w2-BUSN733 Course Handout - Business Etiquette
w2-BUSN733 Course Handout - Business Etiquette
w2-BUSN733 Course Handout - Business Etiquette
COURSE HANDOUT
BUSN733
Business etiquette covers so many facets of human interaction from introducing people
correctly to talking on the telephone, hosting gatherings, writing letters, electronic
etiquette, international etiquette and so on. New employees are hired for their technical
skills and fired for their lack of interpersonal skills. Business is conducted in offices and
places of business as well as at breakfast meetings, luncheons, dinners and parties. Many
professionals are not at ease at such functions. They are not sure of the etiquette and
protocol surrounding these occasions. Knowing how to take advantage of the potential in
these situations adds to an individual’s overall effectiveness as a representative of an
organization – benefiting the company and the individual. Without etiquette, you limit
your potential, risk your image, and jeopardize relationships that are fundamental to
business success.
Landing a job in an executive world requires a lot of responsibility. And one of which is
to strictly observe business etiquette. Etiquette involves arriving in meetings on time,
turning off or putting in silent mode your cellular phones, wearing proper business attire,
addressing people with their respective job titles or designations, and the list goes on.
Having the proper etiquette during business meetings or official gatherings really speaks
a lot about you not just as an employee of the company, but as a human being. Also,
having the proper etiquette in your workplace could be grounds for promotions or special
recognition. Furthermore, using business etiquette is one way to have your colleagues
think good thoughts about you.
WRITING ETIQUETTE
Although creating a powerful first impression sets the stage to develop positive business
relationships, it takes work to maintain those relationships.
Be civil. Civility has been defined as courteousness and is often used synonymously with
politeness. Recognizing the importance of civility in all of our actions is the first step in
creating and maintaining enjoyable working and personal interactions.
Buddhism: Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.
Brahmanism: This is the sum of duty: Do naught unto others which would cause
you pain if done to you.
Christianity: All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye
even to them.
Confucianism: What you do not like when done to yourself, do not do to others.
Islam: No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he
desires for himself.
Taoism: Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain, and your neighbor’s loss
as your own loss.
Zorastrianism: That nature alone is good which refrains from doing unto another
whatsoever is not good for itself.
Fortunately, most people are willing to forgive unfortunate incidents and mistakes if you
recognize them and apologize. Not apologizing may result in resentment and distrust;
negative working relationships may result. By apologizing and correcting mistakes, trust
can be restored and positive working relationships can be maintained.
Don’t hold yourself up to perfection, and don’t expect others to be perfect either. Beware
of becoming a member of the etiquette police! These are people who relish knowing
every little etiquette detail and correcting those whom they perceive to be in error. This,
in itself, is a breach of manners. Remember that etiquette is based on civility and
kindness, not on insisting on etiquette rules.
In addition to knowing how to apologize gracefully, you need to use the following
common words and phrases. “Please,” “Thank you,” “Excuse me,” and “May I help
you?” They are all short and simple, but when said with meaning, they convey respect.
Be ethical
Many organizations publish a code of ethics to help guide their employees to make
ethical decisions, but even without this guide you can ask yourself the following
questions and if the answer is yes to any one of them, then think again.
Whether you like it or not, you are judged by the way you look. The most important
thing to remember about how to dress is to always dress to make your customers, clients,
coworkers, or guests feel respected and comfortable. Don’t forget that your choice of
wardrobe could have an impact on your career. A good rule of thumb is to let your
wardrobe reflect the position to which you aspire, not the position you currently hold.
Whatever you choose to wear, keep it clean and neat. Opinions about appropriate on-the-
job or off-the-job attire often vary by parts in different regions of the country, so—when
in doubt—it is always a good idea to ask what is appropriate for the situation. Most
organizations have a dress code, whether published or not. When it involves your job,
you should find out what it is and follow it.
Here are some common terms used in business regarding your attire:
The rules of introductions are fairly simple. The first is to show respect for the most
important person in the setting by mentioning that person’s name first. The second is to
try to include a brief comment about each person being introduced so that they have some
basic knowledge of each other. These brief introductory statements provide opportunities
to begin conversations as well as help associate names with faces, which improves name
retention. It takes practice to remember names, but mastering this skill pays dividends as
it builds meaningful relationships.
