Based on

TCU Mapping-Enhanced Counseling

Manuals for Adaptive Treatment
As Included in NREPP

UNDERSTANDING AND REDUCING

ANGRY FEELINGS
A collection of materials for leading counseling sessions
that encourage new ways of thinking about and responding
to anger

N. G. Bartholomew & D. D. Simpson

Texas Institute of Behavioral Research at TCU
(August 2005)

TCU Mapping-Enhanced Counseling manuals provide evidence-based

guides for adaptive treatment services (included in National Registry of

Evidence-based Programs and Practices, NREPP, 2008). They are derived
from cognitive-behavioral models designed particularly for counselors and
group facilitators working in substance abuse treatment programs.
Although best suited for group work, the concepts and exercises can be
directly adapted to individual settings.

When accompanied by user-friendly information about client assessments

that measure risks, needs, and progress over time, TCU MappingEnhanced Counseling manuals represent focused, time-limited strategies
for engaging clients in discussions and activities on important recovery
topics. These materials and related scientific reports are available as
Adobe PDF files for free download at http://www.ibr.tcu.edu.
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FOR ADAPTIVE TREATMENT
UNDERSTANDING AND REDUCING ANGRY FEELINGS
Table of Contents

Part 1. Understanding Anger............................... 1

Description: Discussion activity for group with worksheets and handout
Source: Adapted in part from Neurobehavioral Treatment (UCLA /NDRI).
Contact: UCLA/Matrix Institute at http://www.matrixinstitute.org

Part 2. Managing Anger in Relationships ................. 10

Description: Leader guide for group with topic notes, worksheets, handouts,
and discussion questions
Source: TCU / Institute of Behavioral Research. From treatment manual
Straight Ahead: Transition Skills for Recovery
Contact: IBR at http://www.ibr.tcu.edu

Part 3. Mapping Worksheets ............................. 20

Description: A set of activity worksheets for use in group discussions or
individual counseling
Source: TCU / Institute of Behavioral Research. From treatment manual TCU
Guide Maps: A Resource for Counselors
Contact: IBR at http://www.ibr.tcu.edu

Part 4. The Aggression Cycle ............................ 33

Description: Worksheets for clients in group or individual counseling
Source: Adapted from CSAT workbook Anger Management for Substance
Abuse Clients http://www.samhsa.gov/centers/clearinghouse

Links of Interest ......................................... 39

Description: Links to Web sites featuring materials on Anger
Copyright 2004; 2005 TCU Institute of Behavioral Research, Fort Worth, Texas. All rights reserved.

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Understanding
Anger
Understanding Anger is adapted in part from a core set of materials
developed by Matrix, Inc. (at UCLA) and NDRI for relapse
prevention group work. This session includes worksheets,
handouts, and group leader instruction for facilitating a session on
the antecedents of anger to help participants become more aware of
their physical cues and emotional responses to anger and frustration.
Group leader discussion questions are provided to help encourage
clients to talk about the situational aspects of anger and strategies
for self-regulation.

Source: Neurobehavioral Treatment (UCLA Matrix

Institute/NDRI)

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Step 1
Introduce the session by underscoring that it is helpful to
understand anger in order to deal with it.
A common question we all have is Why do I get angry in the first place? The
simplest answer is: We get angry because we are human beings. Anger is a normal
human emotion.
Human anger is more complex than the anger we see other animals expressing. For
example, Rover, the dog, may become angry when you pull his tail, and he may
growl or bite because he feels threatened or annoyed. However, Rover will
probably never get mad at himself for napping when he should have been guarding
the yard. People are different. We get angry because of events, experiences, and
also because of our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and, sometimes, our own behavior.

Sketch a tree diagram, labeled as shown below, on flip chart paper

or erasable board, and discuss with participants:

Anger

Fear or Pain
Anger is often conceptualized as arising from either fear or pain. The ideas of fear
and pain are defined very broadly. Fear includes not just fear of something
physical, but also psychological fear. For example, fear of losing face, fear of loss
of esteem or regard, fear of being laughed at or appearing ridiculous, fear of being
abandoned. Pain is the same. Its more than just pain from being physically hurt. It
includes emotional and psychological painfeeling pain from someones words or
actions, the pain of loss of love or regard, feeling pain because of lifes unfairness.

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So my anger at being called a rude name may have its roots in my fear of losing face or
from my pain over someones unkindness, or from a combination of these things. So when
someone suddenly pulls in front of me on the expressway, my initial fear that I might crash
into the back of their car quickly turns to anger over their bad driving.

Briefly discuss this roots and tree concept of anger. Use some
of the following questions:
When was the last time you felt angry or had an angry outburst that was
probably related to fear of losing face or looking weak?
When was the last time you felt angry or had an angry outburst that was
probably related to painbeing hurt by someones words or actions?
What do you see as helpful in thinking about anger in terms of roots and
tree with pain and fear?

Summarize discussion with the following:

First Key to a Better Understanding of Anger:

Ask yourself: What am I afraid of? What is causing me pain? Is it a combination
of factors?
These questions are tough! It is difficult to think about our feelings and behavior, then take
it to a deeper level. And most of us dont like to dwell on our deeply felt fears and hurts.
However, many people find that making the effort to identify the root of the anger helps
them to deal with it more successfully. It also helps people better understand their anger
hot buttons or triggers, allowing them to have more control in difficult situations.

Step 2
Distribute Recognizing Anger Triggers worksheets (page 8), and
introduce this activity with some of the following points:
To better understand anger, its helpful to consider the kinds of things that we all
have experienced that may influence feeling angry and the degree of anger we may
feel. These include:

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Surroundings or environment: The physical location or situation we find ourselves
in can influence angry feelings. Sometimes we dont pay attention to the things in
the background or the environment that annoy us or create frustration, setting the
stage for anger to erupt more easily. For example: Are you being bumped around in
a crowded area? Is the temperature uncomfortable? Are you stuck in a long line or
in traffic? Do you live with racial or political oppression? Are you experiencing
economic hardships? Are you treated unfairly because of race, religion, sexual
orientation, or other prejudice?
Personal health: We have all had the experience of being more short-tempered
when we are not feeling well or when we have a headache. Again, we often fail to
pay attention to physical health issues that can trigger angry reactions. For example:
Are you tired? Fatigued? Experiencing pain or a chronic, painful condition? Do
you sleep well? Eat a balanced diet and get enough exercise? Do you experience a
lot of anxiety, stress or tension? Are your depressed? Is your outlook on life
positive or negative? Is your self-esteem high or low? These factors can contribute
to angry responses from time to time.
Attitudes and expectations: This is probably the biggest factor in fueling anger and
keeping it going. We create much of our own anger when we think in ways that
clash with the real world. In other words, when we expect things to always be
predictable, just, fair, honest, or kind in a real world that is frequently unpredictable,
unjust, unfair, uncontrollable, and harsh, then we set ourselves up for frustration.
For example: Are you rigid and inflexible in your beliefs and expectations? Do you
insist the world should abide by rules of fairness, justice, and doing things right?
Do you expect all your accomplishments should be recognized and rewarded? Do
you expect you should always win or have things your way? These beliefs,
attitudes, and expectations are human, but unfortunately, they are also unrealistic.

