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    This document discusses the difference between typical relationships and enlightened relationships. In a typical relationship, partners are focused on sharing living environments and responsibilities, as well as friendship and physical intimacy. They seek to improve the relationship through communication strategies and compromise. Relationships are often need-based and involve dependency. Growth occurs through experience. An enlightened relationship has partners who mutually support each other's personal growth. They share interests, quality time together, and help each other reach their potential. The relationship is want-based rather than need-based. Partners value individual wholeness over roles and see the relationship as a means for conscious growth. Both people must be willing to work on themselves to have an enlightened relationship.

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    This document discusses the difference between typical relationships and enlightened relationships. In a typical relationship, partners are focused on sharing living environments and responsibilities, as well as friendship and physical intimacy. They seek to improve the relationship through communication strategies and compromise. Relationships are often need-based and involve dependency. Growth occurs through experience. An enlightened relationship has partners who mutually support each other's personal growth. They share interests, quality time together, and help each other reach their potential. The relationship is want-based rather than need-based. Partners value individual wholeness over roles and see the relationship as a means for conscious growth. Both people must be willing to work on themselves to have an enlightened relationship.

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    This document discusses the difference between typical relationships and enlightened relationships. In a typical relationship, partners are focused on sharing living environments and responsibilities, as well as friendship and physical intimacy. They seek to improve the relationship through communication strategies and compromise. Relationships are often need-based and involve dependency. Growth occurs through experience. An enlightened relationship has partners who mutually support each other's personal growth. They share interests, quality time together, and help each other reach their potential. The relationship is want-based rather than need-based. Partners value individual wholeness over roles and see the relationship as a means for conscious growth. Both people must be willing to work on themselves to have an enlightened relationship.

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    What is an Enlightened Relationship?

    We are energetic, emotional, social beings. We experience life in an ever-


    changing sea of emotional ebbs and flows, energetic pushes and pulls, and social
    interconnectivity. Above all else, human beings experience life through relationships. All
    forms of associations are important to us: connections within our community, bonds
    with family, and intimacy with romantic partners. Our relationships are so vital to our
    existence that their quality and status have the power to completely alter every aspect of
    our lives, from living situations to employment and from our beliefs about ourselves to
    our moment-to-moment emotional states.
    For most people, their relationship with a romantic life-partner is of supreme
    importance and receives a tremendous amount of energy and focus. A quick search on
    Amazon for "love," "relationships" or "soul mates" will reveal the millions of self-help
    books and romance novels on such topics. In recent years, online dating sites abound
    and social pick-up spots remain as active as ever. There is no question that those who
    are single are eagerly seeking "the one." At the same time, those who find themselves in
    relationships are often restless to seek improvement and a deeper connection.
    As the world undergoes economic, social and energetic shifts, more and more of
    us are feeling drawn to raise our standards in relationships, especially our most intimate
    ones. As our world view changes, our understanding of our roles and expectations also
    shift, and many of us are finding it easier to release relationships that no longer serve us.
    Those of us who are experiencing personal transformation are seeking partners
    who are in alignment with our higher selves. Rather than continue to live out the
    patterns of our past, we seek a deeper connection, an enlightened relationship, a soul
    mate.
    However, there is common misperception about soul mates, mainly that there is
    only "one," and that once you find that individual, life is eternally blissful. In truth, soul
    connections are plentiful in life. Throughout our lives we meet people with whom we
    have a spiritual alignment, such as certain friends, family members, or romantic
    partners. They stir our souls when we meet them, and it feels as though we've known
    them all our lives. These soul connections impact our lives in powerful ways, and each
    one serves a unique purpose. When one connects to a soul mate in a romantic
    relationship, the experience is powerful and magical; however, the intensity of the
    feelings and the certainty of the importance of the relationship do not guarantee that the
    partnership will last long-term.
    Often, even in soul mate relationships, breakdowns occur because either or both
    partners are not prepared for the relationship.
    Rather than focusing on the desire to attract a "soul mate" or perfecting your
    current relationship, I recommend starting by raising your own awareness,
    consciousness, and emotional readiness to prepare yourself to experience an
    enlightened relationship.
    An enlightened relationship is one in which both partners are actively working on
    aligning with their higher selves.

