Unit 4
Unit 4
Unit 4
Adolescence Stage
Table of Contents
Introduction 2
Lesson 1: Setting the Stage
Jump Start 5
Learn about It! 6
Check Your Understanding 23
Explore Your World! 25
Lesson 2: Effective Communication
Jump Start 28
Learn about It! 29
Check Your Understanding 44
Explore Your World! 46
Lesson 3: Self-Affirmation
Jump Start 49
Learn about It! 50
Check Your Understanding 59
Explore Your World! 61
Real-world Challenge 64
My Reflection 65
Wrap Up 66
Answers to Check Your Understanding 71
Bibliography 78
Glossary 82
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GRADE 11/12 | Personal Development
UNIT 4
“The hardest thing about adolescence is that everything seems too big. There's no way to
get context or perspective. Pain and joy without limits. No one can live like that forever,
so experience finally comes to our rescue. We come to know what we can endure, and
also that nothing endures.”
-Sara Paretsky
This unit focuses on how different events and situations affect the development of
adolescents. The topics covered help you to engage in self-discovery and
improvement. The knowledge that you will gain as you learn and understand these
topics make you grateful and appreciative of both the positive and negative events
in your lives. These events help in shaping your future self and make you realize
that life may not always be good but your innate strength and character can help
you face and learn from these challenges.
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Leo is Adam’s classmate. The two of them share a lot of similarities in physical looks
and level of intelligence. Like Adam, Leo’s parents are separated. However, unlike
Adam, Leo turned to his friends and other family members for guidance when his
parents called it quits. He focused on his studies and avoided activities that would
lead him to trouble. He joined school activities and community outreach programs.
Gradually, Leo saw that there are other things to be thankful for. He refused to
dwell on the fact that he came from a broken family and promised himself that
when he becomes a husband and a father, he will be supportive of his wife and
children.
Essential Questions
What are the challenges that you face and how can you manage them?
What are the expectations placed upon you and how does you feel about
them?
How can you become a lovable and capable person?
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Learning Targets
In this unit, you should be able to:
● discuss that facing the challenges during adolescence may able to clarify and
manage the demands of teen years;
● express his/her feelings on the expectations of the significant people around
him/her (parents, siblings, friends, teachers, community leaders); and
● make affirmations that help one become more lovable and capable as an
adolescent.
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Lesson 1: Setting the Stage
Adolescence is a stage that prepares you for adulthood. It is an exciting period
since it allows you to widen your experiences and expand your social circle. At the
same time, it is also a frightening period since it is the beginning of breaking away
from childhood. The transition from being a child to being an adult can make you
confused and at a loss as to how you can handle the bumps of growing up.
Jump Start
Materials: paper, pen
Instructions:
You need to create an enough space for the activity. You will be shown a power
point presentation about the issues that you are facing. These issues will come in
the form of questions that are answerable by Yes or No. If you are facing the
chosen dilemma, you will go to the ‘Yes’ side and if not, you will go to the ‘No’ side.
You will be asked to share your opinion as to why you chose your answer to a
certain question.
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Was it easy for you to identify the issues that you are facing right now?
Do you think that these issues affect how you see the world around you? Why or
Why not?
As an adolescent, do you try to solve these problems on your own? Why or why
not?
Who are the people who support you in times of crisis?
Challenges will either make or break a person. People live in a world that is
changing. When there is change, there is a challenge. The successful resolution of a
challenge results in the formation of initiative. An initiative is instrumental in
pursuing goals.
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Initiative
Marilyn Price-Mitchell defined initiative as the ability to push life in a forward and
purpose-driven direction. It involves both the motivation from within the individual
and the outward means of attaining one’s goals.
Teenagers seem to be blessed with initiative. It has been associated with motivation
and achievement, but it is more complicated than these two. It is developed during
the adolescent stage. There are two components that affect this development:
mastery of experiences and support coming from significant others like
families and friends.
This statement may be simple, but once it is applied into your world, it takes on a
whole new meaning. This can sum up your perception about the world around you.
It is a jungle in the sense that there are many challenges and issues that you
experience. Since your world is not limited to your immediate family (but includes
school, church, the peer groups to which you belong, and the greater community),
the scope of these challenges widen as well. You are faced with conflicting values,
inconsistent rules, and expectations that may prove to be challenging to meet and
resolve.
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Nature and Nurture
Your development is dictated by the combination of your genes and culture. Since
people are made up of different combinations of genes, it is expected that you will
have unique characteristics. Aside from your genes, the environment where you
were brought up adds up to this uniqueness. These factors include your family
background; your socio-economic status; educational attainment of parents; having
an intact or a broken family; language factors; societal expectations; and other
things. This is the reason why two adolescents may have different personalities
despite the fact that they are of the same age. Since you are a member of the
society, you abide by the expectations of people around you. It is in these
expectations that conflicts may arise.
Lastly, there are expectations for every period. As discussed in the previous unit,
these expectations come in the form of tasks that you must meet to accomplish
and gain succeeding skills and behavior patterns. These expectations are also called
as developmental tasks.