Ask participants to complete their worksheets, keeping in mind the

kinds of things that most frequently trigger angry reactions. Invite
participants to share some of their answers with the group. Process the
activity with some of the following questions:
When you think about it, what might be at the root of the anger situation you
discussed about your family?
What is an example of allowing your own attitudes and expectations to fuel
your anger?
What attitudes or expectations seem to fuel your anger the most?
Is anger caused by feelings different from anger caused by a situation?
In what ways?

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Summarize discussion with the following:

Second Key to a Better Understanding of Anger:

Learn to recognize your own anger triggers and high risk for anger situations.
Advanced warning can be a good thing. If we had known ahead of time what was going to
happen on 9/11it would have made a huge difference. Similarly, learning to recognize
situations and personal attitudes that have a potential to lead to anger gives us an upperhand in planning how we want to react, behave, or in some cases how we can avoid these
high risk triggers.

Step 3
Distribute Tips for Managing Anger handouts (page 9). Review
each of the tips with participants, using some of the following
discussion points:
Learn how to recognize the physical, mental, and behavioral warning signs
of your angry feelings.
As just discussed, awareness is one of the most helpful tools we have for keeping
one step ahead of an angry outburst. In addition to becoming aware of situations
and thoughts that trigger anger, it is also helpful to pay attention to physical
signals that anger is building up. For example, clenching your teeth or fists,
tension in your neck or stomach, feeling hot and flushed, increases in heart rate
and breathing are common anger signals. These physical signals, in combination
with anger-feeding thoughts and expectations, are cues that we should cool
down, adjust our expectations or attitudes, or simply walk away from a situation.
Ask yourself if your anger is justified.
When we feel angry, we often feel somewhat righteous and justified in our anger. In
some cases, this may be appropriate, such as when our rights have been stepped on or
when a serious injustice has occurred. However, there are many times when our anger is
not justifiedtimes when we are angry simply because we dont want to compromise, or
when we displace our anger. To displace anger means to take out our angry feelings on
someone or something that had nothing to do with the original source of anger. For
example, my boss yells at me for something I forgot to do. This makes me angry, and I

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displace that anger later in the day by getting angry and yelling at my partner over
something insignificant. In this case, I would likely be more justified in being angry with
myself (since the situation was originally about something I forgot to do). However, I
would not be justified in taking it out on my partner. He/she had nothing to do with it.
Some helpful questions to ask ourselves include: Is my anger an overreaction to a
situation that is beyond my control? Am I misplacing anger with myself onto others?
Am I expecting too much of others and myself? Am I taking things too personally?
Talk rather than act out your angry feelings.
Talk to someone you trust and who is not involved in the event that triggered your anger.
Venting or talking with a neutral friend or with a counselor can help you get another
perspective. Avoid venting with someone who fans your anger or encourages you to act
on your angry feelings. Instead, choose someone who is cool-headed and able to help
you talk about your anger in a way that allows you to resolve it and move on. Its been
said that words can be magic. Sometimes in talking things out with others and hearing
their input, we actually create solutions to problems that we may not have come up with
on our own.
Explore your options.
Often, when we are angry, we may feel stuck. When angry, it is easy to get into
black and white thinking, instead of examining all of our choices and possible
solutions. It is helpful to let things cool down before acting. Important decisions
are best made when were in a calm, rational frame of mind. Then we are better
able to ask ourselves: What type of response is in my best interest? It can be
helpful to play out different scenarios in your head or to talk them over with a
trusted friend. Try to let go of the problem for a day or two, and see if you get a
new perspective. Doing something physical (taking a walk, playing sports,
exercising) can help burn off some of the anger and put you in a better frame of
mind for problem solving.
Recall what solutions worked for you in the past.
Most of us are able to recall situations in which we dealt with anger causing events in
an appropriate way. Maybe we took time to cool down before confronting someone, or
we were able to think before acting, or we simply decided to not let something bother
us, or we realized that what we were mad about was really our own fault. Whatever
the solution was, it has the potential to work again in the present. Recalling the past
helps us remember that difficult feelings, no matter how strong, are always temporary.
No matter how uncomfortable our feelings are right now, they will go away. Acting
impulsively, exploding, or sulking will only make matters worse. This doesnt mean

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we should ignore difficult feelings and hope that theyll go away, but rather to
remember that we do have the ability to deal with our anger and other difficult
feelings.
Reward yourself.
When youve successfully handled a difficult situation, pat yourself on the back and give
yourself a healthy reward. Be proud that youve been able to weather the storm. When
we allow ourselves to feel proud about the times we handle our anger well, it helps us
remember what we did so we can do it again in the future. We all deserve a gold star
when we are able to think ourselves out of feeling angry, let go of what is bothering us,
resolve it, and move on.

Ask participants to share strategies that have worked for them in

dealing with anger in a healthy way. Encourage detail. Invite them to
add strategies that have worked for them in the past to space provided at
the bottom of the handout.
Summarize discussion with the following:

Third Key to a Better Understanding of Anger:

Remember these tips for dealing with anger, especially the ones you know work
best for you.
An important part of understanding anger is learning how best to deal with it. For each of
us, that answer will be different for each situation. However, there are some general tips
and strategies that are worth keeping in mind. Key among them are strategies that have
worked successfully for you in the past. From knitting to bungee-cord jumping, from
talking with a friend to watching a funny movieeach of are aware of things that have
worked for us to deal with anger in a healthy way. Its just a matter, sometimes, of
remembering to do it.

