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Tuesday, June 2, 2015

How To Pull Together A Minecraft Party In Less Than A Week


  1. Procrastinate.
  2. Surf the internet for Other People's Party Ideas. Become discouraged when 95% of Other Minecraft Parties seem to be 60% fusible bead playdates among toddlers, 96% cube-shaped foods, 97% printed cutout decorations and only 3% actual activities.
  3. Hit Oriental Trading Company's webpage with wild hopes. Become discouraged when the closest suggestions for Minecraft anythings are Shiny Gold Coins and Inflatable Spiders.
  4. Surreptitiously (i.e. while the children are in school) visit Party City and brazenly ask staff where the Minecraft Section is. Become discouraged when staff sheepishly reply, "There isn't one. We've been trying to bring in Minecraft things for the last year." Resist the urge to scathingly respond, "Well, try harder!" reminding self that it is no one's fault but one's own if one has allowed one's offspring to cultivate hobbies that don't have ready-to-party themes in stores.
  5. In throes of despair, begin swotting. Like as if it's an exam (which it is).
  6. Assemble your Dream Team: hot glue gun, craft knife, kitchen scissors, T-square, sticker-maker, piping bags. Give them pep talk. Say, "Guys, we need a miracle. Make it happen." Remind self that their ominous silence has more to do with being inanimate (but awesome) objects than poor team spirit.
  7. Recruit your Other Dream Team, the ones with actual vocal cords: the children. Give them pep talk. Say, "Pray for good weather. Offer sacrifices to gain favor with the party guests so they will RSVP on time. Pay tribute to your father (who owns the yard) and other important relatives (who will drive out to pick up last-minute balloons and the pizza) to secure their assistance on the actual day of tribulation  jubilee. Also give me a list of potion ingredients that won't kill your friends, especially those with food allergies."
  8. Ban "Don't Go Mining At Night" on iTunes, even though the children claim it is good for team morale, because it clogs your brain while working.
  9. Momentarily panic because your word processor does not have the Minecraft font. Slap sense back to self and pick Arial because who cares anyway what the instructions for the potions look like?
  10. Exorcise any thoughts of sewing from mind, including that manic one on mass-producing 14 stuffed Minecraft Squid (with teeth) as party favors.
  11. Corral all the take-out menus in the house and make all-week dinner arrangements.
  12. Find cardboard. 
And - suddenly - the stress melts away and the sun shines through the clouds and everything is merry and bright. Because, you know, it's cardboard, and cardboard can make miracles of anything. Once more, then, into the breach!



Saturday, November 22, 2014

While I Was Ignoring You


Dear Blog,

I apologize.
I didn't mean to ignore you over the last week-or-so.

I meant to put in a post or two on darts.
But I got distracted by actual sewing.

I meant to take photos.
But it snowed and acted all January and turned everything into a photographer's nightmare: not worth risking frostbite just for natural light and too dim to stay indoors while not dying.

I meant to gather our electronic kits and get on my soapbox about STEM and how I'm not completely on the Make Science Cool For Girls! bandwagon (I don't think it's necessary to mention girls at all).
But a wee one got sick and we stayed home and baked cupcakes.

I meant to make a new bag, five wool skirts, two sweater dresses, and one gunmetal pleather jacket with princess seams.
But I ended up helping a six-year-old cut out a bear face softie for a Secret Christmas Present.

I meant to create a fantastic Thanksgiving table centerpiece involving a fat yarn pompom and paper feathers with Sharpie feel-good-messages on them.
But I returned the yarn to Michaels when I realized it'd be a miracle if I got it made in time for Christmas, let alone next Thursday.

And - I swear - I wasn't even trying to procrastinate.

So, instead, let me share how I fed my soul this past fortnight:

This is what made me smile.

This is what made me proud.

This is what made me ache (one, because his voice slays me and two, because I know at least one friend who could claim this story as his).

This is what I've just finished reading that is beautiful.

This is what I'm still reading that is brilliantly bittersweet.

This is what I'm desperately coveting (and unaffording).

This is what I'm working on. Also that thing in the photo.

This is what gave me hope. After all, a person can only survive so long on two-thirds of a trilogy.

This is what I've just watched that utterly charmed me.

This is what made me laugh.

This -blast! - is what I'm battling. 


And I promise: I will get my act together and write some real stuff here soon.


Monday, October 6, 2014

Random Updates

People!

Okay, the snow is over.

And I'm done grouching about the weather. You are all so nice not to tell me off and all. Good heavens, if my own kid were crabby because the weather wasn't what she wanted, I'd have told her to Go Find Something Fun To Do Until The Sun Came Back Out or something equally motherly. Not that I think of you guys as my mother, I mean. Uh... this post is not off to a good start, is it?

Okaaaaaaay.

So random update time now.

First, I've been bursting to share this because it's about cardboard! Last week, I got to skype with upper-elementary gifted program students all the way over on the East Coast! They were participating in the Global Cardboard Challenge and wanted some tips on working with cardboard. Very exciting, not only because I got to present the 30-minute version of my epic cardboard post, but also that I was in a classroom. With real students. I miss being in classrooms. So what if it was virtual? There I sat at my sewing table in my own house, surrounded by cardboard odds and ends, communing with people thousands of miles away like it was the next room. Technology is wonderful.