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The developmental tasks that are expected during adolescence are:
Achieving gender-specific roles
Creating mature relations with both genders
Accepting one’s physical characteristics
Developing a set of values and ethics to guide future behavior
Preparing for marriage and family
Developing emotional independence
Preparing for a career or profession
Achieving socially acceptable and responsible behavior
These tasks that you are expected to accomplish can be challenging. The inability to
meet these tasks causes problems or issues during the adolescent stage.
Physical Concerns
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Eating Disorders
Anorexia Nervosa is shown by people who think that they are overweight
when in fact, they are already underweight. They usually restrict their food
intake; constantly monitor their weight; and eat small quantities of food.
Bulimia Nervosa is shown by people who eat large amounts of food. They
feel that they cannot control this urge. This is followed by actions that
compensate for this lack of control like forced vomiting (done by inserting
the fingers or other long objects like a toothbrush in the mouth). The
person may also engage in excessive exercise.
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failure, brittle bones, heart failure, muscle weakness, gastric rupture, tooth decay,
irregular bowel movement, rupture of the esophagus during vomiting, high blood
pressure and cholesterol level, heart disease, gallbladder disease, and diabetes.
Since you are beginning to develop your sense of identity, your self-esteem is also
affected. In trying to meet the standards of people regarding the ideal body weight
and appearance; you begin to feel that you must do something to meet these
standards. Hence, you engage in unhealthy patterns of behavior. Your
dissatisfaction with your body and low self-esteem are contributory factors to the
development of eating disorders.
REMEMBER ME!
Eating disorders usually begin in the adolescent stage. They can result in
negative feelings. Eating disorders are caused by genetic, physiological,
psychological, and social factors.
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Substance Abuse
Carandang et al. discussed drug addiction among the youth. Drug addiction is
defined as the condition in which an individual is unable to control the use of
addictive substances known as psychoactive drugs. Psychoactive drugs can be legal
or illegal.
EXAMPLE
EXAMPLE
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Types of Psychoactive Drugs
TIP!
Just like eating disorders, substance abuse is a complex disorder that is caused by
some determinants like being genetically predisposed to drug addiction, social, and
psychological factors.
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Alcohol Abuse
Alcohol is a drug that elevates five neurotransmitters that affect our thinking,
feeling, and behavior. It can heighten the level of GABA, serotonin, and glutamate
that produces the feeling of euphoria (extreme happiness) through its dopamine
effect. Due to this intense feeling, alcohol causes addiction.
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Alcohol is a depressant, which means that it
slows down important functions that are
manifested through unsteady movement,
slurring, slow reflexes, and disturbed
perceptions. It reduces the ability for rational
thinking and clouds a person’s judgment.
Teen Pregnancy
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What makes you prone to alcohol and substance abuse and teenage
pregnancy?
This can be attributed to your fable. During the adolescent years, you exhibit
personal fable. Its beginnings date back to the time when Jean Piaget used or
coined the word egocentrism.
EXAMPLE
1. You often feel that you, alone, can fulfill your ambitions.
2. You feel that other people will get into trouble but not you.
3. You believe that others are always watching you.
4. Engaging in alcohol drinking and drugs.
5. Driving recklessly and without a license.
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Peer Pressure
During the adolescent stage, you begin to practice autonomy and form your
identity. This is manifested when you (at the age of 12-14 years old) begin to
practice emotional independence from the parents. You usually form same-sex
groups and a decrease in parental guidance and less participation in family
activities are noticed. In this stage, the influence of your peers is strong that you
begin to imitate the behavior of your friends. You may feel alienated if do not
comfortably fit into one group. This makes you prone to emotional difficulties.
By the age of 15-17, your peer group evolves into a mixed-gender group. You
develop intense emotional attachments to fellow adolescents and can get attracted
to adults. This stage starts the beginning of looking for a potential life partner.
When you reach the late adolescence stage (18-21 years), your identity is already
formed. You also begin to handle adult responsibilities; hence, your sense of
responsibility is enhanced. You may veer away from your peers. You start to
establish permanent relationships, and your values change.
REMEMBER ME!
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The lure of experiencing the subcultures in groups makes it hard for you to resist
your peers. Emotional independence makes it easy for you to rely more on friends
rather than your family members. Hence, conflict with parents is at its height. On a
positive note, your developing independence makes you examine your experiences,
relate you to others, and form the concern for other people.
Peer pressure is not always bad. There are teenagers who band together and
provide emotional support to their friends. At this point, a teenager must be
cautious in choosing friends. There are some who think about their welfare, while
there are others who do not.
Although autonomy is developed, cultural factors can affect the speed of this
development. In the Philippine context, parents are careful in allowing their
children to practice full independence. In a study by Fulgini in 1998 as mentioned in
the work of Carandang et al., it was determined that European, Mexican, Chinese,
and Filipino respondents show their autonomy through privacy and control of one’s
body and their choices, and preferences like fashion style and choice of friends.
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people choose to live their lives in accordance to a set of principles and guidelines
that influence their decisions about what is right and wrong and what is good and
evil.
