FAMILY

The strength of a nation lies in the homes of its people. Abraham Lincoln.

AQUAINTANCE FRIENDSHIP COMPANIONSHIP ABC ABOUT ONES LIFE-PARTNER: Age, Beauty, Character, Dowry, Education, Family, God-fearing, Honest, Intelligent, Jovial, Kind, Loving, Magnanimous, Neat, Obedient, Punctual, Quick, Responsible, Sincere, Truthful, Understanding, Valiant, Wise, Yearning, Zealous. (All stand cancelled)
(Hudson Taylor did not marry the girl he loved because she was not committed to the cause of Missionary work in China.)

THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY Invocation: Ps. 118: 23, 24. 14: 4. Judges.

This is the Lords doing; it is marvellous in our eyes. This is the day that the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.

Eccl: 3:11 - He hath made everything beautiful

in his time. (Prov.18:22; Numb: 36:6>) 31:10-31. Is.34:16.

THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY IS A GOD-ORDAINED SOCIAL INSTITUTION Gods first social institution: Gen.1:27. The disintegration of the family will reflect in personal life; in social life; in vocational enterprise; in political life. Matrimony is a Psychological / Physiological Need. 1Cor. 7. Marriage is not any experiment, but a covenant, not a mere contract. Contracts are conditional; A covenant is unconditional. Christian Family relationship is not just for problemsolving, but for a deeper commitment and relationship. It is no mere adjustment. Gen. 2: 24 - Leave father and mother and Cleave. Leaving has to be complete, to cleave

The Plaited hair: EccI. 4: 12.

(A THREEFOLD CORD IS NOT QUICKLY BROKEN)

Parents are not to be too possessive. The Teak & Rosewood cot Culture
(The Wifes Teak Cot and the Husbands Rosewood Cot)

Marriage Math: 1+1 =

TO THINK BEFORE MARRIAGE: II Cor. 6: 14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for, what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? I Cor.7: 16, 39 For What knowest thou O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

HIERARCHY IN MARITAL RELATIONSHIP. I Cor. 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. Family Bicycle God
Children

Christ

W H
Willing Submission Loving Leadership
The back wheel bears: Seat Pedals Chain Carriage Break

Dynamo Stand.

FIVE COMMANDMENTS / WARNINGS- Col: 3: 18-21.

SUBMIT LOVE OBEY PROVOKE NOT - OBEYTHREATEN NOT. (These are not to be demanded)

SUBMIT (Not Submissive !)- Not enforced, but Willing.

(Eph. 5: 22, 23, 24, 33; 21; I Pt.3:1)
- Joyfully Ps. 40:8 - Purposefully Eph 5: 22 - Sacrificially Ps. 45: 10
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Col.3:18-

With Dignity I Pt. 3: 3,4

(The man wants to feel manly, a He-Man, heroic, not henpecked)

LOVE -- (Un-loving !) Cor. 13 Loving Leadership:

(Eph.5:25;

Jn.15:12; Rom.13:8) Interrelationship Mutual Trust.

I Pt.1:22;

OBEY -- (Disobedient !) Willing Obedience. (Eph.6:1-3)

Children! Obey your parents in the Lord: for, this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

(Col.3:20)

Children, obey your parents in all things: for, this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

ABOUT CHILDREN: (Prov.17:6) PROVOKE NOT (And ye fathers! Provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.)

Physical Growth Nourishment.

Shall we Play? No Time.

I Tim. 4:8 For bodily exercise profiteth a little; but godliness is profitable unto all things.

Emotional- They want to be accepted (love, praise, care.) Intellectual: Teach them to explore and experiment; Dont Criticize them always. Do not compare two children, to reprimand. Give them time and attention. (Play with them) Spiritual: Deut.6: Begin before a child is born. Do not leave responsibility to Sunday School teachers and Grand Parents. Tell
the child to tell a lie to someone, the child is bound to lie to the parents later. Teach a child, a little by what you say; Teach more by what you do; Teach them most by what you ARE. (Do as I say, not as I DO !!?)

SERVANTS, BE OBEDIENT

Eph.6: 5. Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters, according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; 6. Not with eye-service, as men-pleasers; but as servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; 7. With good will, doing service, as to the Lord and not to men. 8. Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.

THREATEN NOT

Eph.6:9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with Him.

FINALLY, GUARD YOUR RELATIONSHIP: I Pet. 3: 1,2,6,7.

1. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that if any obey not the Word, they also may without the Word be won by the conversation of the wives, 2. While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 6. Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 7. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Heb: 13:4. Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled. Mal. 2:15 Let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. Do not take counsel from non-believers to solve your issues. I Tim.5:14.

ROLES: HUSBAND: PROTECTS, PROVIDES, LEADS Eph.5: 28,29 (Priest Gen.18:19) II Kings 21:13. I will
wipe Jerusalem as a man wipeth a dish, wiping it, and turning it upside down.

