“3DATES2SEX”

The Proven Step-By-Step Method To Get A Woman To Bed… In 3 Dates Or Less

By Craig Geddes
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DATE #1: THE BAIT

G
reat… this is it. Your first date is at a bar. You look good and are dressed in modern
colors and styles that are sure to gather compliments all around you. Your confidence is
high and wired, and this shows in your movements and speech. If you need to pick her
up, you've got a clean car. She is already on your Facebook page and you have held a successful
conversation with her at least once, so she will be comfortable in your presence. You confirmed
your date yesterday and it's still on.

First and foremost, relax. If you are uptight or nervous, nothing will go right. I personally
schedule fifteen dates all at once. If you do the same, you won't give a shit anymore about what
she might think.

All you need to remember on a first date are these four things:

CRAIG’S FOUR FIRST DATE COMMANDMENTS

Commandment #1: Don’t fuck on the first date. I don’t care what everyone else says. You’ll
understand why as you go through this manual.

Commandment #2: Don’t kiss her on the date. (However, you should touch her loads, but I'll
talk about that more in a bit.)

Commandment #3: You should only spend under $20. This means you should only order a
drink for each of you. Forget the food.

Commandment #4: You shouldn't let the date last longer than 2 hours.

Let me explain each one. You will only buy one drink for each of you. So, what if she ends up
ordering another drink right after she drinks the first? This doesn't happen most of the time since
the majority of women out there don't want to drink more than you. However, if it happens, fine.
Leave her to order her drink.

But what if she orders some food while she's at it? This is another rare occurrence since women
don't like looking like pigs, but it happens once in a while. It's strange. Women do not really
respect men that spend a lot of money on their needs, but women won't sleep with men that seem
"cheap", either. It's a dance that is very careful. So, if she ends up ordering foods, just let her.
And if she asks whether you want some, tell her that you already ate. If she chooses to order
anyway, let her.

I have come to find that, a lot of the time, if women are comfortable to order some food in my
presence, that is a good thing because the chances of us having sex afterwards goes up, too. This
doesn't mean I want her to get food, but whenever it happens during a first date, I let it go and
leave things up to fate.

You will stop the date after 2 hours. Sometimes, I leave an alarm on my cell so that it beeps
after the 120 minutes are up. Why does this need to be done? Most women won't sleep with you
after a first date, right? That is why you need to keep that first date short.

A second reason would be basic time management. Hopefully, you will have a ton of first dates.
I have had some weeks wherein I had up to eight first dates! So if any of those dates last longer
than around 2 hours, you won't have a workable schedule. The only thing needed on the first date
is an establishment of attraction and comfort. After that, you can get away and meet up with
somebody else. 120 minutes - that is all that you need. Another reason why there is a time limit
is that there are chances of you not liking each other - or at least not enough to sleep with one
another. In such cases, you will have wasted a good 120 minutes. Have you ever been on an
extravagant, long and big first date - just to have a blow-off afterwards? Do you remember how
angry you were about that after everything? Well, with a rule of 120 minutes, that problem will
be practically non-existent..

You won't have sex. We have talked about this already. So stop thinking and worrying about
fucking her.
The last thing is the kiss. Provided you give her a ton of kino (touching), kissing her on a
120-minute-long date actually lowers the chances of you sleeping with her later. Within the
past several years, I have been on 252 first dates (yes, I could every one of them) and I assure
you that this is completely true.

There are a lot of reasons behind this. First of all, women get buyer's remorse a lot after they go
home. They think "Oh gosh! I kissed this guy I hardly even know!" And then they will see
themselves as a slut and stop answering your calls. Secondly, if you use tons of kino without
kissing, you will build up some sexual tension, which is what truly turns on the ladies. Kissing
will kill that tension to some extent.

What you want to do is make her levels of tension rise high in preparation for your next
date. Naturally, there are some exceptions to this. For instance, the sexual tension might be so
high that a kiss would be perfect; this is quite unusual, though. Also, do not kiss her good night
after a date. This is loser behavior of the 50s and will either simply activate her buttons to make
you wait for sex or completely turn her off.

THINGS TO DO

Get there 5 minutes after her. This mental dynamic is interesting, though it isn't very logical
overall: if you get there after a girl, she'll respect you much more compared to if she gets there
and you're waiting already. There are various types of psychological reasons at play here, but
they aren't really relevant.

You might think it's rude to show up late, so what you need to do is this: set a date for 7.30pm
and get there between 7:35 and 8:10. If she isn't there yet, send a text message that says you'll be
a little late. Then, leave the place and go to a place that is a block away - window shop or
something. Once she gets there, she will send you a text message informing you that she has
arrived. That's when you should return and enter. Now, that is the worst thing that could happen.
The majority of women will tell you beforehand if they'll be a little late anyway, so use that as a
queue on when to get there whenever you can.

Establish the rule of 120-minutes upfront. If this hasn't been established yet, do it at the start.
Come up with an excuse, like, "Hey, I have to meet up with someone at 10:30. He needs help
moving in, but we still have a lot of time left." Then, after 120 minutes, walk her out and escape.
It is important to end first dates as fast as you can.

