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From the Whiting and O. Henry–winning author of Private Citizens (“the first great millennial novel,” New York Magazine), an electrifying novel-in-stories that follows a cast of intricately linked characters as rejection throws their lives and relationships into chaos.

Sharply observant and outrageously funny, Rejection is a provocative plunge into the touchiest problems of modern life. The seven connected stories seamlessly transition between the personal crises of a complex ensemble and the comic tragedies of sex, relationships, identity, and the internet.

In “The Feminist,” a young man’s passionate allyship turns to furious nihilism as he realizes, over thirty lonely years, that it isn’t getting him laid. A young woman’s unrequited crush in “Pics” spirals into borderline obsession and the systematic destruction of her sense of self. And in “Ahegao; or, The Ballad of Sexual Repression,” a shy late bloomer’s flailing efforts at a first relationship leads to a life-upending mistake. As the characters pop up in each other’s dating apps and social media feeds, or meet in dimly lit bars and bedrooms, they reveal the ways our delusions can warp our desire for connection.

These brilliant satires explore the underrated sorrows of rejection with the authority of a modern classic and the manic intensity of a manifesto. Audacious and unforgettable, Rejection is a stunning mosaic that redefines what it means to be rejected by lovers, friends, society, and oneself.

272 pages, Hardcover

First published September 17, 2024

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Tony Tulathimutte

7 books426 followers
Tony Tulathimutte’s debut novel Private Citizens was called “the first great millennial novel” by New York Magazine. A graduate of Stanford University and the Iowa Writers’ Workshop, he has written for The Paris Review, N+1, The New York Times, VICE, WIRED, The New Yorker, The New Republic, Playboy, and others. He has received an O. Henry Award and a MacDowell Fellowship, and teaches the writing class CRIT in Brooklyn.

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2,108 reviews315k followers
September 23, 2024
Star ratings are an inadequate way of expressing my feelings for this book. It is perhaps best summed up in a single word: WOAH.

The first note I made while reading this was literally "yeah, wow, this is so good" which is funny and also a bit embarrassing next to the eloquence of Tulathimutte.

Rejection is a collection of depressing, intimate portraits largely about lonely, alienated people who just cannot get it right. The characters in the first three stories are desperate for love and connection-- emphasis on the "desperate" --but they keep being met with rejection. These people are cringe, pathetic, try-hard… and, even in their worst moments, somehow sympathetic. We meet people who get destroyed by rejection, allowing being a reject to become their entire personhood.

I feel for characters like this, I really do. Like, in a slightly different life I feel my very socially clueless self could have easily ended up one of them. They are like Sally Rooney characters x1000, super annoying and totally sabotaging their own happiness because they can't get out of their heads, yet there is something compelling about them.

As you move through the stories, it becomes clear they are all interlinked by more than just the theme of rejection. And it also becomes clear that the author is spinning an overarching metanarrative, one that somehow feels both serious and satirical at the same time.

There was a point, I will admit it, when I thought maybe this book was just a bit too mired in pretentious navel-gazing narcissism for me (probably right around the point I was shamed into googling some of the vocab) and I was thinking maybe four stars because, come on, Mr Tulathimutte, you're good, but it's all a bit cringe, a bit desperate and try-hard, isn't it?

And then I read the last story and I had to laugh at myself. Well played, sir. Well played.
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1,806 reviews2,773 followers
July 30, 2024
This book is very good and I did not enjoy it at all. May sound like a contradiction, but this is a book that wants to get you real deep into the worst of what we have to offer in the world of being extremely online, being a troll irl, being a truly terrible person who knows therapy words. The stories are so good, so precise, it's like watching a surgery video. Gut wrenching and precise.

It's not going to work for a lot of people because it really wants you to be uncomfortable. It is not going to present a single likable character for you to latch on to. But I did like how the connections of the stories gave you a few different angles on things. Not beating you over the head with it, just the slightest little nod.
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836 reviews5,488 followers
August 15, 2024
Before I even finished this novel I was sending it to my friends telling them to read it

Thank god the ending was as good as it was
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556 reviews285 followers
November 1, 2024
I seriously don't know what I've just read. The concept being interconnected short stories revolving around “rejection“, these writings feature the most kookie and opinionated characters I've ever read about. Wildly entertaining, though.
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633 reviews684 followers
September 24, 2024
Jesus Christ. AAAAH, WHAT IS THIS? This murdered me. This was something else. I loved the author’s debut novel PRIVATE CITIZENS, but this was next level.