Introductions of people you know or to whom you would like to show special respect
(such as your company president or your manager) have a special twist. The rule is to
introduce the “less respected” person (lesser authority, rank, or age) to the “more
respected” person (higher authority, rank, or age). In other words, say “the most
respected” person’s name first. As a matter of courtesy, clients should always be granted
the status of holding the “most respected” position. Examples:
“Ms. Senior Executive, let me present Mr. Junior Executive. Mr. Junior
Executive, this is Ms. Senior Executive.”
Ms. Gonzales, I would like to introduce Letitia Cosby, who will help you
complete the paperwork for your loan. Letitia, this is Ms Gonzales.”
“Dean Dolphin, I would like you to meet Nicholas and Helena Mithras. Their son
Alex will be attending our school this fall. Mr. and Mrs. Mithras, Dean Dolphin
is the dean of the business school.”
Today, men and women stand when they are being introduced—regardless of whether the
other person is a man or woman. In a business situation, it is especially respectful to
stand when a client enters your workspace. Well-mannered business men and women
often come around their desk and shake hands with clients before getting down to
business. However, if you work together or see each other often, there is no need to stand
every time a colleague enters your work space.
Shaking hands
Handshakes are the norm in the western world, so be prepared to shake hands in business
settings. In other cultures, however, handshakes may only be part of an introduction.
You should shake someone’s hand when meeting for the first time or meeting someone
you have not seen in a long time, greeting your host or hostess, greeting your guests or
saying goodbye when you want to show extra respect. You should wait for dignitaries or
much higher-ranked executives to present their hand to you first. Always shake hands
with anyone who extends his or her hand to you, no matter what the situation. It is
extremely rude to ignore or refuse to shake hands when someone offers a hand to you.
As you extend your hand, make eye contact, smile, and say “How do you do?” or
“Hello.” If you extend your hand and the other person doesn’t respond, simply withdraw
your hand and continue talking. Do not extend your hand when the other person’s hands
Conflict resolution
The following suggestions will help improve your conflict management skills.
Be sure you understand what’s on their minds before you offer unsolicited advice
or quick-fix solutions.
Do not push too hard or fast for agreement. Sometimes speed leads people to
believe that you are neither listening to nor understanding them.
Personal Workspace
In today’s open environment, remember four walls and a door may not define an office;
personal work areas can range all the way from private offices, to cubicles, to desks and
shared workspaces. Whatever the design or location, they all have one thing in common;
they are designed for work. Avoid the bad manners associated with encroachment;
observe the following workspace courtesies:
Knock or pause before you enter a private office, even if you have an
appointment.
If the person is on the phone, always wait until the call is finished before entering.
Don’t linger where you can overhear the conversation; try again later.
When your visit takes you to a cubicle, treat the location just like a private office.
Don’t peer over the side or barge right in, even though there isn’t a door.
Respect your coworkers’ work areas by avoiding interruptions and actions that
could take away from their productivity. In open work areas, it is specifically
important to remember to talk softly, keep noise down, so you don’t disturb
others.
If you are an infrequent visitor to a coworker’s office, wait until asked before
sitting down.
Don’t move anything or spread your papers on anyone else’s desk.
Don’t stand over people’s backs while working with them at their desk, lean over
them to point at work on their desk, or read their computer screens.
Excuse yourself if the person needs to take a phone call.
Keep your visit short and to the point.
Office romances
In decades past, many organizations had strict policies against amorous relationships at
work; some organizations still define limits (for example, who may date whom).
However, office romances are definitely more pervasive now than they have been in the
past. Many people do meet their life mates in the workplace. However, office romance
has its down side. The biggest danger of office romance is the potential for charges of
sexual harassment. More common problems include office gossip, perception of
Definitely don’t:
Probably okay:
Date a colleague. Dating a colleague is less problematic than dating the boss, but
can still lead to problems if the relationship sours and you must continue to work
closely together. Take time to get to know a coworker before dating. Going out
to lunch or dinner after work makes for a comfortable transitional step to dating.
Date an employee in another department. Dating a colleague with whom you do
not work on a frequent basis will probably lead to the fewest pitfalls of office
romance.