Thank participants for the participation and encourage them to

share what they learned today with others.

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Recognizing Anger Triggers

List the types of situations that trigger your anger.
With your family:
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At work:
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With friends:
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In your support group:
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With strangers:
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Anger can be caused by different feelings. Its easy to get angry when you feel:
taken advantage of
the need to be perfect
unloved
misunderstood
helpless
hurt by criticism
that you are being treated unfairly
mentally and physically exhausted
Which feelings are most likely to trigger your anger?
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TIPS FOR MANAGING ANGER

1. Learn how to recognize the physical, mental, and behavioral warning signs of your angry
feelings. Physical clues such as rapid heartbeat, clenching your jaw or fist, and muscle tension can
be clues to escalating anger. These physical signals, in combination with anger-feeding thoughts and
expectations, may be an early warning that we should cool down, adjust our expectations or
attitudes, or simply walk away from a situation.
2. Ask yourself if your anger is justified. Is it an overreaction to a situation that is beyond our
control? Am I misplacing anger with myself onto others? Am I expecting too much of others and/or
myself? Am I taking things too personally?
3. Talk, rather than act out your angry feelings. Talk to someone you trust and who is not
involved in the event that triggered your anger. Venting or talking with a neutral friend or with a
counselor can help us get another perspective. Avoid venting with someone who fans your anger or
encourages you to act on your angry feelings. Instead, choose someone who is cool-headed and able
to help you move on.

4. Explore your options. What type of response is in your best interest? Play out different scenarios
in your head and with someone you trust if possible, try to let go of the problem for a day or two. Do
something physical (take a walk, play ball, exercise), but not violent, to relieve your stress. Let things
cool down. Important decisions are best made when youre in a calm, rational frame of mind.

5. Recall what solutions worked for you in the past. Past experiences with successfully
handling anger may hold the key to how to deal with a present situation. Remember that
difficult feelings, no matter how strong, are always temporary. No matter how uncomfortable we
may feel right now, it will go away. Acting impulsively, exploding, or sulking will only make
matters worse. Remind yourself that you can deal with difficult feelings.
6. Reward yourself. When youve successfully handled a difficult situation, pat yourself on the back
and give yourself a healthy reward. Be proud that youve been able to weather the storm.

What are some things you have already thought about or done in the past that helped you
manage your anger more successfully?
Which one would you add to this tips list?
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Parts adapted from: Neurobehavioral Treatment/NDRI/Matrix/UCLA

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Part 2:
Managing Anger
in Relationships
Managing Anger in Relationships is part of the Straight Ahead:
Transition Skills for Recovery manual developed at TCU. This
session features a leaders script, with notes, worksheets, and
handouts for leading a solution-focused or strengths-based
discussion of managing anger. Participants are invited to think
about times when they have been able to successfully manage angry
feelings and to think about how to build on those successes.
Materials for a mini-lecture highlight healthy and unhealthy
reactions to anger.

Source: TCU / Institute of Behavioral Research. From treatment manual

Straight Ahead: Transition Skills for Recovery

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Step 1
Introduce the topic of how anger can impact relationships:
Anger is part of being human. The ability to feel anger is something we are all
born witheven babies get mad. The right to feel anger is another example of a
personal right. All of us are entitled to our angry feelings.
How we go about expressing our anger is another issue. We are not entitled to
express our anger in ways that violate other peoples rights or safety. We may
choose to do soand were responsible for the consequences when we do.
Expressing anger in a way that destroys our relationships or our job performance
is self-defeating. If our expressions of anger drive away the people we love, cut
us off from support, make us feel guilty, or hurt us on the job, its time to consider
some changes.
In todays session well take a look at some ideas for dealing with anger in a way
that builds good relationships. Youll also have a chance to think about setting
personal goals for better anger management.

Ask participants the following questions. Note responses on flip chart

or chalkboard. Briefly discuss responses.
What do you like best about the way you deal with anger?
What do you like least about the way you deal with anger?
What would you like to do differently when you're angry?

Transition:
Most of us probably do at least a few things that wed like to do differently when
were angry. Likewise, weve all said or done things in anger that we wish we
could undo. Changing our approach to anger can be difficult to do because it takes
some work, but it can be done.

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Step 2
Distribute the Anger Map handout (page 18). Use some of the
following information to build your discussion of the points covered in
each area of the handout:
There are different degrees of anger. For example, frustration, disappointment,
jealousy, indignation, being annoyed or irritated are all related to anger.
Whatever the type or degree, feelings of anger are a normal part of living.
We each respond to anger in our own unique way. Most of the ways we have of
responding to anger we learned over the yearsespecially during childhood and
adolescence. Since how we respond to anger was learned, we are capable of
learning new responses to anger if we choose.

Ask, and briefly discuss the responses:

How can you tell when youre getting angry?
Whats the first thing you usually do when you feel angry?

Continue:
Once we are aware of feeling angry, the next thing to do is to express it in a
healthy way, and then resolve it (let it go.) Its not healthy to swallow anger or
let it go unresolved. When we swallow our anger we may begin to feel
resentment or hostility. Theres even some evidence that holding back anger
causes health problems such as stress or high blood pressure.
When we express our anger, we have two choices about how we do it. We can
respect the rights of others, or we can step on the rights of others. These two
types of anger expression are very different.

Invite participants to follow along with the handout. Use the

following points for focus:

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Stepping on the Rights of Others
Some examples of stepping on the rights of others include yelling, using threats,
or using violence. These are pretty self explanatory. Lets face it, very few
people enjoy being yelled at, threatened, or hurt. When we respond this way, we
run the risk of damaging relationships at home and at work.
In family and personal relationships, anger may begin to escalate when people get
stuck on blaming each other for the problem or difficulty. People often go from
arguing about a problem to arguing about whose fault it is. Its a very human
tendency to do this, but it seldom solves the problem or calms the anger. We can
show more respect for ourselves and others if we focus on resolving the problem
rather than spinning our wheels by trying to pin the blame.
Sometimes we respond to anger by shutting down, (the silent but fuming
approach). In some cases, we may just need time to think and cool down. If our
shut down is for thinking and cooling off, then its probably helpful. Were
able to open back up and resolve the anger when were feeling better. However,
shut downs can also lead to holding a grudge. That is, we shut down, fail to
resolve the anger, and then keep the anger simmering inside us. This is not a
healthy approach to anger.
If we usually ignore the rights of others when we express anger, it can lead to
relationship problems, little support (were not very pleasant to be around), and
troubles on the job.

