Parenting Teens Quotes

“Now, the error which many parents commit in the treatment of the individual at this time(adolescense) is, insisting on the same unreasoning obedience as when all he had to do in the way of duty was, to obey the simple laws of "Come when you're called," and "Do as you're bid!" But a wise parent humours the desire for independent action, so as to become the friend and adviser when his absolute rule shall cease.”
― Elizabeth Gaskell, North and South

“Whatever emotional state you’re in while you’re parenting conveys more to your child than the content of what you're doing with them, no matter how perfect your intervention looks "on paper." In other words, to paraphrase Marshall McLuhan, "your emotional state is the message.”
― Michael Y. Simon, The Approximate Parent: Discovering the Strategies that Work for Your Teenager

“No, being concerned is not good, because if you are concerned too much, you will become tense. And if you become tense you cannot help.”
― Osho, Beloved of my heart: A Darshan diary

“Nobody ever feels they're doing well with teenagers, he said. I think that's kind of the point of them.”
― Jojo Moyes, After You

“What’s More Important: Your Ego or
Hearing Your Child?”
― C. Lynn Williams, Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen: A Primer for Parents

“Let us all stop being controlled by the fear of disappointing others and let us all learn how to stop perpetuating the cycle of manipulating our children through their fear of disappointing us. The people we love are allowed to be disappointed in us and we are allowed to be disappointed in the people we love. Everyone is allowed to experience life as it may flow. Nobody is born as a safeguard to other people's life experiences. Live AUTHENTICALLY; do not live out of the fear of dissapointing others nor out of the fear of being disappointed. And above all: change the narrative for the next generation. Your kids were not born *for* you. People are born for themselves.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“God knows everything about you, your past, present, and future.”
― DeeDee Lake, Next Step. You've Accepted Jesus...Now What?

“He knocked politely and entered the principal’s office with his dad face in full effect. He put his hand on my shoulder in a way that came off as both stern and proud. He was dad-ing it up for the principal, which I was actually a little grateful for, but it also made me mad.”
― Charlotte Leonetti

“Conscious parenting is not about being perfect, it's about being aware. Aware of what your kids need from you to reach more of their full potential.”
― Alex Urbina, The Inspirational Parent: The Magical Ingredients For Effective Parenting

“Saying ‘no’ to your children can be an act of love.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“I think that we ought to be listening to our children a lot more often. Our children are living in the "here and now" and they know what to do about it. We can teach our children about where we have come from, but they can teach us about where we are all at, right now. Parents tend to come at their children with an arrogance merely due to the fact that they've been alive longer, but this is exactly where the disconnect takes place, this is exactly how you are going to not be able to connect with your children at the heart level. Being alive longer doesn't make you better at living. Read that again. I have many times turned to my son for guidance on LIVING in the here and now, and have become a vastly better person for it, as a result. We are not the only leaders here; we may be carrying a torch but our kids are carrying flashlights, and sometimes, flashlights are going to work so much better.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“when someone doesn’t feel valued or heard, their desire to participate in a job or relationship disappears.”
― Ben Crawford, 2,000 Miles Together: The Story of the Largest Family to Hike the Appalachian Trail

“Occasionally, it was hard to watch them not measure up to our adult standards, but that discomfort was our problem, not theirs.”
― Ben Crawford, 2,000 Miles Together: The Story of the Largest Family to Hike the Appalachian Trail

“Give me faith to step aside and let You work, especially in those times when I desire to influence, to persuade, to make my opinion known. Help me to be silent, trusting Your Holy Spirit to be at work in the hearts of those I love. Thank You for never giving up on prodigals, for loving them even more than we as mothers or fathers or brothers or sisters can love them.”
― Shelly Beach, Precious Lord, Take My Hand: Meditations for Caregivers

“The effective criticism is the one that focuses on behavior not on the personality. The difference between both realizes it every rational parent and educator. The directed criticism on the boy’s or on the girl’s personality will burn the space that all the family members stand on.”
― Maryam Abdullah Alnaymi

“What strengthen the bonds between the children and their parents is spreading the fun and humor during family gatherings and times, and enforcing the feeling of every child’s importance to their parents, and giving them the confidence that they will and can face the life without falling in the wrong, sin, or guilt.”
― Maryam Abdullah Alnaymi

