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INTRODUCTION Who am I? How I was born? How to use me? Project description Participants opinion BEFORE SEX Love and chewing gums In Love Does romantic love is disorder? Romantic love was invented to manipulate women Love letter templates Perfect man perfect woman To be a perfect man and woman what quality do you have to have? Body places you like Every day is good for compliments Few questions Intercultural pages Stereotypes Prostitution in the world Homosexual weddings: there it is legal? 2 5 5 5 5 6 7 10 10 11 12 12 14 18 20 21 22 23 32 32 34 34 Abortation in the world LGBT adoption Work and gender Sex sells STD (Sexual transmitted diseases) Contraception Using a condom ITS THE TIME Sex as drugs Myth about sex Most sensitive bod places Sex positions Likes and dislikes during.... Alcohol effect AROUND SEX Woman is... Man is.... The very best of... Confessions pages How to explain sex for the kids Useful information 3 35 35 36 37 42 47 54 56 57 58 59 60 64 65 66 66 67 68 70 76 78

Introduction
WHO AM I?
I am not so simple book as most of other books about SEX. Do you want to know why? Its because I have easily understandable text which is written by youth to youth. Also I am more interactive than other books than you can imagine. And I am not boring because I have never forgotten my sense of humor. Consequently by reading me you will get not only important information about SEX but also will be able to spend a quality time and raise your mood.

HOW I WAS BORN?

I was born as an idea in 2010 spring. The time when all fauna is reviving, the sun is starting to shine longer and warmer, when people begins to wear fewer clothes and in the air you can feel increase of growth for whishing of Well you get the point Consequently I was born in small group of youth heads from youth organization Lentvaris park renaissance and grownup during international youth exchange Sex is a part of life. The exchange where held in 2010 from 25th of September till 4th of October in Lithuania. There were 24 young persons from 4 different Europe countries (Lithuania, Poland, Spain and Turkey) that participated in this youth exchange and shared their experience, opinions and knowledge about love, flirt, stereotype, SEX and more great topics which you can find by reading me.

HOW TO USE ME?

It is very important to know how to use me. I am not an ordinary book. Using of me also is not as simple as comparing with other books. First of all when you read me you have to bring your own pen. Sounds pretty weird? Not really, because in me there is left a lot of free space where I am missing your voice. It is places where you can express your opinion, share your experience or write down your knowledge related to SEX or other topics related to it.

Consequently, I am not yet finished and you are getting unique opportunity to become an author of me as well as all youth mentioned before. Dont hesitate and dont miss opportunity to share with other readers your comments, opinions, etc So enjoy reading and filling me. I hope that at the end we will became a good friends and after couple of moths you will came again to visit me to check my progress. With peace and love

SEXPEDIA P.S. Save me because I am not perpetual.

never been speaking First of all, I have e and things like so much about sex, lov a topic which is a that! Now sex is not d a word sex is bit uncomfortable an ecent. This project something which is ind important in our shows how much it is it not only for life and that we need speak about it continuity. Why do we afraid to talk silently? Why are we t afraid of talking abou about it? Why are we about it. body should think ntribute it with parents? Every d an opportunity to co , I am glad that I ha t! Finally spent there was brilian life because the time to Sex is a part of

PARTICIPANTS OPINION

Aukse Podolskyte

Sex is a part of life was the one of the best projects which made a huge contribution to me. In the project we had quite fun but we also learnt something. Unfortunately, there were no practical workshops but weve learnt a lot! I also believe that majority of the participants broke their prejudices about sex and became more open-minded about sex. I am sure no one from the project hesitates to talk about sex. I can say that the project reached to its goal! Well done and lets cmon for sex! Nice shoes!

PROJECT DESCRIPTION
An international youth exchange Sex is a part of life aim was to encourage young people to enhance knowledge about genders. The most of gender educations comes from institutional level and it isnt appropriate for young people needs. Sexual intercourse is full of stereotypes and myths among young people. In multicultural Europe we have to face variety of understanding of gender, family, sexual intercourse. During 9 days youth exchange with participants from Turkey, Poland, Spain and Lithuania with help of various approaches and methods made a clearer and sophisticate view on sexuality. The results of the project is this book you are holding in your hands Sexpedia, for young people with easy understandable words and explanations, illustration about sexual intercourse.

Durmu entrk

t Very brave and unique initiative. I don t sex, i dont think weve learned much new abou time weve even think it was the main aim. The share our spent together was an opportunity to different culopinions, points of view, influenced by . So I dont tural background and our personalities ledge, but I think we caught up much of new know and realized many think we all gained new perspective ore. And thats things we werent thinking about bef ly todays culture important- to think, to share. Certain gs. And the formal educational doesnt foment precisely those thin llest place for the encounter of system doesnt give not even a sma rtant to search for new impulsopinions and variety. so its very impo , beautiful place and beautiful es, inspirations. Ive had a great time ect atmosphere people.... all together created a perf

Dominika Susolova

and everyes. Everybodys got one Opinions are like asshol es stinks. one thinks everyone els d that abusive dictionout the project I realize Through I respect to sexual dictionary. If ary is too much related e to attribute them to why do I hav my body and its parts, dishonorable persons? enemies or is a part my humble opinion Sex In my asshole, huh..., in tic persons from e with 24 authen of life is wonderful tim st do not forget how al backgrounds. We mu unique cultur It distortnipulate with sexuality. fucking mass media ma azed I am about to howl how am ing our minds. I would like se

. After ss on still subtle issues young peoples awarene ame less importhat sex bec the exchange I noticed before. tant in my life than Povilas Plukas

opportunities helps to rai Youth in Action funding

Sex is a part of life gave me a lot more than I expected :) Although I havent got sex there, Im very happy that I took part in this project. First of all it was really great experience to meet so many interesting people from different places, who speak different languages but so often have the same point of view on many subjects. Second thing, great places in beautiful country with amazing nation of 3 million people big adventure! Third thing amazing topic of project which gave me great opportunity to get to know others people opinions but also mine own beliefs on such things like: gender, family, relations, sex, lets cmon, nice shoes, and other stuff.

will never ever Sex is a part of life was the project which I I came back to forget. I learned a lot besides having fun. When I became more my country after the project, I realized that minded peropen minded. I mean, I was thinking that I am an open . A person can son before the project. But its all about limits ed me this :) always learn more and more. The project prov to talk, can be I also see that the things which we are avoiding talk like really important. Because in my country, we dont project I see that as much as we something like that subjects openly. But in the , as much as we are conscious. talk, as much as we know and as much as we know about cultural interaction. This I also want to mention one more thing which is projects. And in Sex is a part of is the best thing for me in the youth in action almost 8 months but I still have life we experienced it a lot. I mean, it has been mber spanish, polish and lithuanian some words from lithuanian and also still reme e is nothing which can provide that culture as I learned in the project. For me, ther n projects. Big thank you one more kind of experience to people except youth in actio time to you all for hosting us!
ficial for me not The project ,,Sex is a part of life was bene but also to get just as a good chance to have a fun for free e and sexuality. know more about genders, sexual intercours this exchange that participants And what I liked most about get know more about of project, including me, had opportunity to means that it wasnt one these relevant topics in informal way. It n- lector. We all of those boring lectures with one leading perso is a our opinion. And after the exchange ,,Sex were able to share nts in this area. pare part of life I felt like I know more than my Rokas Bernaton Your best Lets cmoner!.