Second, I've been working on a couple of commissioned projects i.e. Sewing For Other People. One is for a book and the other is for a magazine. Commissioned projects are fun. Not because you get money and fame, but because you get to work with someone else's abstract idea or concept and turn it into something real and physical. There's a little bit of you in it, and a little bit of them in it, and it's always exciting to see what that combination looks like in the end. However, being that these are also brand-new, never-seen-before projects, there is also a lot of tweaking and prototyping involved. So an assignment like, "Sew a giant squid in oilcloth and minky fleece for our 2016 compilation, "Sea Creatures From The Depths Of Hell, Vol 2" is never just about drawing squid-shaped templates on (in this case, very large) paper. There are all kinds of other things to consider, like, will the fabric I pick be easy for most people to buy? Is my construction sequence too complicated for the average seamstress? Do the instructions fit into the 3-page limit they allot me? Will a fifth (or sixth, or 347th) prototype correct the weird curve in the beak of the squid or should I just give up now and make do?

Third, Halloween costume making will be commencing soon. And my children are showing none of the solidarity of previous years' requests. Brisk walk down memory lane: last year they were all Narnians. The year before that, they were Superheroes. And before that, Musketeers. And Princesses.

This year, one wants to be Elsa, another wants to be Queen Susan in her archery war outfit, and another wants to be a scientist. Now, I don't need for them to be matchy-matchy in order to sew their outfits, obviously. And sure, the resulting group photo is going to be a bit eclectic-looking, but that's what people going trick-or-treating are supposed to look like. What struck me, however, was that my kids are no longer thinking with the herd mentality of their younger days. They are becoming their own persons now - some are planting their feet more solidly in reality while others still have the magic of Disney's glitter dust in their eyes. It feels like the day is not far off when they might no longer even want to dress up or pretend and that makes me a little sad. Because while they are getting ready to leave those wonder years behind them, their Mother is not sure that she is.

Fourth, I have a post on drafting that I am dying to write, but keep being distracted from writing. It's like that sleeves post that you all liked so much and kept pinning and linking and sharing with other people (thank you!). This one is all about darts. It's half done but I had to stop because I suddenly needed to peel back another layer and go a different direction. And also because I thought that I should sew a block and drape it for you to see how darts are created on it. So, if you've been wondering if I'd ever write another Subtleties of Drafting post, the answer is yes! Except that it's taking a while. There are all kinds of other sewing projects in the way, not to mention cooking meals and helping with homework and documenting birthday parties that happened (what feels like) millenia ago. Please don't hate me! To tide you over till I finally write it, here is a dart diagram:

Fifth, I suddenly had a crazy idea for a new tutorial series. Came out of nowhere, as my tutorial series(es) usually do. Had to get out my notebook and write it all down and then firmly put it away. It is obviously procrastination in disguise. Embarrassingly easy to recognize. How do I know? Because it always happens just when I need to sew Halloween costumes. Anyway, this one is about bags again. I am very excited! But I have disallowed myself from even thinking about it further until the children are all bedecked in their (hopefully warm) handmade Halloween splendor.

Sixth -and this is quite funny- an invitation came up for me to teach at our local swim school (for kids). To teach swimming. Not Physics or sewing or cardboarding. I was so taken aback when the nice swimming school manager broached this to me that  I snorted and guffawed and accused her of being crazy. So ashamed. But I honestly never saw it coming. 

Sadly, I had to politely decline. It wasn't that I wasn't sorely tempted. After I'd gotten over my astonishment (and apologized profusely for my ungracious ejaculations), I listened to the nice lady explain all the arrangements and got quite excited. It wouldn't be a classroom and it wouldn't be a Science lab, but there'd be kids and I would be teaching again, helping them get from what they didn't know to where they needed to go. There are fewer things more thrilling and satisfying than that. 

However, this is not the year when that could happen: saying yes to the swim school would mean saying no to being with my own kids when they came home from school. It was an easy decision; I realize I am still Mother first, all other things second, third, fourth and fifth. I didn't always feel as altruistic as this. Some years ago, when my kids were babies and toddlers and needing me in all-consuming ways, I yearned for an opportunity like this- to work outside the home again, to take on Other Defining Roles just so that I wouldn't feel typecast as Diaper Changer or Face Wiper. 

And now that I am at the "I Can If I Want" stage in my life, I'm choosing differently. Isn't motherhood a study in irony? We mothers are, after all, impossible to pigeonhole. We are anything and everything. And our identities expand and deepen even more with each new stage at which our kids are. 

Which made me think of all the moms of very little ones out there. The ones with a toddler (or three) permanently installed at your hip or meandering, stroller-impaired, through the supermarket aisles. Yoo hoo! This age that your kid is at? It's a great age. The next stage he's headed for? It's even better. But not because he's going to need you less; he won't. It's because you'll be more. 

And if you're reading this and thinking, "I would SO have taken that swimming position. Which means I must be a bad mother. Yikes." Don't. We're all differently driven and differently effective in our various roles. And maybe in a year or two, when my kids have left the nest, I'll be ready to spread my wings and leave, too. And then I'll dive into that pool and teach some other people's kids the way someone else taught mine when they were tiny.

The point, fellow moms, is that we will always want the things just out of our reach. They're annoyingly alluring that way, aren't they? Especially when we see other moms Doing Their Independent Thing in their high heels and without a single spot of mashed peas on their shirts. But the grass may be just as green on this side of that Kidco safety gate as it is on the other. And when you realize it, may you rejoice at how glad you are that it is.


Thursday, June 12, 2014

Writing

Here's something I didn't see coming.


