DAILY PRACTICES OF LOVING YOURSELF

Transformation is sustained change, and it is achieved through practice. Transformation requires

a willingness to shift from our comfort zones. We must acknowledge that we are stuck in order
to change. You cannot get different results if you keep doing the same routines you have always
practiced, to get different results you need to do something different. If you want something you
never had, you have to do something you have never done.
As we embark on this one month journey it is important to note the small things you do on a
daily basis is what counts.
Most people have the kind of life they want to have but they don’t want to put in the work to
arrive there. Nothing will just come if you are not putting in the effort.
Getting out of your comfort zone may feel uncomfortable and you need to ask yourself how
remaining in current situation benefits you. You need to unlearn and relearn new ways that will
work on your favor. If you want your external environment to change, then you need to work on
your internal environment.
If you put yourself first and make sure that you are happy, accomplished, and healthy, you will
be in a better position to do the same for your family, friends, and others in your community,
whether offline or online. The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.
From this day begin forming new habits. Every habit takes practice to perfect it. It takes 21 to 30
days of consistent effort to form a new habit. It takes 90 to 100 days to make the new habit your
way of life. This means you have to continue with this daily habits even after the one-month
program is over.
For the next 30 days get an exercise book where you will do the following morning and evening
routines.
To the extent you love yourself will be determined by the work you do on self.
1.GRATITUDE
Whatever you focus your mind expands. When you focus on lack, you operate from a position of
loss and discontent and experience more lack. When you focus on abundance, you have more of
it.
Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it grows and the more power
you have to use on your behalf. If you do not practice gratefulness, is benefaction will go
unnoticed and your capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished. To be grateful is to find
blessings in everything. This is the most powerful attitude to adopt for there are blessings in
everything.
Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want but an all the time gratitude, the
kind where you notice the little things and where you constantly look for the good even in

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unpleasant situations. Start bringing gratitude to your experiences, instead of waiting for a
positive experience in order to feel grateful.
How to be grateful
Every morning before you do anything and every evening before you go to bed write a list of 5
things you are grateful about. These can be big things like your family or little things like the fact
that someone held the door open for you this morning.
2. UNCONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS
Forgive yourself first. Release the need to replay a negative situation over and over again in your
mind. Don’t become a hostage to your past by always reviewing and reliving your mistakes.
Remind yourself of what should have, could have or would have been. Release it and let it go.
Move on.
You must forgive those who hurt you, even if what they did to you is unforgivable in your mind.
You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven but because you don’t want to
suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you. Forgiveness is your own
mental healing. Forgiveness is an act of self-love.
Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It
means, rather that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship. Forgiveness is a
catalyst creating the atmosphere necessary for a fresh start and a new beginning.
Activity
Every morning, write down 5 people that you have decided to forgive unconditionally and have
compassion on them. This includes forgiving yourself too.
3. DAILY AFFIRMATIONS
Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging
and negative thoughts. Remember you have the power to create the life you want.
It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep
conviction, things begin to happen.
When affirming using the I am word, it is very power. Affirm you are what you want even
though you have not reached there. An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the
path to change.
How to do the I am affirmations
Every morning write down your daily affirmations.
Example of how to do the affirmation
I am kind
I am forgiving
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I am a great father

4.DAILY PRAYER OR DESIRE

This entails what you need divine guidance about as you begin the day. A day without prayer is a
day without blessing and a life without prayer is life without power. For example, you may need
guidance on doing your work or school projects. Write your daily prayer of that day.
5.DAILY DECLUTTER
Release something you no longer need. If your stuff isn’t serving you, it won’t be serving you
any better packed in a box somewhere. What I know for sure is that when you declutter whether
it’s on your home, your head or heart, it is astounding what will flow into that space that will
enrich you, your life and your family.
Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor, its anything that stands between you and the life you
want to be living. Keeping baggage from the past will leave no room for happiness in the future.
Every day declutter that memory, that way of thinking, those self-limiting beliefs.
6.DAILY ACT OF KINDNESS
Kindness is a habit of giving and of wanting to lift burdens from others or to merely provide a
helping hand or a shoulder to cry on. Do one act of kindness each day of the year and change 365
lives. Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly and most underrated agent of
human change. Simple kindness may be the most vital to the riddle of how human beings can
live with each other in peace and care properly for this planet we all share.
How to practice kindness
Like gratitude, kindness is a muscle that in order to make a habit of it, you must learn to practice.
Here are some simple things you and your child can do to practice kindness:
✓ Hold the door open for someone
✓ Genuinely compliment someone
✓ If you drive, let people in front of you when they are trying to get into your lane
✓ Pay for a friend’s lunch or coffee
✓ Volunteer for a charitable organization or something you believe in
✓ Say “thank you” often
✓ Don’t complain for a few days
✓ Send a card to someone who is going through a difficult time
✓ Forgive a debt that someone owes you
✓ Listen to people with interest when they speak to you
✓ When you receive exceptional service somewhere such as a restaurant or retailer, tell
their manager about your wonderful experience
✓ Be kind to someone you dislike or don’t get along with