Lean back and relax. Your body language happens to be important. It has to show how relaxed
and confident you are and how much you don't care..you might even be a bit bored. When on a
first date, I tend to put my arms behind my head in a relaxed and leaned back manner, as if the
place is mine. You shouldn't lean forward as this will convey total interest in her and even
neediness (if you end up leaning forward, though, only do it for several minutes before leaning
back again). You shouldn't sit too straight, either; this will show stiffness and nervousness.

Make her laugh every few minutes. You have to make her laugh - tons! If a few minutes go by
on your date without her laughing, you are already in the danger zone. Be funny. Make her
laugh. If you aren't funny by nature, it would be smart to buy several books on humor so you can
study them. After all, women adore men that can really make them laugh.

Keep great eye contact. If you have mastered confidence already, you should have this down
pat, too. Make sure that you look straight into her eyes.

Do not glare and do not look around the whole room. Also, do not stare at her delightful
boobies. This will only strike against your favor, no matter how much it seems like she wants it.
Sometimes, when a woman shows off her cleavage, things can be hard, but stay in control and do
not look…and by the next date, her pink nipples will be in your hands (or lips).

Smile the confident and attractive smile of the alpha dog. Do not try to look cool. Instead, just
relax and have some fun.
Memorize three stories filled with fun and have them ready. Yes, she should still do the
talking most of the time, but whenever you talk, you should have a minimum of three great
stories ready that show you in a positive light.

Touch her in the non-sensual areas (“kino”). Do not kiss her, but touch her loads. In fact,
touch her as often as possible. It would be ideal if the two of you are laughing or smiling when
you choose to touch her, too. Begin with her arms and hands, then move to a non-sexual part of
her thighs. Then try to reach a point where you can touch her face or her hair. This will be much
easier if you are confident. Right now, I am personally at a stage where, on each first date, I can
touch a woman on her shoulders, hands, legs, arms, face, and hair or even her jewelry, such as
her necklace. What you have to do is reach a point where you can be totally comfortable doing
things like that.

Kino is highly powerful and can truly boost the sexual tension. In fact, you should use kino at the
start of each date - in around 15 minutes tops - and ramp the kino up all throughout the rest of it.
It shouldn't be something you throw her way right before the date ends. There may also be some
times where this touching level is impractical - maybe there is a table in-between you. Well, this
means you have to simply sit next to her instead of across from her whenever you can.

WARNING: STOP TOUCHING HER WHEN SHE TELLS YOU NOT TO. NO
EXCEPTIONS TO THIS RULE.

Get her to talk about sex. The majority of men do not know that the majority of women out
there get mentally turned on just by talking about sex, which is why you need to get her to talk
about it on the first date. The heights that you can reach with this topic will depend on the
woman you are seeing, but you definitely need to get that ball rolling. Here is how you can get
her to talk about sex in six simple steps:

CRAIG’S SIX STEP SEX TALK INCITOR METHOD

Step #1: Create rapport, talk a little bit, and make her comfortable in your presence. Don't
mention sex from the very start.

Step #2: Pop this question: "Are you dating a little or a lot right now?" This will usually get
her rolling right away. Then, keep asking questions based on the answers that she gives.

Step #3: Let go. A lot of the time, she will begin talking about her previous relationships. Allow
her to talk about them briefly (she shouldn't be left in a terrible state, wherein she bitches about
an ex). It's alright if she only talks about men that she has dated in passing or other distant
relationships that no longer leave her in a twist, though.

Step #4: Segue the subject from those exes to the relations between men and women, in
general.

Step #5: Segue that subject onto sex.

Step #6: Get as emotional, detailed and sexually explicit as possible. See how far you can go
by following her lead. As mentioned earlier, women love sex as a topic and can get quite explicit
themselves when it comes down to it. Although others might be more shy on the subject - and
that's alright - follow their lead after this point. Try not to freak a girl out, especially if she is shy
talking about it. Yes, this entire process is like an art and a science combined.

However, if you have never done this before, it would be smart to try this over the phone or over
the Internet first before using it in an actual real life situation. Remember: you need to feel
comfortable doing this. After all, it would be important for you to show yourself in a sexual (and
not a horny) light. So, be comfortable with the subject before anything else.

If she is very beautiful, try to insult her mildly. This means that you have to give her a light,
fun and silly insult or a compliment that is back-handed, such as "You're got crusty eyes" or
"Your hair is decent, I suppose" or "Hi, I love women with huge butts and I cannot lie!"
Something like that.

Different pickup and dating books would “insulting” women a lot while trying to pick them up.
That’s absolute bullcrap. When on dates, this would only be required if the woman you are with
is very, very beautiful or if she believes she is very, very beautiful (I'm sure you know what I
mean by that). If you don't compliment her looks, and throw several light “negative” comments
every now and then instead, she will see that her beauty doesn't wow you or affect you in any
way. This will confuse her like crazy because all the other guys constantly drool at her feet, thus
attracting her to you. But if she' isn't arrogant about what she looks like and isn't ultra-
gorgeous, there's no need for this at all (but still avoid complimenting her looks - that is an
absolute must).

