12

Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 5:
COPING WITH STRESS

51
 What can you say about your answers ? When stating negative answers, do
these causes you stress ? How ? Can you transform these negative impressions to a
positive one? How ? As continue reading this module, there are discussions below
that will inform you on what is stress all about, what are its causes and its effects.
Being gifted and bestowed with wisdom, you can cope with it. So, let’s continue and
get into the bigger picture.

What Is It

Learning from the activities above, you understand that your answers are
pointing to a common topic which is STRESS. There are many causes of stress and
their also many effects either to the person having it or to the person/s who induced
stress.

What is Stress ?
Stress – an emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension ( Webster dictionary ).
it is the feeling one gets from prolonged, pent-up emotions.

2 Types of Stress
EUSTRESS DISTRESS
this consists of our everyday stresses this is a form of negative stress that is
and is considered as good or positive experienced when the situation or event
stress because of the benefits it brings to
encountered is threatening or
people who experienced it. overwhelming and one’s ability to cope is
inadequate
Effects: help improve work performance, Effects: decrease work performance,
increase motivation and energy, excite cause anxiety and worry, can cause
an individual. mental, physical and health
consequences, unpleasant feeling.

Stressor/s - pertain to the causes of stress. It is a stimulus that is perceived to be a

threat or that which causes stress.

STRESSORS
The diagram below shows different kind of Stressors ( Girdano, Dusek, & Everly,2012, as cited in Taladua, 2018 )

Bioecological Psychointraper- Social Influence Technostress

Influence sonal Influence
Influence by Devastating
Biological and They involve some social causes emotions caused
ecological factors personality such as financial by the outpouring
such as sunlight, constructs like insecurity, amount of
gravitational pull, thoughts, beliefs, violation of information from
electromagnetic values, attitudes, human rights, online technology
fields, and opinions. like identity theft,
technological internet gambling,
environmental Stress happens advances,
toxins, solar distractions of
when any of them lifestyle behavior, emails and text
radiation, noise are violated. peer pressures, messages, etc.
pollution, etc. (Levy)
etc.

55
Coping with Stress

Stress is part of growing up. You may feel pressure in everything you do,
both at home and in school. Broken cellphone, a failed exam,
miscommunication with parents and teachers, late in coming to school, a
conflict with a classmate – all these are your stressors or causes of stress.
You experience stress when you respond to your stressors that you perceive
to surpass your capabilities.
You can check your ways of coping, because they can be either PROBLEM-
FOCUSED or EMOTION-FOCUSED.

1. PROBLEM-FOCUSED METHODS - deal with the stressors directly in

practical ways which include:
A. Seeking social support – talking and discussing the problems.
B. Anticipatory Coping – anticipate the symptoms and feelings
of stress and we can do something to
avoid them.
2. EMOTION-FOCUSED METHODS - used when a person has no capacity
to deal with the source of the problem which include:
A. Defense Mechanism – pretending it’s not happening.
B. Reappraisal – take another look of the situation and
change the way they feel.
C. Arousal Reduction – the person is less aroused, feels less
stressed, like in meditation.

There are other techniques on how to manage stress:

1. Track your stressors 7. Develop healthy responses

2. Establish boundaries 8. Eat healthy and nutritious foods
3. Smile and Laugh 9. Exercise
4. Take time to recharge 10. Sleep 9 – 11 hours
5. Learn how to relax 11. Talk to your parents, teachers, elders,
6. Pray to God pastors/priests

Personal Ways of Coping with Stress

When you are stressed out, you may probably feel overwhelmed. These are
the following ways to cope with stress:

1. Take a deep breath, get more oxygen for you to think logically and clearly.
2. Having a massage, taking a warm shower or even taking a nap can calm
your muscles.
3. Engaging in physical activities such as brisk walking and playing
favorite games, will divert your attention.
4. When you deal stress, learn to comfort yourself.
5. Comfort yourself for some limitations and forgiving those who hurt you.
6. Choose of being a good person and improving yourself.
7. Soothe yourself with aromatherapy like before exam you can wear your
favorite perfume.
8. Crying in your private room.
9. Talking about what you feel and what you think about your situation.