I will Sex is a part of life - youth exchange which t! :) Firstly, it brought me experience of ornever forge se of the ganizing such kind of event. Secondly, becau so much young peotopic I had never thought that r in a one ple from different countries would gathe talk about sex! It was new, interesting and place and my apcatchy. I really enjoyed it. It also broadened to talk in topics like this proach and now I feel freer me certain with other people. This youth project made sex. Because everybody thinks about it, that people need to talk more about shy to share their problems/experia lot of people do it! But still people are ences... Let the people talk! of great people there :) ! And finally, it was so cool to meet a lot

szewski Bartosz Toma

Viktorija Bajurova

Abdurrah

man Ozcan

As a project manager I get valuable experience by organizing it, but still its not comparable, with what I have learned during it. I always thought that it is really easy to talk about sex. Well what is it SEX"? Its very simple to answer: Its an intercourse between two persons" I thought like that earlier, but during this exchange I saw different points of view about sex; I saw the meaning of sex for others, the value of sex, even the benefit of sex not only during intercourse. That sex is not only some kind of meaningless intercourse for others. So basically what I want to say, that I am really glad that I had an opportunity to say so much time word SEX" in 9 days among people which I have never seen before in my life. And now I can say that: SEX is FTW".

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Vytautas Vaitiekaitis

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BEFORE SEX LOVE AND CHEWING GUMS
by Povilas Plukas What is love: that is the question! You may say it is too Shakespearean. However, human beings have been wondering about this question thousands years ago. They struggle to answer by music, poetry, myth, painting and so forth. What is this thing we call love? First time I met the question then in childhood I found out Love Is chewing gum with liners. The liners had illustrated with cartoons about love created by Kim Grove in the late 1960s, later to be produced by Stefano Casali. Love Is... began as a series of little love notes that Kim Grove drew for her future husband, Roberto Casali. Love Is... being able to say you are sorry. Love Is being woken with a kiss and a cup. Love Is the glue in a relationship. Love Is not caring how late it isLove Is same person, same time, same place Is Love like chewing gum it tastes only in the beginning? Ouch

MATH OF LOVE

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DOES ROMANTIC LOVE IS DISORDER?

You know, if you ask somebody to go to bed with you, and they say, No thank you, you certainly dont kill yourself or slip into a clinical depression. But certainly, around the world, people who are rejected in love will kill for it. And last but not least, it is an obsession. When I put these people in the machine, before I put them in the MRI machine, I would ask them all kinds of questions. But my most important question was always the same. It was: What percentage of the day and night do you think about this person? And indeed, they would say, All day. All night. I can never stop thinking about him or her. And my final question was always the same. I would say, Would you die for him or her? And, indeed, these people would say Yes!, as if I had asked them to pass the salt. I was just staggered by it. I think that that is a Darwinian -- theres a Darwinian purpose to this. The whole point of this is to pull two people together strongly enough to begin to rear babies as a team. So I dont think, honestly, were an animal that was built to be happy; we are an animal that was built to reproduce. Refferences: Helen Fisher tells us why we love + cheat http://www.ted. com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html

From a feminist perspective, romantic love was, and is, seen to obscure or disguise gender inequality and womens oppression in intimate heterosexual relationships. But some in the mens movement see romantic love as dangerous for men as well as women, because it prevents men from being vulnerable (Bloodwood, 2003): ...historically, romantic love has been a highly gendered but workable deal in which men provide women with social status and material goods while women provide men with sex/affective labour. Thus romantic relationships not only reinforce womens second class status but also reinforce mens lack of sex/affective autonomy, so that romantic love is equally dangerous for women and for men.

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In Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous husband, but may only do so with her bare hands....

ROMANTIC LOVE WAS INVENTED TO MANIPULATE WOMEN

Jenny Holzer, Truisms Does romantic love manipulate women into providing free domestic labor and sexual favors for men? Some feminist views of romantic love [and the institution of marriage] portray it as controlling and oppressive (Burns, 2000): STOP HUMAN SACRIFICE. END MARRIAGE NOW. IT STARTS WHEN YOU SINK IN HIS ARMS AND ENDS WITH YOUR ARMS IN HIS SINK.
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LOVE LETTER TEMPLATE

LOVE LETTER TEMPLATE

My dearest_________,

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I want you here with me, if only for one night. I live day to day thinking of you. Why do I catch my breath whenever you speak? Every time I think of you I can feel the butterflies fluttering inside me. My heart breaks just to be around you. I love the way you talk, and the way you smell and that gorgeous smile. When I fall asleep I dream that youre next to me. I dream of you running your hands through my hair, down my back, and over every part of my body. I want to feel every inch of you with my fingers. I imagine kissing you all over your body. Whispering in your ear how badly I want you. I want you to hold me and I want to hear your voice. I imagine being pressed against your chest. I would want you making me feel like part of you... and every time we touch; we would feel like we were the only two people in the world. As we lay there I would beg you to make love to me over and over. I want you now! _________ Dear_________, Do you know how much I worship and adore you? The other day my appreciation became so strong that I actually considered what I would do if I was asked to build an altar to you. The first thing I would do is drape the altar with a silk or satin in (his or her favorite color). Then I would place my favorite picture of you, which is the one where_________(describe your favorite picture of your lover). I would then decorate it with_________(name the persons favorite flower) and sprinkle it with_________(name the persons favorite perfume). I would then light a single_________candle (name your lovers favorite kind of candle) and pray by the light of the quivering flame that our passion for each other burn forever. I yearn for you, I burn for you and I swear I would practically sell my soul to be with you. Just name your price honey. But remember, my love for you is free! With total love and devotion, _________

My Sweet, I can only imagine this love I feel inside me for you. I am in no doubt that you love me and I love you. I hunger for the moment we will be together to hold and caress you gently like I do and to always know that you are my one and only. My sweet love, Ive been spending all of my days and nights thinking of you. I want to shout it on the mountain tops that I long and hunger for you, my sweet love. My darling, every step I take, every breath I breathe, and every second that ticks in my heart, is for you. Sweet..........................., you are my one true love. When I first laid my eyes on you, my heart skipped, when we shared our first kiss, my lips melted with love. I long for the day you and I will be at the altar taking those vows. Love,