Subtly say that you date loads. Yes, without telling her straight, you need to show her through
your answers that you date loads and have dated loads and that you have tons of options women-
wise. Talk about how much you go downtown and how busy your weekends are. If she asks you
whether you've been dating loads, say yes and smile, but leave out any details. If her question is,
"How have the dates been going?", say "Great. It's been loads of fun!", but avoid being specific.
That's it.

This underlying sub-communication and implication is even more important if your goal is
multiple women at the same time and build a harem. However, you should do this anyway - even
just a little bit - if you want a girlfriend in the long run. Women happen to love men that other
women love, as well.

Only drink one drink. For one, you want to save money. For two, you have to stay in-game and
booze will simply ruin things faster. Lastly, you have to show that you will only have one, so she
will hopefully only have one, too. I hardly drink. In fact, I haven't been drunk before. Ever. I've
had a slight buzz a couple of times, sure, but I usually just order virgin drinks or half glasses of
wine, which I hold for the whole 120 minutes.

Pay for the bill the right away. While I was developing 3D2X system, I happened to be on a
date with someone and we were totally hitting things off. It was extremely clear by her voice
inflections, body language and her words that she liked me. I also liked her, so it felt great. When
the bill got to us, she pulled her purse out, took her wallet out and opened it. "Cool, she'd like to
pay," I thought. "How awesome is she?" So we ended up splitting the bill. Afterwards, though,
she sent me an angry text message about how terrible I was for expecting her to pay half of the
bill on our first date and that she found that to be a deal breaker.
Keep in mind that she pulled out that purse and wallet without me prompting it. Geez. My rule is
"strictly no woman drama", so I never got in touch with her again. Soon after that, I found
myself on a first date with somebody else and the same thing happened again. She got her wallet
ready to pay without me prompting her to. Keeping in mind what had happened before, I insisted
on footing the bill. This girl then screamed at me at the bar, telling me that I was terrible for
demeaning her personal income. "What? You're saying I can't afford my own fucking drink?!?"

That’s when I concluded that women are officially insane. Seriously. In today's day and age,
where women are extremely confusing, here is what you need to do, so you can stay away from
the ridiculousness: once the bill gets there, take your wallet out and pay for it. Ignore her pulling
out her own wallet and purse and just pay for it. If she tries to stop you, or claims that she should
pay, hold out your wallet in the open and in a nice voice, say, "It's fine if you want to pay, but I'd
be glad to do so myself." This will instantly give her the idea to just let you pay. If not, she will
bring out her own credit card or cash to pay for her half. If she ends up giving you an ambivalent
expression or statement, though, take the bill and just pay for it without further ado.

I have personally put this particular tactic to use myself a lot of times and have never fallen into
argument with anyone because of it. It really works. Still, around of a quarter of my dates haven't
cost me a single cent, and you need to have a goal where a lot of first dates do not cost anything,
either.

Speak in a clear and slow manner, and speak deeply.

Move in a controlled, slow and confident manner. Do not use any nervous energy or frantic
movements, either.

Be a man of chivalry. Hold doors open. While walking, walk on the side closest to the streets.
Don't go on overdrive and pull seats out or anything, though. A bit of chivalry will show that you
are strong, masculine and classy. A lot of chivalry will only show how needy you are and will
kill the attraction (or at least put you in the "waiting for sex" zone). Do enough to show how
aware you are, but that's it. Keep in mind that women do not live in the 1940's mindset anymore,
so you shouldn't, either, buddy.
If you happen to have children, talk about how much you love spending time with them. I
have children, and this tactic happens to be a secret weapon of mine that brings about great
results.

See, women are biologically wired to search for men that will make great fathers. So, if you
already have children and can show how important they are to you and how much time you
spend with them, you will get major brownie points - even with women without kids. Several
men think that women will see children as excess baggage, but the truth is the complete opposite
- trust me.

Make neutral or positive observations about her. Not compliments - just observations. Stop,
pause for a bit, look into her eyes, tilt your head sideways and say something like, "You look like
the type of woman who…" then make some sort of neutral or positive observation. (Keep in
mind not to mention her looks here.)

Women happen to love men that are intuitive and they also love to hear things about themselves.
So, what if you make the wrong observation? Well, she will probably take it anyway, no matter
how she ends up spinning it. If she says you are wrong, just keep on trying.

Anticipate and get ready for things, like her asking, "Would you want to have kids
someday?" or "Do you think marriage is in the cards for you?" These test questions need to
be answered correctly, otherwise you are out. There are only two options here: to answer with
what she wants to hear without lying, or to dodge them and change the topic (the third option is
to lie and say what you know she wants you to say, but as mentioned repeatedly, lying to women
is never a good thing). You really have to know yourself and your future desires, and you need to
know what to answer to these test questions beforehand, so you can be ready when they get sent
your way. They are sure to come.

