Peer Relationships 1

LESSON 1: INTRODUCTION TO PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Materials Needed:
Pencils
Characteristics of a Peer Relationship worksheet
Bristol board & markers to make chart
Lesson Objectives:
Awareness of the importance of peer relationships and how they are beneficial
Recognizing the basic characteristics of how to be a good friend
Introduction to different strategies that we use to develop and maintain peer relationships
Recognizing what characteristics are wanted and unwanted in a friendship
Buzzwords Vocab to highlight/clarify:
Relationship: a connection between two people
Peer: someone else your age, a friend, or a classmate
Peer relationship: a friendship with someone else your age, a friend, or a classmate
Strategy: a method used to achieve a goal
Chronology of lesson
Part 1 Benefits of relationships
Part 2 Characteristics of relationships
Part 3 What are these lessons about?
Activity
Assessment
Recap of lesson & buzzwords
Approx. time to complete section

5 min.
10 min.
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6 - 7 min.
10 - 15 min.
5 min.
Total time to complete lesson
45 min.
NOTE: Throughout all classes it is important to constantly engage the students by asking them
to provide examples and participate in discussion. Filling out the worksheets should not be silent,
individual work. They should be completed as a class with each student providing their own
personal examples.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Benefits of Relationships.
Highlight to the class that we have relationships with many people. We have relationships
with our parents, siblings, extended family members, and even our friends at home and at
school. Having relationships with other people is important, because these connections with
other people can make us feel good about ourselves.
One of the ways that relationships make us feel good is by providing us with someone else to
talk to. This is important because it makes us feel like we are not alone. There are many other
reasons why relationships make us feel good. Can anyone give me an example of why
relationships are a good thing? (Wait for answers).
The way that we form connections with other people can also have positive or negative
consequences.
o Ex: When we act in a good way towards other people and they act the same way to
us, we feel better about ourselves (increased self-esteem) and the other people in the
relationship feel the same way too (more likely to keep that relationship, which will
continue to increase your self-esteem)
PART 2: Characteristics of Relationships.
Highlight to the class characteristics of a good and healthy friendship or relationship.
As we have already learned, having positive relationships with our peers can make us feel good.
In order to have positive peer relationships, we must first understand the basic characteristics of
being a good friend. Can anyone give me an example of what a good friendship is made of, or
what it means to be a good friend?
o Ex: Sharing your belongings
o Ex: Giving your peer compliments
Good friendships can be complex because they consist of many different characteristics:
(1) Having common interests, likes, or hobbies
(2) Feeling comfortable with sharing private thoughts, feelings, or stories
(3) Understanding each other
(4) Conflict resolution
o Ex: Being able to solve arguments and problems without hurting the
relationship
(5) Being affectionate or caring
(6) Equality in the relationship
o Ex: A shared friendship where all members are treated the same; everyone
is treated fairly
(7) Being loyal and trustworthy
o Ex: Keeping your word in the relationship; actually doing what you say
you will
o Ex: Keeping secrets in the relationship
When learning about peer relationships it is important to keep three questions in mind. These
questions are:
(1) What characteristics can you bring to a peer relationship?
(2) What characteristics are you looking for in a friend?
(3) What characteristics are you NOT looking for in a friend?
Keep these questions in mind, as we will come back to them later in the lesson when we
complete an activity.
Good friendships are also two-way. This means that it takes two people to form a positive
relationship that has all of the above characteristics that we just spoke about. Both people in the
relationship must make an effort to make sure that the friendship lasts. In the next lesson we will
talk about two-way conversations, which is a very important part of two-way relationships.
PART 3: What are these lessons about?
Explain to the class what we are doing here and the purpose of these lessons.
What are we going to learn from these lessons? Why are peer relationships so important?
Once we understand what it means to be a good friend, we must then learn how we can develop
peer relationships. Making friends and keeping them is something you can do by using different
strategies. There are many different strategies that you can use to have peer relationships. Some
are positive strategies, and others are negative strategies.
What do I mean when I say I want to give you a strategy? Does anyone know what a strategy
is? (Wait for answers).
A strategy is a method that you use to achieve a goal. It can take time and practice to develop
o Ex: In soccer, if you want to improve your kick you need to practice shooting at the
net every day. The more and more you go to the field and practice this skill, the better
you will get. Eventually you will get much better at playing soccer and at scoring
goals!
We are going to learn a variety of strategies and how some can help us develop positive peer
relationships, whereas others should be avoided when trying to form positive peer
relationships
These strategies will help us learn how to have appropriate conversations and interact in a
positive way with our peers
Learning how to do this will help us to make friends more easily
Remember though, it takes practice to learn how to use our strategies more effectively and to
make positive peer relationships
Everyone can benefit from learning how to be a good friend and practicing using
positive strategies to help us initiate and maintain positive relationships with our peers.
ACTIVITY: Learn what characteristics are and are not wanted in a peer relationship.
Understand how you can bring unique qualities to a peer relationship as well.
Now that we understand the importance of peer relationships and some of the positive
characteristics of these relationships, we are going to complete an activity.
Worksheet Instructions:
On the worksheet provided, students should work independently to:
Write down characteristics that they can bring to a peer relationship. This means that they
should write down what characteristics they possess that a peer would be interested in
Write down characteristics they would want in a peer when looking to form a relationship
Write down characteristics that they DO NOT want a peer to possess when looking to
form a peer relationship
Students may then turn to a partner and discuss their answers.
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about peer relationships. Think about
what we should and should not do when trying to form a relationship with a peer.
Discussion & Chart:
Once the class has finished the above activity, come together as a class to discuss answers
Create a chart on a piece of bristol board that consists of Positive Characteristics and
Negative Characteristics
The teacher should fill in this chart based on student responses and class discussion
The chart should be placed in a spot in the classroom where it is visible to all students
This chart should be referred to throughout the remainder of the lessons
Praise children for thinking about peer relationships and sharing thoughts with the class
Emphasize the importance of possessing the positive characteristics and eliminating the
negative characteristics
CHARACTERISTICS OF A PEER RELATIONSHIP WORKSHEET
(1) What characteristics can you bring to a peer relationship?

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(2) What characteristics are you looking for in a friend?

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(3) What characteristics are you NOT looking for in a friend?

