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    This document provides over 100 questions for couples to discuss before getting married to ensure they are compatible and on the same page about important issues. The questions are organized into categories like relationships, disagreements, children, finances, careers, interests and asking yourself questions. Discussing these questions can help prepare couples for marriage by understanding each other's views and being able to compromise when needed. The goal is for couples to get to know each other more deeply and avoid potential problems in the future.

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    100+ Questions to Ask Before You Get

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    Updated on November 16, 2017

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    Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes a whole world of work and devotion! Each and every day, we
    make a choice when it comes to our significant other: We choose to love them, no matter what. It’s a form of
    unconditional love that takes a lot of patience, understanding, and compassion to keep a relationship or
    marriage alive!

    In fact, someone once told me when I got engaged that marriage is like a garden; it takes a lot of work, periodic
    weeding, plenty of watering, and attention to keep it alive and thriving. After I got married, I realized that this
    couldn’t be more true! Marriage is probably the single hardest thing I’ve ever done, even having experienced
    parenthood.

    Facing the Future Together


    The future holds many uncertainties, and although there's no way to predict how each person will react to
    different situations, one thing is certain, you'll be facing them together. You need to support each other and love
    each other through both the sunshine and storm, or that beautiful garden you made together will wither.

    Enough with the metaphors, let's discuss some things you and your love should talk about before your big day.
    Not all questions are applicable for all couples, but knowing where each other stands on various topics will help
    prepare you for your future together.

    So pour each other a glass of wine, grab some snacks, and turn on some background music, and try to enjoy an
    evening of deep conversation with the person you're about to spend the rest of your life with.

    Disclaimer: You will disagree on some things and that's okay. Don't call it all off because you don't like how your
    significant other answers a particular question. Discuss things you disagree on and how to compromise for each
    other.

    Love & Happiness


    The first, and most important topic to discuss is your relationship itself, how
    you truly feel about each other. While your own feelings are likely quite obvious
    to yourself, your significant other may need some reassurance that you are
    happy together.

    When did you first realize you loved me?


    What do you love about me?
    What things do I do that you love?
    If you could use three words to describe me, what would they be?
    What do you feel are my best qualities?
    What is something you wish you could change about me?
    What is something you wish you could change about yourself?
    What makes you happy?
    What is the happiest moment you have with me?
    How do you feel we could improve our relationship?
    Where do you see us in 5, 10, 20 years?

    Disagreements
    Arguments will happen, it's a fact, but how you handle those arguments will
    determine if you have a happy marriage or a troubled one. Remember what
    you're fighting for, rather than what you're fighting over.

    What things do I do that annoy you?


    Would you say we argue often?
    When we argue, who is the first to apologize?
    Have you ever gone to bed angry?
    Are you willing to compromise on things we disagree on?
    Would you ever leave during an argument?
    If I was quiet and upset, would you try to talk to me or leave me alone?
    Are there any disagreements we've had that you feel weren't resolved?
    When you're upset, what can I do to make you happy?

    Marriage
    There are a lot of emotions that people go through before getting married,
    excited, anxious, stressed... How does your significant other feel about tying
    the knot?

    What emotion describes how you feel about getting married?


    What are you looking forward to the most after we get married?
    What kind of wedding would you want?
    Do you believe marriage is 'Til death do us part?'
    Have you ever been engaged or married before?
    If so, what ended the relationship?
    What reasons/situations would make you consider getting a divorce?
    In your opinion, what makes a marriage successful?
    Children & Family
    Family is the most important topic when discussing your future together. Make
    sure you want the same things in life now, before you get married, because
    this is one area where surprises are not welcome!

    Do you want children?


    How many children do you want?
    Do you want boys or girls?
    How do you feel about one of us being a stay-at-home parent?
    How long would you want to wait after marriage to have kids?
    What ways do you find best to handle bad behavior?
    Do you believe in spanking as punishment?
    What ways do you think is best to reward a child?
    What are some things you would want to teach your children?
    How do you feel about adoption?
    What do you think the hardest thing about parenting is?
    Would you consider yourself a 'family' person?
    How often do you talk to your parents/siblings?
    How you expect holidays to go?

    Education & Career


    Does your significant other have particular education or career goals you don't
    know about? If so, are you willing to help support them to reach those goals?
    Do you want to pursue further education?
    What can I do to encourage you while you go to school?
    Do you think our degrees should be completed before getting married?
    Do you think our degrees should be completed before having children?
    What is your ultimate career goal?
    Would you consider yourself a 'workaholic?'
    How many hours do you work per week?
    What is more important to you, career satisfaction or salary?
    If your job was transferred out of the state, would you move for it?
    Would you move out of the state for a dream job opportunity?

    Finances
    Sadly, financial issues are the leading cause of stress in a relationship, and can
    ultimately lead to a disagreement or even divorce. Celebrate together when
    times are good, and work together when things are not.

    Do you save money each month?


    Are you currently saving for retirement?
    What 3 things do you spend the most money on?
    Do you think married couples' incomes should be combined or kept separate?
    Do you think each others' debts should be paid off individually or together?
    How much do you owe on loans?
    What ways can we save money or pay off debt?
    What is your credit score?
    How much credit card debt do you have?
    Friendships
    Your marriage will be the most important relationship of your life, but that
    doesn't mean he or she is the only important person in your life.

    Am I your best friend?


    Do you think a husband and a wife can be best friends?
    Do you spend more time with your friends than you do with me?
    What do your friends think of me?
    Do you highly value their opinion?
    What is something you do with your friends, but not with me?
    Do you think it's okay to be friends with someone of the opposite gender?
    How would you react if I was still friends with an ex?

    Interests & Views


    This section is for many of the random questions that will eventually come up
    if they haven't already. From hobbies and interests, to political and religious
    views, it's important to know what they are passionate about.

    What is your favorite way to spend your free time?


    What activity/hobby do you think would be fun to do together?
    What is a dream vacation you'd like for us to go on in the future?
    What are your 3 most treasured possessions?
    Would you consider yourself religious?
    How important is your faith to you?
    Does your significant other have to share your beliefs?
    What political party do you agree with more? Why?

    Questions to Ask Yourself


    Now, while it’s good to ask your partner a bunch of important questions before
    you get married, it’s also not a bad idea to ask yourself some deep questions
    as well, to ensure you’re actually ready for the big jump! “‘Til death do us part”
    is a very long time, and you want to make sure this very long time is with the
    very best person for you!

    Questions to Ask Yourself


    Do I have any concerns about getting married?

    Does this person truly make me happy?

    Do I miss them when we're not together?

    Do I have any doubts about our future together?

    What are some things I don’t like about this person, and can I accept them?

    How much do I trust this person? Do they trust me?

    Will this person always be honest with me, even if I won't like the answer?

    Does this person support me in my decisions?

    Have I ever had feelings for someone else while in a relationship with them?

    Have I ever considered breaking it off with them? Why?

    Has our relationship gotten stronger or weaker over time?

    Why do I want to marry this person?

    Are there any outside forces pressuring me to get married?

    Being honest with yourself before diving into a marriage is the single best thing you can do for you and the
    relationship as a whole. While it might be a hard thing to change your mind about getting married, it’s an even
    harder thing to have to go through the stress of divorce down the road. Getting married without knowing
    everything you want to know about your significant other is like signing a contract without reading it!

    So as long as you feel confident enough in your relationship to take it to the next level, move right along and live
    happily ever after!

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