It’s holding up a mirror to our most unappealing and self-serving impulses. No one is spared. It’s like a takedown of millennial life, Internet culture, and fake wokeness. It’s a spectacular brain-busting train wreck.

You won’t believe what Tulathimutte has done here. It’s a book of interconnected short stories that then morphs into one of the wildest conclusions I’ve ever encountered. My jaw dropped and then it kept going. This man’s brain, wtf.

Jaw dropping, hilarious, outrageous, offensive, uncomfortable, unnerving, truthful; makes you reevaluate yourself and what you contribute (or not contribute) to the savagery of today’s world. This book is insane. And brilliant. What a monster. Putting us all in our place. Jeeeeez, Tony, you didn’t have to go this hard. We’re already dead.

My head is still spinning around and around.

“Online everyone is their own Citizen Kane, raging for monopolies of endearment. How easily you could make a name off scolding or inspo, or deploy politics as a cover for attention hunger, only to later be taken down for hideous indiscretions that were ultimately the most humanizing thing about you. Morality breeds grift, and the windbags and jagoffs who exploit people's sense of goodness, these are the ones who thrive. That volunteer sewer crew who found an endless source of engagement in reading everything in the worst faith, seeing every joke as directed at them personally, and tasked to sanitize them with outrage, even though trying to scrub diarrhea out of a carpet just grinds it in and spreads it around.”
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1,933 reviews5,554 followers
September 17, 2024
An absolutely brutal and brilliant collection. Rejection is short: there are seven stories, of which the first five are substantial character studies, and the last two a coda to those (the stories are all linked). The character studies, in the main, follow unhappy and self-sabotaging people: in ‘The Feminist’, a man who’s furious his status as a self-proclaimed feminist doesn’t get him dates; in ‘Pics’, a woman whose obsession with a crush destroys her life; in ‘Ahegao’, a gay guy who struggles not with his sexuality but with the fact that he can only get off on a particular, hard-to-articulate fetish. The broader themes here – dating, the internet, the soul-crushing combination of the two, repression, and, obviously, rejection – are explored in a lot of contemporary fiction, but it’s Tulathimutte’s writing that really makes it work: raw, shorn of any restraint, horribly true. The obvious point of comparison is Kristen Roupenian’s You Know You Want This – in particular, ‘The Feminist’ followed by ‘Pics’ reminded me of the one-two punch of ‘Cat Person’ and ‘The Good Guy’ – and I also thought a lot about Paul Dalla Rosa’s use of voice in An Exciting and Vivid Inner Life.

I received an advance review copy of Rejection from the publisher through Edelweiss.
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October 9, 2024
In the end, this book exhausted me. It started out weird enough, one section after another of a sad sack looking for love and finding...rejection. Not your typical love-and-lose stuff, either. Cringe-worthy, really, like you're embarrassed to be witnessing it as a reader. And each character is, in some respect, related.

Eventually the novel begins to spiral a bit. It veers into hyperbolic satire for awhile, and then into the political culture wars of identity politics, mostly through the lens of online. And boy, howdy, does Tulathimutte know online. Lots of posting narrative, acronyms, emojis. Lots of terms that seem like they come out of a Gen Z (or is it Millennial?) dictionary. And let's face it, this writer has a good conventional vocabulary, too.

In the end, I can't say I enjoyed it so much as survived it. Hats off to his writing, and maybe somebody else's cup of Mountain Dew, but as a reader I felt...rejected.
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Author 1 book31 followers
May 9, 2024
When Tony revealed the cover for his book I commented on his IG post about how I liked the prominent placement of the word “fiction” on the cover. Funny enough, during the experience of reading the book, I turned frequently back to that little word, placed so centrally on the cover, clinging to it like a life raft. It’s all made up right?

Rejection is a collection of stories that are essentially deep psychological dives / character studies of people we might deem to be overreacting to some experience of rejection. Theres a weird feminist straight dude, a lady, a gay dude, a tech bro, a person that rejects all identity labels, a prose-poem on the metaphor of catching fish, and then a meta-commentary on the book and rejection. What arises is that maybe maybe they are only slightly more exaggerated than what actual rejection feels like.

