BY SKIP LA COUR Six-Time Drug-Free National Bodybuilding Champion Success & Leadership Coach Owner of Skip La Cours Mass Machine Nutrition www.SkipLaCour.com www.MassMachineNutrition.com www.Manformation.com Copyright 2011 Skip La Cour Consulting. All Rights Reserved. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 3 DISCLAIMER Before beginning any exercise or nutritional program, it is recommended that you consult your physician. Skip La Cour, MvM Nutrition, LLC, Mass Machine Nutrition, and any contributing authors to the Mass Machine Training Program will not assume any liability, expressed or implied resulting from the application or misapplication of any of the information presented in this eBook. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 4 THE LAW OF THE JUNGLE As you may remember from grammar school or the Animal Channel on television, a group of lions in the jungle is called a pride. There is a leader among every pride. After the male, dominant leader has established himself as such, the other less-dominant lions follow in a sequential pecking order or chain of command, so to speak. How this leader is established and agreed upon by the rest of the pride and how the other lions fall into place is based on their individual animalistic instincts, intelligence, social skills, and desire for certain positioning. If an ambitious lion wants to become the leader or at least improve his current position in the pride, he must use his animalistic instincts to their fullest; he must become smarter, improve his social skills, and increase his desire to move higher up the ranks. Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on where you currently rank, it works the same way for us men. All you have to do is watch one of the Italian mafa movies like The Godfather or Goodfellas to see a clear demonstration of how power and infuence are established in their most basic, animalistic form. Make no
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 5 mistake about it, the same human social dynamics take place among groups of men in every city across the world; every culture; every social circle; every age range; every single day; and in even more obvious and less obvious ways. From the boardroom to the crime infested street corner in the ghetto, men are determining their pecking order among their own peer groups. GET THE ALPHA EDGE! For more MANformation Alpha Leadership strategies, visit the MANformation web site at www.MANformation.com.
Power and infuence among menthe foremost qualities of the true Alpha Maleare very similar to that of a pride of lions. Where do you currently rank in your pride and how badly do you want to improve your position? Whether you want to realize it or not, where you rank in society is determining your level of opportunity in life, happiness, fnancial and material wealth, and freedomor lack thereof. Its like the television show of Survivorbut it is for real, big dog! And, whether you choose to play along with the game or not, make no mistake that the game is still in playand you are still a part of it. Your lack of animalistic instincts, intelligence, social skills, and desire for certain positioning has determined your placement among all of the peoplenot just the menaround you at work, home, and play. The good news is that you can improve your social standing as a dominant male immediately by applying the powerful information I am sharing with you. The Need for Approval Most people seek love, approval, and validation from other people to some extent. Thats just being a human being. Obviously, some people need these things more than others do. Knowing this element of human nature can work for you or against youdepending on how you use this powerful information. This is a key element to remember throughout the entire MANformation program. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 6 One important organizing principle to becoming a true Alpha Male is to either not need love, approval, and validation from other peopleor do an awesome job of giving other people the impression that you dont need those things from them. Most people do need love, approval, and validation from other people beside themselves. The true Alpha Male of any group needs themor reveals that he needs themless than any other person in his group. In the book Covert Persuasion by Kevin Hogan and James Speakman, the authors write about how the children who are considered social misfts or geeks in school want to be considered average. The average children want to be considered the more popular or cool ones. The authors conclude that most peopleno matter where they stack up in the social orderwant to elevate just a single level higher than where they currently are. Those children at lower levels actually harbor a deep resentment for the children who they perceived are too much higher above them on the social ladder. In other words, the misfts are okay with the average peoplebut resent the popular students. This might explain why the outcast, social misfts at Columbine High School started on their deadly massacre back in 1999. So how does this relate to disarming the Alpha Male or even your MANformation? The goal to elevating your status is to subtly make the other people in the group feel just a tad below you on the social ladder. If you accomplish this feat, you will establish yourself as a powerful, infuential, and respected Alpha Male. If you push the strategies that Ive outlined for you too far, youll be a disliked jerk that eventually gets thrown even further down the pecking order. Proceed with caution. You have been properly warned. Take full responsibility for your success or failure. Use my advice wisely and it can change the quality of your life forever. And, use this information at your own risk! DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 7 Disarming the Alpha Male Dont get confused as you read these disarming techniques. You must remember that hating, disapproving, disrespecting, cutting down, or showing any sort of distain for another person is NOT an effective way to disarm the targeted Alpha Male. Being neutral or indifferent is the most effective and subtle way to lower someone elses status as the dominate person in the group and the most tactful. The opposite of love is NOT hate. The opposite of love is indifference. Indifference is when you dont even care enough to hate, disapprove, disrespect, cut down, or show any sort of distain for another person. The true Alpha Male is the most infuential when he can make another person love, admire, and respect him and what he has to say. Although its not his intended outcome usually, a true Alpha Male has power over others even when they may feel dislike or even hate towards him. Having someones respect is far more important to a true Alpha Male. You can still be powerful and infuential over others when you are respected even if you arent liked. The strategies that I will share with you will make other people work hard for your approval. However, your approval will only be important to them if they respect you. Quite often, some emotion is always better than no emotion when it comes to infuence. (This is especially true with women because a woman will do just about anything to protect an investment she has madeeven if its a bad investment. A woman who is investing the emotion of hate in you is still making an investmentand its a big one for her. You should start worrying
