Happy For No Reason - Manual
Happy For No Reason - Manual
Happy For No Reason - Manual
• A course introduction.
• The Seven Steps to being happy from the inside out.
• Fourteen interviews with experts in a wide range of fields.
• Exercises for centering yourself, relaxing, and promoting your well-being.
• Accelerated learning components to help you learn effectively and efficiently.
In this guidebook you’ll find the directions for your journey, including which audio
sessions to listen to and which exercises to complete at each step along the way. All the
materials that will support your growth and help you raise your level of happiness are here.
Your journey has four distinct phases:
• Gearing Up for Your Journey – This section introduces the key ideas and
transformational tools you’ll use to build your inner Home for Happiness.
• Mapping Your Destination – Here you’ll determine your personal happiness goals—
where you want to be at the completion of this course.
• Building Your Home for Happiness – In this section, you’ll explore the Seven
Steps of Happiness and the 21 Happiness Habits. You’ll complete corresponding
exercises that will enhance your experience.
Meditative Practices
In addition, your course includes three valuable practices to help you envision what you
want and help you integrate new Happiness Habits that empower you on your journey.
• The Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5) reinforces the positive things you’ll
learn regarding happiness, supports you in envisioning your heart’s desires, and
evokes in you the feeling of already having what you want in your life.
• The Centering Practice (CD 1, Track 6) helps you relax and feel more centered as
you picture beauty and peace all around you.
• The M-Power March Exercise (CD 2, Track 6) helps you reset your central nervous
system, clear subconscious blocks, activate forgiveness, and establish new patterns
to promote well-being.
For additional information about the methods and tools used in this course, you will find a
complete list of resources at www.LearningStrategies.com/Happy/Resources.
Listening to the audio sessions is a good start, completing the exercises is the key, and
raising your level of happiness is the wonderful result. Remember, you are in charge of your
own happiness. Every time you do one of the exercises, you are choosing to take another
step on the journey toward your personal fulfillment and joy!
• Intention: Be clear about what you want—in this case, greater happiness.
• Attention: What you put your attention on grows stronger in your life. Put your
attention on happiness by incorporating the Happiness Habits you’ll be learning
into your daily life.
• No Tension: Let go and relax. As you practice each habit, be easy with yourself and
trust that you are removing the blocks to experiencing greater happiness.
This process will help you to more seamlessly implement the Happiness Habits you are
about to learn.
As you begin your journey to deepening happiness, please know that I am honored to be
your guide.
Happily,
Getting Focused
Start by listening to the following audio sessions: the course introduction, the Paraliminal,
and the visualization.
Course Content
First, listen to the Introduction to the course on CD 1, Tracks 1 and 2.
Paraliminal
Next, listen to the Paraliminal Introduction on CD 1, Track 3, and then the Happy for No
Reason Paraliminal on CD 1, Track 4. I suggest listening to the Paraliminal at least three
times for maximum results.
Visualization
Listen to the Visualization Exercise on CD 1, Track 5, at least once.
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How much time would you like to spend working through this material?
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What obstacles do you anticipate may arise to slow your progress or sabotage your results?
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What support or solutions can you put into place to address any potential obstacles?
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If there were just one key thing that you could take away from the Happy for No Reason
personal learning course, what would it be?
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Roof
The Garden
The Foundation
1) Course Content
Begin each step by listening to the course content tracks that are listed. This will introduce
you to powerful information and tools that will help you build your Home for Happiness.
3) Centering (optional)
To enhance your learning, take time to center yourself using the Centering Practice.
4) Assessment
There are three Happiness Habits for each step. You may benefit from one more than
another. In the Assessment process you’ll answer three questions to determine which
Happiness Habit is best for you to develop first.
5) Happiness Habits
In this segment you’ll learn the latest tools or technology to increase your happiness set-
point. Of the three exercises presented, you’ll complete the one that matches the question
you scored lowest on in the Assessment—that’s where you have the most room to grow!
6) Happiness Commitments
As you do the happiness exercises and consider your thoughts, reactions, and feelings, you’ll
identify commitments you can make to yourself to instill greater happiness within.
In this step, you’ll establish a strong base for your inner Home for Happiness. As you do
this step, any time you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4)
and Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 2, Tracks 1 through 4, and related interviews with Jack Canfield (Track 7)
and Lisa Nichols (Track 8).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
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List the two main points from the interviews with Jack Canfield and Lisa Nichols that you
feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
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Recall a recent situation in your life in which you found yourself complaining, feeling regret
or shame, or blaming someone (including yourself ) for your experience. In the following
space, write a brief description of the situation.
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
way you felt:
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As you take more responsibility for your happiness in each moment, you’ll experience an
expanded state of vitality, freedom, and possibility.
Here are some of the gifts of claiming ownership of your own happiness. You’ll:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the best
place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question below, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 1
How often do you complain, feel sorry for yourself, or focus on what is not working?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Question 2
How often do you blame other people or circumstances, justify your behavior, or make
excuses when things do not turn out the way you think they should?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Question 3
How often do you feel guilt, regret, or shame for what has happened in your life?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so
you can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest
score. Choose the Happiness Habit below that numerically corresponds to this question (if
Question 2 rated lowest, then complete Happiness Habit 2). You may repeat this exercise
until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
1. Think of a situation that you’ve been complaining about. Rate how you feel about it on
a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is “I’m the least satisfied with the situation” and 10 is “I’m
the most satisfied.” Enter your score here: _____.
(If you rated your situation a 1, please skip to Question 3.)
2. Now, write down what you’re doing (as many things as you can think of ) that has
resulted in you rating your level of satisfaction at the number you scored and not lower.
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3. What would be the first tiny signs that your satisfaction has increased by one point?
Think carefully, and write down as many things as you can.
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4. In light of what you have written above, what are the first small steps you could take
in the next 24 hours to increase your satisfaction with this situation?
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Begin taking some of the actions you listed in Question 4. Become aware of the moments when
you feel a little more satisfied, and build on whatever it is you’re doing to continue that experience.
1. Recall a specific situation that has caused you to feel wronged or to blame others.
Picture the person or people involved, the setting, and what was said or done. Write
a brief description of it here.
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2. Now, imagine taking several steps back and observing the situation from a distance,
as though you were watching a movie on a screen. What do you see?
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3. What part of the sequence of events that transpired do you take responsibility for?