WIFE: COMFORTS, NURTURES, COUNSELS. (Titus.2: 3-5, I Tim.2: 11,12) EXAMPLES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES IN THE WORD: Abraham Sarah Jacob Rachael,
(Gen.41:45)

Isaac-Rebecca Joseph - Asneth

Aquila Priscilla (Acts 18) they lived with Paul in Corinth and Ephesus. Rom.16:3; II Tim.4:19. - Commitment to faith. - Compatibility in vocation. - Cordiality at Home (Hospitality).
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Considerate to the needs of others. Church-life within home.

Wrong Influence: Ahab Isabel (I Kings: 21:7); Wrong Connection: Samson Delila (Judges:

14: 1-3) Ananias Saphira

Wrong Counsel: (Acts. 5:2)

PRACTICAL HINTS: 1. Study Bible passages related to couples.

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Survey a glossary of Bible verses on Matrimony.

3. Attend Christian Family Conferences or organize one. 4. Regularly attend worship together. 5. Never break house worship held twice.
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Restitute instantly if there occurred a difference of opinion. (Forgive and Forget Be Proud to be a loser) Communicate constantly. Patiently listen to your partner, however silly the subject be.

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8. Visit families (like-minded), and places of interest. Keep financial Account and maintain individual / family diary. 10. Do together, things of common interest.
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THE MANIFESTO OF A CHRISTIAN HOME The Christian Home is: 1.A place of peace and pleasure.

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place place place place

of of of of

Love and Liberty. Safety and Security. Hospitality and Entertainment. recreation.

WHAT MAKES A HOME CHRISTIAN? 1. A Christian Home is a place of Relationships. 2. 3. Harmony. 4. Submission. a place of Mutual a place of Equality. a place of

THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE LUBRICATOR OF RELATIONSHIPS. 7 TRUTHS ABOUT A CHRISTIAN HOME FROM EPHESIANS 5. 1.A place of Spirit-filled life (v.18) 2.A place of Communication (v.19a) (Holy Spirit is a Spirit of Communication.) 3.A place of Worship (v. 19 b) 4.A place of Harmony (v. 19) where feelings are respected. 5.A place of Acceptance (v. 20) 6.A place of gratefulness and Thankfulness (v. 20)

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A place of God-fearing and Mutual Submission (v.21)

10 MANIFESTATIONS OF DEPRESSION IN MARRIAGE.

1.

Absence of Romantic love conflict

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2. In-law 4. 6. Sexual 8. 10.

Low self-esteem / Ego Problems with the children 5. Financial Difficulties problems 7. Physiological problems Loneliness,isolation,boredom

9. Fatigue & Time pressure Aging

I CORINTHIANS 7.
1.It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2. Nevertheless to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 7. For I would that all men were even as I myself. 9. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than burn. 10. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband.

11. But and if she depart, let

her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 15. But if the unbelieving depart, let them depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases; but God hath called us to peace. 29. But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

39. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband

is dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

Prepared by Prof.Abraham Joseph Padinjattidom, Director, Lingua International, Kesavadasapuram Jn., Trivandrum, Keralam, 0091-9447-551699 [email protected]

Franca India.

SONG:

(TUNE: NJAANUMENTEI KUDUMBAVUM NJANGAL YEHOVAYEI SEIVIKUM) ( )

AS FOR ME AND MY-OWN HOMESTEAD WE WILL SERVE THE LORD JEHOVAH TRUSTWORTHY IN ALL OUR LIFE RELI-ABLE TO ALL-WHO TRUST A FORTRESS HE IS, HOPE IN SORROW THE CLEFTED ROCK AND-OUR-REFUGE.

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(A)-COMPANION IN TRIBULATION GRATIFYING MASTERMIND CONSTANTLY HE GIFTS HIS CHILDREN OUR-PROVIDER-IN EVERY NEED.. AS FOR ME

LIBERATING EVERY SINNER RELEASING THE TORTURED ONES PRESERVING ALL DESTITUTES AND

AILING CROWD..

HEALING ALL THE AS FOR ME

LORD OF ALL OUR GENERATION LEADER AND A SHEHERD SURE OUR PROTECTOR TO THE VICTORY THROUGH THE CLOUD AND FIRE BEAMS.. AS FOR ME

INCOME / EXPENDITURE FOR THE MONTH OF .. YEAR .

INCOME: EXPENDITURE: 1. TITHE .. 2. RENT .. 3. SALARY . 4. ELECTRICITY .. 5. TELEPHONE .. 6. TELEPHONE CARDS .

7. CABLE .. 8. COOKING GAS 9. NEWSPAPER .. 10. L.I.C 11. P.O / R/D / CHITTY 12. PETROL ... 13. PROVISION . 14. VEGETABLE 15. FISH / MEAT .. 16. MILK / CURDS .. 17. BAKERY 18. TRAVEL . 19. MEDICINE 20. INCIDENTAL EXPENSES . 1.

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