Respecting the Rights of Others

There is another way of expressing anger takes the rights of others into
consideration most of the time.
One example of how this is done is by remembering to use I-statements when we
talk out our anger with others (I'm feeling mad as hell about this, rather than
Youve made me mad). Another way to use I-statements is to ask for change.
In other words, discuss the reasons for your anger, and use I-statements to help
negotiate a solution that will help keep whatever caused your anger from
happening again (or help it happen less often). (I feel embarrassed when you
tease in front others and then I get mad. Id like you to stop teasing me.)

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Letting off steam helps you calm down. When were calm, its much easier to
resolve problems and keep open to new solutions. Some people find it helpful to
take a walk, take a cold shower, exercise, talk with a third party about the problem
behind the anger, or even punch a pillow to let off steam. Finding a way to vent
the steam without intimidating or hurting others is a useful approach.
We show the most respect for ourselves and others when we find ways to resolve
anger and let it go. Listening is an important part of working through anger.
Trying to understand the other persons point of view will usually help us reach
resolutions that both parties can live with. Forgiving involves being able to
accept apologies when they are offered and working to bring relationships back to
their non-angry state. It also involves letting things go instead of saving them
up for the next disagreement.
When we resolve anger in a way that respects others while still allowing us to
express the angry feelings we build stronger relationships. We also are likely to
get more support from others and be more effective in our on-the-job
relationships.

Ask, and discuss responses:

When are you the most successful at handling your anger in a healthy
way? What do you do that works?
How do you manage to keep from yelling or intimidating others when
youre feeling mad? What works for you?
What have you tried that works for letting off steam?
How do you feel when you are able to resolve your anger successfully?

Transition and Wrap Up:

We always have a choice about how to express our anger. When we express our
anger in a way that respects other peoples rights as well as our own, we have a
better chance of maintaining good relationships.
As much as we might like to, we cant control how others deal with their own
anger. We can only take responsibility for our own expressions of anger and
make our own goals for change. However, in close relationships change often

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leads to change. In other words, as we change our own responses to anger we
may start a ball rolling that encourages those around us to change as well.
We all get mad from time to time. However, if anger is a constant in your life,
consider getting some outside help. If you or your partner seem to stay mad all
the time, talk with your counselor about the availability of counseling services.
There are also support groups that focus on anger issues, such as Parents
Anonymous, domestic violence support groups, anger control groups, etc. These
sources of support in the community are there if you need them.
Distribute local directory of support group service for anger-related issues.
Invite participants to talk with you during the break if they have questions about
available counseling and support group services.

Step 3
Ask participants to think about making changes, both big and small.
Ask, for silent consideration:
What do you want to change about how you handle your anger?

Distribute Anger Solutions Map worksheets (page 19), and ask

participants to complete their maps by writing in their answers to each of
the questions in the boxes.
The key instruction for this activity is to be thoughtful and honest. The questions
are not simple and do require some thought. However, there are no right or
wrong answers to the questionsonly your honest reflections.

Additional instructions (if needed for clarification as participants

complete their maps):
Goal box: Write in your answer to the question: What do I want to change
about how I handle my anger? Another way to put it isWhat would you like
to begin doing differently when youre angry?

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How are you different when youre not angry? Focus on the nonangry you. How do you act, feel, behave when youre not angry? What happens
thats different when youre not angry?

When you change how you deal with anger, how will things be
different? How will your life be different when you reach your goal? What
will happen that is different?

Whats one thing you can try next week to work on your goal?
Describe something you feel you can start doing to change how you deal with
anger?

Process the exercise. Ask for volunteers to share their maps. Work
with one person at a time. Ask the suggested follow-up questions for
each section of the map as participants volunteer their work:
What do you want to change about how you handle your anger?
Are there times when you are already able to do this?
Whats different about those times?

How are you different when youre not angry?

Who else notices these differences?
What would this person say he/she enjoys most about you when
youre not angry?

When you change how you deal with your anger, how will your life be
different?
What else will you be doing that tells you things are different?
How will you feel about yourself when you make this change?

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Whats one thing you can try next week to work on your goal?
How did you figure out thats what you should be working on?
How will you know if this idea is working for you?
Whats the first step you need to take to start the ball rolling?

During this discussion of participants maps, find opportunities to praise

and encourage each person. Emphasize participants strengths, abilities,
and healthy anger management approaches as they are revealed.
Normalize the troubles we all sometimes have in managing our anger
in the way wed prefer.

Step 4
Summarize the discussion with some of the following key points:
Anger is a normal emotionone that were supposed to feel from time to time.
Most of us have no trouble feeling angry, but expressing our anger is a different
story. In order to enhance relationships with family, friends or coworkers its
important to express anger in a healthy way. This involves paying attention to
both your rights and the rights of others when you express your anger.
For most of us, changing how we sometimes respond when were angry can make
a lot of difference in our lives. Pay attention to the things that are different in the
week to come as you work on your goal for change (from the mapping exercise).
Pay close attention to differences that happen that you werent expecting. Also
pay attention to who else notices the changes you make when you make them.
Take advantage of resources in the community that can help you work on special
anger-management issues. If youre living in a situation where your anger or
someone elses anger frequently turns to violence, get advice from your
counselor. You dont have to accept violence from others. You dont have to
accept it in yourself, either. Get help to break the cycle.

Thank participants for their input.

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Mapping
Worksheets
These Mapping Worksheets were selected from the manual TCU
Guide Maps: A Resource for Counselors because of their specific
focus on anger and emotional regulation. Each mapping worksheet
follows a fill in the blank format to encourage participants to
consider various cognitive aspects of how we respond to feelings.
Once participants complete their worksheet, group discussions and
commentary on the causes and effects of anger and strategies for
interrupting angry patterns are facilitated.

Source: TCU / Institute of Behavioral Research. From treatment

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Why a map?
The purpose of this section is to introduce a promising technique that can be used by counselors
to help clients represent and resolve personal issues. There is research that validates the
effectiveness of this tool in the counseling process, so we give you some background and a quick
look at the major research findings on maps.

