Lecture 15

'Respect' – as the Right

Evaluation
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and another self (I2)
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I1) for the other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness

Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence
2- Respect 7- Glory
3- Affection 8- Gratitude
4- Care 9- Love COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance

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Respect (lEeku)
Respect = Right Evaluation

Right evaluation of human being… the intention (natural acceptance) and competence…

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Other Types of Evaluation
Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is

Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is

Disrespect
Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is

Not naturally acceptable. Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect

Check for yourself in every interaction with others whether it is respect or disrespect. i.e.
▪ It is right evaluation or
▪ It is over / under / otherwise evaluation

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Common Implications of Disrespect
Over evaluation – evaluating more than what it is

Right
Ego
Evaluation Wrong evaluation…

Disharmony within

Self Tension
Confidence
Frustration
Depressio
n Depression

Suicide...
Under evaluation – evaluating less than what it is

Otherwise evaluation – evaluating other than what it is

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Disrespect vieku
Ego
(Over evaluation ) (अहं कार)

(Under evaluation) Depressio

n
(Otherwise evaluation) (अवसाद)

Ego (अहं कार)

Depression
(अवसाद)

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Self Confidence, Ego & Depression
Under / Otherwise Over Evaluation Right Evaluation
Evaluation
Depression Ego Self Confidence
The other is my The other is my I am self referential
reference reference
Indefinite Conduct Indefinite Conduct Definite Conduct

Assumptions…

Disharmony within

Tension

Frustration

Depression

Suicide etc.

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Self Reflection
Human being = Self + Body…

Will the right evaluation be on the basis of the

Self or the Body?

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Respect: Right Evaluation – on the basis of the Self
1. Purpose
− I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
− The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
Our purpose is same (on the basis of Natural Acceptance)
2. Program
− My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all levels of being
− The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all levels of being
(Individual, family, society and nature/existence)
Our program is same
3. Potential
− Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural
Acceptance
− Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in the other. The other is also endowed with
Natural Acceptance
Our potential is same
MINIMUM CONTENT of RESPECT

The Other is Similar to Me nwljk esjs tSlk gS

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Self Reflection
While there are similarities at the level of the Self,
in our day-to-day living:

We accept the other as being similar to us?

or
We try to show that we are special, unique, different from the other?

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Differentiation Hksn
Differentiation

Body

Age Gender Race Physical

Strength

The Gross Misunderstanding is

“Human Being = Body”

While the reality is

“Human Being is co-existence of Self & Body”
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Differentiation Hksn
Differentiation

Physical Facility

Wealth Post

The Gross Misunderstanding is

“Physical Facility = Happiness”

While the reality is

“Happiness is being in a state of Harmony”
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Differentiation Hksn
Differentiation

Beliefs

Isms Sects Info

The Gross Misunderstanding is

“If the pre-conditioning of the other matches
my preconditioning, then the other is like me”

While the reality is

“Every Human Being is like me”
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Differentiation Hksn
Differentiation

Body Physical Facility Beliefs

Age Gender Race Physical Wealth Post Isms Sects Info

Strength

Differentiation = Disrespect
Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition, Movements…

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Preconditioning: “I am special, unique, different from the other”
Force / Power Activity

1. Realization Natural
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2. Understanding INTENTION
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3. Desire Imaging
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4. Thought Analysing COMPETENCE

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Minimum Content of Respect: The Other is Similar to Me
1. Purpose
− I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
− The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
Our purpose is same (on the basis of Natural Acceptance)
2. Program
− My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all levels of being
− The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all levels of being
(Individual, family, society and nature/existence)
Our program is same
3. Potential
− Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural
Acceptance
− Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in the other. The other is also endowed with
Natural Acceptance
Our potential is same
MINIMUM CONTENT of RESPECT

The Other is Similar to Me nwljk esjs tSlk gS

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Respect: The Other is Similar to Me. We are complementary to each other
1. Purpose – Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is same
2. Program – Our program is same
3. Potential – Our potential is same
The Other is Similar to Me
4. Competence – On the basis of right evaluation of our mutual competence, I recognise
our complementarity and fulfill it:
If the other has more understanding, is more responsible than me
− I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding, I am more responsible than the other
1. I live with responsibility with the other, unconditionally, unperturbed by the behaviour of
the other
2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is assured in
relationship, and not before that)
COMPLETE CONTENT of RESPECT

The Other is Similar to Me. We are complementary to each other

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Take-away re. Respect
The feeling of Complementariness

All the specific characteristics at the level of Body, physical facility, belief etc. can be used to
express that complimentarity

e.g. a person with greater physical strength can do the heavy work

e.g. a person at a higher post can take responsibility for harmony of the larger order, for the
development of more people…

With the feeling of complementariness, other feelings naturally follow

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Differentiation Respect – on the basis of Self
I evaluate on the basis of body, physical facility 1. Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is same
or belief (preconditioning). I compare, 2. Our program is same
compete, differentiate… 3. Our potential is same
I am different from the other The other is similar to me
We are competitors We are complementary to each other

I make effort to accentuate the difference, to If the other has more understanding than me
manipulate, exploit the other - I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding
1. I live with responsibility with the other
2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the
other (once the other is assured in relationship, and
not before that)

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Sum Up
Respect = Right Evaluation (with a feeling of trust on intention)
Under evaluation, over evaluation or otherwise evaluation is disrespect
Differentiation is disrespect

Respect (on the basis of Self) – The other is like me, we are complementary to each other
The only difference is in our level of understanding (how much of our desire, thought and
expectation is on the basis of our Natural Acceptance)
If the other has more understanding, he is more responsible than me
− I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding, I am more responsible than the other
− I live with responsibility with the other, unconditionally, unperturbed by the behaviour of the other
− I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is
assured in relationship, and not before that)

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Basic Reference: Full Human Potential (Same for All)
1. Completeness of understanding (Truth) and feeling (Love)
− Self… entire existence
− My relationship, my role in existence

2. Completeness of expression (compassion)

− Behavioral competence, ability to live in relationship
− Competence to work or skills related to work
− Competence for participation in the larger order

Check:
Are we able to see that every human being (Self) has the same potential?

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Competence
Competence = Accumulated imagination (desire, thought and expectation)…
(skill is a part of competence, not all of it)

Right evaluation of competence

evaluation of how much of the imagination is motivated by natural acceptance
It includes evaluation of the skills related to work

Competence includes (make column for full human potential)

1. Level of understanding and feeling

2. Behavioral competence, ability to live in relationship (feeling, likeability, teamwork…)

3. Competence to work or skills related to work
4. Competence for participation in the larger order

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Appreciation and Motivation
∙ There is clarity of potential (“full human potential”), the basic aspiration (human goal) is clear,
the completion point is clear (3). This potential is always at the base of any interaction with the
other
∙ Past state at (1) is evaluated rightly
∙ Present state (2) is also evaluated rightly (3)-Full Potential

Motivation for the part yet to be completed (2 to 3)

At least one specific action point for the
immediate next step for this development is
shared

(2)-Present State

Appreciation for the part completed

(1 2 has been achieved in some given time)
(1)-Past State

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