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When Bad Things Happen

2011

A guide for Aboriginal people about dealing with trauma

M PL E n e p p a H s g n i h T d a B n Whe SA What happens and What to do Dr Damien Howard Psychologist Some pages of this booklet tell you how people may feel after bad things happen and other pages tell about good things people can do. PL E People may get Depressed. Some signs of depression are feeling really tired, not enjoying anything, not feeling like spending time with family, having trouble sleeping or getting angry. Go to the health centre if you feel like this. SA M Counselling can help with depression and your doctor may prescribe medication that can help you to feel better. © Phoenix Consulting, 2011 Phone: 08 89484444 Email: [email protected] Lana Miller and Ada Parry helped with getting the words right in this booklet. Graphic design and illustration by Kristy Day. Phoenix Consulting The phoenix was a dreamtime bird. There was only ever one at a time. When it was going to die it built a fire and was burned to ash. From that ash the bird flew up born again to start a new life. This story tells how there can be new beginnings even after bad experiences. M PL People may feel bad in their body. They may have headaches, feel sick in the stomach, or have sore muscles, aches and pains. E Feeling bad in your Body SA Get checked out at your health centre if these feelings last a long time. E Feelings SA Thinking M PL People feel numb so it is hard for them to feel anything. They may blow up about little things and this his can be hard on family and friends. People’s thinking can change for a while after bad things happen. They may have trouble remembering things and can make silly mistakes. Don’t growl at them if that happens. M PL E Do normal things Doing normal things as soon as you can will make you feel better. Do things like fishing, painting, camping, helping others to look after children, yarning, talking with old people. Exercise helps to feel better. SA A safe place Have a place where you can feel safe. It can help to make a picture in your mind of this place. Think about this place if old feelings come up. E Worrying about more bad things SA M PL People may worry a lot that ‘something else bad may happen’. They may worry just doing things that they were never worried about before. It is important to keep on doing normal things. Old feelings A new bad thing may bring back feelings about old bad things that have happened. Seeing, hearing or smelling something that reminds people of that old bad thing can bring back bad feelings. Guilt PL E People can feel guilty and may blame themselves for the bad thing happening to them. People can talk to others who care about them so they can tell them this kind of thinking is hurting them. Blaming SA M People may blame others. This can make everyone feel bad - both the family doing the blaming as well as the family being blamed. Staying by yourself People may want to stay by themself or go away from their community. It is important to keep talking to family. PL E Going bush with family SA M Being in Country and in the bush with family can help to heal. Sitting around the fire yarning with a little bit of laughter can start a spark that grows. It can help to sit in the bush and just listen and watch. Just yarning with family in town and remembering the good times can also help. E PL Talk to old people SA M Stories from old people can help to think a good way about what has happened and know what to do. E PL When to get help SA M It is important to get help from the health centre if you are worried about people or if other people are worried for you or upset about what you are doing. Remember PL TALK – Talk to others about how you are feeling – don’t bottle it up. E Things to tell people after bad things happened SUPPORT – Talk to people who want to support you. Give support to people you care about. SA M DON’T drink – Try not to use grog or other drugs more than usual. You will only hurt your family. NO blame – Stay away from blaming. DO things – Do things like going fishing, painting, camping, helping others to look after children, yarning, talking with old people. GET help – If bad feelings are lasting a long time or are really strong. • Yarn with family • Help family • Think about the people who need you • Don’t drink more • Don’t fight • Do normal things • Stay away from blame • Talk to people about feeling guilty • Exercise You can talk to your health centre about how to see a counsellor. PL E ! alone t o n re You a h it wit iends e r a h r S and f y l i t m fa abou e r a c that you © Phoenix Consulting, 2011 (phone 08 89484444) www.kristydaygraphicdesign.com SA M elp! Get h