Did you ignore signs that should have clued you in that there was a problem? Did
you act in a way that might have provoked an undesirable result? Did your attitude
or behavior escalate the situation?
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4. What lesson or wisdom can you glean from what happened? Do you need to practice
more patience or establish better boundaries? Do you need to listen more, or speak less?
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5. If this event had, in fact, happened for a higher purpose, what would that be?
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6. Having found the lesson of this situation, what is the most important thing for you to
remember in order to avoid similar experiences in the future?
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5. While you are in your extended position, think of something about which you feel
regret, shame, or guilt. Take a deep breath and focus on feeling “forgiveness.” Hold
both your breath and position for five to ten seconds.
6. Exhale and repeat the maneuver with the opposite leg and arm. Repeat the sequence
three times.
Option 2: Ho’oponopono
Ho’oponopono is a practice from the ancient Huna tradition in Hawaii. This exercise
allows you to cleanse your self-judgments and to make peace with yourself. The technique
is simple but effective. When you have a negative thought or feel negative energy toward
yourself, say the following to yourself:
• I am sorry.
• Please forgive me.
• Thank you.
• I love you.
Continue to say these short phrases until you feel that you’ve released some of the negative
energy. Doing this on a regular basis will help you to feel lighter, have more energy, and
make peace with yourself.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for this habit.
Happiness Habit 1
How can you assume greater responsibility and ownership for your own happiness?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 2
What are three things you can do to stop complaining, blaming, and feeling shame?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 3
What will support you in looking for the lesson and the gift in every situation?
My Happiness Commitment:
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to take full responsibility for your happiness.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why
you want to be fully empowered in relation to your happiness. Now imagine a line
extending in space, connecting your past, present, and future—the past extends far
behind you and the future far out in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line until
you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as a more
self-empowered person. See yourself having achieved this state. Consider the following
questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations you have. Make them
bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy your experience being
there, and soak it up.
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to take full responsibility for your happiness.
Step 2 – The Pillar of the Mind: Don’t Believe Everything You Think
Now you’ll explore how your thoughts affect your happiness. As you do this step, any time
you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4) and Visualization
Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 3, Tracks 1 through 4, and related interviews with Hale Dwoskin (Track 6) and
John Assaraf (Track 7).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
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List the two main points from the interviews with Hale Dwoskin and John Assaraf that you
feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
way you feel:
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Negative thoughts siphon our energy and bring us down. By practicing the art of questioning
negative thoughts, we lessen their impact dramatically, and our inner experience shifts from
pessimism and irritability to satisfaction, peace, and gratitude. The next time you notice your
thoughts spiraling down toward the negative, challenge them by:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and generate an
ideal state for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question that follows, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 4
Do you tend to believe every negative thought that crosses your mind?
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Yes Sometimes No
Question 5
Do you find it difficult to let go of your negative thoughts?
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Yes Sometimes No
Question 6
Do you pay more attention to the negative thoughts and worries in your life than to the
positive ones?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so you
can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable before moving on.
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2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? Using the example, you would ask yourself,
“Can I ever really know when someone is listening or not? Are people sometimes
listening when they appear not to be?” ______
3. How do you react when you believe that thought? What happens? How do you treat
yourself and others when you believe that thought?
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4. Who would you be without that thought? How would you live life differently if you
did not believe that thought?
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Turn the thought around. Continuing the example from above, “My spouse doesn’t listen
to me,” becomes “I don’t listen to my spouse,” or “I don’t listen to myself.” List as many
turnarounds as you can think of.
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For each turnaround, find two genuine examples of how the turnaround is true in your life.
This is not about blaming yourself or feeling guilty. It’s about discovering alternatives that
can bring you peace.
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When we do The Work, we free ourselves from the effects of believing stressful thoughts such
as “I’m not good enough,” “He doesn’t love me,” “She doesn’t understand me,” “I’m too fat,”
“I need more money,” or “Something terrible is going to happen.” We can turn our stress,
frustration, and anger into a freedom that we never dreamed possible.
1. Bring to mind an issue that is troubling you, and then allow yourself to feel whatever
you’re feeling in this moment. This does not have to be a strong feeling. In fact, if
you’re feeling numb, flat, cut off, or empty inside, those are feelings that can be let go
of just as easily as the more recognizable ones. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to
be as fully as you can.
This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most of us live in our
thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, rather than being aware of
how we actually feel in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything
about the way we feel (and, for that matter, about our businesses or our lives) is NOW.
3. Ask yourself this simple question: Would I let this go? In other words: Am I willing to
let it go?
If the answer is “no,” or if you are not sure, ask yourself: Would I rather have this
feeling, or would I rather be free? Even if the answer is still “no,” go on to Step 4.
4. Ask yourself this simpler question: When? This is an invitation to just let it go now.
You may find yourself easily letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you
can make any time you choose.
5. Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of that
particular feeling.
NOTE: You’ll probably find yourself letting go a little more at each step of the
process. The results at first may be quite subtle, but if you are persistent, the results
will become increasingly more noticeable. You may find that you have layers of
feelings about a particular topic, so be patient. However, what you let go of is gone
for good, and you’ll feel lighter and more peaceful.
2. Invite other family members or friends to play this game, and at the end of the day,
share with each other the awards you have given out that day.
2. Eyebrow
3. Side of Eye
4. Under Eye
5. Under Nose
6. Chin
7. Collarbone
8. Underarm
To begin this exercise, take a moment to touch each of these EFT points, making a mental
note of how each one feels. They may feel different before and after using EFT.
Next, identify an issue or problem that you would like to release. For example, “My job is
really frustrating me.” Think about how this situation is affecting you emotionally.
Now, create a “setup” statement by adding an affirmation of yourself as a person. For
example, “Even though my job frustrates me, I deeply and profoundly love and accept
myself.” Repeat this statement three times out loud while simultaneously tapping the
Karate Chop point of one hand using four fingers of the opposite hand.
Then, tap the following sequence of points using two to four fingertips of one hand: Head,
Eyebrow, Side of Eye, Under Eye, Under Nose, Chin, Collarbone, Underarm, and back to
Head. Tap each point five to seven times at a moderate pace (about two taps per second) before
moving to the next point. As you tap, repeat a simple reminder phrase, such as “job frustration.”
