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30 Qualities that Make Ordinary People Extraordinary

Warren Buffett is successful for investing and building long-term businesses. Bill
Gates is successful for creating a software empire that has changed the way we use
computers. Gandhi was successful for leading India into independence from the
British.
Success comes in many ways and forms. Whats interesting is that most successful
people have very similar qualities.
When I read lists such as this one, I want to see how I stack up against it. It feels
good when I recognize qualities of success in myself. For the qualities that I dont
have, lists like these tell me what I need to work on.
I have enjoyed and benefited much from these types of lists and thats why I decided to organize all my research,
observations and experience and compile this comprehensive list.
If you want to achieve your lifes dream and be wildly successful, you need to model yourself after people who are
living their dream. The more qualities you have in common, the higher your chances for being wildly successful.

Thoughts lead on to purposes; purposes go forth in action; actions form habits; habits decide
character; and character fixes our destiny.
Tryon Edwards

We all start out in life as being quite ordinary and many remain that way. The few who have become extraordinary
have these qualities (no specific order):
1. Definite Aim, Vision and Purpose Successful people constantly seek clarity in their lives. They know what they
want and they follow their own dream. Vague desires and beliefs lead to vague outcomes. It is this sense of direction
that gives them the staying power to stick to their goals and achieve their dreams.
2. Expertise and Excellence No matter what they pursue, they become the best in their field. There is no job too
small and successful people strive for excellence. They pursue mastery and understand that money is a by-product
of the value they offer.
3. Focused People who experience success know how to concentrate. They realize that they cannot do everything
and they focus on the activities that will give them the highest return on the goals they want to achieve. They dont
believe in the hype of multi-tasking and they know that the fastest way to finish your to-dos is doing them one at a
time.
4. Positive Attitude and Perseverance Extraordinary people have realistic optimism. Realistic because they take
action and optimistic because no matter what the result may be, they believe their success is inevitable. They believe
that like a child learning to walk , they need to take action first and then modify the action according to the feedback
that they get. This positive attitude allows them to persevere and be resilient when things dont go their way.
5. Flexible One misconception that ordinary people have about persevering is staying the course no matter what.

This is true only if the reason for pursuing your goal is still valid. Most successful people became successful doing
something different from what they initially intended to do (i.e. Steve Jobs started with computers, went into the
animation and really made his comeback with the iPod). This is normal because the world is always changing and
they know a lot more now than when they started. Successful people know that if their reasons for doing what they
are doing changes, there is no point to continue.
6. Masters of Time Successful people are successful because they get a lot done. The only way to do that is by
making the most out of the allotted 24 hours we all get. Extraordinary people value their time and see the direct
connection between how they spend their time and their well-being. They are usually always on time and train those
that deal with them to respect their schedule by implementing strict start and end times for meetings.
7. Strong Communicators People who can communicate effectively excel in life. Strong communicators
understand that just because people speak English (or the dominant language in your country), it does not mean they
understand each other. What makes them effective is that they are clear about and sensitive to the outcome they want
to get from their communication and are flexible in their method of communication to achieve their outcome. They are
experts at building rapport and separate what is being said from the meaning they put into what is being said.
8. Brave Weve all heard the phrase No risk. No reward. but how many of us really take the risk necessary to get
the reward we want? Not many but for those who do, they are the ones who make it and become successful.
Successful people have the courage to begin AND the courage to continue. They are willing to not only bet but go all
in on themselves. They are not afraid to burn bridges if it means moving forward.
9. Givers Successful people are generous givers. They know and are convinced of the secret that the more you
give, the more you receive as long as you are genuine about your gifts. They operate on the principle embodied by
Zig Ziglars quote, You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want. If you havent
tapped into this secret, you should get started right away. Money isnt the only thing you can give. You can give time,
expertise, space, etc. Look for ways to open doors for people.
10. High Self-Esteem Extraordinary people believe they deserve their success and know that they can do
anything they set their mind to. They understand that a mistake is something that they do and not who they are. They
also monitor the warning signs of low self-esteem to ensure they always keep a positive self-image of themselves.
They realize that self-esteem is a state of mind and choosing to have high self-esteem is much more useful than
choosing to have low self-esteem.
11. Action Oriented We all know of people who have potential or talk a big game but accomplishes nothing. Those
who spend all their time thinking about doing something will never succeed. Successful people are doers and not
talkers. They dont wait for conditions to be perfect before they take action. They just go for it, observe the feedback
and then modify their next action accordingly. Those who dont achieve much with their lives tend to use would,
should and could a lot. Those who do get what they want are too busy achieving their next goal to explain
themselves. If you suffer from procrastination, I encourage you to check out some practical ways to stop
procrastinating.
12. Confident This is what helps successful people take action. Like the chicken and the egg, confidence helps you
achieve your goals which in turn makes you more confident. A great way to be confident is remembering your past
successes and overcoming your fear of failure. Signs of confidence include empowering others, not taking criticism
personally, and understanding that the first time you do something is always the hardest and all subsequent times
WILL get easier. Success is the combination of confidence with competence.
13. Readers Most if not all successful people like to read. If you believe that success leaves clues and that you can
be successful by thinking and acting like a success person, then reading should be a part of your daily life. Ive come
to realize that with access to more books than I can read in several lifetimes, it is important to read the books that will
make the most difference to you. Usually these are the books that will help you become a true expert in your field of

