In Celebration of Being Alive by Dr. Christiaan Barnard
In Celebration of Being Alive by Dr. Christiaan Barnard
In Celebration of Being Alive by Dr. Christiaan Barnard
I had my first introduction to the suffering of children when I was a little boy.
One day my father showed me a half-eaten, mouldy biscuit with two tiny
tooth marks in it. And he told me about my brother, who had died several
years earlier. He told me about the suffering of this child, who had been born
with an abnormal heart. If he had been born today, probably someone could
have corrected that heart problem, but in those days they didnt have
sophisticated heart surgery. And this mouldy biscuit was the last biscuit my
brother had eaten before his death.
As a doctor, I have always found the suffering of children particularly
heartbreaking- especially because of their total trust in doctors and nurses.
They believe you are going to help them. If you cant, they accept their fate.
They go through mutilating surgery, and afterwards they dont complain.
One morning, several years ago, I witnessed
what I call the Grand Prix of Cape Towns Red Cross Childrens Hospital. It
opened my eyes to the fact that I was missing something in all my thinking
about suffering something basic that was full of solace for me.
What happened there that morning was that a nurse had left a breakfast
trolley unattended. And very soon this breakfast trolley was commandeered
by an intrepid crew of two- a driver and a mechanic. The mechanic provided
motor power by galloping along behind the trolley with his head down, while
the driver, seated on the lower deck, held on with one hand and steered by
scraping his foot on the floor. The choice of roles was easy, because the
mechanic was totally blind and the driver had only one arm.
They put on quite a show that day. Judging by the laughter and shouts of
encouragement from the rest of the patients, it was much better
entertainment than anything anyone puts on at the Indianapolis 500 car
race. There was a grand finale of scattered plates and silverware before the
nurses and ward sister caught up with them, scolded them and put them
back to bed.
Let me tell about these two. The mechanic was all of
seven years old. One night, when his mother and father were drunk, his
mother threw a lantern at his father, missed and the lantern broke over the
childs head and shoulders. He suffered severe third-degree burns on the
upper part of his body, and lost both his eyes. At the time of the Grand Prix,
he was a walking horror, with a disfigured face and a long flap of skin
hanging from the side of his neck to his body. As the wound healed around
the neck, his jaw became gripped in a mass of fibrous tissue. The only way
this little boy could open his mouth was to raise his head. When I stopped by
to see him after the race, he said, You know, we won. And he was laughing.
The trolleys driver I know better. A few years earlier I had successfully
closed a hole in his heart. He had returned to the hospital because he had a
malignant tumor of the bone. A few days before the race, his shoulder and
arm were amputated. There was little hope of recovering. After the Grand
Prix, he proudly informed me that the race was a success. The only problem
was that the trolleys wheels were not properly oiled, but he was a good
driver, and he had full confidence in the mechanic.
Suddenly, I realized that these two children had given
me a profound lesson in getting on with the business of living. Because the
business of living is joy in the real sense of the word, not just something for
pleasure, amusement, recreation. The business of living is the celebration of
being alive.
I had been looking at suffering from the wrong end. You dont become a
better person because you are suffering; but you become a better person
because you have experienced suffering. We cant appreciate light if we
havent known darkness. Nor can we appreciate warmth if we have never
suffered cold. These children showed me that its not what youve lost thats
important. What is important is what you have left.