56
 WHAT IS HOW TO
MENTAL MAINTAIN
HEALTH ? MENTAL HEALTH ?

Mental Health – refers to a state of well-being in which the individuals

realizes one’s own abilities and potentials, scopes adequately with the
normal stresses of life, display resilience in the face of extreme life events,
works productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a positive
contribution to the community. ( Republic Act 11036 )

MAINTAINING MENTAL HEALTH

1. Think bright. Think well. Be positive. Keep your optimism high, look
on the bright side of life and count your blessings everyday.
2. Do what is right. Take good action. Take care of yourself. Avoid risky
behaviors. If uncertain or confused, seek guidance or ask for help.
consult your parents, teachers, counsellors, and other people you
trust.
3. Be on the move. Exercise it lifts your mood, keep you fit and energizes
you.
4. Be strong. Manage your stress. Know what gives you stress and deal
with them. Find ways to slow down and relax look away from gadgets,
enjoy the beauty of nature, breathe some fresh air. Be strong and
resilient.
5. Lift yourself up. Build your confidence. Avoid negative people, value
and develop your abilities, know your weaknesses and find your
strengths, love the gifts from God in you and surround yourself with
people and things that will inspire and make you happy.
6. Find peace inside and out. Accept yourself and your circumstances.
it is the best point to bring about changes. Take quiet time to be at
peace, bring peace round you and it goes back to you.
7. Develop life skills. Learn to manage time, how to budget, learn how to
cook, repair or fix things, learn how to apply first aid, learn to ask
help, learn to survive, learn our laws, learn basic self defense and etc.
8. Establish a support network. It is good to have a group whom you can
turn to when you need for some help.
9. Help someone. Be useful, volunteer, apply what you learn, be a gift to
others.
10. Enhancing self-esteem. Means self worth. You are confident, feel good
about yourself, find ways to improve, work cooperatively.
11. Enhancing resilience. The capacity to recover from an unpleasant
experience. Resilient individuals can return to their original condition
after a life changing experience such illness or an accident. Establish
connections to people, accept reality that nothing is permanent, love
and take care of self, and knows how to solve problems.

57
 12. Developing self- regulation. The capacity to control and monitor
your own behavior. It is setting goals and standard and delaying
gratification of needs. Examples: you do not play cellphone because
you must focus on deadlines at school, do not use any social media
during midterm and final tests, skip attending parties to focus on
your studies.
13.Enhancing social skills. The abilities to relate more effectively with
others. May help you meet outstanding people and build strong
connections with them when you are about to build your career. Set
your limitations or boundaries, show empathy to others, learn to
negotiate, promote good feelings, be thankful and appreciative,
practice forgiveness, learn to help others and accept help from others.

From the discussion above, you already know what stress all about,
there many causes of stress or stressor. You know too, the effects of stress
on you. Stress is inevitable in life; but we can take steps to avoid and prevent
it. We must have a balance life, knowing how to handle and relieve ourselves
from it by maintaining mental health.

What’s More

Instructions: Read the poem carefully and answer the questions below. “The Portal
of the Mystery of Hope” which was written by a French poet, Charles Péguy ( charls
pegi ). The poem is written from God’s perspective and is meant to remind man that
God is happy with His people when they give importance to sleep.

Just sleep. Why don’t people, make use of it ? I’ve given this secret to everyone, says God, I
haven’t sold it. He who sleeps well, lives well. He who sleeps, prays. He who works, prays too. But
there’s time for everything. Both for sleep and for work. Work and sleep are like two brothers. And
they get on very well together. And sleep leads to work just like work leads to sleep. He who works
well sleeps well, he who sleeps well works well.
And yet they tell me that there are men who don’t sleep. I don ‘t like the man who doesn’t sleep,
says God. Sleep is the friend of man. Sleep is the friend of God. Sleep may be my most beautiful
creation. And I too rested on the 7th day. He whose heart is pure, sleeps. And he who sleeps has a pure
heart. This is the great secret to being as indefatigable as a child.
Yes, they tell me that there are men who work well and who sleep poorly. Who don’t sleep.What
a lack of confidence in me.
I’m talking about those who work and who don’t sleep. I pity them. I’m talking about those who
work, and who thus in doing this are the following my commandment, poor children. And who, on
the other hand, don’t have the courage, don’t have the confidence to sleep. I pity them. I hold it against
them. A bit. They don’t trust me. As a child lays innocently in his mother’s arms, thus do they not lay
innocently in the arms of my Providence. They have the courage to work. They don’t have the courage
to do nothing. They possess the virtue of work. They don’t possess the virtue of doing nothing. Of
relaxing. Of resting. Of sleeping. Unhappy people, they don’t know what’s good.
-Charles Péguy

