Attachment Theory
Attachment Theory
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory focuses on relationships and bonds (particularly long-term) between people,
including those between a parent and child and between romantic partners. It is a psychological
explanation for the emotional bonds and relationships between people. The theory of attachment
was originally developed by John Bowlby (1907 - 1990), a British psychoanalyst who was
attempting to understand the intense distress experienced by infants who had been separated
from their parents. The theory attempts to explain the nature of the affective bonds that people
make with each other. An attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond between people that
persists across time and space. In an adult-child attachment relationship, an adult can respond to
the needs of a child through being sensitive and by attending to the child’s needs. Attachment
behaviors appear to be universal across all cultures. According to Bowlby, a motivational
system, what he called the attachment behavioral system, was gradually "designed" by natural
selection to regulate proximity to an attachment figure. The attachment behavior system is an
important concept in attachment theory because it provides the conceptual linkage between
ethological models of human development and modern theories on emotion regulation and
personality.
Individual Differences in Infant Attachment Patterns:
Although Bowlby believed that the basic dynamics described above captured the normative
dynamics of the attachment behavioral system, he recognized that there are individual
differences in the way children assess the accessibility of the attachment figure and how they
regulate their attachment behavior in response to threats. However, it wasn't until his colleague,
Mary Ainsworth (1913 – 1999), began to systematically study infant-parent separations that a
formal understanding of these individual differences was clear. Ainsworth and her students
developed a technique called the strange situation--a laboratory criterion for studying infant-
parent attachment. In the strange situation, 12-month-old infants and their parents are brought to
the laboratory and, systematically, separated from and reunited with one another. In the strange
situation, most children (i.e., about 60%) behave in the way implied by Bowlby's "normative"
theory. They become upset when the parent leaves the room, but, when he or she returns, they
actively seek the parent and are easily comforted by him or her. Children who exhibit this pattern
of behavior are often called secure. Other children (about 20% or less) are ill-at-ease initially,
and, upon separation, become extremely distressed. Importantly, when reunited with their
parents, these children have a difficult time being soothed, and often exhibit conflicting
behaviors that suggest they want to be comforted, but that they also want to "punish" the parent
for leaving. These children are often called anxious-resistant. The third pattern of attachment that
Ainsworth and her colleagues documented is called avoidant. Avoidant children (about 20%)
don't appear too distressed by the separation, and, upon reunion, actively avoid seeking contact
with their parent, sometimes turning their attention to play objects on the laboratory floor.
It's better to understand each employee individually. Find out how much they like to be close to
others, how they want to be praised and given feedback, and how they deal with tough times.
Then, work together to create a work relationship that works for them.
It's important to remember that people's views about relationships are formed early in life and
don't usually change easily. So, instead of trying to change your employees, it's better to create a
work relationship that meets their current needs and expectations. This way, you can help them
perform at their best.