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 8 when she becomes indifferent. But I digress. Well save that topic for another chapter!) The Keys to Disarming the Alpha Male The man who feels he must earn validation from any other person in the group relinquishes his power. The true Alpha Male never worries about getting the validation of the other people in the group or working for the approval. The true Alpha Male will get validation and approval without trying. The male who needs the relationship more than another male in the group relinquishes their crown as the Alpha Male to the male who doesnt. Another key is to be able to walk away from your relationship with the targeted Alpha Male at any timewithout any concern, loss, or disruption in your life. Your life will be wonderful with or without the target being a part of it. Even if you would experience loss or disruption if your relationship were to end, you absolutely must act is if you wouldnt. Disarming Strategy Disarm the person who establishes himself as the Alpha Male by subtly making him work for your validation and approval. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 9 33 DISARMING TECHNIQUES 1. Dont give the targeted Alpha Male any momentum when he thinks hes on a roll. If the target is saying something especially insightful, intelligent, or funny, be sure your face stays neutral. Dont give the target any verbal or nonverbal indicators that hes being insightful, intelligent, or funnybut dont act like he is not either. Always remain neutral. People instinctively look for the verbal and nonverbal approval of the other people in the groupespecially when they think theyve just said something they feel is exceptionally profound or humorous. The obvious and subtle group approval helps an Alpha Male gain momentum and confdence. Even the most powerful Alpha Male isnt confdent 100 percent of the time. You want the target to subconsciously notice you as different and start working hard to earn your approval.
2. Subtly look away from the targeted Alpha Male when he is talking from time to time. People know when they have your full attention and approval when your eyes are fxated on them while they are talking. You must be subtle when looking away from the target or youll be perceived as being disrespectful. Every once in awhile, look at another person in the group while the targeted Alpha Male is talking. If theres no one else around, look over his shoulder, through him blankly, or off to the side of him for a split second every so often.
3. Blow his foundational points that arent 100 percent accurate out of the water. Sometimes Alpha Males get presumptuous and assumes that everyone automatically knows where hes going when hes talking. Foundational points in a conversation
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 10 are those statements that are made merely to establish a foundation for agreement to a much larger and more important point. These statements are oftentimes undeniable facts or general observations that any person who is being infuenced by the Alpha Male would have very little trouble agreeing with. Sometimes these foundational points are liberal generalizations and some of them make absolutely no sense at all. It really doesnt matter though because these are statements to set the stage for the bigger picture anyway. You can agree with the foundational point even if its not accurate and still get the major point hes trying to make without any diffculty whatsoeverif you wanted to do so. By calling him on his foundational points that arent 100 percent accurate, youll knock him back on his heels and disrupt his momentum. You may get him so distracted; he may never get to his real point. Hell have to work much harder to make his point and thereby work for your validation and approval. Hell! How can he get angry at you? Hes the one who misspoke, right?
4. Make him explain his foundational points againjust to slow him down. Even though you may completely understand the targets foundational points, his foundational points are 100 percent accurate, or you realize those points arent really all that critical to the major point he is making, make him repeat or explain one or two of the foundational points again anyway. Youll slow his momentum down and lower his confdence. Hell have to work harder for your approval and validation. Hey! All you did was ask to repeat what he said. Act like youre the slow personnot him. In fact, you might want to say something like, Forgive me. I may be a little slow here. Could you please explain what you just said one more time?
5. When the targeted Alpha Male thinks he made a strong point, ask him to repeat what he said as if you didnt understand it. Most people give the highly-infuential Alpha Male a pass when he makes points that he thinks are important and insightful. Just because his physiology is so strong and theres so much certainty in his voice, people become easily infuenced. Even when the rest of DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 11 the group ooohs and ahhs, make him repeat his big breakthrough point over again. After he repeats the point again, look him straight and the eyes and give him a neutral look. Remember, this is not a look of disapproval or misunderstandingbut its certainly not a look of approval or enlightenment either. Your look is neutral. Mastering this look will take practice. You must understand that the rest of the world is easily enamored by the charisma, intellect and brilliance of the Alpha Male. You want him to work harder to gain your approval than he has to with most other people. Youll accomplish this objective in these very subtle ways.