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LESSON 2: INITIATING CONVERSATION

Materials Needed:
Computer with internet access
Lesson Objectives:
Understand the concept of what it means to approach a peer and initiate conversation
Awareness of the importance of eye contact in initiating conversation
Learn strategies on how to appropriately trade information with peers in order to find
common interests
Relationship: a connection between two people
Peer: someone else your age, a friend, or a classmate
Trading information: communicating with another person by exchanging information
(e.g., spoken words) back and forth
Common interests: interests, hobbies, or likes that you and your peer both share
Recap of previous lesson & todays goals
Part 1 Eye contact

2 3 min.
5 min.
Part 2 Trading information

Activity
Assessment
Recap of lesson & buzzwords
10 min.
10 min.
10 min.
5 min.
45 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about how we have
relationships with many different people. We learned that relationships with our peers are very
important, as our peers can provide us with many benefits. Can somebody tell me some benefits
that our peers can provide us? (Wait for answers). Over the next 9 classes we will learn different
strategies that will help us develop and maintain relationships with our peers. These strategies
will teach us how to properly have a conversation and interact with our peers.
We also mentioned last class that making friends isnt always easy we use different
STRATEGIES that take time and practice to develop. The goal of todays class is to show you
what you should do when you first approach a peer. I am going to explain strategies and give you
examples of how they can be used in different situations. Then we will work together to practice
using these strategies.
LESSON PLAN
Lesson adapted from the Program for the Evaluation and Enrichment of Relational Skills (PEERS) Manual by Laugeson & Frankel (2010)
PART 1: Overview and explanation of strategy eye contact

In order to develop a peer relationship we need to first approach a peer. The first strategy that I
will teach you about approaching a peer and developing a positive peer relationship is making
eye contact. Can somebody tell me why it might be important to make eye contact when first
approaching a peer? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: So they know you are about to talk to them
o Ex: So they know that you are interested in them
PART 2: Overview and explanation of strategy trading information
The next strategy I will teach you for developing a positive peer relationship is how to properly
trade information. Trading information is what makes a relationship two-way. Can anybody
remember what I mean when I say that a relationship is two-way? (Wait for answer). After
making initial eye contact, the next thing we want to do is to trade information. What does it
mean to trade information?
(1) Talking back and of forth with another person
(2) Having a conversation in which everyone gets a turn
(3) A form of communication
Trading information is what two (or more) people do when they are getting to know each other.
In what ways can we trade information with a peer? (Wait for an answer).
o Ex: We can trade information by speaking about our pets.
o Ex: We can trade information by writing letters to each other.
The goal of trading information is to find common interests. Having similar likes, interests, and
hobbies is important when forming peer relationships because these things give you ideas about
what you might like to talk about or do together.
There are 5 rules for trading information when you first approach a peer:
(1) Ask the other person about him or herself
o It is polite to first ask the other person about him or herself before you talk about
yourself. We can ask a peer about many different topics. What is something you
can ask a peer about? (Wait for answer). Why is it important to ask your peer
about him or herself? (Wait for answer).
Ex: It is important to ask your peer about him or herself because you can
then learn about what they like to do for fun, what they are interested in,
etc.
(2) Staying on the same topic, share something about yourself
o In order to trade information, both you and your peer must be involved in the
conversation. Once your peer is finished speaking, it is your turn to speak. Now is
the time to answer your own question (the question you just asked the peer). Why
is it important to answer your own question? (Wait for answer)
We need to answer our own questions so our peer can gather information
about our likes, interests, and hobbies too.
(3) Find common interests
o After trading information, take note of things that you and your peer both like.
Identify things you can talk about and do together. Why is it important to find
common interests? (Wait for answer). You should also pay attention to your
peers dislikes. Why is it important to know what your peer does not like? (Wait
for answer)
Finding common interests allow you to get a sense of what things you and
your peer could talk about and do together. Knowing what your peer
doesnt like can help you to avoid talking about or doing things that your
peer is not interested in.
(4) Share the conversation
o Be sure to share the conversation. What does it mean to share the conversation?
(Wait for answer). Why is sharing the conversation important? (Wait for answer).
When we share the conversation it means that we are both getting a turn to
trade information. It takes at least two people to trade information, just
like it takes two people to form a peer relationship. Trading information
goes both ways. It is important that each person gets a chance to ask a
question or make a comment.
ACTIVITY: Learn how to appropriately trade information. Understand how trading
information involves finding common interests by asking questions, listening, and then
speaking.
Video: This video is a clip of Sheldon and Amy (Big Bang Theory) having a conversation. Take
note of who is speaking, the topic of conversation, as well as whether the conversation is
interesting for both individuals. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkSwXL3cGUg
Discussion: Divide the class into small groups of two or three. Make sure groups consist of
children that are not very close friends. Have the groups discuss the video. Some questions to
start the discussion are:
Is Sheldon following the rules for trading information?
Does Amy get a chance to speak?
Is Amy interested in this topic of conversation? How can you tell? (e.g., facial
expression, body language, etc.)
How does Amy react when Sheldon does not stop talking about the specific topic?
After 2 minutes of discussion, have the class come together to discuss whether Sheldons
behavior was appropriate and what he could have done differently.
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about approaching peers and how
conversations with peers should be. Think about initiating a conversation and applying the
rules for making good eye contact and properly trading information.
Now that we understand how to approach and start a conversation by using eye contact and the
rules of trading information, students will be divided into groups to practice the skills learned.
Instructions:
Keep students in the small groups that have already been assigned. Be sure that the group
consists of children who do not know each other very well
This will give students an opportunity to trade information and discover things about
peers that they did not already know
Students may discover that they have common interests with peers who they typically do
not interact with
Be sure to display Rules for Trading Information sheet on classroom projector so
that students can refer to it as need be
Discussion:
After the activity, come together as a class. Each student should share one new piece of
information that they learned about their peer with the class
Praise children for appropriately trading information and their good communicating skills
Emphasize the importance of asking a question, listening, and finding common interests
when trading information while getting to know peers
LESSON 3: TWO-WAY CONVERSATIONS I

Materials Needed:
Case Example Asking Questions worksheet
Video recording device (camera, iPad, iPod, etc.)
o This is optional
Lesson Objectives:
Learn strategies on how to appropriately engage in a two-way conversation
Recognize the difference between positive and negative conversation strategies
Understand the concept of open-ended, closed, and follow-up questions
Trading information: communicating with another person by exchanging information
(e.g., spoken words) back and forth
Open-ended question: A question that leads to more conversation, requires more than a
Yes or No answer
Close-ended question: A question that can be answered with a short, simple answer,
such as yes or no; a question that does not lead to more conversation
Follow-up question: A question about a specific topic that leads to more conversation
Part 1 Intro to strategies
Part 2 Overview and explanation of strategies
Activity
Assessment
Recap of lesson and buzzwords

2 3 min.
1 2 min.
10 min.
15 min.
15 min.
5 min.
45 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about approaching our
peers. This is the first step in forming a relationship. We learned that to start a relationship with a
peer, we must first make eye contact. We also learned that after making eye contact we must
start to trade information. Can somebody tell me what it means to trade information? (Wait for
answer). We learned that trading information involves asking questions about the other person
and then answering your own questions. This process is what makes a two-way conversation.
Can anyone remember why we ask a question and then answer the same question ourselves?
(Answer: to find common interests).
The goal of todays lesson is to teach you strategies that can be used to trade information with a
peer. This will help you have a good peer relationship. More specifically, todays lesson will
teach you strategies for asking questions. We will also learn about strategies that should not be
used when having a conversation with a peer. I am going to explain these positive and negative
strategies and give you examples of each. Then we will work together to practice using positive
strategies and avoiding using negative strategies when having a two-way conversation.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Introduction to the strategies associated with two-way conversations