Be discreet. Remember to focus your work-time attentions on the job at hand—
no lengthy phone chats, frequent instant messages, well-timed trips to the vending
machine, or lingering lunches. Refrain from public displays of affection at work.
Do not use the company email system to send love notes.
Table manners play an important part in making a favorable impression. They are visible
signals of the state of our manners and therefore are essential to professional success.
Regardless of whether we are having lunch with a prospective employer or dinner with a
business associate, our manners can speak volumes about us as professionals.
Timing
Business meals can happen at any time of the day or night. The time of day and place
where business meals are scheduled and served sends an important message about the
purpose. The longer the meal, the more time is dedicated to socializing during these
meals.
Breakfast meetings are becoming more common as busy business people try to
schedule more activities into each day. It’s OK to schedule early morning
meetings, so don’t be surprised by an invitation to meet at 7:00 a.m. (or even
earlier). This early morning meal is usually simple, so it doesn’t take long to eat;
Lunch meetings are still the most common business meal. They may start any
time after 11:30 a.m. and may last for up to two and a half hours.
Dinner meetings are not time constrained. They take place after normal working
hours and may extend for several hours. With relaxed time constraints,
socializing may take a more significant role.
Business banquets can take place at breakfast, lunch, or dinner—each with preset
menus and tables planned and served for speed and efficiency. These meals can
range from somewhat formal to very formal, and often feature presentations
following the meal.
Unless you are very familiar with your table guests, it is best to stick with nonalcoholic
beverages when the dining setting involves business. This is especially true during the
lunch hour. The “three-martini lunch” may have existed in the past but now it is just
folklore and far from normal practice in today’s business setting.
If you do order an alcoholic drink, have only one and don’t experiment with
something new.
If you are a guest, don’t order an alcoholic beverage unless offered by your host.
If you are the host, always ask if it is okay with your guest(s) before ordering.
When ordering wine for the table, wait until everyone has ordered entrées so that
you can make the appropriate selection. With wine, as with menu items, it is best
to stay in the mid-price range.
When wine is presented, feel the cork for moistness and taste the wine. However,
unless you are a true oeniphile (wine expert), do not sniff the cork! Ordering and
accepting wine is different in business than is shown on television shows. Don’t
make a fool of yourself by pretending to know more than you do.
Your bread plate is either to the left of your forks or slightly above them.
If a salad or fruit plate is part of the place setting, it will also be to the left of your
plate.
The salad fork is the farthest to the left of the plate if salad is served first.
The dinner fork is closer to the plate.
A dessert fork may be either closest to the plate or above the plate.
The soup spoon is the farthest to the right of the plate because it is used first.
The teaspoon is next, closer to the plate.
The butter knife may be placed on the butter plate or between the teaspoon and
the dinner knife.
The dinner knife is next to the plate, cutting edge inward.
If dessert is to be eaten with a dessert spoon, it will be placed over your plate.
There are two ways to use a knife and fork to cut and eat your food. They are the
American style and the European or Continental style. Either style is considered
appropriate. In the American style, one cuts the food by holding the knife in the
right hand and the fork in the left hand with the fork tines piercing the food to
secure it on the plate. Cut a few bite-size pieces of food, then lay your knife
across the top edge of your plate with the sharp edge of the blade facing in.
Change your fork from your left to your right hand to eat, fork tines facing up. (If
you are left-handed, keep your fork in your left hand, tines facing up.) The
European or Continental style is the same as the American style in that you cut
your meat by holding your knife in your right hand while securing your food with
your fork in your left hand. The difference is your fork remains in your left hand,
tines facing down, and the knife in your right hand. Simply eat the cut pieces of
food by picking them up with your fork still in your left hand.
Napkin Use:
The napkin that you will use may be placed either to the left of your forks, on your plate,
or in the water glass when you first arrive.
After you sit down, pick up your napkin, unfold it, and place it on your lap. Wait
for your host to do this first if you are the guest.
Never use your napkin as a handkerchief.
Frequently dab your mouth with your napkin to remove any crumbs.
If you need to leave the table, excuse yourself and place your napkin on the seat
of your chair. It signals the service staff that you will be returning.