A few weeks ago, I was tagged by Nicole aka The Literary-Chic to share my writing process.

"Excellent!" I thought. "Finally, something other than sewing, drafting and cardboarding to write about!"

So I went and did some research (translation = I read Nicole's Writing Process Meme post and a couple of those written by bloggers tagged in line before her).

And everyone seemed to be "in the process of writing fiction" or "working on a novel" or something similarly accomplishy and amazing.

Whereas I, by contrast, uh. . .  what novel?

Decided I needed a mental stock-take of all the genres of 'writing' I am now doing. So I did. 

Does email count?

Or notes to my children's teachers to Please Let Kate Ride The Bus To So-And-So's House For A Playdate After School?

Mayhap Tooth Fairy correspondences, which the children all know come from our computer's word processing program and not any magical being, but for which they still play along because it seems to make Mother happy?

Oh, wait - I sometimes write nonsense verse to my children as lunch notes! Verse! Surely limericks are real literature? Riiiiiiight. Maybe in some alternate universe (the same alternate universe, no doubt, in which grocery lists equal "writing").

What about movie reviews? One particular friend, who used to be my favorite movie buddy when I was living in Singapore, is the lucky recipient of my Trashy Treadmill Movie Reviews when we exchange email (in return, he comments and shares his Good-Movie-In-Cinema Reviews). See, I have a watchlist of movies that look promising and which I save for when I'm on the treadmill. Sometimes the movies I pick turn out to be complete duds, like a particular sci-fi flick with a star-studded cast and a quantum physics premise but which was actually 2 hours of gratuitous violence and my favorite actor dying horribly and a lot of detached eyeballs and possessed spaceships. Anyway, I usually force myself to keep watching them while clocking miles because there really isn't anything more interesting to look at during. But to compensate, I write reviews of those movies and email them to this friend to amuse us both.

I suppose there's always this blog. This and my family blog, which has been sorely neglected of late.  Blogging, then - my sole offering to the deities of prose and publication.

So let me go on record now to thank Nicole for thinking of me in the context of "writer" rather than "cardboard and fabric project show-off blogger". I'd never thought of this blog as real writing the way I think of my favorite library books as real writing. That anyone would be remotely interested in what and how I write anything at all floors me, and is more of a compliment than you'd guess.

Here I go, then, answering four questions about writing.


1. What are you working on?

This blog, and the family blog.

The family blog is all about the kids growing up and my run-ins with culture as an immigrant in the US. I write it for my parents and other family and friends in Singapore, and my in-laws who like to keep up with what we're doing. There are photos of us and funny quotes from the kids and whining about how tricky it is to bake UK recipes using US ingredients. Occasionally, I even get introspective and write a lot of prose, some of which - on hindsight - is in desperate need of editing for oversentimentalness but even then, I try to keep the photo:text ratio as high as possible. Because of that guiding principle, and also because our computer recently died, I haven't been uploading photos much, which translates to an abysmal posting rate. Sorry, Ma and Pa.

This craft blog is all about crafts. If I had to define it, I'd say it's one-half fabric, one-third cardboard and one-sixth Other Nonsense including, but not limited to, wood, yarn, paper, electronics and whatever else got intercepted on its way to the recycling bin.

In the process of documenting tutorials, for which, thankfully, the photo:text ratio is also decent, I often meander into discussions on culture (specifically, Asian; generally, biculturalism and The Joys Of Adjustment), parenting foibles and teaching. Sometimes I draw demented cartoons, like this and this. I like to think that if I keep working on capturing the whole Insane Mother Look, someday - and pardon my delusions of grandeur, if I ever write and publish a memoir, I might be allowed to contribute some of the illustrations. Eeeeee!


2. What makes your work different from others' work in the same genre?

I'll answer this from two angles.

One: Content
This blog is about crafts. Certainly I digress into observations on life, but the content is still crafts - tutorials for, brag posts about and, occasionally, curricula series on, various kinds of crafts. I don't read as many other craft blogs now as when my kids were babies and my days were -ironically - not as full, but I've browsed enough to speculate that most craft blogs are similar to mine in their content. Where I think ikatbag differs is in its focus. For instance, I like cardboard to the point of mania, and I am not above virtual groveling and drooling when I find cardboard projects that I like. People have described me as "obsessed", which makes me giggle because, personally, I would've picked much stronger adjectives. From their labels, I infer that there exist other people who either dislike cardboard, are neutral to it, or like it at a considerably less rabid level. Or they tolerate it because it's a green crafting medium and everyone wants to be environmentally friendly and inoffensive. Summary: I feel different from other entry-level cardboard sympathizers and when I do meet other cardboard addicts, I tend to overreact in my delight, which no doubt ostracizes me even further from the general craft population.

In addition to cardboard, I also sew and draft. I learned to sew by custom drafting clothing patterns from body dimensions as a teenager, which was the way everyone learned to sew in Singapore (and other parts of Asia) in those days. As a result, I approach garment construction and pattern designing quite differently from many other seamstresses who have learned to sew with commercial patterns and "winging it" methods. The few drafting posts I've written have led me to believe that there are people out there who are interested in sewing this way, but there is not enough information to which a layman may have access (without enrolling in fashion school). So I try to write drafting posts that fill in the gaps in the available information and explain the whys behind the hows.

