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    Pure Teens: Free to Love
    Pure Teens: Free to Love
    Pure Teens: Free to Love
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    Pure Teens: Free to Love

    By Dr. John Thorington

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    We live in a culture that constantly assaults us with lust, sex, and porn. Purity can seem impossible and even ridiculous in this environment—but it’s not. We have a loving and powerful God on our side, and His definition of sex and relationships is so much more satisfying than the world’s.

    Pure Teens: Free to Love presents a call to live within the beauty and joy of God’s design for sexuality. It serves as a valuable, practical resource for every Christian teen on how to fight the battle for sexual integrity. Dr. John Thorington candidly shares guidance on a wide variety of topics:

    Sex and the brain

    God’s plan for spiritual freedom

    Practical help to overcome masturbation

    Sex as God’s gift

    Your true spiritual identity

    God’s model of grace

    You can learn to enjoy a love relationship with Abba Father, embrace every person’s worth, practice a life of gratitude, and learn the relational skills necessary for true intimacy. The world tells you that sex comes with no boundaries, but God wants to give you something far greater. He calls you to a life of authentic passion, relationships, and soul-satisfying sexuality. These daily readings offer suggestions and practical help to get you there.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateOct 28, 2019
    ISBN9781973677154
    Pure Teens: Free to Love
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    Dr. John Thorington

    Dr. John Thorington spent thirty years in pastoral ministry and currently serves as a counselor with Focus on the Family. He is a licensed professional counselor and certified sexual recovery therapist; he runs a private practice called Restoring Hearts Counseling, dedicated to helping teens and adult find sexual freedom. He and his wife, Valerie, have three grown daughters and reside in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

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      Pure Teens - Dr. John Thorington

      Copyright © 2019 Dr. John Thorington.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.

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      ISBN: 978-1-9736-7714-7 (sc)

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      Library of Congress Control Number: 2019915931

      WestBow Press rev. date: 10/28/2019

      CONTENTS

      Introduction

      WEEK ONE

      HOW BIG A DEAL ARE LUST AND MASTURBATION?

      Day 1 Who Masturbates and Why?

      Day 2 Opposing Viewpoints

      Day 3 When Is Masturbation Harmful?

      Day 4 Sex and the Brain

      Day 5 The Bigger Picture

      Day 6 God’s Plan for Spiritual Freedom

      Day 7 Practical Help to Overcome Masturbation

      WEEK TWO

      WHAT THE SCRIPTURE SAYS

      Day 8 The Faithfulness of God

      Day 9 Sex Is God’s Gift

      Day 10 Preserving God’s Gift for Its Intended Purpose

      Day 11 Your True Spiritual Identity

      Day 12 The Three Owners

      Day 13 Walk by the Spirit

      Day 14 God’s Model of Grace

      WEEK THREE

      STRATEGIES FOR ALL WHO STRUGGLE

      Day 15 Freedom in Christ

      Day 16 Why Accountability Matters

      Day 17 Treat the Root Causes, Not the Symptoms

      Day 18 Created for Greatness

      Day 19 Develop Disciplined Character

      Day 20 Use Your Spiritual Weapons

      Day 21 Enjoy a Love Relationship with Abba Father

      WEEK FOUR

      GOD’S DESIGN FOR SEX

      Day 22 Sex Is Sacred

      Day 23 Embrace Every Person’s Worth

      Day 24 Practice a Life of Gratitude

      Day 25 An Enduring Trust in God’s Grace

      Day 26 Purity Is about Pleasing God

      Day 27 Beginning with the End in Mind

      Day 28 It’s Time for Revival!

      Notes

      INTRODUCTION

      In today’s sex-saturated culture, you need a plan of action for living purely. I published Pure Teens: Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex back in 2016 to help teens in this battle for their spiritual identity and destiny.

      Pure Teens: Free to Love is, in many ways, a companion to that book, though it will surely benefit teens who haven’t read the first book. The book addresses these four topics below one week at a time in the daily readings:

      1. How to View Masturbation and Lust

      2. What the Scripture Says about Lust

      3. Winning Strategies for the Battle

      4. God’s Design for Sacred Sex

      Although sexual thoughts and feelings are healthy, it’s a great challenge to acquire a godly mind-set in today’s world. Your sexuality is a central part of who you are as a human being, and how you use your God-given gift will determine your life to a remarkable degree.

      As a person who served in pastoral ministry for thirty years, I know of no greater failure in the church than not presenting a positive and God-honoring perspective about sexuality. God is calling your generation to know who you are and what you believe as His people.

      In this book, you will find valuable information and practical suggestions about how to live lust-free. There are twenty-eight daily readings, and you can choose your own pace. You may want to spend more time than a day reflecting on some of the specific readings.

      More importantly, you will be guided through some discussions of great magnitude. Each of the weeks in Pure Teens: Free to Love will help you to figure out God’s road map for you in making decisions about your sexual integrity.

