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    Beyond Your Wardrobe
    Beyond Your Wardrobe
    Beyond Your Wardrobe
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    Beyond Your Wardrobe

    By Bethel Grove

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    Is there more to modesty than the clothes we wear?

     

    Modesty. It's a word that can tend to make women cringe. This is because for many years, people have concluded that modesty is a list of rules women have to keep about the clothes they wear. This version of modesty leaves women afraid that they will have to dress "frumpy and dumpy" to do it right. If you are tired of hearing this cringe-worthy version of modesty, you need to know that there is more to how we should dress than hemlines and dress codes. That's why it's time to throw out these false perceptions and redefine biblical modesty for a whole new generation. That's why through Beyond Your Wardrobe, you will:

    • Identify prominent lies that many women and teen girls believe about physical beauty and modesty
    • Learn different facets of what the words "modest" and "modesty" actually mean, and how they apply as much to the attitude of your heart as it does to your clothes
    • Take a deep dive into what the Scripture does and doesn't say about what we should wear
    • Discover how to find the best source for your worth and how to possess a beauty that will never fade away
    • Receive tips and answers to your questions about how to apply these principles to what's currently in your closet

    ​With an appendix for men, links to articles and videos, and a Bible study guide, this isn't like any modesty book you've read before. Instead, it's an invitation to discover the power and freedom that biblical modesty has to offer anyone willing to embrace it.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBethel Grove
    Release dateFeb 21, 2020
    ISBN9798201916787
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      Beyond Your Wardrobe - Bethel Grove

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      Beyond Your Wardrobe: A Biblical Approach to Understanding Modesty, Why We Wear Clothes, and How to Adorn Ourselves Appropriately

      ©2022 by Bethel Grove

      Previously published as two titles:

      Beyond Your Wardrobe: Finding Freedom in Embracing God’s Call to Modesty and Unfading Beauty

      © 2020 by Bethel Grove

      Study Guide for Beyond Your Wardrobe: A Six Week Study Into Modesty and Unfading Beauty

      © 2020 by Bethel Grove

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means – for example, electronic, photocopy, or recording – without the prior written permission of the author. The only exception is for brief quotations in printed reviews.

      Any inquiries about permissions should be sent to [email protected]

      Cover Design created using Canva.com

      Most exact Scripture quotations are italicized and Scripture references are underlined for distinction

      Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

      Scripture quotations marked (NIV) are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.

      Praise for the 1st Edition of Beyond Your Wardrobe:

      Humility, gratitude, grace, and faithfulness are just a few of the ways Bethel Grove takes modesty ‘Beyond Your Wardrobe.’ I love that she dives right in by going to the heart of the issue, but she isn’t afraid to answer the questions we all know every girl has, and still brings it back to what’s in our hearts in the end. Reading Bethel’s book is like talking to a big sister. She isn’t afraid to share her opinion, but you know she is pointing you in the right direction.

      Heather Hart – Director of FindingYourTrueBeauty.com

      Bethel is a rising voice out of the young generation on behalf of modesty. She speaks out of her own experience, vulnerability, passion, and research. It is refreshing to find someone in your corner who, ‘gets it’ when it comes to the tensions of this topic. But more importantly, she dives deeper past the rules and into the heart.

      Danielle Brown – Kids Lead Pastor of 7 years

      "Beyond Your Wardrobe takes a deeper look into modesty while reminding the reader of their tremendous value in Christ. God’s word is clear and speaks to modesty for both young men and young women and shows its direct correlation with the condition of the heart. Challenging and thought-provoking you will appreciate this exploration of the idea of modesty."

      Jeff Dungan – Father of a Princess Worth Dying For

      "Bethel Grove's Beyond Your Wardrobe is thought-provoking and challenging, in a good way! What a wonderful book. It is a timely reminder for some of us, and a straightforward introduction for others. Modesty is a lost art and an overlooked concern for many men and women of faith. As she says, we need to honor God with our bodies. She reminds us to have the right mindset for all of our decisions, not just our attire. This book will make you consider your choices and the motivations behind them. God bless Bethel for using Scripture to be her guide. Let us all take note."