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Dear_______, Ever since we met_______years (months, days) ago in the (at the)________, my life has become enriched. You have helped me to grow into the person I am today. There is no way for me to express how much I love you, and what you have come to mean to me. You are my everything. I always think of you when we are apart, and when we are together I feel perfect. Whenever I see the sunset over the ocean (mountains, city) and when ever I see birds flying, or the beauty of nature at its finest, I am reminded of you. I now understand what love is, and I have never felt it as deeply as I do now. I look to the stars in the sky and all I see is your beauty. When the sunshines it is like the warmth I feel when I am with you. When it is cold outside, I am reminded of how empty I would be without you. I know that sometimes you do not understand me, and when I seem distant or quiet, please dont think it is because of you. And I know that sometimes I make silly remarks that may seem strange, but please understand that I am just trying to be funny. Nothing makes me happier than when you laugh. When we make love, (kiss, embrace, dance together) I believe it is what poets have talked about when they write about heaven, and all I think about is you.Your eyes reflect the amazing universe, and your voice is like music to me. I love you______, like I have never loved before. I count the seconds until we see each other, and when we are together I do not want anything else. You are the reason I breathe, and everything I do is for you. I know that there are those times when we must be apart, and when that happens, I want you to know I trust you and I trust our love. I feel like I finally know who I am and what I am supposed to do with my life, and I want you with me every step. Yours always, Love,

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PERFECT MAN PERFECT WOMAN BEFORE SEX

By Viktorija Bajurova The first thing which come to my head when I hear the words perfect man or perfect woman is why people are tend to identify this kind of persons? Maybe, if you are the man and have the perfect man portrait in your mind (rich, muscular, always having the newest electronic devices) you are reaching it all your life, its like a goal for you. Or you are looking for your perfect woman (good singer, nice, intelligent, active ). But after all you couldnt find her Well, this question like the question What is love? probably doesnt have the right and constant answer. People just like to think about something what seems perfect to them. From my female point of view the real perfection in a lot of cases is inaccessible! For instance, if the woman imagines that in order to be perfect she must be well-educated, caring for her appearance, always seeking for something, caring mother, good housewife, but also making a career, and so on. And finally she reaches it! Well, then she may start to think how good she is at each aspect, maybe she wants more, to be better at all of them Therefore, she never becomes perfect... Perfection the inaccessible aspiration. But it doesnt mean that people shouldnt seek for perfection. Its even better to have a portrait of who you want to be and try to reach it than not to have it at all. Lets look from some male perspective what perfect people could be

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There is also the question: why do people also create a picture of the perfect person who they would like to meet? Does it mean that they wouldnt start a relationship with different, not perfect person? Or knowing what kind of person would be perfect for you guarantees the success to find him? Lets leave these questions open...
make us perfect. Life did not intend to s in a museum Whoever is perfect belong

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For woman

For both

For man

For woman They dont have to wear high heels/ skirts

They are bot house workers, it can be done by men

For man

Smiling

Nice

Intelligent

Caring
Able to care about her self

Be individual (be youself) Good sense of humor

Sensitive

Show his feelings

caring Have to provide livelihood

They dont want to be seen as a bank They dont have to have muscle
Add your idea...

Can handle something

Good listener

Add your idea...

Add your idea...

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TO BE A PERFECT MAN AND WOMAN WHAT QUALITY DO YOU HAVE TO HAVE?

WHAT MAN OR WOMAN SHOULDNT BE?

BODY PLACES YOU LIKE BEFORE SEX

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I like it!

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EvERY DAY IS GOOD FOR COMPLIMENTS!!! BEFORE SEX

What was the BEST compliment which you have heard? Write down yours! I wish my wife would be like YOU. Your skin is so soft like polished car.

You are like SUDOKU. Looks like you know what number to write but you still dont know. You can try to guess but if you were wrong you will have to start from the beginning.

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You are more than I have always wanted.

THIS CONVERSATION IS MISSING YOUR VOICE!!!

FEW QUESTIONS BEFORE SEX

Your question:

How many time do you need to have first sex in a couple?

he If men has a lot of girl hes shes a bitch?

ro, if women has a lot of me

Name...

Does men die after marriage?

Is a woman a flower or a bee?

To which part of body pay attention firstly?

Leave a replay

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Women who read romance novels have sex twice as often as those who dont.

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Are men satisfied with stereotypes the society assigned to them?

How culture effects sexual relationship?

Sex is the safest tranqu ilizer in the world. It is 10 times mor e effective than valium!

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Name...

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Name...

Your question:

After sex women like to talk about love, why? Man want to know how was it (after sex) why?

Office romance: is it good, why not? Or why yes?

Yuor question Yuor question

- love causes it. Sex relieves tension

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THIS CONVERSATION IS MISSING YOUR VOICE!!!

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Your question:

INTERCULTURAL PAGES BEFORE SEX

Poland:
Women should stay at home make dinners and take up for children Better boss are men Parents have problem to start to talk about sex with their children, at school there is also problem with that because teachers are not qualified Men should pay after women on the cinema/ restaurant Its easier to find a job for a men It is said that a woman is a better parent Men usually head of the house Women are calm, dont argue much Girls play with dolls guys with cars

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Spain:
Best lovers spanish men It is more important for a woman than for a man to be a virgin until she marries. Spanish men like having a lot of different sex partners Spanish people are the most open-minded people in the world (while talking about relationships, sexual minorities) In a relationship a man have more power than a woman Man should earn more money than woman

Lithuania:
In a relationships men should maintain a woman In a couple man should be older than woman The easiest way to find a partner: in a nightclub Woman in a family - housekeeper When boyfriend invites girlfriend to watch a film at his home, both know how the evening will finish (sex) When girl wants to be just a friends, she usually doesnt want to have nothing in common with you at all. Women like only those men who have a car

Turkey:
As many as men have sex, as much as they are macho. As many as women have sex, as much as they are bitch Women make house works (such as cooking, cleaning, look after kids etc.) and men get money. Always and always men pay when they are dating outside Men can be late at night but women cant be late (men have more freedom than women). Men are the leader of family for outside but deep inside the family women control men. If two people are flirting, women want men to take the first step. (Men should tell that he loves her or sth.) Men can interfere womens life. But women cant do it like men

Love is t he answe r, but w for the hile you answer, are wait sex raise questions. ing s some p retty g ood

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STEREOTYPEs

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PrOSTITUTION IN THE WORLD Country Legal and regu- Legal and not lated regulated Illegal

ABORTATION IN THE WORLD

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Lithuania Russia Canada Venezuela, Colombia, Equador Turkey Holland Spain Mexico India Japan Estonia Norway Kazakhstan France
Prostitution (the exchange of sex for money) legal, but organised activities such as brothels and pimping are illegal, prostitution is not regulated

Legal on request Legal for rape, maternal life, health, mental health, socioeconomic factors, and/or fetal defects Legal for or illegal with exception for rape, maternal life, health, fetal defects, and/or mental health Illegal with exception for rape, maternal life, health, and/or mental health Illegal with exception for maternal life, health, and/or mental health Illegal with no exceptions Varies by region No information

HOMOSEXUALS WEDDINGS: THERE It IS LEGAL?

