How to use the checklist

This checklist can be used in several ways:

1) The Sub fills in the list and gives it to the Dom. This quickly provides insight into limits and possibilities.
Corresponding interests can also be made clear.
2) A Dom can use the list to clarify what he wants from the sub.
3) Any Sub/Dom can fill in this list to get to know themselves better.
Switches will have to complete the list twice. Their experience as a sub may differ from that as a Dom.

For each activity you enter two details:

In the first column you indicate whether you have experience with the
activity:
Yes = experience ;
No = no experience
N/A = not applicable to your gender

In the 2nd column you indicate how you (emotionally) feel about the activity:
? means you don't know what the subject means.
No means you would NEVER want to do that. Under no circumstances (a hard limit).
0 means you have no desire to do this and you don't like it, in fact you will dislike it. But you will allow the
Dominant to do this if the Dominant wants to (so-called soft boundary).
1 means you don't want to do this or you don't like it. However, if asked, you will not refuse.
2 means that you want to do this activity, although it has no emotional value for you. You really have no
problem with it.
3 means that you would like to do this activity. At least just once. You are quite curious.
4 means you would like to experiment with this activity quite regularly. You think it's fun or you already
know it's fun.
5 means that this activity excites you immensely. You would want to do it as often as possible.

Under comments you can note additions, nuances or explanations that may be important for the Dom in the right
column. The experience framework can differ per person per activity.
Basic information
Name:
Age:
Length:
Weight:
Haircut:
Glasses:
smokes:
Addicted:
Chronic illness:
Medicines:
Sexual Preference:
Appearance

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

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Body modification
Erotic Dancing (Intimates)
Erotic dancing (private)
Erotic Dancing (Public)
Exhibitionism (Intimates)
Exhibitionism (private)
Exhibitionism (Public)
Weight loss (forced)
Weight gain (forced)
Wearing a collar (Intimates)
Wearing a collar (private)
Collar wearing (public)
Whore clothes (Intimates)
Whore clothes (private)
whore clothes (public)
Wear high heels
Corsets (waist reduction target)
Corsets (now and then)
Wear chastity belt
Wearing leather clothes
Wear lingerie
Model for erotic photo/film
Piercing (genitals)
Piercing (face)
Piercing (belly button)
Piercing (nipples)
Piercing (temporary, fake piercing)
Plastic surgery
Wrist or ankle cuffs (intimates)
Wrist or ankle cuffs (private)
Wrist or ankle cuffs (public)
public display
Wear rubber or latex clothing
Shaving (head hair)
Shaving (armpits)
Shaving (pubic area)
Sexy clothes (private)
Sexy clothes (public)
Tattoos
Crossdressing (required)
Wearing uniform
Mandatory dress
Mandatory nudism (Intimates)
Mandatory nudism (private)
Mandatory nudism (Public)
Restriction of freedom of movement

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

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Blindfold or eye mask
Blow up sleeping bag
Body bag
Cuffs (leather)
Tied off breasts
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Straitjacket (arm)
Straitjacket (leg)
Strait jacket (leather)
Facesitting
Gas mask
Handcuffs
Harness (leather)
Harness (rope)
Hood (inflatable)
Hood (full)
Make immobile
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Chains
Small space (locked in)
Cage (locked in)
Chastity belt/cage
Mouth bit
Mouth gag (inflatable)
Mouth gag (penis shaped)
Mouth gag (rubber)
Mouth Gag (Dust)
Mouth gag (tape)
Mouth spreader
Mummify (foil)
Hang up (horizontal)
Hang up (upside down)
Hang up (upright)
Cock rings/ball stretchers
Spreader bar
Vacuum bed
Tie to rad
Tied up/Bondage (long term)
Tied up/Bondage (light)
Tied up/Bondage (public)
Tie up/Bondage (firm)
Clothespins
Pocket bondage
Self bondage
Deprive senses
Stimuli and pain

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

e
(Spanish) straw
Auto-SM
Edit with tongue (no sex)
To bite
branding
Cane
CBT (Penis and Bag Torture)
Cupping
Electric fly swatter
Electricity (Electro Stimulation)
Genitals (weights)
Genitals (clamps)
Waxing (hair removal)
Hot oil (on genitals)
Hot oil (on body)
Hot wax (candle wax) (on body)
Hot wax (on genitals)
Wooden bats
Ice cubes
Tickling
Scribble (give)
Scribble (receive)
Stretching Body Orifices (Duckbill)
Massage (giving)
Massage (received)
Needles
Over-the-knee (spanking)
Pain (severe)
Pain (mild)
Wheel
Hit (hard)
Hit (soft)
Punch in the face
Hit with a hairbrush
Spanking/chastisement
To cut
Games with fire
Nipple weights
Nipple play/pain
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercings)
trampling
Pulling hair
Cattle prod (electric toy)
Fire cupping (fire cupping)
Fireflogging (fireflogging)
Firespanking (firespanking)
Breathing fire (firespraying)
Firepainting (firepainting)
Whipping on chest
Whipping on genitals
Whipping on the back or buttocks
Whips
Humiliations and Subordination