      Karen Parkison – Teacher, Mother, and Youth Leader

      "Beyond Your Wardrobe is an incredible read full of the truth about God's opinion when it comes to modesty compared to the opinions of society. Reading the book I actually felt that it further opened my eyes to everything I was taught by Bethel in her bible study…I highly recommend it to women of all ages struggling to define God's opinions when it comes to modesty."

      Katie M – High School Senior

      Bethel has some insights about modesty that were new to me. Having read and thought a lot about modesty, I was pleased to still be learning from Bethel’s writing. It is refreshing to see a woman living out modesty and practicing what she teaches.

      Dessa C – Wife and Mother of 6

      If you're like most men, you probably have no idea what a big deal this issue is for women. Reading this book will help you understand the challenges that women face today in making wise and godly decisions regarding their clothing, and you'll be better equipped to support the women in your life in their wardrobe choices. Plus, there's also some great advice for men when it comes to their clothing choices as seen through the eyes of our sisters in Christ.

      Matt Stafford – College Professor

      This book is an excellent source for the truth about modesty, and not just for young teen girls and young adult women, but for anyone who might not fully understand what the Scriptures have to say about it. The author truly believes this and writes it in a way that is relatable and easily understandable.

      Cody Lynn - Older Sister and Daughter

      In this book, Bethel talks about a topic that has been misrepresented by society. As you dive into this book, it becomes clear that modesty is about representing Jesus, and representing yourself as God’s masterpiece.

      Madeline Dungan – Mixed Media Artist

      To My Girls: Katie, Jaylee, Maddy D, Savannah, Emma, Abby, Maddie E, Rachelle, and Samantha. This book and the lessons it teaches would not have happened without each one of you. I pray that you always believe that you are a princess worth dying for.

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      Preface to the Updated Edition

      Introduction

      Part 1: Discerning the Lies

      1. Lies We Believe about Physical Beauty

      2. Lies We Believe about Modesty

      3. A Cautionary Tale

      Part 2: Seeking the Truth

      4. Appropriately Adorned

      5. Hidden Person of the Heart

      6. Bought With A Price

      7. Known By Our Fruit

      8. Clothed in Virtue

      Part 3: Making a Choice

      9. Just for the Occasion

      10. Questions about Modern Modesty

      11. Questions about Clothes

      12. Nurturing the Seed

      Epilogue

      Appendix 1: The Vanity Fast Challenge

      Appendix 2: A Note to Men on Modesty

      Links to Cited Resources

      Recommended Readings

      Notes

      Study Guide & Bible Study

      Bible Study Introduction

      Three Ways to Use this Guide

      Study Guide

      Week 1 – Discerning the Lies

      Week 2 – Appropriately Adorned

      Week 3 – Bought with a Price

      Week 4 – Clothed with Virtue

      Week 5 – Getting Practical

      Week 6 – Making a Choice

      Bible Study

      Welcome to the True Beauty Experience

      Study Structure Chart

      Week 1

      Week 2

      Week 3

      Week 4

      Week 5

      Week 6

      Lesson Video Links

      Additional Video Links

      A Few Final Notes on the Bible Study

      Prayer Station Posters

      BYW - Preface

      When I decided I was going to write my first book, I had no idea where my self-publishing journey would lead. All I knew was that I loved writing, and that modesty was a topic I had researched well enough that I felt I could write a book on the subject. I had no idea what I was doing when I started, but I was determined to do my best with what I had. Since Beyond Your Wardrobe, I have released several other titles that have taught me so much about self-publishing. Based on this knowledge and my desire to see this book used to its best potential, I decided that it was time to update the book that started my self-publishing journey.

      So this edition of Beyond Your Wardrobe has a new cover, new subtitle, several updated sections throughout, and the addition of the study guide and Bible study curriculum that was originally published as a separate book. All of these updates will hopefully improve the quality of the book and will reflect a more complete biblical perspective on why we need to allow the Bible to shape our decisions about what we wear, not the culture or societal trends. Thanks for taking part in this journey.