Same-sex marriage is legal in Argentina, Belgium,Canada, Iceland,the Netherlands,Norway,Portugal,South Africa,Spain and Sweden. In Mexico, same-sex marriages are only performed in Mexico City, but these marriages must be recognized by all Mexican states. Israel does not recognize same-sex marriages performed on its territory, but recognizes samesex marriages performed in foreign jurisdictions. The constitutions of Belarus, Bulgaria, Latvia, Lithuania, Moldova, Montenegro, Poland, Serbia and Ukraine define marriage as a union between a man and woman.

LGBT adoption
Full joint adoption by same-sex couples is currently legal in the following countries: Andorra (2005), Argentina (2010), Belgium (2006), Brazil (2010), Canada (1999 onward, depending on province), Denmark (2010), Iceland (2006), Netherlands (2001), Norway (2009), South Africa (2002), Spain (2005), Sweden (2002), United Kingdom: England and Wales (2005), Scotland (2009) and Northern Ireland (unclear), Uruguay (2009)
LGBT = lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons

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Work and Gender BEFORE SEX

Most popular working areas by gender in 4 countries: TURKEY:
Female House worker Striper Both Singer Hairdresser Director Teacher Driver Doctor Male President Military Chief Politician

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LITHUANIA
Female House worker Striper Hairdresser Both Singer Teacher Driver Doctor Male President Military Chief Politician Director

SPAIN
Female House worker Hairdresser Both Singer Striper Director Teacher Driver Doctor Military Politician Male President Chief

POLAND
Female House worker Both Singer Hairdresser Director Teacher Politician Striper Chief Male President Military Driver Doctor

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Sex between a m an and a woman can be absolutely wonderful - provided you ge t between the right man an d the right wom an.

SEX SELLS
Sexuality in the advertisements Where sex appeal can be used?
Firstly and mostly, in commercial ads. However, its interesting that sexual ads can be effective both to commercial and social ads. PETA, Green Peace and other social organizations successfully use sexuality for grabbing the attention to global problems.

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Aukse Podolskyte New magazine with a blonde, chocolate skin very sexy girl on the top She smiles in front of you wearing nice bikini You like her and probably you will buy that magazine although its unnecessary. For women that girl from the magazine can become an idol, women would copy her style by buying advertised clothes, go on a diet to be thin For men it will be a picture of ideal woman which exists and looks so hot only in that ad Get the product get a woman. This principle is regarded for men. You would say that it doesnt affect you? Dont be so self-confident. We dont need any proofs to say that advertising has a big power these days. Then why advertisers creates ads? Why such big amount of money is invested? Every day people see more advertisements than they want. According to different data an average America consumer sees or hears about 3000 ads per day. About 50 percent of music videos have erotic views. What about ads? Almost all of clothes, perfume and lingerie ads usually have a sexual hint.

How sex appeal looks?

There is naked or partly naked body There is a hint of erotic behavior It is very emotional (sounds or movements) Has two meanings (ambiguous)

Does sex sells or not?

The main goal of business is to sell and have a profit. Advertisers help for business to do it. Sex really sells. Remember - sex is a merchandisers best friend. BUT all marketing specialists know that the use of sex in advertising is a two-edged sword. Although it is extremely powerful and effective when aimed at one gender, it often does so at the social expense of the other. Also if advertising uses the sex appeal, it must be carefully aimed and tastefully done. There is no sense in appealing to one sex by offending the other. That is the main rules.

What is sex appeal?

Sexual advertising or sex appeal use sexual or erotic imagery (also called sex sells) to draw interest to a particular product, for purpose of sale. As an essential survival instinct for our species, sex has a strong influence over human brains. Sex is regarded as the second strongest of the psychological appeals, right behind selfpreservation. From a social standpoint, however, sex sells is a reality that also helps objectify both women and men. Thats the way how the picture of ideal man and woman was born.

Why sex sells is dangerous?

It can have a negative effect for young people, for example, cause such problems as anorexia, bulimia, the distorted conception of beauty, woman can be treated as sex symbols, etc. From now on, try to look to the ads trough different eyes! on prime shown in bed together The first couple to be ed and Wilma Flinttime television were: Fr stone.

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STD (Sexual transmitted diseases) BEFORE SEX Chlamydia

Chlamydia is the most common and fastest spreading sexually transmitted disease in the UK. It stems from a bacterium, Chlamydia trachomatis. Cause: Chlamydia trachomatis is a germ located within the cells, which infects the genitals and sometimes the eyes and throat Symptoms: Symptoms usually appear approximately 7 to 21 days after infection and differ for men, women and children. To women, Chlamydia infects the cervix, the uterus, the fallopian tubes, and/or urethra. Women may notice (if there are any signs): Discharge or extra secretions form the vagina. This is not abundant so women can consider it as normal; Pelvic pain; Pain or stinging when urinates and the need of frequent urination. At men, Chlamydia infects the urethra but it may also infect the prostate or testicles. The signs of the urethra inflammation are: pain at urination and a white oozy discharged from the penis. Chlamydia may cause infertility (impossibility to have children), even if there is no external sign. This infection may be transmitted from mother to child during the developer process, causing eye and respiratory disorders.

Genital herpes
It infects the skin and mucous membranes of the genitals and rectum, but it can also appear in areas such as the mouth. Genital herpes is a highly contagious viral condition caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). Symptoms: Flu-like symptoms, such as fever,headache, and muscle aches. These symptoms usually get better within a week. Tingling, burning, itching, and redness at the site where an outbreak is about to occur (prodrome). Painful, itchy blisters on the penis, on the vulva, or inside the vagina. Blisters may also appear on the anus, buttocks, thighs, or scrotum, either alone or in clusters. They may be barely noticeable or as large as a coin. Blisters that break and become shallow, painful, oozing sores. Swollen and tender lymph nodes in the groin. Painful urination. Abnormal vaginal or urethral discharge. Sometimes a person will first experience symptoms months or even years after being infected. This can make it very difficult to identify the sex partner who was the source of the infection. Its transmitted primarily through physical and sexual contact. During birth, the presence of herpes simplex virus on the genitalia or in the birth canal is a threat to the infant.