      The goal is to promote healthy discussion between teens and their parents. For too long, the approach of most parents has been a don’t ask, don’t tell policy. This has been the dominant pattern within the church too. Sadly, the world has taken over the role of educating young people about relationships and sexuality. It is time that we reclaimed this lost territory based on God’s abiding Word.

      The material in the Discussion Starters at the end of each daily reading is intended to bring you to a closer relationship with the God who deeply loves you. It is also a tool to help facilitate healthy relationship building and communication between teens and their parents.

      The most effective use of this book is for both the parent and the teen to read the daily material and go through the questions together. Some will read the daily material and then talk. Some parents will literally read the daily content out loud with their teens before discussing it. The material provides a basis for what is most important—the conversation between parents and teens. The goal is for healthy dialogue in a safe, caring environment where the parent doesn’t lecture. Instead, the goal is to have a conversation about this life-changing subject.

      Some churches will likely use this resource as a curriculum. That is exciting too. Again, it is hoped that parents will be involved in the dialogue and teaching.

      I congratulate you for opening this book and taking that first step toward living a lust-free life. You are about to learn how to navigate some of the big stuff of life—lust, fantasy, masturbation, and premarital sex. In the pages that follow, you will learn to view sexuality within the overall biblical narrative and the invitation to follow Jesus!

      It is my prayer that you will come to know the God who is wildly in love with you. He couldn’t possibly love you more—His is a perfect, awe-inspiring, and completely satisfying love! Further, as Paul says, For this reason I kneel before the Father.… I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being (Eph. 3:14, 16).

      WEEK ONE

      HOW BIG A DEAL ARE LUST

      AND MASTURBATION?

      DAY 1

      WHO MASTURBATES AND WHY?

      Masturbation is, in many ways, a taboo topic. It isn’t something that we readily talk about in our families and churches. Yet masturbation is prevalent. Just how frequent does masturbation happen among teens?

      Dr. Cynthia Robbins serves in the pediatrics department at Indiana University, and she led the first national study of masturbation among teens. The research involved more than eight hundred American teens ranging in age from fourteen to seventeen and discovered the following results:

      • Across fourteen- to seventeen-year-olds, 74 percent of the boys and 48 percent of the girls reported masturbating.

      • Among males, masturbation increased with age: just 63 percent of the younger boys reported masturbating at least once, but the figure rose to 80 percent among seventeen-year-olds.

      • In females, the percentage also rose with age, from 43 percent for fourteen-year-olds to 58 percent for seventeen-year-olds. ¹

      The research indicates a high occurrence of masturbation among teens. So who masturbates? Let’s start by saying that, from a personal development point of view, almost everybody at one time in life has masturbated. And why? Several reasons can be cited:

      • It is a normal part of a child’s exploration of his or her body.

      • Teens learn how their bodies can produce pleasure.

      • Some use masturbation to lower stress and help themselves relax.

      • Males and females engage in masturbation as a form of safe sex—solo sex.

      We gain some clarification by viewing life in two developmental stages: self-discovery and young adulthood. The first stage is self-discovery during ages thirteen to seventeen. Here a kid’s body goes through changes during puberty. There are both physical and psychological changes during this stage. For example, teens become sexually aware and more interested in the opposite sex. Masturbation in the self-discovery stage is typically driven by curiosity, and parents are encouraged to communicate in a nonshaming way.

      Masturbation is far more prevalent in the young adult stage, with approximate ages eighteen to twenty-four. The natural drive for sex becomes stronger in this stage of development. At this stage, masturbation is nearly universal for guys and quite common for girls. There is no need for a person to be burdened with self-condemnation. Most guys and girls work through this stage and maintain their relationship with God. The problem arises when lust and masturbation become deeply rooted.

      For the sake of clarity, let’s use the following definition of masturbation. Merriam-Webster’s Medical Dictionary states that it is

      Erotic stimulation of one’s own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies.²

      Most churches don’t talk about sexual things, such as masturbation, lust, or pornography. Some of the churches that do speak on these matters do so from a sex-negative perspective. They make or imply nonsensical comments such as, Sex is bad, so save it for the one you love. That is not a biblical view in any way!

      Christian teens mainly struggle without the support of the church or parents. Natural curiosity may get the better of them as their bodies are going through raging hormonal and physical changes. It can be awkward to share one’s thoughts and feelings with a parent or youth pastor. Where do teens turn for help?

      No wonder most teens are searching the internet for answers to avoid the embarrassment. Looking online for information about sex is risky and can have harmful consequences as the cyberworld extensively promotes a wide-open path to the pursuit of self-gratification. A balanced and healthy perspective on masturbation is often lacking.

      Teens need the support of their parents and the church regarding sexual matters. Howard Henricks stated, We should not be ashamed to talk about what God wasn’t ashamed to create.³ His comment is a challenge to the church and parents to address the holy nature of sex. God created sex, and He has an excellent design for all His children.

      It is the responsibility of first parents and then the church to offer guidance to

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