REMEMBER ME!
As you grow, you expand your knowledge about morality and begin to align your
behavior based on your values and beliefs. The influence of peers can have a
significant effect on your morality. Your ability to think in abstract terms make
you realize that rules are simply made by others. This, in turn, makes you question
the authority of schools, parents, government, and other institutions. Teens who
are rebelling tend to push the boundaries that are set by society in general.
By the time you reach late adolescence, you have a clear knowledge of your
identity. Your belief system is beginning to solidify, and you begin to find your way
into the world. Rebellion may be apparent during the adolescent years; however,
not all teens who rebelled will grow up to be irresponsible individuals. Some of
them will develop a firm moral code that comes from their experiences during their
rebellious years. The maturity level of these people improves, and they can engage
in activities that show their convictions.
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REMEMBER ME!
EXAMPLE
You and your parents tend to clash during this period. Your perspectives and those
of your parents are quite different from each other. For the parents, they believe
that you must always be protected and be safe from any harm. Thus, there is a
constant need to check on what you are doing, where you are, or finding out who
are your companions.
For you, your need for independence is in contrast to the need of the parents who
always want to make sure that you are safe. To some adolescents, they may feel
that always asking for their activities and whereabouts intrudes their privacy.
While it is expected that your emotional competence or the ability to handle and
manage emotional responses is developed in this stage, this can be a difficult task
to achieve since you are not yet fully capable of controlling your emotions.
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In conjunction with emotional
competence is social competence. It
is the ability to relate to others
effectively. Its hallmark is the ability to
recognize your emotions and the
emotions of others.
REMEMBER ME!
As you grow, you widen your social relationships. You form cliques and engage in
romantic relationships. Nevertheless, the friendships you form may not always last
as criticisms, backstabbing, disloyalty, and other negative things can affect the
quality of these friendships. Even romantic relationships can affect you. At this
stage, romantic feelings are intense, which can also be said to other feelings that
are felt by a teenager. A budding romance can leave you giddy with happiness, but
a break-up can also lead to feelings of despair.
These situations add to the development of the emotional and social competence
of a person.
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Academic Concerns and Career Options
No matter how hardworking you are, you will be distracted by some things.
Distractions come in many forms like preoccupation with friends or hobbies
including online gaming, going out with friends, or playing sports. Social media can
also affect the concentration of an adolescent. Procrastination is also a dangerous
distraction. It is describe as the postponement of the completion of an activity.
Anxiety is also a prominent concern among adolescents. Since you are looking
forward to your future, you also could not help but wonder what the future would
bring. This causes you to feel afraid of failure. It is normal to feel anxious from time
to time just as long as it does not interfere with your daily routines and
relationships with other people.
Choosing a career is not an easy thing to do, especially if there are pressing
concerns to attend to like lack of funds for college, family problems, and lack of
opportunities for the career in mind. Seeking the advice of others like parents,
siblings, teachers, counselors, and even friends can help you decide on the career
or course that you will take.
The Need for Working-Out the Issues: Resolution Leads to Successful Living
A healthy discussion about these issues can work wonders for the peace of mind of
any adolescent. As stated at the beginning of this unit, the initiative is developed
when people face challenges. The acts of working out issues and facing tough tasks
harness your ability to face any obstacle that comes your way. This is sure to be
achieved if you can meet and surpass the challenges head-on.
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In a study about parental support
about the ability of children to
face challenges, it was found out
that supportive fathers and close
relationships with mothers help
young people face the demands
of adolescence. This indicates that
a loving and supportive family is
always an antidote to negative
outcomes that result from the
inability to handle difficulties and
succeed during the adolescent
period.
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Check Your Understanding
A. Read each statement carefully. Supply the correct words to complete the
statement.
1. The way people choose their lives based on a set of principles and guidelines
is known as ____________.
3. A _____________ is the belief that one is special, important, and that he/she will
not get into trouble.
4. If a child insists that she is afraid of the basement because there are ghosts
despite assuring her that there are no ghosts in there, she is showing
_____________.
B. Read each situation carefully and answer the questions for each item.
1. What could be the reason why adolescents create their own value systems?
Identify and explain you answer.
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2. How does too much alcohol consumption affect the safety of a person?
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3. How can you explain the quote that was given at the start of this unit?
“The hardest thing about adolescence is that everything seems too big. There's
no way to get context or perspective. Pain and joy without limits. No one can live
like that forever, so experience finally comes to our rescue. We come to know
what we can endure, and also that nothing endures.”
___________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________
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1. When Annie became a teenager, she noticed a lot of changes in her body.
She gained weight and this bothered her a lot. She became preoccupied with
losing weight and to solve this problem, she began to eat less and less. How
can this behavior affect Annie?
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3. Natalie is a shy girl. She does not easily make friends due to her excessive
shyness. However, this changed when she became a part of a group who call
themselves as “The It Girls.” Soon she started dressing just like them and
showed mannerisms that are similar to the members’ mannerisms. How can
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you explain this change?