Gonorrhea
Gonorrhea is most commonly spread during genital contact, but it can also be passed from the genitals of one partner to the throat of the other during oral sex. Gonorrhea of the rectum can occur in people who practice anal sex. In pregnant women, gonorrhea can be passed from an infected woman to her newborn infant during delivery if left untreated. Gonorrhea is caused by Neisseria gonorrhea, bacteria that grows and multiplies quickly in moist, warm areas of the body such as the cervix, urethra, mouth, or rectum. The cervix is the most common site of infection in women. Symptoms: appears 2-10 days after contact with an infected person. Males have a cloudy (thick, grayish-yellow) pus-like secretion from penis and burning sensation during urinations. 20% or more of males show no signs. Females usually show no signs. Some women do have a pus-like vaginal

HIV and AIDS

AIDS is a potentially lethal sexually transmitted disease and is caused by the HIV virus. HIV means human immunodeficiency virus. HIV invades and destroys the immune system, which protects the body from infection. This means that a person who carries the HIV virus is prone

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discharge, vaginal soreness, painful urination, and lower abdomen pain 2-10 days after contact. Gonorrhea may be transmitted on through oral sex (pain and irritation in the throat) or anal sex (leakage and irritation in the anus). Almost 40% of the infected and untreated women present infections of the uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. Consequently, these women may become infertile and have a higher risk of abscesses

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Genital warts
Warts, or condylomata acuminata, are caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV). Up to nine months can pass from the time of infection to the actual development of warts. In women, HPV can lead to changes in the cervix and to the development of cervical cancer. Therefore, its important that this condition is diagnosed and treated. Symptoms: Although genital warts are painless, they may be bothersome because of their location, size, or due to itching. The size may range from less than one millimeter (1 mm = 0.039 inches) across to several square centimeters (1 cm = 0.39 inches) when many warts join together. Men and women with genital warts will often complain of painless bumps, itching, and discharge. Rarely, bleeding or urinary obstruction may be the initial problem when the wart involves the urethral opening (the opening where urine exits the body.) Warts in more than one area are common.

Scabies
Cause: parasite called sarcopets scabies. The female burrows under the skin, especially at night to lay eggs and larvae and pierces the skins to feed. Symptoms: Signs of the diseases are: redness of the skin and intense itching. Secondary effects can appear in the affected area. The contamination is possible by sexual intercourse or by shared use of towels. Sexual contact is a way to getting this mite. Cases of scabies appear more frequently at persons that are not having proper hygiene; they may also appear in institutions where people interact closely, e.g. schools, hospitals.

Syphilis
Syphilis is a dangerous and life-threatening bacterial disease. Its passed on by intercourse, or by almost any other form of sexual interaction. Cause: A Treponema organism causes the infection. Symptoms: If left untreated this disease has a slow evolution (10-15

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to many different illnesses and may die from diseases that are harmless to healthy people. In some countries, particularly those located in Sub-Saharan Africa, the HIV rates are very high. For instance, in the Republic of South Africa its estimated that about 11 per cent of the population is HIV-positive. Symptoms: Some people who become infected with HIV do not notice any immediate change in their health. However, some suffer from a brief flu-like illness within a few weeks of becoming infected, or develop a rash or swollen glands. These symptoms do not indicate the development of AIDS, and the symptoms usually disappear within a few days or weeks.

years) and is very serious. These years of evolution can be structured in 3 stages: Primary syphilis is typically acquired via direct sexual contact with the infectious lesions of another person. Approximately 390 days after the initial exposure (average 21 days) a skin lesion appears at the point of contact called a chancre. This is classically (40% of the time) a single firm, painless, non-itchy skin ulceration with a clean base and sharp borders between 0.3 and 3 cm in size. Occasionally multiple lesions may be present. Lesions outside of the genitals may be painful. Lymph node enlargement frequently (80%) occurs around the area of infection. The lesion may persist for 3 to 6 weeks without treatment. Secondary syphilis occurs approximately 4 to 10 weeks after the primary infection. There are many different manifestations of secondary disease. There may be a symmetrical reddish-pink non-itchy rash on the trunk and extremities including the palms and soles. The rash may become maculopapular or pustular. On mucous membranes it may form flat, broad, whitish, wart-like lesions known as condyloma latum. All of these lesions are infectious harboring bacteria. Other symptoms may include fever, sore throat, malaise, weight loss, hair loss, and headache. Rare manifestations include hepatitis, kidney disease, arthritis, periostitis, optic neuritis, uveitis, and interstitial keratitis. The acute symptoms usually resolve after 3 to 6 weeks. Latent syphilis is defined as having serologic proof of infection without signs or symptoms of disease. It is further described as either early (less than 1 year after secondary syphilis) or late (more than 1 year after secondary syphilis). Early latent syphilis may have relapses of symptoms. Late latent syphilis is asymptomatic and not as contagious as early latent syphilis.

CONTRACEPTION BEFORE SEX Trichomoniasis

Cause: This is an infection caused by a parasite called Trichomonas vginalis. Symptoms: At women the most frequently signs are: a thin yellow or green vaginal secretion, foamy and with unpleasant smell, soreness and itching in and around the genital area, pain during sex. The infection may also have no sings at all. At men signs are: smarts and pain at urination, urethra secretion, redness and irritation of the foreskin.

Condoms
For years, condoms were made only for men, but since 1992 females have their condoms also. Purpose of condoms is to prevent sperm from reaching and fertilizing an egg. Male condoms - soft, flexible tube, usually latex rubber, manufactured to tight penis. The female condom is a slightly wider tube made of polyurethane plastic. Its shape is very similar to the male condom, but it has at the both ends flexible rubber rings. Advantages: easy to buy, easy to use and is not necessary to seek medical attention by selecting, may protect against cervical cancer, protects both partners from some sexually transmissible diseases, including HIV. Disadvantages: Some people say that condoms spoil sex "flow" when it comes to a stop and put on, but for some this moment appears to be quite sexy. There are some people who are allergic to rubber latex and spermicidal by which are covered condoms. Men condoms are not suitable for men who have problems with erection during sex. Female condoms are not suitable for women with vaginal or cervical infections. Reliability: A male condom is reliable 98% if used according instruction

Thrush
Cause: A yeast Candida albicans that normally lives quite harmlessly on the skin and in the mouth and gut causes thrush. Therefore, this is an infection that can be contacted not necessarily by sexual intercourse only. Symptoms: Both man and women may have this infection without presenting any symptoms. If the symptoms appear, one may notice: at women itching, soreness, redness around genital area; thick white secretion from vagina and/or pain during sex. At men signs are: redness; irritation and itching around the penis and/or leakage from the urethra. Possible complications: thrush is not a serious infection but it is unpleasant due to its symptoms. This infection appears to healthy individuals that take antibiotics or suffer from other diseases, e.g. diabetes.

