Chapter #9 Personal: Relationship

CHAPTER #9
P E R S O N A L R E L AT I O N S H I P
GROUP 13
MEMBERS:
J OVA N N I E A R N A I Z
J AY L A W R E N C E N A B I A S
JEAN RETIS
WHAT IS PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP?
• The concept of "relationships and family" is broad and varies from person to
person.
What you mean by relationship is unique to you, but most people do think of a
state of connectedness, especially an emotional connection.
In our model, personal relationships refer to close connections between
people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow
from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
• Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and
benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social
support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships.
THREE KINDS OF PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
FRIENDS
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that
is often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and
emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other in times of
need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network
researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the average
person has about six close ties—though some have more, and many
have only one or none.
FAMILY
• The concept of "family" is an essential component in any

discussion of relationships, but this varies greatly from person to
person. The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more
persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who
live together as one household." But many people have family
they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and
the roles of family vary across cultures as well as throughout
your own lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a family are
support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and
values, security, and a sense of community.
PARTNERSHIP
• Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships

formed between two people that are built upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience this kind of
relationship with only one person at a time.
FAMILY FRIENDSHIP
PARTNERSHIP
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
ARE IMPORTANT:
> H E A LT H Y R E L AT I O N S H I P S A R E A V I TA L C O M P O N E N T O F H E A LT H
A N D W E L L B E I N G . T H E R E I S C O M P E L L I N G E V I D E N C E T H AT S T RO N G
R E L AT I O N S H I P S C O N T R I B U T E TO A L O N G , H E A LT H Y, A N D H A P P Y
L I F E . C O N V E R S E LY, T H E H E A LT H R I S K S F RO M B E I N G A L O N E O R
I S O L AT E D I N O N E ' S L I F E A R E C O M PA R A B L E TO T H E R I S K S
A S S O C I AT E D W I T H C I G A R E T T E S M O K I N G , B L O O D P R E S S U R E , A N D
O B E S I T Y.
• Live longer
• A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social
relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely. Similarly, Dan
Buettner’s Blue Zones research calculates that committing to a
life partner can add 3 years to life expectancy (Researchers
Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler have found that men’s life
expectancy benefits from marriage more than women’s do.
• Deal with stress
• The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer against the effects of stress. In a study of over
100 people, researchers found that people who completed a stressful task experienced a faster recovery
when they were reminded of people with whom they had strong relationships. (Those who were reminded
of stressful relationships, on the other hand, experienced even more stress and higher blood pressure.
• Be healthier
• Research indicates that strong relationships contribute to health at any age. According to research by
psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college students who reported having strong relationships were half as likely
to catch a common cold when exposed to the virus, while an AARP study with older adults found that
loneliness is a significant predictor of poor health. More generally, a 2012 international Gallup poll found
that people who feel they have friends and family to count on are generally more satisfied with their
personal health than people who feel isolated. Moreover, hanging out with healthy people increases your
own likelihood of health—in their book Connected, Christakis and Fowler show that non-obese people are
more likely to have non-obese friends because healthy habits spread through our social networks.
• Feel richer
• A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000 people found that doubling your group of
friends has the same effect on your wellbeing as a 50% increase in income!
FAST FACTS:
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
• All relationships have their ups and downs, but unhealthy

relationships often include set patterns of behaviour and can
sometimes escalate into emotional or physical abuse. Have you
been worried that your relationship, or one of your friend’s
relationships, isn’t healthy? Here we look at a few of the warning
signs:
• Your partner attempts to exercise control and ultimately, power, over
you.
Whether they do this physically, emotionally, by what they say to you, or
online through Whatsapp and Facebook, this is NOT ok.
• They pressure you to send intimate photo messages or snapchat

messages that you don’t want to send.
This is NOT ok – and you don’t know what they might do with them.
• Your partner is very controlling, for example trying to control how your
hair looks, where you go, who you see, or what you do.
This is NOT healthy.
• You don’t feel able or willing to communicate with your partner.
This is NOT healthy, but a breakdown in communication can sometimes be the
simplest thing to fix, and can do the most good for your relationship.
• Your partner is being repeatedly dishonest.

This is NOT ok. Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect.
• They call you names, constantly question and criticise your choices and
decisions.
This is NOT healthy.
• You don’t feel you have any control over whether you use contraceptives
to avoid pregnancy and don’t feel able to insist on safer sex to avoid HIV
and STIs.
No partner should feel pressured into doing something they don’t want to do,
so this is NOT ok.
• You don’t feel able to go out and see your friends without the other
person being angry or sad or jealous.
Too much dependency on one another and isolation from social circles is NOT
healthy. In a loving relationship you will want to spend a lot of time together,
but you are your own person and can maintain a level of independence.
• You are made to feel guilty for the choices that you make.
This is NOT ok. Abusive relationships are often hinged on manipulation and
ensuring that the other person feels guilt.
• On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health consequences,
such as:
• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with depression, and now
research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast cancer patients found
that those with fewer satisfying social connections experienced higher levels
of depression, pain, and fatigue.
•
Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a
correlation between loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack
of social connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.
•
Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a group of
229 adults over five years found that loneliness could predict higher blood pressure
even years later, indicating that the effects of isolation have long-lasting consequences.

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• The concept of "family" is an essential component in any

• Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships

• All relationships have their ups and downs, but unhealthy

• They pressure you to send intimate photo messages or snapchat

• Your partner is being repeatedly dishonest.

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