Generally speaking, every single woman out there hopes for marriage, even those that have
already had a terrible divorce before. Why, even an older woman who doesn't want a legal
marriage will still want to find somebody to live with for the rest of her life. So, in general, every
childless woman will want a child someday. The majority of women under 35 with only one
child will want more, as well. So now you know what answers she will want to hear. Take heed.

At the end of a date, give her a hug instead of a kiss. As mentioned before, do not give kisses
during a first date (unless kissing has been on the menu for a while now). Also, do not end your
dates with a wave or a handshake.

Don't have any awkward end-of-date moments. Walk her over to the car if this is appropriate
(it usually isn't, though) and give her a confident and big hug. Then say goodbye and have fun,
turn, and walk away slowly.

PITFALLS TO AVOID

Stop talking too much. The woman needs to talk for 90% of your date. This is how she will get
comfortable around you, so let her do it as much as possible. Anyway, if you talk more, there are
higher chances of you letting something slip that will put you out of the running. If she talks
more, your chances of having sex later will go up. It shocks me how a woman hardly knows
anything about me by the time we have sex since she talks a lot and I hardly do, but hey, it
works!

Don’t fucking brag. It is good to talk about your latest trip to Santorini, but it is bad to say that
you are a rich jetsetter. Can you tell the difference? Indirectness and a slight air of arrogance are
attractors, bragging is a no-no, no matter how impressed you think she will be at the end of it.

Do not compliment her looks, regardless of whether she asks or not. Ready for the fast and
hard rule? Do not compliment her looks until you have had sex three times. (After three times of
sex, she will be locked onto you and you can then start to relax a little.)
Aside from that, letting her know how great she looks will equal to death. This will kill the
attraction. The better-looking she is, the more truth there is to that rule. A lot of guys mistakenly
do this and they deserve to be kicked. Yes, even if a girl asks "So, what do you think about my
look?", just answer her with an "Ask me again later." Never compliment her looks - no matter
what - on your first date. If you truly want to dish out a compliment, keep reading to find out
how to make observations instead.

Try not to say anything unless it's a question. This goes hand-in-hand with her talking. If you
do talk, only ask something or get her to talk some more. Casually show how unique you are and
how much you have to offer her. However, this has to be done fast, too. Then go back to her and
let her talk some more.

Do not lie. If you lie to bed a woman, you are a pussy. Anyway, lies will only spark up drama
after she learns they were lies (she will eventually).

Stay away from "job interview" questions - both ways. Lots of men get sucked into this dumb
thing on first dates. "Job interview" questions refer to things like "What's your job?", "What are
your hobbies?", "How many siblings do you have?", etc. These questions will bore her and kill
the attraction.

Don't ask questions like that and if she does, move the conversation away to more exciting
subjects (romance, travel, sex, fashion, her dreams and hopes, etc.) If you need to ask some,
make sure they are spread evenly throughout the whole conversation as opposed to rapid-firing
them.

Do not talk about old relationships, no matter how much she asks. There is only one huge
complaint that women make about men on their first dates: "He talked about his ex the entire
time." Never talk about an ex on the first date - be it an ex-girlfriend or an ex-wife. Even if a
direct question is asked about it, just give out a neutral and fast answer, change the subject
somewhat, and redirect things back to her. Naturally, it is acceptable - and even ideal - to have a
girl talk about her exes, but I'll get to that later. Remember: not you, though.
Do not think about the end of the date. Keep in mind that you shouldn't care whether you will
ever see a woman again. Once this is set into your system, you will look incredibly attractive to
her.

Do not just focus on her, but focus on your surroundings, too. Sometimes, while she is
talking, you should look behind her or at the bar or out a window in a casual manner. Stay
relaxed and casual instead of cool and excited. If she is very desirable and beautiful, you could
even try looking a bit bored.

Do not mention moving in with her or getting married or talk about moving closer to her
or your kids getting along well. I have already told you what women complain about the most
when it comes to first dates (complaining about exes all the time). Well, the second largest
complaint is that a lot of men talk about serious things too much. A lot of men - the older ones,
especially - will talk about moving in, marriage and other stupid things during the first date. If a
girl likes you, this will instantly kill the deal.

On the other hand, if you have internalized confidence, you shouldn't think like this, no matter
how amazing the woman might be. Keep the serious talk to yourself until you have slept with her
at least twice! (And even then, this should only be the case if your goal is to have a girlfriend…
or a wife)

Do not share your opinions on religion, politics, divorce, prenuptial agreements or

marriage. These five subjects are completely forbidden until you have sleep with her three
times. When it comes to dating women, these subjects are no-win ones. If you are exceedingly
careful, you could discuss some experiences with these things to a certain degrees, but don't
mention your opinions.

If you follow the rule on letting her talk most of the time, this won't be a big deal. But if you
happen to be more opinionated by nature (like me), you will have to keep that mouth shut for
now. So, what if she suddenly brings these subjects up and actually asks for your opinion? Well,
then, agree with what she says or at least with some aspects of her opinions without lying, then
shift the subject and redirect things toward her again.
Don't check other women out. It is okay to look around, but gawking at women for more than a
glance will probably lose you several points. If, as you talk to the woman you are with, a
gorgeous blonde walks by with big tits, use some self-control. Your date may take a look and
make a comment about her, but you can't. You might say, "Hey, it's what I do because I'm manly
and like attractive women!" But listen: after you sleep with a woman three times, you are
allowed to become your horny and manly self again because she will stop caring by then. Keep
in mind that we are only talking about date number one here, still.