Contraception implant
Contraceptive implants are six small, soft cylinders, sewed under the skin (usually on the inner side of the upper arm). Its not possible to see them under skin but possible to feel them by touching. Approximately five years from the cylinder into the blood is extracting progestogen. It thickens the cervical mucus and sperm cannot enter the uterus. Also it changes egg in the uterus. In some cases, women dont have ovulation. Advantages: Very effective. Helpfully for people who often forgets to take pills or unable to use other contraception. Does not cause discomfort during sex. Can be used while breastfeeding. As soon as implant is removed become fertile again. You can remove it as soon as you decide that its no longer needed.

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Contraceptive injection
This is a long-term contraceptive method, so it is often chosen by older women. It is not recommended for young girls because of a side effect the stronger concentration of the preparation sometimes causes thinning of the bones. The authorized products containing the same progestogen as hormone tablets. The product is injected into the arm or muscle of behind. There are two types of inject preparations vary in their strength (concentration) so and the frequency of injection. Lower concentrations of the injection remain effective for 4 weeks, stronger concentrations 12 weeks. Advantages: every injections need only one or three months, does not disturb having sex. Disadvantages: Only once done injection effects (including side effects) will last for three months. After stopping taking this medicine, may require whole year to complete normalization of menstrual cycle and to be able to get pregnant. May change the cycle of menstruation. Using a higher concentration of the product may begin thinning of bones. Reliability: Very efficient - more than 99%.

Contraceptive coil
This is the uterus coil. They are small, about 4cm in length, made of flexible plastic and inserted into the uterus. At the lower end there is thread, it is derived through the cervix and hanging out of vagina. Depending on the type in uterus may be from 5 to 10 years or until the woman decides to remove the coil. Coil can be added and removes by doctors or specially prepare health care workers. Insertion takes only a few minutes. Removal is also quick and easy without creating a discomfort. Coil kills or immobilize sperms to protect eggs from fertilization. There are two main types of spirals: the first type spiral emits progesterone and is effective for 5 years, and the second is emitted by copper and effective for at least a decade. Advantages: No need to stop intercourse. Takes effect as soon as added. Disadvantages: more suitable for women with a regular partner. Some women can gain pelvic infections. For some women

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Side effects: During the first year can change or loss of menstrual cycle. After cycle of this period often become regular again. Sometimes gives headaches and gain of weight. Disadvantages: Some of the women's body rejects implants, so doctor has to remove them. Removal is difficult, because tissue around implant is thickened. Removal of the implant may cost small scar. After removal of the implant ovaries immediately regain its function and woman becomes fertile. Reliability: One year - about 99%. All five years - about 98%.

Diaphragm and cap

Diaphragm and cap covers the cervix and prevents sperm entering the uterus. This is a barrier contraceptive method. They are made of rubber and used in conjunction with spermicidal. Doctor or nurse will teach you how to use it. It should be kept inside for at least six hours (not more than 24 hours) after sexual intercourse. Wash after use and store in the same box in a cool dry place. Advantages: Most women do not have any side effects. May protect against cervical cancer and some other sexually transmissible diseases. Disadvantages: You need to plan in advance that they needed. It is necessary to use in conjunction with spermicidal. It may take a while to learn. Some people are allergic to rubber or spermicidal, some women may cause cystitis. It should be checked regularly and replaced if damaged, or you gain or drop of weight (3 kg), post-natal, post-abortion or abortion. Every twelve months you have to check whether they remain adequate. Reliability: Very effective: 98%.

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Natural (biological) family planning methods

The basic idea - not to engage in sex most fertile women's Day. Most of the ovaries of women is grows egg in about 14 days before the menstrual cycle. Egg remains fertile for only 12 hours, and sperm after entry into the woman's body is stays alive to 6 days. That means fertilization may occur after sperm enters the woman's body for up to six days before the woman's egg maturation. The most reliable method is the so-called physiological, which is based on temperature measurement and monitoring changes in vaginal fluid. Temperature monitoring methods were based on a woman measuring her body temperature every morning while still in bed. The temperature fell at the egg excretion and a slight increase after divorce. The couple then has to avoid sex from woman's menstrual cycle until the expiration of at least 48 hours after the temperature increase. On vaginal fluid monitoring method, female fertility is determined by monitoring fluid condition, it becomes more watery before diverging egg. The couple may have sex with little risk of getting pregnant during the period after menstrual cycle ends till notices increased amount of women fluid. Then the couple avoids intercourse until four days have elapsed since growth of fluid ends. Advantages: No mechanical devices or hormones are used. There are no side effects. Useful for people who choose not to use other contraceptive methods. Disadvantages: You need to learn from experienced professional. Every day have to write down accurate measurement of temperature or monitor vaginal fluids condition. Requires partner which willing to cooperate. It is necessary to choose and use another contraceptive method if you want to have sex during fertile days. Reliability: Using accurate and responsible, efficient, approximately 98%. Less security guard can be reduced by 80% or even more.

Oral contraceptives (pills)

Combined pills. Combined of two hormones - estrogen and progesterone. Is based on the fact that the ovaries do not mature egg each month. Advantages: Easy and convenient to use. Does not cause discomfort during sex. Menstruation lasts for less time with less bleeding and less pain. Premenstrual tension and other ailments associated with menstruation are eased. May protect against uterine and ovarian cancer, fibroids, ovarian cysts, pelvic infections in some breast and mitigate diseases. Disadvantages: Some women may cause minor side effects, although they usually disappear quickly. Health risk increases for smoking women over 35 years. Less effective, if you forget to take a pill or taking certain medications also if significant diarrhoea or vomiting. When you stop using pills, it may take some time for normalization of menstruation and regaining fertilization. Reliability: More than 99% if used correctly, if not - is much lower.

Contraceptive patch
Contraceptive patches, also known as ADRs, are small (~ 5 x 5 cm), flesh-colored patches, protecting against pregnancy. Glued onto the skin and visually almost do not differ from the usual patches. There is much the same as the combined pills. Through the skin into the blood, releases two hormones, estrogen and progestogen which prevent the ovaries to mature egg every month.

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may cause heavier or longer or richer menstruation bleeding. Therefore, they are not suggestible for women whose cycles are difficult. Sometimes coil can drop out. Reliability: More than 98%.