Finally, take a few deep, relaxing breaths. Focus on your problem again, and gauge how
you feel. Has your frustration level diminished? Did you feel a release of your emotions? By
consistently and frequently practicing EFT, you can release negative emotions, relax more
completely, and make yourself feel better.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 4
What reminders can you put into place that will help you question the truth of your
negative thoughts when they arise?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 5
What actions or practices will support you in letting go of thoughts and beliefs that lead to
stress or unhappiness?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 6
How can I savor the positive more in my life?
My Happiness Commitment:
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to let your thoughts support your happiness.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why you
want your thoughts to support your happiness. Now imagine a line extending in space,
connecting your past, present, and future—the past extends far behind you and the
future far out in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality
as a person who has happiness-promoting thoughts. See yourself having achieved
this state. Consider the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and
sensations you have. Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the
volume. Enjoy your experience being there, and soak it up.
• What is it like to be you since you have learned to question and release your
negative thoughts and incline your mind toward joy?
• What are you doing differently?
• What does it feel like in your body?
• What do you hear yourself saying, and what do you hear others saying to you?
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to have your thoughts support your happiness.
Now you’ll learn how to let love lead in your life. As you do this step, any time you like, revisit
the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4) and Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 4, Tracks 1 through 4, and related interviews with Deborah Rozman (Track 6)
and Fred Johnson (Track 7).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
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List the two main points from the interviews with Deborah Rozman and Fred Johnson that
you feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
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People who let love lead in their life experience a sense of expansion, openness, and
connection. Ways to let love lead more in your life are to be:
• Grateful
• Compassionate
• Generous
• Forgiving
• Kind
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the
best place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question that follows, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 7
How often do you express gratitude in your life—either silently or aloud?
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Not at All Sometimes Often
Question 8
Do you find yourself holding grudges and feeling angry, hurt, or resentful?
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Yes Sometimes No
Question 9
Is it easy for you to be loving toward others and to wish others well?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so you
can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
1. Heart Focus
Gently focus your attention in the area of your heart. If you like, you can put your
hand over your heart to help draw your awareness to that area. If you find your mind
wandering, just keep shifting your attention back to the area surrounding your heart.
2. Heart Breathing
As you focus on the area of your heart, imagine that your breath is flowing in and
out through your heart center. This supports your mind in staying focused on the
exercise and allows your respiration and heart rhythms to synchronize. Breathe slowly
and gently until your breathing feels smooth and balanced, not forced. Continue to
breathe with ease until you find a natural inner rhythm that feels good to you.
3. Heart Feeling
As you continue to breathe, recall a time when you felt good inside, and see if you
can re-experience that feeling in the present moment. This could be a feeling of
appreciation for a special person or pet, a place you enjoy, or an activity that brought
you joy. Rather than focusing on the particular person or activity, allow yourself to
feel good feelings that the person or activity elicited within you. If you cannot feel
anything, it’s okay, just do your best to cultivate a sincere attitude of appreciation
or care. Once you have found a positive feeling or attitude, you can sustain it by
continuing your heart focus, heart breathing, and heart feeling.
2. Close your eyes and think of someone toward whom you are holding anger, hatred, or
resentment in your heart.
3. Take a couple of deep breaths and let yourself feel your feelings without having to do
anything about them. Just notice them.
4. Now, realize that the person’s hurtful actions cannot be changed. It’s in the past, and there
is absolutely nothing that can be done to affect it now. Feel the finality of that.
5. Also realize that this person may never change. They are the way they are. Take a few
deep breaths as you accept the truth of that.
6. Now, see that the person is the way they are—and did whatever they did— because
they have some pain, some lack, or some woundedness. They may not even realize it
themselves, but it’s there. People only hurt others because they are hurt themselves. See
this person through the eyes of compassion, and see if you can empathize with their
suffering. Imagine them as a child who is hurting, lashing out at others because of the
intensity of their own pain. Can you feel compassion for them?
7. Sit quietly for a minute or two more, just feeling the expansion that compassion—in
any amount—brings to your heart.
NOTE: It’s okay if you still feel angry; the purpose of this exercise is to begin to release
the pain in your heart, not to excuse anyone for their actions. Keep repeating this
exercise until you feel a shift, however small, in your heart. Your forgiveness will grow
as you feel more compassion.
2. Take slow, deep breaths, being aware of the breath as it enters and leaves your body. Let
your thoughts come and go easily.
May I be safe.
May I be happy.
May I be healthy.
May I live with ease.
Continue feeling these wishes toward yourself for a minute or two or until you
experience a sense of peace inside.
4. Now, move onto your friends and family. Picture one of them as you send the
following wishes silently:
5. Now send these wishes to all the living beings around the world. Continue until you
feel a sense of expansion in your heart.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 7
What are three ways you can consciously practice gratitude during your day?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 8
What situations in your life are in need of more compassion and forgiveness, and how can
you be more compassionate and forgiving in your life?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 9
What situations in your life are in need of your lovingkindness? What actions can you take to
express your love in these areas?
My Happiness Commitment:
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to let love lead in your life.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why you
want to let love lead in your life. Now imagine a line extending in space, connecting
your past, present, and future—the past extends far behind you and the future far out
in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as a
person who lets love lead in their life. See yourself having achieved this state. Consider
the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations you have.
Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy your
experience being there, and soak it up.
• What is it like to be you since you have learned to feel gratitude, forgive
easily, and spread lovingkindness?
• What are you doing differently?
• What does it feel like in your body?
• What do you hear yourself saying and what do you hear others saying to you?
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to let love lead in your life.
In this step you’ll consider how enhancing your physical health and well-being enhances your
happiness. As you do this step, anytime you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal
(CD 1, Track 4) and Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 5, Tracks 1 through 4, and related interviews with Chunyi Lin (Track 6) and
Dr. Sue Morter (Track 7).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
1. __________________________________________________________________
2. __________________________________________________________________
List the two main points from the interviews with Chunyi Lin and Dr. Sue Morter that you
feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
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2. __________________________________________________________________
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
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Well-being in the body translates to well-being in the mind and emotions. Here are some
ways to enhance happiness on all levels of your being:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the
best place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question below, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 10
Do you eat a healthy, fresh, and organic diet?
1 2 3 4 5
Rarely Sometimes Yes
Question 11
Do you exercise or move your body regularly, get enough sleep, and breathe properly?