When everyone is finished eating, fold your napkin in half and place it on the
table to the right of your dinner plate (never over your plate), but don’t do this
until everyone has finished eating—including dessert if served.
Ordering:
If, after looking over the menu, there are items you are uncertain about, ask your server
any questions you may have. Answering your questions is part of the server's job. It is
An employer will generally suggest that your order be taken first; his or her order will be
taken last. Sometimes, however, the server will decide how the ordering will proceed.
Often, women's orders are taken before men's.
As a guest, you should not order one of the most expensive items on the menu or more
than two courses unless your host indicates that it is all right. If the host says, "I'm going
to try this delicious sounding cheesecake; why don't you try dessert too," or "The prime
rib is the specialty here; I think you'd enjoy it," then it is all right to order that item if you
would like.
Do not push your plate away from you when you have finished eating. Leave your plate
where it is in the place setting. The common way to show that you have finished your
meal is to lay your fork and knife diagonally across your plate. Place your knife and fork
side by side, with the sharp side of the knife blade facing inward and the fork, tines down,
to the left of the knife. The knife and fork should be placed as if they are pointing to the
numbers 10 and 4 on a clock face. Make sure they are placed in such a way that they do
not slide off the plate as it is being removed. Once you have used a piece of silverware,
never place it back on the table. Do not leave a used spoon in a cup, either; place it on the
saucer. You can leave a soupspoon in a soup plate. Any unused silverware is simply left
on the table.
If you are the host, ask your guests if they would like dessert. After the meal, discuss
business, make decisions, and conclude contracts as appropriate, placing only necessary
papers on the table. When ready, motion to the server or ask the server to bring your bill.
Don’t place the bill where guests can see the amount. Leave the right amount for a tip
(10% for buffet service, 15% for table service, 20% for exceptional service or parties
with six or more people). When all is completed and everyone is done eating/drinking,
stand up and accompany your guests to the door. Shake hands and thank them for joining
you. By these simple actions, you send a clear signal that the meal and business has
come to a close.
If the setting is formal, with place cards, there may be a diagram or list near the
entrance to help you find your seat.
Once you locate your seat, remain standing until others arrive. This simple
gesture of standing not only makes it more inviting for others to join you, but it
also makes introductions easier. If you are standing, you don’t have to stand up to
shake hands or worry about reading name tags at a distance or reaching across the
salad dressing and butter during introductions.
TELEPHONE ETIQUETTE
Whether answering the phone or making phone calls, using the proper etiquette is a must
in order to maintain a certain level of professionalism. Proper etiquette leaves callers
with a favorable impression of you, your department, and the company in general. You’ll
also find that others treat you with more respect and are willing to go out of their way to
assist you if you use the proper etiquette. Using phrases such as "thank you" and "please"
are essential in displaying a professional atmosphere.
NOTE: Sometimes you will have many lines ringing all at once. Please remember to
write down the names of the calls holding so you avoid asking who the caller is holding
for more than once. Follow the above steps, placing as many calls on hold as necessary.
Transferring Calls
To transfer a call:
Answer the phone by saying: "School of Business, how may I help you?"
1) If the caller asks to speak to the dean (for example), ask "May I tell him/her who is
calling?"
a) Ask the caller "May I tell him what this is in regard to?" (if appropriate)
b) Ask the caller to please hold for a moment.
c) Press Xfer and the extension.
d) Wait for the dean to answer.
e) Announce the name of the caller.
f) Wait for a response as to whether the call will be taken.
i) If the called party wishes to take the call, press the Xfer button again.
ii) If the calling party does not wish to take the call, press the RLSE button and
then the button where the caller is. SAY: "Dean’s name is out of the office,
may I take a message or would you like his/her voicemail?"
Note: Companies may have various phone systems and each phone system has its own
special keys and procedures for managing calls and voicemail. Be sure to read the phone
system manual or contact a representative who services the phone system.
Taking Messages
1. Be prepared with pen and message slip when you answer the phone.
2. When taking messages be sure to ask for:
1. Caller's name (asking the caller for correct spelling.)
2. Caller's phone number and/or extension (including area code)
3. If the caller is a student, ask for the Student ID# (if appropriate) and ask
what the call is in regard to.