Further, I like deconstructing, process, concepts and The Big Picture much more than I do quick Project Follow-Alongs. Some of the instructional posts I've most enjoyed writing are the curricula series that attempt a conceptual approach to drafting, bag-making or sewing in general. Rather than rounding up a collection of takeaway projects that are the usual tutorial series content on many blogs, I tend to write (what I hope are) systematic lessons that aim to teach my readers to design and sew for themselves.

Two: Style
This blog is also about me and my kids. We make and sew as a way to connect with our roots as children (and grandchildren) of the creative and skilled craftsmen and craftswomen in our family tree. Because, as an immigrant, I am physically removed from my own parents and the other people in my family who have been instrumental in shaping my creative personality, I am perhaps a little more conscious of the cultural nuances in my making than other people who have grown up and remain in their home countries. I know from readers' comments that I am not alone - many other people also enjoy crafting as a kind of legacy from and tribute to their families.

As a result, I find myself infusing my instructional posts with stories and insights from my childhood growing up in Singapore. I don't think about whether or not it dilutes my instruction; many times I feel that it paints a fuller context of the particular project or concept. Now that I've been a mother for almost a decade, some of those insights and stories emerge from my own experiences with my children, so that as the blog evolves, so does my writing - to include new stories in generational layers of anything from the humor of the Frazzled Mother to the bittersweetness of a daughter and granddaughter missing her family.


3. Why do you write what you do?

Let's talk about how I started to write. When I was in elementary school, my classmates and I wrote stories and verse in exercise books for fun and swopped them for mutual reading and feedback. It was all fiction, but we attempted everything from horror to sci-fi to romance to comedy. And tributes to whichever Hollywood superstar with whom we were enamored at the time. Is anyone old cool enough to remember Jon-Erik Hexum? When he accidentally shot himself, my friend and I wrote heartbreaking eulogies in verse. While crying ourselves silly, we were so crushed. I'd be mortified to read it now, of course, but back then, it was brilliant! Fitting! Scintillating! Absolutely moving! Two thumbs up!

Yes, with the angst, passion and determination to Find Myself In The Universe that seem to plague teenagers the world over, it was very easy to write fiction. I was wired for self-expression. I picked a topic, an issue, a character, anything, and simply expounded. Never mind that I had no idea what counted as good or bad writing, or that my stories were riddled with tropes (teenage heroine with special abilities, anyone?) or that I regularly and doggedly blurred the line between reality and fantasy. These were not social or philosophical commentary; they were me stringing words together into sentences and sentences into paragraphs in an attempt to discover my personal writing style. Was I funny? Was I elegant? Was I clever? Could I evoke authentic emotion? As long as there was some devastatingly unhappy ending (usually involving irrecoverable loss and paralyzing grief), a belligerent quarrel of epic proportions and a general leveling of the social playing field (i.e. the smarmy popular school kids got obliterated), it counted as a Good Story. And I kept writing well into adulthood and teacherhood, until motherhood came along and derailed me towards a child-centered world that left very little time for anything else.

So... the blog. Looking back, it's easy to understand why I had to start it: I missed writing. But writing a blog is very different from writing a story that has a beginning, middle and end. I don't build worlds the way I might have when writing fiction. I'm bad at details (e.g. what color are the drapes on the wall of the fabric store? What current rock band's mini-poster should I stick on the side of my handmade fabric organizing cube? Why do I care?) I don't do a lot of research for continuity and authenticity when I am putting together a blog post. I don't emote through my children the way I used to when my fictional characters were having a meltdown. I don't channel angst. I don't create witty dialog (besides, have you heard my children's conversations? Way better than fiction. Any mom of small children will agree). With this blog, I just take photos, draw diagrams, conceptualize lessons and organize curricula. Sometimes I leave it as dry as that, and sometimes I tell stories. Blogging for me is a lot more like teaching a lesson than it is writing a story. If there is any elegance in it, it's a serendipitous side-effect of documenting that lesson while real life spins around me and throws out unexpected gems worth blending into it.

From the very beginning, this blog has been about tutorials. I am hopeful that someday, my kids will want to sew in earnest and might therefore find the material in this blog useful for instruction. For that reason, even while creating brag posts (i.e. those in which I showcase a project without accompanying how-tos or deconstruction notes), I write with my children in mind. The backstory, photos of them-in-action, annotated pictures and longwinded step-by-steps are all there with the aim of encouraging my girls to love and laugh and live while creating. Because, after all, crafting supposed to be fun and not daunting, because it brings people together more than it pits their skills and ideas against each other, and because there's a little bit of me and them and their grandparents and their futures and everything human and cultural in it.

4. How does your writing process work?

I've never stopped to analyze my writing process, frankly.
But now that I have, I think the writing itself begins with A Great Pulling.

These Great Pullings come at unpredictable times and from anywhere. Sometimes, I'm in the shower and inexplicably decide that all the armhole problems in the world could be solved with an expository post on Sleeve Theory (catchy term I made up). Sometimes, I watch my children at play and am inspired to write about incorporating electronics into a layman family's toy arsenal. Other times, I am already writing a tutorial on a messenger bag when I realize that it's too narrow an approach to bag-making and therefore an entire curriculum on conceptualizing bag structures is necessary. And they can even come directly and undisguised from readers' comments and requests: "Can you please write about sewing for beginners, but not kids?" "I would love a tutorial on darts." And, most recently, "I tag you to share your writing process!"

Then, over time, my mind accommodates these Great Pullings and - suddenly and mysteriously - I've got blog fodder.

