Grupo Pais de Jovens C Depressão
Grupo Pais de Jovens C Depressão
Grupo Pais de Jovens C Depressão
With Consultation by
Bonnie Grossen, Ph.D.
Kaiser Permanente
Center for Health Research
3800 N. Interstate Ave.
Portland OR 97227
Copyright © 1990
by Gregory Clarke, Ph.D.
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The authors and publisher would like to acknowledge the contribution of following artists who have
granted permission to use their cartoons in this workbook:
Berke Breathed -- Bloom County, Washington Post Writers Group
Jim Davis -- Garfield, United Feature Syndicate (United Media)
Cathy Guisewite -- Cathy, Universal Press Syndicate
Johnny Hart -- Wizard of Id, NAS, Inc. (King Features Syndicate)
Stan Lee -- The Amazing Spider-Man, Marvel Entertainment Group, Inc.
Jeff MacNelly -- Shoe, Tribune Media Services
Charles Schulz -- Peanuts, United Feature Syndicate, Inc. (United Media)
Jim Unger -- Herman, Universal Press Syndicate
Bill Watterson -- Calvin & Hobbes, Universal Press Syndicate
A Note to Participants
As a participant in this course, you will be learning many new skills that will help you gain control over how you
feel. The emphasis is on overcoming depression, but the course may also be offered as a “life skills” program that
teaches adolescents how to improve many important aspects of their lives. The course covers a number of areas:
pleasant events, relaxation, social skills, negative thoughts, communication, and problem solving. Several different
teaching methods are used, including lectures by the group leader, discussions, role-playing exercises, demonstration
activities, and homework assignments.
You may be wondering about this workbook and the homework assignments. We realize that the last thing a
teenager wants is more homework! Most of the question and answer sections of this workbook are filled out during
class, and the homework assignments usually don't take more than five or ten minutes a day to complete. It's important
to do your homework, because it will help you apply the skills you learn in class in your everyday life.
Hundreds of teenagers just like you have gone through this program with great success. It's fun, and you'll be
surprised at how effective the techniques you learn really are!
SESSION 1
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Use the mood rating scale below. Enter your daily mood in the boxes above. Circle and connect the appropriate numbers to see how your mood is changing over time.
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Use the mood rating scale below. Enter your daily mood in the boxes above. Circle and connect the appropriate numbers to see how your mood is changing over time.
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GOALS Reached
Sess. Goal?
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Session 1 Page 1.2 (continued)
GOALS Reached
Sess. Goal?
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Page 1.3 Session 1
3. Honor the confidentiality "rule" the personal things we talk about in class are not to be shared
outside of this group.
4. Offer support.
Remember -- we all have something to contribute, so let's try to help one another.
Session 1 Page 1.4
2. What do you have to do to learn a new skill? For example, playing the piano is a skill. What do
you have to do to learn to play the piano?
3. What are four things you can do to show people that you are a friendly person?
a.
b.
c.
d.
5. What is the “friendly skill” you need to work on when you talk with people?
NOTE: Part of your homework assignment is to have conversations with people you know and
practice the friendly skill you listed above.
Actions Thinking
Page 1.5 Session 1
In this course, we will learn skills to control our thoughts, actions, and feelings.
Session 1 Page 1.6
10. What are some things that cause a downward spiral for you?
11. What are some things that cause an upward spiral for you?
In this course, we are going to learn skills to change the downward spiral to an upward one.
Page 1.7 Session 1
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
Look at the Session Goal Record on page 1.2 in your workbook. This is where you'll write your goals
for the days between each session. Your goals will be part of your homework assignment. Your
assignment for this session is to do the following.
1. Work on your session goal, which is to practice the friendly skill you listed on question #5 on page
1.4. Put a checkmark in the box on the right-hand side of the Session Goal Record if you meet
your goal.
2. Keep track of how you feel by filling out your Mood Diary (page 1.1). Try to get into the habit of
filling out your Mood Diary at about this time every day. You will be doing this throughout the
course.
Success Activity
Let's work on your session goal right now. Talk with someone you met tonight and use your friendly
skills. This way, you'll be practicing your first goal.
SESSION 1 QUIZ
Depression and Social Learning
Name Date
1. Your personality is a three-part system. Name the three parts. (Hint: Remember the triangle?)
a.
b.
c.
4. Which way is your mood spiral likely to go if you do the following things? Circle “U” or “D” to
indicate upward or downward.
Upward Downward
Having fun with friends. U D
Thinking you are stupid. U D
Believing no one loves you. U D
Telling someone something you like about them. U D
STARTING A CONVERSATION
1. Put a checkmark next to the situations that would be appropriate times to start a conversation with
the other person.
The person is reading a newspaper.
The person smiles at you.
You are standing in a long line with the person.
The person is sleeping.
The person is upset and wants to be alone for a while.
The person asks if you like going to movies.
2. Put a checkmark next to the questions that would be good for starting a conversation.
What kind of animals do you like?
What is the date today?
What did you think of the movie [name of a movie that you have seen
lately]?
Did you know your shirt is dirty?
Did you see [a good TV show] last night?
Would you ever consider joining the army?
What did you think of (name of a teacher)'s class?
What time is it?
3. Look around at the people in the room and write down some questions that would be appropriate
for starting a conversation with them.
Session 2 Page 2.2
4. Write “Soc” next to the activities below that are pleasant social activities. Write “Scs” next to the
activities that are success activities. Leave the line blank if the activity doesn't fit either category.
Meeting someone new of the same sex.
Planning and organizing something.
Working.
Having friends visit.
Saying something clearly.
Taking a shower.
Doing a job well.
Being with someone I love.
Having people show an interest in what I've said.
Being alone.
Kissing.
Learning to do something new.
Going to a movie.
5. Which category of activities would make you feel happiest if you could do more of it --pleasant
social activities (Soc) or success activities (Scs)?
Page 2.4: BASELINE OF PLEASANT ACTIVITIES
DAYS
Activities 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15
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Totals for Each Day:
Page 2.5 Session 2
6. Now look at your print-out of pleasant activities. Look only at those activities which have a
pleasure rating of 3 (or a rating of 2, if none were rated 3). Cross out the activities that you don't
have complete control over.
7. From the list of remaining activities, choose the ones that you can do frequently because they are
easy to do and relatively inexpensive. Write these activities on your Baseline of Pleasant Activities
(page 2.4).
8. Pick the activities that will make you happiest, but make sure they are not activities that will get you
into trouble. Choose activities that you know you can do without upsetting your parents, teachers,
or friends.
Session 2 Page 2.6
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Try to meet the second goal on your Session Goal Record (page 1.2), which is to start two
conversations. The person can be someone you know, but try to do it at least once with someone
who is normally shy or reluctant to talk with other people. If you reach your goal, mark the box on
the Session Goal Record.
2. Take baseline data on your pleasant activities using the form on page 2.4.
3. Fill out your Mood Diary on page 1.1 every day as before.
4. Continue to practice your “friendly skill” (your goal from Session 1), but you don't have to count it
this week.
Success Activity
1. Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
2. Then, fill out the Baseline of Pleasant Activities form on page 2.4 for today. Look at the first
activity on your list. Did you do that activity today? If you did, put a checkmark for Day 1 beside
that activity. Now look at the next activity. Put a checkmark in the box if you did it today.
Continue doing this all the way through your list.