6. When the targeted Alpha Male tells a funny joke, ask him to repeat the punch line as if you didnt understand it. Again, because the highly-infuential Alpha Male has such a strong physiology and a tonality of certainty in his voice, many people will laugh at his jokes even when they arent all that funny. Even when he does make a funny joke, ask him to repeat the punch line. And, just as youd do when he makes a strong point, give him a neutral look afterwards. If youve already heard the joke, make sure you let him know in a neutral, crisp, and direct manner. Oh, yeah. I heard Chris Rock do that bit on HBO.
7. Assure the targeted Alpha male that you heard and understood exactly what he was saying. Infuential Alpha Males are used to having people agree with them and laugh at their jokes. The target may ask if you understood what was saideven after you had him repeat his point or punch line. Your neutral look has made him seek validation from you that his joke was funny. Assure him that you indeed didand still give a neutral response. You may even want to explain the point or joke back to himwith a neutral look, of course. This will let him know that his point or joke wasnt so witty or clever that it went over your head.
8. Dont be emotionally moved by everything the targeted Alpha male has to say. You should never let yourself go on DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 12 emotional rides or journeys that the charismatic target puts the majority of people on with his stories. A good storyteller gauges the quality of his delivery by the body language and facial expressions of his audience. You shouldnt be doing a lot of reacting at all. You should always be in control of your emotions. Neutrality is the objective.
9. Be neutral with your verbal and nonverbal feedback. When an Alpha Male gets on a roll, he usually gets verbal and nonverbal signs of affrmations from the other people in the group. This creates momentum for him. The target builds confdence. One tactic that you can use to disarm the targeted Alpha Male is to refrain from bobbing your head in agreement and verbalizing a lot of uh-huhs. Stay neutral.
10. Let the targeted Alpha Male know that it really doesnt matter what you think. If you are ever asked if you agree by the target, you should nicely communicate that the he should not really care what you think. Let him know that you respect his strong opinions or his willingness to try to be funny. Give him a subtle spanking that communicates that a true Alpha Male wouldnt care what another person thinks. You dont actually say this, of course. How can he get mad at you? He already knows that a truly strong, confdent individual would never even ask such a questionand you are simply reminding him of what he already knows.
11. Dont let the targeted Alpha Male force you into a yes or no. Whenever possible, give non answers when pressured for a commitment of either Yes, I agree or No, I dont agree. Creatively fnd ways to nether agree or disagree. The target isnt used to this subtle kind of non-conformity and will start trying harder to get you to commit. The more he tries to get your validation, the more he loses his Alpha Male status.
12. Have a stronger posture and physical presence than the targeted Alpha Male. When a true Alpha Male is addressing a group of people, youll notice that both men and women will actually DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 13 lower their physical posture to the dominant male almost as if they are slightly bowing down to him. One way to subtly disarm the target is to always stand taller and prouder than he does. Your head should be up and your shoulders should be back. Your hands should be still and comfortably at your sides. Your feet should be shoulder width apart. You should even silently remind yourself with the words Stand tall and proud to make sure that you do. You should stand at a 45 degree angle to the target. You dont want to square off and position your body face- to-face. Otherwise, he will instinctively sense you as a threat. You never want to pose as an obvious threat to the target. You always want to be neutral. You can disarm the target by subtly patronizing the areas of his life that are inferior to your own. Toss a few back handed compliments his way. Back handed compliments on the surface seem to be a form of fattery, respect, or admirationbut are actually quite the opposite. Saying something like, I admire the fact that making a lot of money isnt important to you, is really not a compliment at all. A mans earning potential and fnancial productivity are universally accepted indicators of his statuswhether they should be or not. This is especially true if you make a lot more money than the target. If you really admired those men who do NOT make a lot of money (as much as you say you do), than you would make different choices in your life that caused you to earn less money too. People will subconsciously get your true meaning. You can also say things like, Its cool that you feel so comfortable in casual clothes in this semiformal setting, or Being so busy that you cant fnd the time to stay in shape must mean that business must be really good. Thats awesome! GET THE ALPHA EDGE! For more MANformation Alpha Leadership strategies, visit the MANformation web site at www.MANformation.com.
13. Demonstrate indicators of higher social status than the targeted Alpha Male. Anytime you can show that you have more money, more or better material possessions, more or better education, DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 14 a more ft body, are more attractive to women (Trust me. Men do measure each other this way), have a better game going, or have more respect from other men for whatever reasonsAND DO SO WITHOUT TRYINGyou will gain respect from the target and subsequently disarm him as the dominant male in the group. Let your lifestyle and essence do the talking in this casenot your words.