Types of Maps. Node-link maps are tools that can visually portray ideas, feelings, facts, and
experiences. There are three broad categories of these maps:
Free or process maps
Information maps
Guide maps (the focus of this section).
As you can see from the examples, the nodes in a map are drawn as enclosed boxes and
represent thoughts, actions, or feelings. The map links are simple lines with arrows that are
labeled to show the direction of influence and the interrelationships among the nodes.
Free or process maps: Using a chalkboard, flip chart, paper and pencil, or computer,
client(s) and counselor can work together to create a map of the problem or issue under
discussion. For examples of the use of free mapping, see Mapping New Roads to Recovery:
Cognitive Enhancements to Counseling, Dansereau, Dees, Chatham, Boatler, and Simpson,
1993. Available at www.ibr.tcu.edu).
Information maps: They have been used in academic settings where research has
showed them to be powerful study tools. These maps organize facts in a specific content area
and present them in an easy-to-remember format. The first research on mapping was done with
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Guide maps: These are pre-structured templates with a fill-in-the-space format that
guides the clients thinking within a specific framework (e.g., personal strengths, goals), and
allows ample freedom for self-expression. In a group setting, a guide map can be used to focus
and keep a discussion on track. As an individual activity, it provides a structure for thinking
about and organizing to otherwise nebulous personal issues. In group work, the map can provide
some assurance that each group member has had a chance to visit a particular issue personally,
even if there has been insufficient session time for each of them to air those issues within the
group.

Roots and Rationale. Node-link maps have an empirical base in research dealing with the
effects of using two dimensional visual representations. These graphic representations are
frequently found to be more effective than verbal discourse or written narrative in dealing with
complex problems and issues. Flow charts, organizational charts, Venn diagrams, pictures, and
graphs can increase communication efficiency by making related ideas easier to locate and
recognize, and, as a result, potentially more amenable to inferences and recall. The physical
formats of spoken language or written narrative are linear strings of ideas. Visual
representations, on the other hand, have the capability of simultaneously clustering interrelated
components to show complex multiple relationships such as parallel lines of thought and
feedback loops.
Problem-Solving: Personal problems may be complex, making them both difficult to
analyze and emotionally daunting to resolve. A visual representation such as a node-link map
can capture the most important aspects of a personal issue and make alternatives more salient for
both the client and the counselor. Because this has the potential to make a problem appear more
manageable and a solution more probable, it may diffuse at least some of the anxiety surrounding
the issue, as well as increase motivation to work toward a solution.
Evidence-Base: In 1989, maps were first studied as personal management tools for
college students in substance abuse prevention research (Tools for Improving Drug and Alcohol
Education and Prevention, D.F. Dansereau, Principal Investigator) sponsored by the National
Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA). At the same time, through the NIDA-sponsored DATAR
(Drug Abuse Treatment for AIDS Risk Reduction) project, (D. D. Simpson, Principal
Investigator) maps were introduced to methadone maintenance clients and their counselors in
three urban Texas programs. Findings from this research were quite positive. A second DATAR
project (Improving Drug Abuse Treatment for AIDS-Risk Reduction) and the NIDA-sponsored
CETOP project (Cognitive Enhancements for the Treatment of Probationers; D. F. Dansereau,
PI) confirmed maps as useful counseling tools. The CETOP project did so with a particularly
tough client pool, probationers in a criminal justice system treatment program. A summary of
major findings from the four research projects follows, with referenced research articles that
support each finding.

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What Research Reveals About the

Impact of Mapping: A Quick Summary
Memory for the Session: Maps
make treatment discussions more
memorable.

Quality of the
Counseling
Session

K. Knight, Simpson, & Dansereau, 1994

Czuchry & Dansereau, 1998

Focus: Maps increase on-task

performance in group sessions and
are especially helpful for clients who
have attentional problems.
Dansereau, Joe, & Simpson, 1993
D. Knight, Dansereau, Joe, & Simpson, 1994
Joe, Dansereau, & Simpson, 1994
Dansereau, Dees, Greener, & Simpson, 1995
Czuchry, Dansereau, Dees, & Simpson, 1995
Dansereau, Joe, & Simpson, 1995
Newbern, Dansereau, Czuchry, & Simpson, 2005

Communication: Maps give clients

greater confidence in their ability to
communicate. This is especially so for
non-Anglo clients and clients with limited
education.
Pitre, Dansereau, & Joe, 1996
Dansereau, Joe, Dees, & Simpson, 1996
Newbern, Dansereau, & Pitre, 1999

Ideas: Maps facilitate the production of insights and ideas,

stimulate greater depth, uncover issues, and identify gaps in
thinking:
Dansereau, Dees, Greener, & Simpson, 1995
Newbern, Dansereau, & Dees, 1997
Pitre, Dansereau, & Simpson, 1997
Dansereau, Joe, & Simpson 1993
Czuchry & Dansereau, 1999
Dansereau, Joe, & Simpson, 1993

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Quality of the
Client &
Counselor
Relationship

Rapport: Mapping facilitates the

counselor-client therapeutic alliance.
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1993
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1996
Dansereau,Joe,Dees, & Simpson, 1996
Simpson,Joe,Rowan-Szal, & Greener, 1996

Positive Feelings Toward Self &

Treatment: Maps facilitate selfDuring
Treatment
Outcomes
(e.g., issue
resolution &
more effective
life skills)

confidence, self-efficacy & problem

solving. They can foster positive feelings
about personal progress in treatment
and positive perceptions of treatment
process.
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1993
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1995
Dansereau,Joe,Dees, & Simpson, 1996
Joe,Dansereau, & Simpson, 1994
Pitre,Dees,Dansereau, & Simpson, 1997
Czuchry,Dansereau,Dees, & Simpson, 1995
D. Knight,Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1994
Pitre, Dansereau, Newbern & Simpson, 1997
Blankenship, Dees, & Dansereau,in progress
Newbern, Dansereau,& Pitre, 1999

Show Up Clean: Clients who map miss

fewer sessions and have fewer positive
urinalysis tests for opiates or cocaine.
Czuchry,Dansereau,Dees,& Simpson,1995
Dansereau,Joe,Dees, & Simpson, 1996
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1993
Joe,Dansereau, & Simpson, 1994
Dansereau,Joe,& Simpson, 1995
Dees,Dansereau,& Simpson, 1997

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After
Treatment
Outcomes

Clean & Free: Clients who

have mapped during treatment have
fewer positive urinalysis tests for
opiates, less needle use, and less
criminal activity.