Let us now analyze the poem by answering the following questions. Write your
answers in a complete sentence using your notebook or any sheet of paper available.

58
 12

Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 6:
Powers of the Minds

64
 You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by
a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus.

a. 1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

b. 2. An old friend who once saved your life.
c. 3.Questions:
The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

1.Knowing that there can be only one passenger in your car, whom would you
choose?______________________________________________________________.
2.What are your reasons in choosing that person ? _____________________.

What Is It

When you choose the answers based on the activity above, what part of the body
you used ? Correct ! It is your brain.

The human brain is the center of the nervous system. It centralized the control of
all organ systems. As early as 1664 a British doctor Thomas Willis, concluded that
the brain is responsible for mental functioning. In an extensive research on the brain
by Dr. Jay Giedd, he found out that the human brain has a natural tendency to
prune itself by slashing brain cells and strengthening connections in the puberty
stage the brain jumps into a growth spurt and physical and mental development
where radical change in the brain happens and teen’s brain is shaped by experiences
and brain cells rearranged themselves and neurons connecting each other are
strengthened.

Photocourtesy:https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Major_parts_of_the_brain.jpg

68
The brain has 3 major parts:

1. Cerebrum – is the largest of the three brain sections for about 85 % of the brain’s
weight and has four lobes. It is responsible for most thinking and learning.
Functions for sensing, integrating and action.

Four Lobes of Cerebrum

a. Parietal Lobe - helps people understand

what they see and feel.
b. Frontal Lobe - determines personality
and emotions.
c. Occipital Lobe - function for visual
processes.
. d. Temporal Lobe – responsible for hearing
and word recognition.
Photo courtesy: nationchildrens.org

2. Cerebellum – this region controls voluntary movement. It is located just

below the rear part of the cerebrum and right behind the brain stem. It is
highly organized brain structure, coordinates movements and stores the
memory of automatic movements. It involved in mental rehearsal of motor
tasks and improved your performance and skills.

Neurons – are the basic functional units of the nervous system. They are comprised
of a nerve.
Cell body -contains the nucleus that manufactures molecules that neurons need to
survive and function.
Axon - responsible for receiving signals from the dendrites and transmitting
them to other neurons in the brain or in other organs.
Dendrite - responsible for receiving messages from other nerve cells, which
looks like branches at the end of nerve cells.

Neurons are formed through a process called neurogenesis. The signal jumps from
the end of the dendrite on one cell across the space to the dendrite of another cells
is called synapses with the help of this chemicals called neurotransmitters such
as dopamine ( attention, memory and cognition) endorphins ( to fight stress and
pains). By doing physical exercises it release endorphins to help us feel good and
relax after.

69
 Photo courtesy: researchgate.net

3. Brain Stem – connects the spinal cord and the brain. It controls functions that
keep people alive such as breathing, heart rate, blood pressure and food
digestion. Your vital body functions such as heartbeat, respiration, body
temperature and digestion are monitored and controlled by the brain stem.

Reticular Activating System – located in brain stem, responsible for your brain’s
alertness.
Limbic system - located above the brain stem and below the cerebrum, composed of
structures that have different functions such as generation of emotion and
processing of emotional memories.

4 Parts of the Limbic System

Photo courtesy: pininterest.com

1. Thalamus – involved in many cognitive activities, including memory.

2. Hypothalamus – it moderates different body functions which include sleep,
feelings, body temperature, food intake by controlling the release of some
hormones.
3. Hippocampus – it consolidates learning and converts information to the
long-term storage regions.
4. Amygdala – take part in emotions especially fear and regulating your
interactions with your environment that can help you survive such as whether
you attack, escape, mate or eat, emotional element of memory is stored.

