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    The BDSM Contract Book
    The BDSM Contract Book
    The BDSM Contract Book
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    The BDSM Contract Book

    By Michelle Fegatofi

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    What is a BDSM Contract and why should I sign one? The process of drafting a Contract between all parties is a strong tool that should be utilized as one of the foundations when starting a new BDSM relationship of any kind. It is very important to ensure that everyone involved has a complete understanding, from the beginning, of all the principles according to which their relationship and their power exchange will be based on, discussing Expectations, Soft and Hard Limits, Rules, Protocols, Rituals, Punishments. All of them should be negotiated, included and agreed in your own personal Contract.

    This book has been written with the purpose to help understand going through every one of them and it explains in detail, with extensive examples, how the different Contracts can be written, completed, accepted and signed, depending on the various kind of BDSM relationship (Dominant-Domme/submissive, Master-Mistress/slave, Switch Couple, Scene, Online).

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMichelle Fegatofi
    Release dateAug 23, 2015
    ISBN9781329449121
    The BDSM Contract Book
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    Michelle Fegatofi

    Michelle has been in and around the BDSM Lifestyle for over 20 years as a submissive/slave. She mentors and advises new people, as well as writes educational books and blogs on different subjects from a submissive point of view. She shares her own life experiences and incites in hopes of inspiring others.

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      The BDSM Contract Book - Michelle Fegatofi

      The BDSM Contract Book

      Michelle Fegatofi

      Other works by Michelle Fegatofi:

      BDSM Basics for Beginners – A Guide for Dominants and Submissive’s Starting to Explore the Lifestyle

      Unveiled – The Secret Submissive Within

      BDSM Basics for Submissives – Dealing with the Mental and Emotional Side of Submission

      BDSM Limits Worksheet (Free Download from Lu-lu.com/spotlight/MichelleFegatofi)

      To find Michelle on the web, visit www.about.me/MichelleFegatofi to find out which sites she’s on.

      Copyright © 2015 by Michelle Fegatofi

      All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or scholarly journal.

      First Printing: 2015

      ISBN 978-1-329-39440-7

      BDSM Unveiled

      Inquires: [email protected]

      www.bdsmunveiled.com

      Dedication

      To my Padrone Marco, without whom I would not have the courage or patience to pursue my dream of writing. Thank you for all of your support and love.

      I would like to thank all of my readers and followers that have made it possible for me to do what I love, helping others understand the wonderful BDSM Lifestyle more in depth.

      Acknowledgements

      I would like to give a special thank you to a person that has become a dear friend and staunch supporter of my work. Ms. Sharon Charles, you are a wealth of knowledge.  You see situations from different perspectives and have given me much food for thought. Thank you for your proof reading the earliest edition and for all of the suggestions on improvements you made. Most of all, thanks for being  you and for your friendship.

      Thank you to my Padrone Marco Belcastro Bara for all of the ideas he has given to me as well as the final editing for the book.

      Introduction

      This book is a guide to writing a non-legally binding contract between consenting adults. It will outline what each partner agrees to in their BDSM based relationship, covering all dynamics.

      All contracts below should be altered to suit your own personal situation by changing titles, gender roles, deleting/adding rules, protocols, expectations, punishments, training, and all limits.

      Although the contract forms are written for one Dominant and one submissive, this can also be altered to suit each individual relationship situation. 

      NOTICE: THE CONTRACTS CONTAINED WITHIN ARE IN NO WAY LEGALLY BINDING. THEY CAN NOT BE USED IN ANY LEGAL SITUATION. THE CONTRACTS ARE MEANT AS GUIDELINES FOR PEOPLE WHO PARTICIPATE IN BDSM RELATIONSHIPS OR ACTIVITIES. THEY DEFINE ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES AS WELL AS PROVIDE WRITTEN CONSENT TO WHATEVER ACTIVITIES ARE DOCUMENTED WITHIN EACH INDIVIDUAL CONTRACT.

      Chapter 1: What is a BDSM Contract?

      Usually a contract is a written agreement between the Dominant and submissive in a 24/7 relationship, but can also be used by those in training or couples that have regular play dates. It acts as the formal consent to the power exchange that takes place when in a BDSM role.

      Some contracts are very formal and will detail exactly what is expected and can run for multiple pages. Others are as brief as a single paragraph. Either way, a contract is derived by negotiation on the part of all people involved in the relationship/play scene.

      BDSM partners consider the Lifestyle contract to be equal in moral obligations as a marriage contract is. As such, constructing a proper contract is very much like writing a pre-nuptial agreement.

      Here are some things you need to know before signing such a contract:

      A slave contract is a non-legal document.

      Although the contract is meaningful to the Dominant and his submissive, such a contract is not legally binding due to the fact that it is actually illegal to

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