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    Therapist’s Overview

    IDENTIFY AND VALIDATE YOUR PARTNER’S


    FEELINGS AND POINTS OF VIEW

    GOALS OF THE EXERCISE


    1. To help the couple listen to and stop blaming one another.
    2. To clarify miscommunications and misunderstandings.

    TYPES OF PROBLEMS THIS EXERCISE MAY BE MOST USEFUL FOR


     Communication
     Financial Conflict
     Jealousy
     Job Stress
     Life-Changing Events
     Midlife Crisis
     Parenting Conflict
     Religion/Spirituality Differences
     Values Conflicts
     Work/Home Role Strain

    SUGGESTIONS FOR PROCESSING THIS EXERCISE WITH THE COUPLE


    1. How did it feel for you to be listened to and validated?
    2. How did it feel to listen and validate?
    3. What surprised you in doing this exercise?
    EXERCISE I.13

    IDENTIFY AND VALIDATE YOUR PARTNER’S


    FEELINGS AND POINTS OF VIEW

    Sometimes the simplest solution is to just stop and listen to what your partner is saying and imagine
    how he or she could be feeling that way or seeing things in that light.
    Try this experiment between now and your next session. Choose three situations when your
    partner is complaining about you or something you did. Don’t try to defend yourself, correct your
    partner’s perceptions, or talk him or her out of those feelings. Just put yourself in your partner’s
    position and try to hear how he or she understands, interprets, and feels about the situation. Imagine
    how you would feel or act if you were seeing things that way. (If what your partner is saying sounds
    crazy or unreasonable, consider the possibility that you are missing something, and listen and ask
    questions to see if you can understand.) Express that understanding and let your partner know how
    difficult it must be, given how he or she is feeling about the situation.
    Record your experiences for each situation:

    1. What was your partner’s complaint?

    2. What did you learn by listening?


    EXERCISE I.13

    3. How did changing your behavior affect the interaction?

    Remember to bring completed worksheet to your next appointment.

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