Take Ahegao. No spoilers but the huge monologue in the story is extended even further from the PR version, and its more fun because of it. It involves a gay character who struggles with coming out a second time as a kind of anime-Dom, the idiosyncrasy of his sexuality insufficiently housed in a term like “gay.” His sexuality bristles as it has to transfer from the place of fantasy to reality, and the result is a kind of anticipation of rejection that litters his life with lost boyfriends. I couldn’t stop reading the insane sexual fantasy monologue and I even read a bit aloud. You’ll know what part I’m talking about when you read it. (Ekin asked me from bed: “does reading that make you feel good?” I laughed but I’m still not sure.) Ahegao made me feel stimulated but hollow the way Nathan Fielder does sometimes, even though I don’t think Tony’s a nihilist in the same way. He’s more of a humanist really.

The stories are connected in a lithe and delicate way—people are lovers, siblings, and strangers. What the connections show you is that the people in the book think they’re a lot worse off than they appear, and that people have really distorted impressions of how they come off to people.
Because I took Tony’s class I understood the book as an exemplification of some of the best ideas of what it means to write well: write about those things that you think “handicap” you as a writer. They will l turn into your strengths. Write about things that you think are not fit for writing and things that allow you to channel your vernaculars. The book is something like a treatise on the status of fiction today, written in fiction. It encouraged me to write fiction that is smarter and more troubling, that intervenes in the current academic discourse on identity and media but is also a form of expression. In the book we are made privy to many of the characters deepest, darkest, most sexual, violent, and disturbing fantasies, and the the conditions that lead to the birthing of those fantasies is often the plot itself of each story. Its all made up, its all made up, i kept saying.

Is it? That seems to be part of the thrill, that Tony addresses in the latter chapters, where the fiction is less autofiction and more like metafiction; reflections that read like meditations on the roles of “reader” “author” “character” and “text.” “Main Charcter” is in particular an intense and troubling provocation of the themes of identity and character in the wake of social media and the internet. Its kindof the lore of a post that existed on reddit somewhere. I envisioned it in “the wild” somewhere, online, on an actual post, existing as it should. It’s about the rejection of identity, from a particularly Asian American perspective. The screed on Twitter made me happy that I am not so Twitter dependent but it did make me reflect on my other digital dependencies. Throughout the book, the Internet and social media serves only to exacerbate and exaggerate many of the distorted emotions that emerge out of various rejections: whether its the rejection of identity, romantic rejection, rejection of fantasy; rejecting the reader. (The last story is basically made for you to dislike, so you walk away with a sour taste.)

Tony has something to say about fiction the concept itself, and he has to implicate himself to say it. I mean, it’s ALL made up, but that doesn’t seem sufficient to describe the space that fiction occupies in our daily lives. He presents a kind of connection between fiction and the more mundane daily act of envisioning the kind of world we want to live in. When people don’t do what they want you to do, you invent what you want them to do. Then you live your life. The rest is fiction.
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September 22, 2024
A brilliant, scathing, merciless collection—REJECTION is hands down my favorite book of the year so far, and while it fully deserves its spot on the National Book Award longlist, I was surprised it made it. Not because it’s lacking in quality, but because it’s absolutely wild, evil, and cursed in the best way, lol.

These satirical stories tackle the shame and delusion of rejection. They’re at once hilarious, ridiculous, and cutting about identity in the age of the chronically online. Tulathimutte writes like a genius literary troll who knows you a little too well; what first feels like a playful jab quickly turns into a deep wound.

I love how this collection balances playful absurdity with an undercurrent of sinister control. The stories spiral and escalate to wild extremes, yet there’s an unmistakable aura of precision behind it all—like the narration itself has a devilish grin. There’s a unique authorial vision here; a kinetic intelligence and humor underlying these stories that I’ve never really encountered before.

Honestly, I’m a bit afraid of Tony Tulathimutte, which seems to be how I feel about all of my favorite writers. Don’t miss it.
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80 reviews
August 4, 2024
I was conflicted about giving this book a star rating at all. The book aims to make you feel uncomfortable and distorted and it succeeds at that. It’s like reading a pre 2020 twitter timeline made up exclusively of chronically online people, an experience i personally never wanted to repeat. So, the book succeeds at that goal yet I still don’t know what larger message it was trying to convey or if there was a message at all. Its self-awareness also just came across as pretentious and tedious, so I can’t say I’d really recommend this to anyone unless they really really wanted to read the thoughts of insufferably Online people.
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574 reviews792 followers
October 23, 2024
*4.5 rounded up

"..𝘯𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘮𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵'𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘥; 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺.
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..𝘳𝘦𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘦-𝘸𝘢𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘦. 𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦𝘥, 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶—𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵—𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘥, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵."