3. Before you leave, start a conversation and practice your friendly skill. Now, you're already
halfway to achieving your session goal! If you start just one more conversation, you will have met
your goal for Session 2.
2. Our baseline study of pleasant activities will continue for two weeks. During the next two sessions,
we'll develop a plan for increasing pleasant activities in order to change our moods.
Page 2.7 Session 2
SESSION 2 QUIZ
Self-Observation and Change
Name Date
1. Put a checkmark next to the situations that would be appropriate times to start a conversation.
The person is eating as fast as he can.
The person is walking quickly and doesn't look right or left.
The person smiles at you when you sit down next to him or her.
The person offers you a piece of candy or gum.
The person looks bored.
2. Put a checkmark next to the questions that would be good for starting a conversation.
Did you hear about [something interesting that happened]?
What time is it?
What are you going to do when you graduate?
3. Some pairs of activities are listed below. For each pair, put a checkmark next to the activity that
would be most effective in lifting depression.
a. Listening to the radio.
Having friends come over to visit.
b. Meeting someone new that you're attracted to.
Going horseback riding.
c. Doing a good job at something.
Throwing a frisbee around.
d. Getting an “A” on a test.
Watching your favorite TV show.
4. Name the two kinds of information that can be gained from a baseline study of pleasant activities.
a.
b.
Session 2 Page 2.8 (optional)
SCRIPTED PERSONALITIES FOR
ROLE-PLAYING EXERCISE
BOYS
1. Stan is friendly and outgoing, but sometimes he comes on a little too strong. When he is talking to
someone, he doesn't know when to stop and he talks on and on. Stan doesn't follow the “Equal
Time” rule.
2. Bill is shy, and he finds it hard to introduce himself. He has a lot of good ideas, but most people
don't know about them because he usually responds with short sentences like “Yeah, me too” or
“No way!” Bill would like to speak up more often, but he doesn't feel comfortable doing it.
3. Jeff is the class clown. He jokes and teases with everyone, but sometimes Jeff's teasing gets him
into trouble. He can go overboard trying to get attention.
4. Chris is rude to the people around him. He cuts people off in conversations, changes the subject
when other people are talking, and generally has trouble listening to others.
5. Tom enjoys talking with the guys about sports and school, but he has trouble talking with girls,
especially girls that he is attracted to. Although he is usually good at conversations, he gets nervous
and doesn't say much when he is around girls.
GIRLS
1. Susan is painfully shy. She sits at the back of her classes hoping that the teacher won't call on her.
Her best friend, Jean, has tried to get Susan to talk up in groups, and has even introduced her to
some new people. But Susan still finds it hard to speak up, or look people in the eye.
2. Jean is a very good listener and she tends to be the person that all of her friends talk to when they
feel down. Lately, however, Jean wants to tell someone about her problems, but she isn't
comfortable interrupting her friends while they are describing their problems.
3. Michelle is afraid that people will make fun of her, so she makes fun of them first. She is sarcastic
and insulting, and people avoid her. Michelle knows this is a problem, but isn't sure what to do
about it.
4. Samantha finds it difficult to leave conversations. She doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, so she
gets stuck in conversations that go on forever, with people like Stan (see above) who monopolize
the conversation.
5. Lori has a bad temper and gets angry very easily. She is losing her friends and having fights with
her family because she blows up at them too often. Lori has tried to stop getting angry, but she
can't seem to control it.
SESSION 3
Reducing Tension
Page 3.1 Session 3
Menu of greetings:
“Nice to meet you.”
“Glad to meet you.”
“I'm pleased to know you.”
“I've heard so much about you.”
My greeting:
Session 3 Page 3.2
RELAXATION
BEFORE
Very Neither tense/relaxed Very
tense relaxed
Before relaxing I feel: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
AFTER
Very Neither tense/relaxed Very
tense relaxed
After relaxing I feel: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
1. Do your muscles feel tight, tense, or cramped during the day? OftenRarely Never
2. Do you wake up with muscle cramps during the night? OftenRarely Never
3. Do you often feel tired, with no major physical reason for it? OftenRarely Never
9. Do you think that learning to relax could be helpful for you? Yes No
Page 3.3 Session 3
You should try using the Jacobsen Relaxation Technique before you do the activities you checked
above.
Session 3 Page 3.4
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Practice your session goal, which is to do the Jacobsen Relaxation Technique at least three times
between now and the next session.
2. Continue to record pleasant activities using the form on page 2.4. Look for things that cause you
to do more or fewer pleasant activities.
4. Continue to practice your “friendly skills,” including starting conversations with people. If you have
the opportunity to meet someone new, practice the introductions we learned today.
Success Activity
1. We practiced the Jacobsen Relaxation Technique today, so you're already one third of the way to
meeting your session goal. Now you only have to practice two more times. Try to exceed your
goal and practice more than twice. It makes us feel good to go beyond our goals.
2. Check the pleasant activities you did today on your Pleasant Activities Baseline form on page 2.4.
SESSION 3 QUIZ
Reducing Tension
Name Date
1. What are the four things we should remember to do when we meet new people?
a.
b.
c.
d.
2. What can interfere with our ability to enjoy pleasant activities and social interactions?
5. Describe a situation in which it would be helpful for you to do the Jacobsen Relaxation Technique
ahead of time.
6. In Session 1, we discussed the idea that our personality is a three-part system. What are the three
parts? (Hint: Remember the triangle?)
SESSION 4
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1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15
Days
Daily Total of Pleasant Activities Red pen = Mood Ratings Daily Mood Rating
(from Page 2.4) Black pen = Pleasant Activities (from Page 1.1)
Session 4 Page 4.2
Part A
Look at your graph of plotted points and answer the following questions about the relationship between
mood and pleasant activities.
STOP
Part B
Draw a straight colored line across your chart (<--->) at that level.
Page 4.3 Session 4
EXAMPLE. Mary collected data on her pleasant activities and mood for two weeks. She found that
her mood and the number of pleasant activities she did were closely related.
A. One day when Mary did seven pleasant activities, her mood level was at 7, which was its highest
point during the two-week period.
B. On another day, Mary did one pleasant activity and her mood rating was 2. Her mood level was
below 4 only three days out of the two-week period.
C. On those days when Mary's mood rating fell below 4, she did three or fewer pleasant activities.
D. Her average daily number of pleasant activities was five.
Mary's Goals
Now look at your own data. What would be some good goals for you?
1. Look at your chart of mood and pleasant activities on page 4.1. Do you notice that certain days of
the week (for example, weekends) are associated with patterns/changes in your mood and activity
levels? Yes No
Explain
2. Think about the patterns in your pleasant activities on page 4.1 and look at your Mood Diary on
page 1.1. What are some of the things that seem to be related to doing pleasant activities? Was
anything special happening on the days when you did lots of pleasant activities, or on days when
you did very few?
STOP
3. What could you do to change some of these patterns and create more opportunities to do the
pleasant activities you listed?
4. Place a star by the idea or strategy above that would make the most difference.
Page 4.5 Session 4
B. PLACES
List two places where you would like to spend more time, but rarely get a chance to.
1.
2.
C. THINGS
List two things you don't own that you would really like to have. Make sure they are things you
can afford (for example, a book, a record, clothes, etc.).
1.
2.
List your four favorite foods and drinks. You may also want to include items that you haven't tried
very often.
