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    22 Terrifying Sexual Fantasies That

    Must Be Talked About


    By Alexander Cheves
    On 04/21/17

    22 Terrifying Sexual
    Fantasies That Must Be
    Talked About
    Feeling kinky? Memorize SSC and RACK.
    SSC stands for “Safe, Sane, and Consensual.”
    RACK stands for “Risk Aware Consensual
    Kink.” Your sex play must meet these
    requirements — no exceptions.

    Not every fantasy or fetish is safe, legal, or


    right to act upon. “Safe, Sane, and
    Consensual” was the universal safety mantra
    until we admitted that some acceptable sex
    practices are implicitly not “safe,” although
    their risks can be alleviated by playing
    smartly. Then RACK — “Risk Aware
    Consensual Kink” — was coined.

    Are you interested in fisting, suspension


    bondage, gut-punching, ball-busting, or
    heavy BDSM? That’s fine. You can do these
    things as long as you do them consensually
    and fully prepared for the risks. SSC and
    RACK draw a hard line at consent. You’re not
    allowed to cross this line. Ever. You may
    never do anything to anyone without their
    permission. While these rules sound obvious,
    they exist for a reason. There are many
    terrifying fetishes in the world — fetishes
    that fall far outside these limits. Acting on
    them will land you in prison, hurt you, hurt
    others, or worse.

    These need to be talked about because they’re


    real and many people have them. Knowledge
    is power — talking about them keeps
    everyone safer. Browse these 22 terrifying
    fantasies that you need to be aware of.

    A word of warning from


    Alex Cheves.
    My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am
    known by friends in the kink and leather
    community as Beastly. I am a sex-positive
    writer and blogger. The views in this
    slideshow do not reflect those of The
    Advocate and are based solely o" of my own
    experiences. Like everything I write, the
    intent of this piece is to break down the
    stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men.

    Those who are sensitive to frank discussions


    about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but
    consider this: If you are outraged by content
    that address sex openly and honestly, I invite
    you to examine this outrage and ask yourself
    whether it should instead be directed at those
    who oppress us by policing our sexuality.

    For all others, enjoy the slideshow. And feel


    free to leave your own suggestions of sex and
    dating topics in the comments.

    Hungry for more? Follow me on


    Twitter @BadAlexCheves and visit my
    blog, The Beastly Ex-Boyfriend.

    1. Autoerotic asphyxiation.
    MedicineNet.com states that around 1,000
    Americans annually find loved ones dead of
    self-inflicted autoerotic asphyxiation. These
    deaths are rarely seen as suicides. Most are
    simply dangerous acts of self-pleasure gone
    wrong.

    When you cut o" oxygen to your brain, the


    result can be a euphoric high. Some attempt
    this during masturbation — with rope, cords,
    and plastic bags over their heads. Doing so is
    deadly. It’s easy to pass out, su"ocate and die.

    The most famous case of autoerotic


    asphyxiation is the 2009 death of David
    Carradine, who played the title character in
    Quentin Tarantino’s Kill Bill: Volume 2.
    Carradine was found dead in his Bangkok
    hotel room. Although his death was
    immediately assumed a suicide, two separate
    pathologists later ruled that it was accidental.
    Shortly after, two of his former wives came
    forward and said Carradine was into self-
    bondage — another dangerous fetish. Never
    do bondage solo.

    Kinksters (kinky people) know the risks of


    breathplay. As a kink, it should only be done
    sober and with someone else. If you’re
    interested in gas masks and the sexy
    accoutrements of breathplay (cigars, rubber,
    etc.), you can be one of those healthy, happy
    kinksters who enjoy it.

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    2. The fetish for


    disfigurement and/or
    permanent bodily injury.
    Some submissives get turned on at the
    thought of being permanently disfigured by
    their dominants.

    If consent is given, are you allowed to injure


    or disfigure someone? No. The law will not
    be understanding. We don’t pardon people
    who intentionally, permanently injure
    someone else — even if it was done with the
    other person’s consent.

    3. The fetish of ripping off


    your d*ck.
    Ederacinism is the fetish practice of ripping
    o" your c*ck and b*lls. Some opinions on the
    internet, professional and nonprofessional,
    say this is less of a fetish and more of a sexual
    impulse done as the result of intense sexual
    shame. Some folks feel the urge to manually
    remove what they perceive to be the source
    of their “sinful” sexual impulses (which is not
    your genitalia — it’s your brain). The result is
    a bloody, self-castrating mess.

    If you’re struggling with shame for your


    desires and have contemplated ederacinism,
    seek a therapist.

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    4. The fetish of becoming an


    amputee.
    Acrotomophilia is sexual attraction to
    amputees and is actually common among
    fetishes. A more concerning fetish is
    apotemnophilia — the desire to become an
    amputee. If the fantasy of losing your lower
    leg turns you on, contact your nearest
    psychiatrist.

    5. Bug chasing.
    Bug chasing is when an HIV-negative person
    seeks HIV. “Bug chasing” is Grindr speak — a
    casual phrase for a heavily tabooed practice.

    I’m HIV-positive. I have been approached by


    many men who’ve asked me to “poz” them.
    When this happens, I say no — for two
    reasons.

    The first: HIV criminalization laws are


    severe, and no jury is going to believe
    someone asked to be infected, even if it’s true.
    These laws exist because of widespread
    cultural pozphobia and an outdated legal
    system, one which refuses to understand the
    modern reality of HIV. We easily criminalize
    HIV-positive folks while those who willfully
    and consensually play with us get an
    automatic free pass.

    The second reason: I have an undetectable


    viral load, so I have almost no chance of
    spreading my virus, even if we bareback for
    hours.

    Many sexperts say bug chasing is formed out


    of fear of HIV, an o"shoot of pozphobia
    itself. When the fear gets too paralyzing, we
    reason, folks develop a fetish for getting it —
    to alleviate the fear.

    HIV is now a manageable illness and hardly


    warrants paralyzing fear. I will attest to such.
    But there is a line, however murky, between
    eroticizing risky sex and eroticizing the virus
    that may come as a result of it. Self-
    destructive behavior may sound fun, but
    make sure you are eroticizing the behavior,
    not the self-destruction. The latter leads
    down a dark road, one I’ve seen many folks
    get lost on.

    6. The fetish for groping


    people in crowded places.
    Frotteurism is the fetish of touching
    strangers in a crowded place, like on public
    transportation. Most folks know this as
    “groping,” which is nonconsensual and
    doesn’t pass SSC or RACK. Not OK.

    7. The fetish for touching


    someone while they sleep.
    Somnophilia is erotic arousal from intruding
    on a stranger sleeping or waking someone up
    by touching them sexually. Consent cannot be
    given when someone is asleep, so acting on
    this impulse falls far outside SSC and RACK.
    This is molestation and sexual abuse — plain
    and simple. It can be deeply scarring to
    people. Don’t do it.

    8. The fetish for pubescent


    children.
    Hebephilia (di"erent from pedophilia, see
    number 11) is the sexual attraction to children
    between the ages of 11 to 14, the general age
    of puberty. Children cannot consent to sex as
    minors. You’re not allowed to have sex with
    kids. Period. This is a serious criminal
    o"ense.

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