(e.g., sober/clean,
no arrests)

Pitre, Dansereau, & Joe, 1996

Joe, Dansereau, Pitre, & Simpson, 1997

Adolescent Treatment: effects similar to adult findings

Collier, Czuchry, Dansereau, & Pitre, 2001

Mapping as Intervention in Integrated

Treatment Process Models
Czuchry & Dansereau, 2003
Simpson, Joe, Rowan-Szal, & Greener, 1997
Simpson, 2004
Simpson & Joe, 2004

Conceptual Overviews of Mapping Research

Dansereau, Dees, & Simpson, 1994
Dansereau, Dees, Bartholomew, & Simpson, 2002
Dansereau & Dees, 2002
Dansereau (in press 2005)

Manuals for Counselors (at www.ibr.tcu.edu)

Dansereau, Dees, Chatham, Boatler, & Simpson, 1993
Dees & Dansereau, 2000
Sia, Dansereau, & Dees, 2001
Czuchry, Sia & Dansereau, 2002

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Session Notes for Using Guide Maps

The Guide Map worksheets in this section can be used for during-group activities or as
homework assignments for later group discussion. The following Guide Maps are included:
An Emotion or Feeling That Gives You Trouble (page 27)
Are You Having a Problem With Another Person? (page 28)
Situation-Response: Consequences of Aggression (page 29)
Situation-Response: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive (page 30)
It is possible to build an entire group session around one map, or participants can be asked to
complete and discuss several maps during the course of the group meeting. The general
instructions for using the Guide Maps include:
1. Begin with a brief discussion and overview of the discussion topic. In the case of the Guide
Maps in this module, participants would focus on the topic of anger. The group leader
should provide information in the form of a brief mini-lecture or a review of information
about anger covered elsewhere in this module.
2. Distribute copies of a Guide Map to participants and ask them to complete it by filling in the
blanks using their own ideas, feelings, experiences, and opinions to answer the questions in
the boxes.
3. Once all participants have completed their maps, lead a discussion of the issues raised by the
activity. The leaders job is to gently challenge and provide clarification, as needed. Leaders
can choose to process the mapping activity as a large group, or participants can be divided
into pairs or triads to discuss their maps before reporting back to the group as a whole.
4. Use open-ended questions to encourage discussion about the key issues raised by participants
in completing their maps. Some ideas for general process questions include:
What did you learn about yourself as you completed this map activity?
What benefits and drawbacks did you identify for aggressive/disruptive behavior?
What benefits and drawbacks did you identify for assertive behavior?
What benefits and drawbacks did you identify for passive behavior?
In what ways is it helpful to consider the other persons point of view?
What are some helpful ways you listed to respond to negative emotions?
5. Encourage participants to share their mapping worksheets with family, friends, and members
of their support network. When appropriate, offer blank copies of the worksheets for
participants to complete and discuss with significant others.

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An Emotion or Feeling That
Gives You Trouble
What usually happens to cause you to feel this way?

N = Next
N

How would you feel if you could

avoid this emotion when these
situations happen?

What problems does having this

feeling cause for you?
N

What have you done to deal with this

in the past that helped?

What have you done to deal with this in

the past that did not help?

What are some new ways you could deal with this emotion?

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ARE YOU HAVING A PROBLEM WITH
ANOTHER PERSON?
How would someone who was NOT
involved describe it?

THE OTHER
PERSON

YOU

How do you see

it?

How does the other

person see it?

SOLVING PROBLEMS
WITH OTHERS

4
Why do you see it that
way?

Why does the other person

see it that way?

C = Characteristic
L = Leads to

3
What can you do about it?

Your thoughts/feelings?

Your actions?

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Situation:

1
L

RESPONSE
T

This would be an aggressive response:

C = Characteristic
L = Leads to
T = Type

This would be a disruptive response:

2
C

These are the reasons

you might make an
aggressive response:

These are the reasons

you might make a
disruptive response:

These would be the

consequences of an
aggressive response:

3
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Situation:
1
L

L = Leads to
T = Type

RESPONSE
T

This would be an assertive

response:

This would be an aggressive

or disruptive response:

This would be a passive

response:

4
L

Possible consequences of an
assertive response:

Possible consequences of an
aggressive or disruptive
response:

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Bibliography and References on Mapping
Collier, C. R., Czuchry, M., Dansereau, D. F., & Pitre, U. (2001). The use of node-link mapping in the chemical
dependency treatment of adolescents. Journal of Drug Education, 31(3), 305-317.
Czuchry, M., & Dansereau, D. F. (1999). Node-link mapping and psychological problems: Perceptions of a
residential drug abuse treatment program for probationers. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 17(4), 321-329.
Czuchry, M. & Dansereau, D.F. (2003). A model of the effects of node-link mapping on drug abuse counseling.
Addictive Behaviors, 28(3), 537-549.
Czuchry, M., Dansereau, D. F., Dees, S. D., Simpson, D. D. (1995). The use of node-link mapping in drug abuse
counseling: The role of attentional factors. Journal of Psychoactive Drugs, 27(2), 161-166.
Czuchry, M., Sia, T. L., & Dansereau, D. F. (2002). Map Magic. Fort Worth, TX: Department of Psychology,
Institute of Behavioral Research, Texas Christian University.
Dansereau, D. F. (in press). Node-link mapping principles for visualizing knowledge and information. In S. O.
Tergan & T. Keller (Eds.). Knowledge and information visualization: Searching for synergies. Heidelberg/New
York: Springer Lecture Notes in Computer Science.
Dansereau, D. F., & Dees, S. M. (2002). Mapping Training: The transfer of a cognitive technology for improving
counseling. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 22(4), 219-230.
Dansereau, D. F. , Dees, S. M., Chatham, L. R., Boatler, J. F., & Simpson, D. D. (1993). Mapping new roads to
recovery: Cognitive enhancements to counseling. A training manual from the TCU/DATAR Project. Fort Worth,
TX: Institute of Behavioral Research, Texas Christian University.
Dansereau, D. F., Dees, S. M., Greener, J. M., & Simpson, D. D. (1995). Node-link mapping and the evaluation of
drug abuse counseling sessions. Psychology of Addictive Behaviors, 9(3), 195-203.
Dansereau, D. F., Dees, S. M., & Simpson, D. D. (1994). Cognitive modularity: Implications for counseling and
the representation of personal issues. The Journal of Counseling Psychology, 41(4), 513-523.
Dansereau, D. F., Joe, G. W., Dees, S. M., & Simpson, D. D. (1996). Ethnicity and the effects of mapping-enhanced
drug abuse counseling. Addictive Behaviors, 21(3), 363-376.
Dansereau, D. F., Joe, G. W., & Simpson, D. D. (1993). Node-link mapping: A visual representation strategy for
enhancing drug abuse counseling. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 40 (4), 385-395.
Dansereau, D. F., Joe, G. W., & Simpson, D. D. (1995). Attentional difficulties and the effectiveness of a visual
representation strategy for counseling drug-addicted clients. International Journal of the Addictions, 30(4), 371-386.
Dansereau, D. F., Joe, G. W., & Simpson, D. D. (1995). Node-link mapping for counseling cocaine users in
methadone treatment. Journal of Substance Abuse, 6, 393-406.
Dees, S. M., & Dansereau, D. F. (2000). TCU guide maps: A resource for counselors. Fort Worth, TX: Institute of
Behavioral Research, Texas Christian University.
Dees, S. M., Dansereau, D. F., & Simpson, D. D. (1994). A visual representation system for drug abuse counselors.
Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 11(6), 517-523.

