How to Be Happy

Happinessit's what we all strive to find and keep, even when it's as elusive as ever.
Nobody is jolly and elated all the time, but some individuals are definitely more fulfilled
than others. Studies reveal that happiness has little to do with materialistic needs, goods,
or wants, or high achievement; it boils down to your outlook on life, the quality of your
relationships, and basic amenities like good governance and community resources.
Leaving all the stress behind to get happy? This article might help you.
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Be optimistic. You can influence your happiness in a multitude of ways. It's the totality of
all you think, do and experience. "Hardship builds strength of character and toughness.";
so, happiness is closely related to a hopeful, acceptance of life's challenges. What works?
In the 1970s, researchers followed people who'd won the lottery and found that a year
afterward, they were no happier than people who hadn't. This is called hedonic
adaptation[1] which suggests that we can expect to return to a baseline level of happiness.
Don't leave all the stress behind! Just work out in the job with a calm mind. Stress comes
from jobs, studies, family problems and many more! If you don"t work in the thing it's
gonna bring more stress. so work on it.No matter what events occur, good or bad, the
effect on ones happiness is temporary, and happiness tends to quickly revert to the

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baseline level. Some people have a higher baseline happiness level than others, and that
is due in part to genetics, but it's also largely influenced by how you think.

Accumulate all the little joyful things that happen to you during the day. They add up. You
could keep a journal, and write them down. For example, if there was not bad traffic on the
road, if you had a very scrumptious breakfast, if your friend said something uproariously
humorous that made you laugh, if you took your dog out for a walk in the park and played
with it, add these together. Your outlook can begin to brighten.

Think deeply grateful thoughts for the things you have. This is a very effective way to
become more happy. If you feel grateful for the things you have, you appreciate what you
have and feel more satisfied with your life.

View the glass as half-full instead of half-empty. Your girlfriend/ boyfriend broke up with
you? Now you have the chance to meet someone good for you! You lost your job? Now
you can seize the opportunity to find a better one! Adjust your mentality so that, in each
thing that happens, you see some kernel of good, and say hopeful words, "It will be all
right!", or "It's going to be good.", or "I'll keep expecting good results."

Put yourself in situations where fortunate things are likely to be achieved or happen where
preparation meets opportunity. It's easier to remain optimistic, if you set yourself up for
success. Cheating on a partner, or stealing someone's bicycle while temporarily thrilling
rarely ends well for any party involved. Ask yourself before you act out: Am I setting
myself up for success or for failure?
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Assess yourself. Figure out, and focus on what is really "it" for you (family, education,
career, relationship, marriage, etc.), at least as you see it now. Consider your pathway, for
example: You choose your career objectives. In school, you get to choose your personal
"high school plan" and then, possibly, your "college degree plan", etc. When ready, write
your individual clear short, medium and long-term goals, for your career-/life-path: Plan
how to begin, and then start. Follow-through on your ideas, goals and plans to see your
future develop. Work it out by achieving your goals in steps. But, do not just work harder

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but work smarter; so, continue branching-out, achieving your goals, adding to your kind of
progress, all your life.

Follow the path of "cause-and-effect" -- as life is exactly like that. See what goals you need
as causes that will bring the effects needed. If possible find something you love or like to
do, most especially when you make a crucial decision -- choosing education, career,
training, buying a house, showing love to your spouse and children, family and friends...
Look for possibilities of what may be caused by long-term results of your decisions and
your actions. When you think of your current situation (however hard it may be) -- then
think of how much harder some other people have it, in any aspect. So, be glad that you
are not in that worse situation, and enjoy your life! Say: "It could be worse." Be alert and
eager, mentally leaning forward and reaching toward what you want to grasp, enjoying
learning and improving for years of daily growth and satisfaction.

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Realize that fun is not happiness. Fun can be here at any moment -- but then it can be
gone just as quickly. That is very different from happiness. Happiness is what stays with
us, changing and growing like a sprout, becoming a tree. Happiness changes gradually,
steadily building up and spreading out. In this way, happiness, like success, is not a
destination, it's an hour by hour, day by day series of continuing choices in life's
processes. We can try to keep making some bit of daily progress, no matter what.

Joy is like the tree of happiness, it is a growing choice. Choose to smile a little, to be
cheerful, to do kindness, speak thoughtfully, to read, to study, think quick to be positive but
slow to be angry. But, tell the truth with love -- for being kind and honest is as important as
being right. Let others enjoy your smiles, cheer, kindness -- then you should feel better, by
growing happier over time, never expecting too much, too soon. Be contented from
moment to moment. Say, "Things will change for the better.", or "I expect something
good."

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Follow your gut to decide happily. In one study, two groups of people were asked to
pick a poster to take home. One group was asked to analyze their decision, weighing pros
and cons, and the other group was told to listen to their gut. Two weeks later, the group
that followed their gut was happier with their posters than the group that analyzed their
decisions.[2] Now, some of our decisions are more crucial than picking out posters, but
while you're poring over your choice, the options you're weighing are probably quite
similar, and the difference will only temporarily affect your happiness; so why stress about
this?

Next time you have a decision to make, and you're down to two or three options, just pick
the one that feels right, and go with it. Never spend time regretting the decisions you've
made; be accepting. Live by the 4 C's of life: choices, chances, courage and changes. You

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need to make a courageous choice, take a reasonable chance, or your life will never
change for the better. Doing the same thing over and over, expecting something different
does not work. Making a new, courageous choice, brings a feeling of purposeful chances,
and hopes of making good changes.

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Own yourself. This means accept and embrace your habits, your personality, the way you
talk, looks, your voice, and most importantly 'You'. Try to be comfortable in your own skin
and subconsciously communicate to others that, This is me take it, or leave it. It means
don't apologize for something which is really part of you, like your personality, your voice,
habits (good or bad); remember there is always someone who likes you for the way you
are. For example, if you want to wear something which is different, but you like it, wear it;

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no one is stopping you. It's a deeper step towards building a happy relationship with
yourself.