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    As each partner becomes more conscious, aware, and enlightened, he or she
    becomes better able to operate within a relationship, of any kind, from a place of
    emotional stability, empowered decision making and genuine love.
    Below we have illustrated the difference between a typical romantic relationship
    and what is possible in an enlightened relationship.
    Typical Relationship: Enlightened Relationship:
    Characteristics: Characteristics:
    Shared living environment Shared interests and time together
    Shared responsibility Mutual support for growth
    Friendship Emotional intimacy
    Physical intimacy True companionship

    Improve relationship with: Improve relationship with:


    Communication strategies Creating a shared life vision
    Compromise Increasing quality time together
    Remembering commonalities Helping each other reach their potential
    Accepting differences Improving the depth of your connection
    Becoming aware of triggers and patterns Learn each other’s love language

    NEED: Dependency/Enmeshment WANT: Union


    Roles/Conflict Wholeness/Cooperation
    Growth Through Experience Conscious Growth

    Where does your current or past relationship fall?


    IN EACH CATEGORY, CIRCLE WHICH (TR or ER) APPLIES TO YOUR
    CURRENT OR PAST RELATIONSHIP.
    CHARACTERISTICS
     Typical Relationship (TR): Shared living environment, shared
    responsibility, friendship, physical intimacy.
     Enlightened Relationship (ER): Shared interests and time together,
    mutual support for growth, emotional intimacy, and true companionship.
    STRATEGIES FOR IMPROVEMENT
     TR: Improve through learning relationship skills: Communication
    strategies, compromise, remembering and sharing commonalities,
    recognizing differences and accommodating them, becoming aware of
    triggers and patterns, and learning each other’s love language.
     ER: Improve by learning about yourself: Creating a shared life
    vision, increasing quality time together, helping the other reach his or her
    highest potential, improving the depth of your connection, developing a
    deeper understanding of your uniqueness, and more fully recognizing and
    transcending your triggers and patterns.

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    ATTACHMENT
     TR: Relationship based on need: Relationships are often clingy and
    based on dependency. It is common for individuals to withdraw from
    friends and family, base their identity within the relationship, and
    experience drama.
     ER: Relationship based on want: An experience of true union.
    Partners genuinely want to spend time together as two separate people
    sharing one path. This only works when neither person makes the
    proximity unbearable: no clinginess, no nastiness, no controlling, and no
    drama.
    ROLES/IDENTITIES
     TR: Partners living out roles and patterns: Often people in
    relationships are playing roles that they learn from childhood or society.
    They are often unbalanced, causing competition, drama, and control.
    Often the individuals are not truly their SELF and hold themselves back.
     ER: Partners living individual wholeness: Both people must work
    on themselves and be whole individuals. It’s not the relationship that’s
    enlightened, it’s YOU! You cannot be playing a role or doing what others
    think you “should” do. You must know your reactions, desires, and fears.
    From this place you can work in cooperation and minimize conflict.
    GROWTH
     TR: Growth occurs through experience: The lessons within these
    relationships help you grow and learn and become better individuals and
    partners. Relationships help people become conscious of themselves by
    mirroring back to each person their inner fears, unconscious role
    expectations, and emotional and communication patterns. By working on
    yourself within the relationship you benefit your relationship as well as
    grow as an individual.
     ER: Growth occurs consciously: You can achieve an enlightened
    relationship by growing through experience within a relationship or by
    growing as an individual and then coming together with another
    “enlightened” person. Either way, an enlightened relationship serves as a
    platform for both partners to reach self-actualization through mutual
    support of each other’s dreams and talents.
    Almost any two people can create a functional, satisfying relationship if they put
    the effort into the relationship. This is why arranged marriages often work.
    Not everyone is prepared for an enlightened relationship.
    However, anyone can enlighten their relationship if they are willing to look
    deeply into their own self, release limiting beliefs and patterns, and open themselves to
    true love and partnership.

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     BOTH partners must want this form of relationship.
     BOTH partners must know themselves well and have worked through many
    of their patterns and triggers.
     BOTH partners must have compatible life and relationship visions.
    The wonderful thing about relationships is that you can always learn, grow and
    improve from where you are at, whether you are currently in one or not. We all carry
    baggage into our relationships. We have all been hurt and have wounds to heal. We all
    have patterns we've learned and habits we'd like to break. We are all human.
    Self-reflection is a good place to start:
    Reflect on your parents' relationship(s) or other adults who you observed in
    relationships when you were a child. What roles, expectations, and beliefs about
    relationships did you learn from them?
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    Think back to your earliest adult years and ask yourself how you would have described a
    typical romantic relationship. What were your expected male and female roles? Was
    your view of relationships positive or negative?
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    What new thoughts and actions would you like to replace these released beliefs with?
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    How would you describe the enlightened relationship that you truly desire?
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    What are some specific things you can work on within yourself that would help you align
    with this new reality?
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