your passion or challenge the limiting beliefs you have about yourself.
So what should you read? Check out book recommendations from people who are doing what you want to
do. Extraordinary people are life long learners who view mastery as an asymptote that they keep getting closer to but
can never reach.
14. Trusts Intuition People who succeed in life trust their gut. They may not be able to explain rationally why or
how they made their decision but they knew it was the right thing to do. Successful people learn to harness the power
of their subconscious by sending it orders from the conscious mind. This involves mentally visualizing the outcome
beforehand and then being present to take in the data and information that will become the ingredients for your
subconscious to deliver the orders that was sent. Learning how to meditate is also a great way to develop and get in
touch with your intuition.
15. Curious and Embraces Possibility Two people are running a race and they come up to an immense wall
blocking their path. One person sees the wall and starts getting down on himself for wasting his time and decides to
quit the race before he wastes even more time. The other person immediately thinks about what the possibilities are
for getting over the wall. Will he/she climb it, break through it, dig under it, etc? No matter which option he/she
chooses, he/she immediately acts on their decision and collects feedback. Successful people adopt an attitude of
curiosity and they truly feel that they can always learn something from someone else. They incorporate the great
qualities of others while make a point to avoid the bad qualities.
16. Self Acceptance Polonius had it exactly right when he said To thine own self be true. People who are
successful dont pretend to be something they are not. This allows them to express their creativity freely and to not
worry about hiding who they really are. The best way to accept yourself is to genuinely appreciate and accept others.
If you tend to judge other people, youre probably not very accepting of yourself either. The worse type of rejection is
self-rejection.
17. Big Dreams I have yet to read a biography of a successful person who didnt have grand dreams for what they
would accomplish. Sir Richard Branson, Walt Disney and Sam Walton all had big dreams and for the most part
achieved more than they originally imagined. This is one of the reasons they became successful. They are not afraid
to dream big and then go for it. If you want to know whether someone will be successful, ask them about their dreams.
If they sound plausible, then they are not dreaming big enough.
18. Well Rounded and Balanced Truly successful people strive to be successful in all aspects of their lives. They
live healthy lives, become financially independent, nurture meaningful relationships, develop personal mastery and
accomplish their professional goals. They know that sacrificing one key area to achieve another will not help them
maximize their true potential. It is hard to be your best and to contribute when you have to worry about how you are
going to pay the rent.
19. Excellent Network Successful people understand the importance of relationships and how it is one of the most
important factors in achieving your goals. They also realize that the best way to build a great network is to give help to
others first with no expectation of reward. Those who constantly take without giving usually do very poorly on building
a solid network.
20. Enthusiastic A sure sign of someone extraordinary is the enthusiasm they have about their passion and their
life. They wake up in the morning excited about their day because they know it is going to bring them one step closer
to achieving their dream. Successful people tend to be leaders because others are attracted to their enthusiasm and
become followers hoping to experience the same excitement and energy.
21. Admits Mistakes There are two things you can do to guarantee that you will NOT be successful in the future:
Blaming Others and Making Excuses. When you do these two things, you give up both your responsibility and power.
When something goes wrong and you blame other people or make excuses, you are clearly stating that you have no
power in this situation and things are happening to you and not because of you. Great people admit when they are