Sometimes, those stirrings also sufficiently disturb the status quo of bloggable information to the point that I have to sit down and organize my content in new ways. This could mean starting several empty posts (just with titles) on my dashboard, as a means of categorizing and ranking my topics. This could also mean scribbling in my paper notebook, my thoughts and skeleton templates on How To Teach Softie-Making To Small Children In 10 Lessons. Or it could mean writing as much of a post as I can to immediately unload that content from my brain while it is fresh and urgent, and then leaving it for months, even years, on the blog dashboard to percolate while I work on other projects.

From that point on, I just write.

Tutorials are the easiest posts to write, in that they are linear and completely structured around a photographic sequence of making an item. Very often, they are no more than elaborate captions to photographs. Sometimes I work with photographs of only the project in its various degrees of completion. Other times, I include photos of variations of that project, and maybe some self-indulgent story from my sewing past.

Brag posts are those that feature only show-off photos of a completed project. I get to talk about it like a docent and point out all the ugly and good bits. Not as straightforward to write as tutorial posts, because I actually have to think of interesting things to say about the same project photographed from one hundred different angles. Yawn.

Curricula or tutorial series posts are individually straightforward (because they're really single tutorials strung together) but challenging to organize as a whole so that they are sequentially logical. Very often, the content, direction and focus change as I write subsequent posts, and I have to reorganize information and switch the chapter order several times before they go live. The final sequence is never the way it was initially listed in my mind or my planning notes.

All the other miscellaneous expository posts (parenting, drafting concepts, process, culture, to name a few) are the hardest, but the most enjoyable to write. There is very little formal structure to them and I can make everything up as I go. The construction of these posts have some characteristics in common:

  1. I usually write them over several (not one) sittings.
  2. Content-wise, I do not edit them until I have finished writing them. Then I re-read the entire post, and it becomes obvious where there are discontinuities, repetitions and general bad structure. I am not surprised by this because it is what I expect from a collection of thoughts written on different days separated by all manner of interruption. I rewrite the necessary bits and then leave the whole post again on the dashboard for the next day. At that point, I do a final re-read before it goes live. The multiple corrections may result in typos that I miss in the final review so these are also the post most likely to be imperfect in spelling, grammar or concord.
  3. While I try to avoid pedestrian writing (er, who doesn't, really?), I do not deliberately write these posts to be humorous or poignant or sad or to have any particular flavor. In fact, the longer a post is, the more likely it will end up didactic. Sorry. Not surprisingly, my shortest posts are usually the funniest*. I've been told that they are also my best - not that they are literary masterpieces, but that they are short, because that's what true blogging is supposed to be like. By that logic, evidently, one cannot be a very good blogger when writing tutorials, because they go on forever and ever. Which means the craft blog, being a tutorial platform, blogging-bombs on a regular basis. To compensate, I try to practise Concise Blogging on the family blog instead. There, I do single-photo posts with succinct captions that, on a good day, might even be slightly funny. And if the humor factor is especially low, I employ quotes of my children's recent verbal gems, because my children are natural entertainers. Sure win.
That's the actual writing. Even farther back than that is the reading I did in all the years before I even wrote my first story as a kid. 

I think I write the way I do because of what I'd read that I've loved. Growing up in Singapore exposed me to a different library than kids growing up in the US (for instance, I didn't read The Great Gatsby until I was an adult). 

Just off the top of my head, in elementary school, Enid Blyton was my go-to children's author, and thereafter Alfred Hitchcock's mystery stories and the Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys adventures. Also The Chronicles of Narnia, of course, which then led me to love CS Lewis's other works in my later years. In middle school, it was samplings of writers like Shakespeare, Charles Dickens, Jane Austen and Agatha Christie. And as an adult, it is an eclectic mix of comfort reading and whatever else might make me laugh and weep in the same sitting, like Adrian Plass, who remains one of my favorite authors to this day. 

Incidentally, I feel that my kids have access to a much wider range of literature now than I ever did as a child of comparable age. Which is wonderful, because they will have that many more styles and genres to shape their own style and preferences as future writers. 

But back to the point. Here's the marvelous thing about reading-to-write: I don't remember particularly clever turns of phrase in those books I've read, or even the astounding worlds those authors built. However, I do remember being able to discern, even at that young age, how some writers were able to pull me into their stories with simple words while others could just as easily lose me in superfluous language. Subconsciously, I'd always wanted to write like the former. In some ways, blogging is set up to achieve just that, so I like to think that at some primitive level, I'm succeeding!

Author's picks:

Here is one of my personal favorite Succinct Posts from this blog.

Once in a blue moon, I lift the PG-rating on my blog and turn out something like this

And this is how I secretly wish all my blog posts could be like. 

But then this is what happens when I lose the battle to mush and sentiment. 

Eyes off me now: I couldn't think of whom to tag next, since I only have time to read craft blogs (and honestly, I read them for the project inspiration rather than the prose). However, I would LOVE to read about other people's writing processes, so if you'd like to write about yours, link it in the comments and I'll come read it!

Monday, May 5, 2014

How To Start To Sew


Helloooooooooooooo!

Today's post is in response to email and comments I've received on the subject of learning to sew. Over the years, I've been asked how I learned to sew, how to learn to sew with books, how to sew without books, how to sew with classes, how to sew without classes, how to sew for children, how to sew without children, how to sew alongside children, how to sew with children monopolizing one's time . . . ah, all combinations, really.