TROUBLESHOOTING THE FIRST DATE

Now, what if she isn't a drinker or doesn't like bars or isn't of legal age yet? Then it's time to
go to a fancy coffee shop (a restaurant is also an option, but this should generally be avoided).
All the same rules from above apply. Buy one drink each. But what if there is no choice left and
a restaurant is the only option available? This should always be avoided, but I also understand
that life sometimes sends these things your way.

So if this does happen, do not meet up outside of dinner hours. Any time after 8pm is alright.
Tell her beforehand that you are only going for dessert. This will show her that it isn't a
conventional dinner date. (I have dated a hot singer that had appeared on TV a couple of times
before. She was under 21 and couldn't drink yet. So, our first date started at a cheap all-day
restaurant slightly before midnight, and we shared a vanilla milkshake - that's it. We dated for a
couple of oaths after that.)

What if she shows up extremely late for the date? My rule is: 20 minutes. If she' takes longer
than that to show up, I leave after telling her to just forget it. My rudeness and my decision on
whether to see her again after that or not will always depend on all of the circumstances. Having
to wait half an hour is bad, but waiting for more than that just shows how needy you are.
What happens if she suddenly flakes? Well, that's depends. There is a difference between
flaking and rescheduling, by the way. Here’s Derek Rake’s take on this somewhat thorny
subject:

Derek says: “Sometimes, women will get in touch a day before the date and will say something
came up - maybe she forgot something - and then she will try and reschedule things. That's
normal. The majority of women out there is flakey and, they have difficulties keeping their
personal scheduled commitments. It's just what women do, so don't take things personally.”

“So, this is what you should do,” recommends Derek. “Say it isn't a problem and simply
reschedule your date. If she tries to reschedule again, move on. If you have been doing
everything I have taught here, this shouldn't happen, though. I see flaking as a complete deal
breaker anyway. Unless a real medical emergency has happened, I find flaking to be extremely
offensive and rude.”

Derek adds, “In my entire experience in the dating world, a woman has only ever flaked on me
once…she worked with the police and was in an extreme car accident that day. She had to stay
in the hospital for more than a week. That's a decent excuse. And that's what I mean. If a woman
flakes on you a lot, you're doing something terribly wrong. You aren't confirming by then; you
are showing neediness and you didn't establish any comfort before the date or something like
that - that's for sure.” Take heed.
DATE #2: THE ESCALATOR

T
he second date should take place either at a fancy bar (not the same as the first one)
or at your place. This date has to be a repeat of your first date, but with two main
differences that I will get to in a bit.

Remember: you have to use the same tactics, rules and attitudes that you have learned and used
on the first date. Do not compliment her looks or worry about results, and touch her loads, lean
back, be confident, only order a single drink each, and so on. Everything's the same. The two
differences are as follows.

HOW DATE #2 IS DIFFERENT FROM DATE #1

First of all, the 120 minute rule doesn't exist anymore. This date can last for as long as it has to.
It can last for 120 minutes or up to 5 hours - whatever. It is up to you. However, keep in mind
that you have to invest as little time as possible to get laid.

The second important difference is that you have to get sexual on this second date. Forget the
no-kissing rule. You should definitely kiss her on this date and this should ideally lead to sex. In
general, this is how you can move things up sexually (kissing included):

CRAIG’S 9-STEP SEXUAL ESCALATOR METHOD

Step #1. Get her to talk about attraction to men or sex.

Step #2. Give her some heavy kino - from the hands to the arms, from the shoulders to the back.

Step #3. Keep the kino going until you can touch her hair. If things feel right, go for her face
next.
Step #4. If your touches do not make her flinch, she is ready for the kiss. Just pull her over
slowly and give her a kiss. Don't verbalize this kiss - ever. That would be a huge mistake!
Don't ask for a kiss or whether she kisses well or anything…if this is the second date and she
doesn't flinch when you touch her face or hair, she is ready for it. Shut up and just kiss her
already.

Step #5. During the first kiss, make it last for several seconds and then pull away before she
does. This is of the utmost essence and it can be hard to remember this if the kiss is ultra
passionate, but you have to do it. This is the push/pull process and is extremely powerful because
it creates all the more attraction and sexual tension within her.

Step #6. Talk for a bit more (do not mention the kiss, though it is alright if she talks about it),
then kiss her a second time.

Step #7. Give this kiss all you've got. Totally make out.

Step #8. If you are somewhere private, you can touch her back, her butt, her tits, and her thighs.
Get things going in a sexual manner.

Step #9. If the place is really private, go for sex.

The objective of this second date would be to get as sexually as possible, even if sex is in the
cards. Sex is probably a highly likely result of the second date anyway, especially if the
following cases are true:

THE SIX QUALIFIERS

Qualifier #1. It is obvious that she likes you a lot.