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Instructions:
Make a list of what you want to change in your life right now. These things could be
in the form of health concerns, socio-economic status, relationship problems,
family conflict, or academic difficulties. Choose three and write down how these
things are affecting you and how you can overcome these concerns. Share your
output and insights with the class.
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Task 2: People Watching
Instructions:
Pick a partner in class. Think of a fictional character that you and your partner both
like (Ex. Harry Potter or Katniss Everdeen). Discuss the issues that confronted this
character and how he/she was able to overcome these obstacles. Share your
output to the class using your discussion and an image of this character.
Task 3: Debate
Instructions:
Your class will be divided into two. Your task is to debate on the issue “Should
Filipino Adolescents (those 18 and above) be encouraged to live on their own?” Each
group is given enough time to do your research. You will be given a set rules of
engagement that each of your group must follow together with the corresponding
criteria.
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Criteria for Scoring Points
Accuracy of information 5
Clarity and logical reasoning 5
Grammatically correct sentences and level of 5
confidence
Total 15
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Lesson 2: Effective Communication
Adolescence is a stage that prepares you for adulthood. It is an exciting period
since it allows you to widen your experiences and expand your social circle. At the
same time, it is also a frightening period since it is the beginning of your breaking
away from childhood. The transition from being a child to being an adult can make
you confused and at a loss as to how you can handle the bumps of growing up.
Jump Start
Materials: pieces of paper
Instructions:
Play a little game. Those who are interested can volunteer for the activity. These
volunteers must act out the emotion that the teacher will write on a piece of paper.
These emotions can include disappointment, happiness, fear, anger, sadness. You
will guess what the emotion is being acted by the volunteers. The teacher will write
these emotions on the board after you have identified them.
You will also be asked with this question: “When people expect you to do or
accomplish something, what are the feelings that you experience?” and/or “Can
expectations affect you?
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Learn about It!
Expectations - a word that sends shivers down your spine. The thought of
accomplishing specific tasks creates a feeling of discomfort that is magnified by the
uncertainty of the future. A well-adjusted teen is not immune to the effect that this
simple word brings. A teenager, who has not yet formed enough self-confidence
can fall into the trap of feeling apprehensive about what the future may bring.
Expectations can both be positive and negative. On the positive side, expectations
can make you motivated to achieve success. On the flipside, the failure to meet
expectations can result in negative feelings. Expectations are both powerful and
difficult to handle.
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Suppose you can meet your expectations for an examination. Upon receiving high
marks, you could feel a sense of security and pride. This affirms a positive reaction
from you. But if the result did not go as planned, a feeling of anxiety can happen.
There are disappointment and self-doubt.
REMEMBER ME!
Expectations are describe as mental sets people choose to create to help move
through time and change with some sense of what reality they have to look
forward to and what objectives they have to work for.
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from the students but high expectation from the parents can result in negative
feelings. In short, both the students and parents must have the same perception or
knowledge of this perception for it to work and happen. Also, the academic
expectations of the parents are in turn, affected by the academic performance of
the students.
EXAMPLE
Jerry Trusty conducted a study to find out if family and parenting affects the
expectations about education. It was found out that the knowledge of the
parents’ involvement affects educational expectations.
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Expectancy Effect
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How Do Significant People Influence Adolescent Behavior?
A. Family
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Figure 1. Diagram of the Family Stress Model
EXAMPLE
When parents develop negative emotions like depression or anger with each
other, it can result in increased conflict. Consequently, inconsistent, harsh
parenting, and even withdrawal can happen. The adolescent, in response,
becomes prone to risky behavior and develops lesser competencies that protect
or makes them immune from these risks.
B. Peers
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When you befriend a particular set of people, you have the tendency to
imitate the traits or the behaviors they show.
REMEMBER ME!
You are prone to belong to a group that has the same characteristics because
you choose people who are similar to you.
When you befriend a particular set of people, you have the tendency to
imitate the traits or the behaviors they show.
Peer influence is not always beneficial. The quality of friends can have detrimental
effects on you particularly if you belong to a group that engages in risky behavior.
Your need to belong makes you susceptible to the influence of your peers. You
would like to follow or imitate people who are popular. This is because you pay
attention to social comparison and appraisal. You are also concerned with meeting
the demands of popular people.
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EXAMPLE
When two young friends have done a deviant act (like drinking), this may be
followed by laughter and encouragement. Laughter and encouragement can
influence the possibility of repeating and engaging in the deviant behavior of
drinking at a young age.
What are some of the risky behaviors that are influenced by peers?
Aggressive behavior
Substance abuse
Depressive symptoms including suicidal behavior, weight-related behavior
(like Anorexia Nervosa)
Non-suicidal self-injury
Who is most likely to be influenced by peers who are prone to risky behavior?
Teens with low self-esteem or high level of social anxiety (fear of mingling or
interacting with other people)
Teens who are rejected
Teens with poor relationships with their families
In any peer group, there is a set of rules that are observed. For instance, if a group
is known to be the adventure type and is always on the lookout for a good time
outside of the school, it becomes an unwritten rule that members must find time to
join them. This expectation can become the rule in this particular peer group.