70
 LATERALIZATION OF THE BRAIN

Closely related to the theory of Joseph Bogen & Roger Wolcott Sperry that certain
cognitive processes are dominant in one hemisphere that in the other, each
hemisphere stores information in different ways or separately functions different
from the other.

Left Hemisphere Right Hemisphere

1. Is connected to the right 1. Is connected to the left side of

side of the body of the body
2. Analytical thought 2. Intuitive thought/Spatial
3. Detail oriented perception 3. Holistic perception
4. Ordered sequencing 4. Random sequencing
5. Rational thought 5. Emotional Thought
6. Verbal 6. Non-verbal
7. Cautious 7. Adventurous
8. Planning 8. Impulse
9. Math/Science 9. Creative writing/ Art
10. Logic 10. Imagination
11. Right Field Vision 11. Left Field Vision
12. Process positive such as joy 12. Handling negative emotions
13. Being on time 13. A good times
14. Being thoughtful 14. Being active

Are you a left brain or a right brain? If you answer either of the two, this does not
mean that we have two brains it is just we have only one brain and has many
functions. This could be more highly evident in the different hemisphere. Ideally, we
must be balanced capable of using our intellect and the same time creative.

What’s More

Activity 3: MY BRAIN DOMINANCE

Are you a right brain or left brain person ? If you answer either one of it, how
many brains do we have ? Before you get fall by the question, rest assure that you
have only one brain inside your head. Take time to answer the next activity in
which you will know what brain dominance you belong. Write your answers on
your notebook or any separate sheet of paper.

______I am very organized _____ I work best in a quiet space.

______I remember faces more than names. _____ I daydream a lot.
_____ I think things through ______I hate taking risks.
before making a decision.
_____ If someone’s mad at me, ______ I tend to get emotional.
_____ I can tell even without _____ I make a to-do-list.
the person saying a word. ______ I trust my “gut instinct”.

71
 12
Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 7:
PERSONAL PLAN &
EMOTIONS

76
PERSONAL PLAN TO ENHANCE BRAIN FUNCTION
Improving your brain through constant practice and checking your health
it is crucial especially the different adjustments and coping abilities. The brain
continues working even when you are at asleep. The brain works in a slower
pace and if the brain stops life cease to exist. To comprehend situational
problems and to train one's brain to handle these challenges, will give an
assurance of making right and logical decisions. True enough, if you are
consistent in being stagnant and refuse to learn new things, you are the risk
of eliciting your capacity to improve. (In Praise of the Idle Mind; Davis, 2019)

What is Thinking ?

Thinking – it involves manipulating mental representation and prevents us from

making a mistake ( Robertson, 1999 ).

A . CRITICAL THINKING - requires logic and coherence as we try to analyze, synthesize,

evaluate, and interpret information rather than simply apply technical abilities.
( Andolina, 2001).
- we try to evaluate , formulate good arguments, we arrange information in a coherent
way by making connection to other ideas, considering alternative sources and assessing
their implications, looking for cause and effect and making generalizations.
Metacognition - it refers to the awareness and knowledge about one’s own thought
process and the ability to use the knowledge in managing one’s own thinking
processes, such as problem solving and comprehension ( Bruning, Schraw, Norby, & Ronning, 2004 )

B. CREATIVE THINKING – the production of effective novelty through the operation

of our mental processes. (Halford, 2004 ). Creativity depends not only our ability to do
things but to represent what has been done. Creative thinking must be able to
represent relations. A creative person can see relationship of things around through
art, music, dance and movement, and other forms of creative activity.

ENHANCING CREATIVITY THROUGH MIND MAPPING

Mind map - is a graphic technique which provides a universal key to unlock

the potentials of the brain. ( Tony Buzan, father of Mind Mapping ) This one technique
he designed and endorses because it fosters whole-brain development.