1 2 3 4 5
Not at all Sometimes Yes
Question 12
Do you listen and respond to the signals that your body sends you?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so you
can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
Each of the following questions has a numerical value, which is listed in brackets, such as [3].
If the symptom discussed in a question applies to you, write down its corresponding value in
the space provided. Total your score in each section, and compare it to the cutoff score. If your
score is over the cutoff—or, if you have only a few of the symptoms but they bother you on a
regular basis—learn more about the amino acid indicated in Julia Ross’s book The Mood Cure.
Part 1. Are You Under a Dark Cloud? If So, Your Serotonin Levels May Be Low
[3] Do you have a tendency to be negative, to see the glass as half empty ______
rather than half full? Do you have dark, pessimistic thoughts?
[3] Are you often worried and anxious? ______
[3] Do you have feelings of low self-esteem and lack confidence? ______
Do you easily get to feeling self-critical and guilty?
[3] Does your behavior often get a bit, or a lot, obsessive? Is it hard for you ______
to make transitions, to be flexible? Are you a perfectionist, a neatnik, or
a control freak? A computer, TV, or work addict?
[3] Do you really dislike dark weather or have a clear-cut fall/winter depression? ______
[2] Are you apt to be irritable, impatient, edgy, or angry? ______
[3] Do you tend to be shy or fearful? Do you get nervous or panicky ______
about heights, flying, enclosed spaces, public performance, spiders,
snakes, bridges, crowds, leaving the house, or anything else?
[2] Have you had anxiety attacks or panic attacks ______
(your heart races, it’s hard to breathe)?
[2] Do you get PMS or menopausal moodiness (tears, anger, depression)? ______
[3] Do you hate hot weather? ______
[2] Are you a night owl, or do you often find it hard ______
to get to sleep, even though you want to?
[2] Do you wake up in the night, have restless or light sleep, ______
or wake up too early in the morning?
[3] Do you routinely like to have sweet or starchy snacks, ______
or wine in the afternoons, evenings, or in the middle
of the night (but not earlier in the day)?
[2] Do you find relief from any of the above symptoms through exercise? ______
[3] Have you had fibromyalgia (unexplained muscle pain) ______
or TMJ (pain, tension, and grinding associated with your jaw)?
[3] Do you often feel depressed—the flat, bored, apathetic kind? ______
[2] Are you low on physical or mental energy? Do you feel tired a lot, ______
and have to push yourself to exercise?
[2] Is your drive, enthusiasm, and motivation quota on the low side? ______
[2] Do you have difficulty focusing or concentrating? ______
[3] Are you easily chilled? Do you have cold hands or feet? ______
[2] Do you tend to put on weight too easily? ______
[3] Do you feel the need to get more alert and motivated by consuming ______
a lot of coffee or other “uppers” like sugar, diet soda, or ephedra?
Total Score: ______
If your score is more than 6 in Part 2, your level of catecholamines may be low.
[3] Do you consider yourself or do others consider you to be very sensitive? ______
Does emotional pain, or perhaps physical pain, really get to you?
[2] Do you tear up or cry easily, for instance, even during TV commercials? ______
[2] Do you tend to avoid dealing with painful issues? ______
[3] Do you find it hard to get over losses or get through grieving? ______
[2] Have you been through a great deal of physical or emotional pain? ______
[3] Do you crave pleasure, comfort, reward, enjoyment, or numbing from ______
treats like chocolate, bread, wine, romance novels, tobacco, or lattes?
Total Score: ______
If your score is more than 6, you may be low in endorphins.
your belly. When you exhale, visualize any pain or sickness changing into smoke and
shooting out from every cell into the universe.
3. Connect to the universe: Close your eyes and silently say the phrase, “I am in the
universe. The universe is in my body. The universe and I are one.” Take a moment to
feel the quietness, the stillness of the universe.
4. Move your hands: As you inhale, slowly move your hands wide apart and to the sides
(demonstrated by Master Lin below). As you exhale, slowly bring your hands back
together (do not let your hands touch each other). When you open your arms, feel
the energy expanding in the space between your hands. When you bring your hands
toward each other, feel the energy compressing in the space between them.
Do the exercise for five to six minutes. When finished, take three slow, gentle, deep breaths,
and allow yourself to relax for another minute or two.
When people sit on the tailbone for extended periods, this gate is pressed closed. And when the
gate closes, not enough energy comes up to the waist, which can lead people to gain weight.
1. Lean forward slightly from the waist.
2. Close your hands into loose fists.
3. Gently tap your sacrum and tailbone area with alternating fists continuously for two
to three minutes.
Tailbone tapping stimulates the cerebral spinal fluid, opens the energy channels of the
lower half of the body, and helps clear the mind. Do this process any time you want to
increase your energy level and boost your body’s vitality.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 10
What changes can you make in your eating habits to promote more happiness and vitality
in your body?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 11
What are your favorite forms of exercise, and how can you incorporate them more regularly
into your daily routine?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 12
What are three ways you can become a better listener to the signals your body sends you?
My Happiness Commitment:
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to take care of your body and make your cells happy.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why
you want to take care of your body and make your cells happy. Now imagine a line
extending in space, connecting your past, present, and future—the past extends far
behind you and the future far out in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as a
person who nurtures and cares for their body. See yourself having achieved this state.
Consider the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations
you have. Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy
your experience being there, and soak it up.
• What is it like to be you since you are in the habit of eating well, moving
your body, getting enough rest, and listening to your body’s wisdom?
• What are you doing differently?
• What does it feel like in your body?
• What do you hear yourself saying and what do you hear others saying to you?
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to take care of your body and make your cells happy.
In this part of your journey you’ll take the path that connects you to spirit. As you do this
step, anytime you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4) and
Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to audio CD 6, Tracks 1 through 4, and related interviews with Jeddah Mali (Track 6)
and Arjuna Ardagh (Track 7).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
1.___________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________
List the two main points from the interviews with Jeddah Mali and Arjuna Ardagh that you
feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
1.___________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
way you felt:
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Extremely Contracted Neutral Extremely Expanded
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When we are connected to the realm of spirit, we enjoy a state of expansion and feel infused
with the very essence of being Happy for No Reason. People with a strong relationship to Spirit:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the
best place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question that follows, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 13
How often do you take time for silence through meditation, prayer, or other means?