Qualifier #2. She is younger than 35 years old.

Qualifier #3. She texted you first after the first date.

Qualifier #4. She didn't mind meeting up at your house for your second date as opposed to
somewhere public.

Qualifier #5. It is clear that she is sexually comfortable because she has no trouble talking about
sex in an explicit manner and lets you touch her without protesting.
Qualifier #6. You're confident and independent of the outcome when it comes to her and the
sexual moves you put on her.

Now, if she does not want to have sex, or stops before it happens and it is clear that nothing is
going to happen because you've tried a lot of times, drop the subject and forget about it for the
night.

Just keep on talking (it would be better if you politely end the date the minute you can, though).
As mentioned earlier, a lot of women aren't ready for sex until date number three, regardless of
how great you are or that they like you a lot. So this is alright for now.

DO YOU WANT TO ISOLATE HER TO ESCALATE THINGS SEXUALLY?

If you have made it home with her, there is no need to worry about isolation. However, if
you are both still at a bar, you obviously cannot sleep with her there. Now, you could touch her
boobs at the bar if she is incredibly drunk or even have sex in the bathroom, but that simply isn't
my style or what the 3D2X system is about at all.

What you have to do is get her to your place or her place so you can go past sexual
touching. It would be best to go to your place, though. Most of my first lays were at my place
instead of hers, so you need to assume the same.

So, how can you get her from the bar to your place? Again, you have to get around the defense
mechanism of her being a slut. Even if she would like to sleep with you, if your words are
"Come over so we can fuck!" or "Hey, let's go over to my place *with a wink*", her "I am not a
slut" defense mechanism will act up and she will either refuse your offer or get angry with you.

What you have to do instead is give her reasons to go to your house that are completely
non-sexually related. Maybe something like "I have to check my email at home. Want to join
me? We could watch something on TV." "Hey, after this drink, you should check out my new
aquarium." "I'm going home to catch a movie after this. I rented Back To The Future II. You can
come if you'd like." "You should come over and see this Slipknot mask I got! It's crazy wild!"
Things like that. If she would like to sleep with you, she will agree. And she isn't dense, either;
she will know you want her to come over to have sex. She simply doesn't want to hear those
words from you. Yes, it's weird, but that's how women work.

The bottom line is: during Date #2, you need to escalate things sexually on your second date
without bugging her too much. It doesn't really matter if you get far or not. If you only make
out, that's okay. If you get to suck her pink titties or get blown, that's great, too. If you do end up
having sex, splendid! Just get as far as possible.

The point here is, if you don't have sex, she will know that you are sexual and by your third
date, sex will come a'knockin'. This is important. You will have trouble getting her to sleep
with you on your third date if you didn't get sexual during the second one. Also, the more sexual
you are on date number two, the higher the chances of you getting lucky by date number three.
DATE #3: THE BOOTY

I
f you slept with her on date number two - which I hope you did - my work is done.
Congratulations. Keep seeing other women and getting those phone numbers. If you didn't,
though, that's alright. Let's move on. Tonight is it (there are exceptions here, too, but I'll get
to that later).

As with scheduling date number two, you have to schedule date number three to happen fast.
This isn't going to happen at a bar. It will be a movie night at homes, or something equally fun.
Movie night is best, though. Just invite her over to watch a movie and chill. Tell her which
movies you can rent or watch together. You should know enough about her by now to know
which movies she'd prefer to see. If you don't know, then opt for a romantic comedy or a
comedy; horror movies will work, too.

Good choices: The American President, French Kiss, A Fish Called Wanda, Hostel, Hostel Part
II, any kind of slasher porn, you get the idea.

Bad choices: Wall Street, Wall Street 2, Boiler Room, Layer Cake, Brokeback Mountain (yes,
wtf)

As with date number two, don't imply anything sexual as you talk about date number three.
Make it seem like it will be a low-key, chilled and relaxing evening - that's it. If she's a drinker
(most women are), tell her you'll have some drinks there, too. If you have done everything
properly so far, and things were a bit sexual on date number two, she will agree to this without
hesitation.

Date number three equals to sex when it comes to women. If she balks about meeting at your
place for the date, that would be a warning flag that something is wrong. If she doesn't want to
go, you have to make a judgment call about seeing her again. Know that if you choose to keep
seeing her, your chances of sleeping with her are low, but if you want to keep trying, I have no
objections, either.
If the third date does happen, where should you schedule it? Well, meet her at a bar, copy your
second date with the sexual stuff and the touching, and try to isolate her to your house, just as
before. Sometimes, women have to meet up at a bar for date number three, then end up at yours
for sex easily; it isn't normal, but it could happen.

GET YOUR LOVE PAD READY FOR THE BOOTY

You have to assume that you will have sex tonight (because you probably will if you did
everything right). This is why your house has to be completely ready for it. Here's what you
should do:

Plan your seating arrangements beforehand. If you are going to watch a movie in the
bedroom, make sure no place exists to sit but the bed. If things are meant to escalate in your
living room and there's a big chair next to the couch, get rid of that chair or pile a ton of stuff on
it, so she will be forced to share the couch with you. That's how you should think.

