8 Ways To Overcome Self-Doubt and Accelerate Your In-House Career

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8 WAYS TO OVERCOME

SELF-DOUBT AND
ACCELERATE YOUR
IN-HOUSE CAREER

You enter a meeting and present well. As you leave the meeting, however, your mind is
flooded with thoughts like, “Did I sound stupid? What if they realize I didn’t belong there? I
should have said something more meaningful!” If so, perhaps you have imposter syndrome,
which is talked about often. But, what exactly is it?
It is important to note that I am not a psychological to be true. A person dealing with imposter syndrome may
professional. Much of the psychology-focused information feel he can only be complimented if he does well on
shared throughout this article comes from a MedCircle something complicated. If it comes easy to him, he may not
imposter syndrome webinar I attended by Dr. Judy Ho, a let the compliment penetrate.
licensed and triple board certified clinical and forensic
neuropsychologist. Please see an expert if you want to Imposter syndrome can be chronic or situational, or both,
explore this topic in more depth and/or explore therapies and can sneak up on you in certain situations. For example,
like cognitive behavioral therapy or ACT (acceptance and when you earn admission into an elite school or are offered
commitment therapy). the job of your dreams, you may think, “Will I be able to
handle this? Am I in over my head?” That’s imposter
Imposter syndrome is not a diagnosis used in mental health. syndrome rearing its ugly head.
It comes from the collection of ideas, experiences, and
symptoms we experience together. Imposter syndrome can This can become a vicious cycle because, when imposter
exist in people who don’t have the requisite skills for some syndrome strikes, the extremely analytical part of our brains
role they assume and try to convince others they do or, more goes into overdrive and, an hour later, we may still be
commonly, in people who do have the requisite skillset for a overinterpreting everything and thinking about all we think
role, but are convinced they do not. In this article, we’ll we cannot manage. Thoughts become things, and our brain
tackle the latter scenario. takes that and runs with it. Nothing negative happened, but
it’s all dire and negative in our minds. Additionally, we
Imposter syndrome can impact career, relationship, health, sometimes take imposter syndrome with us from one place
and fitness in a variety of ways, for example, the person who to another. If we feel like we are not worthy at work, we may
earned a promotion, but is convinced she doesn’t deserve it, take that feeling home and snap at loved ones because
or someone in a great relationship who thinks it’s too good we’re on edge.
Unsurprisingly, imposter syndrome can cause sadness, anger, and
irritability, thus, making those afflicted lose interest in things they like to
do because they’re so concerned about being found out.

Imposter syndrome is common with generalized anxiety disorder, social


anxiety, panic disorder, and depression and often co-occurs with
substance abuse, all of which lawyers are already prone to.

If you’re thinking, “I’m successful! How could I suffer from imposter


syndrome,” know that even successful people suffer from it. No matter
who you are and how much confidence you have, statistics suggest
you’ve likely faced imposter syndrome given the results of a 2018
national study of 3,000 UK adults conducted by Access Commercial
Finance. That study showed that “62% of us have experienced
imposter syndrome at work in the past 12 months,” which jumps to
86% in adults aged 18-34.

Women have been shown to experience imposter syndrome more, but


that may be an artifact of research. Women may just be more willing to
talk about their experience with imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome has a lot to do with self-doubt, which is good news


because it means we have some control over it, so how can we
overcome it? This article will offer eight techniques for keeping
imposter syndrome at bay, so it does not negatively impact your career
journey.
“62% OF US HAVE
EXPERIENCED
IMPOSTER SYNDROME
AT WORK IN THE
PAST 12 MONTHS”
QUICK GUIDE
GENERAL BEHAVIOR CHANGES DON’T AVOID IT
Ask yourself: “What one thing should I be doing right now?” Don’t use escapist strategies, such as substance abuse or
Break your day into a series of small individual tasks instead of excessive gambling, to avoid imposter syndrome. All your
an overwhelming number of things to do. pervasive thoughts will still be there when you stop engaging in
the escape.
COMPILE THE EVIDENCE
Think like an attorney and present the evidence (to yourself) CONFRONT IT
against your position that you’re an imposter. Talk about imposter syndrome openly to ensure that your team
knows they can share their experiences. It can be powerful to
YES, BUT admit you’ve had those thoughts too.
If you don’t feel fully qualified for your role, look at the big
picture. Say, “Yes, I don’t have the preferred experience, but I CULTIVATE RESILIENCE
can do some self-study to augment my knowledge! Pray or meditate to change your relationship with yourself and
your brain. Keep in mind that setbacks are normal and you
LABELING have the coping mechanisms to deal with them.
Label thoughts to separate them from reality. For example, “I’m
having the thought that the presentation will be a disaster” is USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
more objective than “The presentation will be a disaster.” Understanding imposter syndrome can motivate you to speak
positively to yourself and continue to compile evidence of just
how worthy you are.
GENERAL BEHAVIORAL CHANGES
One way to battle imposter syndrome is to change our behavior and thought-patterns in a broader way. The benefit to this
technique is that it will likely improve our lives in more ways than just battling imposter syndrome.

Understand the cycle between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, so you can intervene at any of those levels. For
example, thoughts are very important, so you might try daily affirmations. Every morning, write one thing you’re good at or
a useful skill you possess. Over time, those thoughts are ingrained in your mind and your overall thought patterns and
thoughts about yourself change for the better.

You can also change your behaviors. One way to do this is to accomplish an overwhelming number of tasks, one small task
at a time. Ask yourself, “What one thing should I be doing right now,” instead of anticipating the entire rest of your day. It
can be a somewhat involved task like, “I’m going to spend an hour researching this matter” or something as simple as, “I’m
going to make a cup of tea.” Do this for each task one by one without getting ahead of yourself.