1 2 3 4 5
Not at All Sometimes Very Often
Question 14
How often do you listen to your inner voice, the aspect of you that is connected to
universal wisdom?
1 2 3 4 5
Not at All Sometimes Very Often
Question 15
Do you feel like the general manager of the universe and try to control all aspects of your life?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Somewhat No
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so you
can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
2. Take five or six deep breaths, noticing the breath as you inhale and exhale.
3. Picture a column of bright, white light coming down from above your head, entering
through the top of your head, and filling up your head with light.
4. Feel that white light flowing from your head down through your neck and into your chest,
lighting up your heart. Feel the warmth and expansion in the area around your heart.
5. Continue to see the light flowing down your arms, your torso, your spine, and your
hips, filling those areas with light. See the light flowing down through your legs and
into your feet, lighting up the soles of your feet.
6. Feel your entire body flooded with warm, bright light. In this state, sit for ten
minutes and just allow any thoughts and experiences to arise. Do not try to push
away thoughts or control your mind—simply be with whatever comes. If you would
like a focus for your attention, notice your breath as you inhale and exhale.
7. When you feel ready to end your meditation, become aware of any peace and serenity
you feel. Rest in this peaceful feeling for a moment. Take a few deep breaths and
savor this feeling. This is the essence of being Happy for No Reason.
8. Slowly open your eyes. Have the intention to carry this experience with you as you
return to your normal activities.
1. In the space below, write down a question or issue for which you would like guidance
or clarity. Phrase the question or issue as clearly as you can.
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3. Direct the question you just wrote down to the voice of your inner wisdom, and then
wait for your inner voice to answer you. It may take a few moments until you feel
ready, but when you do, open your eyes and start writing whatever comes to you. It
does not matter whether it makes sense or not. Keep writing, not reading what you
have written as you go, until your hand feels like it won’t move any longer.
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4. Now read over what you have written—you may be quite surprised at the wisdom that
has emerged. Even a certain word or phrase may hold the key to your answer.
1. Sit quietly and write a letter to your Higher Power about a situation in some aspect of
your life—relationship, health, career, etc.—that you would like assistance with. Write
from your heart, without editing yourself.
2. Ask that the perfect people, events, and circumstances be brought to you in order to
create the deepest fulfillment and resolution of that situation. You may want to ask for
right understanding or forgiveness, if appropriate.
3. Put the letter somewhere meaningful to you where it will not be disturbed. Some
people like to put their letter in a special book, in a sacred place in their home, or
under a rock in their garden. You’ll not be looking at it again for a while.
4. Now, let go. Turn the situation over to a Higher Power. Relax, feel grateful, and rest in
the knowingness that the universe is always supporting you.
5. Notice what happens over the following days or weeks. You may want to look at your
letter in a month or two and see how the universe responded.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 13
How do you experience your connection with source, Spirit, or a Higher Power? What can
you do to strengthen and nurture this connection?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 14
What guidance or messages are coming from the voice of your own inner wisdom? How
can you implement the wisdom you have received?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 15
In what ways do you trust, let go, and surrender to a Higher Power in your life?
My Happiness Commitment:
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to plug yourself in to Spirit.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why you want to
plug in to Spirit. Now imagine a line extending in space, connecting your past, present, and
future—the past extends far behind you and the future far out in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as
a person who feels fully plugged in to Spirit. See yourself having achieved this state.
Consider the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations you
have. Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy your
experience being there, and soak it up.
• What is it like to be you since you have learned to take quiet time to connect to your
Higher Power, listen to your inner voice, and trust and surrender to life’s unfolding?
• What are you doing differently?
• What does it feel like in your body?
• What do you hear yourself saying and what do you hear others saying to you?
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to be plugged in to Spirit.
Now is your chance to explore the area of purpose and passion of your life. As you do this
step, anytime you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4) and
Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 7, Tracks 1 through 4, and the related interviews with Janet Attwood (Track
6) and Lynne Twist (Track 7).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
1.___________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________
List the two main points from the interviews with Janet Attwood and Lynne Twist that you
feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
1.___________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________
On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
way you felt:
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Extremely Contracted Neutral Extremely Expanded
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Albert Schweitzer said, “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
If you love what you are doing, you’ll be successful.” You can infuse your life with a sense of
meaning and purpose by:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the best
place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question that follows, then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 16
Do you feel passionate about the work or activities you are doing?
1 2 3 4 5
Absolutely Not Sometimes Yes
Question 17
Do you let inspiration guide you in making your decisions?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Question 18
Do you feel as though you are contributing to something greater than yourself?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so
you can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
Create a list of ten things that would make your life fulfilled and complete—the things
you’re most passionate about experiencing.
1.___________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________
3.___________________________________________________________________
4.___________________________________________________________________
5.___________________________________________________________________
6.___________________________________________________________________
7.___________________________________________________________________
8.___________________________________________________________________
9.___________________________________________________________________
10.__________________________________________________________________
Rank your top five passions, and enter them on the designated lines in descending order.
Then rate them from 0 to 10, indicating the level to which you have integrated them into
your life, with 10 meaning complete integration.
My #1 Passion: _ _______________________________________________________
Integration: 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
My #2 Passion: _ _______________________________________________________
Integration: 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
My #3 Passion: _ _______________________________________________________
Integration: 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
My #4 Passion: _ _______________________________________________________
Integration: 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
My #5 Passion: _ _______________________________________________________
Integration: 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
To begin, close your eyes, and take a few deep, slow breaths. When you feel centered, open your
eyes, and reflect on one question at a time, recording your answers in the spaces provided.
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As you move through your day, allow the answers you just received to guide your actions
and bring to light any and all opportunities to be led by your soul.
1. Sit or lie down in a quiet place where you’ll be undisturbed. Close your eyes and take
slow, deep belly breaths, relaxing your whole body.
2. Allow yourself to feel lighter and lighter and more expanded—until you experience
being so light that you feel and see yourself begin to float above your body.
3. Imagine now that you are high above your body, hovering over the earth. You look
down at the planet beneath you—you see a beautiful, shimmering blue sphere. You can
see the oceans, continents, and vast cloud formations below. You look more closely and
see the mountains, forests, valleys, and cities.
4. You see the billions of people and animals that all live inter-connectedly on earth. You
feel connected to all the life teeming beneath you. You feel you are a part of a bigger
design. You put your attention on the question: How am I being called to serve?