wrong so they can focus on the solution and not waste energy finding a scape goat. Check out what Albert Einstein
can teach us about setbacks.
22. Mindset of Abundance Successful people dont view happiness or success as a finite resource where
achieving happiness and success for yourself means denying someone else happiness and success. They believe
that there is enough to go around and it is more about creating value and not competition. This is the quality that
allows them to be happy for other peoples successes. This mindset also encourages empowerment of others. If you
think $10,000 is a lot to spend on a hotel room, check out this article by Steve Pavlina.
23. Good Character Heroes are people who triumph. Think of all the heroes you know (in movies, books and
real life). Dont they all act with honesty and integrity? Arent they usually generous with others and frugal with
themselves? Doesnt everyone look up to them? Being a hero that triumphs in life is no different.
24. Great Company As I experience and observe more and more of life, Ive come to realize that you really can
learn a lot about someone by the company that they keep. Test this by looking at people you know and the people
they hang out with. You can go as far as to test the idea that a persons salary is usually the average of the five
people they hang out with the most.
This happens because people with similar beliefs tend to get along and stick together. If a group averages
$65,000/year and someone in the group believes that they can make $65,000/hour, the other people in the group will
think that is ridiculous. Yet in the group where everyone makes $65,000/hour, the person making $65,000/year will
probably second guess his/her own beliefs concerning earning ability.
What does that mean for you?
Surround yourself with people living the life you want to live and adopt their beliefs and habits.
25. Listener Everyone wants to be a great speaker but how many people strive to be excellent listeners. People
who listen succeed in life because they are able to hear and understand the needs of other people and to focus their
energy on meeting those needs. The fastest way to be a good conversationalist is to listen well and ask questions.
26. Self Control Successful people rarely lose control. They dont go into panics or blind rages. They have learned
to control their emotions and to consciously (or subconsciously) put themselves in a resourceful state. They
understand that they cant change other people or whats happening to them but they can change how they react to it
and how they feel about it. Another sign of self control is doing what youre suppose to do despite how you feel about
it.
27. Prepared Extraordinary people are always prepared. They not only have a plan B but also a Plan C, D, E and F.
They mentally rehearse and visualize the possibilities vividly so that when the actual situation occurs, their brains will
remember what to do.
28. Choice People who are successful are in control. They know they ALWAYS have a choice. They dont feel
victimized by their genetics, history and/or circumstances and they truly believe that the past does not determine the
future. They write the script to their lives.
29. Self Reliant Successful people rely on themselves. They dont need permission to do what they want and they
dont give other people permission to slow them down by relying on them. They believe in themselves and their ability
to achieve their dreams whether anyone helps them or not. Whats interesting is that it is exactly this type of attitude
that attracts others to want to help you. Samuel Smiles writes about this exact topic in his book, Self-Help.
30. Energy Conscious Those who become great understand that successfully managing their energy is just as
important if not more so than managing their time (Quality #6). One of the most important principles in energy
management is knowing that rest is as important as action. Successful people are aware that low energy produces

poor results and this violates their need for excellence (Quality #2). One of the best ways to manage your energy is to
sleep your way to success.
So where do you stand?
I hope you have either reconfirmed many of your own qualities or have created action plans to develop the qualities
you are lacking. Focus on cultivating one or two qualities at a time. Once your beliefs and actions are aligned with
those of a successful person, youll be amazed by how successful you become.
Bookmark and review this list often to measure yourself against it . Use it as a checklist knowing that the more
qualities that you have, the higher your likelihood of being wildly successful in whatever you pursue.
Which one of these building blocks of success do you want to develop? Are there any qualities of success that I left off
that should be included in this list?
If you found this list helpful, share it with others who can benefit from it.