If you continue to feel overwhelmed, set a timer for a certain amount of time (25 minutes, for example) and tackle one task
followed by a five minute break to do something relaxing like listening to music, walking outside, or whatever calms you. As
Dr. Ho points out, 25 minutes does not completely overwhelm us, but we can get a lot done when we’re singularly focused.

This approach to tackling your day, although a more general technique, aids you in combating imposter syndrome because
the more you’re accomplishing, no matter how small, the more evidence you have to combat your imposter syndrome.
COMPILE THE EVIDENCE
As attorneys, we know the importance and power of
evidence, yet we often fail to take advantage of that
power in our own lives.

If you’re struggling with imposter syndrome, present the


evidence (to yourself) against your position that you’re
an imposter. For example, if you’re starting a new job
and convincing yourself that you don’t deserve it and
your new employer will soon figure it out and wonder
why they hired you, write down the reasons you do and
do not deserve the job. Remember to think like an
attorney, thus, using real evidence (actual facts) without
letting imposter syndrome take over and introduce
“inadmissible” evidence. If you’re truly honest with
yourself, you’ll likely find that you can more than handle
the role.

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YES, BUT
Even if the foregoing technique produces some evidence that you’re
not fully experienced for the work you’ve been hired to do, that
doesn’t mean you’re an imposter. In this circumstance, Dr. Ho
suggests employing the “Yes … but” technique. For instance, in the
previous example, if your evidence tells you that you’re qualified for
and ready to take on your new position, but you don’t quite have all
of the privacy law experience you need, tell yourself: “Yes, I don’t
have the privacy experience preferred, but there is a lot of
self-studying I can do to augment that part of my knowledge!”
Remember to look at the full picture too. In the privacy law example,
you must remember that privacy laws are ever-changing, so we’re all
constantly learning more to stay current.

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LABELING
Take a breath and understand that thoughts only
have the power we give them. Labeling can
remind us of the reality of our thoughts. If you
have a presentation to your senior leadership
team coming up and you think the presentation
will be a disaster, these thoughts feel factual, so
you need to step back and look at the situation
more objectively.

One technique Dr. Ho suggests is to add, “I’m


having the thought that…” to the beginning of
your thought pattern. The foregoing example
becomes, “I’m having the thought that the
presentation will be a disaster.”

Adding those five words to your thought makes


clear this is your thought versus truth. It also
allows you to separate yourself from the thought
process. This is not about you, your identity, or
what will happen; it is merely a thought.

When you manage thoughts in this manner, you


feel empowered and more confident.
DON’T AVOID OR ESCAPE IT
Be careful not to utilize escapist strategies to cope with imposter syndrome. This
could look like playing video games for hours, substance abuse, or gambling
excessively when you know you should be doing something else. The problem with
escaping is that your imposter syndrome and all of those pervasive thoughts are
still there when you stop engaging in the escape.

This is not to be confused with healthy endeavors outside of work. For example, if
playing video games for an hour relaxes you and it’s not being used to run from
your imposter syndrome, you’re not escaping. You’re practicing self-care. However,
when escapism gets in the way of your life, it’s a problem and you may want to
seek professional help if you cannot pull back on your own.

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CONFRONT IT HEAD ON,
INCLUDING TALKING
ABOUT IT OPENLY
When we suffer from persistent imposter
syndrome, we don’t tend to perform as well as
we would if we weren’t worried about being
discovered as a fraud. As a leader, you can talk
about the concept openly by ensuring that
your team and those around you know they
can share their experiences. If it’s authentic to
you and you’re comfortable doing so, it can
also be powerful to admit to those on your
team that you’ve had those thoughts too. It
says nothing negative about you or your
character. It actually indicates that you care so
much that you’re worried about living up to the
potential others see in you and doing the best
job you can. This is a really powerful
conversation for your team members. Every
single person has probably experienced at
least one instance of imposter syndrome.
CULTIVATE MORE RESILIENCE
If you’re doing some or all of the foregoing work on yourself and practicing other
self-development, you may feel like a failure if you have a setback. Your brain is
always trying to protect you from any physical or psychological harm, but it’s going
into overdrive like an overprotective parent or caregiver. Some of us get angry at
ourselves when we have a setback, but setbacks don’t mean we’ve been
unsuccessful.

To combat these thought processes and nurture your resilience, you can pray and/or
meditate, and change your relationship with yourself and your brain. Express
appreciation for your brain. Dr. Ho suggests giving your brain a name and saying
things like. “Thank you for trying to protect me, Betty, but I’ve got this!” This will also
lighten otherwise stressful moments because talking to your brain in this manner will
likely make you chuckle at the situation. Then, you can think more clearly and remind
yourself that it’s normal and you have the coping mechanisms to deal with it.

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USE IMPOSTER SYNDROME TO
YOUR ADVANTAGE
If properly managed, imposter syndrome can be a motivational
tool. Even if it’s not our primary motivation, it can jumpstart efforts
into doing something great. If we’re able to realize that we are
good enough, understanding imposter syndrome can motivate us
to speak positively to ourselves and continue to compile evidence
of just how worthy we are. Brittany Leonard’s article, How to Use
Imposter Syndrome to Your Advantage, may help in this regard. If,
however, imposter syndrome lingers for weeks at a time and is no
longer healthy for you, you may want to seek professional help.

Not all of the above techniques may work, and too many
may overwhelm. Keep those that work for you. You may not
need a large number of techniques. If two to four lesson
your imposter syndrome, that’s great!

AUTHOR:
ELIZABETH A. COLOMBO
SENIOR LEGAL COUNSEL, VENDAVO, INC.
ACC MEMBER & ACC DOCKET AUTHOR
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