PERSONAL

DEVELOPMENT
Quarter 2 – Module 2:
Identifying Ways to
Become Responsible in a Relationship
 This topic will help you realize and understand how to become a responsible
individual in a relationship. You will be given various ways how to be responsible
enough. As well as you’ll learn that there are also basic rights in a relationship. We all
know that each individual has a relationship. This may refer to the relationship within
the family, friends, co-workers or special someone. Either of it you must know how to
maintain a good relationship. And in order to acquire such, it must start within yourself.

In addition, you will also distinguish the various roles of different individuals in
society and how they can influence people through their leadership. Leadership is just
a simple word but means a lot. To become a good leader, you must as well be a good
follower.

LEARNING COMPETENCY:

Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.

EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-9.3

Distinguish the various roles of different individuals in society and how they can
influence people through their leadership or followership.
EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-10.1

At the end of the module, you should be able to:

1. Identify basic rights in a relationship;
2. Determine ways how to become responsible in a relationship;
3. Appreciate by listing down various roles of different individuals in society and
how they can influence people through their leadership or followership

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Important note to remember: This module will be collected every week so you
are directed not to put any marks in here. All answers and the exact date must
be written in your ACTIVITY/QUIZ notebook, or as prescribed on every given
activity.
For health and safety purposes, avoid licking your fingertips, when leafing or
turning pages.

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 What’s In

Task 1: (I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP)

Direction: Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy
relationship and X if you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Do this in your
activity notebook.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.
5. Your partner supports you and your choices – even when they disagree with you.
6. You respect and encourage each other.
7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends and family.
8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without
worrying about your partner’s reaction.
9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.
10. You feel isolated from friends and family.
11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out with.
12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.
13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.
14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re not comfortable with.
15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.
16. Your partner hurts you physically and emotionally.
17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.
18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting

What’s New

Task 2
Direction: Answer the questions honestly and base it in your real-life situation.
A. Have you been fallen in-love with someone? Yes or No?
B1. If yes, how long are you been in a relationship?
B2. If no, why are you not interested in a relationship?
C1. Does your relationship helps you grow as a better individual or the opposite way?

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 What is It

KEEPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Good relationships are fun and m ake you feel good

about yourself. The relationships that you make in
your youth years will be a special part of your life and
will teach you some of the most important lessons
about who you are. Truly good relationships take
time and energy to develop. All relationships should
be based on respect and honesty, and this is
especially important when you decide to date
someone.

In a healthy relationship, both partners:

✓ Are treated with kindness and respect
✓ Are honest with each other
✓ Like to spend time together
✓ Take an interest in things that are important to each other
✓ Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits
✓ Can speak honestly about their feelings

Love should never hurt

Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while it’s important that dating
partners care for each other, it’s just as important that you take care of yourself!
About 10% of high school students say they have suffered violence from someone
they date.
This includes physical abuse where someone causes physical pain or injury to
another person. This can involve hitting, slapping, or kicking.
Sexual abuse is also a type of violence, and involves any kind of unwanted
sexual advance.
Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-esteem or causes shame.
This includes saying things that hurt your feelings, make you feel that you aren’t
worthwhile, or trying to control who you see or where you go.

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 Remember:
You deserve healthy, happy
relationships.
Abuse of any type is never okay.

How to communicate

Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying: especially when
you both talk about each other’s needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual
health. You can’t expect a partner to know what you want and need unless you tell
them. The simple fact is that none of us are a mind reader – so it’s important to be
open about your needs and expectations.

In a romantic relationship, it is important to communicate openly on issues of

sex and sexual health. The decision to enter into a sexual relationship is entirely up to
you, and you always have the right to say “no” at any time to anything that you don’t
feel comfortable with. Remember that there are many ways to express love without
sex.

So what’s to talk about?

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Possibility of Pregnancy
Right time for sex
Boundaries

The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you and you alone. You may ask
yourself:
➢ Am I ready to have sex?
➢ How am I going to feel after I having sex?
➢ Am I doing this for the right reasons?
➢ How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually transmitted infections
or pregnancy?
➢ How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?

Talking to your Parents

You probably think that talking to your parents about sex is impossible. You’re not
alone; 83% of kids your age are afraid to ask their parents about sex. Yet 51% of teens actually
do so. The truth is that most parents want to help their kids make smart decisions about sex.
They know it’s vital for teens to have accurate information and sound advice to aid the
decision-making process.

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 If you think your parents are really nervous about raising the issue, you’re probably
right. Many parents think that if they acknowledge their child as a sexual being, their son or
daughter will think it’s okay to go ahead and have sex.
But remember: Not every person your age is having sex. Even if sometimes it feels
like everyone is “doing it”, it is important to realize that this is not true. People often talk about
sex in a casual manner, but this doesn’t mean they are actually having sex.

BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

❖ The right to emotional support
❖ The right to be heard by the other and to respond
❖ The right have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner’s
❖ The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
❖ The right to live free from accusation and blame
❖ The right to live from criticism and judgment
❖ The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
❖ The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
❖ The right to be respectfully, asked, rather than ordered

In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop patience,
honesty, kindness, and respect.
Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others will
respond to us in a way that is disappointing. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect,
indicating that you are ready to talk when they are ready. If the person is never ready to discuss
the situation, you may need professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or
not you want to continue the relationship.
Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To build honesty in a
relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly, and expect the other person to do
the same. Over time, this builds trust.

