TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 SEND SOMEONE A SIGNAL THAT THEY MATTER

2 ABANDON ABUSIVE FRIENDSHIPS
3 COMPLIMENT SOMEONE TODAY
4 CONFIDE IN FEW
5 CELEBRATE THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS
6 QUENCH THE URGE TO JUDGE
7 MAKE SMILE YOUR STYLE
8 DEVELOP THE GIFT OF ROMANCE
9 LEARN SOMETHING “NEW” ABOUT SOMEONE YOU LOVE
10 INTERVIEW YOUR CHILDREN
11 GENERATE ENERGY
12 INTERROGATE YOUR FRIENDS
13 FURNISH GENTLENESS
14 SOW AFFECTION GENEROUSLY
15 INSIST ON INTEGRITY
16 REPROVE WITH SENSITIVITY
17 CELEBRATE THOSE WHO CELEBRATE YOU
18 TALK IT OUT
19 RESURRECT HOPE IN SOMEONE TODAY
20 SKIP WARFARE TODAY
21 TRIUMPH OVER TRIVIA
22 SALVAGE SOMEONE
23 NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT WHAT YOU PERMIT
24 FERTILIZE FRIENDSHIPS
25 WITHDRAW FROM CONTENTIOUS PEOPLE
26 KEEP YOUR WORD
27 RECOGNIZE THAT OTHERS INCREASE YOUR WORTH
28 MAKE ANGER WORK FOR YOU
29 LEARN LOVE-TALK
30 BECOME SOMEONE’S BRIDGE
31 NULLIFY SATANIC ATTACKS AGAINST YOUR FRIENDS
 SEND SOMEONE A SIGNAL THAT THEY MATTER

Everyone Needs Reassurance of Their Worth.

Remind yourself throughout today that each person you meet has
encountered waves of criticism, condemnation and inferiority...you can
change this.

Your words of reassurance can be like water on their Seeds of Hope.

The Word
“The Lord God hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I
should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary.”
(Isaiah 50:4)
 ABANDON ABUSIVE FRIENDSHIPS

There Are Four Kinds of People In Your Life: Those Who Add,
Subtract, Divide And Multiply.

Those Who Do Not Increase You, Inevitably Will Decrease You.

It is the responsibility of others to discern your worth.

The Word
“Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man
thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy
soul.”
(Proverbs 22:24-25)
 COMPLIMENT SOMEONE TODAY

A Popular, But Inaccurate Statement Is, “Words Are Cheap.” Nothing

could be farther from the truth.

Words cause wars. Words settle wars. Words create the waves of
emotion that control our world.

Your words of kindness today could easily create the wave that carries
someone to their dream.

The Word
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it
shall eat the fruit thereof.”
(Proverbs 18:21)
 CONFIDE IN FEW

Someone has said that even a fish wouldn’t get caught if it kept its
mouth shut!

Confidentiality is a gift to be shared in the privacy of prayer or with an

intercessor God has assigned to your life.

Never share your troubles with someone unqualified to help you.

The Word
“...and discover not a secret to another: Lest he that heareth it put
thee to shame, and thine infamy turn not away.”
(Proverbs 25:9-10)
 CELEBRATE THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

One of the greatest gifts you will ever give anyone is...the Gift of
Recognition.

Every husband...wife...and child...is authorized by the Creator to have

a viewpoint, and an opportunity to express it.

Honor their right to be heard.

The Word
“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness
of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”
(Philippians 2:3)
 QUENCH THE URGE TO JUDGE

You cannot draw conclusions as long as there is missing information.

Things Are Never As They First Appear. Reserve judgment.

Never attempt to explain...or penalize someone for actions you do not

fully understand.

The Word
“Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that
judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for
thou that judgest doest the same things.”
(Romans 2:1)
 MAKE SMILE YOUR STYLE

Your face telegraphs your attitude... toward life...toward others...about

yourself.

Your countenance creates a climate that attracts people toward you or

causes them to move away from you.

When you smile first, you have decided the direction the relationship
will go.

The Word
“Who is as the wise man? and who knoweth the interpretation of a
thing? a man’s Wisdom maketh his face to shine, and the boldness of
his face shall be changed.”
(Ecclesiastes 8:1)
 DEVELOP THE GIFT OF ROMANCE

Romance is when you deliberately create a special moment or

memorable event in someone’s life.

Don’t wait for your mate to create a perfect occasion. Aggressively,

creatively and with spontaneity, start scheduling unique moments and
methods to express your love.

To be unforgotten, do something unforgettable TODAY.

The Word
“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall
be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”
(Ephesians 5:31)
 LEARN SOMETHING “NEW” ABOUT SOMEONE YOU LOVE

Knowledge Increases Confidence. The more knowledgeable you

become about someone, the more capable you become at anticipating
their needs.

Develop a Personal Portfolio of their particular preferences, such as

favorite car, food, colors, songs, books and secret ambitions.

Our Heavenly Father created uniqueness to be discovered, appreciated

and celebrated.