14. Ask the targeted Alpha Male to speak up. Even a true Alpha Male realizes he doesnt speak loud enough 100 percent of the time. Make him work a little harder to communicate effectively every once in awhile by asking him to speak a little loudereven when you can hear him just fne. Im having a little trouble hearing you is a subtle way to go about this. This is also a subtle way for him to start taking directives from youinstead of you taking directives from him.
15. Ask the targeted Alpha Male to repeat what he said because he mumbled. Even the most eloquent speaking Alpha Male realizes that he will mumbled from time to time. Every once in awhile, ask him to repeat what he said because you had trouble understanding him because he mumbled. You might want to say something like, Wait. I want to make sure I heard you right. Say that again because you mumbled a little. Notice that a little always softens what you say. Again, you are subtly getting him to start taking directives from you.
16. Ask the target to slow down what hes saying because hes excited and rambling a little. Even a true Alpha Male will present his thoughts in an unstructured manner from time to time. When he does, say something like, Whoa! I know you are excited but Im not following everything you are saying. You are rambling a little. Slow down his momentum and get him to work harder to make you understand him. Again, get him used to taking directives from you.
17. Hesitate to let the targeted Alpha Male know when he isnt making sense. You might want to use this tactic sparingly but DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 15 it can be quite effective at knocking down the target a notch or two. No one is that confdent and thinks they make sense 100 percent of the time. Make sure that you only use this when he isnt being 100 percent articulate while communicatingor YOULL look like a passive aggressive idiot.
18. Ask the targeted Alpha Male to move over a couple of feet or move to another location close byand then continue the conversation there. Break the targets momentum, change his powerful state of mind, and get him to take directives from you by innocently having him change locations. This is whats known as a pattern interrupt.
19. Cut your conversation with the targeted Alpha Male short. Tell the target that you must do something else in a few minutes. By doing so you demonstrate that your time is important and you are willing to walk away from the conversation no matter how well or poorly it is going. You also communicate that you are a very important person, that you know that you are an important person, and that your time is valuable. Youll subtly let the target know that you are the person who has control of the framework of your relationship.
20. If the targeted Alpha Male wants to schedule time with you, choose an alternate time. Communicate in an innocent and subtle way that your time is important, you have a full life, and you have control over the framework of your relationship. Disarm the target by changing his suggestion by 30 minutes or a day or two. Subtly get him to take directives from youeven when hes trying to give them to you. How can he possibly argue? You are complying with his request, arent you? Maybe not exactly when he wantsbut you are. You can also suggest a different location to meet other than what he offers and have the same disarming affect. Dont feel obligated to immediately respond to every phone call, e-mail, instant message, or text message. You always gently control the framework of your relationshipnot the target.
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 16 21.. Dont be hesitant about poking a little fun at him when he makes obvious blunders. Deep inside, every true Alpha Male knows hes only human. Despite his high level of confdence, he is very well aware of the fact that he puts his pants on one leg at a time just like everyone else. He actually expects other people to notice his small blunders, but because of the way he commands respect from others, his blunders will usually slide by without anyone making any comments. In fact, most people will pretend these slip-ups never even happened. So, when he spills his coffee on his shirt, has a piece of toilet paper on the bottom of his shoe that he dragged out of the bathroom, or mispronounces a word like a goofball, make sure you chide him gently.
22. Execute better voice qualities than the targeted Alpha Male. Talk slightly louder; talk in a lower, more powerful voice; use a more controlled voice; talk with more confdence, and enunciate more clearly and distinctly than the target. These are obvious indicators of social status. You dont need to go to a voice coach right off the bat. Youll discover that just being aware that you must do this to disarm the target will have you doing so. The chances are pretty good that a strong Alpha Male will be pretty good at using his voiceso youll have to have your A game on. Most people will naturally speak softer and with less confdence when they are under the infuence of a true Alpha Male.
23. If the target ever reveals his shortcomings in a group setting, ask him to repeat them a little louder because you didnt hear what he said. If the target is willing to expose his shortcomings to the group and potentially lower his status to the group, be sure you take advantage and draw even more attention to them. What was that you said? I didnt hear you very well. You got in trouble with your distributor for doing what?
24. Have a little playful fun when the targeted Alpha Male uses a poor choice of words. Even the most powerful and infuencial Alpha Male communicators will choose an odd or inappropriate word from time to time. Playfully and subtly disarm the DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 17 target with innocent banter like Groovy, huh? Okay, go ahead when he uses that word in a serious business setting. Or say Ostentatious, huh? Okay, go ahead. when he chooses that word when you are having fun among the boys. How can he get upset or offended? He knows he used the wrong word. Although he isnt used to having anyone point things out when he fubs up, that doesnt mean he doesnt think he deserves a harmless little jab for it.