The strategies that I will teach you today involve asking questions. We already know that we
should ask our peer a question, wait for an answer, and then answer our own question; however,
there are different types of questions we can ask. These are open-ended questions, close-ended
questions, and follow-up questions. Two types of questions are positive strategies, and one type
is a negative strategy.
PART 2: Overview and explanation of both positive and negative strategies associated with
two-way conversations.
First we will talk about close-ended questions. What is a close-ended question?
(1) A question that people answer with a brief response
(2) A question that people answer with just yes or no
(3) A question that does not keep the conversation flowing
(4) The opposite of an open-ended question
If we ask a peer a question and they simple answer with yes or no, this does not allow us to
trade very much information. Why might it be a bad idea to ask only close-ended questions?
(Wait for answers). Can anybody give me an example of a close-ended question?
o Ex: What is your favorite food?
o Ex: Do you like the color yellow?
Asking too many close-ended questions is a negative strategy when trying to trade information.
We can trade information with our peers better if we ask open-ended questions. What is an
open-ended question?
(1) A question that requires more than a simple one-word answer
(2) A question that leads to more conversation
(3) The opposite of a close-ended question
We want to try to ask as many open-ended questions as possible when we are speaking to a peer.
Why is it a good idea to ask open-ended questions? (Wait for answers). Can anybody give me an
example of an open-ended question?
When we have two-way conversations we can ask some close-ended questions, but we want to
try to ask mostly open-ended questions. We want to keep trading information and keep the
conversation flowing. Which type of question is a positive strategy that allows us to trade
information and keep the conversation flowing? (Wait for answer open-ended questions).
Which type of question is a negative strategy that does not help us keep the conversation
flowing? (Wait for answer close-ended questions).
A second positive strategy we can use to trade information is asking follow-up questions. What
is a follow-up question?
(1) A question about a specific topic
(2) Used to keep the conversation flowing
ACTIVITY: Learn to recognize the negative strategies that are not appropriate for having
a two-way conversation. Understand how to think about the situation and how to replace
these negative strategies with positive ones.
Case Example: Give students a copy of the case example worksheet. You can read the passage
out loud or instruct students to read silently. Have students work in pairs to complete the
worksheet. Discussion is encouraged. Students will need to recognize what strategies were used,
in addition to which strategies were positive and which were negative. They should also indicate
what could be changed or improved so that the scenario has a more successful ending. After 6-7
minutes, come together as a class to discuss the passage.
Mr. Benoit announced that the class would be having a pizza party on Friday. The whole
classroom buzzed with excitement, as the students chatted to one another about the
upcoming party. However, a student by the name of James was the only one not speaking
about the news, as he is very shy. Tyler, James peer, noticed how quiet James was and
decided that he would try to talk to him about the pizza party. Walking over to James
desk, Tyler said hey, and James answered with a hey as well. Tyler then said, do
you like pizza? James replied with a simple yes. Following this question, Tyler asked,
are you looking forward to the pizza party? Again, James responded with a yes.
Tyler responded to James answer by saying I hope Mr. Benoit orders the pizza from
Dominos!! James simply smiled and looked at his desk. Tyler shrugged and walked
away.
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about having conversations with peers
by avoiding negative question-asking strategies. Think about the positive strategies we can
use to ask questions and to have a meaningful two-way conversation.
Now that we understand what strategies we should and should not use when asking questions in
a two-way conversation, students will be divided into groups to practice the skills learned.
Role Play Instructions:
Divide students into small groups to discuss strategies taught in todays lesson
Have children create two role-play scenarios; one in which positive strategies are used
and one in which negative strategies are used
Children can record their scenarios in order to show the class what they have created with
their peers, or they can re-enact their scenario in front of the class
Discussion:
After watching each role-playing scenario as a class, discuss what happened
Praise children for using the appropriate strategies for having two-way conversations in
their video
If they demonstrated a role-play scenario showing the negative strategy, then ask the
students in class to think about how to use a more positive strategy instead (e.g., by
asking a different type of question)
Emphasize the importance of asking open-ended and follow-up questions while avoiding
close-ended questions
CASE EXAMPLE ASKING QUESTIONS WORKSHEET

You are required to read the following passage:
Mr. Benoit announced that the class would be having a pizza party on Friday. The whole
classroom buzzed with excitement, as the students chatted to one another about the
upcoming party. However, a student by the name of James was the only one not speaking
about the news, as he is very shy. Tyler, James peer, noticed how quiet James was and
decided that he would try to talk to him about the pizza party. Walking over to James
desk, Tyler said hey, and James answered with a hey as well. Tyler then said, do
you like pizza? James replied with a simple yes. Following this question, Tyler asked,
are you looking forward to the pizza party? Again, James responded with a yes.
Tyler responded to James answer by saying I hope Mr. Benoit orders the pizza from
Dominos!! James simply smiled and looked at his desk. Tyler shrugged and walked
away.
(1)
After reading the passage, what do you think about the interaction that occurred? Was
Tyler successful in trading information with James?
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Here are some other questions to think about:
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What types of questions did Tyler ask James?

Why do you think James did not say much to Tyler, besides the fact that he was shy?
Do you think the conversation would have been different had Tyler taken a different
approach to trading information?
Think of two questions that Tyler could have asked James that would have lead to more
information trading.
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LESSON 4: TWO-WAY COVERSATIONS II

Materials Needed:
Computer with internet access
o This is optional
Lesson Objectives:
Recognize the difference between positive and negative conversation strategies
Awareness of inappropriate behaviors involved in two-way conversations, such as
being repetitive, an interviewer, or hogging the conversation
Peer relationship: a friendship with someone else your age, a friend, or a
classmate
Trading information: communicating with another person by exchanging
information (e.g., spoken words) back and forth

2 3 min.
1 2 min.
10 min.
Activity
Assessment
10 min.
15 min.
5 min.
45 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about different strategies
we can use to trade information with a peer. We learned that having a two-way conversation with
a peer involves asking questions. We learned three different strategies; two were positive and
one was negative. Does anybody remember which strategies were positive and which was
negative? (Wait for answers). Open-ended and follow-up questions are positive strategies, and
asking close-ended questions is a negative strategy.
The goal of todays lesson is to teach you about negative strategies that you should avoid using
when trying to trade information with a peer. I am going to explain these negative strategies and
give you examples of each. Then we will work together to practice asking questions and trading
information while avoiding the use of negative strategies.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Introduction to more strategies associated with two-way conversations

Today I will teach you about negative strategies that should not be used when trading
information. Sometimes it can be difficult, but we need to try our best to avoid using
these strategies because our peers may not appreciate it. Avoiding these strategies will
allow us to properly trade information and to keep peers engaged in the conversation.
What does it mean to keep your peer engaged in the conversation? (Wait for answers).
To keep peers engaged in conversation we must make sure we do not use these three
negative strategies:
(1) Being a conversation hog
(2) Being an interviewer
(3) Being repetitive
PART 2: Overview and explanation of the negative strategies associated with twoway conversations.
Lets talk about the first strategy. Then we will talk about why this strategy is negative
and unhelpful. Firstly, can anybody tell me what it means to be a conversation hog?
(Wait for answers).
o Ex: Talking so much that your peer doesnt get a chance to speak
There are certain rules to follow in order to make sure that you are not a conversation hog.
What are these rules?
(1) Do not control the conversation
(2) Do not brag about yourself
(3) Let your peer speak
(4) Try your best to not interrupt when your peer is speaking
(5) Use the strategies we learned earlier about asking questions
These are all good ways to let your peer have a turn to speak and share information with
you. This is the appropriate way to have a two-way conversation. If we do not follow
these rules we are being conversation hogs. Why is being a conversation hog a negative
strategy for having a two-way conversation?
o Ex: Because it doesnt give the other person a chance to trade their information
The second negative strategy is being an interviewer. Can anybody tell me what it means
to be an interviewer? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: Asking too many questions
How do you think your peers would feel if you interviewed them? (Wait for answer).
There are certain rules to follow in order to make sure that you do not act like an
interviewer. What are these rules?
(1) Do not ask question after question
(2) Ask your peer some questions but make sure to answer your own questions too
(3) Do not talk about too many different topics at once