In a mind map, one concept, idea or topic is represented using an image. Key words
are then associated with it and are placed in major branches that are color coded.
These branches spread out into twigs containing key words. Each branch and twig
contain only one keyword.

https://www.google.com/search?q=mind+map+example+black+and+white+color+tony+buzan&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved
=2ahUKEwjz5tHT6tXqAhWZUt4KHbfeBd4Q_AUoAXoECA0QAw&biw=1229&bih=603#imgrc=h9JtV_w1txOgoM

80
 Mind mapping does not only create and structure ideas but also it helps store
new information and test them.

UNDERSTANDING THE INTESITY AND DIFFERENTIATION OF

EMOTIONS

Emotion - is your reaction to any stimulus and comes from your limbic system. It
a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood or
relationship with others. ( Oxford dictionary ). Emotion finds a way in expression. By our
facial expression, people recognize what we feel. Facial expression communicates our
emotions, it can be misleading, exaggerated or minimized. Facial expression is
universal, can be seen in human as well as in animals. We learn facial expression
that is one recognized or approved by one’s culture. According to Paul Ekman and
Carrol Izard there are 7 emotions that have universal facial expressions - anger,
contempt, disgust, fear, joy, sadness and surprise.

3 Components of Emotions

COGNITIVE PHYSICAL BEHAVIORAL

COMPONENT COMPONENT COMPONENT
refers to person’s appraisal is the body’s reaction to is the action tendency to
of the situation. feeling or emotions. deal with certain
Ex. if an experience as Ex, when a person is emotions. such as
threatening, negative anxious his/her evading a frightening
emotions such as anger or heartbeat becomes situation or leaving
anxiety may be felt faster or even unfinished tasks because
experience fainting of boredom.

2 TYPES OF EMOTIONS

POSITIVE EMOTIONS NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

may help to become more motivated may reduce person’s efficiency and even
in doing the tasks and may develop motivation to perform certain tasks
creativity or establish harmonious
relationship with others and
associated with good physical and
psychological conditions.
e.g. happiness, love, joy, hope and e.g. anger, range, boredom and
excitement,satisfaction, disgust,fear,sadness,loneliness,annoyance,
interest,amusement,contentment, melancholy
serenity

81
 2 TYPES OF EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION ( Paul Ekman )

MACROEXPRESSIONS MICROEXPRESSIONS
typically last between 0.5 – 4 seconds are expressions that go on and off he face
and involve the entire face. These are in a fraction of a second, as fast as 1/30
emotions that we do not intend to hide seconds. Can happen so fast that one
and occur whenever we are alone or cannot recognize or see them easily.
with family or close friends.
Ex. emotions expressed through macro Ex. you give a friend a gift she does not
expressions include anger, shock, like and your friend does not want to see
sadness, happiness and excitement. his or her true feeling this occur too fast
that you might never recognize because
she or he smiles that you only see,

Emotions are measured through self-report instruments or psychological tests.

They can be measured through physiological ways such as monitoring the heartbeat,
blood pressure, sweating of palms and even through blood chemistry and brain
activities. It can be measured through behavioral manifestation such as facial
expressions and tone of the voice.

• Emotions tell you something is wrong – when you fell that something is not right,
listen to your body. Your intuition may be guiding you on what to do. Your feelings
of unease or discomfort can alert you on a potential danger of misfortune these
feelings are prompting you to respond and guide you not to make hasty decisions.
• Emotions allow you to maintain and develop your relationships into meaningful
ones. Shame, guilt, and pride are negative ones. Emotions allow us to realize that
we have done wrong to our family, friends, neighbors and thus we make an apology
for such actions. Positive emotions such as being loved, feeling accepted or
understood warms the heart and makes relationship valuable.
• Emotions create opportunities to see things meaningfully. We see the purpose of our
lives and we become more capable of making and doing our choices.
• Emotions bring out feelings of self-respect and self-worth. The more that you feel
good about yourself, the more open you are for the many opportunities and
challenges in life. Live your life to the fullest and celebrate your emotions.

What’s More

After reading the concepts above, you realize now that you must know how to
manage emotions. When emotions are strong, you sometimes lose control in
handling your feelings, thoughts, and actions that might affect you or the other
person. Your emotions tell you something wrong. Your feelings must be prompt in
responding situations and guide you not to make hasty decisions.
Now, you do something for yourself to evaluate your emotions, how you react and
what’s your possible plan of actions.