Self-portrait, 2009

I've tried addressing some of those questions here on the blog, in posts like this, this, this and this
But - in addition to the fact that they were about teaching kids to sew - those posts were just conceptual and philosophical, you know? Meant to encourage frightened and intimidated people to Go Forth And Forge Your Path, No Matter What Other People Say Is The Correct Direction To Pin Your Fabric. I wrote them because I saw a lot of sewing trends in the blogosphere and trends are powerful in how they can both motivate and paralyze. They can also steer people towards bad habits, but that's also true for things other than sewing, and anyway, it's another rant for another day.

Some time ago, I thought I would teach myself to play the violin. So funny, right? As if I don't have enough things to do. My father-in-law gave us his old violin and I strangled out "Mary Had A Little Lamb" on it the first time I touched it. Hideous. Then, I heard Taylor Davis play this and I thought, "That's not very hard, wot. Once I actually get the strings to stop screaming, it'll be a piece of cake!"

Hawhawhawhawhaw!

I'm so silly.

Anyway, while perusing Ms Davis's website, I found this post on how to start to play the violin. Now, I don't know what sort of authority Ms Davis is on the subject since I know squat about violins, let alone enough to assess her words. However, I found that post fascinating because it reminded me of so many sewing posts I'd read on other people's blogs with lists like "10 Sewing Wondertools Beginners Should Own" or "10 Skills Every Beginning Seamstress Must Know". I love lists like those because they always reveal that I am sorely lacking in some area or other, in spite of having been sewing for decades. Just the other day, I discovered that, apparently, I need to own a bamboo turner and flat flower-head pins which can be sewn over. Reflected in shame on my own fat chopstick and ball-head pins, most of which are bent and which I regularly fail to sew over. Immediately, my sewing self-esteem plummeted.

Forgive my flippancy. I do in fact like Ms Davis's violin playing. And I myself have written sewing lists just like the ones I satired above. My point is this: were I a true beginner, I wouldn't know what I didn't know about sewing. I'd believe everything I read. I'd be desperate for direction, any direction. And I'd be continually overwhelmed, maybe vacillating between acute interest and despondent panic at how much I'd like to be able to do while not having a clue as to how to even start to learn how to do it. I'd probably have caught the sewing fever from having seen something online that I really want to make, or overhearing fellow moms trading sewing project ideas, or remembering my own mother or aunt sewing up a storm when I was a little girl, and wishing I knew how to sew. Just like them. Just like that baby blanket in that magazine. Or that stuffed giraffe on so-and-so's blog. Or that adorable dress on that little girl that I know is handmade because I saw that same fabric in Hobby Lobby.

True beginners - folks who are at that point in their desperate desire to sew- are not the same as the "beginner level seamstresses" who are the target audience of the simplest of commercial patterns, or coffee-table craft books filled with flat coasters, crayon rolls and tote bags. 

Let me try to explain the differences. 

When you are already a seamstress, even if you consider yourself still a "beginner", you will probably be sufficiently discerning as to what kind of book or project or skill you would enjoy or need at any point in your sewing career. This is because you already have a foundation of sewing knowledge - however small or large - including sewing terms, techniques, project categories, and immediate learning goals i.e. you will have had some exposure, context and reference points with which to define what you do and don't know.

True beginners, on the other hand, are different. All they have is a keen interest to make stuff like they have seen elsewhere. All they know is that they don't know anything but need to know everything, and how pretty the fabric is, and how much they hope everything is as easy as everyone promises it is. They will need to be told what they must do first, what they need to buy first, what they need to expect first, because they will not know themselves (yet). They may or may not have a sewing machine, and if not, often even the prospect of deciding which one to buy is daunting. True beginners also don't know what qualifies as a "simple" or "beginning" sewing project or skill set - is it the size of the item? The inclusion or omission of additional bits and bobs like buttons and zippers? The number of seams? The straight vs curved seam ratio? The kind of fabric used? The category of project - garment? Bag? Placemat? Scarf? Quilt? They have no basis on which to reliably judge anything.

Let me digress with some backstory, which I've told many times on this blog (sorry). As you all know, my main sewing resources as a very early seamstress were Mum, Grandma and my Homec. teachers. And, as you also know, I started hand-sewing at about 9, and machine-sewing at about 12 or 13. I also started both drafting and sewing (including zippers) at exactly the same time as I'd begun machine-sewing- at age 12/13 - because that's how we did things back in our family/country then. It was only some years later that I began to sew craft projects, and made my first bag. So tailoring first, then craft-sewing, would be how I'd describe my sewing journey. Apart from my Homec. textbooks, which provided a sort of framework for basic sloper/block drafting, I had no books, blogs, seminars, magazines or patterns. Everything I knew came from my human mentors, and years of mistakes.

In this modern sewing age, however, the sequence of the sewing journey is very often reversed. Many people's first projects are flat, rectangular, straight-seamed cotton craft items: coasters, burp cloths, placemats, simple quilts, tote bags, pillowcases. Then, they may move onto things with curved seams, like bibs, aprons, balls, stuffed toys and bags with gussets and rounded corners. At this point, they may feel ready to tackle garments, so they may buy a commercial pattern or read a sewing blog (or book) and make their first untailored, unfitted piece of clothing - something forgiving and adaptable like a gathered skirt or PJ pants. Some time later, they learn how to adapt more precisely-fitted clothing patterns to their own dimensions and might or might not make the jump to drafting their own. Some go the design-and-piece quilting route instead of the draft-and-design clothing route; some do both. 

Unlike during my own childhood, sewing books, blogs, magazines and seminars are now everywhere - affordable, accessible and literally tailored to almost every skill level. There has never been a generation of seamstresses as lucky as this one. You have a veritable buffet of resources at your disposal, from which you can pick whatever you need at whichever entry point you need it. However, as with all things in abundance and variety, there is also considerable opportunity for frustration at incomplete or unsystematic instruction, a paralyzing sense of feeling overwhelmed by vast amounts of unfiltered information, and a danger of unknowingly adopting inefficient habits that may sabotage future progress or success.

And above all that is the one thing that most sets this distance-learning generation apart from the apprenticeshippy ones of old: the lack of immediate feedback in the learning process. Nothing quite beats the immediacy and accessibility of print and online sewing resources (sew a last-minute teacher gift at 3 am, anyone?). Thank heavens for Google! On the other hand, nothing also beats having a real human walk you through a technique, point out where you messed up, or teach you a good habit. Or, in the case of a true beginner, pick that first direction in which to walk, and that first project on which to work.

I will always, always, always advocate a human sewing mentor over ANY print or online resource, no matter how formidable and advanced that resource may be. Along that same vein, I will also always, always recommend buying your first sewing machine (or serger, in my case) from a dealer rather than amazon.com or Costco, so that you can quiz the dealer (a human) on how it works and how to troubleshoot. I know this is not usually possible, but if you can find someone to teach you something (and yes, human-interaction seminars count!), choose that over a book or static blog post any day. Feedback can make or break your sewing journey. And if that teacher is kind as well as willing, it's a bonus. Buy them dinner and mow their lawns or something. There aren't enough sweet and gracious older sewing teachers left in the world. 

Therein lies the problem - a lack of actual humans who are available to pass on the legacy of sewing, drafting, quilting and whatnot, to the generations after them. So 
I also totally appreciate that a human mentor is not a realistic option for many people. And I feel very bad when readers ask me how I learned to sew because I know that my answer (learned from older family members as a small child) will be utterly unhelpful for them. Therefore, I am very glad that there exist all those alternative non-human sewing resources. In the next post, I will share with you a book for beginning seamstresses that I like. The remainder of this post will be a kind of framework for thinking about how to begin a sewing journey in general. Here are three things to consider.

Thing 1
I think the very first thing to do after deciding you want to learn to sew is to get excited, but realistic. Sewing is a marathon rather than a sprint. You will be able to churn out projects within hours of learning to use your sewing machine but it will take you months and years of experience before you will get to the point where you'll feel confident enough to tell people, "Yeah, I sew." This is not because sewing is difficult; it is because women (and I'm assuming many of you reading this are women) tend to be hard on ourselves and on other women. Resist the urge to slap a label on yourself - you know, "beginner sewist" or "adventurous beginner" or "intermediate-advanced", stuff like that. If the need arises to define yourself, pick something that's not arbitrary. For example, if you join a sewing group and have to introduce yourself and state your "sewing level (I hate that term to death)", say, "Hello, I'm Princess Amidala. I've been sewing on-and-off for the past 3 years and I work with mostly cottons and I've tried zippers and I'm excited to learn how to use a serger." Or, if you're looking for a sewing pattern to buy, ignore the "For Advanced Level Seamstresses!" on the front and instead look at the list of prerequisite skills you will need in order to be comfortable working with it. 
Summary: you may be better or not-as-skilled at sewing than you think you are. So what! You don't need to know how good you are or not, to keep learning and sewing.

Thing 2
The next helpful thing to do is decide what kind of sewing you'd like to do first
Wallets

The Strawberry+Chocolate+Vanilla collection

Narnian-inspired costume


Qipao

Felt treats

Dress-up costume and wig

Apron

Tank dress

Butterfly costume

Of course you'll eventually want to sew everything from quilts to tailored jackets to luggage to upholstering the seats of your uncle's yacht. It's fabulous to aim high and wide, but in the beginning, you'll need to focus on fewer things so you'll get good at them. For instance, you might already be leaning towards machine-sewing rather than hand-stitching, or vice versa. That decision alone is sufficiently dichotomous to focus on quite different sets of skills and techniques, even if the outcome is the same. For instance, constructing a skirt with a sewing machine involves different know-how than entirely hand-stitching the same skirt. 

Further, it is also helpful to focus on a category of sewing projects, if only because the techniques, fabric handling, notions and construction sequences might be quite different among different kinds. Some examples of categories:
  • Bags
  • Quilts and patchwork
  • Upholstery
  • General crafts including home-decor items, toys and baby items
  • Garment-making - but not tailoring (i.e. the fit is not generally important)
  • Tailoring
Within each category, it is possible to further (arbitrarily) subclassify them into individual challenge levels. In other words, there are Easy Bags that might be harder than Difficult Cushions, or Easy Tailored Garments that are harder than Most Challenging Quilts. If you've made diverse projects, you might agree that there are some basic skills and techniques that are used for all but there are also specific ones that are peculiar to one category more than the others. At the same time, if you've also been sewing for a number of years, you might not have realized that you were using different skill sets for different kinds of projects because your current repertoire of techniques is now wide and deep enough to allow you to cross categories without even being aware of it. 