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 ✓ While out grocery shopping, offer to return the cart of someone elderly or who has their
hands full.
7. DAILY SELF CARE
Self-care means taking care of yourself so that you can be healthy, you can be well, you can do
your job, you can help and care for others, and you can do all the things you need to and want to
accomplish in a day. Self-care includes everything related to staying physically healthy including
good hygiene, nutrition, and seeking medical care when needed. It’s all the steps an individual
can take to manage stressors in his or her life and take care of his or her own health and well-
being.
8.MIRROR WORK
Mirror work is a practice where you meet your reflection in the mirror and send yourself loving,
self-affirming affirmations, and even open up a conversation with yourself as if you're speaking
with a dear friend. It’s about getting to know yourself so you can face your life with courage as
an aligned and self-aware human being.
Start by making eye contact with yourself in the mirror. This may feel a bit odd and
uncomfortable at first, but just roll with it. The key is to witness yourself without judgment.
Hold eye contact and send yourself love. Have a laugh if you feel like it. That's okay.
Mirror exercise can be done as you do your daily affirmations. Say some of your favorite
affirmations out loud or just have a conversation with yourself. Say whatever makes you feel
really good.
9.JOURNALING
Journaling is one of the best ways to promote self-love. Regularly putting pen to paper can
provide you with daily reminders of exactly why you’re so awesome and unique and give you
the confidence to take the next steps in your own personal development journey.
Examples of journal prompts includes
✓ What are the five things that I currently accept about myself?
✓ What do I want to change most about myself? How can I first accept that part of myself
and love it?
✓ Where am I letting myself play small?
✓ Do I allow myself to accept compliments from others?
✓ What do I struggle to love most about myself? What can I do to begin to love that part of
myself?
✓ Where in my life do I have feelings of unworthiness for my own love?
✓ Where am I blocking my own love from myself?
10.EFT tapping

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EFT tapping for self-love is a great way to heal any negative relationship that you have with
yourself.
EFT tapping is known as the emotional form of acupuncture. It involves using your fingertips to
lightly tap on specific meridian endpoints on your face and body; thereby neutralising negative
emotions and overcoming limiting beliefs.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) can reprogram your mind, body, and spirit for
unconditional self-love. When you love yourself unconditionally everything falls into place.
When you love yourself unconditionally there is no room for depression, fear, anxiety, and all of
the other emotions that weigh us down.
What does it really mean to love yourself unconditionally?It is to love yourself without
conditions, with no strings or conditions attached. It is to accept yourself as you are in this
moment. To accept all parts of yourself: the good, the bad, and the parts of yourself that you
keep hidden. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally you become one with the essence
within you. You step into your power and become the magnificent being you were placed on this
earth to be.

To use EFT tapping, follow these five steps

1. Identify the issue
During this step, the person thinks about the problem that they wish to resolve. They should only
choose one issue to focus on at a time. In this case we are dealing with self-love.
2. Test the initial intensity
A person should rank the intensity of the issue on a scale of 0–10, with 10 being the worst the
issue has ever been. This ranking system allows the person to assess the effectiveness of the
tapping at the end of the session.
3. The setup
Before beginning each round of tapping, the person should decide on a simple reminder phrase to
repeat while tapping the karate chop point. This point is at the center of the fleshy part of the
outer hand.
The reminder phrase should acknowledge the issue and convey self-acceptance in spite of it. For
example, a person might choose to say:
“Even though I have [issue], I deeply and completely accept myself.”
4. The sequence
During this step, the individual taps on specific points on the body while repeating the phrase
that they have chosen.

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The tapping points, in sequence, are as follows:
top of the head (TOH) — directly in the center of the top of the head
beginning of the eyebrow (EB) — the beginning of the brow, just above and to the side of the
nose
side of the eye (SE) — on the bone at the outside corner of the eye
under the eye (UE) — on the bone under the eye, approximately 1 inch (in) below the pupil
under the nose (UN) — the point between the nose and upper lip
chin point (CH) — halfway between the underside of the lower lip and the bottom of the chin
beginning of the collarbone (CB) — the point where the breastbone (sternum), collarbone, and
first rib intersect
under the arm (UA) — at the side of the body, approximately 4 in below the armpit
When tapping, use two or more fingertips and repeat the tap approximately five times on each
point.
While some points — for example, the EB, SE, and UE — have a “twin point” on the other side
of the body, it is only necessary to tap on one side. However, individuals can tap these points on
both sides if both of their hands are free.
5. Test the intensity again
Again, rank the intensity of the issue on a scale of 0–10. Ideally, this will have improved. Repeat
the process until the intensity reaches 0 or plateaus.

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SUMMARY
Every morning
✓ write 5 things you are grateful about in your life
✓ write 5 people you forgive including yourself.
✓ Spend 2 to 3 minutes doing mirror as you affirm to yourself.
✓ Write 5 things in order of priority that you will do this day.
✓ Write an act of kindness that you will do
✓ Write down a new lesson you will learn today
✓ Share a valuable lesson with someone e.g in social media, in a place of work
✓ Write down one thing you will do for your self-care today e.g buying yourself a flower,
deep breathing exercises.
✓ Write a prayer for the day, something you need guidance on
Every evening
✓ Write 5 things that went well
✓ Write 5 something you are grateful for
✓ What is one thing you are celebrating yourself for no matter how small it is.
✓ Write something you want to forgive yourself about this evening
✓ Eft tapping on self-love

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