Sharp. Witty. Dark. Tony’s New York air through prose tackles modern romance for the chronically online. How PC is too much PC and what does it actually mean to stand for what you believe in?

An incredible collection of stories that never miss the mark, playing with form, voice, and our very reality.

It’ll make you cringe. It’ll make you ugly laugh. It’ll make you realize that those thoughts you have buried deep down in your subconscious are a lot closer to the surface of reality than you’d like to admit.

It’s the best thing you’ll read out of 2024 and makes contemporary literary fiction look like an absolute joke.

brb giving this one out to all my close friends
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1,715 reviews10.8k followers
December 19, 2024
These stories were filled with punchy and dynamic prose that kept me on my toes. I wasn’t bored reading the first set of stories in Rejection, I’ll give it that. Maybe I’m in the minority opinion here but I did find the tone to be cynical in a way that wasn’t that interesting to me? I felt like Tony Tulathimutte took common online social justice issues/dynamics and just put them in a blender of weird, graphic situations and we got this collection. When I finished these stories my reaction was generally “that was mildly interesting and very depressing and I’m not sure what the point of that was.” I also felt that a lot of the characters of color were one-dimensional and obsessed with white people, which seemed to be intentional/Tulathimutte was trying to make a point though I was like… contrived, next.

Three stars for doing something different though I’m not sure if my actual enjoyment measures up to three stars.
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229 reviews167 followers
October 8, 2024
4.5 rounded up - one of my favs this year

almost every story was a colossal dark humored (and just plain dark) character study of, well, social and cultural rejection. i devoured it and it was one of those reading experiences where when i put the book down, I couldn’t wait to pick it back up because you just didn’t know in what direction the author might be headed next. just absolutely bonkers and wild.

lovers of the unlikable protagonist look no further. for readers who loved moshfegh’s homesick for another world.
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133 reviews19 followers
October 24, 2024
this book is soooooo fucking good it’s annoying. disgusting, brilliant, so much fun to the point I think tony tulathimutte is the Shakespeare of internet-speak. there are original sentences like you wouldn’t believe. all the cum jokes and hyper-irony and the final story shouldn’t work but they do 😡😡😡 i love how it engages with the whole “writing is empathy” thing because you realise empathy is also about (SELF???) revulsion and alienation. it plays every side imaginable but still manages to be so touchingly sincere AND it made me let out a legit howl of anguish in a story actually called “ahegao”……..wow……….
633 reviews67 followers
October 22, 2024
4,5

Wow, this is one of the smartest and most thought-provoking books I read all year, but also very, very bleak.

It is a novel-of-interconnected-short-stories in which the main characters are invariably loners, not fitting in, being rejected or themselves rejecting society. It is as much about rejection as it is about belonging though, and wanting to belong.

The opening story, The Feminist, is for me the strongest of the book, about a young 'narrow-shouldered' man's unsuccessful search for a relationship. He holds all the correct opinions and still women seem to prefer 'wrong' men over him. From here the stories become less and less relatable, making you feel less and less comfortable.

It is about labelling and political correctness and holding the right opinions and criticism on that opinion....and it actually all got quite tiresome towards the end as it also is a lot to do about very little. I longed for some substance... But then the final section is quite strong and surprising.
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303 reviews57 followers
October 1, 2024
It's too millennial for my taste. A mishmash of unreliable and unlikeable narrators caught up in a misfired satire that misses the mark, Tulathimutte definitely has a way with words as some turns of phrases had me laughing out loud or cringing because parts were unfortunately relatable. These stories started out strong but kind of petered out halfway through leaving me wishing that it was more fulfilling as a whole.
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November 16, 2024
One book that defies description or proper superlatives. Short story collection that seems to focus on the topic of rejection but it's so much more. These unique characters are rejected through no fault of their own or specifically due to their inadequaties. The further you move through these stories, the mood becomes darker, the paragraphs thicker with layers of meaning and vivid observations. Towards the end, I'd literally felt I was choking on the author's well intentioned, brutally honest scrutiny of this bloody insane quackmire world we inhabit. One of the more brilliant, most intense novels I'd read this year.
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Author 7 books547 followers
December 4, 2024
Gross, engrossing and exceptionally well written.

The first think I have to say about this book is that it was full of a bunch of sexual fetishes as well as sexually explicit imagery and scenes, some of which made me want to stop reading. Be warned. It gets weird and wild and I didn't like any of that. I guess I'm a prude or something but I really could've gone without it.