The way I eventually realized this was in noticing that sewing blogs were divided very distinctly into categories according to their sewing focus. For instance, blogs devoted to tailoring (including pattern alteration and drafting and draping) had a completely different vocabulary, style and target audience than those devoted to quilts, home-decor or baby items. Even with ikatbag, which is a sad melting pot of completely random pursuits, I have to mentally shift gears between writing a drafting post and one on sewing my kids' latest toy or sundress (it gets even funnier when I cross over to cardboard and electronics).

The point is not to limit yourself to one category forever. Rather, it is to be aware that the kinds of projects you can sew are sufficiently diverse that you might need different skill sets and vocabularies - and not just more hours of practice per se - to feel comfortable with them. Having those realistic expectations may, hopefully, prevent frustration that something seemingly easy (e.g. making a Tshirt) actually felt much trickier than something else that seemed more challenging (e.g. putting piping on your outdoor cushions). It's all relative, but different.

Thing 3
Look for resources. This is sort of self-explanatory, isn't it? However, the prospect of research can be very daunting when you aren't sure which direction you'd like to go first. Typing, "how to sew+ tutorials" into Google is likely to overwhelm you and be less helpful than streamlining your focus to, say, typing "blogs+girls' dresses" or "tutorial+ tote bag".

In addition to the internet, which is a wonderful and almost unlimited resource for anything these days, there are also sewing books (which I will talk about in the next post), periodicals and sewing magazines both for inspiration and instruction, courses and lessons, seminars, sewing groups and guilds. There are advantages and disadvantages to all of them, which means that the more different resources you use, the more complete your research and learning will be. 

Books have the potential to provide the most linear, systematic and comprehensive instruction on broad and specific topics (e.g. Sewing 101 vs Darts & Pleats). Courses and lessons have the advantage of immediate and feedback and two-way interaction, plus real-time visual instruction. Seminars and conferences are wonderful for networking and getting aligned with current trends. Sewing groups and guilds support you locally and get you in touch with even more local resources. 

And then there are blogs. Blogs are great - they aren't necessarily complete sources of sewing education, but they're inspirational and written by real people you can get to know. Plus they're right where you want them at 3 am while you nurse those babies. Hard to beat. Here's just one example: Liz and Elizabeth, the ladies behind Simple Simon and Co., ran a month-long feature on beginning sewing, called "What I Wish I'd Known When I Started Sewing" in January 2014. I enjoyed it so much. Go check it out. 

In closing, I'm going out on a limb to guess that most people want to sew because they secretly want to make garments. I mean, I don't know a whole lot of folks whose real, ultimate goals in getting their sewing machines, were to sew cushion covers or baby bibs. Everyone I've talked to who's been interested in sewing at some level, has said something like this, "Honestly? I wish I could sew clothes. I saw this-or-that on a little girl/boy in the park/in a catalog, and I wished I knew how to sew. I think it would be amazing to even someday sew something for myself that fit. But I got my sewing machine to sew little things, you know - little pouches, a toy for my daughter, some blankets for gifts, maybe pillow covers and curtains someday. I'm not even going to think about clothes... yet."


Bravo! Bravo that you are starting somewhere, even if it is just practice until you muster the courage to sew what you really hope to. It's okay to improve faster than you thought you would. It's okay to get stuck from time to time. It's okay to sew the same things over and over again because you like it and because you like feeling confident at it. It's okay to thirst for different things even if you don't do as well outside your comfort zone as within. It's okay to feel overwhelmed. It's okay to be ambitious and aim high, or not. It's okay to ask. It's okay to learn. It's okay to unlearn and relearn. It's okay to sew differently from other people. It's okay not to have to defend how you sew. It's okay to decide, "I don't sew as well as so-and-so" (or "better than", if you're honest) and be perfectly content. It's okay to learn from your mother, from a professional dressmaking course, from a book, from someone's blog, from trial and error, from your kid's homec. notes. It's your sewing adventure, after all.  




And of course it's okay to pin along the seam, perpendicular to the seam and even not pin at all! Who cares, really, as long as you keep your machine needle away from hitting the pins. People who are up in arms over trivia like pin direction are literally missing the point (pun intended). The world is made of all kinds. Therefore, all kinds of sewing are allowed. Years later, after hundreds of projects and hours of happy memories, when you look back at this, you'll laugh at how it wasn't even a blip on the radar of your sewing journey.  

Over to you now: how did you learn to sew, and what advice do you have for beginning adult seamstresses?

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

7 Utterly Random Most Recents


Snapshots of where I am this fortnight -

#1 Most recent song-breaking-my-heart-right-now:

Track #9: Dyin' Day


#2 Most recent just-read:
Quote:
"My friends call me Wrath. My enemies call me Please Have Mercy. What's your name, soldier boy?" - Raffe, during a human-Resistance interrogation (Angelfall, pg.95.)

So awesome. I want my own personal archangel.


#3 Most recent BIP (Book In Progress):

Checked this out after finishing Ender's Game (no, I haven't watched the movie). Love the writing. It's like being in a world in which everyone speaks like their IQ is off the charts or writes like they work for the government. 


#4 Most recent mistake:

What was I thinking? There is no such thing as an alternative nutella.


#5 Most recent mission accomplie:

Eight bunnies (or "kittens", as we should correctly say). My sewing room is officially a warren.


#6 Most recent home invasive species:

I remember the good old days when it used to be Cheerios. 


#7 Most recent craft workshop with the kids:

Geometric Stuffed Toys 101
Will share soon (along with all the other projects and tutorials on my Procrastinating List).