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      We all know people who just don’t get it. The person who laughs five minutes after someone tells them a joke. The student that just doesn’t understand what the teacher is telling him. We’ve all known people like them or perhaps have even been that person a few more times than we want to admit. But what’s worse is when someone continues to repeat the same mistakes over and over, never really learning from the consequences of their previous choices. Maybe you’ve known someone that is heading into a physically or emotionally dangerous situation, but you cannot convince them to walk away. This type of situation can be a powerful reminder that if we don’t learn from the past, we are likely to repeat our mistakes.

      When Disney’s Frozen was released in November 2013, it took the world by storm. I remember how shocked I was to see it become so popular so quickly, but I came to enjoy it as I watched my oldest nephew love that movie from the first time he saw it. However, one of the biggest gaps in the plot from my perspective is that there are a few characters that just don’t get it, even when the truth that would solve their problem was right under their nose. It’s not Anna, Kristof, Sven, or even Olaf that can’t put the pieces together; it’s King Agnarr, Queen Iduna, and Elsa. This point was illustrated well with the YouTube video, How Frozen Should Have Ended.¹

      Despite their best intentions, the king and queen didn’t recognize that fear was her enemy and love was the solution. By teaching Elsa conceal, don’t feel, her parents unknowingly taught her to suppress the one emotion she needed to control her powers - love. While I get why Grand Pabbie didn’t just come out and say, The answer is love, Elsa had plenty of opportunities to find this solution sooner if she had just listened to Anna. At one point, Elsa asked Anna what power her sister had to stop her, convinced that no one could. However, the truth was that Anna was one of the only people who could help Elsa because Anna was the person she loved the most. By the end of the film, when Elsa hears that love will thaw, she finally gets it, but it’s interesting to think about how different the story would have turned out if she had just listened to Anna.

      The same thing tends to happen to Christians. Many of us hear the truth of God’s Word over and over again, but we never let it sink in enough to acknowledge that what it teaches us can be a solution to our problem, not the cause. I think that this is especially true when it comes to modesty, often resulting in one of two responses. Like Elsa’s parents, some Christians try to address the physical symptoms of immodesty by making rules to keep everyone in line, all the while ignoring the underlying condition that causes the problem: the attitude of our hearts. Many others, Christians and non-Christians alike, choose to respond like Elsa, just throwing out the rules and living the way they want, believing that there are no consequences.

      I believe these responses are a result of the lies that our culture constantly feeds us about our worth and identity. When someone finds their worth and identity from many of the false sources our society teaches today, it causes their heart to be enslaved by these false sources, having to return to it over and over again just to be filled up. These false sources and the lies that support them are a huge part of what has caused most Christians to have a fundamental gap in their understanding of their value, which impacts their ability to understand modesty from a biblical point of view. The world tries to convince us that living according to God’s Word, especially on a topic like modesty, will inhibit us from living our lives to the fullest. However, through my study and research, I have found that the truth of God’s Word is the very place where freedom can be discovered by anyone who chooses to embrace modesty. Most people do not usually associate the words modesty and freedom with one another. I pray that you will by the end of this book, because when I began to embrace the call to modesty in my own life, it came to change the way I saw myself and the way I saw everyone around me.

      This book is written for those who want to go deeper. I hope girls and women of all ages will be a part of this journey. I even hope that some men will be willing to join us to gain a biblical perspective on this topic. This journey won’t be an easy one. It may be uncomfortable as you have to adjust your mindset to align with God’s perspective instead of a worldly viewpoint. I believe the rewards will be worth the work and will help you live and dress in the freedom of God’s grace, not a bunch of manmade rules. I am hoping that you will join me so that we can experience this freedom together. Let’s get started.

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      While I was a student at a Christian college, I was blessed to have the opportunity to spend a week in New York City for a seminar class. That trip was an experience I will never forget.

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