“It’s not difficult telling enemies from friends.
• Your enemies say, “You don’t need to work hard.” Your friends say, “Always do your best.”
• Your enemies say, “Just quit.” Your friends say, “Never give up.”
• Your enemies say, “No one will ever know.” Your friends say, “Always do the right thing.”
• Your enemies say, “Let’s get high.” Your friends say, “Rest in Peace.”
― Tim Heaton, Bless Your Heart, You Freakin' Idiot: Southern Sayings Translated

“Sometimes I'm left with the distinct feeling that I am outnumbered by my only child.”
― Colleen Ferrary Bader

“In a parent support group “...This is the miracle. We belong together because we are engaged in the same quest as we search for answers to our most anguished questions. In that journey, we reflect back to each other the meaning of our own experience. In telling the truth about myself, I discover the truth about myself. I have come to know myself in the honest, unashamed, unedited telling of my story. Like the others in the room, I let go of that vision of myself as someone who is holding it all together, who is in control. I let go, though not without some initial concern that I will be found out, that people will hide from me or laugh at me or feel superior to me. But my self-consciousness quickly fades away, because I am no longer lost. I am found. I am found within the circle of others through this community of fellow human beings who are hurting and afraid but fearless when it comes to admitting our need for help and support. This is where we belong, where we “fit” We share our stories, and as we join our stories with others who are on the same journey, we discovered a story that is shared.. We are not alone.”
― Katherine Ketcham, The Only Life I Could Save

“Adolescence is a time of self-discovery. But discovery doesn't have to mean defiance.

Teens do need to find out who they want to be, but they should be free to select qualities and values held by their parents as well as those not held by them. In our opinion, reaching adulthood does not require relational tension. Defiance of authority is not a growing pain but a behavioral choice. Rebelling against parents doesn't make you an adult any more than rebelling against a government makes you president.”
― Gary Ezzo, On Becoming Teenwise: Building a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

“If you have an underage child, make sure to block all predator-infested websites, such as omegle, chatroulette, chatrandom and shagle, on your wifi network.”
― Abhijit Naskar

“The problem is this: we live in a culture that currently has no universally accepted means of transitioning children into adulthood.”
― Kenneth Wilgus, Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them Into the World

“Parents need to demonstrate a commitment to an orderly transfer of authority from themselves to their adolescent.”
― Kenneth Wilgus, Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them Into the World

“For adolescents to be ready for life after high school, they need at least some period of time exercising their own judgment in all aspects of their life while they are still at home, with their parents.”
― Kenneth Wilgus, Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them Into the World

“The goal of disciplining a child is obedience. The goal of disciplining a teenager is responsibility.”
― Kenneth Wilgus, Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them Into the World

“... responding with anger does not help your teenager see themselves. It only helps them to see you in a very bad light.”
― Kenneth Wilgus, Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them Into the World

“If parents in society do not do the parenting, the government will...and not in the way society will enjoy.”
― Aegelis, Sophizo

“Don't make a young person's behavior be about you. Never, "Oh, you're hurting me so much! You're going to be the end of me, but "It's hard to watch you hurting yourself this way." Teens will like your concern more if they feel it's for them and not yourself. Other ways of expressing your concern include: "You deserve better," and "You need to take better care of yourself.”
― Susan Noyes Anderson

“Make consequences as logical as possible. If teens drive irresponsibly, they should lose car privileges, not phone privileges. If a curfew violation occurs, make curfew one hour earlier for a week. If homework is not getting done because of video games, restrict them, not baseball. Try to make your restrictions selective and specific. Teens need a solid consequence they can feel, but they also need fun and enjoyment in their lives. If you take everything away, they have nothing to fill their cups. Young people who are running on empty will have fewer resources to use in producing good behavior.”
― Susan Noyes Anderson

“How can we, as parents, raise resilient, self-driven children who are truly prepared for a world that’s rapidly changing, when traditional schooling often prioritizes outdated facts and test scores over essential skills, character, and an entrepreneurial mindset?”
― Dr Jade Blake