25. Dont feel you need to explain yourself to the targeted Alpha Male. Dont let the target assert his power and infuence over you by making you explain something he is already clear about. Instead turn it around on him. What exactly didnt you understand about what I said? Im not sure what you are asking me.; Is it that you didnt understand meor is it that you dont agree with me? Im not sure what you are asking. Tell me why you disagree. Dont let him give you directives when they arent necessary. Turn the framework around on him and give him the directive. GET THE ALPHA EDGE! For more MANformation Alpha Leadership strategies, visit the MANformation web site at www.MANformation.com.
26. Dont ever lose your cool with the targeted Alpha Male. This should go without saying, but you should never lose your cool with the target. Remember, if he gets you to show emotion, he has power over you. If you are indifferent, hell have to work harder to get a response from you. Dont ever, ever get into a physical altercation. There is always a way to get out of a fst fght. Look for a way to avoid a fghtand youll fnd a respectful way that will keep your Alpha Male status intact.
27. Match the seemingly harmless physical contact the targeted Alpha Male gives you. The Alpha Male often uses physical contact and gestures to gain control of other men in the group. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 18 This physical contact may seem like its affectionate but make no mistake about the fact that its message is mixedand with purpose. Remember the Italian Mafa movies when the family boss frmly pats the cheek of a subordinate? Do you really think thats just a sign of affection? Or, is it a subtle way of reminding the subordinate whos the man in charge of the relationship? Who usually initiates the frm slap on the back between two men? The man who believes he is the more dominant? Or the one who believes he is less dominant? Who usually gives the light punch to the shoulder or chest? Of course, its usually the man who believes he is more dominant. When the target uses this type of physical contact on you, take on a strong and confdent posture and attitude. When appropriate, return the favor and give the target the same type of physical contact that he gave youwith a light-hearted smile and attitude, of course. Thats all thats needed to disarm this Alpha Male tactic when used on you.
28. Jokinglyand assertivelychallenge the harmless and humorous comments the targeted Alpha Male makes about your appearance. Another tactic that the target will use to gain control of your relationship is poking harmless fun at what he singles out as your physical faws. When he does this, immediately repeat back to him what he said. You will subtly and effectively let him know that this is not acceptable. Vertically challenged, huh? Not bad. Not bad is how you can respond to his comments. Its really not all that important what you say. You just want to make sure the comments arent said without being challenged. Make sure you are light-hearted with your response. Thats all you need to get your message across. You certainly dont want to come across as being overly sensitive. You never want the target to think that he has affected your strong mental state.
29. Jokinglyand assertivelychallenge the harmless and humorous nicknames the targeted Alpha Male gives you. The target will sometimes assign you with less-than- fattering nicknames. Remember in the Seinfeld episode when George DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 19 Costanza was tagged with the Koko (the monkey) nickname by his boss? Chrome Dome, huh? Not bad. Not bad. Or Sonny Boy, huh? Interesting are effective ways you can respond to the Alpha Males nicknames. Again, you want your response to be effective and light- hearted at the same time. You never want the target to think that he has affected your strong mental state.
30. Let the targeted Alpha Male know that you certainly are NOT the only person who isnt up to speed or in on the joke. The target will often use language patterns that try to make you feel that you are the only one in the group who doesnt understand whats going on or get the joke. This is a not-so-subtle way to put you in what he feels is your place. Dont let this happen without letting him know you know what hes trying to do. I know exactly what you are saying and I get it, big guy are your assertive responses.
31. Never allow the targeted Alpha Male to get you to agree, sign up for, or identify with a certain personality type that will get you to do what he wants. The Alpha Male can be very clever in setting you up for compliance. For example, the target will ask you something like, Are you the type of person who thinks outside of the box? Then, he will ask you to do something that would be considered outside of the box. This is usually all it takes to infuence most people. Most people will hold on tightly to the identity that theyve established in their own minds. Surprisingly, this happens subconsciously whether or not its really in their best interest. If you resist or even hesitate, the Alpha Male will chide you with, Hey! I thought you think outside the box? So, when you are asked Are you the type of person who thinks outside the box?; Are you the kind of person who works hard to get what you want in life? or Are you an adventurous person? respond with I certainly amunder the right conditions. What exactly do you have in mind?
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 20 32. Dont be concerned with how the targeted Alpha Male feels about a particular situation, his opinion of you, or how he can possibly harm you. The best way to disarm the target is to truly not care about the outcome of your conversation and/or relationship with him. You can hang out with other friends. You can fnd another way to make money. Youll fnd that the less you care about any outcome, the more infuential youll become. The less validation you need from others, the more you will get.