It is nice to ask your peer questions in order to find out what they do and do not like, but
you must be careful that you do not ask too many questions. Why is it important not to
ask too many questions? (Wait for answer). If you ask a question and your peer responds,
you should then answer your own question and stay on topic. However, if you ask
another question in response to your peers answer, your peer does not find out any
information about you. This is because you keep asking questions without sharing any of
your likes and dislikes. Why is being an interviewer a negative strategy for having a twoway conversation?
o Ex: Because you are not trading information and sharing the conversation with
your peer
o Ex: You cannot find common interests with your peer if you do not share
information about yourself as well
The third negative strategy is being repetitive. Can anybody tell me what it means to be
repetitive? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: Talking about the same topic over and over
There are certain rules to follow in order to make sure that you are not a being repetitive.
What are these rules?
(1) Talk about different things
Just because you and your peer find a common interest does not mean that you should
keep talking about this interest. How could being repetitive and talking about the same
thing be a negative strategy for having a two-way conversation? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: Because your peer may get bored talking about the same thing
o Ex: Your peer may stop trading information with you because there is no new
information to trade
ACTIVITY: Learn to recognize the negative strategies that are not appropriate for
having a two-way conversation. Understand how to think about the situation and
how to replace these negative strategies with positive ones.
Video: Lets review the Sheldon and Amy (Big Bang Theory) video clip again. Take
note of the negative strategies that Sheldon uses when speaking to
Amy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkSwXL3cGUg
Discussion: Divide the class into small groups of two or three. Have the groups discuss
the video. What specific negative strategies does Sheldon use? Does he use any positive
ones? After a few minutes, come together as a class to discuss how Sheldon should have
acted instead.
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about having conversations with
peers by avoiding these negative strategies. Think about what positive strategies we
have learned so we can avoid using these negative ones.
Now that we understand why these strategies should be avoided when having a two-way
conversation, students will be divided into groups to practice the skills learned.

Have children create two role-play scenarios; one in which the negative strategies
are used, and one in which the negative strategies are reversed so as to display a
positive two-way conversation
Children can record their scenarios in order to show the class what they have
created with their peers, or they can re-enact their scenario in front of the class
Discussion:
Praise children for using the appropriate strategies for having two-way
conversations in their video
Emphasize the importance of asking open-ended and follow-up questions while
avoiding close-ended questions
LESSON 5: CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE

Materials Needed:
o This is optional
Pencils
Voice Volume and Personal Space worksheets
Lesson Objectives:
Understand the concept of conversation etiquette
Awareness of appropriate behaviors involved in two-way conversations, such as
having volume control, body boundaries, and attentive listening
Trading information: communicating with another person by exchanging
information (e.g., spoken words) back and forth
Etiquette: polite behaviors; using manners

2 3 min.
1 2 min.
10 min.
Activity
Assessment
10 min.
15 min.
5 min.
45 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last classes we talked about negative
strategies that should be avoided when trying to have a two-way conversation with a peer.
Can anybody name these three negative strategies? (Wait for answers). Hogging the
conversation, interviewing your peer, and being repetitive are all negative conversation
strategies that our peers do not like. We need to try our best to avoid these strategies.
The goal of todays lesson is to teach you more specific strategies for having a proper twoway conversation. This will help have a good peer relationship. We will learn about
conversation etiquette and strategies for behaving politely when conversing with our peers.
I am going to explain these strategies and give you examples of each. Then we will work
together to practice these strategies in a two-way conversation.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Introduction to conversation etiquette and strategies used to have proper

etiquette when having two-way conversations
When we use our manners, it means that we are being polite. We often think of manners as
saying please and thank you. These are both very important examples of being polite,
but there are also other ways to be polite, especially during two-way conversations. This is
called using conversation etiquette. Does anybody know what conversation etiquette
means? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: using manners when speaking to another person
o Ex: following certain rules so that you are polite when communicating
PART 2: Overview and explanation of the strategies used to have proper etiquette
when having two-way conversations
There are many different strategies that we can use to have good conversation etiquette.
What are these strategies?
(1) Using good volume control
(2) Having good body boundaries
(3) Listening attentively
Having conversation etiquette makes our peers feel relaxed and comfortable. If our peers feel
relaxed and comfortable, they will be more likely to want to talk to us and become our friend.
Lets start talking about the strategies for being polite and making our peers feel comfortable
in a two-way conversation. First lets talk about volume control. What does it mean to
control our volume? (Wait for answers)
o Ex: Make sure we speak appropriately when trading-information
Can anybody give me an example of using inappropriate volume? (Wait for answers)
o Ex: Whispering
o Ex: Yelling
We want to make sure that we do not yell or whisper when trading information with our
peers. These are examples of negative strategies for speaking with our peers. How might our
peers feel if we speak too loud? (Wait for answer). How might they feel if we do not speak
loud enough? (Wait for answer).
If we speak too loudly our peers may get annoyed with us, but if we speak too quietly our
peers may not understand what we are saying. This may cause our peers to avoid speaking to
use in the future. We need to make sure we speak at a level that is in between the two
inappropriate levels. Sometimes we may get excited and speak loudly, or may be shy and
speak softly. It may be difficult to have good volume control, but with practice we can learn
this positive strategy and use it to have good two-way conversations with our peers.
Now lets discuss good body boundaries. Can somebody tell me what it means to have good
body boundaries? (Wait for answer). This is an example of a positive strategy used to have
two-way conversations with peers. Having good body boundaries means that you and your
peer each have your own personal space. Can somebody tell me what it means to have
personal space? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: feeling like you have enough room to move
o Ex: having a space around your body that no one else can enter
When we have a two-way conversation with a peer we need to be sure that we do not get too
close. Why is it a bad idea to get too close when having a two-way conversation with a peer?
(Wait for answers). Standing too close can cause a peer to feel uncomfortable. This is an
example of a negative strategy that we should avoid. We should also make sure that we are
not too far away when speaking to a peer. Why is it a bad idea to be too far away when
having a two-way conversation? (Wait for answer). Trying to speak to a peer when you are
too far away is awkward or strange. Your peer may not realize that you are trying to speak to
them, or they may think your conversation is too public. A good strategy for maintaining
good body boundaries is to stand at about arms length away from your peer.
Another strategy that we can use to make sure that we are being polite when having two-way
conversations with our peers is to make sure that we are listening carefully. Can somebody
tell me why it is important to listen carefully when our peer is speaking? (Wait for answer).
o Ex: You need to make sure you hear what your peer says so you can respond
If we ask a peer a question we should listen to the answer. We need to do this so we can find
common interests. Can somebody tell me what is problematic about not listening to the
answer? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: Your peer may feel like you are not interested in the conversation
o Ex: Your peer may think you do not care
If you ask your peer a question you need to listen to the answer. This is the polite thing to do.
You are supposed to know the answer once your peer has responded to your question. You
should try your best to not ask the same question twice. Can somebody tell me why your peer
may not appreciate it if you ask the same question twice? (Wait for answers). When you
listen it shows that you care and that you are interested in what your peer has to say.
ACTIVITY: Learn to recognize the strategies that are appropriate for having a twoway conversation. Understand how our body parts (eyes, ears, body, etc.) are involved
in the process of having two-way conversations with peers.
Now that we understand the importance of conversation etiquette we are going to complete
an activity and then discuss our thoughts as a class.
Worksheet Instructions:
On the worksheet provided, students should work independently to:
Follow the instructions provided to complete worksheet on volume control
Follow the instructions provided to complete worksheet on personal space (body
boundaries)
Discussion:
Once the class has finished, come together as a class to discuss answers
Emphasize the importance of good volume control and good body boundaries, as
well as the importance of listening attentively

ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about having conversations with
peers by using the above strategies in a positive way. Think about the strategies we
have learned and how we can apply them to trading information with peers.
Now that we understand the importance of these strategies when having a two-way
conversation, students will be divided into groups to practice the skills learned.
Have children create two role-play scenarios; one in which the strategies are used
positively, and one in which the strategies are used negatively
Children can record their scenarios in order to show the class what they have created
with their peers, or they can re-enact their scenario in front of the class
Discussion:
Praise children for using the appropriate strategies for having two-way conversations
in their video
Emphasize the importance of good volume control and good body boundaries, as
well as the importance of listening attentively
LESSON 6: SHARING AND TURN-TAKING

Materials Needed:
Internet access
Computer
Projector or smart-board
Lesson Objectives:
Learn strategies on how to appropriately share with others
Learn proper ways to take turns with peers
Understand that sharing and taking turns are positive behaviours that we engage
in even if sometimes we may not want to
Awareness of the benefits of sharing and turn-taking in creating and maintaining
healthy peer relationships
classmate
Sharing: have a portion of (something) with another person or others
Taking turns: to speak, do, etc. one after another in regular order
Part 1 Overview and definition of
strategies
Activity
Assessment

2 3 min.
10 min.
45 min.
10 min.
15 min.
5 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about

conversation etiquette. Can anybody remember what conversation etiquette means?
(Wait for answers.) We learned that conversation etiquette involves being polite when
trading information. We also learned that being polite during a conversation means that
we use good volume control, have good body boundaries, and we must listen attentively.
Can anybody give me an example of each of these strategies? (Wait for answers). We
need to try our best to keep these positive strategies in mind when trading information
with peers.
The goal of todays lesson is to expand on what you have already learned about playing
and interacting with your peers in a positive way. As you will learn today, sharing and
turn-taking are positive strategies to use when forming peer relationships. Today we will
learn about different ways we can share with our friends and also learn to take turns while
doing so. We will also learn about behaviours that we should avoid if we want to share
and practice taking turns with our friends. Then we will work together to practice using
the positive strategies and avoid using the negative ones when interacting with peers.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Overview and definition of the sharing and turn-taking strategies in
relation to peers.
The first strategy that I will teach you today involves sharing. Learning how to share
with our friends is very important. Can anyone tell me what you think sharing might
mean? (Wait for answers).
Encourage students to share their thoughts first. Then review the definition of sharing
provided in the vocabulary and the example provided.
Sharing means that you have a portion of (something) with another person or others
o For example: There are two friends, Tommy and Jackeline. Jackeline would like
to use colored pencils to work on her art project but she forgot hers at home.
Tommy, whom is sitting next to Jackeline, notices that she may need some
colored pencils for her drawing. Tommy decides to share some of his colored
pencils with Jackeline so she may continue her art work. Tommy is sharing a
portion of something that is his with Jackeline.
Can anyone think of a similar example in which two or more people are sharing?
Can anyone think of a time when it was really hard to share with someone (friend,
brother, sister)?
Can anyone tell me why is good share with others?
Some key words may include: make friends, share our things that others may not own, be
nice, be helpful, be polite, work together on task/activity, opportunity to invite others to
play with you
Another strategy to better interact with our peers is turn-taking, which is also very
important. Can anyone tell me what you think taking-turns might mean? (Wait for
answer).
Encourage students to share their thoughts first. Then review the definition of sharing
provided in the vocabulary and the example provided.
Taking turns means to speak, do, etc. one after another in regular order.
o For example: Both Sylvia and Stefan wanted to use the class computer. There is
only one computer and only one student can use it at a time. After a bit of
thinking, Sylvia and Stefan decide one could use it first and the other would use it
after. They decided that Sylvia would use it for 20 minutes and then Stefan would
use it for 20 minutes after her. Sylvia and Stefan are taking turns using the class
computer.
Can you think of examples of a time when you took turns to do something?
How do you take turns in your family?
Can anyone tell me why is good to take turns?
Some key words may include: respect for others, helps when playing games, helps us
communicate, play, and interact better when taking turns
Can anyone tell me a way we can take turns?
Possible answers: pick name out of a hat, paper-scissor-rock, picking a number from 1-10
Recap: Sharing and taking turns are good social skills needed in day-to-day life. Sharing
with others helps us maintain good relationships with friends, allows us to give someone
something they dont have, it makes us feel good, and opens communication with others.
Turn-taking is necessary when it comes to developing friendships, communicating with
others and playing games.
Turn taking is not something that is easy to do. We have to learn to take turns with others
and practice turn taking in the classroom, at home with our siblings, with our parents, and
with our friends.
If you wish to share something with someone and you are finding it difficult to, suggest
to the person that you can take turns using whatever it is you wish to share.
Note to teachers:
For a small group - Play a quick game of rock-paper-scissors, or choose a number
between one and 10 (but make sure you write it down!) person guessing closest to the
number gets to go first. Alternating who goes first for each new activity is also another
good option.
For a larger group - When teaching turn-taking skills it is very important to make sure
there is enough time for everyone to get a turn in every activity (which might take some
pre-planning). If not, kids will learn that they have to always try and be first or they may
miss out. If you take turns alphabetically, make sure you start at the end or the middle of
the list once in a while. As someone whose last name starts with a W can get frustrated or
sad that theyre always picked last. Drawing names out of a hat or basket also works well.
As a teacher you can model turn taking behaviours in the classroom and students will
learn from this.
ACTIVITY: Learn to take turns with your friends by way of cooperative
storytelling.
For todays activity we will be doing something called Cooperative Storytelling.
Instructions:
Divide the class into equal groups