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C. School
D. Community
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Putting Them All Together
There is no doubt that the influence of these people on you is massive. Since you
cannot live alone, you learn to interact with other people. Upon interacting, you
learn the sub-culture, the likes and dislikes, the traditions, and even the behavior
patterns and mindsets of the members of the social groups you mingle with. Your
expectations, whether explicitly stated or not, can make a person reshape your way
of thinking and behaving. This makes you motivated into joining the “bandwagon”
so as not to be left behind. However, this need not be the case at all time. You have
the right and the will to choose. Conforming to other people can make you lose
your motivation to be different and create your life.
More importantly, the immediate family is pivotal in influencing how you will
respond to the expectations of others. If, for example, a poor family does not
expect you to finish your education because of the expensive cost, then their
motivation to send their family members to school will not be as great compared to
others in which the members have gone and finished college.
In essence, the self-fulfilling prophecy and expectancy effect can have a significant
bearing on your behavior. For instance, if the peer group where you belong to is
composed of members who are active members of community outreach groups,
with this, you will begin to form the impression that it is expected that you will also
participate in these activities. Your repeated participation will result in positive
feedback from your friends that will trickle down to the belief that you can help
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other people and make a difference. This will result in the action being repeated
until it becomes part of your system.
You are not immune to the effects of emotional difficulties. In fact, you feel it deeply
since it is a part of your maturation process. Combine this with the fact that you are
beginning to handle more and more responsibilities and a potential problem is
likely to occur.
In this day and age, being a teenager is not a walk in the park. Some of these
difficulties are depression and anxiety. These two factors can occur due to the
overwhelming expectations that you are challenged to meet.
Dr. Heidi Peddell Hall, a clinical psychologist, underscored the fact that going to
school is no longer as enjoyable as it was in the past. The requirements that have to
be passed, the changing curriculum, having both parents who work, and the
increasing crime are just some of the effects of modern living.
These days, parents are cautious about letting their children go out and mingle with
others. Being social beings, interacting with other people is important. This
condition leads to isolation and lessens the participation in church activities and
other social networks. Social media is also a contributory factor.
EXAMPLE
A teenager from Plymouth struggled with anxiety since she was little. At 15,
she was hospitalized after she planned on committing suicide. She explained
that the expectations were overwhelming. She further explained that being
exposed to so much information through the use of media, processing them
and balancing a social life and extracurricular activities while maintaining
grades can cause stress and self-loathing.
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Anxiety and depression can happen to you
if you could not handle the pressure
anymore. But this does not mean that you
will automatically experience these two
emotions. There are students who can
handle obstacles while others need
support. It is important to distinguish
normal pressure from a debilitating one.
Adolescents who feel the need to express their worries and anxiety to others are
advised to do so. A good way to lessen the burden of handling overwhelming
expectations is to talk to people, especially those who are trained to handle student
problems and emotions.
Psych Central underscored the importance of dealing with difficulties. There are
skills that can be learned so that challenges can be handled easily. Coping with
feelings is one of them. Lisa Schab, a clinical social worker, suggested these coping
mechanisms:
1. Identify and name the feeling. You should identify the type of emotion you are
feeling. Is it sadness, happiness, or anger?
2. Acceptance of what you feel. Avoiding the feelings intensify them. Hoping that
they will go away does not necessarily mean that they will. Remember that it is
alright to feel that emotion. Say, “It’s OK to feel ____________.”
3. Express what you are feeling. The expression of a feeling helps in releasing its
hold on you. There are many ways that this can be done. You can write about them,
talk to other people, cry, or engage in relaxing activities. There is one thing that
must be remembered though, when expressing the feeling - make sure that no one,
including you, is hurt.
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4. Think of a healthy way of how you can take care of yourself. Ask yourself,
“What do I need right now to feel better? How will I take care of myself? This can be
in the form of a hug, a walk, or support.
Schab also suggested that to become familiar with your feelings; it would help to
monitor the feelings felt throughout the day. Writing the feeling on a piece of paper
can help you to pay attention to your emotions. If possible, you can also observe
the part of the body where the emotion is greatly felt.
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Healthy Communication
Communication is not just about receiving a message. Listening intently and giving
respect are both essential in effectively conveying a message. You may have
difficulty in expressing your thoughts and emotions due to varying reasons.
Nevertheless, the importance of expressing the things that bother you is important.
This creates a feeling that you are welcome to express fears, happiness,
disappointments, and frustrations.
Healthy communication is a two-way process. You and your parents are both
encouraged to talk things out without resorting to bickering, a shouting match, or
hurling insults. Communication is not about winning an argument. It is about
making each other hear and understand what the other is saying and feeling.
The use of “I statements.” You or your parent can say this type of
statement: “I feel upset when you leave your clothes on the floor.” This type
of statement does not blame or accuse the listener; rather it makes him/her
aware of the feelings that are evoked when he/she does a specific act.