33. Never qualify yourself to the targeted Alpha Maleeven when directly asked. The less subtle targets will ask you directly to qualify yourself. So why should we listen to you? is something he might say. Never, ever qualify yourself unless it is absolutely necessary (like to the police or IRS)! You seem like a man who trusts his instincts. What do your instincts tell you? or My record speaks for itself are appropriate, respectful and confdent responses. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 21 READ THE FOLLOWING TWO PARAGRAPHS CAREFULLY! THEY ARE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! Remember, you must be extremely subtle in the way you communicate these disarming tactics. You certainly dont want to come across like a jerk. A true Alpha Male will crush you if he perceives you as a jerk. You will also alienate yourself from the rest of the group because, even if they secretly admire you, they will more than likely align themselves with the most powerful male for self-preservation purposes. Staying in rapport is critical! You must constantly assess if you are staying in rapport. You must make sure that you dont push disarming too far. You dont have to use these tactics all at the same time or at every chance you get! In fact, I encourage you to be patient and spread these tactics over an extended period of time. Practice. Practice. Practice. A true Alpha Male has a well thought-out and practiced game. A jerk has no game. Dont be a jerk! GET THE ALPHA EDGE! For more MANformation Alpha Leadership strategies, visit the MANformation web site at www.MANformation.com.
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DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 23 If you must work out in the evening, listen to the MAPS then. If you cant listen to them while you are working out, then download this mp3 fle to your home computer and invest the time to listen to them frst thing in the morning. Even if you get bored with this process, promise yourself to stick with it for 30 days. Many times, we are getting positive results in our lives and we have no idea where to credit the cause of those positive results. These MAPS may be just one of those instances. Remember that when things are going well for you in your lifeand you dont feel like listening to the MAPS anymore. Click here download the mp3 fle. Good luck! Skip La Cour Creator of the MANformation Personal Development Program for Men P. S. I want your feedback within 30 days of taking on this challenge. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 24 Learn How to START Leading and STOP Following with Skip La Cours . . . THE MINDSET AND ACTIONS OF A POWERFUL ALPHA MALE LEADER AUDIO SEMINAR COURSE Get the MP3 Sound Files and the Session Workbook PDF Files Emailed to You NOW and Begin Your MANformation TODAY! Hello Men! Its Skip La Cour, the creator of the MANformation mens personal development program. I just wrapped up the MANformation The Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader Seminars series and it was AWESOME! This audio seminar course is 11 hours and 30 minutes!
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 25 THE MINDSET AND ACTIONS OF A POWERFUL ALPHA MALE LEADER AUDIO SEMINAR COURSE OUTLINE Why Nice Guys Finish Last Session One (1 hour; 57 minutes) The reason why you are not getting what you want in life-at the level you really want-may be in how you are defning the word nice in critical situations in your life. Alpha Leaders interpret being nice as mature, productive MEN. Conversely, Passive Followers who struggle to get what they want in life still think and act like the obedient little BOYS that they were expected to be when they were young. Learn seventeen (17) of the most-insightful SPECIFIC differences in the way an Alpha Leader interprets being nice and fair compared to less-dominant men and Passive Followers. Adopt this Alpha Leader mindset, even the playing feld, and FINALLY begin to win at the level you want to win. Skip La Cours messages in The Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader are insightful, poignant, and thought provoking. I fnd myself listening to each session multiple times for fear of missing something and the internal desire to drive home these life-changing concepts. The frst session alone was worth the price of admission! Greg Phelps, CFP, CLU, AAMS Las Vegas, NV DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 26 The Body Language of a Powerful Alpha Leader Session Two (2 hours; 1 minute) You can spot a powerful and charismatic Alpha Leader the moment he walks into a room, cant you? Why do you think it is so obvious to everyone that he is the man without knowing a thing about him? Learn forty-three (43) of the most-intriguing, SPECIFIC things an Alpha Leader does with his body language, facial expressions, eye movements, and voice qualities in certain situations that transmits his strength, certainty, and confdence. Also, learn what he will NEVER do in other situations because doing so will take away from his powerful presence. Adopt this body language at the appropriate time and become more infuential, persuasive, and charismatic to those people around you. I am killing the New York City corporate world with the implementation of my MANformation strategies. Most of all I am empowered because I am aware. Thanks for your unique contribution to the few of us who want more. Craig Ariano Richmond Hill, NY The Specifc Infuence, Persuasion, Charismatic Skills of an Alpha Leader Session Three (2 hours; 4 minutes) The Alpha Leader has the amazing ability to get other people to willingly, joyfully, and enthusiastically help him get what he wants in his life. Learn twenty (20) of the most infuential, persuasive, and charismatic skills of an Alpha Leader. Adopt these winning skills and you, too, will get people excited to help you get what YOU want. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 27 The Structured Thoughts, Actions, and Lifestyle of a Powerful Alpha Leader Session Four (2 hours; 11 minutes) Learn thirty-one (31) SPECIFIC ways an Alpha Leader structures his day and gets himself to follow through with what he knows he needs to do to get what he wants in life. Adopt this structure and youll start leading your own life more effectively-and leading others too. I just turned 50 but Ive been dragging along for years this lingering baggage of not being as ft as I would like. Plus, I had lost that powerful male swagger that had served me so well in the past. So, I stepped up to the plate. I made up my mind that these failings of mine had to stop now and signed up for Skip La Cours The Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader seminar. Now, Im thinking, feeling and acting like a man 20 years younger, getting strong and lean, and even my business relationships have stepped up big time. This is already becoming one of the best years of my life! Greg Prickett Bakersfeld, CA Goal-Setting Workshop - Alpha Leader-Style Session Five (1 hour; 58 minutes) An Alpha Leader wins in life at an incredible level because of his outrageous standards, tremendously high expectations, and lofty goals. With what youve learned during the previous four Seminar sessions, you will NOW be ready to start going for what you REALLY want out of your life-instead of only what youve been settling for in the past. This goal-setting session will make you more assertive, create an Alpha Leader model to aspire toward, and get you to enthusiastically work toward it. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 28 I want to thank you for helping me start my own MANFormation into the powerful Alpha Male that I always dreamed I could be. After years of frustration and being put down by my peers, I realized that my life was that of a beta-male. I lacked the confdence to take charge and be a leader. Enter your Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader seminar. I diligently followed your instructions and practiced them on a consistent basis. Already, my life is turning around for the bettereven in the face of harsh challenges. I would never have the mindset nor the drive and confdence to make my life better without you opening the doors to being an Alpha Male. Thank you very much! Troy Bennett Chicago, IL Successfully Integrating the Thoughts and Actions of an Alpha Leader Into Your Lifestyle Session Six (1 hour; 33 minutes) Learn thirty-seven (37) of the most-effective, SPECIFIC strategies an Alpha Leader executes for CONTINUAL mental, emotional, psychological, and physical growth. When you execute these powerful and charismatic leadership strategies, you will enjoy CONSTANT IMPROVEMENT in your Alpha Leader thoughts and actions. Your investment is only $99.97 Get the fles emailed to you NOW and begin your MANformation TODAY! CLICK HERE TO ORDER DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 29 I was extremely impressed at all the information Skip La Cour has shared in The Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader and the way in which it is presented! I will tell you that what Skip offers will have you really think about your perceptions of what an Alpha Male really is, allowing yourself new possibilities to grow and enrich your life, and the lives of those you love. I highly recommend this program to anyone looking to improve upon being the best MAN they can be in all aspects of your life! Tom Anthony Roehl Greenfeld, WI The Mindset and Actions of a Powerful Alpha Male Leader is a powerful course that challenges men to reevaluate both the way they see themselves and the way they relate to other people. It lays out strategies and exercises that empower men to step up, assert themselves, take responsibility, and direct their energies toward pursuing what they really want in life. I highly recommend it to anyone striving to reach that next level. T. Kareem Powell Dayton, OH Go back to MANformation web site HOME Copyright 2011. Skip La Cour Consulting. All Rights Reserved. MANformation is a registered trademark of Skip La Cour Consulting. DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 30 ABOUT SKIP LA COUR Skip La Cour has established himself as a leader in the bodybuilding world with his outstanding physique and by teaching his effective training philosophies to others for over 20 years. In his passionate effort to propel training, nutrition, supplementation, and mental strategies forward, he has written 10 books, produced eight DVDs, fve audio seminar courses. He contributes articles to several international bodybuilding and ftness magazines. He has accomplished all of this and more while simultaneously becoming one of the worlds best competitive drug-free bodybuilders. La Cours over 25 years of being heavily involved in the personal development/ motivation business and over 20 years in the bodybuilding and ftness industry have given him the unique ability to create instant change for people who want to improve their body, mind, and spirit effectively, effciently, and in the shortest period of time. Competitive Bodybuilding Career Skip La Cour has been training for more than 20 years and has been competing in bodybuilding contests for over 15 years. During that time span, La Cour has competed in 29 bodybuilding show around the world. At 5 11, La Cours competition weight ranges from 205 to 220 well-conditioned pounds. Skip La Cour has won the NPC (National Physique Committee) Team Universe Overall titles twice (in 1998 and 2002). He was the very frst man to win two overall titles. He has won the heavyweight class fve different times (1995,
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 31 1998, 2000, 2002, and 2003). Those fve victories are the most class wins in the history of the NPC Team Universe contest. He is also the only man who has competed in all of the frst 10 of the NPCs top drug-tested annual amateur event. Skip La Cour is also the frst man to win the overall titles at both the NPC Team Universe and the Musclemania Natural Bodybuilding Championshipsthe two most competitive and most recognized drug-tested shows in the United States. The Academy of Bodybuilding, Fitness and Sports Awards named La Cour Natural Bodybuilder of the Year in 1998 for his outstanding efforts. Drug-free for life, La Cour frst appeared on the national scene in 1994, when he won the Musclemania Natural Bodybuilding Championships, which aired on ESPN television. Two years earlier in 1992, he became the frst man in the history of the AAU to win the Mr. California and Mr. Natural California in the same year. Featured Magazine Writer Skip La Cour is an accomplished bodybuilding writer. He has written hundreds of articles that have been published in bodybuilding and ftness magazines around the globe and translated into many different languages. La Cour is a contributing writer for Iron Man Magazine. He is also a regular contributor to Natural Muscle, a monthly bodybuilding and ftness magazine.