1. 3.
2. 4.
D. ACTIVITIES
List two activities you would like to do more often.
1.
2.
E. REWARDS
Now select three rewards from your lists above that are the most powerful for you.
1.
2.
3.
Session 4 Page 4.6
Signed Date
Goal Met
Goal Met
Page 4.7 Session 4
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Try to reach your goal for Session 4, which is to maintain your pleasant activities at a specific level.
Follow the terms of your contract on page 4.6 by keeping track of whether you achieve your goals
on a daily and weekly basis; give yourself the reward you have selected if you are successful.
4. You may want to practice the Jacobsen Relaxation Technique, especially before stressful situations.
Success Activity
1. Check the pleasant activities that you did today on page 2.4.
2. If you checked enough activities to meet your daily goal, put a checkmark in the appropriate box at
the bottom of page 4.6, and check the box on your Session Goal Record (page 1.2).
SESSION 4 QUIZ
Learning How to Change
Name Date
1. Put the following steps for developing and implementing a plan for change in the correct sequence
(1 = first step, 2 = second step, etc.).
Look closely at the baseline information.
Select a specific behavior or problem situation to observe.
Choose a reward and make a contract with yourself.
Reward yourself.
Set a realistic goal for improvement.
Observe yourself and take a baseline count.
Meet your goal.
3. Mary never goes anywhere unless someone invites her. What would be a good goal for Mary that
would help her increase her pleasant activities?
EXTRA CREDIT
The Situation. Carlos found that his mood and the number of pleasant activities he did were
closely related. One day, he did 15 pleasant activities, and the next day his mood rating was
7, its highest point for the two-week period. On another day, he did no pleasant activities at
all, and his mood rating was only 2. His mood ratings fell below 5 only eleven times out of
the fourteen days; during these periods, his pleasant activities level was often below 2. His
average daily number of pleasant activities was 3.
1. Which of the following might be helpful for you? Check all that apply.
Schedule pleasant activities in advance.
Don't let yourself back out or give excuses.
Make a commitment to another person.
Set aside blocks of time for things you have to do and for pleasant activities.
Make a “to do” list.
Anticipate problems and try to prevent them.
2. What will you do to help you meet your pleasant activities goals?
4. You should have at least positive thoughts for every negative one.
Session 5 Page 5.2
(Optional)
# of times
NEGATIVE THOUGHT ACTIVATING EVENT I caught
Day myself
1. Your main goal is to increase your pleasant activities so that you consistently meet your daily goal
on page 4.6. Turn to page 1.2 and write this as your goal on the line for Session 5.
Success Activity
1. Write down at least one of the worst negative thoughts you have had today. Describe the situation
or event that make you think this way.
2. When you catch yourself thinking negatively this week, what will you do?
(Answer: Try to think of some positive thoughts instead.)
Name Date
2. You should have at least positive thoughts for every negative one.
4. What is the Activating Event for the negative thought in the cartoon above?
EXTRA CREDIT
5. Come up with a plan to help Maria increase how often she talks with friends, which
is an important pleasant activity for her.
THE SITUATION. Maria enjoys spending time visiting with her friends and she
would like to do this more often. However, Maria feels that she can't go to a friend's
house unless she is invited, and she doesn't invite friends to her house because she
thinks her house is an ugly mess. What could Maria do to increase how often she
visits with her friends?
SESSION 6
1. Write down at least one positive statement about each person in the class.
Name Statement
Session 6 Page 6.2
2. Write down all the positive things that others said about you.
Page 6.3 Session 6
3. Which of the following are examples of personal statements? Check all that apply.
a. “I love you.”
b. “I hate you.”
c. “You are a beautiful person.”
d. “You have big feet.”
e. “We communicate well together.”
f. “I feel nervous when you look at me that way.”
g. “You make people feel good just by smiling at them.”
h. “School is boring.”
i. “My parents won't let me do anything.”
Session 6 Page 6.4
Depressed Feeling
Counterthought
New Feeling
Page 6.5 Session 6
Depressed Feeling
Counterthought
New Feeling
Session 6 Page 6.6
Write a more rational thought for each of the irrational thoughts below.
1. “I need the love and approval of every important person in my life (especially my parents).”
2. “I have to be popular or smart (the smartest) all the time in everything I do in order to feel like I'm
worth something.”
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3. “People (including me) who do even one thing that I disapprove of should feel guilty, and should be
punished severely.”
4. “My unhappiness is someone else's fault. I can't help feeling the way I do.”
5. “It's terrible when things aren't the way I'd like them to be.”
6. “When something seems dangerous or something could go wrong, I must constantly worry about
it.”
8. “There must be a perfect solution to human problems (including mine). I can't settle for less than
the perfect solution.”
Page 6.7 Session 6
The Garfield cartoon below contains an example of common irrational beliefs involving
EXAGGERATIONS (when one thing is wrong, everything is wrong). Write the irrational belief. For
example, “My stomach is big, so I'm a totally disgusting person.”
Positive Counterthoughts
Good Feelings
Session 6 Page 6.8
The Cathy cartoon below contains an example of irrational beliefs involving EXPECTATIONS (I
expect someone else to do something - it's just awful if they don't). Write the specific irrational belief.
Positive Counterthoughts
Good Feelings
Page 6.9 Session 6
8
Session 6 Page 6.10
My goal for the next week is to change at least one of my negative thoughts to a positive counterthought
every day. Every day that I do this I will reward myself with:
.
(smaller reward)
If I reach my goal five days out of seven during a given week, I will reward myself with:
.
(larger reward)
Signed Date
Negative Thought
Positive Counterthought
Negative Thought
Positive Counterthought
Page 6.11 Session 6
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Try to meet your main goal for this session, which is to catch yourself thinking negatively at least
once each day and then change that thought to a positive one. Use the tracking form at the bottom
of page 6.10 to record negative thoughts and positive counterthoughts. Give yourself the reward
specified in your contract when you are successful in changing a negative thought to a positive one.
2. You also need to keep filling out the Negative Thoughts Baseline on page 5.7.
4. Work on meeting your goal for pleasant activities (page 4.6). You don't have to record the
activities, but try to keep doing them.
Success Activity
1. If you have already changed a negative thought to a positive counterthought today, check the
appropriate boxes on the tracking form on page 6.10.
2. Write down on page 5.7 the worst negative thought you have had today, and record the activating
event for that thought.
SESSION 6 QUIZ
The Power of Positive Thinking
Name Date
4. Positive counterthoughts make you feel than the original negative thoughts.
a. worse
b. better
c. just the same
SESSION 7
Disputing Irrational Thinking
Page 7.1 Session 7
The Cathy cartoon below contains an example of a common irrational belief. Write the irrational belief
(the whole thought). Then write a positive counterthought.
Positive Counterthoughts
Good Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.2
The Garfield cartoon below contains an example of an irrational belief involving JUMPING TO
CONCLUSIONS. The conclusion here has to do with being popular and liked.
Positive Counterthoughts
Good Feelings
Page 7.3 Session 7
The Spiderman cartoon below contains another example of an irrational belief involving JUMPING TO
CONCLUSIONS. See if you can define the irrational belief and replace it with a more rational
positive counterthought.