3. Repeat the message to the caller.
4. Be sure to fill in the date, time, and your initials.
1. Stay calm. Try to remain diplomatic and polite. Getting angry will only make
them angrier.
2. Always show willingness to resolve the problem or conflict.
3. Try to think like the caller. Remember, their problems and concerns are
important.
4. Non-supervisory: Offer to have your supervisor talk to the caller or call him/her
back if the caller persists.
Supervisor: Be willing to handle irate callers. Speak slowly and calmly. Be firm with
your answers, but understanding. Sometimes the irate caller just wants someone in a
supervisory capacity to listen to their story even if you are unable to help them.
Making Calls
1. When you call someone and they answer the phone, do not say "Who am I
speaking with?" without first identifying yourself: "This is Jane Howard. To
whom am I speaking?"
2. Always know and state the purpose of the communication.
3. When you reach a wrong number, don't argue with the person who answered the
call or keep them on the line. Say: "I'm sorry, I must have the wrong number.
Please excuse the interruption." And then hang up.
Keep in mind the Golden Rule when it comes to phone etiquette. Don't make people
dread having to answer their phone or call your department.
There are several ways that you can end a long phone call without making up a story or
sounding rude:
As long as you are honest and polite with the other person, you shouldn't have any
problems getting off the phone and onto something else.
VOICEMAIL ETIQUETTE
Voicemail has many benefits and advantages when used properly. However, you should
not hide behind voicemail. If callers constantly reach your voicemail instead of you, they
will suspect that you are avoiding calls. Here are a few tips on such things as greetings
and responding to voicemail.
Voicemail Greeting
1. Be sure to record your own personal greeting; don't use the standard default
greeting or have another person record your greeting. People tend to feel that they
have already lost the personal communication touch because of voicemail. If a
female voice says that "Jim Persaud is not available", the caller will not be
convinced that you listen to your voicemail.
2. Many companies like you to change your voicemail each morning to include the
current date and your current availability or schedule.
3. Write down what you want to say in your greeting and practice saying it a few
times before recording. Even if the greeting sounds like you are reading it, it will
ensure that you don't spend as much time trying to record it "just right."
4. Include in your greeting your name and department so that people know they have
reached the correct person.
5. Your regular greeting should include your normal work hours. If you know that
you will be on vacation for a few days or leaving the office early or have different
hours temporarily, you should record an alternate greeting to let callers know this.
1. Check your messages daily and return messages within 24 hours. If it will take
longer than 24 hours, call the person and advise him/her. Callers should feel
comfortable that you are checking your voicemail daily.
2. Reply, forward, or delete messages immediately. Keep your mailbox clean. Saved
messages kept longer than a week take up needless space in your mailbox since
you are only allowed a limited number of messages in your mailbox, including
saved messages.
3. If you forward a message, be sure to explain to the person to whom you are
forwarding the message why you are sending it to them.
Composing email
Remember that business email etiquette differs from informal email with friends.
Business email may involve more traditional use of capitalization and spelling.
Visualize your reader.
Add headings, lists, or numbers that will make your email easier to skim. Always
include a subject line to help readers identify content.
Use priority settings for messages that need an immediate response. Immediate
does not always mean the receiver will check their email in the same hour or day,
but it does help readers identify which email messages need responses as soon as
possible.
Use jokes, slang, and emoticons with care. Emoticons such as may harm your
credibility with some readers. Use good judgment here. If you write to someone
frequently and you have a less formal relationship, then emoticons are okay.
However, if you’re writing to a prospective employer or client, use words only.
Processing email
Check your email regularly and answer promptly, but resist the temptation to look
at email or surf the web continually.
A web page can serve as a powerful business communication tool, but it can also be a
source of frustration for viewers and can create a negative image of you and your
company. The same rules of writing business documents apply to writing for the Web,
but web pages also have to consider the technological aspect of viewing web pages. Such
things as font size, languages, links, colours, object layout, web browsers, user-
friendliness and more, all have to be taken into consideration.
Cook, Roy A., Cook, O. Gwen & Yale, Laura J., (2005). Guide to Business Etiquette.
New Jersey, U.S.A: Prentice Hall.