Tony Harrison
Tony Harrison
Tony Harrison
impact of grief, through the lens of a father coping with the death of his wife .The meticulous details
presented provide poignant evidence of the father's coping mechanisms and the profound sense of loss
he experiences.
The image of the father keeping his late wife's slippers “warming by the gas” and “renewing” her
transport pass serves as a poignant symbol of his attempt to maintain a connection with her. These
gestures reveal the father's struggle to let go and the enduring presence of his wife in his daily life. The
mention of hot water bottles on her side of the bed emphasizes the tangible ways in which he tries to
preserve her memory.
The lines also show the father's sense of isolation and the “rituals” he adopts to cope with grief. The
necessity to phone before visiting suggests a deliberate effort to create a controlled environment for the
father. The act of putting off visitors for an hour to clear away her things underscores the private nature
of his mourning, as if expressing his love openly is perceived as a "crime."
The father's reluctance to risk the speaker's "blight of disbelief" speaks to the universality of grief and
the fear of facing skepticism from others. The anticipation of hearing her key in the lock and the hope
that she has "just popped out to get the tea" reflect the father's ongoing struggle to accept the reality of
her absence, clinging to the possibility that she might return.
The concluding lines describe a sense of understanding in between the father and son. The speaker says
“both” the parents hadn’t gone shopping the same. Hinting towards the death of the father. This part of
the poem shows contradiction in the speaker’s point of view as he found his father’s method of coping
with his mother’s death irrational but, after the father’s death he calls the “disconnected” number, even
saving it his new phone book. This shows the speaker finding comfort in the same ways that he found
unusual.
In essence, these lines from "Long Distance" poignantly convey the father's profound grief, his coping
mechanisms, and the enduring impact of loss. The details presented create a vivid portrayal of a man
attempting to navigate the complexities of mourning while facing the harsh reality of death.