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

e
Breath Control
Serving Other Dominant (Supervised)
Serving Other Dominant (Unsupervised)
Spit
Play outdoors
Competition (with other subordinates)
Control personal hygiene
Cuckolding (partner has a lover)
Serve as an ashtray
Serve as an art object
Serve as furniture
Serving with other subordinates
Dominant chooses food over subordinate
Dominant chooses clothes for sub
High Heels worship
Housework (do)
Stand in the corner
Internet sex (serving other dominant)
Internet sex (serving self dominant)
Kneel down
Crawl
Wear chastity belt
Boot worship
Licking (not sexual)
manicure (giving)
Change name (permanent)
Rename (for game)
Limit eye contact
Execute commands
Penis worship
Prostitution (public, pretend)
Rules of conduct
Denying sex (short term)
Withholding sex (long term)
Deny sex (total)
Denying sleep
Speaking restrictions (when, what)
Stands for misconduct
Phone Sex (Serving Others)
Phone sex (commercial)
Phone sex (serving self dominant)
Vagina worship
Verbal humiliation
Humiliate (intimate)
Humiliate (private)
Humiliate (publicly)
Mandatory food
Compulsory smoking
Video (watch others)
Video (be recorded yourself)
Foot worship
Voyeurism (dominant with others)
Voyeurism (required viewing others)
Give away to other dominant (permanent)
Give away to other dominant (temporary)
Sexuality and eroticism

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

e
Anal licking (with a man)
Anal licking (on a woman)
Anal licking (received from husband)
Anal Licking (received from wife)
Anal fuck (give to man)
Anal fuck (give to wife)
Anal fuck (received)
Wearing anal plug (public, under clothes)
Receiving anal plug (large)
Receiving anal plug (small)
Receiving Anal Plug (Monstrous)
Cunnilingus (give)
Cunnilingus (received from man)
Cunnilingus (received from wife)
Sex outdoors
Bukkake (cum shower)
Triple penetration
Double penetration
Taste your own vaginal fluid
Act as a sex object
Use sex machines
Being used (sexually)
Forced Orgasm(s)
Glory Hole
To be used in groups
Throatfuck (involuntary)
Deepthroat (voluntary)
Masturbation (give to man)
Masturbation (give to woman)
Masturbation (received from a woman)
Masturbation (received from man)
Strap on dildos (anal)
Strap on dildos (wear)
Strap on dildos (vaginal)
Strap on dildos (suck on)
Blowjob (give)
Blowjob (received from a man)
Blowjob (received from a woman)
Prostitution (public, actual)
Swallow sperm (own)
Swallowing semen (of another)
Cum in mouth
Cum on face
Sperm over body
vaginal fucking (giving)
Vaginal fucking (receiving)
Vaginal dildo (public, under clothes)
Vaginal dildo/vibrator (large)
Vaginal dildo/vibrator (small)
Vaginal dildo/vibrator (monstrous)
Mandatory masturbation (supervised)
Mandatory masturbation (unsupervised)
Mandatory heterosexuality
Mandatory homosexuality
Foot sex
Fisting (anal giving to man)
Fisting (anally giving to wife)
Fisting (received anal)
Fisting (vaginal giving)
 Fisting (receiving vaginally)
Role plays and scenes

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

e
fear (to frighten)
Baby (Infantry)
Castration (fantasies)
Drivers
Serve as a waiter/waitress
Maid (household chores)
Animal Role Playing Games
Left alone
Prison game
gang rape
Hypnotize
initiation rituals
Age game
Physical examination
Medical Role Play
Mindfuck
Mind play
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Riding a horse
pony play
Puppy
Religious scenes or sects
Roleplay in general
Teen game
Auction
Rape
Uro/copra and the like

Activity Experienc Desire Remark

e
Serve as a toilet (poo)
Serve as a toilet (urine)
Serve as toilet paper (poo)
Drinking from someone else's mouth
Swallowing own urine
Eating from someone else's mouth
Urinating in own mouth
To urinate in mouth
Catheter
Enema (for cleansing)
Enema (for punishment)
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (pee)
Diapers (pooping)
Urinating on another person
Urinating on own face
Urinating on own body
Urinating on face
Urinating on body
Pissing in general
Eat poop
Poo games in general
Po use
Catch spit with mouth
Swallowing other people's urine
Mandatory bedwetting
Voming