Greatness will unfold with each discovery.

The Word
“And the Lord make you to increase and abound in love one
toward another.”
(1 Thessalonians 3:12)
 INTERVIEW YOUR CHILDREN

Your child is worth knowing. Really knowing.

Talk. Exchange. Observe. Carefully collect any piece of information

that paints a portrait of this “heritage of the Lord.”

Communicate with the intent to learn, not condemn.

Give your child what he cannot find anywhere else—non-judgmental

conversation—and he will keep coming back.

The Word
“Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb
is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are
children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of
them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies
in the gate.”
(Psalm 127:3-5)
 GENERATE ENERGY

God Energizes. In Genesis 1, He created

...moved...spoke...divided...called...and so forth.

You are His offspring. You were created for movement. Your tongue
speaks. Your eyes see. Your ears hear. Your hands grasp. Your feet
walk. Even your mind creates thoughts, each containing a different
measure of energy.

You are a Living Current, carrying others into your future. Use your
life today to excite others about the God you serve and the future made
possible through a commitment to Jesus Christ.

The Word
“For in Him we live, and move, and have our being.”
(Acts 17:28)
 INTERROGATE YOUR FRIENDS

Everyone Is A Well of Information. Draw from it. Drop your bucket

regularly into that Well.

Schedule an appointment this week with your three most successful

friends.

Bring your list of most important questions and get the answers you
need.

The Word
“A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of
understanding shall attain unto wise counsels.”
(Proverbs 1:5)
 FURNISH GENTLENESS

Gentleness Is Like Heat In A Cold World.

Those around you bear the wounds of Rivalry, Jealousy and Inferiority.

Pour the Oil of Gentleness and you will become their greatest memory
of the day.

The Word
“And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all
men, apt to teach, patient.”
(2 Timothy 2:24)
 SOW AFFECTION GENEROUSLY

Hospital tests have proven that even babies will die if they do not
receive touching and loving affection. You are not an exception.

Reach out to someone today. Touch... hug.

 INSIST ON INTEGRITY

Integrity Is Truthfulness. It is doing what you say you will do.

Demand it from yourself and reward it in others.

Do right by others and God will do right by you.

The Word
“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in
honour preferring one another.”
(Romans 12:10)
 REPROVE WITH SENSITIVITY

Criticism Hurts. Even when you give it in love.

Yet, it is your personal responsibility to provide caution, correction and

warnings when someone you love is on the brink of disaster.

Your instruction is their opportunity for promotion from God.

The Word
“Poverty and shame shall be to him that refuseth instruction: but he
that regardeth reproof shall be honoured.”
(Proverbs 13:18)
 CELEBRATE THOSE WHO CELEBRATE YOU

Those Who Discern Your Worth Deserve Special Recognition.

Even Jesus instructed His disciples to respect those who received them
and disconnect from those who rejected them.

Go where your contribution is celebrated. Jesus did.

The Word
“And into whatsoever city or town ye shall enter, enquire who in it
is worthy; and there abide till ye go thence. And when ye come into an
house, salute it. And if the house be worthy, let your peace come upon
it: but if it be not worthy, let your peace return to you.”
(Matthew 10:11-13)
 TALK IT OUT

Friendships Die Through Neglect.

Don’t expect others to read your mind. Voice your concerns over any
offense and express your desire to make things right.

Silence often waters the Root of Bitterness. TALK IT OUT.

The Word
“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him
his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast
gained thy brother.”
(Matthew 18:15)
 RESURRECT HOPE IN SOMEONE TODAY

Hope Is The Expectation of Favorable Changes.

Don’t permit someone you love to remain depressed and devastated by

their present circumstances.

Remind them that Jesus Christ is still the Healer and Miracle-Worker
in every circumstance of life.

The Word
“But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to
give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that
is in you with meekness and fear.”
(1 Peter 3:15)
 SKIP WARFARE TODAY

Make Today A Peaceable Day.

Don’t feed an argumentative spirit in those around you.

Insist on praying together with those who pursue points of

disagreement.

God is well-known for honoring peacemakers.

The Word
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all
men.”
(Romans 12:18)
 TRIUMPH OVER TRIVIA

Think of Each Friendship As A Beautiful Flower In The Garden of

Your Life.

That Garden must be nurtured, fertilized and watered regularly.

Don’t let petty and insignificant differences—Trivia—sap the beauty

of those flowers.

The Word
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil
speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one
to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for
Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
(Ephesians 4:31-32)
 SALVAGE SOMEONE

You Are Not The Only Person Who Is Struggling Today. Others around
you are hurting, too.

Be extremely attentive to the silent cries of someone close to you who

may be drowning in the Ocean of Helplessness.

Permit God to make you their Lifejacket.

The Word
“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual,
restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest
thou also be tempted.”
(Galatians 6:1)
 NEVER COMPLAIN ABOUT WHAT YOU PERMIT

Your Circumstances Are Not Permanent.

You have permitted your present circumstances or they would not

exist.