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Dees, S. M., Dansereau, D. F., & Simpson, D. D. (1997). Mapping-enhanced drug abuse counseling: Urinalysis
results in the first year of methadone treatment. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 14 (2), 1-10.
Joe, G. W., Dansereau, D. F., Pitre, U., & Simpson, D. D. (1997). Effectiveness of node-link mapping-enhanced
counseling for opiate addicts: A 12-month follow-up. Journal of Nervous and Mental Diseases, 185(5), 306-313.
Joe, G. W., Dansereau, D. F., & Simpson, D. D. (1994). Node-link mapping for counseling cocaine users in
methadone treatment. Journal of Substance Abuse, 6, 393-406.
Knight, D. K., Dansereau, D. F., Joe, G. W., & Simpson, D. D. (1994). The role of node-link mapping in individual
and group counseling. The American Journal of Drug and Alcohol Abuse, 20, 517-527.
Knight, K., Simpson, D. D., & Dansereau, D. F. (1994). Knowledge mapping: A psychoeducational tool in drug
abuse relapse prevention training. Journal of Offender Rehabilitation, 20, 187-205.
Newbern, D., Dansereau, D. F., Czuchry, M., & Simpson, D. D. (2005). Node-link mapping in individual
counseling: Effects on clients with ADHD-related behaviors. Journal of Psychoactive Drugs, 37(1), 93-103.
Newbern, D., Dansereau, D. F., & Dees, S. M. (1997). Node-link mapping in substance abuse treatment:
Probationers ratings of group counseling. Journal of Offender Rehabilitation, 25(1/2), 83-95.
Newbern, D., Dansereau, D. F., & Pitre, U. (1999). Positive effects on life skills, motivation and self-efficacy:
Node-link maps in a modified therapeutic community. American Journal of Drug and Alcohol Abuse, 25, 407-423.
Pitre, U., Dansereau, D. F., & Joe, G. W. (1996). Client education levels and the effectiveness of node-link maps.
Journal of Addictive Diseases, 15(3), 27-44.
Pitre, U., Dansereau, D. F., Newbern, D. & Simpson, D. D. (1998). Residential drug-abuse treatment for
probationers: Use of node-link mapping to enhance participation and progress. Journal of Substance Abuse
Treatment, 15(6),535-543.
Pitre, U., Dansereau, D. F. & Simpson, D. D. (1997). The role of node-link maps in enhancing counseling
efficiency. Journal of Addictive Diseases, 16(3), 39-49.
Pitre, U., Dees, S. M., Dansereau, D. F., & Simpson, D. D. (1997). Mapping techniques to improve substance abuse
treatment in criminal justice settings. Journal of Drug Issues, 27(2), 435-449.
Sia, T. L., Dansereau, D. F., & Dees, S. M. (2001). Mapping your steps: Twelve step guide maps. Fort Worth:
Institute of Behavioral Research, Texas Christian University.
Simpson, D. D. (2004). A conceptual framework for drug treatment process and outcomes. Journal of Substance
Abuse Treatment, 27, 99-121.
Simpson, D. D., & Joe, G. W. (2004). A longitudinal evaluation of treatment engagement and recovery stages.
Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 27, 89-97.
Simpson, D. D., Joe, G. W., Rowan-Szal, G. A., & Greener, J. (1995). Client engagement and change during drug
abuse treatment. Journal of Substance Abuse, 7(1), 117-134.
Simpson, D. D., Joe, G. W., Rowan-Szal, G. A., & Greener, J. (1997). Drug abuse treatment process components
that improve treatment. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 14(6), 565-572.

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The Aggression
Cycle
The Aggression Cycle is part of the CSAT workbook Anger
Management for Substance Abuse Clients. This session helps
participants explore how building feelings of anger and resentment
can spiral into a cycle of explosive or destructive behavior. Leaders
notes and worksheets are included, with activities that encourage
participants to pay attention to physical and emotional warning
signs for explosive anger. Instructions for leading a relaxation
technique are included.

Source: DHHS / Center for Substance Abuse Treatment (CSAT).

From workbook Anger Management for Substance Abuse
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Note to Group Leaders

This session presents the aggression cycle and introduces progressive muscle
relaxation. The three-phase aggression cycle, which consists of escalation,
explosion, and post-explosion., serves as a framework that incorporates the
concepts of the anger meter, cues to anger, and the anger control plan.
End the session by presenting a progressive muscle relaxation exercise.
Progressive muscle relaxation is another technique that has been effective in
reducing anger levels. An alternative to deep-breathing exercises, it is
straightforward and easy to learn.