Positive Counterthoughts
Good Feelings
(whole belief)
Positive Counterthoughts
Better Feelings
Page 7.5 Session 7
(personal belief)
Positive Counterthoughts
Better Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.6
(personal belief)
Positive Counterthoughts
Better Feelings
Page 7.7 Session 7
The Spiderman cartoon below contains an example of an irrational belief. Analyze Spiderman's thinking
using the C-A-B method.
(whole belief)
Positive Counterthoughts
Better Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.8
EXAMPLE 1. You find that you have many put-down thoughts about yourself when you are
around Joe, who is perfect; he's good looking, popular, and girls are always standing all around
him.
EXAMPLE 2. You find that you often have put-down thoughts about yourself when you are
alone. When you are busy, you don't seem to have many negative thoughts about yourself.
EXAMPLE 3. You feel anxious and upset every time you're around Christy. She always tells you
that the clothes you're wearing are out of fashion, or makes suggestions for improving your
appearance. She also thinks of herself as your best friend.
EXAMPLE 4. You're usually upset when your boyfriend or girlfriend spends time with (or gives
attention to) other people.
Fill out the thought diagram for Peppermint Patti in the Peanuts cartoon below.
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.10
Fill out the thought diagram for the black-haired girl in the Peanuts cartoon below.
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Page 7.11 Session 7
2. What do you think of the way the characters in the Shoe cartoon below deal with the activating
events?
Session 7 Page 7.12
Personal situation
Use the C-A-B method and fill out the thought diagram below to analyze your thinking about this
situation.
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Page 7.13 Session 7
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Try to meet your session goal, which is to analyze a personal situation by using the C-A-B method
and filling out a thought diagram once each day (there are four copies of the thought diagram on
pages 7.15 through 7.18). Write this on your Session Goal Record (page 1.2).
2. Keep recording negative thoughts and positive counterthoughts on page 6.10. Remember to give
yourself the larger reward specified in your contract if you achieve your goal five days out of seven.
4. Work on meeting your goal for maintaining a satisfactory level of pleasant activities.
Success Activity
Fill out your Mood Diary for today (page 1.1).
SESSION 7 QUIZ
Disputing Irrational Thinking
Name Date
1. Think of a personal thought that could be behind the nonpersonal thought below.
Nonpersonal thought: “You're a jerk.”
Personal thought:
3. There are two irrational thoughts in the Bloom County cartoon below. Fill in the thought diagram
for one of the irrational thoughts.
(whole belief)
Page 7.15 Session 7
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.16
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Page 7.17 Session 7
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Session 7 Page 7.18
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
SESSION 8
Relaxation
Page 8.1 Session 8
Use the C-A-B method to analyze one of Garfield's feeling reactions in the cartoon below.
Use the C-A-B method to analyze Garfield's other feeling reaction in the cartoon below.
4. What are the four things you need to do before beginning the Benson Relaxation Technique?
a.
b.
c.
d.
5. Describe the six steps involved in doing the Benson Relaxation Technique.
a. Sit .
b. your eyes.
c. Focus on your .
d. Say as you .
e. Progressively
.
f. Do this for minutes, then for a few minutes.
Page 8.5 Session 8
BEFORE
Very Neither tense/relaxed Very
tense relaxed
Before relaxing I feel: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
AFTER
Very Neither tense/relaxed Very
tense relaxed
After relaxing I feel: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
6. Did you notice a change in your before and after finger temperature? .
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Try to meet your goal for this session, which is to practice the Benson Relaxation Technique four
times. Write this on your Session Goal Record on page 1.2.
2. Fill out a C-A-B form when you catch yourself thinking a negative thought or when you start feeling
depressed (pages 8.8 through 8.11). Try to do this at least four times.
4. Work on your goal for maintaining pleasant activities at a satisfactory level (page 4.6).
Success Activity
1. Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
2. If you can remember having a negative thought or feeling depressed earlier today, fill out a C-A-B
form.
Name Date
1. John asks Kim to go out on a date. She tells him that she can't make it this weekend because she
has to go out of town with her parents. John feels embarrassed and depressed. He thinks, “She
doesn't like me. I'll never get a girl to go out with me.”
Which of the following are positive counterthoughts to John's negative thought? Write “C” in front
of the positive counterthoughts.
a. I guess she's busy this weekend. I'll try again next week.
b. She didn't want to tell me the truth; that was just an excuse.
c. Well, maybe she doesn't want to go out with me, but there are several other girls
who would.
d. That was really stupid of me to ask her out. She's too good-looking to ever go out
with a guy like me.
e. Well, that seems like a believable reason why she can't go out with me. Maybe I'll
try again later.
4. When would it be better to use the Benson (portable) relaxation technique, instead of the Jacobson
technique (the tense and relax method we learned first)? Write a “B” when the Benson would be
best, and a “J” when the Jacobson would be best.
a. When you want to relax on a regular basis, at home.
b. Just before you have to make a presentation in front of the class.
c. When you're getting ready to ask someone to go out on a date.
d. When you want to relax very deeply and fall asleep.
Session 8 Page 8.8
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Page 8.9 Session 8
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Session 8 Page 8.10
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
Page 8.11 Session 8
C-A-B Form
(whole belief)
Better Feelings
SESSION 9
Communication, Part 1
Page 9.1 Session 9
1. Which of the following are examples of communication according to the definition given above?
(Circle the correct answer(s) -- there may be more than one.)
b. A little old lady hitting a burglar over the head with her umbrella.
b. When the person who is listening receives a message that isn't what the speaker meant to
communicate.
2. Begin your restatement with phrases like “You feel . . . ,” “You think …,” or
“Let me see if I understand what you're saying.”
Message 1
“I've come to see if you can help me get a date with Shirley. (pause) I suppose if I did get a date,
I'd just bungle things. Something could go wrong. At least I probably wouldn't have a date again
next weekend.”
a. “There have been weekends when I haven't had dates. You don't need to have a date every
weekend.”
b. “You're bothered because you don't have a girlfriend, and you're turning to me for help.”
c. “Shirley is awesome! I'd like to go out with her myself. What can I do?”
Message 2
“Oh well, I guess it's all sort of hopeless. The days go on and everybody's going out except me.
(pause) My dad said that when he was my age he had a date every night. (pause) Maybe that's
the problem -- I don't look like my old man.”
a. “So you feel that this hopelessness has more to do with you than with the situation.”
b. “You'll feel better next week. Don't worry.”
c. “You look a lot like your dad.”
Message 3
“I wonder if you know what it feels like to sit at home every night, never knowing what your
girlfriend is doing. Have you ever spent the night of the Junior Prom babysitting your little sisters?”
You can speak up for yourself only after you have restated the
sender's message to his or her satisfaction.
2. What are some communication mistakes that are often made by the listener? Check all that apply.
a. Not giving the sender your undivided attention.
b. Relating the conversation to something the speaker doesn't know about.
c. Thinking about your replies instead of paying attention to the sender.
d. Listening for details rather than paying attention to the essential (whole) messagee.
e. Listening to the essential message but missing the details.
f. Responding with a guess about the sender's feelings even when the sender hasn't
made any specific statements about his or her feelings.
Page 9.5 Session 9
3. Write a “J” by the judgmental response and a “U” by the understanding response.
a. “I've lived in this town all my life and I've been in the same house for seven years, but I don't
know anybody. At school, I just can't seem to make friends. I try to be nice, but I feel
uncomfortable inside. Then I tell myself that I don't care, people aren't dependable, everyone
is out for him- or herself, and I don't want any friends. And sometimes I think I really mean
it.”
