SAM Reflection Paper
SAM Reflection Paper
SAM Reflection Paper
I Am Sam (2001) is a film about an intellectually disabled single father named Sam
Dawson fighting for rights to his daughter Lucy. As seen in the movie, Sam has a mental age
akin to his daughter, who is seven years old. In spite of it all, he manages to get a job and raise
her with the help of his friends, who to some degree, are as disabled as he is. However, as she
grows older and begins to surpass even her father’s mental capabilities, the state steps in. It takes
Lucy away, deeming Sam unfit to raise her. After seeking out a lawyer and holding a trial to keep
his parental rights, Lucy convinces Sam to help her get out of foster care, to which he responds
by getting a new job. During the trial, however, he breaks down, leading Lucy to be given to a
foster family, who Lucy runs away from. In the end, the foster family realizes Sam’s love for
significant reduction in intelligence and social functioning. While Sam is shown to be relatively
adaptive, seeing as he was still able to get a job, albeit in fast food chains only, he still seems to
have trouble communicating with people other than his daughter, and has a tendency to pull out
quotes in order to convey his thoughts. At times, the passages he responds with do not even
make sense in the context of a scene. He is also shown to express his emotions in outbursts, in
the same manner that a child would. He has difficulty reading some words and has a stammer,
further proving that he is intellectually disabled not only in one sense of the phrase but both. The
movie leads me to believe that what Sam has is not simply mental retardation, but autism
(Fourman, 2018). In Sam’s case, this would be the Beatles, as he names Lucy after the title of a
Beatles song, dresses up as McCartney for her school Halloween party, and repeatedly says the
phrase “John wanted to try new things,” assumingly referring to John Lennon. He also has a
fixation on perfection and organization that people more closely associated with
Based on my observations, there was a lot of prejudice against persons with disability or
PWDs like Sam in the film. There was a scene in the film when kids at Lucy’s school began to
call Sam a “retard.” The term “retard” is a commonly used slur or derogatory term directed at
mentally challenged people, such as those who are diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder
(ASD) or those who have experienced age regression as a result of post-traumatic stress disorder
(PTSD), presumably derived from the phrase “mental retardation.” Aside from the bullying, the
system arguably was also prejudiced against him. Instead of providing him with the help that he
needs with raising her, which ultimately will benefit both him and Lucy, the state rather takes her
away than keep her with her biological father simply because he is incapacitated. They even
mention that they “are worried about what happens when Lucy turns eight.” Moreover, there was
pressure in the courtroom scene, where Sam quoted a film but had it backfire on him. Using the
quote against him, the prosecutor pressured Sam into agreeing to give Lucy away. The foster
mother also referred to Lucy as “her” daughter in front of Sam, even after knowing that he had
brought her back to the foster family’s home from his, and also knowing that he is her biological
father. She also shunned his advice on how to help her fall asleep, saying that they would be fine
and “that he should go home.” This is presumably because she did not think much of what he
was saying, which is again because of his disability. I find that a little strange considering that
Despite the backlash, the strange looks, and the odds that are stacked against him, he
managed to do all that he did because he wanted what was best for his daughter. He kept
working, even though he only had low-income jobs. Even if he was not earning much from his
jobs, he did all that he could to make her feel like a normal kid, letting her attend school, buying
her gifts, and taking her out to places like parks and restaurants. He built a support system with
other adaptive autistic men, who helped him when Lucy needs something, as exhibited in the
shoe shopping scene, where they all gave suggestions and contributed money for her school
shoes. He even befriended his neighbor Annie, whose name was Lucy’s first word, and asked her
to help take care of Lucy whenever he was not around. He looked for a lawyer so that he could
fight to keep her, for the sake of both of them; though, granted it was on his friends’ advice.