Your bathrooms have to be spotless. Going there is very intimate for women, after all, which is
why the sink, toilet, shower and floor have to be clean. Get rid of any clutter on the counters and
shove things into boxes in closets, if needed. Make sure you check the toilet paper rolls, too. If
you don't have many left, stock up on full ones.

The kitchen has to be clean, in general. Although it doesn't have to be bathroom-spotless, any
moldy food needs to be dealt with.

Aside from the kitchen and bathroom, the house has to be organized and clean, in general - but
not too much. Women are biologically wired to fix men, so organized and immaculate houses
will turn them off because nothing needs to be fixed anymore. Conversely, if your house is gross
(most of all the bathrooms), they will get turned off, too.

The goal here is to have a home that is clean with several controlled messes everywhere. If you
generally have a neat and clean home, yet have some board games in one corner and disheveled
books somewhere and some DVDs lying around and some dishes in the sink, she will feel better
about you. Women have this expectation of men: that they are dirty and crude to an extent. So, if
controllable messes can be found inside your house or even just stupid furniture, they'll think "I
can fix this guy". And that is what you should want their thoughts to say.

For those reasons, you shouldn't make an effort to decorate your home to impress your
date or try to make it more girl-friendly by providing some unnecessary ambiance. Several
men mistakenly do this. Again, if your house is decorated to her discontent, she will think about
how to make it better, and that would be perfect! So, provided you generally have a clean house
with a very clean bathroom, decorations can be forgotten.

It is important for your personal lubricants and condoms to be located in various places
around the house for better access. Nothing will kill the sexual escalation more than you
running around searching for lube or condoms while she waits around. Also, always assume that
lube will be needed. Although several women don't need it, a lot of women do.

Plan where the magic will happen beforehand. This can be hard, but do it anyway. I love
doing it on a thick blanket right on the floor, so I get some blankets ready behind the couch, to
bring them out with ease when needed. If your bed is your location of choice, that's alright, too.

The majority of women are accustomed to hearing noises all the time. In fact, they get quite
uncomfortable without any music playing in the apartment or house. That is why I turn on my
stereo with a low volume. That truly makes a difference in easing a woman down.

THE FINAL MILE

After getting her home with you, this is what you should do to escalate things to sex.

Step #1. The minute you get there, give her the grand tour. Show her every room, along with
your bedroom. Make sure she is comfortable in your personal domain.

Step #2. Get her comfortable and relaxed. This usually just entails talking and sitting. If she
drinks, make her a drink in the kitchen. You could also watch a movie. Unless she is already
horny, don't get sexual or kiss her just yet. Make sure she has a good 20 minutes for relaxation
first.

Step #3. Begin with the light, “safe” touching and follow what happened on your second
date. Kino her confidently and casually as you talk until you can touch her face or her hair. Then
give her a kiss.

Make sure you're the leader and that you lead her. While getting sexual, never ask questions. Tell
her what to do. Order her around. Don't check whether it's alright with her. Just do it. Stop if she
says no. Otherwise, you have to be the boss. I can't even count the amount of times in which
women have told me how they loved my aggressiveness after sex or how they loved that I told
them what to do or how they just loved how I grabbed them. Real men lead - end of story.

Step #4. Make out. If you're not sitting on your place of magic yet, stand her up and kiss her as
you walk to where you would like to bed her. While making out, begin to touch different parts of
her body.

Step #5. Confidently but slowly lift her shirt up and kiss her stomach. Don't ask for
permission here. Just do it. Naturally, you have to stop if she complains (I'll tell you what to do if
that case ever comes up later.) Don’t force yourself on her, ever.

Step #6. Keep kissing her up the stomach, then take off her bra and suck on her boobs.

Step #7. Begin to touch her butt under her clothes and panties, move a finger under her
butt and begin to rub her. She may make noises or comment while you do this, but unless she
says "stop" very clearly, you can go about doing what you want to do.

Step #8. After you reach this stage, everything else is easy. Take off both of your pants and do
it. Make sure a condom is used. STDs are horrible and pregnancy would be even worse.

WHAT IF SHE TELLS YOU TO STOP…

But what if she tells you to stop? This is what you should never do:

Don’t keep going. Do not keep going after she says "stop" or "no". The laws here favor women
100%. "No" means stop. Having said that, if she only says "I'm not too sure about this" or "We
really shouldn't do this", you can keep going. Women usually say those things before they get
with a man; it's part of the "I am not a slut" thing. So, to make things clear: saying "I'm not sure
if we should do this" still means go, while "stop" and "no" really means stop.

Don’t fucking beg. "Come on. It will be alright!"

Don’t get angry. "Fuck! What's the matter? What's the problem?"

Don’t negotiate. "Look, I'm just going to suck on your boobs - that's it, alright?"

These things are what the majority of men out there do and the effectiveness of these things are
limited. Instead, you should use the freeze-out tactic. This means that you have to totally
disengage if she tells you to stop, move away and ignore her for some time.