What you tolerate, you authorize to exist.

Either accept the present without complaint or make a decision to use

your faith and attract a miracle from God.

The Word
“Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things are possible
to him that believeth.”
(Mark 9:23)
 FERTILIZE FRIENDSHIPS

Don’t permit the name of a friend to be maligned in your presence.

Don’t absorb a slanderous report about a friend, unless he is present to

defend himself.

A good friend is worth any price, any effort, any defense.

The Word
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a
friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”
(Proverbs 18:24)
 WITHDRAW FROM CONTENTIOUS PEOPLE

A contentious person is a trouble-maker. He spreads discontent,

frustration and distrust.

He gossips. He slanders. He promotes strife.

Do not feed a relationship with such a person.

The Word
“As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a contentious
man to kindle strife.”
(Proverbs 26:21)
 KEEP YOUR WORD

Carefully review and fulfill any vows, promises or pledges you have
made to anyone.

Never Promise What You Cannot Produce.

Make things right with anyone you have wronged in the past.

The Word
“A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving
favour rather than silver and gold.”
(Proverbs 22:1)
 RECOGNIZE THAT OTHERS INCREASE YOUR WORTH

Your best qualities will surface in the presence of good people.

Treasure any friend who generates energy and enthusiasm toward your
dreams or goals.

Go the extra mile to nurture and protect any God-given relationship.

The Word
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for
their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to
him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him
up.”
(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
 MAKE ANGER WORK FOR YOU

Anger Is Energy. Harness it.

Some anger can be devastating to your family, your career or your life.
You can master it through prayer or channel it into a worthwhile
project.

Direct your anger towards your true adversary, satan, instead of those
you love.

The Word
“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your
wrath: Neither give place to the devil.”
(Ephesians 4:26-27)
 LEARN LOVE-TALK

Love-Talk Breathes Excitement Into Every Relationship.

Love-Talk is letting another know how much you care...through your

words, a gesture or giving of a gift.

Say, “I love you” today...whisper it... shout it...write it in a note...or

with a flower—just say it to the one you love.

The Word
“Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown
it.”
(Song of Solomon 8:7)
 BECOME SOMEONE’S BRIDGE

Someone may open up and share the dream of their heart to you...
listen.

Someone close to you may ache to hear an approving encouraging

word from you...say it.

Someone may make a simple request that could unlock an important

door for them...do it.

The Word
“Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the
power of thine hand to do it.”
(Proverbs 3:27)
 NULLIFY SATANIC ATTACKS AGAINST YOUR FRIENDS

Your prayers can cancel satan’s Assignment against your family and
friends.

Call their name boldly before the throne of God today and make your
request known in their behalf.

Expect your prayer of agreement to produce miraculous results, as He

promised in His Word.

The Word
“Moreover as for me, God forbid that I should sin against the Lord
in ceasing to pray for you.”
(1 Samuel 12:23)
 DECISION

Will You Accept Jesus As Your Personal Savior

Today?
The Bible says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord
Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the
dead, thou shalt be saved,” (Romans 10:9).
Pray this prayer from your heart today! “Dear Jesus, I believe that You
died for me and rose again on the third day. I confess I am a sinner...I need
Your love and forgiveness...Come into my heart. Forgive my sins. I receive
Your eternal life. Confirm Your love by giving me peace, joy and
supernatural love for others. Amen.”

Yes, Mike! I made a decision to accept Christ as my personal Savior

today. Please send me my free gift of your book 31 Keys to a New
Beginning to help me with my new life in Christ.

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 DR. MIKE MURDOCK
Has embraced his Assignment to Pursue...Proclaim... and Publish the
Wisdom of God to help people achieve their dreams and goals.

Preached his first public sermon at the age of 8.

Preached his first evangelistic crusade at the age of 15.

Began full-time evangelism at the age of 19, which has continued

since 1966.

Has traveled and spoken to more than 17,000 audiences in over 100
countries, including East and West Africa, Asia, Europe and South
America.

Noted author of over 250 books, including best sellers, Wisdom for
Winning, Dream Seeds, The Double Diamond Principle, The Law of
Recognition and The Holy Spirit Handbook.

Created the popular Topical Bible series for Businessmen, Mothers,

Fathers, Teenagers; The One-Minute Pocket Bible series, and The
Uncommon Life series.

The Creator of the Master 7 Mentorship Program, an Achievement

Program for Believers.

Has composed thousands of songs such as “I Am Blessed,” “You Can

Make It,” “God Rides On Wings of Love” and “Jesus, Just The
Mention of Your Name,” recorded by many gospel artists.

Is the Founder and Senior Pastor of The Wisdom Center, in Fort

Worth, Texas...a Church with International Ministry around the world.
Host of Wisdom Keys with Mike Murdock, a weekly TV Program seen
internationally.

Has appeared often on TBN, CBN, BET, Daystar, Inspirational

Network, LeSea Broadcasting and other television network programs.

Has led over 3,000 to accept the call into full-time ministry.