Despite his disability, he held his hopes and dreams high, and he persevered. He always went out
I think it was a great detail that Sam had a few people to fall back on when he did not
have a lot. Firstly, as I had mentioned, he had a friend group that consisted of other people like
him. I figured that it was important that the people in that support group were also autistic as it
would mean that the advice he received from them would be genuine because they all would
have come from similar experiences. Secondly, he also had Annie, his next-door neighbor. To
some degree, she was also incapacitated because she had agoraphobia or the fear of large crowds.
Nonetheless, she somehow also helped him raise Lucy by acting as a mother figure of sorts to
her. Lastly, he had Rita Harrison, his pro bono lawyer. Though hesitant at first, she helped Sam
fight against Child Services for his right to take care of Lucy. In the end, the foster family
became a part of his support system as well, offering a proper mother figure to Lucy. Apart from
those four main support systems, though, there was barely anything else. While Rita mentioned
that the court “favors reunification,” it was the court that failed to favor Sam and got him and
Lucy separated in the first place, all because of a prejudiced prosecutor convincing Sam that he
The message I got from the film was that anyone is capable of love, and that love can go
a long way. It is one of the most notable quotes in the film: “all you need is love.” Like many
people have said though, this passage does not mean that love alone can pay the bills or get
custody of your child back. Rather, it means that love prevails. Even if you feel as if you are
helpless or broken, you are both deserving and capable of love. When you raise someone right,
surrounded with love, it will show. We see in the movie that Sam is very capable of love. He
loves his daughter Lucy so much that, despite what everyone thinks about him, he continues to
do things for her. Even though he knows that other people might not believe in him and might
even insult him and that he, too, doubts his own abilities, he still holds his head high and pushes
through it. He is very selfless in that sense. He can even empathize pretty well. Even when he
had his own prejudice against abled people, assuming that they had neither feelings nor
suffering, he consoled Rita the second she explained her situation and even gave her advice on
how to deal with both her husband and her son. He got the “cold-hearted” Rita to realize she can
fix what went wrong and love again. When Annie is called to the witness stand, she says that
Lucy is the way she is because Sam raised her well. For one, he does not intentionally hold her
back; in fact, it is Lucy herself who holds back for fear of losing touch with her father because he
cannot do the things that she can. Instead, he encourages her, telling her that it makes him happy
that she is learning and reading even the difficult words that he cannot say. She comes to the
conclusion that Lucy is not smart despite Sam and his disability, rather, she is smart because of
him.
accuracy. However, I do know a few people with autism, and they behave similarly to Sam, the
only difference being that they are younger than him. Based on my observation and perception of
the film, I think Penn’s performance as Sam Dawson in the movie was close to the real thing.
Though others would find it problematic that he pulled off that role as a conventionally abled
person, I found his depiction of a neurodivergent person to be almost flawless. Besides this, the
film also cast actual PWDs in other key roles, so I believe this film is a good representation.
I resonated particularly with the feeling of insecurity. There definitely were times when I
had thoughts of not being good enough to do certain things, or thoughts of others thinking that I
am not good enough to do certain things. I felt as if I had just lucked out getting to where I was. I
have heard that this phenomenon is referred to as “internalized oppression,” which is, as defined
by Reiser & Mason (1990/1992) as “seeing that one group of people are valued more [...], and
wanting to become like them” (p. 1). That part of the film where Sam was convinced that he was
not good enough to take care of Lucy and then broke down because of that felt scarily accurate.
For a while, I had self-esteem issues related to my visual disability. I had gotten my fair
share of weird looks from other people and bullies, too. In elementary school, my classmates
would even scare me and make fun of me for being jumpy, knowing I could not see them due to
a limited peripheral vision. There was also a period of time when I thought I looked weird
because the eye prosthetic I wore sometimes made my eyes look asymmetrical. I developed a
my fears little by little. I have been taught that all of my accomplishments and talents are
compensation enough for my one physical imperfection. Like Sam, I know that I should keep my
dreams high and work hard, not just to prove to the world, but also to my younger self, that I am
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