Recognize your feelings. Bring up the things that make you uncomfortable
early on, so they do not build up and turn into a bigger issue.
Be trustworthy. Follow your words with actions. Trust is built if the person
knows that you mean what you say.
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Be clear, specific, and direct. Engage in an honest conversation. Make your
message clear, so the other person does not have to guess your meaning.
Ask questions. Clarify things if they are not clear. It is ok to admit that you
don’t always understand what the other person is saying.
Shouting and yelling are not effective. The only thing that you can
remember is the loud voice and not the message itself. It means waiting for
things to simmer down before talking to another person. This will make it
easier to voice out the concerns because both of you are in control of your
emotions.
Growing up is not an easy task. There are expectations that must be met, and these
can affect your well-being. Significant people can affect how you develop and meet
expectations. The family, peers, school personnel and classmates, and community
contribute to how you react and feel about expectations. The feedbacks that you
receive from these people affect how you view yourself and how you respond.
Depending on the circumstances, you may look forward to the expectations set by
others or be discouraged and feel anxious. To deal with the negative feelings
brought about by these negative feelings, you should learn how to express yourself.
This can be done through various methods like naming the feeling, doing physical
activities, engaging in artistic expression and others.
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Check Your Understanding
A. Read each statement carefully. Supply the correct words to complete the
statement.
2. One of the pioneers of the expectancy effect was ______________, who made a
study about teachers who were given names of intellectual bloomers and who
in turn, treated these students with greater expectations.
1. There is an expression “Birds of the same feather flock together.” How can this
be related to the participation of teens in unwanted behaviors?
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2. Daisy is a consistent honor student since elementary. Her parents think that she
can achieve her goal of becoming a brilliant lawyer. Her sister, Reign is not showing
any inclination to high academic performance. Their parents are not sure about
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what course Reign would take. How can their lack of specific expectation for Reign
be explained?
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Part C. Read each situation carefully and answer the questions for each item.
3. Dennis is mad. People are always saying that he is the bad boy in the family. How
can Dennis deal effectively with his anger if he is being constantly accused of being
the bad boy in the family?
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Explore Your World!
Task 1: Future Me: A Dialogue
Instructions:
Create a short script between your present self and your future self. Make a
dialogue about the things you want to say to your future self. Let your future self be
the one to answer you about the concerns or praises you said to yourself. You can
volunteer to share your script with the class. Include your insights and self-
discoveries when sharing your answers. Take note that this activity should be
properly guided by the teacher.
Instructions:
Pick a partner. With the use of the Internet, search for sayings or quotes that reflect
your feelings about the expectations of the people around you. Make a simple
scrapbook containing these quotes. You can print or write them on colored paper
to make each one of them attractive. Share your output to the class together with
your insights and the feelings while you are making the scrapbook. Take note that
this activity should be properly guided by the teacher.
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Criteria for Scoring Points
Clarity of ideas 3
Creativity and uniqueness of the presentation 3
Sincerity and genuineness of the sharing 2
Grammatically correct sentences and level of 2
confidence
Total 10
Instructions:
Divide the class into several groups with a maximum of five members each. You will
watch a short video. Each group will be asked to choose the pivotal moment that
caused the change in the character. Then you will illustrate that particular moment
and share why they chose that part of the video and explained the reasons for
highlighting that scene/moment. They must use the concepts learned when
explaining their choice.
Note: Your teacher will select a video that must show an adolescent that is
undergoing major changes in his/her life.
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Non-suicidal self-injury is the deliberate, self-inflicted destruction of body
tissue without suicidal intent and for purposes not socially sanctioned
includes behaviors such as cutting, burning, biting, and scratching the skin.
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Lesson 3: Self-Affirmation
Giving encouraging words can brighten up a person’s day. The act of showing
support makes another person think that people are there to lift one’s spirit. Life
always has its ups and downs, and the thought of receiving comfort from other
people who inspires you to keep trying and trying until things turn out well. But is it
enough to rely on the encouraging words from other people? Does a person have
the ability to lift his/her spirits? This lesson will answer this burning question that
can make a difference between resignation and giving up.
Jump Start
Materials: Power point presentation or cartolina/marker
Instructions:
“The only one who can tell you that you can’t is yourself; and you don’t have to
listen.”
You will be asked what it means to you and how you felt the first time you read it.
You will also be asked whether you agree with the quotes or not. You need to
elaborate on your answers by asking you to give an explanation or examples.
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Learn about It!
A self-defeating attitude can be a bitter pill to swallow. No matter how much you
want to improve yourself, negative beliefs always find your way to remind you of
your faults and imperfections. Is there a way of defeating this monster that eats up
your self-worth? Improving yourself and maintaining your self-confidence is always
a popular topic when studying and observing human behavior. Let us learn more
about how you can defeat uncertainties and improve ourselves.
What is Self-Affirmation?
Self-affirmation is described as the
behavioral or cognitive events that sustain,
strengthen and support the perception of
self-integrity (Steele, 1988, cited by
Schmeichel and Vohs in 2009).