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 32 La Cours eBooks, DVDs, and Audio Seminar Courses Skip La Cours information products have successfully guided bodybuilders at every level in over 53 countries around the world for over 15 years. His eBooks include: Thinking Big, Thinking Big: The Next Level Workbook, Thinking Big II: Aspiring to a Higher Level of Bodybuilding Achievement!, Skip La Cours Daily Training Journal, Skip La Cours Daily Training Journal 2000, Packing- On Muscle, Bodybuilding Nutrition, Extra Effort , and POWER!; his special report How I Packed-On 16 Pounds of Drug-Free Muscle in Just One Year! La Cours DVDs include: Skip La Cours Mass Machine Hardcore, Skip La Cours Mass Machine Heavy, and Intense!, Mass Machine II Training and Instructional, Dare To Dream!, Success is a Planned Event: A Day in the Life of Skip La Cour, Skip La Cours Live! Bodybuilding and Training Seminar, Packing-On Muscle, and Warrior. His audio seminar courses include: Bodybuilding & Training MASTERY: Step-By-Step The Mindset and Actions of a Champion; Skip La Cours ULTIMATE Bodybuilding Contest Preparation; The Business of Bodybuilding and Fitness: How to Earn Cash From Your Passion!; MANformations Alpha Male Leadership Skills The Mindset and Actions of the Most Powerful Alpha Male Leaders; and MANformations Alpha Male Leadership Skills MANformation II: Get Your Swagger Back! Skip La Cours Mass Machine Nutrition Skip La Cour Skip La Cour owns and operates MvM Nutrition LLC. MvM Nutrition LLC consists of two high-quality, cutting edge sports nutrition product lines:
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 33 Mass Machine Nutrition is engineered for dedicated bodybuilders and advanced ftness enthusiasts striving to build muscle and lose body fat. MANformation Nutrition is specifcally designed for men who are striving to improve their overall level of health and ftness, look and feel great, and do so in the context of a well-balanced life. MANformation - ALPHA LEADERSHIP STRATEGIES Skip La Cour is the creator of the MANformation personal development program for men. MANformation teaches men of all ages the qualities, characteristics, and actions of the most powerful, charismatic, and infuential Alpha males in the world. MANformation outlines Alpha Leadership strategies that transform you into the MAN you really want to be. When you become more aware of these Alpha male characteristics; appreciate how they can affect the quality of your life; learn how to adopt them into your own personality; and practice these skills, youll have more options in life. Options are all the things in life you REALLY wantand they are far more than all of those things in life that you merely settle for. Money, power, and sex are examples of the options in life many that men want, want more of, or a better quality what they already have. Skip La Cours Web Site: www.SkipLaCour.com Skip La Cours Mass Machine Nutrition: www.MassMachineNutrition.com MANformation Alpha Leadership Strategies: www.MANformation.com
DISARMING THE ALPHA MALE 34 DISCLAIMER The concepts, suggestions, and ideas expressed in this eBook are not intended as, and should not be construed as, a substitute for professional advice, care or attention from a physician or other healthcare practitioner. This eBook is not intended to deliver professional advice or other healthcare services and the information in this eBook should not be relied upon for personal diagnosis, treatment or any other health related purpose. Always consult your own physician or other competent healthcare professional for the care appropriate for you and for answers to your questions or concerns about your individual conditions, or a program of treatment.