannot be

achieved and without reconciliation there will be no peace, no unity, and that causes
separation that will retreat the development of any country or an individual’s progress.

Not forgetting that forgiveness is the best form of love and it takes a strong person to
say sorry and a strong person to forgive. That is what is referred to as sacrifice that one
has to make, it’s a difficult decision but for the sake of love, unity, peace and many
more that forgiveness can bring, one has to sacrifice. Some resist change and the reason
why some people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up,
instead of what they have to gain out of sacrifice that’s why its hard while mediating a
reconciliation process. This is because one can find it hard to forget how the other party
offended him or her. But then to forgive is to sacrifice that feeling and forget the past
incidents thus reconciliation.

Reconciliation needs one who puts his or her Ego aside and embrace the need for
acknowledging the mistake that brought in the misunderstanding for reconciliation to be
achieved. Ego has killed many relationships and has made people to retreat in their
progress. This ego comes in as a result of pride. For example, a rich man can go against
a poor man and when it comes to the part of reconciliation and the blame shoots on, the
rich man tends to put his Ego high since he feels he got nothing to lose since he is rich.
So, pride prevents mutual understanding that brings parties together of which its very
fundamental.

On a serious note, we all at some point in life felt pain of a damaged relationship. It
could be a child, parent, coworkers, or even a friend. We have hurt and we have been
hurt so many times in so many ways and most of us who have pride, tend to forget
about the issues and avoid the ideal of reconciliation to bring back the relationship.
Humans tent to be occupied and later find that we are distracted and that is due to too
much pride.

Sometimes we avoid our sins and downfalls like it never happened and as a matter of
facts it’s at the back of our minds that scenarios have happened. But if we all stop
avoiding and ask for forgiveness from those, we have offended it will help
reconciliation do its course. As we say in the Lord’s prayer, “Forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us”. As Christians, if we chose to follow a
Christ like life, we must choose the path of forgiveness every time.
The beauty or reconciliation after all is that, it bridges that gap of two separated
parties/bodies and that is the most important part thing. It acts as linking channel or the
bridge creating links joining two different cities which brings about working together

For one to be a mediator, one has to have a high cognitive ability to mediate. A high
innate ability is needed for the mediator to comprehend and weigh the argumentized
conversation between the parties with a misunderstanding so as to pass a clear and fair
judgment and later administer justice to make the two come together in one mind in
order to make reconciliation process successful and let love.