5. You find yourself being drawn toward a place on the planet that holds a particular
significance or fascination for you. You see a situation that moves you to serve. You
may be shown someone, somewhere, or something that is familiar to you, or it
may be completely new. (You may be drawn to helping animals, working to cure a
particular disease, preserving the oceans, or serving children in your community or
in a developing nation.) Be curious and adventurous. See where you land, the kind of
surroundings you find yourself in, and what is there for you to do. You may glimpse
one or a multiple of opportunities awaiting you. Be open to all possibilities.
6. When you feel complete with your experience, express gratitude, and gradually feel
yourself returning to the room where you are sitting or lying down. Reflect on how
you can use the images you received to be led to where you can be of service. See what
unfolds in your life.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 16
What are you truly passionate about? What are some ways you can incorporate that passion
into your job, your home life, and your relationships?
My Happiness Commitment:
____________________________________________________________________
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Happiness Habit 17
What will support you in listening to and following the inspiration of the moment?
My Happiness Commitment:
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Happiness Habit 18
In what ways do you naturally contribute to others? In what ways would you like to
contribute more?
My Happiness Commitment:
____________________________________________________________________
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to live inspired by purpose.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why you
want to live inspired by purpose. Now imagine a line extending in space, connecting
your past, present, and future—the past extends far behind you and the future far out
in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as a
person who feels inspired by purpose. See yourself having achieved this state. Consider
the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations you have.
Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy your
experience being there, and soak it up.
• What is it like to be you since you are living your passions, following your
inspiration, and contributing to something greater than yourself?
• What are you doing differently?
• What does it feel like in your body?
• What do you hear yourself saying and what do you hear others saying to you?
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to live inspired by purpose.
You probably know how great it feels to walk through a beautiful, fragrant
garden. The quality of your relationships with the people around you has an
even more profound impact. In fact, scores of studies in the field of positive
psychology demonstrate that having good social relationships is one of the
strongest predictors of happiness. As you discover ways to nurture and tend to
the key relationships in your life, you’ll transform the garden of your Home for
Happiness from a thicket of weeds to a nurturing place to have fun and relax.
You’re now ready to explore the final step on your journey—The Garden. Here you’ll
tend to the relationships that nurture you and add beauty to your life. As you do this
step, anytime you like, revisit the Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4) and
Visualization Exercise (CD 1, Track 5).
Course Content
Listen to CD 8, Tracks 1 through 5, and related interviews with Roxanne Emmerich
(Track 7) and John Gray (Track 8).
List the two main points from the audio session that you feel are most important for you to
remember and apply.
1. ___________________________________________________________________
2. ___________________________________________________________________
List the two main points from the interviews with Roxanne Emmerich and John Gray that
you feel are most important for you to remember and apply.
1. ___________________________________________________________________
2. ___________________________________________________________________
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On the Expansion and Contraction Scale below, mark the place that best corresponds to the
way you felt:
|––––––––G–––––––––––––––––––––––––––G––––––––––––––––––––––––––G–––––––|
Extremely Contracted Neutral Extremely Expanded
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Investing your time and energy in tending to the important relationships in your life will
pay off in increased joy, fulfillment, and happiness. Here are some of the ways you can foster
healthy, thriving relationships:
Centering
Listen to the Centering Practice on CD 1, Track 6. This will help you relax and be in the
best place for learning.
Assessment
Consider each question below, and then circle the number that corresponds best to your answer.
Question 19
Do you create appropriate boundaries with negative people?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Question 20
Do you have a support system, a master mind group, or a close circle of friends who
encourage your happiness?
1 2 3 4 5
No Somewhat Yes
Question 21
Do you feel a sense of connection to and appreciation for all types of people?
1 2 3 4 5
No Somewhat Yes
Add up your total score for this section: ______. Transfer this number to your Home for
Happiness diagram on Page 11. At the end of the course, you’ll retake this assessment so
you can track your progress.
Happiness Habits
Refer back to the assessment, this time noticing which question resulted in the lowest score.
Choose the Happiness Habit that numerically corresponds to this question. You may repeat
this exercise until you feel comfortable with this habit before moving on.
1. Form your group by selecting five to seven people whom you trust and respect.
Determine your meeting times (once or twice a month is recommended). Alternate
who will lead each meeting, and decide who will keep track of the time.
2. Begin the meeting with the leader sharing an invocation or inspirational quote.
3. Allow each person three to four minutes to share with the group his or her “wins” and
accomplishments since the last meeting.
4. Allow each person 10 to 15 minutes to share with the group his or her goals or
intentions, or to ask for support with a particular project or issue.
5. Finally, invite each person to state an action that he or she will take before the next
meeting to move toward his or her intentions. For example, “I will exercise three
times a week for 30 minutes.”
6. The leader then closes the meeting with a statement of gratitude and positive intention.
NOTE: It’s important that everyone maintain the following protocol: listen without
interruption, avoid blaming/shaming/complaining, offer suggestions only when solicited,
and keep everything shared completely confidential.
Happiness Commitments
After practicing one of the Happiness Habits, identify a commitment you can make to
yourself that will ensure this habit becomes a habit for life. Let the related questions guide
your thoughts, and write your commitment in the space provided for that habit.
Happiness Habit 19
Are there relationships in your life right now that need more tending? If so, which ones?
What can you do to strengthen them?
My Happiness Commitment:
____________________________________________________________________
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Happiness Habit 20
How would you like to establish a stronger support system in your life?
My Happiness Commitment:
____________________________________________________________________
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Happiness Habit 21
What are three things you can do to see the world more as your family?
My Happiness Commitment:
____________________________________________________________________
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1. Sit comfortably, take a few deep, centering breaths, and relax your entire body. Focus
on your intention to have nourishing and supportive relationships.
2. Think in detail about your current situation and how you feel. Remember why
you want to have nourishing relationships. Now imagine a line extending in space,
connecting your past, present, and future—the past extends far behind you and the
future far out in front of you.
3. Now imagine standing up and walking forward into the future along your time line
until you arrive at a time about six months from now. Explore your future reality as a
person who has nourishing relationships. See yourself having achieved this. Consider
the following questions, and notice any images, emotions, and sensations you have.
Make them bigger, brighter, and more vibrant; turn up the volume. Enjoy your
experience being there, and soak it up.