Each person in the group will take turns telling part of a story
Once you are in your groups, the people in the group have to choose who starts
the story first
You will write down the strategy you used to decide who goes first
Once you know who will start first, that person will start the story by saying the
first sentence of the story
Then the next person (to the right) will say a sentence that must follow in order to
make a story
No one can offer his/her suggestions for how the story goes and ideally no one
should get mad if the story takes a different direction than the original story-teller
imagined. This can be modified to having each person say several sentences or
even trickier is each person can only say one word.
Discussion:
Come together as a class to discuss how the process of working with others and
taking turns creating a story made them feel
Ask students to explain how they decided as a group who would go first. Was this
a fair strategy (why or why not)? Why was it a good idea taking turns telling the
story?
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about behaving toward our
friends. Think about the positive benefits of sharing and turn-taking.
Video: Show the class this video of two friends learning to take turns while speaking
during a
conversation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RjRZ9jMfs0&list=PL0fuLMvYxYE4
fGDU5Y0vNzoqcNkKpTTBh&index=2
Discussion:
Ask students the following: Were the two friends in the video taking-turns at
first? What did Jonathan do that did not show good turn-taking behaviour
(answer may be: did not let his friend speak, talking too much)? How did
Jonathans behaviour made his friend feel? What did Jonathan do the second time
around that made the situation better (he took turns with his friend talking about
his dog)?
Discuss that there are plenty of activities one can do every day that incorporates
turn taking
Prompt students to think about a moment when you were doing something with
your friend or perhaps cooking dinner with your parents. This was a time where
you probably took turns measuring ingredients, putting them in the bowl, mixing
the ingredients together, etc. Then you shared the food that you all cooked
together
Taking turns and sharing have many positive benefits, some of which we talked
about earlier today. Can anyone tell me some of these benefits? Why is it good to
share and take-turns? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: making friends, sharing things that others may not have
o Ex: opportunity to invite others to play, opportunity to play games
LESSON 7: GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP

Materials Needed:
Variety of board games
Lesson Objectives:
Learn strategies on how to appropriately play with peers
Recognize the difference between positive and negative sportsmanship strategies
Understand the concept of what it means to be a good and bad sport
Sportsmanship: being fair, respectful, and polite when playing with others
Good sport: being fair, respectful, and polite when playing with others
Poor sport: being unfair, disrespectful, and impolite when playing with others
Part 2 Overview and explanation of
strategies
Activity
Assessment (discussion only)

2 3 min.
1 2 min.
10 min.
45 min.
15 min.
10 min.
5 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about sharing and
turn taking. We learned about different ways we can share with our friends. Can
somebody give me an example of sharing with a peer? (Wait for answer). We also learned
to take turns while sharing. Can somebody give me an example of taking turns with a peer?
(Wait for answer). We also know that there are many behaviors that we should avoid if we
want to share and practice taking turns with our peers.
The goal of todays lesson is to expand on what you have already learned about playing and
interacting with your peers in a positive way. As you already know, sharing and turn taking
are positive strategies to use when forming peer relationships. Today we will learn about
different strategies that you should use in order to have good sportsmanship. We will also
learn about strategies that should not be used when interacting with peers, as these will
make you have poor sportsmanship. I am going to explain these positive and negative
strategies and give you examples of each. Then we will work together to practice using the
positive strategies and avoiding the negative ones when interacting with peers.
LESSON PLAN
Lesson adapted from the Program for the Evaluation and Enrichment of Relational Skills (PEERS) Manual by Laugeson & Frankel
(2010)
PART 1: Introduction to sportsmanship, what it means to be a good sport within a

peer relationship, and the strategies associated with sportsmanship.
Today I will teach you strategies about being a good sport. Can somebody tell me what it
means to be a good sport? (Wait for answer). Our peers like it when we are good sports.
Why is it important to be a good sport in a peer relationship? (Wait for answers). Some
strategies that I will teach you are positive and some are negative. Does anybody remember
what a strategy is? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: a method used to achieve a goal
There are different strategies we can use in order to be a good sport. What are these
strategies?
(1) Praise your friend
(2) Share and take turns
(3) Always say good game
(4) Do not referee
(5) Do not be a coach
(6) Do not gloat or sulk
Three of these strategies are positive and three of these strategies are negative. If we use the
positive strategies, we are being a good sport. However, if we use the negative strategies,
we are being a poor sport. Can somebody tell me what it means to be a poor sport? (Wait
for answer).
o Ex: Getting upset with a peer because you lost the game
We do not want to be poor sports because our peers will not want to interact with us.
PART 2: Overview and explanation of both positive and negative strategies related to
sportsmanship within a peer relationship.
We will learn about the positive strategies for being a good sport first. Being a good sport
means that we have good sportsmanship.
The first step to being a good sport is giving your peer praise. Can somebody tell me what
it means to praise your peer? (Wait for answer). Why is it a good idea to praise your friend
when you are playing games or sports? (Wait for answer).
o Ex: So your peers enjoy interacting with you
o Everything remains fun.
Can somebody give me examples of ways they can praise a peer? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: Nice move!
o Ex: Thumbs up
The next strategy for having good sportsmanship is sharing and taking turns. We learned
about this in last weeks lesson. Can anybody tell me why sharing and turn taking are
important for being a good sport? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: Because your peers will feel like they belong

The final strategy used for being a good sport is always saying good game. This is a
positive strategy that should be used after every game you play with a peer. Can somebody
tell me why it is important to say good game at the end of a game? (Wait for answer).
o Ex: It shows that you are a good sport
o Ex: Your peer will feel good and want to play with you again
The next set of strategies I will teach you are negative strategies. Should we use or avoid
negative strategies? (Wait for answer). If we use negative strategies then we are being a
poor sport.
The first negative strategy we will learn about is called referring. Can somebody tell me
what it means to be a referee? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: Someone who calls plays during a game
This is a negative strategy because our peers do not like interacting with people who call
the shots and try to direct the game. This can be annoying and make the play less fun.
A second negative is coaching. Can somebody tell me what it means to be a coach? (Wait
for answer)
o Ex: Giving advice in a game like a coach would (e.g., during a basketball game)
Why might it be a bad idea to act like a coach when playing with peers? (Wait for answer)
o Ex: Children do not like when peers tell them what to do
Even though you may only be trying to help, you could come off as being bossy. Your
peers will not appreciate being bossed around.
In order to be a good sport we also want to avoid gloating and sulking. Gloating when we
win a game and sulking if we lose a game are both negative strategies. Can somebody tell
me what it means to gloat? (Wait for answer). Can somebody tell me what it means to sulk?
(Wait for answer). What are examples of both gloating and sulking? (Wait for answers)
o Ex: Gloating saying ha, ha I won the game, that means I am the best or
jumping up and down, cheering for yourself
o Ex: Sulking saying, Hey, no fair, you beat me.
ACTIVITY: Learn to recognize the positive and negative sportsmanship strategies
taught in todays lesson. Understand how to replace these negative strategies with
positive ones.
Now that we have learned about what it means to be a good and bad sport, students will be
divided into groups to practice the skills learned.
Activity Instructions:
Have a variety of board games set up
Divide students into small groups of four-six, depending on the number of players
required for each board game
Instruct students to be conscious of their sharing and turn-taking behaviors and

language. Also have students take note of their peers sharing and turn-taking
behaviors and language they use.
Discussion:
After the allotted time, come together as a class to discuss the board game
experiences
Emphasize the importance of sharing and turn-taking and how these positive
strategies makes having peer relationships easier and more fun for everyone
involved
ASSESSMENT: Learn to change the way we think about peer relationships by
engaging in good sportsmanship behaviors. Think about these strategies when
interacting with peers.
The skills learned in class will now be generalized to places other than the classroom.
Homework Instructions:
Students are required to document real life examples of good and bad
sportsmanship for a week. This can be done on a single sheet of paper
These examples can come from things seen on TV, at an extracurricular activity,
among family members at home, etc.
Students are encouraged to reflect on why their examples illustrate good or bad
sportsmanship
Discussion:
After the homework assignment is completed, students will come together as a
class to discuss what they have observed
Praise students for recognizing examples of sportsmanship and for understanding
how examples of poor sportsmanship can be turned into good sportsmanship
LESSON 8: MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS

Materials Needed:
Pencil and paper
Lesson Objectives:
Learn about positive strategies to maintain healthy relationships
Learn to appreciate our friends and care for them
Understand the negative strategies that should be avoided when trying to maintain
our relationships
Awareness of use of positive strategies to maintain relationships in daily life
classmate
Maintain: to care for, to preserve, to keep in appropriate condition
o To maintain good relations with our friends; maintain good health
Part 2 Overview and explanation of
strategies
Activity
Assessment

2 3 min.
1 2 min.
10 min.
45 min.
15 min.
10 min.
5 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about good
sportsmanship. Can anybody remember what it means to have good sportsmanship?
(Wait for answer). We also learned what it means to be a good and bad sport, as well as
some of the positive and negative strategies associated with being either a good or bad
sport. Can anybody remember these strategies? (Wait for answers). Ex: saying good
game!
and interacting with your peers in a positive way. Today we will learn about different
strategies we can use to help maintain our peer relationships. We will also learn about
behaviours that we should avoid if we want to maintain a healthy relationship with others.
Then we will work together to practice using the positive strategies and avoiding the
negative ones when interacting with peers and maintaining relationships.
LESSON PLAN
INTRODUCTION: Overview and explanation of the strategies used to maintain
peer relationships. A review of behaviours to be avoided if we wish to maintain our
peer relationships is also provided.
Note to teacher: You may ask students what each (or some) strategy might mean before
explaining them (if time allows). The key words of each strategy (bolded) may be written
on the board so the students can refer to them throughout the lesson.
Today I will teach you two positive strategies that we can use to help maintain your
relationships. What are these strategies?
(1). Keeping your friendship rewarding
(2). Being a good friend when things get tough
Can anybody tell me what these two strategies might mean? (Wait for answers).
o Ex: making sure that your relationship is always fun
o Ex: being there for your friend/supporting your friend when they are
having a bad day
PART 2: Overview and explanation of both positive and negative strategies related
to maintaining relationships with our peers.
To maintain a relationship by keeping friendships rewarding we can use a variety of
strategies. For example, we can:
1. Show appreciation
o Sometimes we know a friend for a really long time that we forget to
appreciate them. Try to thank your friend when they do something for you,
return favors when your friend goes out of his way to do something for
you. It can be as simple as saying to them: Hey, thanks for always being
there for me. I appreciate it.
2. Showing interest in your friends life and what he/she likes
o This means being a good listener when your friend is telling you about
something going on in his/her life. Good relationships are built on
communication; so dont ignore your peers. Take time to really hear what
they are saying. This will make them feel understood and theyll notice
that you care. If your friend is involved in an activity they care about, then
offer to go to one of their games, or recitals.
3. Building trust
o Dont engage in gossip about your friend. This may hurt your friends
feeling and have negative effects on the relationship. Keep your promises
and dont go behind your friends back. What does this mean? Keep
secrets safeif your friend shares something personal, dont tell other
people.
4. Having fun together
o Sometimes we get too caught up in our problems that we forget to have
some fun with our friends. Do things together that you and your friend
enjoy. Learn something new- take Zumba classes or pottery making class.
In order to maintain a relationship we also need to be a good friend when things get
tough. Some strategies we can use to do this are:
1. Support each other when things get rough
o Sometimes our friends may experience problems in their own life, and is
up to you to be there to support them through these hard times. Offer to
listen to them if they need to talk to someone about their problems. You
may also provide distractions, like taking them out to do something they
like so they dont stay at home worrying about their problems all day long.
You can go out to eat, see movie, or even just go for a walk.
2. Encourage each other
o Say nice words to each other to keep yourselves motivated. If your friend
did really well on an exam you may say something like: Hey good job on
your math exam. You worked so hard and look at the grade you got!
3. Help your friend find solutions
o If you know youre friend is struggling, do what you can to help. If they
have difficulty solving a math problem perhaps you can help them work
through the problem
4. Handle conflicts maturely
o When you and your friend have a conflict, dont scream or get angry at
them. Dont raise your voice, instead sit down calmly and talk through
your problems by listening to both sides of the story. Using I statements
will help with this: I feel left out when you invite all your friends out to
play ping pong but you dont invite me. Respect each other at all times
during your resolution of the conflict. Apologize if you realize you did
something wrong.
5. Maintain contact
o If your friend moves far away, try and keep in touch with them. Call your
friend once in a while to see how theyre doing. Try writing to them or
visiting them where they now live
There are also a few behaviors we want to AVOID when we have relationships and we
wish to maintain healthy interactions. These are:
1. Peer pressure getting someone to do something you want when they dont want
to
2. Saying hurtful things saying mean things and making the other person feel bad
about themselves
3. Ignoring not paying attention when your friend is talking to you, or not
including him/her in the activities, or games you play
ACTIVITY: Recognize examples of the strategies we use to maintain relationships
in our daily life.
For todays activity we will come up with examples to the different strategies we use to
maintain our relationships and our friendships.
Instructions:
Each student should pick one of the strategies that were discussed from sections 1
and 2 above. For example encourage each other may be one of them
Have each student come up with an example of a way they would encourage their
friend or if they have done so in the past to explain how they did so. They may
write their strategy and example on a sheet of paper.
Discussion:
Come together as a class and ask students to share their examples
Students can also come up with new examples if they wish
ASSESSMENT: Learn to use strategies to maintain our relationships with others in
a positive way. Think about the positive benefits of maintaining relationships.
Instructions: Students should work independently to:
Reflect on strategies that may be used to maintain their relationships with others
Students should identify (write down on a separate piece of paper) their top 5
strategies that they already use to maintain their friendships with others
After doing this, students will work in pairs to identify if they have chosen similar
strategies.
Role-play:
Each pair of students will choose one of their strategies to work on
They will work on a one-minute skit of a situation in which they would use such
strategy with their friend
They should write their skit on paper to be collected by teacher at the end of class
Discussion:
Have student volunteers share their skit using their strategy with the class. Ask
themwhy they chose the strategy they picked and whether they use this strategy
often with their friends to help maintain their friendships.
Ask students What are the benefits of maintaining relationships with our
friends? Maintaining relationships takes time, energy, and care for others. It is not
an easy task but one that will create long-lasting friendships that are healthy,
enjoyable and respectful of each others thoughts and actions
Ask students What are the benefits of maintaining relationships with our
friends?
LESSON 9: RECOGNZING UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Materials Needed:
Unhealthy Peer Relationships worksheet
Friendship Stoplight Game cutouts
Lesson Objectives:
Learn the positive elements that help make healthy relationships
Learn about what makes a healthy relationship
Understand the negative behaviours to avoid in order to develop a healthy
relationship
Learn to recognize these unhealthy behaviours in others
classmate
Activity
Assessment

