How Narcissism Distorts Self Image
How Narcissism Distorts Self Image
How Narcissism Distorts Self Image
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see yourself close to how others see you,
do you devalue yourself, or do you inflate your attributes more than is healthy?
In spite of this pleasure in self-gaze, there is trouble below the surface. Brain scans of narcissistic
people looking at their own images show increased blood flow consistent with inner conflict and
negative feelings, betraying insecurity beneath a mask of self-regard.
While narcissism has benefits—including offsetting the detrimental impact of other dark triad
traits (i.e. Machiavellianism, psychopathy) on well-being (2021)—it is generally negative.
People with narcissism overestimate their ability to lead, don’t take constructive feedback, cross
ethical lines, take advantage of others, create toxicity, and take more than their fair share of the
profit.
Views of narcissism
There are two types of pathological narcissism, grandiose and vulnerable. Research finds
grandiose narcissists appear less troubled by how they are and what others think, and are perhaps
more temperamentally narcissistic, more authentically grandiose. Vulnerable narcissists, on the
other hand, are thought to use the appearance of entitlement, arrogance, and pride in themselves
to cover up deep feelings of shame, doubt about oneself, and insecurity.
There are two basic causal models of narcissism. The psychoanalytic model says that narcissism
is a defense against the underlying devaluation of oneself, an over-compensation for inner
feelings of inadequacy; generally, the result of being devalued (or even traumatized) growing up.
Social learning theory says that narcissism comes from being praised too easily, highly valued
without corresponding intrinsic value (presumably due to familial problems, such as parental
narcissism and intergenerational trauma).
Participants in the study were 96 college students, aged 18-25, 56 were women. They
participated in two experiments, the first designed to look for inaccuracies in self-perceived self-
image, and the second to look for distortions in how attractive participants saw themselves. In
both experiments, narcissistic self-image perception was correlated with measures of self-
concept clarity and subtype of narcissism.
Self-Concept Clarity (SCC)2 looks at how crisp or how vague the idea of oneself is, rating for
example how many conflicting beliefs one has about oneself, feelings of inauthenticity, and
difficulty sharing who one is with others. The Pathological Narcissism Inventory (PNI) has
multiple items, the “grandiose fantasizing” component correlating with the social learning theory
model and the “hiding the self” with the psychoanalytic.
In experiment 1, participants were given 500 pairs of reference images randomized with noise
drawn from a standard database to compare with one another, making judgments about which
looked more like themselves. Based on these choices, a “composite” image of the participant was
generated by computer software which represented the unconscious inner way participants saw
themselves. This composite was then compared with their actual image to calculate a measure of
self-image distortion.
Findings
Those with poorer SCC had greater distortion in how they saw themselves. Narcissistic
insecurity, not grandiose fantasizing, accounted for 75 percent of the connection between self-
concept clarity and distorted self-image, supporting the psychoanalytic model of hidden
vulnerability.
Grandiose fantasy actually had the opposite effect, weakening the connection between identity
stability and self-image distortion by 25 percent. Likewise, increased self-enhancement was
connected with greater narcissistic insecurity and not grandiose fantasizing. The greater the
tendency to hide themselves out of insecurity, the greater participant’s belief that they were more
attractive than others deemed them.
Reverse correlation—much like the implicit association test (IAT)3, which measures consciously
imperceptible differences in reaction times when pairing words with images to reveal
unconscious bias—shows what is going on outside of awareness.
One of the most significant findings is the key role played by insecurity, supporting the
psychoanalytic hypothesis that unconscious vulnerabilities and unresolved conflicts about
oneself lead to defensive over-estimation of one’s attractiveness.
This research did not support social learning theory, suggesting that narcissistic self-image self-
enhancement may not develop because of undeserved praise. If anything, it may be that
undeserved praise undermines motivation, resilience, and self-efficacy by making it too easy to
win the prize. This ultimately may increase vulnerability and intolerance of failure, amplifying
the insecure core sense of self.
Self-concept clarity is a key factor. The more diffuse our identity, the more distorted one’s view
is of oneself. This distortion is toward self-enhancement. When we don’t know who we are, we
may compensate for this uncertainty by unconsciously puffing up ourselves.
SCC has also been shown to be important in breaking-up. Research suggests that anxiously
attached people with a poor sense of self are more likely to return to unwanted relationships
simply to hold on to a strong sense of identity as part of the couple rather than tolerate the
uncomfortable uncertainty of being single. This is all the more relevant because, somewhat
counterintuitively, when people divorce, research (2021) suggests personality does not change,
though it may free up who they are.