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Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy relationships. You need to
be considerate of other’s feelings and other people need to be considerate of yours. Be kind
when you communicate. Kindness will nurture your relationship.
Respect: Respect is cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you don’t have respect for
another person, it will have a negative impact on all of your interactions.

LEADERSHIP

is the art of motivating a group of people

to act toward achieving a common goal
https://www.inc.com/anne-sugar/ask-these-2-simple-
questions-to-grow-as-a-leader.html

Community activities and civic responsibility

Community activity is part of civic responsibility. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to or feel we should, rather than we have to by law.
You can take civic responsibility and be active in your community by:
Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or clean-up group
Helping with a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior sport
Setting up an arts space for the community or getting involved in youth radio
Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
Promoting causes – for example, clean environment, recycling, get active in sports

Role models

By getting involved with community activities, you can

come into contact with like-minded peers and positive
adult role models other than your parents. Interacting
and cooperating with other adults encourages you to
see the world in different ways. It puts your own family
experiences and values into a wider context. https://www.td.org/insights/the-5-
types-of-leaders

Identity and connection

Young people are busy working out who they are and where they fit in the world. They
try out different identities, experiment with different styles of dress and might try out a range
of different activities and hobbies. Being involved in community activities can give you a
positive way of understanding who you are.

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Skills
Community activities give you the chance to apply the skills you already have.
Voluntary work and community activities are also great opportunities to show initiative and
develop skills to get a job. Being to manage free time, while balancing leisure, work and study,
is an important life skill. Being part of community activities could motivate you to get more
organized and start to manage your own time.

Self-confidence, mental health and well-being

Community activities can boost one’s self-confidence. You can learn to deal with
challenges, communicate with different people and build up your life skills and abilities in a
supportive environment. This is also good for your self-esteem. It’s also a great foundation for
general and mental health and wellbeing. These positive feelings can help protect you from
sadness and depression.

SERVANT LEADERSHIP

https://www.lollydaskal.com/leadership/the-
skills-you-need-to-be-a-successful-leader/

The servant – leader is servant first. It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to
serve, to serve first. The conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply
different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual
power drive or to acquire material possessions. The leader-first and the servant-first are two
extreme types. The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make
sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served.
In the Servant as Leader, Greenleaf said: this story clearly says – the great leader is
seen as servant first, and that simple fact is the key to his greatness. Leadership was bestowed
upon a man who was by nature a servant. If there is a single characteristic of the servant-
leader that stands out in Greenleaf’s essay, it is the desire to serve. They include listening and
understanding; acceptance and empathy; foresight; awareness and perception; persuasion;
conceptualization; self-healing; and rebuilding community.

Keep this in Mind

"Management is doing things

right; leadership is doing the
right thing."
- Peter F. Drucker -

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 What’s More

Task 3: (Assess Aspects of your Development)

Direction: Identify the lesson being taught by each story. (5pts each) Write your
answers in your activity notebook.

A. The Hunter and the Woodsman

A hunter, not very good, was searching for the tracks of a Lion. He asked a man felling
oaks in the forest if he had seen any marks of his footsteps or knew where his lair was. “I will”,
said the man, “at once show you the Lion himself.” “The Hunter, turning very pale and
chattering with his teeth from fear, replied, “No, thank you. I did not ask that; it is his track only
I am in search of, not the Lion himself.”

B. Bear and man lying down

Two men were travelling together, when a bear suddenly met them on their path. One
of them climbed up quickly into a tree, and concealed himself in the branches. The other,
seeing that he must be attacked, feel flat on the ground, and when the Bear came up and felt
him with his snout, and smelt him all over, he held his breath, and feigned the appearance of
death as much as he could. The Bear soon left him, for it is said he will not touch a dead body.
When he was quite gone, the other traveler descended from the tree, and accosting hid friend,
jocularly inquired “what it was the Bear had whispered in his ear?” he replied, “He gave me
this advice: Never travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger.”

What I Have Learned

I have learned that .

I have realized that ____________________________________ _.

I will apply _ .

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 Assessment

Direction: Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if incorrect. Do this
in your activity notebook.
_ 1. Leaders can follow their whims and fancies.
_ 2. Leaders are capable to do anything they like.
_ 3. Leaders don’t need to mind their subjects.
_ 4. Leaders should follow ethical principles.
_ 5. Leaders are responsible.
_ 6. Leaders are to serve others.
_ 7. Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships.
_ 8. In a romantic relationship, it is important to communicate openly on
issues of sex and sexual health.
_ 9. In a romantic relationship, it is important to communicate openly on
issues of sex and sexual health.
_ 10. Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-esteem or causes
shame. This includes saying things that hurt your feelings, make you feel
that you aren’t worthwhile, or trying to control who you see or where you
go.

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 Additional Activities

Direction: Think of a word related to LEADERSHIP and write it inside the

vacant shape. Copy the diagram in your activity notebook and answer in it.

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