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Make enough money to meet basic needs food, shelter, and clothing. Any money
beyond that will not necessarily make you happier. Remember the lottery winners
mentioned earlier? Oodles of money didn't make them happier. Once you make enough to
support basic needs, your happiness is not significantly affected by how much money you
make, but by your level of optimism.[3]

Your comfort may increase with your salary, but comfort makes people bored, not happy.
That's why it's important to push beyond your comfort zone to fuel personal growth.

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Treat your body like it deserves to be happy. It may sound cheesy to say, but your
brain isn't the only organ in your body that deserves to be happy. Researchers have found
that exercise, healthy diets, and regular sleep are key factors in growing more happy and
staying that way.

People who are physically active have higher incidences of enthusiasm and
excitement.[4][5] Scientists hypothesize that exercise causes the brain to release chemicals
called endorphins that elevate our mood.

Eat right. Eating healthy foods fruits and vegetables, lean meats and proteins, whole
grains, nuts, and seeds gives your body and brain the energy it needs to be healthy.
Some scientists speculate that unhealthy diets, especially those rich in processed

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carbohydrates, sugars, and industrial vegetable fats, is responsible for some cell death,
brain shrinkage and certain brain diseases like depression and dementia

Get enough sleep. Study after study confirms it: the more sleep you get, the happier you
tend to be.[6] Getting just a single extra hour of sleep per night makes the average person
happier than making $60,000 more in annual income, astoundingly enough.[7] So if you're
middle-aged, shoot to get at least eight hours of sleep per night; the young and elderly
should shoot for 9 to 11 hours of sleep per night.[8]

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Stay close to friends and family: Or, move to where they are, so you can see them more
often. We live in a mobile society, where people follow jobs around the country and
sometimes around the world. We do this because we think salary increases make us
happier, but in fact our relationships with friends and family have a far greater impact on

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happiness. So next time you think about relocating, consider that you'd need a salary
increase of over $100,000 USD to compensate for the loss of happiness you'd have from
moving away from friends and family.[9]

If relationships with family and friends are unhealthy or nonexistent, and you are bent on
moving, choose a location where you'll make about the same amount of money as
everyone else; according to research, people feel more financially secure (and happier)
when on similar financial footing as the people around them, regardless of what that
footing is.[10]

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Be compassionate, and make others happy. Inspire gratitude. Gratefulness, smiles, and
cheer will make you feel a lot happier, after helping someone. Compassion is all about

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doing something kind for someone in need, or someone less privileged than yourself. A
brain-imaging study (where scientists peek into people's brains while they act or think)
revealed that people gain as much happiness from watching others give to charity as they
do receiving money themselves![11]

Think of effective ways that you can make your community or the world a better place by
being compassionate. Compassion is a key part of sustainable happiness:

Tutor, volunteer, or get involved in a church group. Countless children are looking for
someone to teach them and act as a role model.

Make a microloan. A microloan is when you give someone (usually in the developing
world) a very small sum of money for an economic project of their own. Many microloans
have 95%+ repayment rates.[12]

Give a person in need food, clothing or shelter, if it would be safe. It's so basic, we often
forget to think about it, yet so easy to do.

Increase the happiness of those around you by giving small gifts. This will increase your
happiness as well - in fact, the one giving the gift usually feels a larger pulse of dopamine
(the neurotransmitter responsible for feeling happiness) than the person receiving the
gift! [13].

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Have deep, meaningful conversations. A study by a psychologist at the University of
Arizona has shown that spending less time participating in small talk, and more time in
deep, meaningful conversations can increase happiness. [14] So next time you're beating
around the bush with a friend, instead cut right to the chase. You'll be happier for it.

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Find happiness in the kind of work you have now: Many people expect the new job or
career to dramatically change their level of happiness. But, research makes it clear that
your levels of optimism and quality of relationships surpass the satisfaction gained from
your job.[15]

If you have a positive outlook, you will make the best of any job; and if you have good
relationships, you won't depend on your job for a sense of meaning. You'll find meaning in
interactions with the people you care about. You'll use your job as a crutch instead of
relying on it for meaning.

This is not to say you shouldn't aspire to get a job that will make you happier; many people
find that being on the right career path is a key determination in their overall happiness. It

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just means you should understand that the capacity of your job to make you happy is quite
small when compared to your outlook and your relationships.

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Smile: Science suggests that when you smile, whether you're happy or not, your mood is
elevated. [16][17] So smile all the time if you can! Smiling is like a feedback loop: smiling
reinforces happiness, just as happiness causes smiling. People who smile during painful
procedures reported less pain than those who kept their facial features neutral.[17]

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Forgive: In a study of college students, an attitude of forgiveness contributed to better
cardiovascular health. You could say forgiveness literally heals the heart. While it is
unknown how forgiveness directly affects your heart, the study suggests that it may lower
the perception of stress.[18]

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Make friends. In a 2010 study published by Harvard researchers in American Sociological
Review, people who went to church regularly reported greater life satisfaction than those
who didn't. The critical factor was the quality of friendships made in church. Church-goers
who lacked close friends there were no happier than people who never went to church.
When researchers compared people who had the same number of close friends, those
who had close friends from church were more satisfied with their lives.[19]

The difference is the forming of friendships based on mutual interests and beliefs. So if
church is not your thing, consider finding something else you're deeply passionate about,
making friends with those who share similar interests.

When you interact with people who share your interests, you feel happier due to
sensations of reward and well-being. This is because during such interactions, serotonin

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and dopamine neurotransmitters responsible for feelings of happiness and relaxation

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