1. “This has gone on so long it almost has you convinced. Do I understand you
correctly?”
2. “It's pretty hard to have fun without friends. I would really work on that. There
are lots of things you could do to learn how to make friends, and the sooner you
do it, the better.”
b. “I have the strangest feeling. Whenever anything good happens to me, I just can't believe it. I
act as though it never happened. And it worries me. I wanted a date with Jane, and it took
two weeks before I got up enough courage to ask her out. She said she would go out with
me, but I couldn't believe it. I was so uncertain about it that I didn't keep the date.”
1. “You're weird, man! You've really screwed things up!”
2. “You just can't believe good things can happen to you?”
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Your goal for this session is to practice active listening. Write this on your Session Goal Record
(page 1.2). Try to restate a sender's message at least once each day. Also take notes on what
happened. There is a worksheet for your notes on page 9.9.
3. Work on your level of pleasant activities so that it's at or above your goal (page 4.6).
Success Activity
Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
SESSION 9 QUIZ
Communication, Part 1
Name Date
1. Which of the following describe the “Worry Time” technique for stopping negative thoughts?
Check all that apply.
a. Every time you catch yourself worrying, snap yourself with a rubber band, or pinch
yourself.
b. Every time you catch yourself worrying, say to yourself, “I don't need to worry about
that now, I'll do that during my scheduled Worry Time later this evening.”
d. You make an appointment with yourself to worry (for example, from 5 to 6 p.m.
every evening), and you worry only during that time.
2. You are talking with someone, and you say “I went downtown yesterday, and I saw this great
movie where Benji and Godzilla had this huge fight, and they destroyed downtown Tokyo!” Your
friend replies with one of the following statements. For each of these statements, indicate whether
it is an IRRELEVANT RESPONSE (write “IR” in the space), PARTIAL LISTENING (write
“PL”), or ACTIVE LISTENING (write “AL”).
a. “Oh yeah? Well, I saw this great TV show, where Spiderman joins forces with
Super Chicken, and they open a combination tanning salon and sushi bar, which is
just a front for their crime fighting headquarters.”
b. “Guess who I saw downtown? Your old friend, Bob! He was asking about you!”
c. “My parents and I got into this argument about whether I could go to the coast this
weekend with everybody. What am I going to do if they don't let me go?”
d. “Oh yeah? It sounds like you had a great time at the movies! Tell me about it. Who
won the battle -- Benji or Godzilla?”
3. Which of the following are part of active listening? Check all that apply.
a. Restate the sender's message in your own words.
b. Get up and walk around the room while you talk.
c. Take the lead in picking the conversation topics.
d. Begin with remarks such as “It sounds like . . . .”
e. Listen to what is being said without indicating that you approve or disapprove of the
sender's message.
f. Use lots of hand gestures while you talk.
Session 9 Page 9.9
Day 1
Sender's Message
What Happened?
Day 2
Sender's Message
What Happened?
Day 3
Sender's Message
What Happened?
Day 4
Sender's Message
What Happened?
SESSION 10
Communication, Part 2
Page 10.1 Session 10
1. Write some personal-feeling statements that could be used in place of “You make me feel happy.”
2. Which of the following are good personal statements of positive feelings? Check all that apply.
a. “When I'm around you, I feel comfortable and I can be myself.”
b. “We all feel that you're really great.’
c. “Everyone likes you.”
d. “I feel comfortable in my group.”
e. “Someone from my group always seems to be near when I want company.”
f. “I feel everyone cares that I'm a part of this group.”
Session 10 Page 10.2
T F 1. Self-disclosure means honestly telling how you feel about what's going on.
T F 3. Hiding your reactions to another person's behavior is a good way to improve your
relationship with that person.
T F 5. When a person's behavior really upsets you, you should reject that person.
T F 6. Jim meets Mary at a party. Mary immediately begins to tell Jim about her relationship
with her father. This is an example of appropriate self-disclosure.
T F 7. Sandy and Bill are watching a sunset. Bill describes a childhood incident that still affects
the way he reacts to sunsets. This is an example of self-disclosure.
Summary
Part A
For the following pair of negative statements, check the one that names both the Activating Event and
the feeling (Consequence).
1. “You don't care about me.”
2. “When you do things without me, I feel left out.”
Part B
For the following pairs of statements, check the one in each pair that names both the Activating Event
and the feeling (Consequence).
1. a. “Your smile makes me feel good.”
b. “You have a pretty smile.”
2. a. “I enjoy fishing.”
b. “I had a great time fishing with you today.”
3. a. “Shut up.”
b. “It hurts my feelings when you make jokes about me.”
4. a. “I feel bad that you went to the movies and didn't invite me.”
b. “It was rude of you to go to the movies without inviting me.”
5. a. “You're a creep.”
b. “I feel angry with you when you keep insulting me.”
Session 10 Page 10.4
Part C
Write an “F” beside the statement that describes feelings in each group of statements below.
2. a. “What's the matter with you? Can't you see I'm trying to work?”
b. “I really resent your interrupting me so often.”
c. “You don't care about anybody else's feelings. You're completely
self-centered.”
Part D
6. Which of the following are examples of relationship statements? Check all that apply.
a. “I feel you are rejecting me.”
b. “The old school just isn't the same anymore.”
c. “You really make me feel liked and appreciated.”
d. “This group really bugs me.”
e. “Everyone here is so nice.”
f. “Are you angry with me?”
g. “Why is everyone looking at me?”
h. “I think we need to talk about what happened last night.”
Page 10.5 Session 10
Part E
T F 1. The purpose of self-disclosure is to try to make the other person improve his or her
behavior.
T F 2. It's best to wait until several disturbing situations have built up before you discuss them.
T F 3. The most helpful way to express your feelings is to describe the other person's behavior
that you are responding to and state how you feel.
Part F
Indicate which of the following are helpful self-disclosures. Write “SD” by the statements that are
helpful self-disclosures, and “A” by the active listening statements. Don't write anything next to the
statements that would not be helpful in communication.
a. “Leave me alone.”
b. “I feel hurt and rejected by your behavior.”
c. “You're too bossy.”
d. “You look angry -- are you?”
e. “Are you saying that I have been ignoring you for the past two weeks?”
f. “I feel you're rejecting me.”
g. “My friends aren't the same anymore.”
h. “You really make me feel sad when you yell at me.”
i. “I get upset when the people in this group don't listen.”
j. “Everyone at school is friendly.”
k. “Are you upset with me?”
l. “Why is everyone looking at me?”
Session 10 Page 10.6
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Page 10.7 Session 10
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Session 10 Page 10.8
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Your main goal for this session is to practice stating positive feelings using the A-C method. Write
on your Session Goal Record (page 1.2), “State a positive feeling each day.” Use page 10.10 to
record your positive feeling statements, and try to express the thoughts to the person involved.
2. Another goal for this session is to use the self-disclosure approach to express at least two negative
feelings this week. If possible, try to address the problem situations you selected for the role-
playing exercise earlier in the session.
3. Analyze a problem situation or feeling each day using the A-B-C forms on pages 10.11 through
10.14. If you find that your belief is irrational, then change the belief. If you find that the belief is
rational, then state your feelings.
