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    The document summarizes key points from the book "The Courage to be Disliked" by Fumitake Koga. It discusses not letting past trauma define you and instead focusing on how you interpret events. People respond differently to the same experiences based on their interpretation. The book also advocates having the courage to be disliked and not worrying about other people's expectations, as those things are outside of your control.

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    Some of the key takeaways from the book include focusing on controlling your interpretations of past events and reactions, having courage to be disliked by others, and focusing your efforts on things within your control.

    The book states that trauma does not exist and that we create emotions to suit our present goals and purposes, not as direct responses to events from our past.

    According to the book, some things that are within our control include our actions, judgments, decisions, feelings, and attitudes.

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    The Courage to be Disliked


    Author Fumitake Koga

    Fiction? Non-Fiction

    Genres Life Advice

    Rating Lifechanging

    Date Finished

    Created time @March 30, 2022 6:12 PM

    Notes Status Notes In Progress

    Notes
    Dont let your past mess up your future
    your past (wheter good or not ) doesnt define you, but yes, your interpreatation of it
    past traumas are not the cause of the present problems. instead it’s the
    interpretation that you give to these events that create the problems

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    The event itself wasnt the cause of the anger
    two individuals whom undergo the same exact experience often reach to it differently

    At the Adler’s psychology the notion that a person can change, dont matter how hard
    their life was up to a point. Things are in their hands.

    The different ways that a person responds to the challenges of life

    Peoples try to bring others down by their complexes of inferiority and their own
    internal feelings onto the world

    The mindset of accept such bad world and there will always be people whom will
    dislike you for no reason
    The mindset of youre not your past it shouldnt affect how you now and in the
    future

    You need to have the courage of being disliked.

    Actionable Takeaways
    We are free to choose the meaning that we describe to those events
    No matter whats occurred in your life up to thiss it shouldve no bearing at all on how
    you live from now Trauma doesnt exist

    we creat emotions to suit our present goals and porpuse

    the emotions arent controlling us

    we construct emotions to fit narrative for the actions that we actually want to do in
    the moment that indeed doesnt right. Set standards for yourself.

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    dont allow your emotions step on your actions
    our emotions arent necessarily a direct sort of factor response to sth happens.
    There’s a large amount of interpretation and narrative and storytelling that goes on
    there as well

    what other people will think of us is not our task

    its the face their tasks there are things within our control and there are things that
    are outside of my control

    action - judgments - Decisions - Feelings - Attitudes ( We need to focus on them )

    We shouldnt spend too much time worrying or thinking about things that arent my
    control

    Thinking of others - Expectations - Natural events - Especific Situations

    Plan ahead for worst-case scenarios.

    References
    The Courage to be Disliked - Book Summary & Review
    In this episode, we summarise "The Courage to be Disliked" by
    Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi. It's one of the very few books
    that Taimur's actually read, and the concepts it presents are
    https://aliabdaal.com/book-notes/the-courage-to-be-disliked/

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    How To Have The Courage To Be Disliked
    Don't let your past mess up your future. "No experience is a
    cause of success or failure." - Alfred Adler Fumitake Koga had
    been lost in life. As many people often do, he was drifting
    https://medium.com/mind-cafe/how-to-have-the-courage-to-
    be-disliked-71b181c6fb1c

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bf4Hs5E9eNg

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