The next thing I have to say is that Tony Tulathumutte is an exceptional writer in many ways, the chief being that he's an expert at characterization. These characters were just so real. They were pathological in so many different ways and demonstrated extremely diverse POVs. That was the crown jewel of this work and it was incredibly engaging. This book really opened my mind to how different someone else's life can be. That made it a worthwhile read.

You will get POVs of several heart broken, rejected, insecure and misunderstood Millennials and Gen Zers and you'll get immediately sucked into their heads and neurosis. You'll understand how pathological it is when someone takes their sexual repression, often borne out of social discrimination, and how they create an entire identity from that repression and the bitter fruit it bears. It is extremely tragic and this author will walk you down the path of how it happens to people.

Additionally, there is a story here about a young woman whose identity becomes one of creating strife on social media by manipulating other's identity politics. It is a brilliant piece and it's worth reading this whole book just to get to that part. Very eye opening. I overall loved the themes of the trappings and exploitation of identity and gender politics. It was so on point.

Pretty brilliant book to be honest but be warned that it has some gross smutty stuff that not all can stomach.
September 16, 2024
I did not like this at all. The writing was well done but the stories have all been told before. It felt deeply unoriginal and long winded even for a book of short stories. This felt more like a series of Tumblr posts from 2011 than a real book.
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December 9, 2024
Maybe it's just a matter of getting older but I no longer find it that satisfying when a writer is hyper-aware of all of the potential criticism that could be leveled against them and is able to produce an itemized catalogue of all these failings, both literary and moral. These days I look to literature for something else, I'm not exactly sure what. Maybe something like courage.
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705 reviews371 followers
October 5, 2024
I hated this book, but it was really good. So that brings us to the middle.

Why did I hate this book? See, the segment Re: Rejection — and that explains it all.

Especially, these lines:
“However, we believe that these distancing attempts only end up drawing attention to you, in a way that feels embarrassingly unintentional. (Our speculations about your authorial intent might strike you as unfair and out-of-bounds, but this isn’t lit crit, it’s feedback. ” …

“The only thing more boring, exhausted, and self-indulgent than breaking the fourth wall at the end of a story is pointing it out. Even looking past the internet-borne tendency for writers of your generation to ass-cover with tedious disclaimers, the real point, we think, is to foreclose scrutiny, to get ahead of rejection by naming your sins before any reader has a chance to. But this perverse apologizing only feels like you’re cutting and chewing our meat for us, and we reject you (literally) all the harder. What does it matter that we know you saw it coming? Is it high praise to say that a book is conscious of its faults?”


Excerpts From Rejection by Tony Tulathimutte
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Anyway — listen, that tampon string line pissed me off reading this book because it’s like — THAT’S what you think of women!?!??? Depressed, obsessive, slovenly women will be soOoOo depresssed that they’d just piss on their tampon string? LOL! Whaaat?

I don’t know why that was the biggest takeaway for me as a reader; but it was like bruh, you’re stupid lmao!! You’re stupid in a silly way of course! However, the thing about the tampon/period critique/humour in the Pics section of the book is that — it doesn��t slap like when Michaela Coel does it! I don’t know who told you that tampon humour was your thing!!! It’s not, buddy. I mean what’s a book gotta say in 2024 that’s not gonna piss some of us off? Good job, Tony. I hated this, but good job.
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101 reviews9 followers
September 30, 2024
pretty insufferable, ngl. there's a very particular point of view on display here and it's not really "millennials" because that's just a made up category anyway and how are you supposed to talk about an entire generation of humans in one short story collection without sounding like a new york times opinion columnist, but rather - "millennials from the point of view of millennials who went to the iowa writers workshop." like for the love of god haven't we had enough books about how the Internet is Warping Us
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204 reviews67 followers
November 12, 2024
Iowa Writer’s Workshop finally got my ass by producing a talented writer. Crazy good & it could not have felt worse to read!! This is an ouroboros of a book with identity politics rot as the inciting incidences. I almost wanted to take off a star for the ending but it is unfortunately perfect. Cannot believe how many levels this is operating on meta textual level, some real galaxy brain shit. Am I starved for contemporary fiction with a point of view yes but that just makes it all the better.
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124 reviews2 followers
September 20, 2024
I spent half a therapy session talking about this book, which I think guarantees a 5-star rating for impact alone. This self-referential, prostrating, messy, over-intellectualized, gross little book FASCINATED me from beginning to end.
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