How long the ignoring goes on for and how much the disengaging is will depend on the amount
of times that she stops you. After the first time, disengage a little bit and ignore her briefly. By
the third time, you have to boost things. For example, if you are taking off her clothes and her
bra is off already, you can try to take off her pants and she might stop you. Freeze-out: don't say
anything, roll off completely, lie on your hands, look at the ceiling and hum something. If she
starts to touch you again or says anything, you can escalate things further again.

If she makes you stop again, freeze-out: say "I'm thirsty. I'm getting a drink." and go to the
kitchen for some water. Relax for a bit and go back (or wait until she comes to find you). Get
things heavy and hot again. If she makes you stop yet again, say, "Alright, I'm going to check my
email and play some video games." Get it? What will overcome her reluctance has nothing to do
with you negotiating, bitching or talking, but you acting unaffected and ignoring her. Women
want your attention as much as you want them naked. So if you grab that attention, they will
become compliant - fast.

The good news here is that if you have done everything I have mentioned here, freeze-outs won't
even be necessary. If you have followed the entire process, she will sleep with you. I am
independent on the outcome and confident and follow the process to a tee and I haven't had to
use too many freeze-outs before. The whole process is here, so there is no need to fight women
and get them to sleep with you. It will just happen.
BONUS CHAPTER:
TROUBLESHOOTING

S
o, I have covered the whole process in complete details - how to act, what to think,
what to do, what not to do, etc. Naturally, not all women will fall for this outline, so let's
talk about what happens if a woman doesn't comply.

What if she won't go out with you to begin with? If you have asked her out a couple of times
to no avail, move on. Where is your dignity? Find some other women to go out with. Get those
numbers up. Sign up to get Derek Rake’s stuff, devour them like a madman and you’ll get the
best education in seduction available anywhere else, bar none.

What if she forces you into a movie and dinner date? There are three possibilities here. You're
weak, she's a gold digger or she's old (above 35 years old). Whenever I ask for a date in a bar and
she asks for a movie and dinner, I confidently (yet sweetly) say that I'm the man and so she has
to do things my way. If she complains, I move on. There are a lot of low maintenance women in
today's day and age - believe me.

What if the woman flakes? I have talked about this already, but I'll say it again. If you have
done everything here, women will not flake. But, if they do flake without texting or calling,
unless the reason was a medical emergency or a real catastrophe, forget her. That is unacceptable
and rude behavior and her reason shouldn't matter (unless she's hospitalized, someone died or
something). Move on.

What if the dates are constantly being rescheduled? This doesn't happen very often, so you
should judge this for yourself. In general, my rule is two strikes and that's it. If she reschedules
twice, I forget her unless she's incredibly great, then I may give her another chance. You
basically need to stop working a woman with no schedule control.
What if she refuses a second date? She isn't into you. If women refusea to see you again after
the first date or says she'd rather just be friends, she isn't into you and never will be. That's good.
That means you only wasted around $15 and 90 minutes of your life. There is no need for you to
waste more on her, so move on. Even if I get to schedule ten dates, half of them never want a
second date. But this is alright because half of the women are still in my reach.

Why won't she kiss you on date number one? If you follow the system, you shouldn't care
about this, unless you already know each other very well.

Why won't she kiss you on date number two? This would be a warning flag, but not a definite
show stopper. It would be hard to find out why she refuses to kiss you since a lot of reasons
could exist for it. Maybe she simply isn't ready. Maybe she doesn't like being seen in public
kissing a guy. Maybe you seem needy. Maybe the touching was done wrong. Maybe she simply
isn't interested. If she acts like she likes you but just won't kiss you, give her time, do more light
touching and escalate to kisses, if not more. If it doesn't happen on the second date, schedule
another and sexually escalate things hard.

What if things are sexual, yet she refuses to have sex on your third date anyway? Well,
unless she has her period, that would be a warning sign and probably a total deal breaker. Get
sexual as much as you can. Go as far as you can with freeze-outs. If things do get sexual and you
get your clothes off but don't have sex, but she really seems to like you, try and schedule another
date. Just keep in mind that the fourth date is her last chance and it should take place at one of
your homes or at least at a fancy bar nearby. You should talk, have fun, and sexually escalate
things as much as possible again.

What if she doesn't put out on your fourth date? That is it. It's done. Move on. My date rule is
fast and hard: sex by the second, third or fourth date; otherwise, I will look for somebody else.
The end. I already explained this earlier. Fortunately, once you start succeeding with this, you
will never have to wait for date four before having sex again. You'll get to screen women out that
don't want to sleep with you early on and shell out some tough love. If you find a woman who
won't sleep with you even after four dates, you're either doing something very wrong or she was
simply never interested in you to begin with.
Think about what you have been through so far and check it against my process. I guarantee that
some things have gone wrong before. Now, make mental notes, dust off yourself, and move on.
Do not do the same mistakes again next time.

Good luck!

PS: The 3D2X system is inspired by Derek Rake’s very own SeductionOnSteroids roadmap –

http://www.seductiononsteroids.com

It is similar to 3D2X, except that it encompasses. It got me started back in the day, and I
recommend it to anyone who wants to “up” their game to the next level.