7. Remember to practice the relaxation techniques and use them in tension-producing situations.
Success Activity
Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
SESSION 10 QUIZ
Communication, Part 2
Name Date
1. Which of the following are good personal feeling statements (self-disclosures)? Check all that
apply.
a. “We are all very upset about his behavior in class.”
b. “I'm excited to see my cousins.”
c. “I feel that everyone should give to charities.”
d. “You make me mad when you forget to pick up after yourself.”
e. “I was very surprised when you gave me a birthday card.”
2. What is an acceptable reason for stating negative feelings about a situation or a person? Pick one
answer.
a. To help someone else realize that they are wrong.
b. To improve a situation.
c. To make someone else feel as bad as you did.
d. To make sure people realize you're not fooled by their behavior.
3. Bill comes home from school and finds his mother in his room, looking through his dresser drawers.
He yells, “You never give me any privacy! Get out of here! I hate you!” Even though Bill states
his feelings (and he is obviously quite upset), there might have been a better way for him to tell his
mother how he feels about her invading his privacy so that she would be more likely to listen to
him. Which of the following statements is the best way for Bill to tell his mother how he feels?
Pick one answer.
a. “You never give me any privacy! Get out of here! I hate you!”
b. “Mom, when you look through my dresser, it makes me really angry and upset with
you. I feel upset because it seems like you don't trust me!”
c. “How would you like it if I looked through your dresser?”
d. “It's like you don't trust me! What did you think you were going to find –do you
think I'm a drug addict or something? You don't trust me!”
Session 10 Page 10.10
Person Involved
Did you express your positive feeling to this person? Yes No
Person Involved
Did you express your positive feeling to this person? Yes No
Person Involved
Did you express your positive feeling to this person? Yes No
Person Involved
Did you express your positive feeling to this person? Yes No
Person Involved
Did you express your positive feeling to this person? Yes No
Page 10.11 Session 10
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Course of Action
Session 10 Page 10.12
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Course of Action
Page 10.13 Session 10
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Course of Action
Session 10 Page 10.14
(whole belief)
New Consequence
A-C Statement
Course of Action
SESSION 11
2. Why is it important to become good at self-disclosure and active listening? Write the three points
that are most important for you below.
a.
b.
c.
Session 11 Page 11.2
2. What are the two basic rules for successful problem solving?
a.
b.
Page 11.3 Session 11
Read the following examples and briefly identify the strengths and weaknesses in each one. Use the
rules for defining problems on the blackboard in your answers.
1. “I know you want me to be safe and that you try to take care of me. My problem is that I
want to stay out until midnight on weekends to party with my friends, but my curfew is 11:00
p.m. This bothers me because I have to leave parties early, and I miss out on the fun.”
3. “My problem is that you are irresponsible about taking care of your room.”
4. “I'm upset about the dust on the floor, the clothes on the bed, and the messy papers on the
desk in your room. It embarrasses me when my friends come to visit and they see your
room.”
Session 11 Page 11.4
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Your goal for this session is to practice defining problems. Write this on your Session Goal Record
(page 1.2). During the coming week, identify several problems that you would like to work on.
Then, practice defining them using the rules we have discussed in this session. A worksheet is
provided for this on page 11.6. DON'T TRY TO STATE THE PROBLEM TO OTHER PEOPLE
YET!
Success Activity
1. Fill out your Mood Diary.
2. If you can think of a problem you would like to work on, write it down on page 11.6. Then define
the problem.
SESSION 11 QUIZ
Negotiation and Problem Solving, Part 1
Name Date
1. There are several steps involved in using assertive imagery. Arrange the items below in the correct
order by placing a “1” by the first step, a “2” by the second step, and so on. Leave out any items
that aren't one of the steps for using assertive imagery.
a. Change the photograph of the scene into a movie.
b. Dispute your irrational thoughts.
c. Imagine the other person's reaction to your statement of your feelings.
d. Tense, and then relax your muscles.
e. Make a photograph in your mind of the situation you want to prepare for.
f. State your feelings to the other person in the movie.
Indicate whether the following statements about defining a problem are true or false.
T F 2. In defining a problem, you should start with saying something positive about the other
person or the situation.
T F 3. In defining the problem, you should describe the other person's role in the problem, but
don't talk about your own role in the problem.
T F 4. Don't express your feelings during problem definition. It only complicates things.
T F 5. Describe what happened that bothered you, and what you think needs to be changed.
T F 6. This is a good problem definition: “My problem is that you are too lazy! You make me
mad when you don't pick up after yourself.”
The Problem
Definition of the Problem
The Problem
Definition of the Problem
The Problem
Definition of the Problem
The Problem
Definition of the Problem
SESSION 12
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Page 12.3 Session 12
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Date Time Place
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date
Session 12 Page 12.4
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Page 12.5 Session 12
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Date Time Place
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date _____________________________________
Session 12 Page 12.6
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
For Adolescent Only Groups
1. Your goal for this session is for you and your parents to complete the Issues Checklist. Write this
on page 1.2. Your copy of the Issues Checklist is provided on pages 12.11 through 12.15. You
will need to use the checklist during the next two sessions to help you decide which problems to
work on.
2. Have each of your parents or guardians fill out an Issues Checklist so you can bring it to the next
two session. This will help you pick problems that your parents want to solve, too.
3. Complete the sample brainstorming and evaluation situations on pages 12.9 and 12.10.
4. Continue to monitor your daily mood by filling out your Mood Diary on page 1.1.
Success Activity
Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
For Adolescent + Parent Groups
1. Your goal for this session is to complete the Issues Checklist on pages 12.11 through 12.15.
Write this on page 1.2. You will need to use the checklist during the next two sessions to help you
decide which problems to work on.
2. Complete the sample brainstorming and evaluation situations on pages 12.9 and 12.10.
3. Continue to monitor your daily mood by filling out your Mood Diary on page 1.1.
Success Activity
Fill out your Mood Diary for today.
SESSION 12 QUIZ
Negotiation and Problem Solving, Part 2
Name Date
True False
T F a. List as many solutions as you can.
T F c. Compromise is important.
True False
T F a. It isn't necessary to write down a contract.
T F b. The contract should describe what each person has agreed to do.
T F d. The contract should spell out the period of time the contract is good for.
SESSION 12 QUIZ
True False
T F e. If one person fails to uphold the terms of the agreement even once, then
the contract is broken.
T F f. Once it's signed, the contract should be put away in a drawer; it should not
be put up on display.
T F g. Contracts should include reminders to help each person keep his or her
part of the agreement.
T F h. Contracts are only useful for solving problems in a family; they would not
be useful for solving problems between friends.
Session 12 Page 12.9
When you are ready to evaluate the possible solutions, you should think about the good and bad points
for each of them. Then, assign a rating of “+” or “-“ to each solution. Ask yourself these questions
about each solution:
a. Will it solve my problem?
b. Will it solve the other person's problem?
c. Will it really work?
d. Can I live with it?
e. Can the other person live with it?
Page 12.10 Session 12
Think about the telephone problem described on the previous page. For this example, pretend that one
solution was to “buy a second telephone.”
A parent, on the other hand, might evaluate the solution like this:
“It's true that this would free up my telephone, but it wouldn't solve the problem of big
telephone bills -- then we would have to pay for two telephones. Now, if my son wants to get a
job to pay for his new telephone, that's different. As it stands, I'd give this solution a minus.”