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EXAMPLE
Self-integrity is your perception or belief that you are virtuous, rightful, and is
capable of predicting and controlling outcomes. Self-integrity is present in all
cultures and different points in history. There is a shared belief in all cultures of
what it means to be a person with self-integrity.
Self-integrity means that you are following the concept of agency, virtue, and
goodness. Self-affirmation theory evaluates how you keep your self-integrity when
it is under attack.
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In the article written by Timothy A. Pychyl, a psychologist whose area of expertise is
the study of procrastination, he highlighted the recent studies that concentrated on
self-affirmations. The results of these studies suggest that self-affirmation modifies
how you think about tasks and goals. When there is self-affirmation, you view them
in an abstract or value-oriented way.
Origins of Self-Affirmation
The experts in the field of Psychology suggested that you have personal regard and
that it is present as early as the infancy stage. Daniel Gilbert, a social psychologist,
and his colleagues claim that people have a built-in psychological immune system
that facilitates protective adaptations or protective mechanisms when the self-
regard is threatened. These mechanisms come in the form of rationalization
(justification) or explaining why our behavior is that way, and reality-distortion.
EXAMPLE
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Tony Greenwald said that the self is
totalitarian. It interprets events in a way that it
complements its desires and needs. You tend
to believe that you can control the outcomes.
You like taking excessive credit for success.
However, you tend to deny responsibility when
failure happens. Moreover, you are too
optimistic when predicting your success but
are not paying too much attention to your
incompetence. You refuse to learn new things
because of the belief that you are always right.
Self-Affirmation Theory
This theory was created by Claude Steele. It asserts that the main goal of the self is
to protect its self-integrity. When the self-integrity is in danger, you respond in a
way that the self-worth is restored. It affects the cognitive, physical, and actual
behavior of a person.
REMEMBER ME!
Self-affirmation theory asserts that the main goal of the self is to protect self-
integrity. You respond to the dangers of eroding this self-integrity by restoring
your self-worth.
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Benefits of Self-Affirmation
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Self-Affirmation and Executive Functioning
EXAMPLE
You are using your working memory if you are solving an equation and
retaining the answer without writing it down on a piece of paper.
Working memory is at work if you can imagine an object and manipulates its
appearance or movement mentally.
The results of this study showed that self-affirmation caused the superior
performance of the participants in the working memory and inhibition tasks. They
made fewer errors on tasks that require working memory and responded quickly to
inhibition-related tasks. It must be noted that participants were not stressed when
performing this tasks. The researchers believe that self-affirmation works best
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when there is less stress.
Self-affirmation is believed to be a
significant influence in developing self-
TIP!
confidence. However, it may not always
work for all people. A study was conducted Self-affirmation is easily
in 2009, and the results suggested that remembered once you apply
people with low self-esteem who repeated a this:
positive self-affirmation statement like “I am
a lovable person” or who paid attention to Self-affirmation x 3 times a
the truth in this statement felt worse. The day = solid belief
participants with high self-esteem felt better
but only in a limited degree.
1. Create a list of what you think are your negative qualities. You can include
criticisms that you have received from others. Do not judge their accuracy since all
people have flaws. Look for consistent attributes that have been mentioned.
2. Make an affirmation about your positive qualities using powerful words. For
instance, you can write “I am lovable and remarkable.” You can ask your friends if
they can give suggestions on making your statements more powerful.
3. Repeat the statements for five minutes, three times a day. This helps in
reinforcing or strengthening the belief. You can also write the affirmations on a
notebook. Tick them off one-by-one as you progress.
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4. Place your hand on the body area that felt uncomfortable while you were writing
down the affirmation. This makes the statements feel real.
5. Ask a friend to help you out in repeating this affirmation. You can also face the
mirror when repeating the positive statement.
Just like Dr. Alexander, Jack Canfield, book author and the creator of Chicken Soup
for the Soul, suggested eight guidelines on how to make daily affirmations.
Affirmations remind you to stay focused and find solutions to challenges. Positivity
results if there is a constant affirmation.
EXAMPLE
“I am so happy that I am now gaining weight after getting sick for two
weeks.”
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Guidelines on Creating Positive Self-Affirmations
You who are besieged with self-doubts can make use of these statements to
improve your self-confidence. It makes you look at the brighter side of things and
concentrate on the people or things you value the most.
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Check Your Understanding
A. Read each statement carefully. Supply the correct words to complete the
statement.
2. The behavioral or cognitive events that sustain, strengthen, and support the
perception of self-integrity is called _______________.
1. How can you explain what self-integrity is? Use your own words when explaining.
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3. What are the similarities and differences between the self-affirmation creation
given by Dr. Alexander and the daily affirmations given by Jack Canfield?
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Part C. Read each situation carefully and answer the questions for each item.
1. Recall and describe a situation where you showed a positive attitude. How did
you illustrate your positive approach in this situation?
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3. When the going gets tough, how do you motivate a friend into overcoming
obstacles? List down 5 motivating statements you say.
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Explore Your World!