Cessation of sexual intercourse (Coit inerruptus)

This is an unreliable method that should not be regarded as contraception! This is a method in which a man pulls the penis from the woman's vagina before ejaculation. Advantages: There is nothing to pre-planning or care arrangements. Disadvantages: Dissatisfaction with sex, pregnancy, sexually transmissible diseases. Reliability: Poor. Most of the men's release a bit of semen during sex before ejaculation, and this drop may cause pregnancy. Even if you are sure that it does not release that drop, the probability of pregnancy still remains high.

Also thickness around the mucus in the cervix for sperm obstructed access to the uterus. Advantages: Patches can be attached to most parts of the body including the abdomen, upper outer arm area, the buttocks and upper torso, but cannot be stuck on the breast or broken skin. Can be worn in swimming pool or during sport activities. Disadvantages: does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases. Can cause headache and skin problems. Uses the same hormones as the combined pills, consequently for small percentage of women can cause side effects such as blood clot or breast cancer. Reliability: 99% if used correctly, if not much less.

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Sterilization of men Marginal operation where the vas deferens (the tube that sperm travel) in men scrotum is tied. Semen is made to continue, but it is no longer sperm. It takes sixteen weeks to completely overcome the sperm of the sperms, and at least four months after the operation should use other contraceptive methods. Advantages: Like the female sterilization. Disadvantages: Normal function cannot be undone. Reliability: Practically 100%.

Progestogen tablets
Have to be taken at the same time every day. They change the operation of cervical mucus viscosity, resulting in sperm and fertilized egg entering in to the uterus more difficult. Sometimes ovulation can be affected. Advantages: Almost the same as the use of combined pills. Useful for older smoking women. It can be used when breast-feeding. Disadvantages: May not work if forgotten to take later than three hours of usual taking time. Vomiting, severe diarrhea, or certain medications may also reduce their effectiveness. Some women may cause side effects, which usually lasts only two or three months. Can disturb the menstrual cycle. If your weight is over 70 kg, the tablet may not operate efficiently. Reliability: 99% if used correctly, if not much less.

Emergency contraceptive methods

If during sex have not used contraception, or think that your chosen method did not work, do not panic. There are two highly effective emergency contraceptive methods: Tablets Female can drink two specific doses of tablets which should be administered by doctor. Medication should be taken orally twelve hours apart. Disadvantages: May cause nauseas. If you are sick, you need to take more pills. Do not use regularly. Reliability: Very efficient method (about 95-9ww9%). Spiral Your doctor will put the spiral, and if it is made not later than one week after unprotected sex, pregnancy should be avoided. Advantages: Very effective, in addition, inserted a coil can be used as regular contraception. Disadvantages: Suitable not for all women. Need consultation with doctor. Reliability: Practically 100%.

Surgical sterilization (vasectomy)

These surgical methods of contraception. Sterilization of women Fallopian tubes (egg to fall through into the uterus) are cut or blocked. The operation does not affect menstruation, sexual craving for sex, but pre vents of geting pregnant.

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Advantages: Very effective for couples that choose not to have (or have no more) children. Effective immediately after the operation. Disadvantages: some women are heavier menstruation. For women is impossible to restore fertility. Reliability: Practically 100%.

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You can also contact one of the following locations: Urologist Gynecologist Family Planning Centre Wherever you will go, you will be advised a method that best suit your lifestyle and relationships. Your doctor may not be able to serve you as you would like to, however, he can advise you where to go, where you will be provided with access to contraception, pregnancy testing, help and advice on unplanned pregnancies, information on possible methods of contraception, safe sex, sex advice issues, cervical smear test. Family Planning Center can also advise you to contact the appropriate professionals who can help treat infertility and other sexually transmitted diseases and advising on matters of genetics. Young people are always welcome in the family planning center for advice on contraception. In fact, family planning center hold special sessions for young people.

USING A CONDOM
1. The penis becomes 2. Knot the condom hard/erect 3. The man ejaculates or comes

4. Both partners feel 5. Unroll condom all 6. Sexual intercourse turned on or sexually way down the penis excited 7. Squeeze the air out of 8. Open the package the tip of the condom 9. Hold the base of the condom firmly in place

10. Put the condom 11. Point the penis down 12. Check the expiry down the bin and slip the condom off date 13. Out rolled-up con- 14. Withdraw the penis dom on to tip of erect immediately before it goes limp penis

Remember, even if you are using other methods of contraception, the condom is the best way to protect against sexually transmissible diseases, including HIV

Check your knowledge! set the parts of using condom in the the correct sequence YOUR ANSWERS:

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12; 4; 1; 8; 7; 13; 5; 6; 3; 14; 9; 11; 2; 10.

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To make a well considered decision about sexual activity all three aspects need to be checked each time someone makes a decision to have sex:
Why am I doing this? Do I agree with what is going on? Does this fit with my values? How will I feel about this decision tomorrow?

SEX AS DRUGS
The orgasm is the highest dopamine rush experienced by humans. In fact, a neural scan of the moment of orgasm is similar to one taken during a heroin rush. Just like with drugs, the dopamine surge is followed by withdrawal symptoms, which are immediate in the male, but delayed in the woman. Johnathan Margolis. O: The intimate history of the orgasm. Grove Press, London: 2003 The World Health Organization produces the International Classification of Diseases (ICD), which is not limited to mental disorders. The most recent version of that document, ICD-10, includes Excessive sexual drive as a diagnosis (code F52.7), subdividing it into satyriasis (for males) and nymphomania (for females).

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Do I feel safe and comfortable with this person? Does this feel right to me? Do I like this person? Can I trust him/her (partner)?

Heart - Ask yourself:

Sexual addiction features:

Compulsivity: This is the loss of the ability to choose freely whether to stop or continue a behavior. Continuation despite consequences: When addicts take their addiction too far, it can cause negative effects in their lives. They may start withdrawing from family life to pursue sexual activity. This withdrawal may cause them to neglect their children or cause their partners to leave them. Addicts risk money, marriage, family and career in order to satisfy their sexual desires. [18] Despite all of these consequences, they continue indulging in excessive sexual activity. Obsession: This is when people cannot help themselves from thinking a particular thought. Sex addicts spend whole days consumed by sexual thoughts. They develop elaborate fantasies, find new ways of obtaining sex and mentally revisit past experiences. Because their minds are so preoccupied by these thoughts, other areas of their lives that they could be thinking about are neglected.

What does my body want to do? Are the juices flowing? Do I like whats happening? Am I, and is my partner protected from sexual transmitted disease or pregnancy?

Genitals - Ask yourself:

MINUTES s FOR 30 T GASM LAS A PIGS OR

LOVE IS NAME, SEX IS GAME, FORGET THE NAME AND PLAY THE GAME!... ;)

Sex is biochemically no different from eating large quantities of chocolate.