Using these examples as a guide, try to evaluate the first two solutions on your list for the telephone
problem on page 12.9. For each solution, write an evaluation from the teenager's point of view, and a
second evaluation from the parent's point of view.
Solution No. 1
Teenager's evaluation
Parent's evaluation
Solution No. 2
Teenager's evaluation
Parent's evaluation
Session 12 Page 12.11
ISSUES CHECKLIST*
The following is a list of things that parents and teenagers sometimes talk about at home. Look carefully at each topic
on the LEFT HAND side of the page and think about whether it has been discussed at all during the last two weeks.
If you have discussed the topic during the last two weeks, circle “Yes” to the right of the topic, if you have not discussed
the topic, circle “No.”
After reviewing all of the topics, go back over the list. For those topics for which you circled “Yes,” please answer the
question on the RIGHT HAND side of the page.
*Copyright ? 1989, Guilford Press. Reprinted by permission. The authors wish to thank Arthur Robin, Ph.D., for granting permission to
use the Issues Checklist.
Page 12.12 Session 12
ISSUES CHECKLIST (continued)
*Copyright ? 1989, Guilford Press. Reprinted by permission. The authors wish to thank Arthur Robin, Ph.D., for
granting permission to use the Issues Checklist.
Session 12 Page 12.13
*Copyright ? 1989, Guilford Press. Reprinted by permission. The authors wish to thank Arthur Robin, Ph.D., for
granting permission to use the Issues Checklist.
Page 12.14 Session 12
*Copyright ? 1989, Guilford Press. Reprinted by permission. The authors wish to thank Arthur Robin, Ph.D., for
granting permission to use the Issues Checklist.
Session 12 Page 12.15
In the blanks below, list any topics that apply to you and your parents which have not been listed above:
46. YES NO 1 2 3 4 5
47. YES NO 1 2 3 4 5
48. YES NO 1 2 3 4 5
49. YES NO 1 2 3 4 5
50. YES NO 1 2 3 4 5
*Copyright ? 1989, Guilford Press. Reprinted by permission. The authors wish to thank Arthur Robin, Ph.D., for
granting permission to use the Issues Checklist.
SESSION 13
Brainstorm
1. List all possible solutions.
2. Be creative.
3. Don't be critical.
4. Compromise.
5. Think about changing your own behavior.
Choose a Solution
1. Each person evaluates the solutions and explains why each one is a “plus” or a “minus.” Go
over the solutions one at a time.
2. Fill out the Problem-Solving Worksheet.
3. Compromise.
Write a Contract
1. Describe what each person will do, and what will happen if he or she fails to do it.
2. State how long the contract is good for.
3. Include reminders.
4. Sign the contract.
Session 13 Page 13.2
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Page 13.3 Session 13
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Date Time Place
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date
Session 13 Page 13.4
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Your goal for this session is to work on a problem with your parents. Write this on page 1.2.
2. Before you leave, you need to make a commitment to ask your parents to help you practice
problem solving. Follow the notes you have written down on page 13.5 to guide your choice
of the time and place to ask them, and use the dialogue you have written at the bottom of the
page to present the idea to your parents. Once they have agreed to help you, set a time for a
practice session.
3. Get together with your parents at the specified time and go through the teaching procedure at
the bottom of page 13.5.
4. Practice working on the problem you selected in class, or choose another problem from the
Issues Checklist. Go through the problem-solving steps listed on page 13.1 as you negotiate a
solution. Use the Problem-Solving Worksheet on page 13.7 to take notes. Try to reach a
solution and fill out the contract on page 13.8 if you can, but make sure you end the practice
session within a reasonable length of time (60 to 90 minutes). You can always meet again to
continue the practice session.
6. If any of you didn't fill out the Issues Checklist last session, please do so before the next
session.
7. If problems develop or tempers flare up during the discussion at home, it may be a good idea
to take a TIME OUT. A time out is a ten- to fifteen-minute break that allows everyone to
calm down. Make sure that the discussion continues after the break is over.
8. Another useful technique for practicing problem solving and negotiation at home is to
AUDIOTAPE the discussion so that I can give you some feedback and suggestions.
9. Continue to fill out your Mood Diary every day (page 1.1).
TIME
PLACE
SAY
TEACH
1. Show your parents page 13.1 in your workbook. Go through the steps.
2. Show them how to use the Problem-Solving Worksheet on page 13.2, and the Agreement Contract on page 13.3.
3. Remember, this is supposed to be a practice session! It's OK to look at the list of steps, and to go slowly. It will
take at least an hour to describe the approach to your parents and practice working on a problem.
Session 13 Page 13.6
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Continue the discussion you have started in this session until you have completed all of the steps for problem
solving and negotiation listed on page 13.1. Use the Problem-Solving Worksheet on page 13.2 to take notes. If
you can find a time that is convenient for everyone involved, write it below.
Time Date
The goal is to agree on a solution and WRITE A CONTRACT using the form on page 13.3. Write this as your
goal on page 1.2.
3. If you haven't filled out the Issues Checklist yet, please do so before the next session.
4. If problems develop or tempers flare during the discussion at home, it may be a good idea to take a time out. A
time out is a ten- to fifteen-minute break that allows everyone to calm down. Make sure that the discussion
continues after the break is over.
5. Another useful technique is to audiotape your discussion so that a group leader can give you some feedback and
suggestions.
6. Students should continue to fill out the Mood Diary every day (page 1.1).
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Session 13 Page 13.8
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Date Time Place
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date
SESSION 14
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Session 14 Page 14.2
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date
Page 14.3 Session 14
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
1. Your goal for this session is to work on another problem with your parents or to complete the one
you started last time. Write this on page 1.2.
2. Select a time and place to ask your parents to participate in another problem-solving practice
session, and write this below. Do this before you leave class!
Time
Place
3. Once they have agreed to help you, set a time for the practice session.
4. At the agreed upon time, get together with your parents and: a) if you didn't finish your assignment
from the last session, go through the remaining steps until you reach an agreement, or b) if you
finished your assignment, work on a problem of moderate intensity (it can be the problem you
selected for the practice session in class today, or something else). If you need them, there is a
Problem-Solving Worksheet on page 14.5 and an Agreement Contract on page 14.6.
5. You may want to audiotape your practice session so I can give you some feedback.
7. Continue to fill out your Mood Diary every day (page 1.1).
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
Try to stick with the agreement you have written down in your contract until the renegotiation date you
have specified. Write this as your goal on page 1.2. On the renegotiation date, each family should meet
again and decide whether to continue the current agreement or change it. Each of you will be asked to
report on how the agreement is working out at the next session.
PROBLEM-SOLVING WORKSHEET
Family Date
Problem
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
Session 14 Page 14.6
AGREEMENT CONTRACT
Names of persons making this agreement:
Person A Person B
When will Person A do these things? When will Person B do these things?
If either party fails to uphold the terms of this agreement, the contract will be canceled and a meeting will
be scheduled to negotiate a new contract.
Both parties will meet again to re-evaluate the agreement on the date and at the time indicated below.
Date Time Place
Signed Signed
(Person A) (Person B)
Date Date
SESSION 15
Life Goals
Page 15.1 Session 15
Plans for
What Are Your Goals? Potential Obstacles? Overcoming Obstacles
1. Friends
2. Education/School
3. Job Plans
4. Recreation
6. Romantic Relationships
7. Spiritual/Religious
Session 15 Page 15.2
HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
2. Practice using the Benson and Jacobsen relaxation techniques, especially in stressful situations.
3. Begin recording your pleasant activities again. Use page 15.4 or continue where you left off on
page 2.4.