82
 12
Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 8:
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

87
 What’s New

You noticed the activities above which tells your reactions to a certain situation
and where your emotion determines the way how you answer the questions, Right ?
May I give you another activity which will be usable to you in managing your
emotions.

Activity 1: MY EMOTION, MY REACTION.

Please read the questions below and write your reactions in a sentence to a separate
sheet of paper or to your notebook.

1. Your partner in project raised his voice at you because you did not understand
his instructions and you ruined the project .____________________________
2. You overheard someone from other section criticize your class president as
ineffective leader. _________________________________________________________
3. You and your parents have misunderstanding. ______________________________
4. You are attending a party and accidentally the server spilled the wine to your
dress. _____________________________________________________________________
5. You were telling to your best friend an exciting news about your passing the UP
College Admission Test however, he/she is not listening to you.___________.

What Is It

Hello there Senior High Learner! What did you notice to your answers above ?
Was there an emotion shown in the activity ? What can you say about your emotions
? Can you control it ? This time let us know about managing emotions as you
continue reading this module.

MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS

Managing your emotions you need to notice and be aware of your emotions.
Recognize what you feel in a particular situation or experience. For example, let’s say
your boyfriend or girlfriend didn’t tell you that he/she has engaged with another.
How would you feel ? You might ask yourself why he or she did it to you. You think
either positively or the other way around.
There are times that you would manifest different emotions, you may not talk to him
or her, you will cry inside your room and ask yourself what is lacking in you, you
want to be alone or for the short moment you will not talk to him or her.

Photocourtesy: Deped Learning Port

91
STEPS ON MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS

1. Noticing and being aware of your emotions

You have to recognize what you feel in a particular situation or

experience.
2. Identify and name what you feel

You may feel angry, disappointed, and even betrayed, these

negative feelings are the reasons that you want space, or that
you don’t want to see and talk to the person.

3. Managing your emotions by owning and accepting what you feel

There is nothing wrong when you feel angry it is normal and by

owning and accepting mean you are responsible to your
behavior as a result of the negative actions.

4. Discernment

You don’t just recognize what you feel but also take responsible
action or steps to deal with your feelings. You may not talk for
the moment because you are angry but you cannot stay with
that mode forever.
5 Take necessary actions

You should make reflective action regarding your emotions. You

must decide either you are going to terminate the relationship
or forgive the person and continue a healthy relationship with
person. A saying goes “ to err is human, to forgive is divine.”

Emotional Intelligence

All adolescent must begin to master the emotional skills necessary to manage
stress and be sensitive and effective in relating to other people. These skills have
been called “emotional intelligence” ( Goleman, 1994 as cited from APA 2002 ). It involves self-awareness,
social awareness, self – management and the ability to get along with others and make
friends. Emotionally intelligent person is competent in identifying how various
emotions affect him or her. You need to know how to identify, understand.

OTHER FACTORS ON MANAGING EMOTIONS

1. Entails skills and flexibility . This means being honest with what you feel. It
also means knowing how, when, and where to express it. Emotionally
intelligent person knows that he or she has to stay calm first he might utter
hateful words that might be regretted later.

92
 2. It involves developing various strategies. Means not only one way to respond
the situations but you have always a choice. Being careful with your thoughts
may lead you to be more emotionally intelligent. Ex. You have your best friend
coming to you and you smiled at her, but she didn’t respond. So it might be
that your first interpretation you will get angry at her for not responding you,
but it you are emotionally intelligent you will not fell bad about it, probably she
didn’t notice you smile.
3. Taking time to understand why you feel the way you do before acting upon
your emotions. Thinking and studying your options allows you to make an
informed and wise decisions. Physical activities such as exercise and playing
games, release tensions, clear your minds and give you more time to
understanding situations.
4. Learn from experiences when looking for something positive about the
situation. ex. feeling sad when you received a low grade, that feeling of sadness
is telling something is wrong in your study habits so you have to change how
you do the things.
5. Knowing how to manage your emotions and that all emotions have positive
intent and may be used at your advantage. ex. you have to be honest with
your feelings, write or talk about it, bear in mind that you need to express your
emotions in appropriate manner in a right place and a right time. Talk to God
about your problems, “there is no problem too big, God cannot solve it.”

Emotional Intelligence is a combination of several different skills

1. Being aware of your emotions

This means simply noticing them as you feel them and being able to notice and
accurately label in your mind those feelings ( ex, “ I feet great”, “I feel frustrated )
everyday. This also helps us to understand how other people feel. Make it a habit
to be aware of your emotions.

2. Understanding How others feel and Why

Part of EQ is being able to imagine how other people might feel certain situations.
It is about understanding why they feel the way they do. We develop the idea of
empathy – being able to imagine what emotions a person is likely to be feeling even
when you don’t actually know.

3. Managing Emotional Reactions

Means knowing when, where, and how to express yourself. When you understand
your emotions and know how to manage them, you can use self-control to hold a
reaction if now is not the right time or place to express it.

93
 4. Choosing your mood

Moods are emotional state that a last a bit. You have the power to decide what
mood is good for a situation and get into that mood. Choosing your mood can help
someone get motivated, concentrate on a task or try again. You can control emotions
by knowing which mood is best for a particular situation and get into that mood.
5. Emotional Quotient : Under Construction

Emotional Intelligence / Quotient ( EQ ) is something that develops as you grow

older. Some skills develop earlier, may be easier. Example: knowing emotions seems
easy one, but skill of managing emotional reactions and choosing a mood might seem
to hard to master that’s because part of brain responsible for self-management.
Continues to mature beyond our teen years. We can all work to build stronger
emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence and School

According to Johnson ( 2009 ), the most crucial element for a student’s success
in school is an understanding of how to learn. Some key factors for this
understanding are self -confidence, self-control, capacity to communicate, and
ability to cooperate. These traits are all aspects of emotional intelligence.
Adolescents with high emotional intelligence will also have a good relationship with
teachers and parents which also helps them to perform well in examinations. It is also
easy for students with good EQ to relate well with peers and are not likely to use
drugs or alcohol.

What’s More

After reading the discussions above, you realize now that you must know
how to manage emotions. When emotions are strong, you sometimes lose control in
handling your feelings, thoughts, and actions that might affect you or the other
person. Your emotions tell you something wrong. Your feelings must be prompt in
responding situations and guide you not to make hasty decisions.

Activity 2: EMOTIONS ARE MINE

In your notebook or in a separate sheet of paper I want you to share some

present experiences about those unforgettable moments where your emotions were
revealed, it can be positive or negative emotions. You make a One Week Diary. In
each day from Monday to Sunday you are going to write in a sentence or paragraph
the events unforgettable on that day. For positive ones you can add sentences on
how you can sustain it, while on negative happenings you make a resolution or
action in a sentence on how you can manage next time these bad emotions happen.

94
 Emotion Sun. Mon. Tues. Wed. Thur. Fri. Sat.
Positive
Negative

Have you noticed that as you are making this diary you are slowly controlling your
negative emotions and turning this to positive one? While you develop a holistic
personality as you sustain those positive traits as shown in your positive emotions.
Keep it up! you are on the right track.

What I Have Learned

After doing the activities above and reading the discussion too. May I ask you to
do simple recall by enumerating or discussing what have you learned in this lesson
by writing in a separate sheet of paper or in your notebook.

Activity 3: KWL CHART

K What I know about W What I wonder about L What I learned about

the topic? the topic? the topic?

What I Can Do

Activity 4: COLLAGE MAKING “CELEBRATING MEMORIES OF EMOTIONS”

Create your story of celebrating emotions. Using the materials below you will
create a collage that will depict on “ Celebrating Memories of Emotions”. You make
label or add caption on it by cutting letters from old magazines or newspapers or any
materials you want to use that is available in the house.

Instructions:
1. Use a clean sheet of papers/cartolina/illustration board or any materials that
is available.
2. Cut old pictures from magazines brochures, any colored materials available.
3. Coloring materials, colored papers/ art papers / tissue paper.
4. Paste or glue, pair of scissors.
5. Other materials that is available in the house to add beauty to the collage.

95