Gurpreet Kaur Masters Aspirant

NAME : GURPREET KAUR
MASTERS ASPIRANT
Sat Shri Akal Ji,
Greetings of the day.
I Gurpreet Kaur , from a Sikh background family , has always dreamt

of endless education and serving my religion in best possible way. I
grew up in a sikh family in Rajasthan , influenced from my mother , I
am attached to the Land of Five Rivers. My mother is from a simple
village Sathiala near Baba Bakala Sahib Ji ( Distt. Amritsar ) . My
mother always had dreamt that her children get good education as
she was married to my father who is a resident of Kota city. My
father is not much educated , he just did his 10th from a convent
school. With a diploma in mechanical engineering , he joined my
grandfather’s business. Our industry once had a name and fame , as
my grandfather was expert in his work , he never got the
opportunity to learn but he wanted his children and grandchildren to
get good education . Through years , my mother at small age of 18 ,
trusted her in laws and did what they told to . She is a woman of
pure soul with patience . My father on other hand trusted his
parents that they might think well of us three ( me and my two
younger brothers) But we Gurusahab always been kind on us four
including my mother and we three children , he had given us power
to fight and stay kind and be humble.
With passage of time and years , we thought fights between my
mother and father would get over . But sadly it never ended. He
started pointing on my mother’s maternal family and extended
family. Things got much more critical . But we had a hope that we
three will make it happen . In 2012 , due to family fights , I got
supplementary but I cleared . In 2013 , due to my efforts , I cleared
the entrance for NIFT . I got admission in NIFT – Bhopal in August
2013.
I happily got my dream college and started fresh , with a possibility
that I will get a degree and find a good job , get settled four of us ,
incase my father wanted divorce at that time too , I will my family’s
support system and guide my younger brothers ( Angad Singh 17
years old and Ronak Singh 15 years old ) .
Between all these things , we still had fights at my home in Kota . My
mother and brothers never told me about what use to happen back
in Kota. They wanted me to focus on my studies and earn a good life
out of it.
On January 29 , 2014 ; My two years younger brother Angad was
going to his coaching institute for his physics class at around 2:30
afternoon. I was in my class in Bhopal. I received a call at 3:00 pm
that he met with an accident. I informed everyone at home in Kota ,
hoping they would reach on time at the hospital be there with him.
But things were not by our side at that time. Angad died on spot .
Within few minute time my , my Mom and Ronak’s life took a turn .
A permanent turn which left a mark on our lives till date . A Tractor
trolley hit Angad on JAN 29, 2014. He was a fun loving guy , close to
gursikhi , use to attend Parbhatferi at 2 am , Amritvella even in
Winter – cold mornings. He was our major strength. We lost our
major strength in 2014. Things turned bad again after his death . We
thought that my father will get a lesson and he would stop fighting
with my mother but he didn’t. He started using more bad
slanguage . My father totally cut-off my mother from her maternal
family. She did it too just for our sake that we will get a life here . But
things didn’t exactly turned it out the way she thought. We didn’t
had any support from anyone , my father even slapped my mother
twice. He used bad language even for my younger brother. I was
average student in college , after Angad’s death I got epilepsy in
August 2014. It got little serious. I am still on medication but am
better than before.
After Angad’s death I lost my focus in studies , but somehow I
graduated in Bachelor of Design ( Degree Course ) from NIFT Bhopal.
I made my mother happy. I thought now I will get a better job , but I
couldn’t . Tried a lot , checking every job on Linkedin, indeed,
naukri.com and I failed . I still had a hope by chance I may get a job ,
things do happen . But after lot of try I didn’t got any. I started
helping dad in his business. He promised me he would let me go for
abroad for study , but the financial status after Angad’s death went
down . My father tried me to go according to him and stay at home
but not go for job , because he had insecurity that if I start earning
then I would learn and will take my mother along . He had a fine
behavior with me , but slowly he started using slangs in anger with
me also. Angad went trhough same and now us more . Not even my
grandparents and chacha-chichi spoke infront of him. My father
behaves so fine infront of other outsiders but sometimes with us he
is all unexpected. He talks about Gursikhi and but he tries to impose
on us , I think forcing any religion wont help , rather it should be
from heart. He at times is every arrogant and egoistic person and we
as Sikhs are taught to respect women not to say rude things .
On jan 31st, 2019 I lost my grandfather . After 5 years of Angad’s
Death , I lost my grandfather . Though my grandfather was ill so his
death was fine according to his age, but Angad’s death will never be
an unforgettable incident , a lifetime heart break.
I was desparate for masters’ education , wondering if I get masters
degree I will get a good job and will help my mother and brother ,
give them a better life and make a good life , a good life we always
dreamt off , every girl child dreams in a situation like mine. After
Angads death even Ronak got shattered , he lost focus , he lost
many times but he scored good in his 10th grade in 2015. He is
presently appearing in 12th , failing two times because of family
fights he couldn’t focus on his education.
Being the younger one , loosing his Elder brother and then family
issues, he is growing in a life nobody will ever want to live in. Being
the elder one I thought I will do masters and give him support and
provide him better education and be his support.
I am sharing my little experiences here in a hope that you would
understand and help me.
In reality the things are more worse , more struggle and always so
unexpected . All I want a better life for my mother as she is been
through lot , lost her mother in 2012 and then lost her middle child
in 2014 , facing rude behavior of my father each and everyday. She is
a been so kind and a humble lady , who never would have deserved
this what she is deserving now .
All I want a good life for my mother and brother , so that my mother
and brother wont loose hope and live a good life which is left for
them.
I hope you will understand and help me in every possible .

Thanking you ,
Gurpreet Kaur .

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NAME : GURPREET KAUR

I Gurpreet Kaur , from a Sikh background family , has always dreamt

I hope you will understand and help me in every possible .

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