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MYTH ABOUT SEX

You cant get pregnant if you having sex with drunk man, because alcohol kills sperm. You cant get pregnant if you having sex while standing. You cant get pregnant if you having sex during menstruation. You cant get pregnant if man does not enter in to women during sex. You cant become pregnant for the first time having sex. You cant get pregnant, if breast-feeding. You can get pregnant during oral sex. You can get pregnant if bathing in the same water in which bathed a man before

MOST SENSITIVE BODY PLACES

OVER 100 ZONES JUST ALL IN sAME PLACE....

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Add your myth

TOP 10 FEMALE EROGENOUS ZONES:

1. Ears 2. The Lips 3. Neck 4. The Back 5. Legs 6. Buttocks 7. Feet 8. Hands and arms 9. Breasts (Nipples 10. Vagina/Clitoris

TOP 5 MALE EROGENOUS ZONES:

1. Scalp 2. The Lips 3. Back of knees,and inside of elbow 4. Ears 5. Nipples

Be careful all of this myth is busted, and they are not true !

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SEX POSITIONS
Couple of sex position that we would like to share with you and hear your opinion about them

Reverse Cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl is basically the woman on top in reverse. Instead of the woman straddling him, she should try putting her legs together, feet flat between his legs. There are several benefits to having the legs together rather than apart as the fit is tighter, making the feelings more intense. As the woman leans forwards or backwards changing the angle of penetration, it will increase the G-spot stimulation making for an explosive orgasm.

Sexy Spooning
This sex position starts off being very intimate as you snuggle and spoon one another. To assume the position, women will simply lie on their side with the guy close up behind them. Men can snuggle, hug, or use his hands to gently stimulate the woman. Rather than moving in and out, the man should stay inside the woman using gentle rocking motions while providing consistent stimulation to the G-spot, which is ideal for achieving an exceptional orgasm. This is a very passionate and gentle position that provides an incredible orgasm.

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One Leg Up
Your rate: This position is attained as the woman lays on her side, with one leg over the mans shoulder and the other leg down in-between the mans legs. This position is slightly more acrobatic as it involves the woman stretching and twisting a bit in order to achieve maximum pleasure, but is well worth the extra effort.

Woman on Top
This position is a fan favorite for many men and women as it puts the woman in almost total control of the movements. This is one of the best sex positions for deep penetration. The position can be done on the bed, on a chair, or really anywhere you have the room. It is easy to get into position as the man sits and the woman straddles him so you are faceto-face. Women have almost full control over the speed, angle, and motion because they can use their arms and legs to increase the movements. Instead of the standard up and down, have the woman try to sway forward and back, with a gentle rubbing motion. Test out different speeds and postures to achieve maximum pleasure.

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Missionary
The standard and probably most well known sex position, the missionary arrangement is still one of the best for both men and women. In this position the woman is on the bottom and the man is on the top doing most of the work. When the woman changes the position of her legs, and angle of her body the depth of penetration will provide different sensations for both until ultimate pleasure is received.

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Doggy Style
Doggy style is not the most appropriate name for this position, but since most know the term we will go with it. This position is great for both men and women as far as pleasure but is less intimate than some of the others. Doggy Style allows for deep penetration with the man kneeling behind the woman who is up on all fours. This can also work with the woman bent over a kitchen table or the edge of the bed and the man standing behind her.

Forward Flex
This position should only be attempted if the woman is a bitflexible. Both of The womans legs rest on the mans shoulders which allows for various depths and angles of penetration. Depending on the amount the man leans forward and how flexible the woman is you can adjust the levels of comfort and pleasure.

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ModifIed Doggy Style

Doggy Style as described above has always been one of the top sex position, but in order to really make it the number one position you need to modify it just a bit. The woman should lie on her stomach, lifting her rear slightly upwards so the man can enter. The man can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of the woman If it is too difficult to maintain a comfortable position, try adding pillows under the womans stomach. This face-down configuration provides increased friction and should end in an explosive orgasm.

The Slow Rock

This position works best when using a rocking chair or recliner seat. The man sits with the woman on top of him. Her legs can be wrapped around the man or over the arms of the chair and holding on to the sides for control. The rocking of the chair helps for deeper penetration and provides stimulation without much effort on either partners part.

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Seated Wheelbarrow
This position is just as it sounds, resembling the carrying of a wheel barrow. The man sits on the edge of a chair, bed or anywhere else the woman can reach the floor with her hands while straddling him backwards. This position does require some upper body strength on the womans part, since she will be holding herself up and using her arms for some of the activity.

Sex: the pleasure is momentary, the posi tion ridiculous, and the expense damnab le.
Lord Chesterfield (1694 - 1773)

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ALCOHOL EFFECT
There is an intimate relationship between sex and alcohol in our culture. Many people use alcohol to loosen themselves up in anticipation of having sex with a new partner, and it is a commonly held belief that alcohol is an aphrodisiac. But the actual sexual effects of alcohol are complicated, and there are many serious negative sexual consequences of drinking too much and drinking too often. In thinking about the effect of alcohol on sexuality we can consider short and long effects of alcohol on secsuality.

The short
Alcohol has a disinhibiting effect, which can make people loosen up and feel more comfortable initiating or engaging in sex. Alcohol may make you feel more socially confident and in small quantities may facilitate more socializing and sexual communication. In small amounts alcohol has been reported to have a positive impact on sexual desire and arousal. At the same time, even after a few drinks sexual response is reduced. In large amounts alcohol makes sex difficult to impossible. While in moderate amounts alcohol can have an impact on engaging in risky sexual behavior. As drinking increases both men and women will experience a reduction in sexual arousal, men may have difficulty getting erections, and both men and women may have difficulty experiencing orgasm.

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The long
Chronic alcohol abuse, or alcoholism, inevitably has a devastating effect on sexuality, including: Erectile disorders and dysfunction in men. Loss of sexual desire, significant decrease in sexual arousal for men and women. Difficulty experiencing orgasm for men and women.

Each day, there are ov er 120 million sexual int ercourse taking place all over the world.

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Woman is like a house - by getting older require more painting Woman is like a loan - for 30 years and 500 euros per month Woman is like a policeman - talking nonsenses, ruining mood, taking money and you still are guilty Woman is like an erection of 70 years old man - you have to wait forever for it Woman is like a milk - some man likes low fat, some man fatter and some of them dont like at all Woman is like an embassy - there is possibility that she wont let you go to Thailand with friends Woman is like a chess - one step wrong and you get checkmate Woman is like a smart-phone - searching with more functions but still using only one Woman is like a theater - today comedy, tomorrow tragedy and day after tomorrow tour in another city Woman is like a favorite sweater - of course you love it, but why you should take it on vacation to Turkey? Woman is like a lecturer during exam - looks like you were studying and preparing - but he always catches you on some small details.

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