4. Now step back in your mind along the time line to the present, remembering how
good it felt to have nourishing and supportive relationships.
Congratulations on completing Step 7 – The Garden and your Home for Happiness!
Question 1
How often do you complain, feel sorry for yourself, or focus on what is not working?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Question 2
How often do you blame other people or circumstances, justify your behavior, or make
excuses when things do not turn out the way you think they should?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Question 3
How often do you feel guilt, regret, or shame for what has happened in your life?
1 2 3 4 5
Often Sometimes Rarely
Add up your scores for Questions 1 through 3, and enter the total here: ______
Question 4
Do you tend to believe every negative thought that crosses your mind?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Question 5
Do you find it difficult to let go of your negative thoughts?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Question 6
Do you pay more attention to the negative thoughts and worries in your life than to the
positive ones?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Add up your scores for Questions 4 through 6, and enter the total here: ______
Question 7
How often do you express gratitude in your life—either silently or aloud?
1 2 3 4 5
Not At All Sometimes Often
Question 8
Do you find yourself holding grudges and feeling angry, hurt, or resentful?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Sometimes No
Question 9
Is it easy for you to be loving toward others and to wish others well?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Add up your scores for Questions 7 through 9, and enter the total here: ______
Question 10
Do you eat a healthy, fresh, and organic diet?
1 2 3 4 5
Rarely Sometimes Yes
Question 11
Do you exercise or move your body regularly, get enough sleep, and breathe properly?
1 2 3 4 5
Not At All Sometimes Yes
Question 12
Do you listen and respond to the signals that your body sends you?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Add up your scores for Questions 10 through 12, and enter the total here: ______
Question 13
How often do you take time for silence through meditation, prayer, or other means?
1 2 3 4 5
Not At All Sometimes Very Often
Question 14
How often do you listen to your inner voice, the aspect of you that is connected to
universal wisdom?
1 2 3 4 5
Not At All Sometimes Very Often
Question 15
Do you feel like the general manager of the universe and try to control all aspects of your life?
1 2 3 4 5
Yes Somewhat No
Add up your scores for Questions 13 through15, and enter the total here: ______
Question 16
Do you feel passionate about the work or activities you are doing?
1 2 3 4 5
Absolutely Not Sometimes Yes
Question 17
Do you let inspiration guide you in making your decisions?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Question 18
Do you feel as though you are contributing to something greater than yourself?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Add up your scores for Questions 16 through 18, and enter the total here: ______
Question 19
Do you create appropriate boundaries with negative people?
1 2 3 4 5
No Sometimes Yes
Question 20
Do you have a support system, a mastermind group, or a close circle of friends who
encourage your happiness?
1 2 3 4 5
No Somewhat Yes
Question 21
Do you feel a sense of connection to and appreciation for all types of people?
1 2 3 4 5
No Somewhat Yes
Add up your scores for Questions 19 through 21, and enter the total here: ______
Roof
The Garden
The Foundation
Overall Assessment
Now, let’s see how much you’ve shifted since you began your happiness journey. Record the
scores of the assessment you just completed in the Home for Happiness diagram here.
Next, transfer your score from each section to the chart below in the column titled End of
Seven Steps Score.
Then refer back to the Home for Happiness diagram on Page 11 in Section II where you
recorded your scores when you began each of the Seven Steps. Fill in those scores in the
first column below.
Look at the differences in your results, and notice how your self-assessment has changed
since the beginning of this course. In what areas do you notice the most improvement? Do
you see any areas that need more of your attention or focus?
Write down any thoughts or insights that occur to you about how you would like to
continue on your happiness journey.
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1) Fast Finish
Listen to the Fast Finish for the happiness steps you want to reinforce and enhance. Note
that there is no Fast Finish for the first CD.
2) Happiness Habits
You can practice the Happiness Habits you did not do in Section III, beginning with the
step that had the lowest score on your reassessment, or you can revisit habits you have
already completed but want to reinforce.
3) Happiness Boosters
The Happiness Booster exercises offered in this section will further support you in
applying what you learned in Section III of the course.
4) Troubleshooting Guide
Refer to this section for a quick refresher whenever you encounter a challenge in a
particular area.
5) Accelerated Learning
The Happy for No Reason Paraliminal (CD 1, Track 4), the Visualization Exercise
(CD 1, Track 5), and the Centering Practice (CD 1, Track 6) are excellent learning tools
to help you integrate and accelerate your continued learning.
Happiness Boosters
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What choices can I make on my own behalf that will generate those feelings within myself?
When you stop seeing others as the source of both your happiness and your frustration,
you return the focus to your own circle of influence. Make a list of at least one action you
can take this week that will generate each of the feelings you identified.
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These questions will be of no value unless you act upon the insights you received. Commit to
doing one of the actions you identified this week.
If after completing this exercise you are still experiencing any of the following, refer to the
Troubleshooting Guide on Page 87 for more solutions.
• Blaming
• Complaining
• Indignation
• Shame
• Victimization
• Anger
• Negativity
• Low Self-Esteem
• Sadness
• Being Stuck
Step 3 – The Pillar of the Heart: Pay a “Gratitude Visit”* to Someone Who Has
Made a Difference in Your Life
When is the last time you expressed your gratitude—in person and with thoughtfully chosen
words—to someone who has touched your life? If you are like most people, your answer is
*In the spirit of gratitude, my heartfelt thanks goes out to Martin Seligman, a professor of psychology
at the University of Pennsylvania and the founder of the positive psychology movement, for sharing this
wonderful exercise.
likely “a long time ago,” or “never.” Why should we save our most heartfelt sentiments for
someone’s eulogy, when sharing them right now, face to face, can open our hearts and flood
us with love and appreciation?
Here’s how it works.
Take a moment to reflect on the people in your life and pick someone whom you would
really like to thank; someone who has meant a lot to you. Write this person a letter from
your heart, describing in concrete terms why you are grateful for them.
Once the letter is written, make arrangements to visit this person and read the letter aloud
to him or her when you are face to face. I’ll bet neither one of you completes this exercise
with a dry eye or a closed heart!
If after completing this exercise you are still experiencing any of the following, refer to the
Troubleshooting Guide on Page 87 for more solutions.