Success Activity
1. Write down your mood score for today on page 1.1.
2. Record the pleasant activities you have done today on page 15.4 or 2.4.
SESSION 15 QUIZ
Life Goals
Name Date
2. The following are some long-term goal statements. Write an “R” next to the goals that are realistic,
and a “U” next to goals that are unrealistic.
a. Bob's family is lower-middle income; they live in a small, but comfortable house.
Bob has $200 saved up to buy a car. He has a part-time job, and he earns about
$100 each month. Bob's goal is to buy a $5000 car by the beginning of summer
next year, which is nine months away.
b. Wendy is a good freshman athlete. She is on the cross country track team and
competes in long-distance races. Wendy is one of the best runners in her school. At
several recent track meets, she placed second and third. Wendy's goal is to win first
place in her event by the end of her senior year.
c. Mary's goal is to become a major rock star by the time she is twenty, and she wants
to sell a million copies of her first album. She listens to a lot of records, and knows
the lyrics to most of the songs by her favorite groups. She doesn't know anyone in
the music business, and can't play any instruments.
d. Jack likes to ski, and has been skiing since he was five years old. He gives lessons
to beginning skiers on weekends. Jack's long-term goal is to become a designer of
ski equipment. He has taken several drafting and engineering classes, and has done
well in these classes. He has been accepted into a college that has a very good
engineering program.
3. Bill doesn't have as many friends as he'd like, so his goal is to make more friends. One of the
major obstacles for Bill is that he lives far away from the people he'd like to be friends with, and it
would be difficult to get together with them. The following are some possible solutions. Write a
“G” next to the solutions that are good and a “B” next to the solutions that are bad.
a. Bill could ask his dad to let him use the car in the afternoon. This would mean that
his dad would have to take a forty-minute bus ride to work.
c. Bill could make plans to meet his friends on weekends and arrange to use his dad's
car when it's free.
d. Bill could spend most of his time with a kid in his neighborhood who is four years
younger than he is.
Page 15.4: BASELINE OF PLEASANT ACTIVITIES
DAYS
Activities 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15
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Totals for Each Day:
SESSION 16
1. With family:
2. With friends:
3. With school:
4. With jobs:
6. With money:
Session 16 Page 16.2
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
1. Being in a depressed or irritable mood most of the day, nearly every day. Feeling sad, “blue,”
down in the dumps, bored, empty inside, or hopeless all of the time.
2. A lack of interest in pleasant activities, and not being able to enjoy most or all pleasant activities.
3. Significant weight loss/gain when you aren't dieting, or a dramatic decrease/increase in appetite.
5. Extreme fidgeting, having trouble sitting still, or feeling very tired and slowed down as if you are in
slow motion nearly every day.
If you experience five or more of these symptoms for at least two weeks, then you are clinically
depressed. Having one or two of these symptoms may just indicate temporary unhappiness. If the
symptoms continue for a long time, you should think about getting some help.
APPENDIX
PLEASANT EVENTS SCHEDULE
Adolescent Version
Copyright © 1971, by MacPhillamy and Lewinsohn, Revised 1986
This questionnaire is designed to find out about the things you have done during the
last month, and how much you enjoyed doing them. You will need to go over this list of
activities twice. The first time you go through the list, rate how many times each activity
has happened. The second time through, rate how pleasant each activity was; if you
didn't do the activity, rate how pleasant you think it would have been. PLEASE
DON'T LEAVE ANY BLANKS!
It should take about an hour to complete this questionnaire. There are many activities
on the list, so don't spend too much time thinking about each one. Keep in mind that
there are no right or wrong answers - everyone's answers will be different.
Please fill out this questionnaire before you come in for your interview. Don't fill it out
unless you are reasonably sure that you understand how to do it. If you have any
questions, contact your group leader.
Student's Name Course/Instructor
41. Laughing
42. Solving a problem, puzzle, crossword
43. Being at weddings, baptisms, confirmations, etc.
44. Criticizing someone
45. Shaving
46. Having lunch with friends or co-workers
47. Losing touch with reality, “spacing out,” “tripping out”
48. Playing tennis
49. Taking a shower
50. Driving long distances
51. Woodworking, carpentry
52. Writing stories, novels, plays, or poetry
PES - Page 3
Take a short break if you need to. Now go over the list of activities again. This time, rate how pleasant, enjoyable,
or rewarding each activity was (or would have been). If you did the activity more than once during the last 30 days,
your rating should reflect how pleasant the activity was on the average.
Again, don't spend too much on any one item.
Rate how pleasant this was if it happened, or how
pleasant it would have been if it had happened.
NOT SOMEWHAT VERY
PLEASANT PLEASANT PLEASANT
0 1 2
35. Camping
36. Working in politics
37. Working on machines (cars, bikes, motorcycles,
tractors, etc.)
38. Thinking about something good in the future
39. Playing cards
40. Completing a difficult task
41. Laughing
42. Solving a problem, puzzle, crossword
43. Being at weddings, baptisms, confirmations, etc.
44. Criticizing someone
45. Shaving
46. Having lunch with friends or co-workers
47. Losing touch with reality, “spacing out,” “tripping out”
48. Playing tennis
49. Taking a shower
50. Driving long distances
51. Woodworking, carpentry
52. Writing stories, novels, plays, or poetry
53. Being with animals
54. Riding in an airplane
55. Exploring (hiking away from known routes, spelunking,
etc.)
56. Having a frank and open discussion
57. Singing in a group
58. Thinking about myself or my problems
59. Working on my job
60. Going to a party
61. Going to church functions (socials, classes, bazaars,
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Thank you very much for comple ting this questionnaire. PLEASE BRING THE COMPLETED QUESTIONNAIRE
WITH YOU TO YOUR INTERVIEW APPOINTMENT.
If you have any questions about any part of the questionnaire, please be sure to ask your interviewer at that time.
BOC/MQ - Page 1
MOOD QUESTIONNAIRE
(adapted from CES-D; Radloff, 1977)*
Circle the number for each statement that best describes how often you felt this way during the past week.
*
The authors wish to thank Lenore Radloff for granting permission to reprint this version of the CES-D.
BOC/MQ - Page 2
Scoring
Add up all of the numbers you have circled. If you have circled more than one number for a statement, add only
the largest number to your score.
You may notice that the numbers for your responses on four of the statements (#4, #8, #12, and #16) are listed in
reverse order. This has been done on purpose, and your score will be correct if you simply add up all the numbers you
have circled.
Total Score:
EOC/MQ - Page 1
MOOD QUESTIONNAIRE
(adapted from CES-D; Radloff, 1977)*
Circle the number for each statement that best describes how often you felt this way during the past week.
*
The authors wish to thank Lenore Radloff for granting permission to reprint this version of the CES-D.
EOC/MQ - Page 2
Scoring
Add up all of the numbers you have circled. If you have circled more than one number for a statement, add only
the largest number to your score.
You may notice that the numbers for your responses on four of the statements (#4, #8, #12, and #16) are listed in
reverse order. This has been done on purpose, and your score will be correct if you simply add up all the numbers you
have circled.
Total Score: