Perdev Week 1 - Lesson 1

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Subject: PERSONAL DEVELOPMET LESSON# : 1
LESSON 1: KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING ONESELF
READING: SELF – CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self?
Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar
to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see.
It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-concept refers to your
awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In other words, it connotes first
the identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors
evaluated in the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.
The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that
provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we think, how we feel,
look, and act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view
us, the actual self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have developed over
time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal self could include components of what our parents
have taught us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there are
numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are exemplified in social roles
that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to
adult development. Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way
that I want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way
that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in
mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the
greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules aim is greater self-knowledge that
will lead to higher alignment between these two personality domains.
Source: http://study.com/academy/lesson/what-is-self-concept-in-psychology-definition-lesson-quiz.html
http://study.com/academy/lesson/ideal-self-vs-real-self-definition-lesson-quiz.html
READING: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Personal Effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources – talents, skills, energy and time, to
enable you to achieve life goals.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your personal effectiveness.
Being self-aware, making the most of your strengths, learning new skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility
are all keys to improving your personal performance.
Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics – talent and experience accumulated in
the process of personal development. Talents first are needed to be identified and then developed to be used in a
particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, etc.).
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and practical activities.
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and risk assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance with the plan. If the same ability is used many
times in the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are some skills that
will greatly increase the efficiency of any person who owns them:
1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less
important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of yourself,
your actions and their consequences. Self-confidence is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and
physical condition. To develop it, you need to learn yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and
believe that by performing right actions and achieving right goals you will certainly reach success
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles – problems, laziness, bad
emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed with the help of self-
discipline exercise.
4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and other people. Stress
arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative
consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience. It increases
efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no one has tried to use. It
can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly increased when using
creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas. Idea is a mental image
of an object formed by the human mind, which can be changed before being implemented in the real world. For
generating ideas you can use a method of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize
all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but the most
important personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal easier and less costly.
Reading: BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized but not given
appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in communications, personality or ability. Instead of
giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend personality
development sessions or whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived weakness.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them, utilize them
to your greatest advantage. This is where you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose
Feliciano and other blind singers did not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized that they have a golden
voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international fame in the field of music.
Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on Personality Development and Character
Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro Manila.
Story: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE
There are three kinds of people in this world:

The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the movie of their lives, admires some parts and criticizes
others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she says the whole day is, “I like this thing and but I don’t like that
thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely no control of their lives --- except to comment about it. Moviegoers
are the most pathetic, miserable people in the world.
The second is the Actor. This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes she’s the
Actor – and can control a big part of her life. She can actually make or break the movie – by how well she delivers
her lines and how she portrays her character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing they’re the start of the show and
enjoy some level of control. But many times, they wish the movie would end in another way – but realize that they
have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she actually
creates the entire movie from her mind. She determines what she will say, what she will do, and how the movie will
end. She realizes she has enormous control over her life, and sees to it that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
Who are you among these three people?
Do you merely watch your life go y?
Or do you act out a script that you feel has been handed to you?
Or do you write the script and make your life beautiful?
By the way, the Producer of the movie is God. He tells you, “Make the movie beautiful, and I will give you
all that you need for success.”
Note: Maintain a personal journal

You may use these questions as you write in your journal:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive things that happened? What are those things that made you irritated or
upset?
2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your day, what may be the greatest lesson you can learn from them? What actions have
you done well and what actions you can do better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for yourself, your family, your community, and your country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and big things you are thankful of? Who are the people that made your day extra
special?

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Subject: PERSONAL DEVELOPMET LESSON# : 1

LESSON 1: KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING ONESELF

READING: SELF – CONCEPT

READING: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Reading: BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS AND WORK ON YOUR WEAKNESSES

Story: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE

There are three kinds of people in this world:

Note: Maintain a personal journal

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