Task 1: Self-Affirmation at Work
Instructions:
You will make three affirmations. Think of three beliefs about yourself that you
want to change. Make a chart of your affirmations, with each statement being
repeated for five minutes each day for one month. After one affirmation is done,
you will process the next until you finish all three.
Share your thoughts and feelings about the affirmations that you made. Were you
able to follow the chart? How did the affirmation affect you?
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Task 2: Personal Power
Instructions:
Pick a partner. Create a slogan about positive self-affirmation and make a poster.
Your slogan and poster must be unique. Present your output to the class. Explain
why you created this kind of slogan. You will also explain why the poster was
designed in such a way. Share your self-discoveries about self-affirmations.
Instructions:
You will be divided into several groups with a maximum of five members each. You
will create a commercial about motivation that shows self-affirmation. You will
present your commercial that lasts for 20 seconds only.
Once the activity is done, you will share your experiences while you were doing
your commercials. The experiences can include both positive and negative
experiences. You can also share what you have learned as a group while you were
filming your commercials.
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Criteria for Scoring Points
Observation of the time duration (20 seconds) 5
Clarity of ideas 5
Grammatically correct sentences and level of 5
confidence
Creativity and impact of the presentation 5
Total 20
Your self-esteem acts as your emotional immune system. If you have high self-
esteem, stress and anxiety, it will have less effect. You experience less hurt when
you experience failure and rejection. Also, you can recover from them faster as
compared to others with low self-esteem.
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Real-world Challenge
Task: Spoken Word Poetry
Instructions:
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My Reflection
Write a short paragraph about the things that you have learned from this unit.
Write down your insights and feelings about the discoveries you have learned.
Enumerate how they have affected you. Furthermore, write three statements of
self-affirmation that you will repeat to yourself to improve your self-concept and
confidence.
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Wrap Up
In this unit, the following points were discussed:
Nature and nurture play equal roles in your development. Nature involves
the physical characteristics, including your genes and physiological make-up.
Nurture involves the environmental factors that affect your development.
Some of the Concerns During the Adolescent Stage Come in the Form
of:
A. Physical
concerns like
eating disorders, B. Substance
C. Alcohol abuse
which include abuse which is
and its effects on D. Teen
Anorexia the use of
the health of a pregnancy
Nervosa, Bulimia psychoactive
person
Nervosa., and drugs
Binge-eating
Disorders
Personal fable was also discussed as one reason why you engage in risky
behaviors. This came from egocentrism which is manifested by a child and
evolves into a personal fable in the adolescent years.
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Rebellion is also mentioned. It can be attributed to your ability to test existing
rules and form your conclusions about why rules are created and if you can
follow these rules.
The academic concerns include the distractions that you encounter like the
preoccupation with friends, hobbies, and even online activities.
Expectations can be both positive and negative. Expectations can make you
feel motivated to achieve success. However, the failure to meet expectations
can result in negative feelings.
It was also found out that parental expectations can influence your academic
achievement. The combination of the parental expectations and previous
learning achievement are directly associated with either high or low
academic achievement.
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Social Causation Model
Effective Family
Functioning
Economic Social
Disadvantage Conditions
Lisa Schab offered four steps on how you can deal with the emotions that
result from expectations:
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Tips for Establishing Healthy Communication:
The use of “I statements.”
Recognize your feelings.
Be trustworthy.
Be clear, specific, and direct.
Face-to-face interaction is important.
Ask questions.
Shouting and yelling are not effective.
Apologize if necessary.
The self-affirmation theory asserts that the main goal of the self is to protect
its self-integrity. When the self-integrity is in danger, people respond in a way
that the self-worth is restored.
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• Writing down qualities that you want to change, adapt, or
improve.
Steps • Use positive words.
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Glossary
Alcohol. It is a drug that elevates five neurotransmitters that affect our thinking,
feeling, and behavior.
Anorexia Nervosa. It is shown by people who think that they are overweight when
in fact, they are already underweight. They usually restrict their food intake,
constantly monitor their weight, and eat small quantities of food.
Bulimia Nervosa. It is shown by people who eat large amounts of food that they
feel they cannot control this urge. This binge-eating is followed by actions that
compensate for this lack of control like forced vomiting which is done by inserting
the fingers or other long objects, like a toothbrush, in the mouth to induce vomiting
and excessive exercise.
Developmental tasks. These are the expectations that a person must meet to
accomplish succeeding skills and behavior patterns.
Expectancy effect. It states that the expectations of other people can shape the
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way a person can confirm these expectations.
Expectations. These are mental sets people choose to create to help move
through time and change with some sense what reality they have to look forward to
and what objectives they have to work for.
Family Stress Model. It explains that economic conditions affect how family
members interact with each other.
Morality. It is described as the way people choose to live their lives in accordance
to a set of principles and guidelines that influence their decisions about what is
right and wrong, and what is good and evil.
Psychoactive drugs. These are substances that cause psychological effects. This
happens when there is an interaction between the brain chemicals and the
chemicals from these substances.
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Self-integrity. It is the perception or belief of a person that he is virtuous, good,
and is capable of predicting and controlling outcomes.
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