• Cold-Heartedness
• Scatteredness
• Ungratefulness
• Feeling Unloved
1. Start by inhaling and exhaling through your mouth, pulling the air from the back of
the throat to make it sound like Darth Vader. You’ll feel the back of the throat slightly
constricting. You can also imagine you are fogging up a pair of glasses.
2. Once you get the hang of making that sound, close your mouth, and continue inhaling
and exhaling in the same way through your nose.
3. Take slow and deep breaths, feeling the air as it slowly passes in and out of your nose
and throat. When you’re doing it correctly, your breath will sound like ocean waves
coming in and going out. This is the sound people make right before they go to sleep,
when they are very relaxed. You can do this while meditating, while sitting at your
desk, when you are confronted with a challenging situation, or while you are exercising.
Practice it a few times each and every day, and notice the effect it has on your body,
mind, and emotions.
• Lethargy
• Sporadic Energy
• Feeling Blue
• Feeling Off Balance
1. Sit quietly and begin by noticing any physical sensations that you feel moving
through your body. Try not to judge the sensations, but simply notice and
acknowledge them.
2. Next, turn your attention to any emotions that you are feeling at the moment. As you
encounter each one, breathe into it.
3. Now turn your attention to the thoughts that are coming and going in your mind.
Notice that the mind goes on tangents and tries to pull you one way or another.
Rather than going with these tangents, allow yourself to be the observer of them.
4. Finally, allow yourself to observe the part of you that is the observer of all your life’s
experiences. This is the timeless, changeless core of yourself that fire cannot burn,
water cannot wet, and weapons cannot cleave. Spend a few minutes breathing into
this essence, and when you are ready, answer the following two questions:
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When your actions are infused with the essence of your Spirit, all of your life’s experiences
become sweeter.
If after completing this exercise you are still experiencing any of the following, refer to the
Troubleshooting Guide on Page 87 for more solutions.
• Feeling Defeated
• Feeling Overwhelmed
• Feeling Tense
Step 6 – The Pillar of the Roof: Infuse Your Day with Purpose
Have you noticed how much energy you seem to have on days when you are committed
to a meaningful purpose and working toward a specific goal? Earl Nightingale, a pioneer
in the human potential movement, identified purpose as one of the strongest predictors of
happiness. “We are at our very best and happiest,” he writes, “when we are fully engaged
in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives
meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so
wonderful, so worthwhile.”
Many of us stop ourselves from connecting to a higher purpose or setting short-term goals
because we think we have to figure out the overarching purpose of our entire lives. The
fact is, the moment we infuse anything we’re involved in with purpose, we multiply our
happiness and increase the energy we have available to work toward our goals.
Take some time before the start of the coming week to identify a purpose that will inspire
you to your best. The following questions may stimulate your thinking.
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Use your answers to these questions to clarify what is most important to you, then write this
down in the form of a purpose that you’ll refer to as the guiding principle of your week.
If after completing these exercises you are still experiencing any of the following, refer to the
Troubleshooting Guide on Page 87 for more solutions.
• Disconnection
• Feeling Uninspired
• Meaninglessness of Life
• Purposelessness
The next time you find yourself dealing with someone who’s angry, depressed, or otherwise
oozing negativity, try this:
1. Keep your emotional balance by tuning in to your body. Deepen your breathing,
and notice any sensations that arise within you. This will keep you from a knee-jerk
reaction.
2. Point out the positive—gently and without judgment. Most people who are feeling
cranky and upset aren’t deliberately trying to bring others down. Look beyond their
behavior and you’ll see that they’re just trying to find a way to feel some relief. Offer a
lighthearted comment—or better yet, a bit of praise or appreciation—and they may see
the situation from a new perspective. When you can’t think of anything positive to say,
know that simply staying neutral in the face of their negativity is a gift in itself.
If after completing this exercise you are still experiencing any of the following, refer to the
following Troubleshooting Guide for more solutions.
• Anxiety
• Loneliness
• Feeling Unsupported
Anxiety Sit quietly and isolate one issue that is contributing to your
anxiety. Look for guidance on this issue by posing a question in
a journal and writing whatever comes to you without censoring,
opening to a page in a favorite book and seeing what phrase or
word you find there may give you new insight, or asking for a
sign that may help give you a new direction.
Blaming Identify the role you played in the co-creation of the situation, and
brainstorm three things you could do differently in the future.
Feeling Defeated Give yourself the compassion you deserve, then surrender the
situation and invite yourself to believe that the universe is out to
support you. Send out an intention that every relationship and
event will be orchestrated for your highest good…then let go.
Feeling Off Balance Check in with yourself regularly to see whether you’re giving
your body what it needs, and make a commitment to listen and
respond to the messages your body gives you.
Feeling Take at least ten minutes each day for silence, meditation, or prayer.
Overwhelmed
Feeling Tense Do the Ho’oponopono practice (Page 20) seven times a day for
a week and notice how you feel.
Feeling Uninspired Think about your job and analyze what you do. Find at least one
activity that has meaning for you. Focus on that sense of meaning
throughout the day, and look for ways to expand the number of
activities that contribute to it. Or for a larger sense of purpose,
complete the Call to Serve Visualization exercise on Page 62.
Feeling Unloved Focus on being loving to others and you’ll experience the love
that is within yourself.
Feeling We often feel weakest when we’re with people who undermine or
Unsupported do not understand us. Use your inner GPS to identify the roses
and weeds—the nourishing and toxic relationships—in your life,
and consciously surround yourself with like-minded people.
Lethargy Exercise, do the breathing practices on Pages 46 and 82, or catch the
“angel train” by going to bed three nights in a row before 10 p.m.
Loneliness See the world as your family by focusing on the things that every
human being has in common. Perform a random act of kindness
and notice what happens to your sense of connectedness.
Low Self-Esteem Each day for the next 21 days list three things you appreciate
about yourself. Read this list every night before going to sleep.
Sporadic Energy For one week, kick the caffeine, lose the sugar, and curb the
carbs. Notice the profound effect on your body.
Ungratefulness Try Brother David’s “great fullness” theme for the day exercise,
which you’ll find on Page 36. Or before you go to sleep at
night, think of five things that you felt gratitude for that day.
Keep track of the things you appreciate in a journal and re-read
it whenever you are in need of a bit of gratitude.
Thank you for allowing me to be your guide on this journey. May you be Happy for No
Reason each and every day!
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