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    This document provides a 6-step process for empowering children dealing with an abusive parent: 1. Get real by writing down how the children are suffering without judgment. Identify top priorities to address. 2. Compare the abusive parent's tactics to the suffering and prioritize addressing the most hurtful things. 3. Pick battles by focusing on the most harmful issues rather than constant drama. 4. Create affirmations based on promises from religious texts personalized for each child's struggles. 5. Model positive, affirmative language when speaking to counter the children internalizing negative messages. 6. Encourage the children to speak up and use their voice, which builds their confidence through positive

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    This document provides a 6-step process for empowering children dealing with an abusive parent: 1. Get real by writing down how the children are suffering without judgment. Identify top priorities to address. 2. Compare the abusive parent's tactics to the suffering and prioritize addressing the most hurtful things. 3. Pick battles by focusing on the most harmful issues rather than constant drama. 4. Create affirmations based on promises from religious texts personalized for each child's struggles. 5. Model positive, affirmative language when speaking to counter the children internalizing negative messages. 6. Encourage the children to speak up and use their voice, which builds their confidence through positive

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    This document provides a 6-step process for empowering children dealing with an abusive parent: 1. Get real by writing down how the children are suffering without judgment. Identify top priorities to address. 2. Compare the abusive parent's tactics to the suffering and prioritize addressing the most hurtful things. 3. Pick battles by focusing on the most harmful issues rather than constant drama. 4. Create affirmations based on promises from religious texts personalized for each child's struggles. 5. Model positive, affirmative language when speaking to counter the children internalizing negative messages. 6. Encourage the children to speak up and use their voice, which builds their confidence through positive

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    .Empower Your Kids Guide+AF8

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    This document provides a 6-step process for empowering children dealing with an abusive parent: 1. Get real by writing down how the children are suffering without judgment. Identify top priorities to address. 2. Compare the abusive parent's tactics to the suffering and prioritize addressing the most hurtful things. 3. Pick battles by focusing on the most harmful issues rather than constant drama. 4. Create affirmations based on promises from religious texts personalized for each child's struggles. 5. Model positive, affirmative language when speaking to counter the children internalizing negative messages. 6. Encourage the children to speak up and use their voice, which builds their confidence through positive

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    Empower

    Your
    Kids
    Empower Yourself
    1 - Start By Getting Real 3 - Pick Your Battles
    The work you did to this point isn't to
    Even though you may not know exactly
    upset you, but to highlight what's most
    what is happening at dad's house, you
    important. DECIDE to shift your focus.
    realize your kids are suffering. I know
    Putting out constant fires because our
    it's heartbreaking!
    exes create drama & chaos wherever
    they go isn't a powerful place to live.
    Get real by free writing all of the ways
    you see them suffering. Don't judge or
    Ex: Screen time at his house is not as
    assign blame. Just get them on paper.
    damaging as him yelling at you in front
    of your kids at exchanges! Stay focused
    Next, look at your list. Decide the top
    on what's harming your kids the most.
    priorities you'd like to address to help
    them cope with, and perhaps overcome,
    the abuse from their dad. Make this
    your FOCUS. 4 - Create Affirmations
    For me, I would google, 'what does the
    Bible say about ______' and then read
    2 - Recall His Tactics those verses (fill in the blank with the
    most pressing needs you/your kids
    Make a second list of all the ways in have). From there, I'd take a promise of
    which your ex sought to harm you. God and personalize it into an
    Narcs are all the same in many ways, affirmation/declaration and SAY IT
    and there are also 'flavors' of them that OUT LOUD, multiple times a day.
    differ (ex: some yell, some are passive
    aggressive). These are going to be personal to you
    and your kids, based on current
    Take this list and compare to the first struggles and the reality they are living
    list you made above. See the most in.
    hurtful things he is doing to your kids
    and how it's affecting them. Examples I've used that helped me:
    - I can do ALL things through Christ
    DECIDE to go on the offense and equip who strengthens me.
    your kid/s in these areas. It's - God is working ALL things together
    impossible to fight against all of it at for my (and my kid's) good.
    once!
    Empower Your Kids
    5 - Conscious Language 6 - Your Kid's Voice =
    Model speaking life over yourself and Their Superpower
    your children. I'm talking about the
    INTENTIONAL use of positive, affirmative Encourage them to speak up in a variety
    and present-tense language. It's positive of situations.
    self-talk, which is the opposite of what
    your kids are hearing - and believing - From ordering their own meals at
    about themselves at their dads house. restaurants to giving them opportunities
    to tell you their preferences in daily
    Ex: My daughter used to say, "This is the living (think schedules, activities, etc.),
    worst day!" after a toy had broken or "I give them room, space and incentive to
    suck at math!" after getting a few use their voices with positive outcomes!
    incorrect answers.
    Every time they get a positive result =
    I countered with, "This is a hard/ tough a CONFIDENCE BOOST!
    moment, but the day is still a good one."
    Or, "You're becoming a stronger math
    student." Encourage them to speak life
    over themselves. With practice, it is life- Resources
    changing!
    CLICK TO READ a helpful article on Conscious
    Language for more info and examples.

    Next Steps

    My hope is that this guide has already been helpful to you! Your kids are so precious
    and I pray over you and them daily, even if we've never met.

    I created a short, sweet and powerful course to teach you how I equipped my child to
    counter her dad's abuse, and go from feeling anxious and powerless
    to being confident and in control!

    This is a mini-course that includes 7 videos and a workbook/journal prompts.


    Click the link to see if the EMPOWER YOUR KIDS MINI-COURSE is right for you!
    Empower Your Kids
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    So glad you're here. Together we are stronger!


    XO,
    Vickie

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