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No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
by

Richard C. Schwartz,

Alanis Morissette (Foreword)

Jasmine St. John 's review

Nov 15, 2021

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More like a 3.75 the issues I had are personal to me. I don't want to hear about my author's political or spiritual practice unless that is the book I specifically picked up. This is a good book, I just don't like reading through parts where he talks about politics and religion. Otherwise, really good IFS material and I would recommend the book with the caveat above to others.
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"When your parts start to trust your Self, they open more space for you to be in your body. When that’s the case, you feel sensations and emotions more and, consequently, you become increasingly interested in keeping your body grounded and healthy. With this enhanced sensitivity to your body’s feedback comes increased knowledge about what foods or activities are beneficial and which can be damaging. This leads to corresponding changes in your behavior. In addition, your exiles no longer have to use your body to try to get your attention or punish you for ignoring them, because they can get through to you directly."

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Reading Progress

July 8, 2021 – Shelved

July 8, 2021 – Shelved as: to-read

October 27, 2021 – Started Reading

October 27, 2021 –

page 12

5.56% "Some parts seemed easier to dialogue with than others. Some felt riskier and downright threatening to embrace. That each part, however harrowing its acting-out, however hidden, confusing, or painful, had the best of intentions and held helpful messages for me. Each part, whether an exile, manager or protector, had profoundly kind and wise insights for me from my Self, if I but took the time to be there with them."

October 28, 2021 –

page 21

9.72% "The harder we try to get rid of emotions/thoughts the stronger they become. This is because parts fight back against being shamed/exiled. When we dominate them w/ punitive self-discipline we become tyrannized by a rigid controlling inner drill sergeant. The exiled (bingeing, raging etc) parts will seize momentary weakness to break out & take over to be on guard against any situations that might trigger those parts."

October 29, 2021 –

page 34

15.74% "They can tell you the exact traumatic moment these emotions & beliefs attached to them & they can tell you where they carry what seem to them to be these foreign objects in/on their bodies. “It’s a fireball in my gut”/“a huge weight on my shoulders”. These foreign feelings are "burdens". It turns out that burdens are powerful organizers of a part’s experience/activity—in the same way a virus organizes a computer."

October 31, 2021 –

page 48

22.22% "Protective parts blend because they believe they have to manage situations in your life. They don’t trust your Self to do it. If your father hit you as a child and you weren’t able to stop him your parts lost trust in Self’s ability to protect instead came to believe they have to do it. They carry the responsibility for protecting you despite the fact that they are not equipped to do so."

November 2, 2021 –

page 66

30.56% "The Four Basic Goals of IFS
1. Liberate parts from the roles they’ve been forced into,
so they can be who they’re designed to be.
2. Restore trust in the Self and Self-leadership.
3. Reharmonize the inner system.
4. Become more Self-led in your interactions with the
world."

November 5, 2021 –

page 99

45.83% "Again, traumatized inner systems are delicate ecologies. Just like with external ecologies, changes in one aspect can have unforeseen consequences. This is far less likely, however, if you think in terms of systems—then the consequences often can be foreseen and preempted or dealt with from Self."

November 9, 2021 –

page 118

54.63% "When you realize that you’re not the insecure selfish parts that
you’ve identified with for so long, but instead that you’re this Self
that’s curious, calm, confident, compassionate, creative, clear,
courageous, joyful, generous, and playful—and that your essence is
connected to some kind of larger universal principle—you feel happy."

November 10, 2021 –

page 137

63.43% "Exiles don’t trust our Self & they & protectors who try to get them to calm down are looking outside of us to get what they need. When we encounter a person who resembles the profile exiles have of the ideal protector, lover, they feel elated infatuated & relieved. Through positive transference parts put distorted images on people who can’t help but disappoint. Then comes negative transference from angry protectors."

November 11, 2021 –

page 161

74.54% "When you see through clear eyes of your Self that someone is doing something hurtful to your parts, you don’t have to turn them into a monster. That clarity empowers you to see that their actions arise out of their own hurt, and you also can better see without confusion the damage they do to your parts. This means you have the courage and confidence to set boundaries with them in an effective and very forceful way."

November 12, 2021 –

page 182

84.26% "One central tenet of IFS at work: going to war against inner beliefs or emotions of any kind will often backfire. Listening and healing them is the better way to go, all while relating to them with firm yet loving Self-led discipline until they unburden."

November 15, 2021 – Finished Reading