2 3 min.
10 min.
15 min.
10 min.
5 min.
45 min.
RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about maintaining
relationships. We learned that in order to maintain relationships with our peers we must
keep our friendships rewarding and be a good friend when things get tough. Can anybody
give me an example of both? (Wait for answers). We can maintain relationships with our
peers by using different positive strategies, but there are also strategies that we should
avoid, such as saying hurtful things or ignoring our peers, for example.
and interacting with your peers in a positive way. Today we will learn about different
elements that help form healthy relationships. We will also learn about behaviours that
we should avoid if we wish to have healthy relationships with others, as well as
recognizing these behaviours in others to help recognize unhealthy relationships. Then
we will work together to practice using the positive behaviours and avoiding the negative
ones when interacting with peers.
LESSON PLAN
PART 1: Overview and explanation of the key elements that help make a healthy
relationship. A review of behaviours to look out for and recognize in an unhealthy
relationship are also provided.
1. Healthy Relationships
o In todays class we will focus on developing healthy relationships with
friends, family members, neighbors & any other people you may
encounter in your life
o We will talk about key elements that help make a healthy relationship
o But we will also talk about behaviours that you should look for in order to
recognize an unhealthy relationship
o First lets talk about what makes a healthy relationship
2. What are some characteristics of a healthy relationship?(ask students, wait for
responses)
a. Respect respect each other as an individual. A healthy friendship means
learning about the other person and valuing whats important to them,
what they like.
b. Trust it means that you feel that you can count on each other and that
the other person will be there for you. You feel that you can say anything
to that person and they will understand you and also that they will not tell
anyone else. Trust is earned over time and can be lost with a broken
promise.
c. Honesty be honest about thoughts and feelings that you have with your
friend. Show the real you, this is who your friend wants to get to know.
You also need to tell the truth about problems and/or other things that may
happen in the relationship.
d. Communication constant communication and talking it out is how we
show respect, trust and honesty to our friends. It requires listening, sharing
thoughts and feelings with each other.
3. Characteristics of healthy relationships vs. unhealthy relationships
a. Now I will go over some characteristics of healthy relationships and
unhealthy relationships
b. This will help you recognize some behaviours that are negative and you
should try to avoid in a relationship (may write these on the board, making
a clear distinction between the two columns)
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You feel good about yourself when youre
around the other person.
You do not try to control each other. There
is equal amount of give & take.
There is communication, sharing, and trust.
You feel safe and trust to share secrets.
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
You feel that you give more attention to
them than they give to you. You feel
controlled.
You dont communicate, share or trust.
This requires listening.

You like to spend time together but also
enjoy doing things apart.
Its easy to be yourself when youre with
them.
You Respect each others opinion. You
listen and try to understand their point of
view even if you dont always agree with
them.
There is not fear in your relationship.
You feel pressured to spend time together

and you feel guilty when youre both apart
from each other.
You feel the need to be someone that you
are not.
You feel there is no respect for you or your
opinion. Youre not able to disagree.
You feel fear in your relationship.
ACTIVITY: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviours related to

healthy and unhealthy relationships.
Purpose: the purpose of this activity is to explore friendships using a stoplight analogy
a. RED = Stop! These are bad signs of a friendship!
b. YELLOW = Caution! These are warning signing on a friendship!
c. GREEN = Go! These are good signs in a friendship!
Materials: 3 color stoplights (red, yellow, green) and 15 friendship scenario cards
Instructions:
Divide students into equal groups and share the Friendship Scenario Cards evenly
among the groups
Give each group the 3 color stoplights (red, yellow, green)
Post the 3 stoplights on the board as well so is visible to all students and can refer
to it during the discussion period
Ask the students match the scenario cards they received with one of the stoplights
Discussion:
Once the students are finished matching their scenario cards, discuss the choices
that students made as a class
You can ask each group to go up to the board with the scenario card and to place
them under the appropriate stoplight
Make sure all teams participate and all the scenario cards have been placed on the
board by the end of the activity. Some questions to ask while doing this activity
are:
d. Why do you think this scenario goes here?
e. How would you feel if a friend behaved like this?
ASSESSMENT: Learn to recognize examples of people who engage in negative

behaviours that lead to unhealthy relationships.
Instructions:
Pass out the Unhealthy Peer Relationships worksheet out to each student in the
classroom.
Say: On this worksheet you have a description of someone who is not behaving as
a good friend (left column), and on the other side you have the behaviour that
they are engaging in (right column). What you have to do is match the person to
the behaviour (by writing the letter in the appropriate line). Then we will discuss
as class.
This activity can be done individually or in smaller groups as well
Discussion:
When the students have finished completing the worksheet, come back as class in
order to discuss the responses together.
Answers: 1 (H), 2 (E), 3 (F), 4 (B), 5 (A), 6 (D), 7 (J), 8 (H), 9 (G), 10 (C)
Some questions to ask the students are:
1. Do these behaviours make you feel good or uncomfortable?
2. Would you like to have relationships with people who engage in
these behaviours?
3. Why or why not?
4. What could you do if you notice that a friend is acting in this way?
Name: ____________________
Unhealthy Peer Relationships Worksheet

Match the person to the behaviour (by writing the letter in the appropriate line).
1. The abuser ___

2. The distancer ___
A. Continuously seeks approval from

others.
B. Supports others harmful behaviours.
3. The controller ___
C. Needy and dependent.
4. The enabler ___

5. The people pleaser ___
6. The fixer ___
7. The promise breaker ___
8. The liar ___
9. The self-centered ___
10. The clinger ___
D. Tries to fix other peoples problems.

E. Emotionally unavailable to others.
F. Possessive, jealous.
G. Only thinks about himself/herself.
H. A person who is abusive.
I. Does not tell the truth.
J. Is not reliable.
Name: ____________________
Friendship Stoplight Game

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LESSON 1: INTRODUCTION TO PEER RELATIONSHIPS

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CHARACTERISTICS OF A PEER RELATIONSHIP WORKSHEET

(1) What characteristics can you bring to a peer relationship?

(2) What characteristics are you looking for in a friend?

(3) What characteristics are you NOT looking for in a friend?

LESSON 2: INITIATING CONVERSATION

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Part 2 Trading information

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PART 1: Overview and explanation of strategy eye contact

LESSON 3: TWO-WAY CONVERSATIONS I

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PART 1: Introduction to the strategies associated with two-way conversations

CASE EXAMPLE ASKING QUESTIONS WORKSHEET

Here are some other questions to think about:

What types of questions did Tyler ask James?

LESSON 4: TWO-WAY COVERSATIONS II

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PART 1: Introduction to more strategies associated with two-way conversations

(3) Do not talk about too many different topics at once

Role Play Instructions:

LESSON 5: CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE

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PART 1: Introduction to conversation etiquette and strategies used to have proper

well as the importance of listening attentively

LESSON 6: SHARING AND TURN-TAKING

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RECAP and GOALS OF CURRENT CLASS: Last class we talked about

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o Ex: opportunity to invite others to play, opportunity to play games

LESSON 7: GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP

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PART 1: Introduction to sportsmanship, what it means to be a good sport within a

o Ex: Because your peers will feel like they belong

Instruct students to be conscious of their sharing and turn-taking behaviors and

LESSON 8: MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS

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LESSON 9: RECOGNZING UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

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This requires listening.

You feel pressured to spend time together

You feel fear in your relationship.

ACTIVITY: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviours related to

ASSESSMENT: Learn to recognize examples of people who engage in negative

Unhealthy Peer Relationships Worksheet

1. The abuser ___

A. Continuously seeks approval from

3. The controller ___

C. Needy and dependent.

4. The enabler ___

D. Tries to fix other peoples problems.