Step 1
Introduce the topic of the anger or aggression cycle, and discuss it
with participants. Distribute handouts of the cycle (page 38), or
draw it on flip chart paper or erasable board for reference.
An episode of anger can be viewed as consisting of three phases: escalation,
explosion, and post-explosion. Together, they make up the aggression cycle. In this
process, the escalation phase is characterized by cues that indicate anger is building.
These cues can be physical, behavioral, emotional, or cognitive (thoughts). Cues are
warning signs, or responses, to anger-provoking events. Events, on the other hand,
are situations that occur every day that may lead to escalations of anger if effective
anger management strategies are not used. Red-flag events are types of situations that
are unique to you and that you are especially sensitive to because of past events.
These events can involve internal processes (e.g., thinking about situations that were
anger provoking in the past) or external processes (e.g., experiencing real-life, angerprovoking situations in the here and now).
If the escalation phase is allowed to continue, the explosion phase may follow. The
explosion phase is marked by an uncontrollable discharge of anger displayed as verbal
or physical aggression. This discharge, in turn, leads to negative consequences. It is
would be called a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 is a little anger and 10 in the max).
We can think of this as an anger meter,a mental way to gauge our anger. For
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The final stage of the aggression cycle is the post-explosion phase. It is characterized
by negative consequences resulting from the verbal or physical aggression displayed
during the explosion phase. These consequences may include going to jail, making
restitution, being terminated from a job or discharged from a drug treatment or social
service program, losing family and loved ones, or feelings of guilt, shame, and regret.
The intensity, frequency, and duration of anger in the aggression cycle vary among
individuals. For example, one persons anger may escalate rapidly after a provocative
event and, within just a few minutes, reach the explosion phase. Another persons
anger may escalate slowly but steadily over several hours before reaching the
explosion phase. Similarly, one person may experience more episodes of anger and
progress through the aggression cycle more often than the other. However, both
individuals, despite differences in how quickly their anger escalates and how
frequently they experience anger, will undergo all three phases of the aggression cycle.
The intensity of these individuals anger also may differ. One person may engage in
more violent behavior than the other in the explosion phase. For example, he or she
may use weapons or assault someone. The other person may express his or her anger
during the explosion phase by shouting at or threatening other people. Regardless of
these individual differences, the explosion phase is synonymous with losing control
and becoming verbally or physically aggressive.
One of the primary objectives of anger management treatment is to keep from reaching
the explosion phase. This is accomplished by using the anger meter to monitor
changes in your anger, attending to the cues or warning signs that indicate anger is
building, and employing the appropriate strategies from your anger control plans to
stop the escalation of anger.

Lead a brief discussion using some of the following questions.

What are some of your red flags that tell you that your anger is escalating?
Using the anger meter idea, in most situations when you get angry, where is
your anger on the anger meter? How do you keep it from going higher?
What is your own most noticeable signal that you are about to reach a 10
(explosion)? What has worked for you to keep it from going over the line?
What feelings do you usually have in the post-explosion phase? How are your
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Transition
Understanding angry explosions as being like a cycle can help us know when to intervene. If we
feel our anger building toward an 8 on our anger meter, we can put strategies in place to bring it
back down. One way to do that is to learn to relax and let go. And one way to do that is through
learning and practicing a relaxation exercise.

Step 2
Lead a Progressive Muscle Relaxation exercise. Use the following
script or use one that you are familiar with.
Today I will introduce progressive muscle relaxation. Start by getting comfortable in
your chairs. Close your eyes if you like. Take a moment to really settle in. Now, as
you did last week, begin to focus on your breathing. Take a deep breath. Hold it for a
second. Now exhale fully and completely. Again, take a deep breath. Fill your lungs
and chest. Now release and exhale slowly. Again, one more time, inhale slowly, hold,
and release.
Now, while you continue to breathe deeply and fully, bring your awareness to your
hands. Clench your fists very tightly. Hold that tension. Now relax your fists, letting
your fingers unfold and letting your hands completely relax. Again, clench your fists
tightly. Hold and release the tension. Imagine all the tension being released from your
hands down to your fingertips. Notice the difference between the tension and complete
relaxation.
Now bring your awareness to your arms. Curl your arms as if you are doing a bicep
curl. Tense your fists, forearms, and biceps. Hold the tension and release it. Let the
tension in your arms unfold and your hands float back to your thighs. Feel the tension
drain out of your arms. Again, curl your arms to tighten your biceps. Notice the
tension, hold, and release. Let the tension flow out of your arms. Replace it with deep
muscle relaxation.
Now raise your shoulders toward your ears. Really tense your shoulders. Hold them
up for a second. Gently drop your shoulders, and release all the tension. Again, lift
your shoulders, hold the tension, and release. Let the tension flow from your shoulders
all the way down your arms to your fingers. Notice how different your muscles feel
when they are relaxed.

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Now bring your awareness to your neck and face. Tense all those muscles by making a
face. Tense your neck, jaw, and forehead. Hold the tension, and release. Let the muscles
of your neck and jaws relax. Relax all the lines in your forehead. One final time, tense all
the muscles in your neck and face, hold, and release. Be aware of your muscles relaxing at
the top of your head and around your eyes. Let your eyes relax in their sockets, almost as if
they were sinking into the back of your head. Relax your jaw and your throat. Relax all the
muscles around your ears. Feel all the tension in your neck muscles release.
Now just sit for a few moments. Scan your body for any tension and release it. Notice
how your body feels when your muscles are completely relaxed. When you are ready,
open your eyes.

Process the relaxation exercise by asking the following questions:

How was this exercise for you?
Did you notice any new sensations?
How does your body feel now? How about your state of mind?
Do you notice any difference now from when we started?

Homework Assignment
Ask participants to review the aggression cycle and practice progressive muscle
relaxation, preferably once a day, during the coming week. Remind them to continue
to develop their anger control plans.

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The Anger Cycle

ESCALATION

EXPLOSION

POST- EXPLOSION

The Anger Meter

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FOR ADAPTIVE TREATMENT
UNDERSTANDING AND REDUCING ANGRY FEELINGS
Anger Resources
Links of Interest
The public information office of the American Psychological
Association provides a variety of brochures on mental health topics.
A brochure on anger is available at:
http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html

This commercial site offers some free downloads as well as a selection

of resources (videos, books, brochures) dealing with anger:
http://www.angermgmt.com/angertoolkit.html

This mental health site offers some free downloads and other
resources on anger:
http://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/

This British public mental health site offers a selection of free PDF
downloads of booklets and brochures dealing with a variety of topics.
A brochure on anger is available at:
http://www.nmht.nhs.uk/pdfs/anger.pdf

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